Will I EVER FIT IN and still be MY TRUE SELF? ENFP + INFP Struggles - Dreams Around The World

[@trosebud223]

I figured this out in highschool. Basically, be yourself and the people who are worth your time will stick around

[@413riley]

I've always felt like an outsider, judged and misunderstood. I can't help but think everyone in a room is judging me and labelling me as flighty and immature. I don't mind the labels so much, but I am bothered when I say something that the group or individual doesn't understand and they give me looks. It's a look that says there is something wrong with me or that I am not making sense. It feels like I'm being gaslighted by people who simply don't have the ability to follow my non-linear train of thought. The fact is I think in 3D and I can't turn it off. I'm no simpleton, but I'm forever treated as such. I wish the opinions of others didn't bother me so much, but it does. Because it does I have myself in a terrible loop of trying to be me vs. looking for others people to validate me.

[@isabellemagee4278]

Mother Issues i wish i could have wrote this myself. I have never related more I feel like I’m on some crazy soul search right now

[@nobodynowhere21]

It sounds like you come from a family of sensor types, who delight in invalidating you at every opportunity because it (falsely) boosts their self esteem. It can cause suicides, it's horrific and there should be a license to breed if it weren't for the fact that it would unfairly target the, let's face it, low SES families. Good luck finding your tribe, it is out there!

[@brycet191]

Very relatable. 3 years later.

[@NFSMAN50]

Growing up, i was more accepted by people who didn't physically look like me than those who did. I never felt like i fit in with my hometown community, because i was bubbly, empathetic, happy, but i was also reserved, shy and quirky at times, and the people i went to junior high with weren't the same way and i felt like an outsider with them. It wasn't until i got to college and high school where i felt like i was accepted by everyone, and everyone loved my quirkiness, emapthy and friendliness and i felt like i truly belonged. I always had friends of different genders, different races, cultures and ethnicities, and It's easy for me to integrate with others. I was loved by people in high school and college when i started acting like my true authentic self. I am slowly learning how to accept myself and be true to who i am.

[@WalkScripture]

ENFP here, I’ve embraced being a social butterfly and having only a few close friends

[@amajtheory]

Absolutely, you have to accept who you are. I have so learned this as an INFP. I believe confidence comes from knowing who you are and what you like and standing in whatever that may be. Being honest with yourself.

[@ashleycnossen3157]

I definitely don't fit in anywhere but the few that love me for who I am are absolute gems

[@charlotterose484]

that painting is dope

[@AngeloSorbello]

Hey Dan, don't know whether it's true or not, but a friend told the same exact things in a more scientific way. He said that our prefrontal cortex, if we don't give it a direction (read, a motivating/ambitious goal) tends to wander. Same when we eat food that causes inflammations, the cortex gets inflammed and we'll feel more depressed, not motivated, and without a direction. Whether it's true or not, what you both said makes a lot of sense anyway :-)

[@Exotixa]

Amen! Someone is finally answering this question

[@Fuar11]

What if you naturally put on a mask without thinking, without any control, but don't like the mask you wear?

[@kellyraeparker3275]

This video was beautiful in explanation and advice 💕 And in the spirit of trying to be my true self, I’m going to admit that it also made me cry a little at the end and I’m not ashamed to admit it 🙂

[@Leona.luna8]

vulnerability rocks!!!

[@Leona.luna8]

I love this!!! I have a hard time being like other people. This school semester i felt a little down because i didn't really fit in with any of my classmates from communications class. The more I mature, the more i realize the importance of authenticity in my life. It's a hard road because sometimes i still act as a people pleaser and i hold back my real opinions because i'm afraid of being misunderstood. But i've become more aware of it and i call myself out and try to change my behavior. This video helps me OWN who i really am and my differences.

[@dididisun]

your channel literally saved my life. I am so thankful for you to FOCUS on doing this and FOLLOW thorough to put the videos up!! LOL

[@johnnyritenbaugh1214]

Now I'm terrified of gorillas that might eat me because I don't fit in.

[@davidcruz5283]

I don't care what others think about me and not particularly that interested in mediocre relationships/friendships either. Ultimately, what I'm looking for is my calling/purpose. The Why that will bring me the fulfillment I crave! I think it might be in the UX/AR industry, but currently working in a contractual IT job which feels frustrating and draining. hopefully my next career change will be better than my current job. Thanks for the info and cheers to your success!

[@enfp]

IT job you have now will definitely help you switch to UC/AR easily.

[@mercurialmessenger]

Driving for Uber gets my travel and novelty fix on!

[@enfp]

Make your riders watch this channel :)

[@mercurialmessenger]

Dreams Around The World I mention being an ENFP in my rides. Giving u a plug could be a next step. Will do.

[@anamaria-db7pq]

what if you don't know anymore who you actually are because you have adjusted so much for years?

[@Itwasnme]

For me the true question is, when I fit in would I still be true to myself. When I was younger I was easily the most shy kid you've ever seen, but growing up I find that I've become less shy, more confident, I've always been described by those in charge of me as having an 'I don't care attitude ' especially when it came to physical matters like my environment, when I was younger I'd didn't relate to things as clean or beautiful except if it was something that preceded from me, in which case I would want it to be perfect. So I as result had no judgement for the world around me except how I could potentially get better at something. I am a little more grounded now, less anxious in unpleasant situations. Am I still me, still on my journey of gaining complete confidence, fitting in isn't exactly the goal if my search for confidence but being more self expressive and perhaps out spoken. But would who I express be true to the 10 year old I once was, I wouldn't know. Maybe I'll Findon in 10 years.

[@perjohanaxell9862]

This is great advice! However if we are onest there is a prise to pay for it. Some people will reject you.

[@seacrate151]

I really really liked this! Although I did not feel like there was enough of an answer as to why we act this way. I have been explaining the "presenting situation" to my close friends but I I would really like to know why we are doing this and what the negative aspects of it is.

[@enfp]

To learn this...please see...almost my entire channel! Dan :)

[@samharris5262]

Great points Dan.Thank you

[@enfp]

You're welcome, Shariq! :)

[@SCREAMOguy413]

SO TRUE!!

[@sad_doggo2504]

What advice would you give to an ENFP struggling between authenticity and acting responsibly? Say, if the decision to reveal their true selves could cost them their job or even raise safety concerns.

[@nahhbia]

Thank youuuuuu

[@trustyourself-ashleyching3646]

When you force yourself to conform to a group, you are disservicing the group.

[@Aphx5130]

Hilarious thumbnail!

[@enfp]

Ha, thanks!

[@Prince_Yonte]

Bruh if this shit aint true man...