Woman Returns Adopted Child

[@supastarmom]

Being a parent is a huge life commitment. She should not be allowed to adopt ever again.

[@islandhonduras8950]

I agree

[@jiggernughambubbooger8930]

Sick disgusting gross woman

[@swiftycline4308]

Anita shouldn’t be in jail

[@Blessedstill]

I agree

[@aletheaskinner8888]

Attachment disorders are A BEAR. SHE had a bonding problem. Did her husband? Did her other children? She put the child into another broken relationship situation. SHE put him farther into the realm of you can't trust big humans. I AM a foster and adoptive parent and IT IS TOUGH. It's not like in the movies. Cute baby shows up, loves you to pieces and you feel "complete". Cute baby shows up and does not have the ability to reciprocate the love you show and you GIVE HIM BACK? NO, you go to counseling, you go to therapy, whatever it takes to make a life for that broken child. That's the reason you ADOPT instead of fostering. It is a commitment to FOREVER. I AM HERE FOR YOU. No matter what. PEEVED.

[@tinahaller3295]

Alethea Skinner try adopting older kids I was adopted at 4 and was out of diapers and less expensive than a baby although I had 2 pairs of clothes and some torn up shoes that's all I owned. My parents took me out that day and got me and my 3 year old sis a whole new wardrobe and we went to McDonald's. My brother dropped his ice cream and he had ptsd from being abused and a broke arm from his foster father. He licked it off the ground and my parents were like you can get another one and the joy on his face was amazing. But consider saving a kids life babies will always be adopted but once you hit 4 you're screwed. It's like with dogs everyone wants the puppies noone wants the older dogs, quite sad.

[@deannekliene2673]

Alethea Skinner well put! Thank u!

[@Mamma_Kinzie]

Anyone who adoptions a child and gives them back should be put on a world wide no adoption list.

[@Spyrika]

I was raised by people who didn't want to raise me (not my parents) and yeah that caused me a lot of greif, internally and from the family who looked at me as though I was the cause of my guardians pain. I wish they would have sent me back so I didn't feel like a burden my entire childhood, even if they never said it and said they loved me to my face. So from personal experience, I say that woman made a hard choice, but it was the right one.

[@MsLotusBlooms]

Storm Bolt I'm so sorry that happened to you.

[@daneshapetgrave4486]

Storm Bolt I'm sorry that you had to go through that. I agree with you one thousand percent though. It's messed up, she gave him back, but if he has the chance to be loved by another family, I think he'd be grateful to her.

[@gma904]

Storm Bolt Thank you for that. This point of view needed to be heard.

[@susansimpson2181]

gem gem & anna daughter of Yah, thank you for affirming storm bolt. she should know how it felt, after all it happened to her, not somebody else. there are always 2 sides to everything.

[@lizatanzawa7910]

Danesha Petgrave well...maybe not GRATEFUL...I hope he doesn't remember her selfish ass

[@m1ssdepp]

It sounds like the baby might have suffered from Reactive Attachment Disorder. This is what happens when a babies were not given the opportunity to bond/build relationships with their caregiver early on in life. They even mentioned in the video that the baby was left in the crib a long time (before he was adopted). The baby learned how to soothe itself. That child needs someone that is patient and can help him learn how to build relationships/bonds with people as he gets older.

[@mihailable6695]

+BebuTV This child was not older than 1 year at the time of adoption. Even children who were raised -maugli .... animals are able to adapt to life in the family if the adoption took place before the 2 year old. Do you understand? Even if the child did not see the people and the wolf sucking milk ..... reabelitirovatsya he is able to become a normal person. Forget about RAD's talk more about the patience of love and compassion. Then Cruel people will not have arguments to defend themselves when they throw annoying non-native children from their home.

[@m1ssdepp]

The first 3 years of a child's life are the most important ones. Even though the baby was just one, neglect hurt the babies development. There is no denying that. To make up for the loss, the baby needs someone that will be patient to help them strive in life and their relationships. I don't condone the ladies action of returning the baby but I'm just throwing out there the reality of attachment disorder, its a real diagnosis in the DSM 5. It's not RAD talk, its science.

[@mihailable6695]

BebuTV Science? Science says that RAD is a very rare mental disorder. Is not it? Very rare! Too many negative factors to coincide for a long time and the child must be systematically and pogruzhon in an unfavorable environment. Long and regularly throughout the first years of his life. This child was under the age younger than 9 months when the woman adopted him. He had every chance to fall in love with this family and to adapt to this family. But this woman has crossed all these chances. She did not let this child into her heart. Now he will have more problems than he had before coming to this family. Who will compensate the losses? Next foster family needs will show maximum patience, mental strength and love to restore and adapt this child. Now it will be a very long and hard work.

[@m1ssdepp]

Science says its rare but it doesn't say its non existent. Yeah, the bottom line is that it is unfortunate that this happened. In the DSM 5 the child needs to be at least 9 months old and signs should be present before the age of 5y.o. Even though the child is not old enough to be officially diagnosed, there is no denying that the symptoms are there and appear to be heading towards it. The truth is that the lady has fueled the child's inability to attach, by the simple action of having to go through another primary care giver change in his life. But I prefer having her do a gentle hand over, than to have her mistreat the child due to her inability to bond/love him. He deserves someone that can give him lots of love, consistency and a caring home.

[@esperanza945]

My aunt and uncle adopted a little boy who has RAD. It was, and always will be, difficult, but he is doing great now considering everything he has been through. I admire my aunt and uncle for their patience and kindness.

[@nrodry76]

I agree with her on one thing: that kid does deserve a BETTER mother than her!!

[@quaysha1]

agreed

[@nikolinac.4237]

Everybody deserve better mother then her!!!

[@londyn9314]

Agreed

[@vulgarteacup4224]

It's a child not a puppy! wtf is wrong with people! I wouldn't even do that to a puppy thinking about it!!

[@marksmall1476]

It's because the kid is black,reason why the TYT is all over this story.

[@luzperrone3937]

she doesnt want the baby so why is it better for the baby to stay where he is not wanted ..

[@susansimpson2181]

luz perrone, exactly!

[@MsTemptation]

Luz Perrone, finally someone else who gets it.

[@lizatanzawa7910]

Luz Perrone No, she should not have been given the baby to begin with. She kept him 18 months and discarded him, like people who adopt a cute puppy and dump him when he gets big.

[@JonDoe-fo3kl]

Luz Perrone she should've returned him sooner so a couple that wanted newborn could get him.

[@allisonho1646]

wolverinebesthero I agree. Once she realized he wasn't transitioning well and didn't take to the whole family, she should have contacted the agency sooner.

[@deligrtea8334]

my first born son, never wanted to be hugged , for long or kissed..... now after 6 years he's the total opposite...! whut a fucked up woman!

[@quaysha1]

my baby didnt want us holding him too much when he was a few months old but i think it was due to him having his older siblings in his face all the time he just wanted a break lol. but now that he is about to turn 2 he is all over my husband and I. I love all the cuddles and kisses he gives us now. 😀. as a parent we have to be there no matter what.

[@Louize234]

I adopted my daughter, adoption is very difficult to go through for everyone involved but I totally agree it's a life long agreement you can not give a child back that is inhuman.

[@ov50music18]

+BurgerKingJustice that's right!!

[@sarahamira5732]

+BurgerKingJustice i think she could but when she is more responsible and ready

[@tinahaller3295]

Tell that to 4 year old me and my 3 year old sister and my 5 year old brother I didn't know I had because it was just me and my sis and he was alone.

[@kbforme]

lol ok, but giving up your biological kids is just fine.

[@elliegoldie5902]

I don't understand because she couldn't bond with HIM?some woman go through this with their own children but they don't get rid of them,you seek help always a way,x

[@fritz9790]

She had that baby way too long, you can't adopt a baby and keep it for 18 months then just give it back. You're his family at that point.

[@maggiedevries8192]

Killer Bee yeah ? Well that witch did ! No father around ? She has daughters, boys are different! give up on an 18 mth old ! Most of the babies will be that age by the time the adoption goes through ! All the bribes and hassles ! We I am sure can adopt a needy child from their own country !

[@alicesmith656]

Killer Bee maybe she had issues toilet training him and couldn't handle it and had a meltdown

[@sarahh367]

Fritz the Cat both ways hurt the kid

[@PechilvrsPreciousPeepsNursery]

Fritz the Cat she didn’t adopt him yet....she stopped it

[@cipollakat]

Fritz the Cat she's selfish and if he feels like he doesn't belong, it's her fault cuz he relied on her as a "mother" like she wanted. but now she wants to do bigger better things with her real kids. How disgusting , he breathes and bleeds just like them. Just because he can't speak doesn't mean he doesn't have emotions.

[@cassie6579]

If she did her research on kids with abandonment issues (clearly he had) which he clearly had since he had a flat head from laying in a crib for so long and and also was left on the side of the road. She would know that baby's turn to themselves when they have long periods of no attention. She just made it worst for the baby by giving him back

[@poppete]

your right, the baby would have already detached from human contact and bonding would be a lot harder given more time that could have changed, hope the new family do it better.

[@kolaida]

Right, it takes more than 18 months to make up for that- more like five years at least.

[@mysteriouskommando3868]

Cassie FirstLady- you keep it. Why you black feminist are so f up af.

[@shadrach6299]

Cassie FirstLady I'm not taking her side but when a child is neglected and left alone for days and months as he was in the orphanage, the period for socialization has come and gone. There is a critical time in brain development when a door opens for bonding with other individuals in the environment. If affection and nurturing are not provided at that time, the door closes. This woman had a child that she fed, hugged, talked to and smiled at but there was no reciprocity. The child did not smile back or respond to her in any way. It's not like autism but there is a missing human element in the baby that is necessary for the mother to continue to provide nurture. It would be impossibly difficult for any mother.

[@Dominini]

sherry blackwood She found the child on the side of the road... we can discuss how the child doesn't have the tools to bond, but what about her irresponsibility?? She seems to be intelligent enough to understand the level of neglect experienced by that child. Why did she CHOOSE to take on such a large task with no research, knowledge or support?? So tired of people making excuses instead of holding people accountable.

[@jordanabeaulieu2530]

People adopt children and then return them like they would a UPS package who was defective.

[@shayheard1466]

I bet if it was a dog she found on the side of the road she would've gotten it puppy prozac and loved it forever.

[@ladyyaya78]

Shay Heard White folks love their dogs😂😂😂😁

[@jennygump5835]

Shay Heard yo my dog takes prozac. And so do I.

[@francina8508]

Shay Heard Maybe not if the dog is black.Who knows she gave in to the racial tensions being brought upon her for having a black kid.Still a bitch though!

[@kayladrawstoomuch2632]

Shay Heard it's a dog it lives for 7 to 8 years a human lives for 80 years and up. How is that comparable??? think before you speak. white people aren't the only ones who loves dogs raicst.

[@7saany]

Shay Heard or not if it eas this easy for her to get rid of her child then she probably wouldnt stop for the puppy

[@ilkavalencia3065]

she treated him like a toy you get bored with

[@liloranches4534]

Ilka Valencia it's not that she didn't treat him like a toy, she loves him and was trying to bond with him. Sadly they couldn't bond so she terminated the adoption

[@ML-tj9le]

PFF I am sorry but I am totally against this... I mean is it even allowed to return your adopted child? Does the child come with a receipt? The way she was explaining herself was selfish if you read between the lines. Plus it sounded like she was having white girls problems (don't get offended... I am caucasian) ''I don't feel the connection'' or I tried really hard...but''. Just shut up and take care of the child that you made a promise to when you took him in. I mean so many people try to adopt and are unlucky and here she comes. Doesn't she think about her own children or husband? I bet they had a connection with that poor boy. Like I said selfish and unappreciated!

[@poochiecoleman8144]

Melad Louis

[@ML-tj9le]

yes

[@kimberlyknott654]

Ilka Valencia Exactly. A perfect comparison. Except she didn't need a receipt to return him. I mean you have to have a receipt to return a toy!!! What a sad excuse for a parent.

[@firewaterbydesign]

Maybe she should have gotten a puppy instead! Children that you give birth to are NOT returnable, so why would an adoptive parent ever consider such a thing? She does not deserve children! They are NOT returnable!!

[@kimberlyguzman8225]

better yet a doll, those you can give away once you're tired of playing with them. she obviously didn't try hard enough.

[@odiesmum2012]

Indeed.

[@quaysha1]

best comment

[@sarahh367]

Kathleen Beveridge I was adopted and given back

[@smarterdaily8858]

So sorry to hear that. I know it must be tough.

[@justkam5148]

She says she loves him but she doesn't feel attached to him that doesn't make sense to me

[@ugladden]

@Nailah Washington I'm not that attached to my mom but guess what? She didn't give me up or toss me to the side of the damn road. Quick making excuses for that poor example of a human being

[@utah133]

I'm with Cenk on this one. Its a person! Some of my own kids were a royal pain in the ass. I didn't seek anyone to take that responsibility over for me.

[@SighNaps]

+rationalguy Seconded. That's why the procedure for adopting a child does not happen overnight, one has plenty of time to weigh the decision. It's a baby, not a malfunctioning toaster.

[@cassidymiller6677]

rationalguy I hope u kids read this lol

[@sssamiam91]

Ok this lady is ridiculous. She gave away HER baby that SHE chose to adopt because he obviously had developmental problems. He had been neglected until he was at least 6 months old! He had a flat head because he had been laying on his back so much! And then his parents abandoned him. So she took him into a family where he probably got treated a lot better, and this lady couldn't handle the fact that he might have some problems. He had been abused previously. Maybe she should have considered that before she took him in. She was completely irresponsible. Regardless she raised him for 18 months and then she ABANDONED him as well. I feel so bad for this poor baby. I really hope he went to a good family.

[@Taniesha_S]

Sad the baby will remember this. When I was 2 I was taken from my grandmother and adopted. They said she was too old to take care of me. I still remember when the lady who adopted me came to get me. I ran to my grandmas room door and held on for dear life while she pulled me away. I NEVER FORGOT THAT!!

[@qhaweqhawe8300]

Taniesha S I m so sorry

[@erynlasgalen1949]

Taniesha S I bet your grandmother never forgot it either. Heartbreaking and cruel for both of you.

[@tinahaller3295]

I was adopted at 4 and have a great family but shitty situations have tore my brother and sister away and now I'm an only adult child

[@sepdafodils]

Taniesha S Horrid! How did you ever forgive your adoptive parents??

[@nmbr8of11]

i concur with the male host ~ you just don't adopt and decide he is a pain in the a$$ you are a parent until you die!

[@vanessacosner5092]

As a child that was given up for adoption when I was 7 I think this is horrible. I was ultimately adopted at 10 and my parents had a child of their own a couple years later, but they never really tried to bond with me. They didn't give me back, but they never really tried to bond and when they had my sister is just kind of got shoved aside. It's not an ideal way to grow up, but they're the family is have and the family is know and I don't know how someone can just give up a kid that they adopted. Also, this kid is only 2 years old.

[@quaysha1]

im sorry you went through this. this comment brought tears to my eyes.

[@tinahaller3295]

Man you're lucky you got adopted at 10 I had trouble getting adopted at 4 it sucks when you're in the system though. I remember vividly living with tjis old black lady who only wanted the money she never bought us anything but bought her special teenage son anything he wanted and he was loud and scared us. And our beds were a joke they were a matress with trails of ants on them...worst place I've ever been.

[@cindychristian1700]

Vanessa Cosner I'm sorry for what you went through but an old friend of mine told me her nephew was adopted by a female relative because his mother lost custody. He said she adored him until she had her own and then he became a second class citizen in his home. He still resented his adopted mother even when he was a grown man with his own family he tried to stop her from referring to herself as his kids grandmother.

[@bubujooestes1499]

Vanessa Cosner Omg so sorry about your life and experience. So sad.

[@melizzamelizza]

The male host of this show is soooo right on point. Piano music to mask bullshyt.

[@corriesmith1375]

she must had gotten racial backlash becuz of him😒that's why she gave him up💯she couldn't bond with his blackness that's the problem. there's no way a woman who loves a child could let it go so easily

[@corriesmith1375]

***** poor little boy all his life people have thrown him away. he's going to be one traumatized adult if he doesn't end up in a better home or get counseling...smdh i hope she pays for wat she did to him💯💯

[@corriesmith1375]

***** right girl just so sad. and he's going to remember it too that's the worst part 😢

[@corriesmith1375]

straight jacket so u just brought your ass here to troll? reading ALL the comments😂😂😂the convo didn't include assholes and i thought they said he was 4. But any fuckin way 😒 hopefully no one REMINDS HIM of this cruelty

[@Oldschool5659]

+Corrie Smith You hit the nail on the head

[@MsTemptation]

I'm sorry but this story made me laugh sarcastically because all she had to say is that he's not cute enough anymore and that's why she changed her mind. Anyway. I'm giving my brother back because he's a pain in the ass. Any takers?

[@mirandamoyer9956]

Seriously! 5-6 months?!?!?! So if your natural child "doesn't bond" in that amount of time, would you give him/her up? Sick.

[@bubujooestes1499]

Miranda Moyer My thought exactly.

[@TimeWarp-pj4kz]

This lady would. It's sociopath behavior

[@teamreflexofficalloehn1864]

If you have ever dealt with a child with detachment disorder you would understand. It's horrible for the parent and the child. If she couldn't handle it or thought she wasn't equip to raise him you find a person who has experience with that disorder. She did the right thing for that child in the future.

[@lovelyc5923]

Deborah Mccarthy oh shut up !!!

[@Koroodetto]

The first mother didn't want him, the second mother didn't want him. What self esteem is this kid going to grow up with? Zero and will probably commit suicide at a young age. As if we could give biological kids back??? Kids have different personalities and you learn to accept it and live with it.

[@billielittle]

+kuroodetto My thoughts exactly.

[@shellcraigmiles5253]

She said she loved him but didnt bond? I dont get it.

[@caitlindonald6777]

I took a child development class and learned that is very important to establish a bond with the child during the first year of life. A bond means that the child doesn't feel loved.

[@RoxyRose]

+Caitlin Donald well his first year of life he had no bonding so it probably would have taken time.

[@susansimpson2181]

have you had a biological child of your own?

[@shellcraigmiles5253]

I have a two year old and am currently pregnant. So, yes. My daughter was kept in the NICU for the first week of her life and I lived an hour away so I couldn't get down there every day to see her and I still managed to build a bond with her.

[@juliejuliet5770]

Shell Craigmiles Disgusting bitch she is ! you don't love someone and dump them I hope she suffers poor child is fucked for life now :-(

[@mary-rd9zj]

he was a baby, what kind of bond did you expect? he didn't know anything about bonding he was a fkn baby

[@brutalictesku]

The neglected baby had already grown detachment issues in her original home before being literally dumped into ditch. Adoptional mom was disappointed to her, because she couldn't win the baby's love. This is how I felt after watching the video. If you adopt a child you have to deal with the consequences. You can't give a child away, like a pet animal. Adopted kids should be treaten as similar as biological children.

[@foolforcaring]

deal with the consequences? That's a bull cop out. Who hurts in the end from that whether adopted or birthed? Not the parent! The child! Rather the kid go to a better home than be more mentally or physically messed up from being forced to be under someones care that didn't actually WANT them!

[@rosarosalia845]

Disgusting woman. If you had given birth to him would you give him back? Unacceptable!!!

[@AvenidaGez]

She did the right thing for all and for the child.

[@lbee8247]

She gave up on him. She was a looser mom. So many adopted moms want to give up but they don't. She screwed up that kid. She wouldn't have gave up on her blood child if she had bonding issues. You don't send kids back. Blood or not.

[@raquelalhaqab5994]

L Bee she’s a horrible person.

[@jacquelinehunt9189]

L Bee his parents screwed him up.

[@summerreneluster]

It's not rocket science. If he's done nothing wrong. *And* you love him very much. *And* he deserves the best life possible. *And* you adopted him. He stays. That's simple. It may not be easy all the time, but you had to know that going in. You dont ever, ever *love*a baby...*love him with all your heart*...AND I send him away from you. That poor, sweet little bitty baby boy. 💝😘🍥

[@WhatUpDoe.]

I think someone was in her ear about raising a black baby...... hmmmm

[@maiajones9765]

Ember you might be right . I bet she had racist friends hassling her and she wanted to fit in. 😒 I smell BS

[@sekani2273]

sameeeeeeeeeee

[@jazzminebustillo5936]

Ember M I thought the EXACT same thing! Like you can't bond because of skin tone perhaps? 🤔

[@natashadefoe2048]

If that's the case, shame on that person. Black white (I'm white) blue or orange if a child is in my family and I CHOOSE to raise them, people can take their opinions elsewhere!

[@normalee9025]

stfu

[@amberalcantara9293]

I'm not sure I failed him.......omg you did fail him he was abandoned thin you abandoned him yourself he felt the way he did because he was scared of being left alone and she did just that horrible person horrible mother

[@brivera7469]

Amber Alcantara I agree with you

[@allisonho1646]

Amber Alcantara What? She saw he wasn't happy living with them. Why would you force a child to live where he is unhappy? She said she tried to bond, but he wasn't taking. He needed a family that could give him more one on one time with fewer siblings. She did what was best even though things didn't go according to plan. She knew in her heart that he was unhappy.

[@pammmeee9055]

Allison She would not have given up her biological kid if he or she wasn't 'attaching'. They gave her a convenient and likely unprovable excuse, when really she was just tired of all the racists comments she was getting. She could have stood up for her baby but she was a coward.

[@I_Have_Thought]

that child probably felt her discomfort with him.the kid deserves to be with someone who cares.appparently she didnot.lets pray he gets a real mother

[@beatrizbalbontin3403]

These guys are idiots. There is such a thing as a child having an inability to bond to its caregiver despite what the caregiver/parent does. The caregiver was not selfish! She was being realistic. This child will required therapeutic treatment and a caregiver that is willing to potentially spend years helping a child LEARN how to attach.

[@elizabethchiavetta7930]

I agree this was WRONG! He is 2 years old, he doesn't know anything else but her. he will always feel unwanted. he was abandoned on the side of the road then abandoned again by the people who swore to love & protect him!

[@cesmith48]

she did fail him.

[@brittanyKuchiki]

Patriot Jefferson and this woman who adopted him then gave up on him failed him again

[@maggiedevries8192]

When you adopt a child he/she is like your own family , you just don't give up! And give him away ! It's important you let him know he is part of family for ever ! It is hard for people who finally adopt him , this is second family ! But it can be done ! Time and love, patience , don't treat him like a dog to be returned to the pound !

[@SJ-tb2wq]

she said "i loved him" like he died or something.

[@zazoo-br4dm]

S J she loved him because he isn't with her anymore.

[@qhaweqhawe8300]

zazoo 2539 Lame excuse

[@alexsilek7061]

zazoo 2539 so u mean its passed tense she dont love him anymore

[@zazoo-br4dm]

alex silek maybe she never love him. She probably just liked the idea of adopting a colored child. Maybe she thought she'd be the next Sandra bullock or something. Idk

[@alexsilek7061]

zazoo 2539 she is surely a moron she live for the sake of impresing others. Treating human like a doll, whites with this behaviour should jst stop tht nonsense they rather adopt pple of their race to treat them that way.

[@tierrashanice6299]

I agree with him...she is a shitty parent for doing that.

[@zazoo-br4dm]

Tierra Shanice know who is shitty. ? his birth mom who left him?

[@tierrashanice6299]

zazoo 2539 Yes as well as the adoptive mom

[@jessllewellyn8485]

I completely agree with that guy. What if she gave birth to the child an couldn't connect with it? She can't give it back and I think she'd try a lot harder if the child was her own! If she loved him like she said she did he wouldn't of ever been pushed aside!

[@sissyrayself7508]

jess llewellyn actually, yes, if you give birth to a baby and find, for what ever reason, you do not think you have what it takes to parent it you can place it in adoption. So, no, you're n correct.

[@RoxyRose]

obviously he needs time he already has a rough 18months he needs to adjust. poor babe. there r people who would have loved him. and she probably didn't even give him the attention he needs.

[@phoenixdavida8987]

she failed him.

[@ntandosekay]

Oh my dear Ana, it's so sweet to listen to your understanding of this woman's situation but I am a mom of 4 and I can tell you straight,that woman is extremely selfish and in fact she doesn't even deserve the kids she already has.Once you are called someone's mother,it's a lifelong commitment.

[@nancyroper8431]

He is right. That lady do not understand; she needs to take off rose colored glasses

[@susansimpson2181]

nobody is asking the question if her husband and five biological daughters also had trouble bonding with him.

[@southernarora3518]

I agree with the male presenter 1000%

[@brivera7469]

Southern Arora me too!!

[@southernarora3518]

Brenda Rivera​ 😊 I've tried for years to adopt in Australia but our laws are against adoption I envied this lady ...she obviously did not deserve to adopt. I bet if she did this to a pet people would be outraged. Some how she has received sympathy

[@brandonstephenson7960]

I TOTALLY UNDERSTAND HER SITUATION BECAUSE WE WENT THROUGH A SIMILAR SITUATION. Five of our seven children were adopted from overseas. We lived there at the time with our two 'homemade' sons, a career military family, and had known each child for several years before adopting them individually at the ages of 5, 10, 11 and 15. The problem was the 11 year old. About a year after the adoption, when we were in the US, I found out that she had been sexually involved with 2 boys in the orphanage before we adopted her. (When we adopted her she wore a 34B bra.) When I confronted her and asked if she'd made the mess and just left it...she'd hang her head and say she did. But when my husband asked the very same thing....she'd respond flirtatiously while batting her eyes at him and acting precocious. She took her basic generic bathing suit and cut it very plunging in the front and extremely low cut in the back, then sewed the seams. All of this by the time she was 12. It was terrifying to me as a mother, especially with sons in the home. Before long I informed her, in no uncertain terms, that she was to NEVER go into our son's bedrooms...EVER!! My husband was a senior ranking officer and we attended many social functions. I informed him that I would never again leave the house with that daughter in it, unsupervised by ME! I'd hold my daughter on my lap and tell her how much I loved her, and I'd stretch my arms out to show how much love I had for her. And I'd explain that every time she lied to me, every time she was sneaky and deceitful, etc. it broke a piece of the love off. Month after month she'd be sitting in my lap and the span of my arms got smaller and smaller. I told her that one day, heaven forbid, there would be no love left, and that I didn't want that. She kept running away, she had really 'bad' friends, and she behaved so suggestively. Then we got orders for Europe. The therapist told us she would certainly continue running away there also. By that time I'd had enough!! I came to realize that one cannot let one person in the home ruin the family. My husband wanted to keep trying, but I'd long since seen the proverbial writing on the wall and gave him an ultimatum. I told my husband if he was determine to take her with us to Europe, then the kids and I would remain in the US. You see, the stress from the situation was causing our youngest son to have hallucinations (seeing ants crawling in the house when there were none, etc.) and I was ready to cut our losses. Though the adoption was final, the agency agreed to take her back when I told them I wouldn't hesitate to take her back to her country and use every bit of the $12K I'd saved, if need be, to do it. When I took her to them I warned them not to place her with a family with sons, and not with a family with younger children that she could potentially influence negatively. All of our other adopted children did extremely well and we put them all through college. It's ad that it happened....but I have forever been thankful that we managed to 'save' our family because that's how I see it.

[@maryalvarez6121]

At the end she is a terrible mother, she didn't deserve that child

[@doceigen]

Naugh, he was a horrible baby, he didn't deserve her love.

[@doceigen]

***** Yes, issues... our kids are FORCED to become educated, dedicated, productive, functional people... and in today's post modern, marxist feminist LOSER! world... that's having 'ISSUES'! I know.

[@doceigen]

***** Weak children become that way sure, but people like me don't turn out weak children, nor do we give up on them. As far as abuse goes, we abuse the living crap out of them... NO PARTIES! UNTIL THEY FINISH THEIR STUDIES!! It's almost... 'inhuman'.

[@mistid1485]

+doceigen TROLL

[@susan137]

What about his sisters did they bond with him? And the Adopted Dad? That Mom wasn't the only person in this family. If she thought she was going to abuse the child ... well then she needed counseling

[@irishgypsy25701]

wouldn't it be worse to keep him in that kind of situation?

[@MHWM2014]

For him I think so.

[@theveganvillainess]

When an infant is neglected, it physically affects their brain, this is why the baby was unable to bond. He's probably sociopathic due to the neglect and simply needs therapy. Music therapy can also help connect them with their feelings, these are things she should have tried before just giving up. The kid will never be able to bond with anyone until he gets the therapy he needs.

[@jacquelinehunt9189]

Zone 9 thats true poor little boy

[@SandraNelson063]

My mother never bonded with me the same way she bonded with my brother. I was difficult, I had problems. I wasn't perfect. But she did her duty, she fulfilled her responsibility. There was no love lost between us. I was a constant source of disappointment and embarrassment to her. That screws around with your sense of self, and creates zero self esteem. I wish I could have been given up for adoption.

[@jazzyjatlanta5131]

sad! She wasn't a mom from the start👊that's not LOVE! When you are a mother with a motherly ❤ you don't care what race you're child is👊or of he's or she's disabled. (crazy)

[@xXTheFoxSpiritXx]

Jazzy j Atlanta Race plays no factor, parents pick the race before a child is brought to them. As weird as that sounds. They do so to try and match a family to an accepting environment. But I understand what you are saying. If she wasnt bonding with her biological kid i doubt shed put it up for adoption. She should of stuck it out. I dont even give my pets up. You made the commitment. I have a cat that is a territorial diva who bites people. And bullies my other pets but i make it work. She has her own bedroom and eats seperate. You try and you try til you find what works.

[@camillefranzonibailey9408]

Inari. Yes I agree.

[@mysteriouskommando3868]

Jazzy j Atlanta- the baby is black an she is white. It's not right at all. Sad but that's how life is.

[@fool4singing]

Since she didn't give birth to him herself, she had an easy way out. If he'd been her own biological child, she wouldn't have been able to return him. I hope they never give her an opportunity to adopt again.

[@TCt83067695]

0:48 what is the significance of telling me hes in the military other than to solicit sympathy?

[@kolaida]

I know, wtf was that

[@robinsuewho9430]

TCt83067695 I know many military families raising adopted, foster, bio, physically/mentally challenged etc.....children. This woman is NOT "mother material." But in the end, this baby is better off. By the way, my children would beg me to not give him up. Children are a lifelong responsibility you don't just give up on.

[@tonia2574]

TCt83067695 true this woman is trying to play the victim card. Hell she's not in the military her spouse is, so no sympathy here. I was in the military and as a woman wanted children desperately, there's no way that I wouldn't bond with an innocent child. She had five kids already and attempted to add to the family and then decided it was to hard for her pitiful. He had a terrible start in life and than this idiot comes in and takes him in only to traumatized him more by abandoning him again. If she behaves like this with her other children they will probably put her in a convalescent home when she is no longer able to maintain her home.smh

[@janicehoff2865]

There are treatments for RAD (reactive attachment disorder) and it doesn't sound like she looked for those services.

[@DrVideo2]

People here don’t realize how difficult it is to parent a RAD child. It sounds like her heart was in the right place, but if there’s no bonding with the child in 18 months and he’s a complete disruption to the whole family. You have to sometimes make difficult decisions.

[@sissyrayself7508]

I'd much rather see a mom admitting she can not handle the child than keeping him.and abusing or killing him.. she made the safest choice.

[@Lgisas]

I was traumatised when I was adopted. I was three and I could hardly walk. I rejected physical contact and struggled bonding. It took many years for me to adjust. I’m twenty now and I’m completely normal. If my adoptive mum had sent me back it would have screwed me up a lot more. What that child needs is love, patients and to be accepted. The idea that the baby was then sent back after bonding for 18months is tragic. That poor child.

[@fukubaby]

As someone who grew up in one of those families where the parent simply didn't bond with the kid, I wish they had given me back. My parent's lack of involvement in my life and eventual emotional abuse messed me up pretty badly.

[@MsLotusBlooms]

Fukumoto I'm so sorry that happened to you.

[@jacquelinehunt9189]

Fukumoto so sorry to hear that.

[@sabreniawest]

I am glad she was woman enough to place him in an environment where he can thrive.

[@MoraByMita]

How u give a kid back? 😲 omg thats crazy

[@hedydepner1346]

Q

[@mysteriouskommando3868]

Black baby. Bad idea. LMFAO!

[@Buck0338]

Many years ago, my wife and I were watching the TV program "The Nanny" with our 3 - 4 year old grandson. The nanny was trying to make a really bad kid behave, and out of curiosity I wanted a child's perspective of what he thought would be an appropriate punishment, so I asked our grandson what he would do. His response, "I would give him back!", not that he knew where babies came from, but it did end the conversation.

[@jacquelinehunt9189]

Zenya A she is a failure.

[@trscubes183]

Buck0338 Hahahahaha smart kid.

[@charlotteprescott-ruland9121]

I adopted my niece when she turned 2, but I got her as a newborn. I was there for her birth and held her first; but I had no idea I'd be picking her up from the hospital only five days later. It was so emotional. I hated that her mother was sick and she couldn't be with her. It broke my heart to think she was sad about being stripped away from her bio mom. I had a 10-month-old at the time who I was breastfeeding. I decided that I needed to try and get her to bond with me...because she deserved to bond with a mother, even if I wasn't her bio mom. So, all night I breastfed both of them...and day by day I felt better. I worried a lot that she would somehow just "know" I wasn't her bio mom and that she would reject me. It was all in my head, though...your mind can really mess you up with crazy thoughts when you are stressing so much. Once I fully relaxed about it all, things got so much better. But no matter what, giving her back was never an option. I love her...just as much as I love my own children. Today, at 3 years old, I know she loves me. I am her mommy and she is my daughter. At any rate, I can kind of relate to this woman. Adopting a baby isn't as easy as it sounds. There is a lot of fear, anxiety, and stress...and those things will cause you to not think clearly or have crazy thoughts (like the fear I had that she would reject me). But we are all different. I guess I can't say for sure, because I still don't really understand what happened here, but I don't think I could have ever given that baby back. I now know that as soon as you just chill out and relax, the bonding will come in time (unless you just don't allow it to maybe??). I just don't think i can judge this lady when I know how different it was for me to take someone else's newborn baby. I'm glad my baby girl and I made it through it, though. She's the love of my life and the apple of my husband's eye!!!

[@mskudlarczyk]

you failed him.

[@Sapiophile-tv6rw]

Hmmm.... What's the real reason?

[@marvinmiller1987]

Sapiophile 2566 he's probably not the right skin color if u know what I mean

[@sev7nwest742]

Marvin Miller so sick of black people blaming EVERYTHING on skin color. so, the baby didn't bond because he is black? little biggit baby. Maybe the baby didn't bond because the woman was white? so black people are just born prejudice. no? You mean the white woman who adopted the black baby is a bigot? Yeah that makes a lot of f****** sense.

[@marvinmiller1987]

maren west black people can't be racist

[@marvinmiller1987]

maren west the lady gave him up for adoption because it couldn't adjust to her white family culture 😂

[@Dominini]

maren west You attack him for alluding to racism... How are we supposed to treat you for referring to eugenics???? 🤔🤔🤔

[@viviennecontirossini6490]

She is a bad woman... bad person ! She treated the boy like one way toy! !

[@BUBBASHAWN]

I love the guy reporter, he's straight forward! Sad, situation all around...

[@MsLotusBlooms]

Deborah Perdue-Fowler Yep, the sappy music and her induced crying was used to fake you out from the unfathomable thing she was doing.

[@deborahtdawson]

When we adopted our youngest child, we were told if we ever changed our minds, we would go to jail for child abandonment. We were so priviledged to adopt jp. Even though he had ADHD and went through many trials, my husband and I felt overwhelming love for this bundle of dynamite! He is now a man and has succeeded in areas I was told he would never succeed in.

[@bellavision9331]

he was totally right, and she was totally wrong I'm sorry I agree with him. if he got adopted or not it's still just wrong.

[@boyandcatmum]

This sounds mean but the families that are unable to have children should be the priority not the one's who already have children I was adopted where there was no counselling or proper screening. I wasn't easy so admire them for sticking by me but boarding school was discussed regularly lol

[@camillefranzonibailey9408]

Donna Bowen. Lmao. No that doesn't sound mean, because people who can't conceive will appreciate any child I believe more than someone who can conceive.

[@smarterdaily8858]

In today's society a baby can be killed in the womb. So why are people surprised that this baby got "sent back"? Many of the reasons for abortion could be applied to this scenario. For example the question of "Who has the right to tell a woman what to do with her body?" She did what she wanted with her body and that was get a break from this kid (that wasn't even biologically hers) Society can't pick and choose and make up rules as they go along and not expect things like this to happen

[@burpie3258]

Abortion is COMPLETELY different than giving back an adopted child.

[@smarterdaily8858]

burpie Abortion is getting rid of an unwanted child and so is this. We live in a disposable society. When babies are disposable, it's not a far leap to realize that children will be viewed as disposable too

[@smarterdaily8858]

kolaida The child was a child from conception. Whether in the womb or out of the womb-when people view children as "disposable" (or follow the"pro choice" mantra Every child a wanted child) getting rid of a child by neglect, rejection, murder or "unadopting" all are just methods of getting rid of a child

[@burpie3258]

Smarter Daily No, abortion is not getting rid of an unwanted child. It's getting rid of an unwanted fetus. Very different.

[@smarterdaily8858]

when a woman is pregnant she is not pregnant with a hamburger she is pregnant with a Child. An abortion is not getting rid of an inanimate object, it's getting rid of a child-a human. A fetus is human. A fetus is a child, it's still developing but nonetheless it is indeed human whatever name it is ascribed It does not have the dna of a shark or tree or something else it's a Human. Calling a human a fetus does not make it any less human

[@sev7nwest742]

this dude reporter probably doesn't even know anyone who has adopted or has been adopted with his infinite wisdom as he sits on his Pole woman who obviously did her best and admitted that she was in over her head and wanted to find a better place for this child if that guy is so gung-ho why doesn't he adopts the kid?

[@deedeetray133]

i understand her plight. she spent 18 months to try and bond with the child but if there's no connection she felt that was the only thing she could do.maybe the child CAN bond with someone else like the lady said if there's no bond he's gonna feel some type of way

[@jennifero4201]

if this was her biological child and "loved it but didn't bond" would she still give the baby away??

[@kimkardashian9543]

at least she didn't kill him

[@bstearns4996]

If you're not appropriately trained to deal with a child that cannot attach, or is disabled in some way - the kid was found on the side of a road - you should not be raising that child. She was right to give the child over to better care. Cenk has no idea wtf he's talking about from a place of ignorance.

[@shaunabrown6226]

Tell the truth bc this excuse doesn't sound right at all ..

[@SuperPeterism]

The child did not bond with the family. I agree with the woman's decision to give the child back; rather that than she lost it and hurt/murdered the child in a year or two.

[@gilanin]

It was right to give the child back, but it wasn't because "The child did not bond with the family". What did the kid do? It was the family that wasn't bonding with him for sure, it's a two year old kid for God's sake! There are biological offsprings all around the world that are even aggressive to their parents and that's not even a reason to throw them out of the house. What bothered me so much was the way this woman was portrayed: just say the truth, she's not a great woman, she didn't do it for the kid's sake necessarily and surely she didn't like the fucking kid!

[@SuperPeterism]

gilanin Even a 2-year-old has intelligence. A 2-year-old also has a will of its own. The mother in this video chose not to loose her connection to her older two children because of this toddler's problems. It is easy to stand judge over something we are not party to.

[@doceigen]

A very moral decision on the mother's part. I resist the notion gilanin speaks of.

[@sissyrayself7508]

So.. to ALL the people who are watching this and saying she should have kept the kid, how much worse would it be if she ended up being cold, distant, cruel and abusive? She said she couldn't bond, couldn't handle him.. please listen to that and respect her choice. thanks

[@lisalisa1812]

at least she's honest...if she feels that was best for Dee, that's a blessing she even tried

[@Lgisas]

Lisa Lisa She shouldn’t have adopted in the first place. When you adopt you know that the child will probably struggle with bonding. She has now screwed the poor child even more. The first person that he ever began bonding with returned him. The reason why he was having trouble bonding was because he had experienced severe neglect. That baby is two so he may remember being returned. The parts that he can’t remember will psychologically effect him. He was severely neglected and because of that he struggled at bonding. What he needed was patience and love. After the baby had gotten used to her for 18 months she returned him. As if he was a rag doll. The first three years of your life are very important. That baby now has to adjust to a new environment. It’s going to effect him for the rest of his life. He will probably never be able to bond with people properly. I was neglect as a baby and placed for adoption. I was traumatised from being adopted and had also never connected with another person. When I was three I couldn’t even walk properly. My mum was very patient with me and now I’m completely fine. If I had been returned I know that I wouldn’t be.

[@grammasays155]

It had to be hard for his sisters to lose him.

[@sepdafodils]

gramma says Maybe they were glad

[@patriciakelly2714]

This is so sad. This is the second time he's been abandoned. I just hope that this poor baby gets a real home where he is not considered a toy to be passed and sent back. Does she think that a child of that age understands that he is supposedly loved and he's done nothing wrong.. Too dam right he's done nothing wrong. Stupid woman.

[@LifeasRenee]

I would of never gave him up! You make that commitment and adopt a child you make it work...smh

[@JeniKayla]

I personally do not see anything wrong with her giving back the child since the baby is so young and if she did not bond with him, it is better to be in a loving home than with a family who does not enjoy bonding with the child.

[@Lgisas]

The child was having trouble bonding because it had been neglected. That baby would have began bonding with her only to be rejected. Even though he was still a baby it will effect him in the future. If she had continued showing the baby love then it would have helped the child in the future. I was neglected as a baby and placed for adoption. I was three and could hardly even walk. My adoptive mother didn’t give up on me and now I’m fine. If my adoptive mum and sent me back like I was a rag doll it would have effected me. Neglect is neglect no matter the age. What this women has done will effect the child in the future.

[@angelaconti1287]

I think it was her more so that had the trouble bonding. Had she kept him to just save face, and make herself feel better. She would've been doing him a horrible injustice, worse than what she already had. I hope he has with the loving family that he to loves

[@chrisporter1142]

she seemed to contradict herself she said he didnt bond but then in the video she said she didnt feel the same as she did about her other , saying that i hope he now with a family who can meet all his needs

[@laurabutler4571]

the child most likely wouldn't of 'connected' with anyone due to phycological problems it is so so hard to get adopted his life was ripped apart two times she is a selfish woman

[@rgonzo1982]

When you adopt, you know that there is a possibility of psychological and emotional issues. You make a commitment to that child, and to helping that child to grow. I didn't hear her mention a SINGLE thing about trying therapy with him. To me, she was just a selfish, lazy woman that didn't want to do the work that adopting a severely neglected child comes with. She clearly knew he was neglected too, it's not like they his his background from her.

[@purejoy6538]

She could've been projecting onto the child...

[@StrawberryTiger01]

She never told what the baby was doing to not bond. she gave that baby back cause she did not like that baby's looks. I thought the baby was mixed by the 1st picture that was shown even if it was a blurred picture. See 8:11.

[@ec4968]

Someone who already has five kids should be back of the queue for adoption and certainly shouldn't be given a baby. She didn't feel the same about him as she did her own which is human instinct, we're animals. He should have been placed with an infertile couple who would have appreciated him because they'd have no bios to compare him to.

[@freshstartgreencleaning]

It sounds as if she was trying to do what was best, that she felt uncapable and someone else would be. But would she have passed along her own child if she was "unable to attach"? What if he simply wasn't able to attach because of his early life? She was aware of his history. He was abandoned. She should have expected difficulty. If babies aren't held when they are infants, it stunts their emotional development. Even some children who haven't been abused and neglected are unable to attach, or have difficulties, such as those born with severe autism. Parents, natural or adopted, shouldn't turn their back on their children just because it's not what they expected.

[@jeanninebreau5352]

Get Clean I so agree

[@GabrielTheMagolorMain]

Really good point!

[@freshstartgreencleaning]

Thanks

[@christinehickey9301]

reactive attachment disorder-no telling what he experienced after birth. I can't see a nonmedical/nonacademic person being able to handle a child like this. I can't imagine this type of woman being able to handle this. I bet she tried.

[@kolaida]

And no telling what damage was done to him during pregnancy either.

[@aletheaskinner8888]

I'm sure she tried. She was in WAY over her head from the beginning. When she saw the flat head and knowing the abandonment--she should have asked someone. To deal with RAD you have to practically LIVE in the therapies (both of you) to make it. And the struggle is real and very long sometimes. Fourteen years later, I still get no eye contact--she looks over my head and gets that "lost" look in her eyes--especially if she thinks she is in trouble. And I DID all of the rebonding activities. I just hope the baby is with someone who makes a life-time commitment to him this time.

[@odiesmum2012]

+Alethea Skinner Even if the child did not reciprocate trust and believe he valued the love and affection he was given. She gave up too easily.

[@aletheaskinner8888]

I TOTALLY agree with you. I am raising RAD twins (over 14 years into it) and there are STILL unattached days that come, days when they don't know that they won't be bailed on... I'm nearly22 years invested in the life of my great-nephew whom I have raised from the second he was born...except the year he was 7 when birth parents wanted to have him back (DISASTER)--and the RAD still pops up. Does any of it change MY LOVE FOR THEM? Nope. I AM the constant BY CHOICE. I think this mom was looking for the fairytale ending--and she didn't know they don't usually come--and if they do--sometimes the "ending" comes after you are dead and gone. THAT'S the truth.

[@ACREEK-uv3cv]

There is no excuse. I have a 17 yr old that has this...adopted...and she has put me thru hell..But she is my baby and i will love her and fight for her till the day i take my last breath.

[@toriandtilly]

I don't think she is as terrible as he is making her out to be. I understand what she meant by the whole "bonding" thing. It wasn't the families attachment to him, it was his attachment to them. Babies act extremely different around their families than they do with strangers. You can TELL if they don't like you and are uncomfortable with you. Every child has a family that they are meant to be with. Even if it is not the family that brings them into the world, by some force of SOMETHING (call it whatever you like: God, cosmic energy, ect...) they find their way to the family that they are meant for. This mother did not think that her family was right for him despite doing her best to care for him and love him. She worked hard to find the family that he belonged with. Because of her, he is going to grow up in the correct environment for him. Besides I don't think he is going to have psychological issues. Keep in mind that he is two. He is not going to remember any of this. What he is going to remember is growing up in a house hold that loves him with a family that he loves just as much.

[@Lgisas]

That’s not how adoption works. Most adoptive children experience some kind of trauma and struggle with bonding. It’s not like Disney were you feel this instant connection. That baby is two so he could remember what has happened to him. The parts that he can’t remember will psychologically effect him. He was severely neglect and because of that he struggled at bonding. What he needed was patience and love. After the baby had gotten used to her for 18 months she returned him. As if he was a rag doll. The first three years of your life are very important. That baby now has to adjust to a new environment. It’s going to effect him for the rest of his life. He will probably never be able to bond with people properly. I was neglect as a baby and placed for adoption. I was traumatised from being adopted and had also never connected with another person. When I was three I couldn’t even walk properly. My mum was very patient with me and now I’m completely fine. If I had been returned I know that I wouldn’t be.

[@jacquelinehunt9189]

He wont remember but he will found out all this one day and its going to really hurt him.

[@J0J02007]

The woman should never be allowed to adopt another child again. Not even foster or adopt a pet. She is the worse possible parent. Couldn't bond with him. What a load of shit. I agree with Cenk.

[@1niceafro]

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@foolforcaring]

worst possible parent? Bulls***! At least she had to common sense and heart to find the child a better loving family than to keep him under her wing and destroy him. Being abandoned as a baby, he'll get the hell over it, he'll recognize the family that is now his family IS his family, who is there for him the rest of his life. Worst parents are the people that KILL their kids, the "parents" who adopt and treat that child as an unwanted side child once they give birth to their blood child, the parents that mentally and physically abuse their kids (whether adopted or birthed) their entire lives where those kids grow up with stronger trust, relationship and self esteem issues!

[@MsJenn1985]

Maybe she should have been given professional help to help them both bond, she obv loves him, regardless I couldn't give up my baby for any reason x

[@persomnus]

Abandoning a child like that is evil. Children are not toys to throw away just because you got bored or overwhelmed, and anyone that treats children like that are evil, and I could never trust or respect anyone who does it.

[@PATRICIOLLAMAS]

I don't think race had anything to do with her returning the child, her family knew the baby was black before hand, it's not like they forced him on her. I think she did the right thing, from what she said it sounds like he is autistic and raising a child with special needs is not easy, some people can do it some can't. He needs and deserves the best care/attention he can possibly get and she knew that she didn't have it in her. These two people in this video are extremely ignorant and close minded.

[@soulscanner66]

"Not binding"? What does that even mean? I guess the kid wasn't cuddly enough for her to make it worth putting in the extra effort. This is what happens in a society driven by sentimental, delusional, hogwash.

[@laurabutler4571]

yep

[@marvellphillips3480]

laura butler y

[@AfroKing.]

she has 5 other children, self explanatory

[@mszaria9121]

I'm glad she gave him back without abusing or hurting him so thank you for that at the least

[@patriciagibson479]

I would never adopt this kid, if I was her. For one, all her kids are healthy girls. He seemed to be special needs and a boy. I think she felt really bad for him, but was unable to handle it. She didn't give him back, she made sure he had a better home to go to. Also, he was young enough to forget it ever happened, as long as no one tells him it happened later in life, he will be fine. Another important thing, bonding issues can be real hell. And it doesn't matter who has those issues, parents or kids. Not too many people can handle it

[@doceigen]

Yup... give up early, don't drag a failed connection out to 18 years of mutual suffering! Same with marriage!

[@marybradshaw6638]

Shame on this so called mother

[@gilanin]

I think Cenk's unbearable most of the time, but I'm with him all the way on this issue. It's a 2 year old for fuck's sake, you don't say things like "I love him so much, but he's the one that isn't bonding", you just don't. How much of a hypocrite do you have to be to place the fault on the "child's bonding ability". People don't throw out children just because they are difficult, and gladly my mother never threw me out for being difficult. She claims she loves him so much, I doubt so, I think she's the one who wasn't bonding, evolutionarily speaking, children without mental issues are drawn to adults for their survival. They show all those pictures of her smiling and kissing the kid, a very well known tactic to bias people while hearing her spew bullshit. I wonder how she behaved most of the time with that kid. And again biological parents don't throw out children because they have mental issues, they throw them out just because they don't want them!

[@doceigen]

I wish my mom would have thrown me out when she failed to bond to me, I might have found a mother who was far better than she. YOU! obviously have no clue.

[@doceigen]

gilanin Number one... I can type on a computer and comment on KZbin, NO THANKS to my mom. Second, you have NO IDEA what I endured. So yeah, we all take our chances, but hear me!... I wish my mom would have tossed me out into the world for someone else to happen along, whatever the risks involved, that!... should inform you.

[@gilanin]

doceigen There's the wrong idea that I didn't like her throwing the baby out, I agree with the decision, what bothers me is this idea of making her heroic for doing so. As you imply, people don't behave the same way behind doors as behind the cameras, you see all these photos (only two really) of her happy with the toddler and somehow yet loves him so much that it's the baby's fault because he's the one not bonding. What I like about your comment is that it seems this woman might be as "terrible" as your mother for it to be so good that she threw the baby out. Yeah, I have no idea of what you endured, so what do you expect from me? I'll just continue speaking as if I don't know what happened to you, because surprise surprise, I don't know. And to be truthful I don't really care whatever you wish for.

[@doceigen]

gilanin "And to be truthful I don't really care whatever you wish for. " Which is why you see this women as terrible... because YOU, are terrible.

[@gilanin]

doceigen "And to be truthful I don't really care whatever you wish for." Because I don't think very highly of people who like to take pity on themselves on youtube, by being vague about it to cause cause an impression on people. People that seek the pity of others aren't really that good. My comment was about the woman and you somehow made it all about yourself, that's why I don't care what you wish for, because you give no reason and say nothing about the reasoning behind, you actually sound like Dennis Rodnam when asked about an american detainee in North Korea, he just kept saying something to this effect "If you knew what this man did in this country, if you knew!" Yup, so tell us, so we understand. You have no need to say anything about your mother, but don't expect any sympathy for absolutely no reason and go around saying people are terrible because of so.

[@xmanxavier77]

Point blank she did not want the black baby anymore