TEN Types of FRIENDS you MUST AVOID on your Elegance Journey! | Avoid these friends at All Costs!

[@stormy8092]

My Dad always said, 'Better alone than in bad company."

[@tina8796]

Be careful whom you call a friend. If you don't want something to be known don't tell it. Confiding in people is a dangerous proposition. I have been shocked at the things (lies) people have told behind my back. People are not your friends. If you want a friend, get a dog or a cat. Then, you'll have a TRUE friend. Lots of people parading around pretending to be your friend and smile to your face while stabbing you in the back at the same time. Just because someone smiles at you doesn't' mean they're your friend

[@elizabethpace1591]

Sad but true.

[@proudmganda1159]

💯

[@kimciszek-kane397]

Agree

[@wayaca47]

So Bam Nailed it ! When People Show You Who They Are Believe Them: Maya Angelou

[@miriakasemiire4529]

True story

[@reneeantwi-boasiako3974]

"Do not be misled: “Bad company corrupts good character.”" (1 Corinthians 15:33 NIV)

[@lifespanwellnessbeauty-60i64]

Amen.

[@tina8796]

No truer words were ever spoken

[@92martymar]

Absolutely 🤍

[@randomvintagefilm273]

Yes!

[@autumnvaughn5889]

Amen... Always look for God-fearing women!❤

[@jennyleeisme19]

This list applies to ALL relationships for me! Friends, family, romantic, work, acquaintances...

[@Fan-qu8qy]

YES!!!!!

[@Starrr-ro8hg]

Yes 🙌

[@77sunflowers]

Some family members can be the most toxic .. they alway look at you with a smirk or a frown like there's something wrong with you.. you always feel so sick in your stomach when you're around them... and you always feel happy or content with yourself. It's like you always need to prove to them that you are good enough... but you never ever feel adequate around them.

[@kimberleykanyongo9189]

In summary ; avoid 1. The change-resistant friend (they hate self improvement) 2. The complacent friend (they never take you seriously. 3. The reckless (dramatic and troublesome - resistant to advice) 4. The jealous friend. 5. The criticiser (they naturally abhore dreams) 6. The "if I can't do it, you can't do it." ( their greatest joy is to see you fail) 7. The negative minded friend. 8. The boundary breacher. 9. The malicious (they are always fault-finding ) 10. The guilt tripper ( they manipulate you to think you don't do enough)

[@ladybrave2658]

Very helpful, thanks. Was in a hurry 😅

[@Momo-lv4kn]

Also, be careful with who fake praise you, but deep down, they mean nothing with smilely face.

[@princesschumbaa98]

​@@Momo-lv4kntrue

[@faithhope4703]

Thanks!

[@92martymar]

So Helpful Thanks 🌸

[@tina8796]

The jealous "friend" is NOT your friend. They're a low-key hater

[@Shay4YourMind81]

Exactly 💯

[@thesmiffs2006]

“Hater” is low class, tacky slang…..

[@tina8796]

‼ People who are gossiping to you are gossiping ABOUT YOU. And you can take that to the bank ‼

[@kimciszek-kane397]

Agree

[@user-gc8qc6zz3u]

True

[@linasornsuwan2781]

Agree 👍

[@Yahovereverything761]

Amen!!!!

[@user-np2sg6yf9z]

I’m a man. but I can’t help being your fan. You are definitely helping men by helping women. Hopefully homes will get back together with these very insightful and wise teachings. Thank you.

[@jessicasteele2761]

Isn't she sublime?

[@HSBsoulsurfer]

Thank you for being here; we need healthy men too. Not enough people doing the work in such weird times.

[@Linda-ot3pj]

A really genuine good friend is like a rare diamond. The human race is so wounded and unhealed. We have become so terrible at love I always ask God to put His spirit of love inside of me. Be a being of love. EXUDE LOVE

[@Passions5555]

So true. The human race is beyond wounded. We are suffering from spiritual gangrene.

[@Friends46488]

Well said.

[@GuidetteExpert]

I can tell you as a woman getting to her 30's that the friend circle is soooo important in how you end up in your future. Ofc spending time with family and friends in your work can also impact you. Just chose to speak with people that are good for you and are how you want to be.

[@tina8796]

Get rid of low-key haters. I got rid of two so-called friends that were low-key haters. Very happy to be rid of their toxic behavior. Snide comments, etc. They claim they don't know why ? Really ! They KNOW

[@divinelove4604]

I would not call someone who is jealous of me a friend. Jealousy is a muderous spirit.

[@Amgirl03]

Great list! Super important and it weeds alot of unsavory results out of your life. Better to be friendless for awhile and get closer to The Most High than to desperately cling to the distractions..the enemy put in your life to keep you away from Abba's purpose for your life...

[@kayp.3832]

I use the term "friends" loosely. They are not many out there....

[@LazyAmericanWoman]

wouldn’t using it loosely imply that you call any and everybody friend?

[@jamarlblackett7663]

Very Tru

[@Beccadette]

You are the sum of who you hang out with. You also start exhibiting their characteristics. I thought that the removal of these friends from my life was a loss. No, it was me realizing who I am. Thank you for the videos on the leveling up journey. 🧡

[@sarahbartholomew3442]

If you want to level up and be classy, stay away from trashy women! If you don’t want to be a pick me, stay away from those types! I’m really struggling w this. You really are who you’re friends are.

[@OnlyOne_Her]

Hey Vivian I love your content, can you please consider doing a video on toxic parents that manipulates and how to detach from them?

[@Adriana-ph2eb]

Define your limits, find your own home, be respectful at all time. 😉

[@elizabethpace1591]

Unfortunately, there are too many people like this around, you have to take care of yourself. Excellent video, thank you for sharing ❤

[@garimamishra2340]

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[@lolajacomino6574]

For all the points that you just mentioned and some more, I don’t have friends. I only deal with my family and with some of them I have to be like walking on egg shells. There are is always dramas with family so I think that’s enough. I used to give myself entirely to friends, honestly, entirely, not anymore. I’ve learn so much, well….I’m 73 now, so I have had enough experience. Thank you again for your work and for making these super helping videos. We all need them ❤

[@joanramsey4002]

Thank you Vivian. Yes, I agree with your list. I had a so called friend and I had to get advice from the police to deal with some of the antics, she was very sneaky! That done, my life improved no end. I later found out that another mutual friend was having a bad time with her too. A regular church goer, no one would suspect her. I still keep the crime reference reports as a reminder to be more discerning.

[@tina8796]

OMG. That sounds like our neighbor. We had to threaten her with the police and lawyer's office. She is also very sneaky / phony. We're very glad to be rid of her. She terrorized us constantly.

[@joanramsey4002]

@@tina8796 Glad that life has improved for you. Nobody really understands how bad it can get, they think you're crazy. My trust in people has changed, a lesson learned for sure.

[@user-hq9iv4ff2c]

Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.

[@user-hq9iv4ff2c]

Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counsellor, and how do i reach her?

[@user-hq9iv4ff2c]

Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive.

[@harmonychidimmaonwujiobi]

Thank you Vee❤😊

[@lvettesonai]

These are all spot on!! Sadly, a lot I recognize in people who are supposed to be my spiritual family. 😏 Bad association 🎯

[@lvettesonai]

@@Heythere2810 Absolutely

[@lisau.4307]

As always another insightful and encouraging video! This type of video is also an important reminder to myself to not be that type of person as well.

[@louisjaugustin8673]

I used to have many friends who I thought could be trusted I almost ended up with money and financial problem just for helping others now I'm very precaution and try to be careful who to be friends with!

[@Anika99356]

First view 😅. Can you please a make a video on the most common etiquette mistakes people do? Thank you.

[@freedom1049]

Oh Vivian, you just described some of my family members, including my mom! 😮

[@Friends46488]

Micah 7:5-6

[@PASKAALINGA-gu9xc]

Vivi you are indeed an elegance ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤we shall eliminate such kind of friends around us ❤

[@debbiedorsey2371]

Thank you for this video! Much needed and you are awesome!

[@proudmganda1159]

Viv ❤very well said. At my 50 years I said good bye to growth without forgetting my family members and I am at peace ✌️ ❤

[@LazyAmericanWoman]

i love your videos and i appreciate your service of teaching us ❤

[@AReid-ss3kk]

Good topic. Good job! True friends are priceless and rare. If you have one good friend you are blessed.

[@julijakeit]

My main red flags in choosing friends are: 1. Obvious toxic traits: jealous, gossiper, lack of integrity (liar, user, transactional, manipulator, criminal). They may start as a witty joker of the group gossiping about common acquaintances or celebrities or circumstances but soon they betray their jealousy, lack of integrity and only thrive for drama or to use others and then turn against you the moment you say no to them. 2. Naggers, complainers, criticizers, eternal victims. These people are incapable of doing things on their own, they'd rather blame everyone for the world being unfair, and will look for any excuse not to level up. They will also play 'experts' on how things should be done, never applying the same principles themselves. Worse, they will turn into toxic people from list no 1 as soon as YOU start succeeding inspite of the excuses they made for their failures. 3. Mentally immature people, sometimes because of one or multiple personality or brain disorders. These people need to see a therapist to heal before they form any relationship. Some of them need medication to control their disorders. Sad as it is, stay away from them the moment they betray any of the traits associated with mental disorder or even admit they have one or multiple.

[@TheMocao]

Over the years, I’ve had to end “friendships” with a few people who were passive aggressive. I once heard a pastor say, “If you don’t know who you are, there are people who will try to tell you.”

[@expinankehmanjong7209]

Hey Vivian. I really like your videos. Accept love from Cameroon. I listened to this video at the angle of " could I be one or more types of a friend that my "so called friend" might think to avoid someday?" I'm a selective person when it gets to putting some people in my "circle of friends" and that keeps me moving stress-free in life. It's heart warming to know you're not as named above to those you love and call friends.❤

[@jessicasteele2761]

Hello to Cameroon!

[@expinankehmanjong7209]

@@jessicasteele2761 thanks a lot🙌.

[@estheradu3192]

Great to be back here again. Thank you for sharing such great information.

[@Shayane-ub8ky]

Beautiful lovely elegant lady of wisdom

[@d-cameliaR]

I ve recently made the difficult decision to ask myself the hardest questions about my friendships. I discovered that a childhood friend who sometimes reaches out to me was a source of negativity, vulgarity and even abuse. When I told this friend just a little bit about how I felt she immediately justified herself, blamed me and twisted my words. I hope I will have the courage to cut her off completly. Thank you Viviene for your content! ❤

[@sbm3417]

Lady of Elegance are real. I have experience alot around me sometimes negative energy from other. I have a friend very mouthy and gobby do go mile of insults. I have learn not to speak too much of my plans in front of her. 😮👀🙏🏿ENGLAND 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁥󠁮󠁧󠁿

[@queenstoner9407]

Jealous friends soo toxic avoid those ppme

[@nellygold4ever]

I love that "No one really fails, unless the make the decision/choice of not trying again". Right on point

[@claudiafagim8202]

Dear Elegance. You are right about everything.I grew up thinking I had to please everyone and accept people as they were.Thank God ,I was somehow aware of bad paths one can take and that stopped me from being with the wrong people.

[@lusiahaundjondjo1949]

Thank you very much, Vivian, for sharing. Indeed, your lesson is very uplifting and educative.

[@guadeloupe61]

Hello, thank you for this video. This is really good advice. I am sorry for the back-stabbing that happened to you, I mean it; it happened to me too. Sabine.

[@LeahWalentosky]

When a friend wants to change I always say: you are a good person but you know who you are and you know what is best in your journey so I will support you through it

[@saniyyahhollingsworth7064]

Thank for sharing this useful information.

[@aaronaustrie]

That’s why I rarely have friends. That’s something that’s hard to find today.

[@SB-hj3mg]

On point! Thx for the absolute truth!

[@haniamakram3399]

Excellent video! Came right in time when I just had a row with a “criticizer”!

[@joyamenpryce8979]

Thank you very much for your inspiring and informative information. I do appreciate it. Love ❤️ and Light 💡.

[@Trevonvaul]

THANKS, I'VE RECENTLY HAD AN AWAKENING WHERE IT RELATES TO TRUE AND REAL FRIENDSHIP, I WILL NOW AUDIT TO CHOOSE WISELY. WHERE I AM IN MY JOURNEY AT THIS PRESENT MOMENT, I CHOOSE PEACE OVER DRAMA.

[@alekxa90]

Your skin is glowing, so beautiful! Thanks for your video

[@lionhotty]

I throughly enjoy your content. Is it possible you could create a video about how an elegant lady should act?

[@isabelcowley1248]

❤❤❤ I've recently stumbled upon your chanel, and I'm just LOVING it. Beautifully presented, such interesting, honest and eloquent topics... they are difficult to resist. I've recently retired and began a 2 year long African Adventure Trip throughout my continent of Africa... well this "LEVELING UP" journey has clearly reflected which friends belong to which category. I quickly sifted out the jealous ones. Thank you for a beautiful chanel. ❤❤❤

[@nikeade1115]

Sooo touching… sharing your personal experience sinks this episode deeper.Thank you for what you do Viv

[@rhemamensah6582]

Thank you Ms Vivienne.

[@monicahmaina8948]

i found these points totally useful. Thaks

[@patriciakrahene9295]

I love this video ❤ thanks 🙏

[@Wiseladybrittany]

I lost two good friends on my growth journey. It's the best decision I have made . When the time comes I'll be open to making friends who are not intimidated by my growth . ❤❤❤

[@esthermutua1287]

Great and amazing lesson

[@adriana_admaiora9091]

This video arrives in a moment of my life of deep changes and leveling up goals humanly and professionaly. I'm getting rid of a lot of people who used to call themselves "my friends". Some of them using the Bible too!

[@CarolineWamucii-gr3ym]

Useful points. Most describe narcissistic behaviour. Steer clear.

[@carineokeh3543]

I came across this channel today. I decided to subscribe to your channel. Your words are full of wisdom.❤

[@widowswatch6610]

I have never had a good friend. I don’t know why. But I am older now but I love your videos and will follow your information. ( I feel like I am a kind person )

[@f.jp.s9668]

You are really elegant yourself my dear. Thank you for what you are doing.

[@estherabaqueen]

God bless you sis. Thank you 💜

[@ojimaojoatabo1745]

Good and educational presentation. God bless you richly Vivian ❤

[@Starrr-ro8hg]

This is so true about the jealousy so true even your family can say you could never . … so smart thing to do is Do you don’t say a word

[@Ericaashu]

I had a friend who have all. Of the character, it was so draining pulling up with her. I just has to walk away coz I got tired of the negativity.

[@nnennaeze6575]

Very useful God bless and keep you Vivian

[@sheliasmith1242]

Thank you that was the best advice clear and concise and to the point

[@marie-clairemotchie349]

Impressive! Thank you ❤

[@RichInFLAVOR]

Excellent!

[@hwh5045]

Love you n thank you❤🙏🏼

[@Eagle77744]

Friends are full of " " you know what? So it best to be your best friend. Have no attachment but have fun

[@McQueenDP]

Very informative

[@biblebeliever.7]

Open my eyes to the toxic friends in my life, God bless you Vivian ❤

[@octaviahicks-braye9859]

This is great information. It is true Bad company corrupts good morals. This is biblical. Being excepted is overrated.

[@user-od2td3le8o]

nice one, i love your channel

[@therealcraftymom10]

I just wanted to say thank you for these videos ❤

[@loveisthegreatest1112]

I love your channel

[@user-hu5gz3vm7r]

Thanks for sharing ma'am I'm reminded about whom to dislodge and whom to keep.

[@asha4189]

This is very helpful and knowledgeable! Would love to hear a video on the kinds of qualities to look for to cultivate healthy friendships

[@bevo6684]

👏👏👏👏👏 still hoping to receive the book 👍🏽

[@dianambabazi-cy1hw]

I wish I had found you out ten years back. I would never have gone through a lot of wicked friends you mentioned . I have very few friends and I feel light , unlike back then when I entertained people I called friends who had I'll intentions.

[@user-xq3yd1mv3y]

Luckily I've never had a jealous friend! Thank you Vivienne :)

[@user-kc4uk3iw7d]

You are 90 million percent correct love you to the max ❤️❤️❤️❤️💪💪💪🇧🇸🙋

[@doreenmoeletsi6839]

Some friends would discourage you to check the disadvantaged and make you feel bad when you reach out...yet they later still your ideas to prove that they are better than you.

[@chea591]

Very helpful! Thank you so much for doing this 😊❤❤❤❤

[@HumanbeingonfloatingEarth]

you are such a breath of fresh air.

[@ingridbell6769]

Thank you for delivering such quality content. ❤

[@bettyg7274]

Excellent

[@blanchendifor1809]

Thanks Vi vi

[@island661]

I have zero friends and I prefer it that way. Most people are toxic and fake.

[@NanaGomez-dm9to]

Thank you

[@NilgunYetis]

All About boundries and you are well defining.thank you.

[@bettyobuzor8799]

Absolutely true

[@blanchendifor1809]

Thanks again

[@audreypichot8371]

You kinda described my mom! 😅 Just because we’re family I can do this. Lol

[@camillawilliams3954]

Stories told through envy / jealousy are not nice i.e. "not elegant". But the thing is: are they true? Apparently they were true for her ex boyfriend i.e. you could not convincingly refute the story.