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[@CatfishedOnline]

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[@budgiebeak]

Dating apps NEED to offer a mandatory 5-minute video on romance scammers to everyone who joins their app/website. I feel this would seriously help older people who are looking for love but aren't aware of these liars.

[@daricej9753]

At least something, our time is specifically for older people so it's a goldmine for scammers.

[@snooganslestat2030]

They already give a lot of advice. Guess what? All these people ignore it. Personal responsibility.

[@katarina1852]

You are correct in that a lot of people don’t know anything about romance scammers. My mother’s neighbor was duped and eventually lost her home. My mother tried to tell her she thought she was being scammed, her sister, her nieces, etc. (she had no children). She refused to believe anyone but the scammer. She even took that belief to her grave. Horrible story.

[@daricej9753]

@@snooganslestat2030 Oh I didn't know they that in place already.

[@ridinwithjake]

This is a great idea.

[@Sparklez90]

"The minute he asked for money I hung up!" - Proceeds to send half a million

[@tiatia0404]

😅... Also couldn't she hear that he had an African accent?

[@ferociousgumby]

@@tiatia0404 They also don't notice the poor grammar and spelling, which is often really obvious, even if he's supposed to be highly educated.

[@rhondalauer1450]

Good on you Girl, When they start asking for Money That's a Red Flag straight off.

[@jaimev6156]

Braindead

[@crowsarefab]

@@ferociousgumby I had one on FB who told me he was in Cardiff but came from Italy. I told him I was in Wales. He said he had never been to Wales but heard it was lovely. Cardiff is the capital of Wales.

[@speakingthetruth1100]

Even if this guy was real and wasn’t a scammer she still shouldn’t have sent him a dime!

[@amir4r803]

Or a nickel

[@AlyssaDetroit]

Or a penny

[@allthingsadella]

I agree

[@kingryan...8486]

😂

[@simplytine2939]

Or nothing

[@crowsarefab]

Her husband never talked to her like that. Well her husband wasn't trying to scam her.

[@christid5838]

Too busy to work for the future "King".

[@glorysmummy]

@@christid5838 ???

[@smch6416]

Fabulous point Genuinely

[@keith-kb1zl]

most of the dialogue between the scammers and these old biddies is on the junior high school level 😂😂😂. mushy crap that two 13 years old would say to each other 🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️

[@glorysmummy]

@@keith-kb1zl the scammers follow a script. One was love bombing me and asked me if I liked romantic talk. I said, "No." but he continued anyway.

[@mmarialexx]

She’s crying saying “he took money from my children and grand children”. NO, SHE took money from her children and grand children. She preferred giving it to a man who she never met to giving it to her children.

[@cheery-hex]

she shouldn't give it to either. why kids think they are entitled to their parents $$ is beyond me

[@bamu8328]

Because he was giving her something those children and grandchildren didn't. Did you miss the part where she said she was lonely? If she was surrounded with love she wouldn't be online looking for it.

[@antinatalistwitch111]

@@cheery-hex ughhhh because their parents brought them into existence for their own pleasure.

[@eightlights4939]

@Hoodoo Goddess this is so true haha

[@LoveDimashali]

@@bamu8328 That's really presumptive for you to say that. It's ridiculous. What your kids give you is totally separate from the loneliness you feel when you are not loved by a partner.

[@kathya.gambrell9824]

What's sad is that these adults probably taught their children not to talk to strangers but never took their own advice.

[@sluttymctits4496]

Exactly! I've been thinking this same thing. Most of these older victims are of the age when they told their kids in the 90s/early 2000s to never talk to strangers online, that everyone on the internet is just lying and trying to hurt you. Fast forward 20 years and they're way more susceptible to online lies than we ever were.

[@davisholman8149]

@@sluttymctits4496 Did you hear the guy’s accent - the scammer doesn’t even sound American! How could she believe he was a guy from Ohio?! 😱

[@wormhole331]

That’s the thing though. Millennials on up grew up with technology so we’re more aware of most of the trolls, tricks,scams and catfishing but our parents never really used it and have no frame of reference. They had their lives that didn’t need internet to revolve around. And plus they’re worried about the man in a van giving candy to kids. Then like this lady they get older, their spouses die, get lonely, then suddenly want to find someone online but they have no clue what to look out for. They probably think coming across a scammer on a dating site is a rare thing that would never happen to them when In actuality half the people they talk to are scammers. They protected us from getting kidnapped now we need to protect them from getting scammed.

[@hassenmsalbi9515]

Abbbbsolutely true and exact 👍👍👍👍👍👍👍💯💯💯

[@amir4r803]

Cogent post

[@lindag1762]

What loneliness does to a person is frightening.

[@elizabethrusso6620]

@Linda G You are absolutely correct. In addition to all of the $$ lost to scams/catfishing, there are actually men/women buying "love" from people they have actually met in person. Sad.

[@spaceman5734]

This is why people NEED to find their true selves. Look within and find the power that lays dormant within all human being due to the evil work of Governments and their money and Religions and their gods. People are lost and they think they can find happiness in other human beings........NO!!! You be happy with you first. Its sad humanity is so young and lost in the Universe. Time for Humanity to grow up.

[@carolinemumbi6623]

True.... Curses will follow all their generations....soo sad

[@The2k4life]

desperation and dillusional

[@racheledwards3651]

FACT !!!!!

[@SheenaRea]

Two red flags: He has a young voice and strange accent He says "I love you my queen." RUN GIRL RUN!!!

[@ranjittyagi9354]

Queen! That calls for a quick getaway right there. I also know, folks transfering such insane amounts of 💰 have other issues in the mind. They become vulnerable and hence, easy prey.

[@Readyplayer8]

She ran alright, she ran straight to the bank😂😢

[@inesbauer1720]

Or: Run, granny run!

[@MargaretMcLaughlin-c7d]

She decided to buy this man. That's a half-step from prostitution. She's as much a lowlife as the scammer.

[@MartaHardt]

After watching a few of the Scamfish episodes I have learned the valuable lesson for future dating endeavors - if the guy at any point refers to me as his "Queen," I need to RUN the other way. Immediately.

[@genevievesmith3562]

The first sign of scam, asking for money.

[@jip230]

Unfortunately many of the victims never pick up on this. No man worth his weight in salt would EVER ask a woman he's in love with for money. Even if a legit man needs legit money, shouldn't he be asking family, friends, job, credit card company? - There should be a list of folks he's working down before getting to you! If he's asking a virtual stranger on the internet, it's a scam

[@teresasnow-angel5494]

Calling you -babe--queen--love b 4 asking 4 money trumps all----

[@brendamills13]

my dear, my queen comes first....

[@sarafreeman5073]

Gene. Smith AMEN!

[@isaacmettle]

Or say they gonna give u free money

[@dianataylordeguerrero3888]

When they call you “my Queen”, it’s a dead giveaway.

[@annecaulder9495]

☺️😂🤣😂🤣 So true!

[@catnk9]

So funny!

[@JennaCalifornia]

When they have a NIGERIAN ACCENT it’s a dead giveaway. Oh man. 😔

[@siaksut]

u also add.. my dear📴📴

[@js5787]

Agree! I went on three dates with someone I went to High School with, and he started with the "Queen" line of BS. so I ghosted him real quick!

[@lindamarie6574]

Never never never never send a friggin’ penny to any stranger who has the audacity to ask for money!

[@CandiceGoddard]

What you mean like on Gofundme and literally every charity?

[@КарловТривест]

Homeless people: 🗿🗿

[@DragonsOfSnow]

​@@CandiceGoddard YES. Places like that are FULL of scammers. Even churches and charitable events scam people all of the time, it's not just online and it's been happening for decades. If you truly want to donate to a cause, make sure you do as much research as possible to see that it's going where it's supposed to be going. As for churches, if it's one of those really modern, expensive-looking mega churches or you see the "pastor" in really nice clothes, driving and living in really nice cars & houses, you can be sure THAT'S where all your donated money is going to. There are scams EVERYWHERE. Claiming you're of a certain religion or one you happen to favor or a cause that you specifically sympathize with doesn't make it automatically safe. Unfortunately that's just the harsh reality of the world.

[@DragonsOfSnow]

It doesn't have to just be strangers. Long lost relatives can pop up just for money. Same with people you might have known as friends, who never asked before but now is asking.... Point is, it's definitely not just strangers who can take advantage of someone. People can be kind, but always vigilant and cautious at the same time.

[@relentlesspursuitofshade1234]

@@CandiceGoddard what she says is true. Re charities: I think people should also be careful of charities. You have a right to know what your money is paying for. Use reputable charities. I never give to go fund me. I give directly to the person. 😢

[@BackwoodsFilms]

Her: "You should work for Hallmark!" Scammer: "Actually I'm doing pretty well at my current job."

[@JoannaHammill]

😂😂😂

[@nefertitiscott3179]

😂😂😂

[@DonnaMosquera]

😅😂😂

[@melje6740]

I got 2 family members that keep falling for this. You want unconditional love. Get a dog. 🙄

[@martinfredrick8296]

Have you lost your money online?. Well let’s help you get it back, I know about this global funds recovery experts..,You can comment for more info.

[@Lovesongs-Deathdance]

So very true! 👍💞 I got myself a dog after the divorce. I can tell you one thing; my husband was NEVER jumping for joy and spinning around from happiness when I returned home after being away for 20 minutes! 😂 (Well, he was never licking his butt either, but...😉😄)

[@lynneparker4136]

So true

[@eaglewinnings8003]

😂💀😂💀😂

[@nickyyap1663]

My pastor know where to get the money. 😂

[@HellenicBarrister]

She shouldn’t be blaming the bank. She should be blaming herself.

[@beverlyphillips8572]

Absolutely, she is obviously intelligent enough to have a light bulb or two go off in her head when he asked for money but he just kept saying all the things she wanted to hear. And now these guys are so experienced they can follow the same old formula and find a gullible female (or several) who will wait breathlessly for his calls....and will be willing to pay to keep hearing it.

[@marknewton6984]

Dating apps are for losers.

[@gracieg7601]

Yeah. She’s a realtor. She should know better than to give money away like that. It’s her own stupidity. But anyway, who the heck falls in love with anyone they haven’t met face to face? That’s stupid. lol

[@gracieg7601]

My mom always told me I had allot of common sense so to listen to my common sense. Lol My daddy did too. I was the last one at home and kinda a late kid that came along. So I spent allot of time with my parents. I had really great parents. Told me to use my brain and not to be fooled by scammers or cheaters.

[@bojonsson2363]

They usually blame everybody else except themselves.

[@Turnkey196]

The minute she started blaming the bank I lost sympathy.

[@jakevendrotti1496]

She has an attorney looking into it 🤣😔 she can't stop giving away money to rats

[@miaquinn5791]

She can’t blame herself, for heavens sake. 😂😂😂

[@DaveDepilot-KFRG]

And I guarantee that if the bank had tried to stop her, she would get angry and fight them to continue with the transactions.

[@toscha1973]

I don’t think she blamed the bank, i agree with her banks should be questioning so much money being withdrawn or sent to one person. Banks know scammers exist & need to be more diligent by freezing accounts to “force” their clients to go into the bank to explain what’s up, make sure they aren’t being scammed. She took responsibility for her actions, she said she as stupid, that the loneliness is real. It is sad. I’m only now 50, in 2009 i was romance scammed. It easily happens when you think you are in love.

[@delinquense]

@@DaveDepilot-KFRG so true ... people want it both ways. When my wife and I are in doing big dollar transactions, the bank staff asks some questions. My wife takes it to mean they are being nosy ... i tell her it is a good thing and I'm not offended at all. Kind of helps that they prevented me from doing something silly before we even got together. Ultimately, it's not their responsibility.

[@xboobookittiex]

How can these ppl not hear the scammer's accent? 🤷‍♀️

[@leas7830]

I have no idea, I am from Finland and even I can hear "he is not American".

[@itsallgood8347]

When he said "calm down" that sounded like someone trying to put on an American accent, and failing.

[@muthoninjenga2034]

Definitely a Nigerian accent.

[@CharlesRaines4946]

Bcoz the scammers are lying to the victims. Scammer: Well my dad comes from the midwestern u.s.a and is of greek ancestry. My mom is dutch and grew up in South Africa. I grew up in Louisiana but we spent alot of my childhood in Greece and South Africa, that's why I have an accent when I am speaking english!

[@patty44441]

Yea, the accent. That’s a huge clue.

[@redwoods7370]

She could have paid for college for all her grandchildren for heaven’s sake. How can a person send a fortune to someone they have never met?

[@r080486]

Because this isnt about who she loves more! Its about manipulation

[@philipchan1856]

Scam can happen to anybody.

[@barbaramccullough3057]

I don't understand it either !

[@maggiesheehan3532]

Victim is a widows and highly vulnerable.

[@carlathomas5807]

She is LONLEY after losing her husband of 45+ years. She (unfortunately) has a HUGE heart and that bastard took advantage of it.

[@ginayus2603]

After watching a few of these videos, I think if anyone, ever, called me "my queen " I would probably bust my gut laughing.😂

[@damesaphira9790]

When I hear "My Queen", the first thing I think of is 'Queen size panty hose' YUCK!!

[@m1ssjuju]

Yep I learnt about this queen and king word from watching this channel. Def know now to look out for it if I ever give a random stranger the time of day on social media! Oh and if they ask if I've eaten yet is also a red flag lol

[@HobbyOrganist]

They ALL seem to call the victim "baby," a red flag there

[@roxagrece]

She had my whole sympathy until started pointing the finger at the bank. When I was 19 and a bank teller, an old lady withdrew $2000 (from her bank account with $21,000) from me and she had her son with her. Then a week later she and her daughter came to the bank practically foaming at the mouth. Apparently she was duped by the guy that was with her posing as her "son", some kinda scam was afoot. And she was blaming ME because I LET her withdraw the money. I lived in a country where $2000 is a LOT of money. My family and I could not AFFORD to pay her back $2000 and I was crying and terrified because she and her daughter blamed me as if it was my fault and wants me and/or the bank to pay. Lady, you gave the money of your own accord, why are you blaming the bank/someone else? Y'all gonna get mad if we ask why you're taking out a large sum of money and tell us it's none of our business what you do with your money, but you also want us to stop you and/or be accountable for your foolishness. Ugh idgi

[@MyraMonique]

Same here…

[@EnoExplores]

Wow

[@canadianjatti]

I worked as a teller for 6 years. Even when we told people not to do something because it was most likely a scam they never listened. We can't deny people access to their own money.

[@burly636]

Wow! Blamed you? I would have liked to be a fly on that wall. I guess you were appointed her guardian with out your knowledge.

[@shonii119]

I agree with you completely, unless the bank has policies in place, you really can't be making these kind of judgement calls. People need to get a grip.

[@Branndon-u9p]

OMG I hate when they whine and cry and blame everything on the scammer. "He took everything from me.." No, dummy--YOU GAVE IT TO HIM!!!

[@marknewton6984]

Low intelligence.

[@SerenaHe-z3k]

My friend who got scammed sent me the chat between him and the scammer, you wouldn't believe how real the chat seemed to be. "She" was so sweet and thoughtful. And my friend is not a dumb person, he has been super successful since middle school on every aspect of his life. Btw, I was the one who told him that he'd been scammed after he told me about some investment. I'm just glad that he believed me which stopped him from making further "investment".

[@Venus-rx3ru]

@@SerenaHe-z3k My ex who started his AC service business paid a scammer for a Wordpress 3 page web site that was already created $450 per month to be hosted for him, when it was just plain advertising nothing else. I told him he was being over charge of 435.00. He did not believe me and it went on for a while. Now he is paying another person 200 hundred when a regular hosting company will charge as little as 15.00 dollar for a 3 page web site. Oh well, some people just don't learn.

[@Julie-kh2wh]

@@SerenaHe-z3kyes he is dumb, you don’t send any money to a stranger

[@bethjackman6728]

​@@SerenaHe-z3k All the catfsh "victims" arent dumb people apparently 😂

[@sugarpie9492]

When she said "the first time we met..." my heart sunk because she didn't ever "meet" him. It's so obvious he's a foreigner just by hearing his voice. 😮

[@marknewton6984]

Never met? Hahahaha

[@MrsEJV]

Blaming the police for not getting back money people have willingly given away is so unfair.

[@luvcakes2069]

typical entitled behaviour

[@jessijuniper7687]

It is. When I investigated these myself, there was nothing we could do as she willingly sent the money. Some of the cases were so sad, I could not stand the devastation. Loneliness will make you do crazy things.

[@jessijuniper7687]

@S.A No. But, the bank tellers do get involved when they notice such a transaction happening. They intervene as much as they are able to. In my one case, the lady told the bank teller to mind their business because it was her money. Soon after she made the transaction, she realized her “love man” disappeared and that’s when she called us. She had a complete breakdown and she ended being the one going to jail. It was hard to witness that.

[@jay2thaudy]

Ftp but I agree

[@eaglewinnings8003]

First she gives away her children’s inheritance then she blames the police then she blames the bank. Pitiful woman who didn’t earn any of her money and wants to make excuses after literally giving it away. No sympathy for her

[@PennyBluebottle]

To send money to someone you never meet is horrible.

[@strawberryseason]

It just shows how lonely she was

[@Ashethetics]

I feel no sympathy at all especially when they have children and\or grandchildren where that money would probably make them very comfortable and not have to worry financially. Like her children and grandchildren couldn’t have used that 500k?!

[@stargazer1313]

Is stupidity at the highest level...

[@stargazer1313]

​@strawberryseason so many things to do if one is lonely go volunteer!!

[@doloresparlato]

No, it's stupid. This is teenager behavior.

[@zovoth]

You'd think maybe after giving away $100,000 and not meeting this man Joan MIGHT catch on... but a half a million dollars? This is the financial equivalent of the Darwin's Award

[@lesliebeckwith2483]

love that doc

[@marknewton6984]

Duh!😂

[@ronronson7061]

most women are R word

[@marknewton6984]

Never met? Hahahaha😂

[@matthewstuddy2154]

Exactly! I have zero sympathy for these people.

[@ppraish]

I'm surprised this lady didn't realize from the phone call that the scammer had a different accent than a typical American guy.

[@lisamac8503]

She knew She was in denial Addictions are like that She paid for her fantasy addiction big time

[@cynthiacole6140]

The guy that scammed my brother claimed to have a problem with his throat and talked in a squeaky little voice. He was actually at a scam center in Africa somewhere, trying to disguise his actual voice.

[@tinywalnut6337]

This blows my mind. I could understand if she'd never spoken to the guy, but she heard his voice! Did she need to study catfishing shows to work out that this voice, coming from the whitest of white guys, is maybe a little sus?

[@imscared8396]

😂😂😂 what a jackpot…sad to say…these victims are delusional sigh

[@banchokamnuai1345]

She'd been Hypnotised

[@DexKnowz]

Imagine working your whole life to provide your wife financial stability upon your death, just for that same wife to give it to another man.

[@carmenl163]

She worked for it too - she was a realtor - and even now she is working part-time to get some money back.

[@markmike7933]

@@carmenl163 yeah at 10 bucks an hour it will take no time LOL

[@carmenl163]

@Danny Al I commented on the fact that the OP said her husband paid for everything, not whether or not she'll be able to repay her debt (because she obviously can't).

[@TheNatscrat]

@dannyal5861 noooooo 😂😂😂

[@irenemorley75]

Yes, it's an insult to her deceased husbands memory.

[@deniseyweesy]

I honestly do not understand how she can listen to that voice and not know he's a scammer from Africa? Seriously? I'm sorry she was victimized but the guy doesn't even remotely sound like his picture.

[@rosemarywacera2576]

Yes accent would have told her right away. I am African and able to tell the scammers off. I am like, from which neighbouring country are you from🤗. I could drive there and meet you. Then he blocks me😂

[@nadezhdawall-rossi2864]

You just can't fix stupid.

[@isaacmettle]

@@rosemarywacera2576 me 2 I’m from Ghana

[@odettethompson6221]

That was my first thought when I heard the voice. Smh

[@Naturefan354]

Ikr! I’m shocked they never realize anything is off by their accent

[@freshfalcon3996]

Lonely gullible widows are responsible for about 90% of Nigeria's GDP.

[@kviz1111]

😂

[@karnerblue7658]

😆

[@ceciledelaney5174]

I'm a senior single lady and I've told my kids not to worry I'd fall for this crap...I actually get approached by scammers and jerk their chain. I take great pleasure in cussing them out when I get tired of the b.s.

[@diahill1945]

I’m in my 70s and I’ll led the last one on for three months . I call it second life because I can be anyone I want to be , mostly a rich widow .lol I love wasting their time .

[@FreeSpirit47]

I love calling them out on their lies & attempts to appear legitimate. Many of the scammers are posting on KZbin, just saying a friendly hello to random commenters in the comments section. Sometimes they pose as celebrities. One time, a scammer was so stupid as to use a photo of Francois Legault the premier of Quebec, Canada. The name being used was Jean Luc Legault. The dude must have watched too much Star Trek! I call them out immediately. If they have an account with a photo, I do a reverse image search, let them know that I know they are using a fake name & a stolen photo. Of course, they try to deny it, then, once they know they were busted, that profile disappears, they create another one.

[@ceciledelaney5174]

@@FreeSpirit47 Girl...I hear ya!! I had one try to scam me using photos of a former premier of New Zealand! And another nut job used pics of Prince Andrew!! Even had photos of the royals on his FB page!! How stupid are these fools!!!!

[@FreeSpirit47]

@@ceciledelaney5174 As the word is posted everywhere about the scammers, it will be more widely known. It will be more accepted as truth. Scammers will have less & less success until it becomes too much work without much profit in it for them. It's then that scammers will have to find another way to support their lavish lifestyle or attain such. All that the friends & relatives of these people who the scammers prey upon, can do is to reveal the truth to their loved ones so they will be spared financial ruin.

[@bunnyboo6295]

@@diahill1945 I also play around with scammers for fun if I'm not busy.

[@LindaMadisonPR]

Listening to the scammers voice she should have realized that man was clearly not American. 🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️

[@MarcS4R]

Yup, sounds clearly African to me after one second of listening. I feel sorry for her.

[@sunnysunshine6271]

I thought he sounded like a 30 yr old Indian man.

[@hmk..]

Nigerian accent

[@ceciliacree1446]

Exactly. The accent is obvious

[@KatieJCruz]

Just because they’re American doesn’t mean SHXT. This happens all the time with men from here, too.

[@IamDAFTCHILD]

Always amazes me when people say 'theyre taking my kids inheritance' 1: No, youre giving it away 2: Why do your kids have to wait till you die to get money from you but a stranger gets it right now?

[@yellowgreen5229]

Because she thinks they won't love her but for her money because capitalism. Probably true. DemocraticSocialismNOW

[@roscomroscom8438]

Children can earn money themselves rather than wait for an inheritance. She just could spend it wisely, even spend it on charity.

[@TIO540S1]

She didn’t say that, she said “I feel that I took from my children.”

[@IamDAFTCHILD]

Wow. So many interpretations from one message, none of which align with what I was saying. And people wonder why there is so much bickering online. Wild.

[@lolabelle4959]

Spot on, how selfish can some ppl be?!

[@AppleWaveGamer]

Queen, king, bitcoin, gemstones, gold bars, stuck somewhere, “I think I love you”. All these scammers use the same lines! Unreal how gullible these victims are.

[@IrishBog]

Is the whole My Queen. Your King something big in Nigeria? They all do it

[@TahoeSnowbird]

My husband loves me a lot but he has never called me his "queen" or "princess" because I would immediately know something is not right.

[@TahoeSnowbird]

@@IrishBog I think they all work from the same playbook.

[@HobbyOrganist]

dont leave out "BABY" "Baby, I had an accident and need $66,000 for surgery" "Dont worry BABY, it will all be ok" "Hi BABY"

[@HobbyOrganist]

dont leave out "BABY" "Baby, I had an accident and need $66,000 for surgery" "Dont worry BABY, it will all be ok" "Hi BABY"@@IrishBog

[@youtoobe169]

My sister fell for one of these. When they are in the middle of it, you can't convince them they are being scammed. They think you're crazy for even suggesting such a thing. It was a disaster.

[@youtoobe169]

@candy floss She was in the mess for several months, but she eventually got out of it. She still has yet to get back to where she was financially, and it's been at least 3 years since it happend. She's in her 70s now and has to work retail to make ends meet, where otherwise she would have been comfortably retired.

[@youtoobe169]

@candy floss She's a bit fragile, so I doubt it, but it is something I've thought about. I do know that the bank actually locked her out of her accounts because it was a significant amount.

[@amethystlife5609]

I agree. It’s so hard. My dad was in deep with something similar. Sent her around $2k (which is a lot when you’re on disability) and an iPhone. He even had her name tattooed on his arm.

[@KatieJCruz]

@@Peekaboo-Kitty exactly! I talked to some scammer from Brazil. Hot ASF, but I found out he was married with kids. I’m sure she’s well aware of what he does. I made him video chat with me to prove that he was who he said he was. I never sent him a dime cuz idc how hot you are, I have to worry about me and my kids.

[@lauradelregno99]

@candy floss take to small claims court or Judge JUdy

[@Herman992113]

He called you 'his queen'. American men never speak this way.

[@Arizona_lilly]

Only black urban men hip hop guys thugs young kids the queen king thing but not white man or older man

[@nadezhdawall-rossi2864]

Black men do.

[@SanFranDentist94301]

Lol not true.

[@Naturefan354]

I agree. Never heard a Middle Aged white man use the term “ My queen “. That’s definitely a red flag

[@meredithg227]

They also do that because they can't keep all the victim's names straight.

[@shanerr7252]

how do you go from hanging up on someone to giving them 500 grand?

[@markmike7933]

lol. yeah that's a switch up to say the least :)

[@isay207]

Pay for lay

[@abyie123]

🤣

[@yvymaurikira9725]

500 grand 😭

[@urbanteck]

EMOTIONAL DAMAGE

[@JP-my6bz]

If your date lives more than 25 miles away and can't meet you in person, they are geographically undesirable. Immediate pass - good bye

[@susanlett9632]

I live in south Dakota. Kind of in the middle of nowhere. I live at mine to 150 miles. Preferably 75 miles or less

[@marknewton6984]

Move on. 😎

[@jlow7569]

I met my husband who lived 26 hr away by plane.lol.happily married >15 yr.dont generalise

[@sunnyday7843]

I know someone who made a 15 min drive rule - got engaged and married and had their first baby ! Met 6 years ago approx -

[@cameleonfleuri]

Good point !

[@robinabernathy2829]

DAMN. The scammers hit the jackpot with this woman.

[@meows8603]

ikr. this lady is just sad

[@joyfullypacinglife8847]

I have no sympathy for women like that. Once the topic of money got into the picture, the first thing she should have done was run away. That was a red flag right there! How could you lose your head over this man, or any man for that matter?

[@shonii119]

I know, I can imagine how they feel, 20 year old men sitting in front of a keyboard romancing a bunch of ladies old enough to be their grandmother or even great grandmother and none of them have much money to send, then this falls into their lap. I bet they were partying hard when they found out how much she was willing to send.

[@Hmongbookie]

I would’ve at least visited that women if she was gonna give me 500k.. at least I’ll be real even if I only want her for the money

[@robinabernathy2829]

@@joyfullypacinglife8847 I think deep down these women know they're being taken for a ride. They fall in love with the fantasy. It's exciting for them and they get pulled in. The money they give just becomes an expensive cost of entertainment. It's just that the cost is much higher for some than others.

[@RADIUMGLASS]

She's the type who is told it is a scam from the beginning and still won't listen. And no, it's not the bank's fault.

[@pinecedar180]

Agreed 100 percent. These people are stupid

[@susanlett9632]

I had the exact same thought

[@Only_God_Is_Allah_SWT]

​​@@susanlett9632 *I would love to see you when you meet Emotional Manipulator.* *Those like you would sell their organs for these fvcks.* *There are people who earn honest money by using the same tactics as these scammers: they are called Life Coaches.*

[@yagushka]

The bank shares responsibility for this

[@markrhodes5828]

​@@yagushkawhy should the bank take responsibility for her stupidity

[@missiez368]

She’s very jolly for a woman who lost over 500k

[@danskdna8550]

Because her husband likely left her more than she admits, after working hard most of his life.

[@sebaztionabsolution]

she dydnt lose 500k.🙃🙃

[@drew9312]

Goodness me. A naive teenager might have some excuse getting scammed but after many decades of life experience, falling for this. Absolutely speechless.

[@francinesanchez5402]

Her experience was a loyal husband of 45 years. She may not have been exposed to all the manipulation out there in dating.

[@veronicababy7959]

Exactly.Emotionally she 18.

[@LoomisRoo]

The saddest thing is, people want so bad for love to be real they'll believe anything.

[@abdurrahmanwakeel3923]

@@Peekaboo-Kitty I also need to take at least the primary shot of it, not to talk of booster shot

[@abdurrahmanwakeel3923]

@@Peekaboo-Kitty that's how they take advantage of vulnerable and lonely people

[@eckankar7756]

@@Peekaboo-Kitty Yes, indeed. The smell of a victim is irresistible to an abuser.

[@bunnyboo6295]

@@Peekaboo-Kitty Where did you get it

[@bunnyboo6295]

@@eckankar7756 How to get rid of that scent. Is there a way to turn it off and on.

[@itistime5699]

She didn’t give all these money to her big family, but gave it to a man she never saw. That says a lot about most people today

[@rickw3243]

Just plain stupid.

[@JudasMaccabeus1]

No, it says a lot about her. Most people wouldn’t do this.

[@francinesanchez5402]

If her family called her and told her they needed surgery or someone was dying from a disease and insurance didn’t cover it, she’s probably give it right away. She thought she was keeping a loved one alive. The trick is that…. This person noticed this trait in her. Got himself into a loved one position and then started creating life threatening situations where he would die if she didn’t send the money.

[@marthamulko3044]

If a man is asking a woman for money, he doesn’t have any business dating because he wants to be a child and have money handed out to him. This applies to online romance, or in real life. Please don’t fall in love with someone that you never met.

[@bakerluegrante1804]

You speak the truth. Yes thank you

[@Naturefan354]

I agree

[@historiqueafricaine]

You are right

[@francinel8154]

They are professional scammers, I saw on Dr Phil show what they do, most of the time they pretend to be millionnairs, their money is frozen and that they will give the money back in double even tripple.

[@marthamulko3044]

@@francinel8154 If it is too good to be true...It’s a scam! You can tell them to sell some of those gold bars to fix his financial issues, or have his boss/ckuents give him an advanc, under no circumstances a woman should send money to a man... ever! Much less, if she doesn't know him.

[@vhoy7899]

The banks can't stop you from withdrawing your money... it's not their responsibility!!

[@grant7345]

Real men can talk sweet to a woman they love, but real men definitely don't beg women for money

[@ladyjade6446]

Exactly. I’ve never had a man ask me for money.

[@terrytibbs5678]

I disagree. I am a real man and I begged by wife for 100 baht so I could get a cold beer cos I ran out of money and wanted a cold beer cos it was hot and the cold beer was so nice and welcoming and that.

[@grant7345]

@@terrytibbs5678 haha, Terry have hidden money so begging is never needed or have a cold coke instead with a little rum from your rum bottle that you also hidden, but you are right sometimes it is necessary and your lady will love that she is needed

[@stutteringtom1]

their still real men at the end of the day lol

[@grant7345]

@@stutteringtom1 yes but they are scammer men

[@evandewind4264]

She was expecting to marry a man she had never met. That disconnect from reality is heart-breaking.

[@mollyhorse]

not heart breaking..infuriating

[@ivanaandric5703]

My heart only broke for her poor late husband who worked all his life to provide for his family. And for her children and grandchildren!!!

[@QueenLadyQ]

Never face time nothing

[@isay207]

What does she expect the police to do when the scammers are in Nigeria

[@joli395]

@@isay207 Arest the money mules and freeze their bank accounts.

[@gingers8457]

Such a lovely lady but very sheltered. She had no idea how much the world has changed. Tough lesson. Thanks for telling your story.

[@katherinefields250]

She's very sweet. I'm so sorry this happened. But hopefully learned.

[@loisaustin6200]

I often get "friend" requests from good looking model type white men on Facebook and always immediately I picture some unattractive black 20 year old Nigeria guy sitting in a call center just dying to take what little bit of money I have. No way, buddy, get lost and hit the road, not interested. I'd rather be lonely than made a fool of.

[@withgoddess]

She's a real estate agent. Please

[@eckankar7756]

She'll meet lots of people face to face now working at McDonalds to build up some savings again.

[@patriciarola7635]

God Bless you sweetheart 🙏💜✝️

[@shoosh222]

The second they call you “queen”, RUN 😮

[@christid5838]

True.😂 it'd really pit me off añy way. A bit "plastic" for me.

[@dracojensei1141]

Hi queen

[@audreym3777]

That or babe…🤮

[@gigilamoore2656]

Hard to feel sorry for people who fall for this, especially after all the warnings. A man wouldn't get $5 out of me much less $500K.

[@jovitarich7078]

Nice husband leaves her with money and she gives it away for love letters.

[@Hersheydimples]

Exactly

[@Taj-Mahal]

Shhhh….”there but for the grace of God, go I”…careful.

[@gigilamoore2656]

@@Taj-Mahal If I haven't given anyone any money in 50 years, I am not about to start.

[@emmavrijburg6676]

Ah yes, victim blaming at its peak

[@B.H.56]

"My husband never talked to me like this" - Right, real men don't talk all lovey dovey. If they do, they are trying to scam you. Stop reading romance novels.

[@agyvonne]

Actually that’s not true. I’ve had several long term relationships and each man - although not that he spoke “lovey dovey” - he did speak in loving & respectful tones.

[@maryjanebrown4667]

I strongly suspect that she never invested her own blood, sweat and tears in earning those truckloads of money she threw away. People should stop credulously believing tv commercials insisting that old ladies are hot, because this is where it leads. I’m 63 years old myself and I am not taking potshots at the elderly, but how about everybody acts their age and accepts that growing old is a natural part of life and is not a bad thing.

[@B.H.56]

@@agyvonne Did he call you "My Queen" ? lol.

[@iram5192]

@@B.H.56 my Peruvian boyfriend used to call me that . It was annoying af lol

[@jn8ive60]

@@JaimeMesChiens One scammer told me, in his very first message, "You have all the qualities of the ideal woman." I said, "Yeah, right, okay. And how exactly would you know that?"

[@kole1ful]

I feel so sorry for her! He sounded like a Nigerian. I’m a Nigerian myself

[@dbrock1553]

I know! It was so obvious, he was a young Nigerian man, not an old American man. She just ignored everything that was right under her nose.

[@mista2621]

And I bet its only a small % of your country men that are scammers , giving you all a bad name .

[@usptact]

Seems like this woman spent all her life shielded from real world and its dangers by her late husband. When he was gone, she was an easy prey.

[@ranjittyagi9354]

💯

[@kayecastleman6353]

I think so, too. There's a reason these scammers exist. Their techniques work on vulnerable people.

[@FreeSpeechMatters]

There's a HUGE pool of lonely, wealthy widows that are ripe for the picking.

[@jAITtROtULL]

@usptact- No Excuse!!! She has children and grandchildren. Also, this was money her husband left her so why would she even consider giving it to another man who she has never seen. It was desperate, selfish, and disrespectful.

[@nicoleweintraub9710]

She did get married at 14

[@myfuneralismytimetoshine]

She sent all her husband's hard-earned money to some random dude. So disrespectful and cruel, she is very lucky her children still wants her around.

[@constance6761]

Looks like she always leaned on her husband and never took responsibility for her own life.

[@Straightjacket154]

That was her money.

[@conniepatterson7215]

She had known him since she was 14 years old. Her whole life was built around him and her children. She has never even got to know who she is because her identity was sacrificed for her husband and children. When he was gone she did not know how to be. She has always gave and gave and gave. She did what she was conditioned to do as a good daughter, good wife, and good mother. She gave, she nurtured, and tried to help.

[@Straightjacket154]

@@conniepatterson7215 you know what she ALSO DID? She allowed a man to abuse the babies she carried in her womb. She allowed them to be beaten eventually murdered. She’s accountable. She should also be in jail. She knew he was a monster. She was to lazy to do what she had to do. Work 60+ hours a week to pay for a one bedroom on a mattress on the floor in a bad side of town. Women have resources now. 100 years ago I would have swallowed that sob story. Not now. Women now a days get section 8, food stamps. $25 rent. GTFOH.

[@conniepatterson7215]

@@Straightjacket154 ??????????? What are you talking about? Do you know her personally? Are you angry? Beat the babies????? Where did that asinine notion come from? Again, you are blaming a woman who met a man when she was a child, you are saying the man beat her, causing miscarriage, and you are blaming the WOMAN??? WTF IS WRONG WITH YOUR BACKWARDS ASS??? Check yourself. I do not think we are posting about the same video. No where does this video say what you have stated.

[@gergcas]

Her husband left her a reasonable retirement, and she squanders it falling for an obvious scam looking for a replacement. It's pathetic.

[@streetjones7713]

Sad truth

[@dwightrenfield2241]

AND she’s saying that banks need to do more and question why all this money is moving in and out. ALL FRAUD PROTECTION begins with you. I can see someone being lonely and trying to be helpful, but you’d think after the first grand or so, anyone would become suspicious.

[@yt_energy]

never marry and never leave women anything

[@theessentials450]

​@@yt_energyha... dumb and greedy

[@MaxMustermann-hd7oe]

@@dwightrenfield2241Honestly, what are banks supposed to do? They are not your parents or guardian.

[@shirleyharrison2580]

wow..I'm sorry this happened to you. My husband died 5yrs ago, I sold our home of 22 + years & moved, bought a smaller place in town. When I need to purchase something for large sum of money my bank DOES get concerned, they've questioned me before when I've withdrawn few thousand dollars. I watch a LOT of these type of videos & have learned so much about NOT falling for this. But I think I'm different because I'm not the lonely type, I don't mind being alone, I have hobbies. I don't have that much money but have enough in savings that I'm comfortable & wouldn't send money to someone I never met, or some I HAVE met..lol I have fun going shopping & eating out with my older sister, she's 76 & I'm 70 and we have a lot of fun.

[@garrygraves3848]

Everyone who goes on dating apps and falling for this foolishness need to read this post. Hats off to you for being wise !

[@barbarapalmer8224]

Why do these woman think men years younger and very handsome, would be interested in them. The men these scammers pretend to be.

[@nyarkasewe2363]

That’s what I’m talking about!!

[@karrybosco7966]

@@barbarapalmer8224 This one was average looking and not younger.

[@barbarapalmer8224]

@@BitchyQueen69 l am very sorry ,you have lost two of your friends through these wicked scammers..you must be heartbroken. I only hope they get their pay back.

[@zorajay7116]

She has financed an entire village.

[@jumpinjojo]

😂😂

[@evapektas]

Funny and sad

[@janepurcell6747]

This lady was probably mourning her husband. Instead of telling her to 'go online and find someone' better advice would be to have qualified grief counselling. Then join a group - a real life one where you do stuff you enjoy. That way you meet people and are actively engaged in a new hobby.

[@nataliamiles7109]

Yes, grief counseling is sage advice. She would also benefit by volunteering at a church, library, museum, school, etc. The American Association of University Women (if she graduated from college) is another way for women to socialize; many of them are retired. She could also take non-credit courses for fun at a college.

[@toracabey93]

Whether online or a social group she would have fallen for any scam. Yes grief does a lot to us but some people are just always ripe for the picking.

[@meredithheath5272]

@@nataliamiles7109 💓💓💓💓 Wise advise!!!

[@ladyjade6446]

Good advice

[@mht5875]

When my father died, the very last thing my mother wanted was a "new man". And battling cancer and diabetes, she was in no position whatsoever to be taking care of a man.

[@bchompoo]

She even sold her home! I can't believe it.

[@marknewton6984]

Low I Q can't be cured.

[@marknewton6984]

Low intelligence.

[@TruthHurts922]

She’s stupid

[@kdeloris2225]

She basically gave him her entire savings account. I can't believe she tried to blame the bank 🤔

[@uyoebyik]

It's very childlike behaviour

[@germyw]

@@uyoebyik That’s ridiculous BUT my mother’s bank does not allow large transfers or large deposits with out questioning my elderly mother. It made me mad the first time they did it but they explained that it was their policy concerning all elderly customers. I see why now.

[@411sponge72]

My friend works at a bank and this happens EVERY day!! If you willfully giving your money away, it's gone. The bank can't do anything.

[@marknewton6984]

Banks can't stop stupid!

[@pinoyheartbeat7245]

She was not blaming the bank. She was saying banks should have safeguards when large amounts of moneys are move to and from an account. Here in the Philippines, certain banks would call you if they notice some unusually large sums of deposits or withdrawals from your account.

[@alfredomercurio7356]

How these women dont hear those accents and horrible voices is beyond me

[@marknewton6984]

They hear what they want.

[@jlow7569]

Need subtitles to understand the scammers

[@sunnyday7843]

I think the oxytocin addiction is what makes love blind - and evidently hard of hearing . 😮

[@charlestonchanming9251]

Esp when they say they from Miami , in US Army deployed in Syria fighting ISS & need money for food , plane ticket etc & have Africa accent

[@mariec8619]

Omg all her husband worked for in his life to leave her and his children and grandchildren gone to a scam… she must feel so awful 😣

[@stephaniebobek817]

So true I think if you earned the money yourself it's harder to give away though

[@wandarask8444]

It's real dam sad when you read your message, cause it's true. Even when there kid's say it's a scam and they won't listen It's sheer stupiedy. X

[@belarte7063]

That almost made me cry that she blew that safety cushion she had on that gang of scammers

[@CynthiaNotG]

That’s why alimony and all that needs to end. Some of y’all females wilding on mens money smh

[@Alvin-je4vm]

As she should.

[@JustAnAverageWoman69]

Mining for gemstones?! Lmao. How do they come up with this nonsense? 😂

[@RealSerie26]

Nigerians are the kings of creative scams. 😂

[@HobbyOrganist]

and GOLD BARS!!!

[@stephaniesmith119]

They always seem to be moving gold bars, locked boxes of cash, or gems 😂😂

[@babycakes8434]

The craziness they come up with, surgeries, food, water, telephones, clothes for their children, gold bars, shipments, jail, lawyers....etc😂😂😂😂

[@audreym3777]

How do grown ass women FALL for it?!?

[@giamarnelli4889]

Romance Scammer Checklist: 1. He or she is out of your league 2. He or she started asking for money $$$ 3. He or she wants gift cards instead of real / actual gifts 4. He or she sends his or her Identification Cards (or other legal documents as proof of legitimacy without being asked) 5. He or she always has a back story with drama and need urgent financial assistance 6. He or she asks money for food 7. He or she asks if you’ve eaten 8. He or she calls you King/Queen, Dear, Hunny, and very poetic (not to mention confesses love early on) 9. He or she won't video chat often (mostly due to a bad internet connection) and will usually refuse to answer phone calls 10. He or she will delay your meet-up for months or worse, years Let me know if I missed other signs. Hope this helps!

[@Maridu01]

Asks favorite color cuz that clearly is an important question to fall in love with someone else.

[@mylolee62]

He or she lost their spouse and now has a child in boarding school in the UK who needs money for tuition

[@julybailey2326]

He is usually a contractor and she is a fashion designer

[@mylolee62]

The scammers generally have a first and last name that are both firsts, like David Robert or Mike William or Bill Ray

[@mylolee62]

They are overseas in the military and need money for either food and health care or to "buy out their military contract". The buyout got me. I was in the Navy and trust me...if you could buy out your contract, we would have to institute the draft just to have a military!

[@claraesparza7030]

At the end when she said she had her attorney looking into her bank & why they didnt notice, I couldn't help but scream, IT'S NOT THEIR PROBLEM/RESPONSIBILITY. She's to freaking old to not take accountability.

[@RealSerie26]

Women in general are not known for taking responsibility even when they cheat. It's always someone else's fault.

[@nightdrifter01]

On top of that, I just watched another video where an elderly woman called and basically screamed at the bank for freezing her account to investigate it saying how it’s her money and she went through all the steps to get it unfrozen just to continue to do it. The banks can’t help stupidity and don’t deserve the Karen’s that this creates when they do step in.

[@HermesTheLoser]

Well if it's her attorney it kind of is... but to her credit I can't even pay my bills online half the time without the bank instantly shutting down my card and calling me like "Is ThIs FrAuD???" lmao

[@claraesparza7030]

@@HermesTheLoser I don't know what your first sentence means. If you're referring to me saying it's not their problem/ responsibility I'm talking about it's not the BANKS responsibility to babysit her. I know her attorney is just doing what she's asking.

[@HermesTheLoser]

@@claraesparza7030 Oh yes 100%, I think I misunderstood what she said maybe? The way I understood it was she said she had her attorney look through her bank account and was wondering why the attorney didn't see anything suspicious.

[@showkitties3844]

It’s always kinda enraging to hear that they send the money their late *husbands* worked so hard for , & left for them & the family… & send it to a man that simply fed their ego.

[@Crazybatladyx]

Agreed. She loves to blame others.

[@Beverleyrog]

Most likely a young 22 year old Nigerian who is now living the high life

[@aydinl5757]

She was desperate for a man, any man, that money would buy.

[@drill4206]

Yall missed where she worked the entire marriage as a realtor 😊 yes hubby left lots of money but just pointing out she did work 😊

[@Naturefan354]

​@@drill4206And? She is still the one who gave all their money away, not him.

[@Sonder0077]

The voice and accent doesn't give it away to these women??

[@B.H.56]

they have lived a very sheltered life.

[@marknewton6984]

They are not very bright.😂

[@FrenchMartini]

Rule No. 1: NEVER put someone else's name on title to your house, and don't sell your house to give money to ANYONE.

[@spicymami6468]

People are not that dumb though Most of the scammers I've come into contact with from West Africa use charm so most of the time these women are not fully aware of what they are doing!

[@belindascott2747]

Don't look for happiness in a man

[@helenstewart2085]

@@spicymami6468 yes they are my silly sister did that 20 years ago. Still to this day, I don't know why she did it.

[@b1bo840]

@belinda scott: correction, don’t look for happiness online!

[@belindascott2747]

@@b1bo840 correction: don't look for happiness from another person!

[@christopherdawson233]

Her deceased husband would be rolling in his grave. Imagine working your entire life only to have all your money be given away so foolishly.

[@jungersrules]

I'm so grateful that I'm not susceptible to loneliness. I live alone with my dog and am always glad to go home after being out. I work from home, so I'm always with my dog. She and I are happy and grateful for what we have.

[@sunbeam9222]

This is exactly how one can stay away from scammers. Never expect another person to fill up a void within. We are responsible for self love.

[@ibpaddy65]

I live alone as well but lost my pups. I’ll still NOT get on those sites. 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@pigtailsandteddybears]

Same here!!!❤

[@catnap8042]

Same here - only I have two cats🙌

[@Juju2012ZA]

I am happy with my rescues - they take all my money lol. That and donations to the rescues I adopted them from.

[@liliacastellanos921]

It's ridiculous how they want to blame the bank for their stupidity 🙄😒🤦🏻😑 It's like me blaming the department stores for my overspending instore purchases . Willingly walked into the Gucci shop and spent all my money yet I want to blame the store manager for letting me buy too much.... I mean. Take responsibility and accountability ffs!!!

[@DaveDepilot-KFRG]

And I guarantee that if the bank had tried to stop her, she would get angry and fight them to continue with the transactions.

[@liliacastellanos921]

@Dave Depilot yes indeed, there was a "victim" who was refused by her bank and banned and she raised hell, then drove 2 hours to another money 💰 courier place where they didn't know her and sent the money anyway... then sitting on the Dr Phil show about how she's been left with nothing ....

[@arcadeages3917]

Women lack responsibility and accountability en mass

[@spellonyou7987]

@@arcadeages3917 There will always be that one who take everything into gender war

[@DHW256]

I'm thankful my banks immediately call me for clearance on all significant transfers or withdrawals.

[@kdp8133]

There is NO such thing as an 'online lover'. THAT is a physical and emotional relationship.

[@cswann8]

Agreed. The only reason anyone should use an online dating app is to arrange a date. I swear it's like the desire for companionship, intimacy, etc. actually turns peoples brain off.

[@Nicole-em9yo]

Yep. Just like there's no such thing as a long distance relationship.

[@fawnieee]

​@@Nicole-em9yo such a silly thing to say.

[@marknewton6984]

Psycho babble

[@radhasen.animalwelfare.5644]

I totally agree... "Its too good to be true..!' Then heed that inner voice! These women not only lose their money but because of their stupidity ( prone to flattery) so many people's time is wasted trying to recover your money. Ridiculous...

[@Branndon-u9p]

We monitor our kids online to keep them safe from predators while Granny is giving Junior's college fund to one!

[@francinesanchez5402]

Honestly, aging parents need to be monitored too. It’s just trickier.

[@lilnike2]

If scammers had a American accent and if ai gets better the grannies gonna be in shambles

[@tatimiracy]

How could you be married for 56 years, have a whole life together and a blink of an eye loose everything to a person you never met, it's unbelievable. No respect to the late husband. Some people are so gullible

[@marknewton6984]

Some people are so stupid.

[@amir4r803]

...as a result, she had to go back to work after being set up in retirement with a nice inheritance

[@onewheelatatime2905]

Because she was lucky the first time around.

[@obstipuit]

i guess desperation and knowing nothing else

[@lgaines4086]

You could also lose it.

[@lilybliblablubb5023]

I don't understand how you can be so reckless with an inheritance, like I inherited my grandma's house and I guard it with my life, I am so thankful for the opportunities this has given me, the financial freedom and a great place to live. My grandparents worked all their life to pay off that house and I will honor that effort forever. I have no one to look after but myself but I'd still never waste that gift I have been given, I'd feel too bad towards my grandparents

[@eisbeinGermany]

i dont feel sorry for her, i inherited a large amount of money, and straight away invested it, and now 5 years later i am only using the interest part, the original amount i still have,

[@moiseskerschener2634]

you'll understand it, don't worry, one day you'll find a scammer

[@crowsarefab]

@@moiseskerschener2634 Well I have had a few on FB and they are so stupid. One sent me a photograph of an army officer and the name on his uniform was different to the name he conbtacted me under. I did a reverse image search and it was the army officer leaving his Court Marshall after he was found guilty of rape.

[@babycakes8434]

Don't get married either, because scammers come in different shapes and sizes. Also put it in a prenup if you ever decide to marry.

[@kryptofly]

Same, inherited parents duplex, got rent coming from the upper monthly. Worked 40 years at a big company, got a pension, medical, 401k, decent amount of money in the bank. I’d be quite a catch if I wasn’t such a mean old woman who has no trust in people. Family first, strangers never…..

[@cassandra3862]

This guy clearly has a Nigerian accent. I cant believe that someone would be fooled like this?! Are these women over protected by their husband’s somehow. It’s very sad that they can be tricked by someone who calls them ‘my Queen’. It’s very worrying there are so many people like this.

[@Naturefan354]

💯 agree

[@smallfeet4581]

@@Naturefan354 thats it , some are protected , never have to do the financial side and think the world is rosy , she said her priest even warned her , how did the family not get involved and check her bank accounts or talk to her bank about her mental state and vulnerability , worst advice she got was to try online dating

[@8ofwands300]

Clearly! 😳😳😳😳

[@metteschreinerberge3416]

I told a scammer ( I knew he was a scammer) that they had to stop writing " my love", " my everything " and so on, because we here in Scandinavia does'nt like it. I also told him a lot of other things they had to change for more success in their business. 1Oh boy, was he mad! Called me everything in the book. 😄 But it's can be kind of fun to play along for a while, and then tell them what a piece of crap they are......

[@Angelface11]

Yes its the generation

[@rgasta7765]

Damn this scammer made more in a few months than I did in 40 years of work!

[@sassynana5201]

It’s not the bank’s responsibility to question how she spends her money. The responsibility belongs 100% to the person who willingly sends the money.

[@rentboy7566]

She ignored her own priest when he warned her. What makes her think she would have listened to the bank. She refuses to take any responsibility at all for her own very foolish actions

[@terriesmith2616]

80% of women are allergic to self responsibility.

[@aliciastalksessions]

@@terriesmith2616 including. Ya mama ..clearly

[@terriesmith2616]

@@aliciastalksessions 👆Triggered. Lol

[@aliciastalksessions]

@@terriesmith2616 Of course ..When the main reason the planet is in disarray talks about women not being accountable .Its triggering .I'm assuming you are a male ..Well look at the mess your gender made of the planet .Check ya self before you open ya mouth .. Let compare what the female gender has done to the males I bet you look alot more insane than we do .And I bet your a wm or one of those wanna be wm making this gaslighting comment ..Boy go sit your backside down somewhere 👆🏾

[@valeriemcguire7331]

Blows my mind, how can people be so ignorant, and give away so much money to someone they never met in person.

[@man.i.literally.failed6772]

maybe we should all do it, humans are dumb

[@marcycat]

They're delusional

[@Carmen-or7gy]

Her husband must be spinning in his grave. The money he worked for all his life, she gave to a scammer. How sick. These elderly people are so desperate, delusional, and so thirsty for attention. So sad. Now she has to work, at her age. Don't blame the bank. Blame yourself for believing any BS you hear.

[@marknewton6984]

Never met? She needs a lobotomy.😮

[@astoerbrauck]

If an online friend calls you "my Queen" after a short period of time, it seems to be a major, massive, huge red flag. Because it feels like in every scammer story that nick comes up.

[@Donnaleslie]

Yes, that and "Babe." It's so they don't accidently call one of the many people they are scamming by the wrong name.

[@Ashethetics]

Also an incredibly thick Nigerian accent from a man who tells you he’s American is usually a clue too.

[@pupikatz8442]

Absolutely true!

[@stephenking3356]

Also, never give money to any guy named "Roger Luv."

[@flybirds2024]

If an online friend asks you for money after a short period it is a major red flag but it keeps happening.

[@paulinemclean375]

It baffles me that they never pick up the fact that he has an African accent.

[@eckankar7756]

She tries to throw her bank under the bus for not catching her withdrawals. She did it herself, she chose not to involve her family in sending money.

[@isay207]

If I was her children Id say your on your own now she deserves it

[@Mphx321]

Gave away her kid's inheritance, Way to go mom

[@victorias5272]

And she thinks a part time job will make up for it 😖

[@maicolx7776]

Kids really have to keep an tight eye on the parents

[@deleqtronica8733]

$500k is an insane amount of money to the average person, even if she took home $100k a year that's still 5 years of non-stop saving with not a penny spent, I really doubt she's able to even make 50k a year at a part-time job, which would 10 years of that.

[@fwb777]

Children should go work!

[@God.Almighty]

understand your position but it is/was her money not her kids. if she wants to throw it in a drum and set it on fire, it's her prerogative. in fact, it would have been much more preferable for her to burn her money than to give it to the scum.

[@seekingthemiddleway4048]

The scammer sounds young and African but she wanted to believe this so much. You're already invested. Backing away, admitting you're being duped is so hard because you have to destroy your own dream. Brave to share her story to help others.

[@brendamills13]

HOW does one believe the phone call is an oil man from Houston , Tx....the afrikan accent is obvious....

[@teejames5098]

lol, I shouldn't be laughing so hard...

[@gracietilert8952]

That is exactly what I thought also. The accent is very prominent.

[@eckankar7756]

There has never been a time with more people on the planet than today. We can't get away from people, standing in lines, traffic, shopping. Why not meet someone local and have some frequent interaction, get to know someone in person, not on the phone half the planet away.

[@nataliamiles7109]

@@brendamills13 Yes, he sounds like a young African, probably Nigerian. How could she believe that a white man from Texas would sound like a young black man from Africa?

[@ritabecker5625]

What does she think the police can do about it ? You gave your money away deliberatly. In a legal sense there is no crime.

[@kayecastleman6353]

It's fraud. But it's international fraud, so my guess is local authorities are powerless. Interpol generally has bigger fish to fry, but I believe they do take on some of these cases when an organized ring is involved. Banks will often try to warn customers, but by that time the victim is usually in too deep to recognize sound advice.

[@cafsixtieslover]

If you want someone to have coffee or go to shows with, local ladies with similar interest would be a lot safer than a dating site.

[@belindascott2747]

They don't nuture their friends because they give everything to a man. Terrible!

[@revekat2053]

She wanted a biscotti if you know what I mean 😉

[@nataliamiles7109]

@@belindascott2747 Women are very competitive with each, and insecure women can be very hateful, jealous, and vicious to those they think are prettier. They are not about to gift another woman with half a million dollars.

[@belindascott2747]

@@nataliamiles7109 you need better girl friends

[@nataliamiles7109]

@@belindascott2747 Belinda, you are so correct! Women who will not have you around their husbands are not your real friends. A real friend would not be consumed with jealousy.

[@virginiawaters3220]

My queen? Now that should set off alarm bells as that is not a phrase an old white man would use!

[@Naturefan354]

That’s what I said!

[@gayleblair7066]

Exactly what I was thinking.

[@dallen977]

Exactly!!

[@fivestar000]

What will a old white man would have said?

[@katemiller7874]

My husband calls me the queen all the time and our daughter are princesses.

[@christinebeames2311]

This lady should not be out on her own

[@eckankar7756]

Absolutely, her family needs to watch her.

[@FreeSpirit47]

@@eckankar7756 Actually the opposite is true. When she learns to be content with her own company so that she is not so desperate, she will be less vulnerable to the predatory pos scammers. When a person is happy. not needing someone else so desperately, the scammers will have nothing to offer that she might want or need.

[@eckankar7756]

@@FreeSpirit47 I have a friend of mine I've been waiting for her to get to this state and clearly has never unfolded to be happy with her own company. She's 74 years old and still trying to find a man, looking even in nursing homes. Some people learn and grow, others keep popping their heads up like Whack a Mole.

[@FreeSpirit47]

@@eckankar7756 OMG. That is so sad. I can tell you that the process is to allow yourself to adjust to being single, living alone. Many people get hung up, ensnared by themselves BECAUSE they FIGHT the adjustment. That is the key. Just as people adjust to the change of seasons or moving to a different domicile, when a person allows themselves to adjust, they are no longer vulnerable to scammers online or in real life.

[@eckankar7756]

@@FreeSpirit47 Some people are simply professional victims. They need the approval and attention of someone else to bring value into their life. An abuser can instinctually smell the loneliness and fear of isolation in a victim. Abusers can hear it in the victim's words, how they react and speak, how they cower when the abuser threatens to withdrawal. It just digs the hooks in deeper and the victim can't escape. The bate and hook are swallowed, they've been catfished and little chance to get away. Odd, but a victim and an abuser need each other to feed their inadequacies on. Scammers do it long distance with only financial ruin left as scars, in person it could be much worse. Until either heal the wounded inner child's needs both will continue to seek the nurturing they need in risky behavior with strangers they assume will fill that void. Most can't reason or intellectualize the empty feeling inside. Some eventually avoid feeling it and move on placing their attention on a brighter future. The self imposed inadequacy is replaced with reliances and appreciation of one's own self. Some evolve to healthy self appreciation and others repeat their lessons until, hopefully, one day they will.

[@pdlc3581]

Gemstones mined in Alaska, sent to Dubai, etc. A kid wouldn't fall for such idiotic crap.

[@veronicababy7959]

I can’t decide if he got malaria in Alaska or Dubai.

[@andrewdurand339]

Dubai comes up in a lot of scammer's stories. Why that one city?

[@abigail1023]

@@andrewdurand339 JMO, but it seems every time one of them learns about a new place, profession, etc., they share it with the other scammers if it seems to work. None of my email scammers have heard of any country besides "United State of America". Just one state, united.😄

[@hauntedhalo2264]

She is a kid

[@lydiat5819]

Can't blame the bank. If you dont listen to advice from your friends, would you have listened to a random bank employee? You would have withdrawn cash to send the money via another bank.

[@Nonameforyou777]

Exactly!!! An acquaintance did that and got himself a pre-paid Visa card where he gets his money deposited. It becomes a sickness!!! 😤

[@ivanaandric5703]

Exactly!! It's not the banks foult that you're stupid and live in a fantasy land!

[@lockandloadlikehell]

I can't imagine this woman didn't make her fortune via her husband- based on her lack of discernment Js But it's sad it happened

[@ParisDanielle]

This makes me glad my grandmother only knows how to use a flip phone.

[@jonr2859]

Even if he was a real guy, the fact that he told her he was broke sounds like trouble from the get go. I feel really bad for this lady, but as an introverted loner-type myself, I can't imagine the psychological trauma she went through losing her husband that it sounds like she had been going steady with since 14...☹ Also feel bad for the dead husband....should have just quit working 20 years sooner and enjoyed life if he would have known she was just going to piss it away like this☹☹

[@dashopepper]

What's really sad is that if you look at the pictures of the man she believed she was talking to, he's clearly not down-on-his-luck and going through some hard times. The disconnect is sad.

[@alison__16]

She's blaming the bank for not stopping her ??? 🤦🤦😂😂😂

[@marknewton6984]

You can't cure stupid.

[@francinesanchez5402]

Banks actually do have tons of fraud alerts. 25? Ishyears ago when this thing wasn’t more common. I almost fell for something and the bank stopped me. I was glad it didn’t go through. It’s not a bad idea to have mandatory information given or alerts when certain things happen. Especially with so many criminals preying on the elderly or gullible.

[@mjob1212]

She’s having an attorney looking into the banks and why they didn’t catch this sooner?!? Take some freaking responsibility. I’m sure they questioned you and you lied. The banks are dealing with this on a daily basis. Girl bye.

[@siobhankennedy4821]

Yep, totally agree. I hate liars more than used car salesmen! She definitely was asked by the bank and lied.

[@dianekeegan5250]

Agree..she's blaming everyone else but herself ..sorry lady but you lost your money and its gone ..move on now and learn a very valuable lesson from this ..

[@Naturefan354]

@@dianekeegan5250 Exactly! Everyone that gets scammed always has people who are trying to give them a dose of reality but they refuse to believe or listen

[@dianekeegan5250]

@@Naturefan354 correct ...but she chose to ignore everyone and all the warning signs..I know people believe a few things but to send someone you've never met practically all the money you have is just unbelievable..but unfortunately people believe the lies ..and she had people telling her not to do it but she did it anyway..as I said more fool her ..

[@Ast151]

i also think she is not telling the whole truth. He probably promised her % of those gemstones.

[@redplanet205]

Never look for love or companionship online when you are vulnerable and lonely ladies (and men). Also these scammers use poetry and a sob story every time. Normal men don’t sit around writing love notes to strangers online, this is a big red flag. Normal men also don’t cry and tell their sad life story to strangers online and for a fee of thousands. Please older ladies be vigilant and smart with your heart and money.

[@lindajackson2382]

Older ladies-- and men-- aren't the ONLY age group to fall prey to scammers!

[@Ast151]

This Roger didn't read poetry, but he has gemstones.

[@ladyjade6446]

Ha my boyfriend doesn’t write me cheesy love notes or call me queen. Lol. He’s very sexy and that’s all I need. Lol

[@belarte7063]

Scammers are everywhere..Church ,library, post office,bar they can attack anywhere vulnerable pray

[@AL-zz4mz]

She sent half a million because she was so lonely! Unbelievable

[@maryannmorgan6464]

With that $500,000, she could have been taking trips on the money she sent him, and she wouldn't be lonely. Maybe she would have me a live person that didn't need her money.

[@mostynthebrave6963]

She could have got an escort for less than this

[@diniemadsen4778]

She could have make a nice trip around the world from that money, when you’re lonely at this age, find a good friend and travel

[@midnightrocker7]

She could of went on a nice cruise vacation instead, it would of been alot less, lol

[@marknewton6984]

Get a cat.

[@catman3953]

She hides what she's doing from her family, but thinks the bank should be on the lookout....Sad to know there're people willing to be tugged around by their heart strings.

[@isabeldias8609]

I worked in a bank for over 40 years and heard stupid people like her blaming the bank for their own stupidity. It happened many times.some people more than once.

[@marknewton6984]

Some people ALL the time!😅

[@bdflatlander]

Your comment makes me think of something the great George Carlin once said: “when you think about how stupid the average person is and then realize that half of them a stupider than that”. Financial illiteracy and common sense are in dangerously short supply these days which makes for fertile opportunities for these Indian and Nigerian scammers. They probably had this woman figured out after the first time they contacted her. Advice to people on dating apps: in your profile state that you are only interested in pursuing relationships within a reasonable driving distance from where you live and can meet the suitor in person. Also, verify, verify verify!!

[@Ir-of4zn]

Why blame the bank. Your signature was behind every transaction . Just work part time and replenish money.

[@nnyv0040]

This lady is very sheltered. How do you get scammed half a million by a man you've never met with an African sounding accent? Imagine that money being spent to invest in her family and grandchildren? Her husband would be rolling in his grave. SMH.

[@eaglewinnings8003]

You say sheltered I say stupid

[@Waldo-Manfred]

he wouldn't be rolling, he would be dying one more time