Will Smith recalls iconic “how come he don’t want me" scene + Being pushed by James Avery

Black Press Media Group, July 2018
Emmy Award winning actor Will Smith joins Rap Radar and reflects on working with actor James Avery also known as "Uncle Phil" on sitcom The Fresh Prince of Belair. Will talks about the iconic "how come he don't want me" scene.
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[@chamab.6800]

I think this scene gets to so many people is because, besides the superb acting, too many of us have asked ourselves this question as children. Why weren't we good enough? What was so wrong with us that they didn't love us? Why weren't we worth it for dad to stay in our lives? What was so hard about being with us? That's why all of us ride or die for Uncle Phil. He was the father we never had.

[@B0rikua787]

I seen that damn scene more then 50 time and it get to me every single time 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

[@pi_beta7306]

@Chama B, you bet. =) Uncle Phil was EVERYONE'S "Uncle Phil" back in the day.

[@TheOfficialIceman]

BoriKua787 even after Will explained how he was able to do that scene, it still makes me tear up.

[@chamab.6800]

Hideki Senior some do leave the children also. Because they’re angry at mom or whatever. Turn up with a whole new family. Treating the new kids better than their own. Point is for whatever reason they leave the children. And children being children don’t understand why their father won’t come see them or even acknowledge them.

[@TaylorM6668]

Chama B. Beautifully said 🌸👏🏻

[@B5Darel]

First things first, Rest In Peace Uncle Phil...

[@SadfoxGuyver]

For real

[@mannymedrano308]

Cole World!

[@anthonyalexander8546]

You're the only father that I ever knew

[@dilloneason3211]

I get my bitch pregnant imma be a better you!

[@PeePeeMilk]

FOR REAL

[@PabloCruise91]

“I never really liked Will Smith” - Absolutely no one

[@jaretwood9558]

Original Aunt Viv would disagree

[@PabloCruise91]

What's her story with Will Smith?

[@harrybell4980]

PabloCruise91 they had beef

[@jaretwood9558]

@@PabloCruise91 She was a serious actress, Will liked to have dance parties before filming. She also claims he got jealous or defensive if a guest especially was written to be funnier then him. Basically feels like he acted like the star he was, so she left the show

[@lorenzodelacruz7089]

Jaret Wood ohhhh shiiiii

[@Knightfall-Batman]

“You’re my son, Will. End of discussion.” Uncle Phil in the final episode

[@wobbliwoo7073]

Corvo Attano noooo shhh i havent finished watching it yet 🥺

[@cp2x867]

Ines Gomes it’s been out for 26 years .. if you haven’t finished it that’s a you problem

[@SmartWentCrazy]

I should rewatch the show...I used to love watching it so much.

[@lyrics2challenged]

@Raymond Grover LMAOOOOOO

[@8BitGamer4life]

I hope this gets rebooted or a sequel sort of like how Saved by the bell or Full house got it.

[@laytonpro8655]

The way he says his full name “James Avery” you can tell how much respect he has for him

[@TheBreezus]

He says his whole name.

[@philstuf]

I really feel like Will Smith has built his life and career on respecting others... He'll always be, "Will Smith," to me and I will always use his full name as a result when I talk about him. I only reference his character's names unless I am trying to clarify the show or movie.

[@EnochByrd]

@@TheBreezus happens more when people die

[@RyqeLee]

CAN'T tell?

[@laytonpro8655]

@@RyqeLee spelling mistakes

[@baitza9655]

That part when he screamed "to hell with him!" You can just feel the chilled silence.

[@streamingblk]

Bai tza Mannnnn 🤧

[@verloser]

To*

[@elnoruego6854]

Isn't it to hell with him

[@ElizabethT45]

Actors can take acting workshops and improv classes, but getting to that kind of place emotionally is more about being willing to let yourself go and remember that it's the character who's breaking down, not you. Being willing to hear that silence from the audience and knowing they're still with you. Just knowing that James was whispering 'that was some f*cking great acting' into Will's ear made me smile through the tears that the scene always brings :)

[@nataliaboyer6080]

That's when I cried ...

[@armoncurtis7856]

“To hell with him” always is the deal maker to make my eyes water

[@IsaiahKeene]

replaying it in my head and still tearing up lol

[@captaintyphoon9296]

Ariel Clemons ,Same the Raw Emotion Grief Pain and Sadness and Emotion and Emotional Weight of those Words Will Used *Turns Around* TO HELL WITH HIM!!! " Hoping His Father(In the Show) Could Hear that and Feel the Impact and The Pain And the Emotional Distress(Will Felt At That Exact Moment), The Look in Will's Eyes/Body Language (Pain,Extreme Sadness,Extreme Disappointment) ,And Uncle Phil Finally Understanding his Pain and Hugging him like a Father Would Uncle Phil is the MVP(RIP).

[@t.bruceford4098]

Always get choked up

[@IBZGaming]

Same 😭😭😭

[@aldayasiart]

I felt that line.. when he yell.. maaan 😔

[@makealbertaamerican4889]

No child should ever have to ask the question "How come he don't want me?" 😔😔

[@Awcrity]

how come he don't want me?

[@thisanailen5274]

But so many do

[@maxenra]

Or, "How come she don't want me."

[@susanneseiler5113]

@@maxenra or how come they don't want me?

[@maxenra]

@@susanneseiler5113 That's right. Sometimes, they BOTH don't want you.

[@sidroberts7960]

You know a scene is extremely powerful when you have watched it at least 30 times over the years and it still brings tears to your eyes.

[@rawnbadillo9886]

True that...it gets me every time 😢

[@monamarie1984]

Yup! 😭😭😭

[@Prkwon]

You can ACT...here he is feeling every emotion...that is true actor...

[@cinderblockkhead]

Every single time 😭

[@chadf1368]

Every time

[@amazinglynn]

I can never watch this scene again without saying “that’s f*cking acting right there” 😂 when he hugs him

[@streamingblk]

Legendary!!!!

[@patman_for_sure]

Same 😂😂

[@stlopez17]

but the mics would have picked that up

[@rickylyon3846]

@@stlopez17 He probably said it when he knew they could cut it out. Either that or he whispered it really softly so it sounds like breathing in the mics.

[@jpmilanes987]

@@rickylyon3846 or they simply dubbed the audio over the scene to cut out Avery's voice when he said that to Will. I miss uncle Phil!

[@TheMichaelCardoza]

It’s good acting when the audience cries with you.

[@mcmisty9444]

That's Hillary crying behind the scenes

[@clarkkent163000]

@@mcmisty9444 I was wondering where that extra cry was coming from

[@projektxent]

Agreed. I was wondering who was crying off camera.

[@Bepeze]

Every time.... that little shrilly cry from the girl in the audience always gets me

[@RapFanatic4ever]

That’s great acting

[@WhyIsCyrusTaken]

That scene was when Will Smith crossed the threshold of comedian to actor.

[@theninjacat7200]

yep, that's when I started taking him seriously as an actor.

[@fixedfocusfilm3068]

Same. And I was a kid who never met my father, so this scene hit me HARD. Every time I see it, I can't hold back the tears, lol. But I did exactly what Will said-I grew up, married an incredible woman, and became a real father who loves my boys. This scene was a moment for me, and one that I'll never forget. After this, I didn't see Will as the goofy rapper playing himself on TV anymore. In my young eyes, he earned his stripes as a real actor-and a great one.

[@dreap243]

💯.. absolutely agree

[@Lethallime1234]

He always had the skill

[@amiradib1007]

I like how uncle Phil let's him go through his emotions before stepping in. He needed that outlet to scream and cry. I also like how Will said "their ain't nothing he can teach me about how to LOVE my kids." By saying "love" rather than "raise" it implies that Will knows that if u love ur kids then u will raise them right. Some people raise kids without loving them. If u love ur kids, u will raise them the best u can.

[@nikkimillionspring3667]

I love this comment so much ❤❤❤

[@mmaxwell64]

Never thought of that, about love and raise. Makes sense, thanks

[@aarohansharma4551]

That was vey insightful, that loving and raising part.

[@sha11235]

True, he needed to let Will vent and go through the emotions. When Will did finally break down and cry, Phil was right there for him to comfort him.

[@dclark142002]

Part of being a father...knowing how to let a young man vent his emotions in a safe and controlled place. Because the anger is real, and it is JUSTIFIED, and it NEEDS TO BE EXPRESSED. Will is going to need to be supported in his stated goal of being a better father, because he will only know what not to do...but that anger will buttress him to act in ways different than Lou. But without that anger, he might lose the battle to avoid being like Lou.

[@lkatie0626]

Who still cried?🖐🏾

[@streamingblk]

katie lewis ☝🏾

[@madcamdisease]

Yep

[@backgroundsinger1693]

Meeee.

[@BodaciousWickerman]

Every time.

[@wasabiattack]

Like a lil bitch. What a scene.

[@Nero-ox5tw]

He was called Uncle Phil, but we knew him as Wills Dad

[@sneakykamon]

Hell, Uncle Phil raised me too!

[@fromthewreckage]

Uncle Phil to Will: He may have been your father, boy, but he wasn't your daddy.

[@jaxspider]

Uncle Phil is MARY POPPINS YALL.

[@MelMelx365]

Facts

[@TStamp-lw4ku]

Ryan Bamford *James Avery

[@israelwashington9137]

*Thats how you know the acting was good when you hear the people behind the scenes crying* 😭👏🏾👏🏾

[@ffryan]

I've read that the female heard crying was Karyn Parsons (Hillary).

[@jiliciar.1423]

I have that same profile picture. For a moment I was like when did I put a comment here!? I never saw this video! 😃

[@sha11235]

@@ffryan Yes, Karyn.

[@ABMultimediaDesigner]

James Avery made Will Smith as the actor he is now, he wasn't just Will's TV Uncle, he was Will's real-life mentor of becoming an actor God rest James Avery

[@AndrewJamison79]

100% agree with this statement

[@Pinoyathletics20]

Could even say James Avery was like Will's dad

[@BT-ch9gf]

Definitely. And now look at him. Went from being the fresh Prince to a highly respected actor.

[@TsukasaF4]

@@BT-ch9gf an now he ruined his whole carrier with a slap x)

[@Suprapunk_2248]

James Avery over the years was like a father figure to everyone on the show they all said after the tribute they watched together. Even Joseph Marccell (Jeffrey) came to tears and spoke highly of him. He even carries himself the same way as in the show. It was like seeing them all grown up as a family.

[@HollisKing]

This is why James Avery is always talked about with respect. By far one of the best tv dads of all time.

[@brookleasure]

Bill Cosby claims to still be America's TV dad, but for me it's always going to be Mr. Avery.

[@BetheasByteReloaded]

@@brookleasure You beat me to the comment. I was thinking the exact same thing. Big-time shout out to James Avery, America's NEW TV Dad. May he forever Rest in POWER!

[@izzy9189]

The Best T.V. dad of all time..

[@AllPro777]

Al Bundy is and always will be America's top pop.

[@christopherlancaster6735]

It says a lot about society that the best TV Dad of all time was the protagonist's uncle.

[@gamesgamesandevenmoregames8909]

That “to hell wit him!” And that “how come he don’t want me man” with the voice crack gets me EVERY TIME😭😭😭

[@Krystieee]

When I say EVERYTIME !

[@kimshinault4832]

That scene get my eyes fill with tears everytime

[@dshanea1024]

Yes, to this day 🥺

[@wikidclownchris]

Even just reading that got my eyes watering

[@rithrius5384]

James Avery. A father to both Will Smith and Will Smith.

[@travisvanalst4698]

I think it’s James face that gets me right before Will says “how come he don’t want me.” Uncle Phil is just absolutely heartbroken for Will and there’s nothing else to do or say but hug him.

[@pompe221]

Will Smith was amazing in that scene, yes, but check out James Avery's face during it. You can just see Uncle Phil's heart breaking because the nephew he loves is in so much pain and he can't do anything to fix it. RIP, James Avery. You will always be THE Shreddar to me.

[@lostnumbr]

yup, its his expression that sells it, not to underrate wills acting there at all

[@josephgmoretti]

True [in a way], but he did do “something” to fix it... Uncle Phil was there to listen to Will vent and at the end of it all, he hugged him and held him close to reassure him that everything is going to be OK. That is everything! Despite James Avery‘s intimidating look, he is full of love in a way uncle Phil always can and will be unlike papa Lou!!!

[@PowerDiva]

Definitely... James Avery was a master actor, he could make you feel every emotion just by looking at you. I love knowing that he pushed Will Smith to make this scene as good as it was... I think he knew this would be a defining moment for Will in his career, and wanted to make sure that people remember it. It's the moment a lot of us stopped seeing him as a funny sitcom character and started to realize he was a great actor.

[@twentyzeroone]

And Will isn't even Uncle Phil's real nephew, is his wife's nephew. But at this point he loves him like one of his children.

[@divinityryder500]

This. This so much. Not only then though. Look at the longer clip on YT and watch his body language when Will comes in. You can't see his face but you KNOW he's dreading this. And this is after Will told him that he wasn't his father earlier in the episode. This episode is seriously one of the most powerful in the series. For all of their hijinks before and after this scene, there is no doubt that Philip Banks loves his nephew like a son. NONE.

[@bat508]

Hands down one of the greatest episodes in television history and black television history; along with the episode where Will gets shot while shielding Carlton as he was being robbed.

[@doninhu]

And the one when Carlton is in the hospital after overdosing on speed from Will's locker.

[@engeltjebaleno]

the fact that you had to mention black television history proves how good it was. I might have missed it as a kid, but rewatching the series as an adult, i still don't get the feeling that it is black television. To me it's just television with a family that happens to be black, eventhough they do deal with, for a lack of a better word, black issues. Not like the crap they make today where it's just "screw the writing, we've got some blacks in it. lets just promote that and we're done".

[@coreyburton7476]

I agree!

[@scofieldvictoria]

@@engeltjebaleno Hallmark Channel: "Let's sprinkle in some black people and one black BFF and call it a day, but we're not having a black lead or acknowledging black history or racial issues in any way"

[@boogienightsmarkwahlberg6011]

@@engeltjebaleno White dude here, grew up on Family Matters and Fresh Prince. Didnt really care or focus on the cast being black, the content was too good to focus on anything other than that.

[@zayoeniexx4995]

I haven’t cried in 4/5 years and only this scene made me cry. Lost my dad due to divorce at the age of 6, came back into my life and then moved to the Middle East and never saw him again. I’m even tearing up while writing this, I just know he wasn’t a man.

[@nexxusty]

Holding in your tears doesn't make you a man bro.

[@Alex-lv1ph]

Keep your head up G. Your happiness will come from within - thru your successes, family, and children. Thank you for sharing - you’re a real man. I don’t know you or anything about you but I wish you the best brother!

[@sha11235]

My dad passed away a few months after this episode originally aired from cancer. We at least had a relationship.

[@c4yd3n49]

@@nexxusty True

[@c4yd3n49]

"4/5 years" have you considered contacting a doctor?

[@tacituskilgore9803]

'Every young man needs an Uncle Phil in his life' - Will Smith

[@juuber]

*Dear Uncle Tacitus*

[@lars573]

Mine was my mom.

[@0Heeroyuy01]

"or a carl winslow" - heeroyuy

[@maeganbyerley]

My nieces and nephews have an Uncle Phil thanks to my husband lol

[@yungleek6295]

Uncle iroh as well

[@cameronneal4]

Me: It’s a lovely day KZbin recommendations: You’re going to *CRY*

[@way108]

Cameron Neal right there with ya... 😭😭

[@darkmex25]

It's a bad day for rain...

[@hoos_ur_daddy]

Riiiiight!? WTF

[@worldlfree]

lmaoooo

[@Stampistuta]

Yeah if it ain’t this its someone hearing for the first time or someone meeting a long lost relative. I’m a wreck!!

[@freedomofspeech4732]

Your Damn right that's acting Will!! You went from excitement to go with Lou, then immediate remorse for trusting him, then kinda playing it off like the jokester you were, then complete anger, and lastly tears. All in a matter of a minute or so. It was a golden scene, and one of your greatest acting moments ever. Your more talented then you'll ever give yourself credit for.

[@BlackDiamond2718]

The saddest thing about sarcastic humor id that it can stem from passive aggressiveness. When you are taught to hide your feelings then it poisons you. Having a joking attitude in life hurts too.

[@sha11235]

I hope that if he wins the Oscar at the end of this month, he thanks James Avery for making him the actor he is now.

[@shaunhunterit342]

@@stevenvelez1717 😬🤣

[@dlxinfinite801]

Sistas, we hurt too. A inner pain you never shake. "Why dont he want me, Man." No punk shit. Real truma that changes your whole identity.

[@MrKs757]

That scene is not only the most powerful in Fresh Prince history but in sitcom history overall to me. And you can hear the co stars of the show crying. “Hillary Banks” said she was one of them

[@Tactical.chocolate]

Good ear. I had to rewatch and listen to what u was saying

[@elik3239]

I dont hear anyone crying

[@Tactical.chocolate]

@@elik3239 listen closely after will says why dont he want me.

[@michaeldyer6378]

Yeh I could hear that too...

[@JJGeneral1]

@@Tactical.chocolate you mean will crying into james' shoulder?

[@TempeSoldier123]

Sounds like Uncle Phil was the man on and off screen.

[@vinvass2674]

James Avery was The Man

[@Ryan79345]

@@vinvass2674 the big man that broke the elevator

[@ryanc26210]

it doesn't matter how many times I watch this scene, I always end up crying. I either have some unresolved issues or that was just really good acting. I felt every word he said and when he asked how come he doesn't want me, that's always the part that gets me

[@waynepolo6193]

It can be both.

[@r00key]

That scene hit me hard. It slapped me right in the face. Like a Rock.

[@chokinghazard2942]

He deserves an OSCAR for really SLAPPING the audience like a ROCK

[@SIRMISSION]

@r00key that was hilarious ass word play bro!!! You Sir deserve an Oscar just 4 that! 🤣🤣🤣

[@dominiquedanyel6901]

“Don’t act around me. Act with me.” Whew! GEMS!!!

[@RapFanatic4ever]

R.I.P. Uncle Phill you are still America’s favorite TV dad the scene where Will’s father walks out on him and Uncle Phill was defeniteley a great role model and this scene still makes me cry

[@dreadxplayzs7849]

I like family matters father carl winslow just the same character wise but james avery will always be one of the greatest tv dads ever

[@mariovanda9504]

.

[@waterboy91669]

yeah fuck bill cosby rapey self, he was never that funny to me anyway. james avery was the real t.v. father.

[@waterboy91669]

stryfetc1 Oh I'm so sorry. Please excuse the rapist just because he was a celebrity and funny to you. How silly of me to be upset about 60 or so women accusing him of rape. All of them aren't lying, come on now.

[@StylinRed]

I agree about Cliff Huxtable, but what about Jason Seaver? He was an excellent TV dad too

[@davewolf6256]

2:03 "Don't act around me, act with me." That was great advice. Look at Avery's face at 3:19 . That's all you need to get the right emotion for the role. There's also some real tragic irony in the sentence, "And I sure as hell don't need him for that, 'cause 'aint a damn thing he could ever teach me about how to love my kids!" Like, that's some good writing, because everyone with a neglectful or abusive parent fantasizes about expressing their anger. But the children all know how deeply depressing it is to live like that. Even after you feel and express that anger, you're still left with that sadness and have to manage it. And that's what makes this scene so honest, it goes right to that truth. It's episodes like this that remind me that television can be art.

[@icyhugs]

That hole is still here in the soul after all the anger gets exploded. Sometimes it even become an abyss as times goes by and haunts u every now and then...

[@celine2670]

I think he improvised the scene or most of it. It makes my heart break even more.

[@robertdavis7736]

One of THE best scenes of modern television acting that we as a society have been blessed to witness. One of my favorite sitcoms in my 36 years of life

[@THERSC216]

RIP James Avery This was one of the best scenes in Fresh Prince of Bel-Air history.

[@jeremiahgood4805]

I wish they would do a movie and address his death. That would make me so happy. That would give me closure on the tv show.

[@BoydOfPray]

Mannn, IMO this is one of the best scenes in TV history period. So unexpected from this show too

[@shisuiuchiha4339]

That’s my life right there. No mom or dad around and I’m doing pretty good for myself but I have those days when I see a happy family and wish I got to enjoy that moment for just a second.

[@cassandramorales9789]

@@shisuiuchiha4339 There are people with moms and dads still around and we feel like that. Best day of my life was getting out of my parents house for good.

[@SuggahBear]

Yep. And my fav is the Bel Biv Devoe one where they keep messin up the video shoot😂😂😂😂

[@DABIGDAWG001]

Can we finally start saying that "America's Dad" is no longer Cliff Huxtable but Philip Banks?

[@js4187]

Americas dad is white of course . Mr Avery can remain Uncle phil

[@youthought3521]

Offworlder1 the character that Bill Cosby played in “The Cosby Show”.

[@DABIGDAWG001]

@Offworlder1 im a 90s kid too, graduated in 2001. but every knows that show. despite what happened with cosby, its still a quality show that relates even to today. i recommend the watch

[@brigidtheirish]

@@DABIGDAWG001 And, honestly, I have my doubts on the rape charges. Did he have sex with someone he shouldn't have? Probably. He's a high-profile actor, it'd be unusual if he *didn't* have extra-marital sex. Was it non-consensual? Dang near impossible to prove so many years later and isn't it *convenient* how all the accusations are so old.

[@tiffanygilmore104]

Nah nah ....mr huxtable was the shit.

[@c-meezy765]

To me, this will always be Will's greatest scene.

[@tylertilwick6852]

To say “they don’t make ‘em like they used to” about James Avery is a HUGE understatement!! A real Actor’s Actor and a real Man’s Man.

[@poliltinktink5343]

Listen man.... I'm a grown ass man.....46 years old.... Hell naw I ain't crying, you crying!

[@MelMelx365]

Talk about it now, this went deep.

[@rhondabell7582]

😂😂😂 It's okay.. We all shed a tear here or our eyes were watering lol

[@ContinuousFantasy]

He’s probably one of the guys that left his kids

[@msceandra]

😂😂😂 yep

[@mobid.2084]

D.Mercier AND THE MAN ...lmao. I’m 45 and I just decided to tap out like Conor McGregor.

[@mr.hester5671]

I seriously just had to hold back the tears... powerful scene... James Avery saw potential in Will and challenged him to be great...

[@PatternLand]

dont hold back you Need to let go sometimes believe it or not even your deepest miseries can lay behind those tears

[@davidhenrylake2047]

Just like the show.

[@dsandoval9396]

It's no secret his on-screen cast mates were a real family to him. Sometimes expecting too much from kids can damage them but Will was held to a higher standard *along* with being nurtured by the people around him. Even without the whole Scientology thing you can look at WS and see he's an educated, accomplished, man and it's due to people expecting more out of him, leading by example, along with close family support. There's just so much to take out of this video.

[@andrewjones3625]

Sometimes we need someone to push us to the next level

[@jeremyc9593]

I haven't even watched the video yet, but still had to hold back the tears just reading the description of a scene that I haven't seen in many, many years and can't even relate to. That goes to show just how powerful that scene was, is, and always will be.

[@crishuerta9632]

When he says “how come he don’t want me?” I started crying so hard. Avery and will were such a good and dynamic duo and I think this show will live on until my kids die I think it’s that good and respected by everyone well done to the both of them and R.I.P to Avery

[@famicomplicated]

Can't even think about this scene without getting emotional. I love the way he jumps in with the hug at the end, it feels so real - because it is. RIP the great James Avery.

[@smitha5022]

That scene gets me everytime. Especially when they zoom in on the statue of father and son. That's some good acting right there.

[@mikespike3962]

That's when I lost it personally. That's how I sit with my 3 year old son all the time. He's in my lap and my head is next to his. My father has never met my son. Never called him, never sent a card, doesn't ask about him. He isn't interested. He hasn't replied to texts in over 1 year and I haven't seen him since 2011. To think that my perfect baby boy has a grandfather like that burns me up. I strive to be nothing like him. So that statue itself spoke to me personally.

[@Nico_911]

mike spike You sure he’s not dead

[@stickyarrow]

Putting the scene at the end... you caught me slipping, haha. 😭

[@streamingblk]

Had to keep you on your toes!! lol Thanks for sharing!!!

[@marinaelgueta443]

for real, had me tearing up all over again

[@rebelsouljaz]

Sticky Arrow why were you sleeping?

[@afriyie77]

Me too

[@GeraldHarris-cf2zh]

Thinking about subscribing based on how well this was put together and yeah im tryimg not to cry right now

[@kendawyatt3219]

I’m glad James was there to help guide Will in his acting career. That kind of teacher that kind of mentor is beautiful.

[@keithhancock9744]

I heard Hillary crying in the background.

[@titavaughns7698]

When?

[@latuba27]

Right before they show the statue you hear her

[@mauia88]

How do you know it's her??

[@jaywhite1850]

3:37-39 I definitely hear crying and it sounds a like a woman. I’m almost convinced you’re right.

[@keithhancock9744]

@@mauia88 IDK, It is a women crying though.

[@ForNoOne1]

Will Smith and James Avery deservedly get a lot of praise for this scene, but you have to give it to the writers as well. Such a great mixture of feelings of anger and defiance built up over the years, finally culminating when he can't keep the walls up anymore and the child inside him reveals his true simple and desperate desire for his father's love and attention. "How come he don't want me, man?" It's so easy to understand and it breaks the heart every time.

[@silversolarfire5473]

This was almost entirely off-script, actually. Including the hug, it was almost all Improv and Method.

[@starling9172]

Didn't Will Smith produce the show?

[@Genkimark]

And Ben Vereen was great as well. Superb acting all around.

[@Bobbythebuilder789]

@@starling9172 nope Quincy Jones did

[@tonyacosta4574]

Didn't break my heart

[@kasa9691]

if you didnt cry during that scene, do you REALLY have a soul?

[@bigparps682]

I really think it doesn't hit people unless they've lived in the moment and lived through this. I still have my father with me so it doesn't hit me as hard as someone whos deadbeat father walked out

[@faress6161]

I tried so fucking hard not to cry lol

[@lexislife3156]

i cry everytime i watch it

[@Dargonhuman]

@@bigparps682 My father didn't walk out on me, but my mom had to move away to keep him from molesting my sister and I (so it was less "why don't he want me" but more "he want me too much") and my stepdad wasn't winning any Dad of the Year awards either, so I definitely cry unashamed at this scene every time I see it.

[@crimson_rain_sought_flower]

I'm sure I have a soul 😂 I am a person, who never cries, even when I am sad, no matter how much, the last time was 9 months ago, and honestly - now when I think about it... If I had the same mind back then like now, I wouldn't have cried. It was a stupid reason, I mean, I saw that coming, I KNEW it was gonna happen, and yet, it still tore my heart apart.. What I'm trying to say is - even if I didn't cry, I still have a soul 😂

[@coreymallard6650]

Having broken down on many occasions to my mom asking that same question of why my dad doesn’t want me, this scene is an incredibly powerful and admired representation of the struggle of being without a parental figure. It’s a reminder that you’re not alone in the struggle, and it’s okay because you’ll find your Uncle Phil, and most of the time they’re right in front of you. Masterful scene

[@JCollyard]

Instant tears every single time I see this scene. It’s so powerful.

[@baneleaf7025]

The strength of this scene was Mr. Avery. Hearing that he pushed Smith to make it the best scene it could be does not surprise me at all. The scene was just that important that they could not half ass it. Will Smith was not a polished actor which made the delivery that much more impactful because you knew there was pure emotion there that he hand to pull out of his soul and deliver in front of a crew and audience. There was an article that mentioned that the entire crew and cast off screen were balling their eyes out. Well done Mr. Avery, well done in pulling that performance out of a young actor and giving all of us the memory of just how many young men feel today.

[@streamingblk]

Brilliant!!!

[@TheMysticmusti]

I think no matter how close you are personally to the scene and subject. It's that small thing at the end that really breaks you. That damn hat. The way the hat gets in the way of a needed hug and show of love. The embrace knocks it off balance and then it just gets thrown off to be pulled in even deeper, because for all the fashion and exterior and everything else, love and care is what is needed and wanted most.

[@BoydOfPray]

@@TheMysticmusti Dang, I just watched it again...You right.

[@freemanvocalstudios3216]

When you have a production of younger actors with very little significant acting experience, you NEED those veteran actors onstage (or screen) to settle them down when they're nervous and get them to where they need to be. James Avery was so valuable to this show for that reason. Same with Edward Hermann on Gilmore Girls, and Donald Sutherland in the Hunger Games.

[@mmsizzlak3726]

It's CRAZY to think just how TRULY unpolished Will Smith was before this sitcom and then for him to literally become one of the biggest actors in the world afterwards... He came into the show just sorta clowning around and using his natural ability to make ppl laugh then becoming a truly gifted actor...as tough as acting is in a comedic setting, Will was simply channeling "acting the fool" in the beginning and to go from that to what he's become is simply amazing

[@SahilShah-bq3xe]

Uncle Phil's emotion at 3:20 was priceless. I think Will Smith did such a great job that even James Avery got teary.

[@yourinfoguy9595]

Sahil Shah nah that’s his acting, amazing right

[@rui5421]

he pushed will over the edge with those eyes. How can you not want to cry looking at him feeling will's emotions with no response to make him feel better? beautiful scene.

[@CascadianRanger]

2 stellar actors bouncing off each other so strongly, the emotions become real between them.

[@Alex-jm2wu]

We can hear Karyn Parsons crying in backstage at 3:37

[@mauia88]

@@Alex-jm2wu Who?

[@Sitharos]

As a kid, I saw this scene when I was 14 and it moved me. Now as a father myself, it still hits me hard and I get teared up when I see it. All kids need their fathers. Mine was a great one and I hope I can be half as good a father to my child as mine was to me.

[@andyaitken4243]

James Avery, a great actor who’ll always be sadly missed.

[@PlumbPitiful]

3:37 Right as his hat hits the floor you can hear a woman sobbing offscreen. It sounded too close to be an audience member so it must have been one of the actresses.

[@pecelievans7316]

Really Tired 64 It was Hillary, she said it in an interview

[@danie641]

i didnt know

[@TruSoulDj]

i don't know that. But listening to before reading your comment, I was thinking that it sounded like her.

[@kingsleyatuba]

@@pecelievans7316 who's Hillary?

[@glareblair]

@@kingsleyatuba Karyn Parsons

[@Dont_Be_Afraid_0222]

This & the scene where Will was in the hospital, after taking a bullet for Carlton, and convinced him not to go seeking vengeance with a gun, were my 2 favorite scenes from the show.

[@hasenaali2010]

Indrid .Cold another emotional scene was when Carlton accidentally takes speed that he found in wills locker and gets sent to hospital. Then will starts crying and apologiSing to his family

[@thagrinch6394]

Was thinking the same thing!!

[@LiquidusSnakeX]

The best parts of Fresh Prince was when shit got real. The gun episode, the dad episode, and the finale when will needed an apartment.

[@nicolewilliams3434]

Yep...

[@superlex611]

@@LiquidusSnakeX racial cops

[@masterwhopper414]

I like how Will's laughing is almost like Avery's evil laugh

[@jackstack9367]

RIP James Avery ❤️

[@dag_9435]

First things first r.i.p. uncle Phil, for real, you the only father that I ever knew...

[@hamzasadiq7672]

Sorry for you and that you didn't get to be with your father man, can't imagine a life without my dad

[@SwnkyTiger]

Look up, 'No Role Modelz' can't believe there's only one comment for this song?

[@b.o.4469]

Look up Cliff huxtabke

[@Words-of-encouragement.-.]

SwnkyTiger For real. I came here looking for this comment.

[@hassouss4512]

I get my bitch pregnant I'ma be a better you, prophecies that I made way back in the ville

[@michellem6401]

Doesn't matter how short the clip is. I always get tearey eyed at this

[@user-zu5sp7wx2g]

Right? I did not expect this to get me without the backstory

[@missincognito2666]

Same😭

[@Wyndamn]

Me too.

[@dominiquecarroll5817]

When he finally asks that hard question. “How come he don’t want me, man?”. That’s when the tears fall 😢. One of the most powerful tv scenes of all time

[@markforbus6794]

Probably still the best scene Will Smith has ever done.

[@iiequinox8044]

This scene was one of the main reasons this sitcom became my favorite of all time.

[@Arz2003]

Back when acting looked fcking real :0

[@iiequinox8044]

@@Arz2003 Yeah, cheesy but still realistic. Now it's just cheesy without much heartfelt moments.

[@MrWereWolfGirl]

Also back when they weren't afraid to tackle harsh topics, for me it's between this, the episode where Will get's shot and gets a gun from Carlton and he is crying whilst he is taking out bullets and the scene where Phil has a heart attack and Carlton doesn't want to visit him because he is afraid.

[@cathykaeshow7779]

This sealed the deal for me too. Also why Will is in my favourite actors list.

[@VanessaHopeW]

No matter how many times I see it, no matter how much time has passed, that scene ALWAYS brings me to tears. Beautifully acted.

[@bobbycutts2111]

Same. I'm very difficult to make cry, but even watching this 30 second clip at the end had me losing it.

[@beatrixthegreat1138]

James Avery was such a great teacher too. I’m freakin cryin’ again

[@jeffmachia53]

The fact that he credits James Avery just shows how humble Will Smith is

[@SpaceFlowerAesthetic]

*Now hes won the Oscar. James Avery is smiling down from heaven*

[@MrAfriKa]

KEEP MY FATHERS NAME OUT YO FU**ING MOUTH!!!!

[@DowntownLAKid]

James Avery, Uncle Phil, knew kids needed the message So he pushed Will to make the scene right. Thank you uncle Phil. You made will do it right, and you made a whole generation of kids without fathers feel understood

[@meanieeheart4236]

Uncle Phil's the dad we all wanted. Lou is the dad too many of us got edit: this comment was from a year ago so idk if I stole it or not but I put it here because my dad was just like Lou, literally never met the dude but he still makes pathetic attempts to find my mother who is over him

[@NAMEDTODIE]

True story

[@mauricefuqua2414]

Fr

[@SearJewel]

Unoriginal comment

[@caitlynala8697]

girlygamer402910 who cares it’s still true

[@SearJewel]

@@caitlynala8697 I mean, at least give props to that person instead of acting like u said it first or something.

[@Tony-Taslud]

I have a great dad who raised me and was married to my mom for 50 yrs but that scene gets me everytime.

[@blakegardner962]

3:20 you can almost see in James Avery’s eye he was proud of will for that acting. Like he wanted to get hype for him but had to stay in the moment

[@swil5474]

This was the scene that made me look at Smith as a serious actor with some depth.

[@nikkimillionspring3667]

This plus when he accidentally gave Carlton speed and when he got shot x

[@PeterJPickles]

The reason why Will has grossed so much from the box office, he learnt from the best, Mr J. Avery aka Uncle Phil.

[@Sherirose1]

James Avery molded Will. Its a powerful line that resonates with many BAME.

[@knightshousegames]

I remember hearing when James Avery died and being so crushed because I knew there would never be a reunion episode or anything like that, because without Uncle Phil, there is no Fresh Prince. Hearing the background for this makes it feel even more powerful. I feel this scene, I could never watch this episode as a kid. How he is described, James Avery reminds me of a writing professor I had in college. He accepted nothing less than the best. While others folded in his class, it just made me want that A that much more. He would say "I don't lower my bar for anyone, I just do what I can to help raise you up." I had 3 classes with him, and it wasn't til the final class that I finally got that A, and I felt like I had earned it, which made it meaningful. I wish I had a James Avery in my life.

[@tomsviewphotographyadventu2514]

What a testament to James Avery. Powerful actor.

[@JoshuaFrick3]

Back in the 90s a lot of sitcoms would have that one episode every season that had a special message to promote... This episode was an instant classic though. I remember watching this live and thinking damn that’s powerful. I have both my parents, so it didn’t hit home for me, but you could just tell. And the episode wasn’t preachy. Same ol Fresh Prince for 28 minutes & then they smack you upside the head in the last 2 and make you think. Fresh Prince was like that. Could entertain you and make you think... even 25+ years later.

[@streamingblk]

YES!!! Thanks for sharing!!

[@tonylopez-russell2631]

Live? You mean you were in the studio audience?

[@austin78993]

They struck the balance with that so well with this show. If you described it to someone on paper, it would sound like a total flop. But these types of moments made Will Smith an Actor, not some Disney channel Miley Cyrus gets her own show type shit.

[@ethanv7330]

@@austin78993 well one is for young adults others for pre-pubescant teens.

[@joshleonard7641]

I was maybe 12 or 13 years old when that episode aired, and I told myself after watching it that I will never ever leave my kids... Thank you Will, James Avery, and Ben Vereen....

[@FrenchJae]

I bet you still left them

[@josephgmoretti]

Bill Cosby I hope you’re joking because that is an awful thing to say to Josh Leonard.

[@FrenchJae]

@@josephgmoretti How bout Fuck You?

[@User-lo9ez]

You must've left your kids bill

[@maxenra]

@@FrenchJae I hope you're joking because that is an awful think to say to Joseph Moretti.

[@superdopesamples]

Wow, we might not have Will the movie star if it wasn't for James Avery. RIP

[@geoffreyr2356]

This is my favorite sitcom moment of all times. It was the first time I saw Will Smith act, truly act. Mr. Avery was right there in the moment. A true actor, he didn't have to say a word but you could see Uncle Phil melt and actually extend his heart to his nephew. It was so powerful the first time I saw it. It made me cry and it made me realize that Mr. Smith could and would eventually take his acting to a higher level. Thank you for posting.

[@simonmcleish2703]

That scene still gets me

[@mobid.2084]

Stuart Mcleod ...me too! The crazy thing is that Will Smith’s explanation of how it came together makes it even more powerful.

[@uploadvidz4490]

The whole episode was very emotionally charged. Definitely the most ominous, gloomy episode of the series.

[@DiabetixDude14]

Every time FB pages shares that video and captions it "this scene was unscripted, this was pure will smith" he just proved that it wasnt

[@johnr8930]

Trying to tell people on tiktok but they ain’t listening

[@mauia88]

People think he had an absentee/deadbeat dad too, but doesn't seem to be the case either.

[@tossefin]

@@mauia88 Probably cuz it's such a stereotype for black kids to have absent fathers, when that's definitely not always the case.

[@mauia88]

@@tossefin I know. I think people want to believe an emotional story to be more emotional even if it's uncorroborated.

[@goosgasgas4862]

This happens with every great scene of every great show. Some dickhead says that it was all unscripted, and people start believing them, meanwhile the writers and directors get no credit. Tv is not just about acting.

[@dominicksansotta7173]

First things first R.I.P. Uncle Phill . I love how he gave Will that constructive criticism. We al need that mentor to beleive in us and that scene resognates with so many people because so many of us grow up fatherless wondering that same exact thing .

[@spotnruby]

This scene right here hits closer than any other scene I've ever seen in movies or on TV. It's perfect.

[@nataliaboyer6080]

This scene goes down in history. He really pulled from the collective on this one. He channeled everyone's pain who has experienced this.

[@somarriba333]

Powerful scene. I get chills when he yells "TO HELL WITH HIM!" and then when breakdown when he says THE line at the end. Uncle Phil. Best TV dad ever. Awesome Shredder too.

[@alexanderroloff8093]

This scene made me finally stand up to my own father and stepmothers for everything they did to me and my brothers growing up. I was 16 years old standing up to a 6'6" monster all because this scene showed me that just like Will I didn't need a father who was never gonna be there for me and I was never gonna be good enough for him to love me as his son. Thank you Will for helping stand up.

[@reysablan7442]

I think the advice James Avery gave will plus telling him that's fucken acting gave Will the confidence to know he can do and act any roll, which is why 99% of all his movies is amazing

[@LoveBeautyFun7]

The look in Uncle Phil’s eyes of heartbreak for Will... And when Will asked ‘how come he don’t want me?’ he was so totally broken. Definitely bawled real tears at this scene, I think more than once. To me the most emotional scene of the entire show’s running.

[@estebanstintson1667]

This and will getting shot

[@scaggly9239]

Im hearing audience members cry during that scene.

[@Drehirth]

I believe it was the actress for Hillary

[@johnmolina607]

Karyn Parsons who played "Hilary" you can hear her crying in the audience off set

[@realSimoneCherie]

Yeah cause no one turned Karyn‘s mic off

[@karelynabbott9639]

Oh wow. I’ve never heard that until now and you can tell it’s Karyn Parsons.

[@johnmolina607]

@@karelynabbott9639 yeah to be honest I didn't know that either until I went on Google and looked up a trivia Q&A for the show.

[@JJ-gv9hg]

that scene is so powerful, my mom and I always are about to cry watching it because of how relatable it is to us

[@michaelhall9146]

This is still one of the most heartbreaking yet best scenes of all time. I forgot they were acting. It just feels so real and genuine.

[@ryaneaston5887]

God bless James Avery, Rest In Peace brother

[@pi_beta7306]

Amen brother...

[@Cartoonicus]

What we don't pay much attention to, is James Avery's acting as someone who has to stand there and watch someone he loves go through this.

[@icecol22]

Wow!!! That was a great interview and that emotionally raw scene brings tears to my eyes.It's very memorable. James Avery was a very compassionate and caring person.

[@CameoRoyale.]

Aging like fine wine 😘😍 whew....

[@henryjackson2357]

CameoRoyale Black truly doesn't crack

[@scaggly9239]

Any other non-physical attributes you might like sista? Or is he just "fine"?

[@allsx510]

Fat Pie anyone who uses crack cracks 😂

[@CameoRoyale.]

@@scaggly9239 His wit & comedic personality has always been attracting to me. Also, into my adulthood i love the intellectuall topics he discusses in interviews. As a Gemini woman, all these things are the key to our hearts💕 To laugh and have great convo. Sorry he fine too!! Cant i stop and smell the roses and enjoy the eye candy 😣

[@Boy123Jim]

That scene can never be outdone

[@HvyMetal4Ever]

I'm 38 years of age. Almost 39 - And this scene hits me every.single.time. There was a point in my life when my Dad was absent. I think it hits harder for some of us, because we connect more with that emotion. This was outstanding acting by Will Smith & James Avery. RIP Mr. Avery. You are truly missed.

[@BeyondFrenemies]

Same boat fam, I try & give hope but life goes on 😥😥😥

[@HvyMetal4Ever]

@@BeyondFrenemies sometimes hope is all we have. We have to use the hurt to heal. We can do better. We will be stronger. Stay strong.

[@really7734]

My parents split when I was 5. My father was rarely in my life, even though we lived in the same area. He passed 2 years ago and I wonder why he didn't try harder while hating myself for not trying harder! This clip really hits my heart!

[@HvyMetal4Ever]

@@really7734 that question is always the hardest. You often want to blame yourself. Sometimes one parent wants to blame the other, and have you buy into that lie and loyalty. I asked my Dad "why" after my daughter was born. I was 29, and he straight said "I don't want to talk about it" in a rather serious tone. I dropped it. I've tried to not let it eat at me, and instead be a better impact on my kids life. I hope that one day you reach that point. I'm sorry you lost your pops. Keep your head up, and feet forward. Walking backward is never productive.

[@juatinmanis1088]

This touched me on a personal level growing up my step father raised me and for the longest time I asked the question how come he didn't want me took me a long time to realize I had the best father in the world who did want me

[@EmmanuelGarcia403]

Will did such a good job that by the end, James Avery wasnt even acting his emotions or the expression on his face of utter sadness.

[@blackspiderman1887]

I like how the first thing will gives credit to is James Avery. Such a down to earth fellow.