"Wimpy Kid" Actor Murders Mother To Avoid Shame | Ryan Grantham Case Analysis

[@kamirichardson4535]

“Narcissism is resistant to change.” That gave me chills, and it is so true!

[@mrchihuahuaboy4306]

If this is true what are we supposed to do?

[@mochabearry]

@@mrchihuahuaboy4306 That's for the experts to figure out, isn't it?

[@defketra2817]

@@mochabearry Every individual has to make their own decisions

[@ButteredToast32]

Facts.

[@angeliquebacker8522]

@@defketra2817 Your comment makes no sense in relation to what you replied to.

[@jacobdonnelly27]

"He was Overstating his fame, I don't feel like anyone was paying attention to him." Very true statement since I never even knew about this case lol

[@eadweard.]

Interesting to see how many people consider themselves to be the benchmarks of human experience.

[@Sputterbug]

well he was just convicted yesterday but same

[@passwordsuggestion5336]

I even live closer to the area. Never heard of him and the murder.

[@annwethenorth]

@@passwordsuggestion5336 he was in court the other day.

[@jefftheriault5522]

Yeah, I remember seeing the book cover in Barnes & Noble when it came out. But having been a wimpy kid myself, I had absolutely no interest in wallowing in someone else's experiences of that. Yuck.

[@GodsCosmicBollock]

I'm starting to appreciate Dr Grande's deadpan humour - "He was not very well known for non-murder activities."

[@nhmooytis7058]

I love it!

[@MiMiAndMiso]

🤣 You're not wrong! That one was pretty damn funny! 🤣

[@bajaborracho9139]

Dr. Grande is dry as a desert and he sneaks his quips in when you least expect it. Dude is hilarious and never breaks character. 😆

[@GodsCosmicBollock]

@@iambored678 Well, I haven't watched many of his videos yet!

[@cloud8315]

🤭

[@NathanielChristopher]

Dr. Grande... I am from Vancouver and I want to sincerely thank you for your insights into this case. Specifically, I appreciate how you centre the victim in your analysis. I sometimes feel as though our justice system and media put the needs of violent offenders over the safety of innocent people.

[@1962pjh]

The guy got a life sentence. He will be monitored for the rest of his life. If he doesn't abide by the courts restrictions, back to jail he goes.

[@loriburnip]

I'm from Vancouver island & couldn't agree with you more! Especially when it comes to rape, child molestation & murder. The penalties are WAY too lenient.

[@loriburnip]

@@1962pjh it's scary that you actually believe that. There are a lot of killers, rapists, child molesters etc... who have gotten out & gone on to reoffend. Most countries dont have the resources or desire to properly monitor parolees.

[@Meela234]

Not abiding buy court restrictions can be anything from assault to murder. Why do innocent people have to suffer to test out his rehabilitation?

[@MVTexan]

You mention that this kid viewed 'shame' as merely an obstacle rather than a obvious consequence of doing something immoral! Wow! That really does put into perspective just how distorted a sickened mind can be.

[@Ch4rlz_ThA_Princ3]

why cant it be both?

[@DatabaseAdministration]

As someone who done bad things and got caught. what do I do with shame? Cuz I am paralyzed from shame since 4 months.

[@stevecrompton9910]

I'm impressed! I don't think I've ever heard a mental health care professional ever publicly admit that paitents can pretend and trick their way into being "cured" and released back into the public. They always seem to fall for the act and then are surprised with their cured paitents go right back to their bad behavior as soon as they are released. Cudos to you for admiiting that happens!

[@livefreely255]

My ex did that all the time. Successfully completed DV classes, rehabs, was a model inmate. Always did really well in structured situations, but as soon as he he was realased or graduated this dude was worse than before

[@jonaswhite5842]

True

[@bravelydefaulted]

I had to do that to escape several abusive mental health facilities. It's not really all that uncommon tbh!! Glad people bring that up

[@suzanneflowers2230]

Agree. Great post.

[@lyrablack8621]

Almost like there's something wrong with how prison and correctional facilities go about "rehabilitating" folks. It's the same problem with why countless lab tests that have been accepted as scientifically sound actually mean little to null in the real world - the real world isn't a test tube where you can control for every little variation. Not only that, but the real world _created_ "deviant" folks such as myself, my family, and those nearby. The problem here isn't the individuals - not that the strategies therapists have been using to improve truly antisocial behaviors have been all that effective. They're systemic problems. An economic system that tells you you're worthless unless you're rich (or at least _seem_ rich), a gender hierarchy that tells you you're worthless unless you have sex (or don't), religious institutes that tell you it's okay to commit heinous crimes as long as you say sorry afterward, all while grooming the congregation to be susceptible to manipulation, family units that tell you you're worthless unless you're over the age of 18. These are just a few of the things we need to tackle if we truly want to address mental illness, especially as it continues to spiral, not just in the US but across the global north and west. But doesn't that sound difficult? After all, who wants to spend all day with a serial killer trying to convince them that other people actually feel stuff, and they _like_ feeling stuff? So much easier to just chuck them in a cell and slam the door shut, only to let unreformed abusers walk free however many years later, after working for free during that time period, of course. And don't get me started on how nobody wants to talk about how the very same systems that produce serial killers facilitate pedophiles.

[@maureeningleston1501]

Very scary to learn just how dangerous vulnerable narcissists can be. Just by saying vulnerable makes you feel that person must be harmless.

[@MakeMeLo]

I liked the term covert more than vulnerable because they are very far from harmless.

[@helenwoods1467]

I had a 16 yr ' relationship ' with a vulnerable narcissist. I escaped 2 yrs ago, our 16 yr old son got out a year ago. Mentally, we'll never be the same. Both our family and my ex's family want nothing to do with him, as they know how dangerous he is. We got out with our lives, so that's the best part.

[@Sputterbug]

never assume a narcissist of any kind is harmless

[@deejames1st]

@@MakeMeLo I agree. Covert is a better name. I don’t really think these are vulnerable people in the traditional sense.

[@elanahammer1076]

Narcissists are not really vulnerable at all. They can be dangerous because narcissism and criminal activity can go hand in hand. 🤔❤🇺🇸

[@collinmcdaniel5683]

"He was overstating his fame, I don't really feel like anyone was paying attention to him." ROAST HIM DOC

[@youtubeuserzzzz]

Never heard of him until I saw Dr. G video come on my feed. So you're exactly right.

[@oceanstaiga5928]

He does have a point. I did watch the wimpy kid movies as a child but cannot remember his face to be fair.

[@tehhymnofvalefor]

I think that’s why he committed the crime. The fame he got wasn’t the fame that he wanted. He wanted fame so much that he was going to do a mass shooting, but the thought of his mom talking to him in prison was a nightmare I guess.

[@hannahm.9881]

Yeah

[@panushjo]

How is that roasting him? stupid comment. Guy was more famous than 99.999 percent of the population

[@TheRealArrendondo]

i so appreciate this channel for not sensationalizing and playing up the evil with distasteful horror music, its just straight up information. its already a heinous and real story no need to make people unnecessarily uncomfortable while listening. Kudos to you sir.

[@shameronstar7220]

You brought up something interesting. The fact that he looks so young cute and innocent makes him even more frightening

[@windsofmarchjourneyperrytr2823]

Didn't even have the balls to look her in the eye when he did it. If you're going to be a poc, at least look them in the face.

[@loveispatientloveiskind2205]

well probably didn't want to give her a chance to defend herself. But how disgusting... her own beloved child.. bet there were signs previously though, probably bossing her about etc,. That should be looked into, my spoilt cousin used to threaten to kill her parents...because they always gave into the little biatch

[@Ch4rlz_ThA_Princ3]

how is that frightening at all?

[@shameronstar7220]

@@Ch4rlz_ThA_Princ3 because you wouldn’t see it coming

[@Ch4rlz_ThA_Princ3]

@@shameronstar7220 does anyone ever see it coming though?

[@Melissa0774]

Diary of a Wimpy Kid was actually pretty popular. I'm surprised that I had no idea this ever happened.

[@Sputterbug]

the movie is old and this guy played a side-character. it probably would have blown up if he played a main character. plus the movies werent as popular as the books

[@DG-qj9lw]

The headlines that reference the movie are clickbait to make people think he was the lead.

[@daledickey8400]

@@Sputterbug Who was the main character of the movie? Wasn't he the wimpy kid writing the diary?

[@rockyayyy8978]

@@daledickey8400 that was Zachary Gordon. Idk who this guy played. Even after googling it. But he wasn’t the main character

[@apollosperineum]

@@rockyayyy8978 he played a character named rodney james in doawk, which even if i recognised the name, that’s a pretty minor character.

[@BlueBelle-711]

This is truly sickening. I’ve heard it said that most narcissists won’t take their own life;only others. They value themselves too much. I’m so sorry for his mom 😢.

[@BrendaGarcia-ty2ml]

This is not true. A lot of narcissists take their own life too to regain control for example. Like Gabby P’s boyfriend. It’s not just depressed people who commit suicide.

[@Naptosis]

At least it was quick. I'm sure his mum wasn't aware at any point. But such a waste of life - hers, not his - she seemed like a good person that had a lot of love to give. If only these people would admit their compulsions to the authorities before they act. And if only the authorities took them all seriously.

[@keepitforreally4501]

I don’t think they value themselves they’re too chicken narcissist people are not really brave they’re cowards

[@janelle009]

@@BrendaGarcia-ty2ml I dont believe he was ever clinically labeled a narcissist. He was a killer, yes. But he didnt keep any spotlight from her when they were seemingly doing ok. Regardless, hes a douche.

[@tyyneviljakainen5108]

@@Naptosis As we really don't know who his mom really was. My mother is a manipulative narcissist - no one who don't know me well can't believe that she is a peace of shit She is so nice to strangers and was to my baby brother too. If she was good and stable person then Ryan just born like this - it's very rare to born " bad" / " psychopath"

[@elizabethhamm5320]

The bleak (but realistic) picture that you painted for Ryan’s future compounds the tragedy. Great video as usual. You provided information and entertainment while also remembering the victim. May she Rest In Peace

[@sarahalbers5555]

If I ever commit a serious crime, please let me be sentenced in Canada! Thanks for this valuable, yet terrifying insight on this case.

[@kikihowe4799]

We have a broken Justice System here in Canada ….🤬

[@theblouselady7219]

Our justice system is a joke.

[@marycull3607]

Trudeu is a joke

[@Jane-xt4lu]

'eligible for parole' doesn't mean he will get it.

[@dd-kapibara1070]

@@Jane-xt4lu high likelihood he will. The greyhound bus cannibal and the barbie killer are out and living their best lives, with all the benefits any regular tax paying Canadian has access to.

[@srsusansummers3070]

I have been hospitalized for depression & anxiety. I know what suicidal feelings are but thank God I never felt like killing anyone. Also thank God I was helped and now am no longer plagued with such feelings. I so wish people would get help there is help available but probably it took 20 years of different medicines different therapists and finally there was a healing. I don't think we become terribly depressed overnight and we really shouldn't expect a deep healing that quickly either.

[@lilyw.719]

Why are you impersonating a Catholic nun? Is this some kind of anti-Catholic bigotry?

[@derblaueengel]

@@lilyw.719 Lmfao quit taking the internet so seriously

[@PyrPupMom]

Thank you for this word of encouragement, and glad you are doing better!

[@tahlia__nerds_out]

@@lilyw.719 someone can be a nun and have mental health issues; their vows don’t make them exempt from human trials and tribulations. And even if this person isn’t a nun, I’m sure the handle has some special meaning to her. God bless…

[@tahlia__nerds_out]

I’m so glad you got the help you needed after so many years of struggling. God bless…

[@douglasmijangos3327]

16 years for killing his mother ? WTF how do people kill a random person and get life in prison and this guy kills his mother and gets 16 years ? 🤦🏻‍♂️ not saying a random person’s life is worth more or less but he killed his mother .. if he can’t find love for her what about everyone else ? He was planning on going on a rampage and he’s eligible for parole? Seriously 🤦🏻‍♂️

[@williamsussman7343]

Yep 16 years is way too little for that, especially considering his mental state at the time. It was premeditated so it should have been like 25+ years IMO

[@RMcCoy-fb4rs]

That is the most shocking thing to me. He murderd his mother so he could then murder many more people!! That alone screams he should never be released since rehabilitation is highly unlikely in his case.

[@japan1001ify]

Its Canada, here in Germany its the same, for example a distant relative of mine got killed by robbers in front of his wife and all they got was 8 years in prison and they are now free again. They killed him because they wanted him to show them were he hid his safe but the tragic was that he didn‘t even have a safe and they didn‘t belief him.

[@BubbleOfJelly]

It’s Canada. They’re more soft on punishing murderers.

[@boogerbeans]

Hes white

[@MeglynLad]

Dr. Grande!!! Can we get more on the topic of vulnerable narcissism?? This was excellent.

[@oregonsnob31]

If you take a look at Dr. Grande’s repertoire on this youtube channel you will find numerous videos on that very topic plus so many more. As Cluster B personality disorders seem to get more attention from the public in modern day, there is a lot of content out there but Dr Grande’s is superior and trustworthy. You need not look anywhere else.

[@Catlily5]

@@oregonsnob31 Dr. Grande is pretty good but it is always a good idea to look at other sources.

[@blueStarKitt7924]

@@Catlily5 True.

[@MeglynLad]

@@oregonsnob31 I've listened to most of the narcissism videos, but this one was interesting to have an actual patient tied to it.

[@WithLoveAshley]

@@MeglynLad his video on Revenge Narcissism was a lightbulb moment for me in regards to someone in my life. I kept thinking they have some signs of narcissism like lack of empathy, withholding things I like, and lack of insight to themself and others, but just never fit the full definition of other types until then.

[@nick12312]

Diary of a Wimpy Kid: The Last Straw

[@daniellavaladez7820]

LMAO good one! 👍 😂😂😂😂

[@tatathebutterfly]

🫢😂😂

[@therainmaker8448]

MICHAEL SANDOVAL AND KURT HARRISON ARE THE REAL CREATORS OF DR. GRANDE DEEP FAKE.

[@oceangalaxy704]

You're wrong for that 🤣🤣🤣

[@annahaines4588]

Brilliant!!

[@phillumenistfilms]

I was a Teamsters driver working on the RIVERDALE series in Vancouver, Canada and seeing him after takes, around the crafty truck, etc. he seemed very chill, professional and a nice guy. Wild what major changes can occur in a life.

[@jorgerios1473]

The CIA flip his switch clearly MK ultra PSYOP operation gone wrong … or so they want us to believe

[@bluecollarlit]

Thanks for sharing this. It gives us some perspective.

[@dir-gk]

Tragic man.

[@windsofmarchjourneyperrytr2823]

Anyone can play Mr. Nice guy for a few minutes.

[@nameredacted1176]

I’m going to start describing myself as “Just a dude who enjoys non-murderous activities” THANKS DOC! 🇺🇸

[@louise2467]

❤ If true,then you will be loved.

[@davidsoto4394]

This is unacceptable. I am greatful that the defendant in this case was held accountable for his actions by the proper authoraties. Excellent video Dr. Grande.

[@Sputterbug]

idk if id say 14 years is really accountability for murder

[@Leanne-mw8nm]

@@Sputterbug No, I would think not. Except, he doesn't seem to be insane to me!

[@fiat3879]

Fourteen years isn’t being held accountable. It’s barely a slap on the wrist

[@Ch4rlz_ThA_Princ3]

i dont think he really did anything wrong.

[@JennWatson]

He was such a coward to sneak up behind her while she’s playing piano and take her life 😢

[@Ycjedi]

complete premeditation

[@johnburke6332]

In his defence, She could've been playing a Coldplay song.

[@slaythembeforeme]

@@johnburke6332 lmao

[@ladygiseler2187]

@@johnburke6332 bro...

[@carolineamondarainsherwood5193]

Same. I screamed so inevitably loud when I heard Dr grande say that she was playing Piano. And then started crying. Poor woman. Fucking Coward & worthless Piece of S$+$(#( and an Absolute Abomination. I am Hoping that the shame is related to anything & anyone else As Opposed to connected to his own mother, if Sexual Sexual Abuse at an Early age for however long did take place, with his mother and or The Father which would explain why He Left In a way, and his mother knowing about this could be a clear motive or one of the few to Finish her off , aside from his depression & boredom, anxiety, Praise Me personality Type, and Homicidal fantasies& tendencies. I hope and Pray to God he won't out in 13 or 14 years. How scary & Macabre.. 😢💔🙏

[@borderedge6465]

Being more a fan of psychological insights than TV-friendly drama, I appreciated the extra focus on the mental health substance here:)

[@2007cgarza]

Guilt is realizing you've done something and there has been a legitimate consequence that you feel sorry about. Shame is externally applied and feels like dripping muck ("shame on you")...I know that shame feeling and it's horrid...I also have a vulnerable narcissist in my life and see this angle!

[@micheleparker3780]

Dear God, I hope they NEVER let this guy out of prison. He will go off like a time bomb.

[@rejaneoliveira5019]

What a tragedy! It is scary to think that he may be free one day with the possibility of parole in 14 years. The excuse he gave to commit such a heinous crime against his own mother is just ludicrous. I do think he is and will be a danger to society for a long time. Nonetheless, I hope he gets the mental health treatment that he needs. Outstanding review! Thank you, Dr. Grande.❤️

[@lisamac8503]

Narcessits rarely benefit from mental health treatment

[@jenniferlane5104]

It's Canada. I advocated for the murdered teen Serena McKay. The two underage killers ,15 and 16, got 40 months for beating her to death and filming it.

[@Ch4rlz_ThA_Princ3]

​@@lisamac8503 because there's nothing wrong with us. we're just better than you.

[@gloriaelmore9092]

My opinion is; no child or adolescent actor has a normal childhood. The things they are exposed to are far, far from healthy. First your mind... Thanks Dr. Grande, I always look forward to your episodes. Your analysis is greatly appreciated, because you put such effort into the background of these things and deep thought into the analysis. Thanks again!👍

[@Catlily5]

I agree being a child or teen actor is damaging.

[@lisaalane7694]

I was wondering if he was sexually abused like so many of the kids are.

[@JohnDoe-yj5ng]

The problem starts when there is no father in the family. His Dad was no where to be seen, could have contributed to his upbringing, made sure he stayed out of trouble, pointed him in the right direction in life, there to give him advice. None of that was there for him. It is not for him to bear any shame but for his Dad to bear the greatest shame of all, not taking any interest in your son!

[@Catlily5]

@@JohnDoe-yj5ng His dad being gone was definitely a big problem but most kids in that situation don't kill people.

[@ilikenicethings]

@@JohnDoe-yj5ng yes, ideally. But how can we know if his father would have done all of those good things or not. Not all fathers are perfect either. Also, even with a decent father it’s not necessarily guaranteed the father would catch everything needing correction/guidance. And sometimes people are stubborn enough to not accept necessary guidance.

[@patsysmothermon7861]

It's going to be Very Scary for this kid in Prison,too. He will quickly find out how wonderful it was at home; being taken care of by a Loving Mom !! Things worse than his worst nightmare happen behind bars 🤬

[@singmysong1167]

so so true..so sad....what I've read and heard also!

[@a.b.creator]

Do we know his mom was 'loving' ? Most don't get all these psychological problems without something coming from childhood experiences. I just don't think everyone should assume the mother & son had the best relationship unless they were behind closed doors with them. Saying she was an angel or good or loving without knowing her behind closed doors is just speculation. No one has reason to kill anybody. None of us truly know how she treated him enough to say what she was like while she was alive.

[@andrewpellman6605]

Looking the way he does, he'll land himself a loving prison husband in no time. He might not have had a father in childhood, but he'll have a daddy in the penitentiary.

[@Marshpasa1234]

Especially when they find out he murdered his mom

[@barkerbikepirate4916]

I've enjoyed this channel for a few years now but my enjoyment level has doubled since you've been tossing in more and more humorous one liners delivered in your classic, don't crack a smile fashion. I love it! Keep it up, please!

[@jekw23]

I always suspected the damage childhood acting does is why a lot of actors say they don’t want their children following in their steps. It surprised me that Will Smith was the exact opposite in actively encouraging his children in a potentially devastating environment (however it makes more sense in light of Smith’s recent behavior)

[@windsofmarchjourneyperrytr2823]

That was a setup b/c A, nobody gasped and it was live. B, he wasn't immediately arrested, which he should have been. We all saw it. The joke wasn't funny, but it wasn't THAT big a deal. Wasn't horribly mean. She's losing her hair or whatever. So what? Lots of people are, even women.

[@orangeglow57Official]

Mans slapped a guy. One time. You're acting like he murdered someone

[@lurksnitchtongue8986]

@@orangeglow57Official Did 10 people really agree that criminal battery isn't a big deal? Sad to think a vote by the likes of you counts as much as a reasonable person's vote.

[@elitsagospodinova7241]

His children would have NEVER had the experiences of a random kid stepping into the entertainment industry

[@Sarah-lb8cs]

And now look at his kids. Complete train wrecks.

[@j.graham8068]

6:09 I don't think I'd describe being a child actor as a 'normal life'.

[@sparkstudies1675]

Honestly though, at this point, what is a normal life and who has one? While I do get that being a child actor may put certain unnecessary stress on a growing kid which could very well mess with the process, life honestly has too many complicated factors to look at when it comes to these things. It's not as if "being a child actor" is the only one.

[@laureljade3476]

a lot of child stars don't get out alive or sane. mara wilson's why child stars go bad hits the nail on the head.

[@krisfinley6706]

Whoa, I hadn't heard of this case 😳 I'm just glad his self-centeredness was a good thing for once, deciding it was in his best interest to just turn himself in saved a number of other lives

[@Sputterbug]

he was just sentenced yesterday.

[@bigNo13]

Yes, this makes me question if maybe he is not a narsassist? Maybe he got a tumor causing this to happend in his brain, or even autism.

[@jjohnson1791]

Wow RIP to Barbara Waite… there are no words I can find other than very sick and unfortunate what had happened to her. I hope his parole isn’t granted.. 14 years is injustice.

[@Mrosen7542]

The character he played in Supernatural was a kid who got powers to attack his bullies. Maybe he really felt that way?

[@brookswilliams5239]

"KNEEL BEFORE TODD!!!"

[@CoreyP14]

How anyone could turn on there own parent for absolutely no reason is beyond me, and he will now have to live with that for the rest of he’s life. Very sad indeed.

[@shannoncurry2037]

He probably won't ever think of it!

[@iciajay6891]

There was a reason. His mental health.

[@esyphillis101]

Was probably being abused. Given what we know of the Hollywood system and the hell child actors are out through by their managers and their own families.

[@jhoughjr1]

It wasn't likely absolutely no reason. She raised him after all.

[@sbj97]

@@jhoughjr1 So what was the reason then?

[@21centuryg]

Everything said at the end, so true Dr. Grande. I'm marking your words. This man will offend again. They usually do without proper rehabilitation.

[@El_Traficante]

Dr. G, this was unexpected. This showed me how much a professional human being you are, not to mention your intellect and insight. Never taught how that could be the realisation of that killer behaviour. Best analysis by far. Thanks.

[@RationalGaze216]

I wouldn't be surprised if there's some history of trauma we're not aware of. In Hollywood, young boys tend to be passed around like party favors. It's like a gateway to the industry.

[@cathykrueger4899]

Implying that the sexually abused might become sadistic murderers is a stretch.

[@sorrelbee113]

@@cathykrueger4899 Violent thoughts and impulses are not uncommon among trauma survivors, including sexual abuse survivors. I say this as someone who was sexually abused as a child and has heard this a lot, from others in the same position, in various peer and support type groups. There can be a lot of rage, and a desire to regain a sense of agency/control, including by making others feel the kind of pain and shame the survivor themselves experiences. How anger is expressed and when can also have to do with whether the person responds to threat via fight, flight, freeze, or fawn, since trauma survivors often exist in a state of hypervigilance and constant perceived threat. Trauma, especially childhood trauma, and the modeling of disempathetic behavior, can damage the development of empathy (both affective and cognitive) which someone has to learn to work around so it does not lead to destructive behavior. It's not that someone who is sexually abused is destined to be violent or anything, but trauma can and does give rise to maladaptive strategies to cope with real or perceived threat, as well as fear and pain, and that can include violence.

[@windsofmarchjourneyperrytr2823]

Evidence?

[@mynotificationsareoff..goc358]

@@windsofmarchjourneyperrytr2823 evidence for what? 🤣🤣 stg there are like key words and phrases that show me who the slow ones are.

[@mynotificationsareoff..goc358]

@@cathykrueger4899 um. Stop. They're not wrong.

[@lnc-to4ku]

Terribly sad for his mother! A very fascinating analysis, Dr. Grande!

[@lawrencetorrance7051]

Scathing final thoughts and strongly worded predictions! Good stuff as always Dr Grande.

[@user-cs1un6sp1wRennata]

Brilliant analysis Dr. Grande! Thank you for your coverage of this tragedy. 🖤

[@cinderella532]

Greetings from Poland! 😘 I love this channel 👏

[@LSDMTHC]

This case is very strange and sad. Bless his mother and all loved ones involved.

[@davidwhitney1171]

Not all of them of course, but this story continues the tragedy that many "child stars" end up VERY badly by the time they reach even young adulthood- examples are too numerous to mention...

[@ArtByHazel]

This is a tragic situation. He would rather hurt his mom than accepting his own mistake. Keep up the good work doc. The world needs to heal inside out. We need to get to the root cause of the rising number of mental illness and focus on our well-being.

[@jhoughjr1]

Single mothers keep prisons full and welfare well utilized.

[@Catlily5]

@@jhoughjr1 So do fathers who abandon their children.

[@blueStarKitt7924]

@@Catlily5 Good point.

[@blueStarKitt7924]

I am not sure if there is a rise of mental illness. There is a rise of awareness, of media coverage, and maybe the kind of mental illness we see nowdays is different from the kind we saw 30 50 60 years ago.

[@mattblom3990]

As a Canadian, our justice system is a joke. People out here actually pay for billboards or put signage on old trailers by the highways demanding judicial reform. Our current government and its predecessors decided "we're putting too many people in prison" without considering that those in prison may have actually deserved their sentences. Truth be told, it's a cynical way of saving money to redirect to more politician-friendly social causes, and pressure is on judges to make lighter and lighter sentences.

[@TheLurker1647]

I agree that we put too many people in prison. A lot of them belong at the gallows instead.

[@clairewiltcher4729]

UK here, our prison system is a joke 🙄

[@debibrewster9080]

I would like to see a focus on fixing why they are committing crimes or getting into non-crimimal trouble when people are young. Once they get older or are repeat criminals prison is the best place for them. I do know that this current crop of kids.....we need to do something with these lazy self-centered super entitled kids before they age up.....or we need to build a lot more prisons.

[@loveispatientloveiskind2205]

They need better suggestions of stopping crime. China used to do, death from a 1000 cuts. Ottomans did foot whipping... for minor crimes, foot whipping probably WOULD be a deterrent. Rather than the soft touch psychiatry... any other suggestions? The Venus project had a totally different outlook than prison, where free sex is provided... it's possible that many consider that a bonus, plus free food, no bills to pay... it obviously doesn't really deter many people who want to commit murder

[@jonathanwilkinson4299]

As a Canadian myself I preffer a legal system to be a little to soft then way to harsh. Like weather it' the death penalty or years in prison it has the same deterrent effect on crime. Although I understand other people have different values but from a pregmeatic point of view it's a solid way to run a legal system. I would take our justice system over Americas any day of the week.

[@hightimecrime]

What a terrifying case! I'm actually in the process of covering it to and I appreciated the analysis for sure Dr. G! I feel awful for his family/ Mother.

[@jennifercordova7229]

The Canadian judicial system is a joke. Their "life sentences" are rarely more than 20 years before parole is granted. Even for the worst criminals.

[@Decgyrrl]

Im sorry for the mother, any mother who gives birth to her own murderer. Damn, she never saw that coming. If anyone was vulnerable, it was mom who lived in the same house, as her vulnerable narcissistic son. (And I thought the word vulnerable, meant sadness after a life changing event; like a breakup.....who knew.)

[@loveispatientloveiskind2205]

I have seen many children focus violence on their own mothers. Especially if they have seen fathers abuse to mothers.... Worse case I heard was the children jumping all over mothers car, when she had cancer. They couldn't give a stuff.

[@PineappleKuri]

human beings are a disease

[@KingSolomon1111]

Where do you think he learned to that shit from? Kids don't just wake up one day to be evil. They're taught to be that way by their parents and their environment. There's some abuse hidden behind the scenes of this story and I'm convinced the mother was not a squeaky clean angel as the story implies. Believe me, I'm a survivor of childhood abuse and I can see the signs of abuse all over this case.

[@loveispatientloveiskind2205]

@@KingSolomon1111 probably video games. Where did it imply 'she was squeaky clean ' you're projecting your own situation onto this murderer, as if to excuse such a horrific crime... Who knows, ? There hasn't been a lot of background information... but have you sort therapy?

[@KingSolomon1111]

@@loveispatientloveiskind2205 Seriously?? Video games?? You have no clue what the fuck you're talking about. Go out and read more books and study the mind because your ignorance is disgusting to those who actually suffer from mental health conditions like this. I know the mind of a murderer because I almost became one. The only difference is that I had the strength to overcome my abuse and traumatic past to steer myself away from that path. Don't talk down to me about what the mind of a murderer is like because I lived in that mind for a long fucking time. I am a fucking veteran of wanting to kill and destroy to make others suffer like me, it's just that I managed to gain control of my beast and now I rule IT instead of IT ruling ME. So stop blabbering about whatever clueless bullshit you spew on something your mind cannot possibly understand and let those who really get it speak. Blaming video games...what a fucking joke. I ain't projecting shit. I'm speaking from experience living with extreme trauma everyday of my life. When you get as bad as me you learn every in and out of the trauma. Every mechanism, every pitfall is known to me. I know the evil that dwells within me like the back of my hand. I know how abuse molds the mind. I know how it takes control. I see it with my own eyes in other abuse survivors. I know what the fuck I'm talking about because I lived it every day of my life. I wrestled with demons in the morning and kept fighting at night. I recognize my foe. I learned the movements of my fucking enemy so I could recognize its ugly face in others. There ain't no "projecting" about that shit. It's just basic knowledge and experience gained from personally fighting evils in my own mind. I know the tricks and the traps because I fell in them many times. I know what the fuck I'm talking about because I learned through pain and suffering. There's no fucking projection about understanding how trauma breeds in the subconscious mind. It's called knowing your enemy and setting a battle plan to overcome him. It's called basic fucking common sense.

[@chachak8978]

Very sad, both the situation and the summary of the diagnoses. I was close to someone who was a vulnerable narcissist and I can say things never get better, they only get worse! Get away as soon as you can if you suspect this is the case.

[@nightwood4379]

Morning Dr. G., Thank you for the informative statistics about matricide…compelling analysis of a most disturbing case.

[@suryanisual9080]

Hurt child hurt mom. Not easy to raise kid all alone. A kid's need not only material and physical things especially nowadays kids need guidance on their emotional and spiritual beings. The unbearable regrets Ryan has could one day "crushed"him to become a more dangerous narcissist. Really sad story

[@zzanz4520]

Thank you for your thoughtful breakdown of this shocking case.

[@ccpperrett7522]

Thank you Dr Grande. This is truly terrifying to me.

[@donprice9050]

Judge in Canada: "For your heinous crime, I sentence you to LIFE IN PRISON! You will be eligible for parole next Tuesday."

[@barfymann362]

Just heard about this case maybe not even an hour ago, what a tragedy. I appreciate that you tone down the jokes when evaluating certain cases, Dr. Grande. I know the roasting is part of your presentation, but I respect it when you know when not to go there. Cheers!

[@carlcushmanhybels8159]

Very well thought out. I'd wondered about this case. Thanks for sharing your perceptions and skills.

[@donnariley2831]

I love your voice. Very soothing. Thanks for the analysis of this evil but sad case.

[@БеллатриксОрионовна]

Sooo happy to get another notification from Dr Grande! Thank you doc so much and have an amazing Sunday💎

[@Katliott]

I appreciate how matter of fact you are. Love your view and analysis.

[@kyla8386]

How do I live in Canada and haven’t heard about this

[@tiatokkesdal1745]

Dr. Grande. Your content is the content that I never knew I needed until I found you. Please continue to keep up all your good work. 🎉

[@Zia01023]

Excellent analysis and commentary, Dr. Grande. I appreciate your realistic and no nonsense perspective.

[@keithbrunson7190]

This particular situation is very hard for me to wrap my head around. Rebellious teenagers have lots of negative thoughts. But following through with those thoughts is in a league all its own.

[@miri745]

But were there less violent crime before television though?...

[@Ch4rlz_ThA_Princ3]

​@@katella delete this ignorant comment

[@CWdudeyo]

Very good!!! Wow!!! Your analysis was spot on, IMO. When you described his vulnerable narcissism, I immediately thought of Chris Watts. I wonder, was Scott Peterson a vulnerable narcissist, too?

[@ericzellershow]

I’m hooked on this channel. Dr. Grande is too good. 🎉🎉

[@jesseemullen]

Jumping off of your final analysis, Ryan seems to have viewed his mother as his conscience personified. So, it's almost as if he was killing his conscience. She was the one thing in his way of achieving his twisted goals.

[@AishaYMusa]

Thank you for giving such a clear discussion of shame and guilt.

[@mc_zittrer8793]

He seemed to be struggling with delusions of grandeur, though. So he starred in a movie based on a kids book I sometimes passed on a shelf. As the doctor said, no one knew or cared about this weenus. I don't think his shame was based on his substance abuse or the fact he'd rather watch Netflix than finish college. I think the root of his shame is that he was a failed actor that was wallowing in his own obscurity. He believed there would be hours of content made by creators speculating over what he did. My guess is that this is the first and only video on this cretin that will even be generated by the algorithm. Also, the Canadian courts are freaking toothless.

[@windsofmarchjourneyperrytr2823]

Those kid's books are hilarious. I never miss one. They come out around Halloween every year

[@MarielleMorris]

i think this as well he definitely had mental health problems seemed delusional to me

[@allinaday9882]

Excellent video Dr.Grande. Thank you for explaining the unexplainable!😮 ❤

[@giaparmer]

He really said “I don’t think anyone’s checking for you but go off” 😭😭😂

[@Girlintheewild]

🤣🤣🤣

[@brokeblackguru9344]

Dr. Grande, I've listened to your analysis on THIS young man (Ryan Grantham), very carefully: THIS IS ONE OF YOUR BEST!!! it was as if YOU were speaking MY thoughts, as 'I' was trying to form an opinion of him, while I had listened to this story, for the very first time; I don't have a television either, so I was REALLY clueless as to WHO he was as an actor. Thank YOU sir, for such an AWESOME interpretation of this guy's mindset!!! RalphyNovotney The BrokeBlackGuru

[@chris6559]

Brutal but accurate final assessment, the manipulation of some mental health and and other allied professionals by those with covert narcissism is a real issue, other Cluster B personality disorders too, I’ve seen it many times working as a Forensic Mental Health Nurse.

[@lynncarter4964]

Chris does it not intrigue you that there was no mention of the drugs that were likely prescribed for his ‘depression and anxiety’ The possible side effects of many of these drugs is suicidal thoughts and homicidal thoughts.

[@chris6559]

@@lynncarter4964 it’s impossible to say whether they played a role, I’d say that NPD and the ‘scripts’ and behaviours that brings would be more significant, narcissists do what they do, any medication effect would likely be relatively short lived. The units I’ve worked in assess people over long periods to exclude any effects from meds and/or illicit drug use before reaching any clinical conclusions for that reason among others.

[@nathanielchieffallo4273]

If he was narcissistic why did he turn himself in?

[@karlyoung5089]

Key word 'Him". It hurts him. No thought of anyone else. 14 years for premeditated murdering his mother!

[@SirXer]

Thank you for covering this case, I really wanted to hear your opinions and you really framed it perfectly. I don't think he should be considered for parole, and think the vulnerable narcissism is very clear in his case.

[@chris-p6k]

Never underestimate the damage an absent father has on children. I know so many damaged people who didn’t have a father in their life growing up.

[@jhoughjr1]

Ie the damage a narcissist mentally ill single mother can do.

[@frankpaya690]

And I was one of them and still haven't gotten over the scars.

[@shameronstar7220]

So basically it’s shitty father’s faults for our fucked up society? Got it!👍

[@micheleparker3780]

In this psychopath's case, I don't think having his father around would have made a damn bit of difference. He probably would have killed the father, too; furthering the shame cycle...😔

[@sbj97]

There's been plenty of white kids *cough cough* oops I'm sorry plenty of children who have killed their parents even with the father so this wouldn't have made a difference.

[@sobrietyliiving]

Wow! I think this is the most serious i have ever heard Dr. Grande be when discussing an offender! I really enjoyed watching this video, it felt like something about it truly resonated with you. I was expecting a backhanded compliment regarding the murderer and his delusion of exaggerated game but it didn't seem to be delivered with the usual winsome charm and grin. Hope you are having a good day! As always, I thoroughly enjoyed watching! High fives fro. 🇨🇦

[@jeanholmes7976]

Thank you Dr. Grande! An interesting analysis, and may his Mother Rest In Peace, and may HE never be released from prison. Very nice shirt also!! from Jean

[@christinley5213]

You always blow my mind with these cases! Understanding how he felt is hard to emphasize with.. i want to under whats going on with these people more… idk about fixing them.. but prevention seems best!

[@AedanGUnit]

Vulnerable narcissists are the most frightening because they are excellent at hiding their motives and intentions. You can spot a grandiose a mile away, but as you said, they can and often do dupe even therapists. Interesting analysis.

[@cassiekay8633]

Thank you for your insight Dr Grande .Even If Ryan isn't psychotic and is a narcissist ,I still think people should still be aware that a surprising amount of people are unaware of marijuana induced psychosis, including extreme paranoia .Having watched a relative of mine turn from a sweet young man into someone absolutely altered from his first experience, into a severely mentally disturbed and often dangerous individual , gripped by delusions , shame and rage , I can only conclude some drugs are like Russian roulette ! I hope in the future genetic markers will reveal those that would be vulnerable....in the case of Ryan as a narcissist, I wonder if the drugs and alcohol he took magnified or exacerbated his narcissistic traits ; in effect adding more fuel to an already dangerous fire ....this is a truly horrible case.

[@snowpanther7076]

A lot of people are convinced that Marijuana is a harmless drug or that's it's beneficial to smoke when the truth is that it is a dangerous substance that can ruin people's lives

[@mrcloud9750]

Blaming weed seriously? If theyre crazy theyre born crazy

[@snowpanther7076]

@@mrcloud9750 It was just one of the factors that made things worse

[@mrcloud9750]

@@snowpanther7076 no it wasnt, he also drank water and ate food is that another factor? Seriously blame weed all u want it was because the guy was born insane not the weed

[@snowpanther7076]

@@mrcloud9750 You're acting like weed has no effect on the mind. I know people who went mad from the stuff and I don't know anyone who used it and came out unscathed. He did intend to kill people, that much is certain, but I think the weed helped to push him over the edge

[@disgruntledmoderate5331]

I didn't think you would cover this so soon. Thanks Dr. Grande!

[@susanburns276]

This was such a surprise as hadn't heard this story? My now grown kids used to watch this actor! Thank you once again Dr Grande 👍🇭🇲

[@singmysong1167]

I am so grateful at present that I made it to my 60's without any tragedy/revenge/etc. from my 3 children!

[@gonzowarburn7045]

Yeah, that's a weird thing to have to say. I just left my mother to her own devices. No contact. Don't know why that wasn't an option.

[@FlankoTanko]

What. The. Hell this is crazy

[@kirschrot77]

Canada needs to look at their sentencing laws, too mild in my opinion

[@annwethenorth]

Contrary to popular belief just because they can go for parole doesn't mean they get out. Ever. Many won't live to get out. It's not perfect. It's part of our human rights act. Same with a lot of Commonwealth countries. We don't put children on death row, I'm good with that. We don't kill people, I'm good with that too. If you think the American system is flawless, you're blind.

[@slsilver481]

In this case I think justice was served. Also you never hear full details in the media.

[@kirschrot77]

@@slsilver481 So you do have then the full details, making a statement like that?

[@slsilver481]

@@kirschrot77 Do you have the full details of Canada's justice system, making a sweeping statement like that? To answer your question I have an education in psychology and work with people with mental illness. I also know enough about our justice system (I'm Canadian) to know that the psychiatrists and psychologists involved in this case, not to mention the judge who heard hours of evidence and made the sentencing decision, are better informed and qualified than I am.

[@kirschrot77]

@@slsilver481 Well you said with your last statement, many are better informed and qualified than you. You seem to be a very angry person, so I have tip for you physician heal thyself. And just bc Iam not Canadian, I still can have an opinion, which based on Dr Grande´s video. I have met many Canadians and I really like Canada, but you are a very special Canadian

[@carolineramage7480]

Very insightful and intelligent diagnosis, not to mention chilling. It takes a lot of courage and maturity to say people can't rehabilitate.

[@aliksanderj9729]

I’m related through marriage to him and I remember being with my parents when we got the call. We all just kind of stared at each other for a bit. An absolute tragedy

[@victoriavickery6086]

Can't believe he would be considered for parole.

[@devinsauls9137]

Thank you Dr. Todd Grande for the information! Great title btw 😂

[@42ls]

An attentive father or atleast a father figure is extremely important for a child, both male or female. ppl underestimate how imp fathers are in raising kids

[@Sputterbug]

not really. people with two moms tend to do perfectly fine. its whether you have parents that love you and care for you properly, not the gender of the parent

[@mrusername3438]

@@Sputterbug Cool. Kids don't need to be raised by Lezbo parents.

[@commoguru]

Just having a "father figure" around doesn't magically make mental health issues disappear.

[@lex2951]

Now that I have young kids it’s even more terrifying to think that children could ever murder their own parents. They’re so dependent on their moms and dads as little ones.. heart breaking to think about.

[@Shadowfate93]

Same. I have a two year old son and a two month old daughter. They're my whole world. The thought of one of them killing me is chilling

[@bea-ftloa1142]

Thank you, Dr Grande. How they arrived at the ‘14 yrs sentence’ blows my mind. There’s a growing evidence suggesting that many killers, particularly serial killers, show many of these narcissistic personality traits, esp. lack of empathy. Ryan has already shown signs of wanting to perform mass killings. Just hope his case is reevaluated while in jail & more ‘dedicated’ clinicians are brought to determine the seriousness of his case.

[@Anasteroiddestroyer]

Let's just hope the parole board do their jobs and keep him in for life 🙏

[@angtxsun4460]

It is frightening to see how some people view other human lives. They see them as objects, a means to their own end, and not as full entities with independent lives. No matter how much a person receives, they want more. It seems this could have been a mass shooting. I’m glad he was caught before he acted again. Problem is, he will act again and when he does we will know it was possible and likely.

[@blueStarKitt7924]

I really hope not.😨😔😡

[@justsomeguy1671]

You must be referring to like 40% of young women. Just use men to get child support, use the kids as an excuse to do nothing but go online and invite men over. It's basically how America is becoming.

[@angtxsun4460]

@@blueStarKitt7924 Listen again beginning a 11:40

[@b.m.t.h.3961]

Basically some people only care about themselves and their own feelings. Sociopaths, psychopaths, narcissists whatever you want to call them. He should be in prison until he dies.

[@spyroluver0951]

insane that this happened! can't believe it 😮

[@Swansong321]

Most people are busy getting on with their own lives..but I guess he thought the eyes of the world were on him..they weren't.. now they are..very sad story all round

[@tablescissors]

This was a very interesting analysis. I was only loosely familiar with this young man, but his crime left me with many questions. You have enlightened me to "shame" killing, which makes me think of MANY cases (particularly in recent years) that this could be applied to -- where the killer killed their ally/loved one before moving on to others. I am also now curious about "vulnerable narcissist" specifically and your last thoughts in his rehabilitation, and others like him, was likely accurate and chilling.

[@rustyshackelford312]

“Pride is not the opposite of shame, but its source. True humility is the only antidote to shame.” - Uncle Iroh

[@blackychouette]

I smoke weed everyday and being a very introspective drug, if you have psychological issues, it's probaly not good for you.