🤍 Women Came For Each Other - Must Watch

[@gracillemillington3368]

Salvation is a choice..getting married is a choice...singlehood is a choice.People still have the ability to choice...

[@TazWardx]

Salvation is not a choice the father has to choose you you can't choose the father OMG that's why only one third of the people is going to be saved.

[@charmanyhaddock3768]

@@TazWardx you right. When God chose to love you you must chose to love Him back so it is in a way a choice.

[@TazWardx]

@@charmanyhaddock3768 how do you show your love to the father by keeping his law statues and commandments that's how because sin is the transgression of the law. That means quitting shrimp crab pork and lobster if you do, love thy brother as you love thyself, and the rest of the ten commandments try to obey 613 commandments we all know we going to fail them but at least repent some of the laws we just naturally going to do anyway. Start with the Torah laws of Leviticus first learn those laws first that's how you show your love to the father. And like I stated before first he has to choose you first so once again you have to be chosen first that's why we pray with due diligence that we are chosen.

[@charmanyhaddock3768]

@@TazWardx following and not changing ones heart is not acceptable but following leaves room for growth and maturity so it helps

[@TazWardx]

@@charmanyhaddock3768 James 1:17"every good gift, and every perfect gift, is from above, and come down from the father of the lights, with whom has no variation of shadow". That means if the father sends you a gift that means a gift the laws that you is in commandments to protect you from something what is that something from death or not only your life salvation but your soul salvation which is the law statues in commandments because faith without works is dead and vice versa does that give change no it does not so therefore the father no he does not change he was the same back then and he is the same now if he sends you to get the life he would give it to get the life and if he sends you the gift to death that's what he will give you the gift to death because he is a man of war, and a lot of times he passes his judgments immediately. A person can get shot and killed for no reason they can just walk down the street, a person can just sit in a car and die and they can be perfectly fine, you can fight the law and free will all you want but in the end it's the father say so not yours.

[@sinceresinclair]

Child free here- I find that people get offended by a celebration of childlessness because they , in some way, wish they had the same freedoms, peace, quiet, and autonomy to do whatever she so pleases.A lot of women that have kids will never admit how miserable motherhood is. If it doesn’t resonate with you, then keep it moving and live your life! I love the queen with the blue hair!

[@MarcusTheGreatIAmTheLastOne]

Lovely answer.

[@1Blackamerican]

Right on! That’s what I’ve learned. They question your choice because they wished they’d waited

[@kayemendi4501]

I have never and will never understand people getting offended by the celebration of childless women. It’s so freaking weird!! My own 18 y/o niece doesn’t want to ever have children. I don’t blame her because she’s always had so much responsibility being the oldest girl child. She wants her freedom from having to help raise her siblings.

[@mizzpoetrics]

I'm puzzled by people being triggered by women not wanting kids! I'm a Mom, but will celebrate with each woman whom chooses to be or not to be one! Just smh! 😩

[@sinceresinclair]

@@mizzpoetrics agreed. I think motherhood is a noble and selfless act - I salute moms. It’s just not for me!

[@roxiewatters1161]

Are people so bored that they find the stupidest thing to argue about? 😂

[@757CitiesReppa]

Yes, of course…where you been sis🤣🤣 In the age of social media…everyone’s a star 🤩

[@1Blackamerican]

I don’t understand WHY some women have a problem with women expressing HOW happy they are not being a parent. What’s really going on?? I THINK women who have a problem with this are envy and wish they should have waited? If you’re happy to be a mother. Why do u care how someone else feels? It’s not adding up. If I’m happy about MY decision. I could not care any less how someone else feels UNLESS I feel convicted, guilty or envious. AND there are a lot of women who will tell a woman who has no children, NOT to have children. Those r the HONEST ones. 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@michele33s68]

I used to be one of those women who wondered why other women didn't want children. I just loved my kids so much I mistakenly felt they would be missing out. Forgive my arrogance in assuming I knwe better than others what would make their life better and forgive these other ladies as well.

[@Masterfard019]

Nobody has a problem with it because it's her life. She is soooo strange though. I have 4 children and I am at peace.

[@mrs.w8193]

It’s just weird it’s like seeking attention. It’s super weird. NO ONE CAREs. But somehow now that they’ve announced it for the world to see, it’s on our timeline.

[@mrs.w8193]

It’s on the internet. So people will respond. I am not making videos on how great my kids are. I feel lucky everyday. To raise someone else and make a,difference in their life. But I don’t have to announce it on social media

[@rahbeeuh]

@@mrs.w8193 exactly! The opposite is also true for the childless women. Some of them seem like they're overcompensating

[@Finesseah]

As a pregnant woman that’s on my first baby at 31, idc. To each her own!!

[@NikkiAtlanta35]

I've never understood this. If people don't want kids they don't want kids. I don't understand why Womanhood is tied exclusively to Motherhood and being a wife. Some women don't have the desire to have children, and that's okay. I don't get why it's weird for people to say that they don't want kids, but it's okay to force down everybody's throat how you should have kids and a family.

[@msmarcia8972]

Have Kids, Don’t Have Kids. Go About Your Day🙂🙂

[@lf1496]

Being old sick and alone is not cute. The problem is that people think the person they are now is who they will ALWAYS be. You are old a lot longer than we are young and cute. I'm in my 30's happily married and have 4 children. I knew I didn't want to be one of those women feeding my pet alone in some house or apartment with no grandchildren and kids to hold my hand as I transitioned. This idea of childless and free is the mind of stupid short sided people.

[@MrsCrandon]

Have or not having kids is a choice y people so mad

[@DestinyUteh]

🤷🏾‍♀️

[@Tootsthatsme]

@Tanis Haynes exactly

[@cri1625]

It's amazing to me that people talk/express feelings about their own personal lives and somebody else will become offended by how a person feels about their life. The same way people who have children (I one of them) like to go on and talk about their own children and how happy they are that they had children. There are people in the world who do not want children and have every right to express this. The funny thing is normally the people who don't have children wound up talking about why they're so happy without children or why they do not want children is because the people who have children are always questioning them about why they don't, didn't or reasons they should have children 🙄. So the answer is maybe the reason why childrenless people are saying it on these platforms, is so people don't have to comment about their lives anymore.

[@LaBelleJouJou]

Wow, such a great perspective. 🙏🏼

[@jisi8462]

They know this. They have probably even been guilty of it. They want to pretend like women aren’t constantly being told how little value they have if they aren’t married with children. The women being vocal are basically head them off at the pass.

[@ladytesha1]

Exactly This ☝️👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@1Blackamerican]

PERFECTLY SAID!! Mothers put themselves in positions to question your choice like they have a right. Then they get angry when you express yourself. If I said WHY I chose to WAIT. They will really be pissed. I chose to WAIT because I will NOT bring a child into this world out of wedlock. And I’m not fornicating. Now what?

[@DestinyUteh]

@Cri Valid point 👏🏾👏🏽

[@lahopkins9746]

Why is it a problem for women to talk about loving their lives without children. Not everything is for everyone and I applaud the women who know what's best for themselves and not letting society convince them otherwise. If you want kids and/or have kids, great for you, but why are you offended when someone else says they are happy they don't.

[@shandahughes2886]

I feel similar to the black woman that responded to the video "not every woman should be a parent but to go around talking about something you don't want constantly is just strange " just do what you want. There are some women that regret having children but that's not every woman and some Mom's are very happy with the children that they have and get joy and fulfillment out of the blessing/gift of having children also not every woman can bare a child but want children so they have to find other alternatives ways to conceive either way as I stated before do what's in your best interest /what you want but don't make others feel as if they made a mistake by having children just do you.

[@DestinyUteh]

I agree, well said

[@thundermagnificent]

The lady said she talks about it to let others know that it is an option to NOT have children since alot of women were raised to believe they are only here to have children and are constantly told they HAVE to have children.

[@Metropolitangirl]

She clearly said why she was posting about not wanting a child. Society often ostracizes women who say they dont want kids! So whats wrong with starting a movement to say its okay to not want children! As someone who doesn’t want kids it’s refreshing to see im not alone! If the childfree content doesn’t apply to then keep it pushing

[@lillybilly9954]

I agree. Celebrating a child free is cool but why bash children or motherhood like the blonde country trailer Becky?

[@solomoon3083]

@@lillybilly9954 haha. Why not?

[@Darline_ox]

my sisters keep asking me when im going to have kids (im almost 31) so i ask if they're going to raise and pay for their needs cause im living by myself and im struggling in this recession so imagine adding someone to this...yea i have a boyfriend but things are getting more expensive not less...and that's without all of the craziness going on in this world...their kids are honestly my birth control

[@DestinyUteh]

@Darline Just be happy Sis and live your life

[@Darline_ox]

@@DestinyUteh ❤️

[@pattyellis5359]

Hi again. This is just crazy, plus, I find that they forget about women that can't even have children - some go for adoption or some live their lives without. Like me, I can't have any kids because of health problems. Part of me wanted kids and angry because there are other women that have that ability to have kids but kills them or leave them in disgusting places - etc. And the other parts of me is glad for not having kids because I know that I would worry about their safety each day - because of all the things I have seen on Facebook and KZbin of kids being harm, traffic and other twisted things. Plus, I also agree that kids are expensive, since I am still struggling to sort out my life after COVID. Thanks again for another insightful vlog. Cheers till next time.

[@DestinyUteh]

Well said. I understand what you are saying. I have had a lot of miscarriages and stillbirth, want to have kids but sometimes am glad because this world is a crazy and wicked place. Sending you lots of hugs and love 🫂🤎

[@marethahoneyb1541]

Sending you lots of luv n hugs am very sorry to hear this happened to you as well🫂 💛

[@DestinyUteh]

🤎🤎🤎🫂

[@rahbeeuh]

@@DestinyUteh much love, sis 💜

[@DestinyUteh]

@Rabia love you Sis 😘🤎🫂

[@kayemendi4501]

Women are so powerful!! We can continue creating people or we can put a stop to it all. I think that scares people, yes, even women. Use your incredible power as you please ladies!!🙌🏾

[@natlynnepope3437]

I am 64 yrs old so I have a lifetime of experience to give my opinion about to have children. I love my children. 2 boys, that's was my choice. If you don't want to have children don't. It's your life and you get to choose. Do what makes You happy.. Love and Light.

[@wandaharris612]

I'm a mom of 4 children 3 natural and 1 adopted. My first child was by accident because my doctor to me I wouldn't be able to have children so no form of contraception was used and my other 2 have 2 and 5 years apart from the first. I was the first of my siblings to have children and I have the most. My take on having children is if you know you don't want children then don't have them, it's enough children in this world not being cared for. Being a parent is hard even when you have a support system, it's time consuming, selfless, expensive, emotional, and it's a burden. No one should shame any one into having a child like children will solve the worlds problem. children should not be used or seen as problem solvers.

[@Patienceofthesaints]

You didn’t have anything good to say Sis do you regret being a parent. The scriptures told us, the children of Israel to be fruitful and multiply, to replenish the earth. I’m so sorry that I only had 1.

[@wandaharris612]

@@Patienceofthesaints Me adopting 1 should have told you I have no regrets. I grew up in an orphanage and it's was 7 of us. We went to the orphanage in stages. When I went I went with my older sister the only sibling that I could remember. With a life like that I grew to be a child advocate. That's why I said if you know you don't want children then don't have them because it's enough children out here in the system already not being taken care of. I've been a foster mom, respite worker and an adoptive parent along with having my own 3 bio children. It's been hard, would I change things if I could somedays I say no but when my body is just worn down I say yes. I chose my path and I can't complain.

[@sinceresinclair]

Best comment. I love your truth.

[@alanm03]

Children should also not be seen as problem causers.....

[@aliciac.437]

Phenomenal answer... and Bless you for sharing your heart to children who are not biologically yours... "DNA is for CSI" is my motto, love doesn't just come from having the same blood. xoxo

[@taffetajackson3770]

I don't even understand why this is a conversation. Everyone live their lives how they choose to live it. Let them argue...

[@rahbeeuh]

Sometimes I think social media was a mistake

[@1Blackamerican]

@@rahbeeuh😂😂 it can be psychological bullying. They would not dare say the things they say n your face.

[@rahbeeuh]

@@1Blackamerican true. There was already bullying but cyber bullying can often be next level. You right though, they'd never say it to someone's face.

[@Diana734]

Mother's that have proper support just need to sit down and enjoy their situation. They are blessed and others may not have the same circumstances to enjoy it like they do

[@Patienceofthesaints]

The one lady that said that she wouldn’t rant, the one that has a boyfriend, 2 dogs a house, a with a backyard with no stupid toys in it... ranting is exactly what she did: Just be happy that you don’t have children, what is the convo about?? I will say, I don’t feel that those that choose not to have a child or children should not be ridiculed for their decision.

[@memerose4190]

I have kids who I love to the core. However, I get jealous of these childless women 🤣🤣 I miss the freedom. Even though I have kids, I have never been upset that another woman didn’t want to have kids. I honestly didn’t know this was a thing. I watch childless women explain why they don’t have them JUST so I can feel a sense of freedom again! Lol Me hearing them and me imaging it is the closest thing I can get to what it’s like. 🤣🤣

[@baebypandabear7802]

Usually when ppl experience things that are great and life fulfilling, they either keep it to themselves or selectively choose others to divulge that information to. Therefore, I’m wary 😒 of women who bullies other women to have children and claim that it’s would improve and fulfill their lives.

[@swiitdoll]

Misery wants company

[@1Blackamerican]

Exactly. I believe they want ppl to be miserable with them.

[@lulac4933]

😆 🤣 I respect a person who knows they are not parental.

[@YoutubeTeasipper7856]

I think everyone has choices. If you want kids have then have them. If you don't want kids then don't have them. The problem with social media is that everyone else feels that it is ok to push your wants, opinion and traumas on other people. Me myself I don't have kids not because I don't them. I want them in a better environment and with a worthy partner.. I have seem so many friends struggling with motherhood on their own and I don't envy it that much to have it in that spectrum. And so many men are happy with the dysfunction that they constantly create within our society. I do think that children are a blessing and a representation/ reflection of you and your hard work in the long run.

[@1Blackamerican]

I refuse to be a single parent because I wanted to have sex and then end up pregnant on an “accident.” Point blank period. Let’s just be real with it. A lot of women were forced into motherhood.

[@YoutubeTeasipper7856]

@@1Blackamerican And that was the main reason that I always protected my fertility as I matured I never put that in the hands or a man. Seen ways too many situations growing up even my own with no father present. I want to be a curse breaker not a curse continuer we can change the scope of our lives and those who the ones coming after us in our leniage. There is definitely a need breed of ideals and traditions growing whether they are going to be positive or negative time will tell.

[@MN-hv5xv]

I won’t lie I wish I would’ve waited, I do not question women who don’t want children, I completely understand!

[@farahelf6120]

Well mother of 2 here i honestly never envy no childless women and i dont judge them neither. Ive been a pediatric nurse so i love children period.I believe people are free to make their own decision. And not all mothers regret becoming a mom. I love being a mom. I remember so many times when overwhelmed and feeling alone and my daughter comes and hug and kiss and tell me i love you mommy dont cry. My kids are my rock. Motherhood is the best thing that ever happens to me. So i respect your choice then respect mine 😊

[@Blasto2x]

I just wanted to mention something. People assume that children stay children forever. They grow up FAST. I am a Mother of 3 and sometimes it hits me like a ton of bricks how old they are. I find nothing makes you confront the reality of your own mortality than looking into your children’s eyes and realizing they’re not in diapers anymore. With every year they age, you age. I think inherently that is what childless women fear and are afraid to confront-their mortality. Without children they subconsciously feel they can remain children themselves.

[@lorirobinson4004]

Just because you get married and have children doesn't mean that when you reach menopause that won't be all alone.

[@marethahoneyb1541]

There are folks like myself who feel life wouldn’t be fulfilled without children in it so I made sure to have me 2 of them however I luv children so much that I wish everyone who doesn’t want children would make the wise decision to not have any, no shame leaves having children to those of us that like them knowing that those lil ppl will be taking much from you because they’re always in need however they give back so much more

[@pieces9678]

Motherhood is not for everyone don't let anyone gaslight you into having one especially when you aren't financially and emotionally ready to have them. If you don't want them then don't have them. Don't do that to yourself or a child f what everyone is talking about.

[@monaecoles1960]

I laughed the whole video. Both sides need to shut up! Why do you need an online community to talk about not having children or having children? Both sides sound unsure about their decision. SMH My kids are grown, so I have the best of both worlds. 😉

[@_Darkskullet]

While I might agree with not having kids "personally". I don't think we should degrade those with kids some actually enjoy that .

[@Heartfeltpsalms120]

…Beautiful Blessings to both sides.

[@mommak10]

The “crotch goblins “ lady was hilarious 😂😂😂❤

[@ceecee4552]

I agree with not wanting kids.I am Blessed to have kids.But some people are not meant to have kids. CHILD ABUSE IS WRONG .

[@elyse443]

There’s so much shaming from women towards each other. It’s really a shame.

[@rohiniguiland4873]

Its the idea that she thinks by enjoying your childless situation and sharing it it is a rant

[@makiba9461]

More power to those women who don't have children because they don't want children. I have seen too many women who don't even like children have 3 to 5 of them. What happens is that the women and the children are miserable. I have seen too many children abuse, neglected and mistreated by women who did not want them. So, if you don't like or don't want them, please don't bring them into this world.

[@user-pw2gx4ej4o]

People have the right to feel like they want. I don’t get mad when people say they don’t want children. I live a good life with my child and still have a lot of freedoms like childless people. But again I had my child when I was 31 and I’ve always wanted kids…

[@sheillanyakato2153]

32 don't have kids as I already took care of of my younger brother and paid his College as he is 10yrs younger plus I am African meaning the older takes care of the younger especially since my mother also died so I've done it and don't have energy to tak care of another child.

[@x80WildCat08x]

When there are no wars or problems people like to create them.

[@quadraticequation8595]

I think kids are wonderful, but they just aren’t for everybody.

[@vigarobugsbunni]

I have never understood why people get pissed off about what other people are doing!?

[@missbstuurman]

"We 3enjoy talking about not having kids" what🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@MizoletteTV]

I’m team NOT having kids. I’m 43 and I never really wanted them. Sorry not sorry.

[@rahbeeuh]

If you're PFP is correct, I've never seen a lady use Aaron instead of Erin. It's unique!

[@DestinyUteh]

@Aaron Miz Olette live your life sis. Be happy

[@lf1496]

Being old sick and alone is not cute. The problem is that people think the person they are now is who they will ALWAYS be. You are old a lot longer than we are young and cute. I'm in my 30's happily married and have 4 children. I knew I didn't want to be one of those women feeding my pet alone in some house or apartment with no grandchildren and kids to hold my hand as I transitioned. This idea of childless and free is the mind of stupid short sided people.

[@udb1987]

@@lf1496 Why would you assume she's alone? Just because she doesn't have children doesn't mean she doesn't have a family or loved ones who supports her? Who says she's single? Also you don't have to have children to be surrounded by them. That's what nieces, nephews, and godchildren are for. For you to assume that is very presumptuous of you. Women who don't have children are very rarely alone. Even into old age. Your outdated view is very telling.

[@takethat7566]

I have 3 children and they never ran around screaming at the top of the lungs. Look have children or don't For the lady thinking her life is better because she has 2 big ass dogs rather then children guess what.... you still have to walk them , feed them , keep up with their health and everything else Just not understanding your choices for your life is everyone else's business

[@Diana734]

Dogs are less maintenance than kids.😅

[@lalat5899]

9:54 she got me 💀💀 😂😂😂 she keep it real ‼️

[@LaBelleJouJou]

A huge shout out to Destiny Uteh! One of my fav content creators. I really appreciate your take on the topics I’ve viewed on your channel. Thank you very much ❤😘

[@DestinyUteh]

Thank you so much Sis 😘🤗🫂 I appreciate you 🙏🏽🤎

[@LaBelleJouJou]

@@DestinyUteh your welcome Sis 🌷

[@prettynikki73]

What I do or don’t do., SHOULDN’T make another eat, sleep, or sh!t. When I was younger I said I didn’t want children or to be married. I wanted to have a fabulous career and travel the world. I wanted FREEDOM!!! Suffice to say I have two adult children and now I’m a grandmother of two little girls. And I’m EXHAUSTED 😂. My money went to my children., now it goes to my grandchildren 😂. I daydream and dream at night about a life without kids., that’s when and where I’m FREE!!! 😂 But seriously, I LOVE MY CHILDREN and GRANDCHILDREN. And my husband and I were able to raise some pretty damn great adults., considering all of the things we had against us. The responsibility you feel to them never ends though. I didn’t even want to cook for 16 hrs for Thanksgiving., but I felt responsible to do so because my children look forward to that. I don’t like celebrating holidays., but I do for them., and my grandchildren. Even though I love my children and grandchildren., I still wonder what my life would’ve been like had I not gotten married and had children. It’s NOT easy raising good humans. It’s NOT CHEAP EITHER. So, when I hear women say they don’t want children… I get it., and I applaud them for being honest, and sticking to it. Plus, HAVE YOU SEEN THIS F’D UP COUNTRY and WORLD LATELY!?! Watching and having to support my children and still help them navigate this country and world specifically as Black people., IS HARD. Societally, racially, economically, politically, spiritually, etc IS HARD. I find myself CONSTANTLY praying for their protection and safety too. I can bet that white woman that just couldn’t fathom other women deciding for THEMSELVES not to have children., has some amount of wealth, most likely has/had nannies, and housekeepers too. And has NO idea of all that comes with having children., and what comes with being Black and having Black children. Her smugness about the matter relays that. And I can bet she also voted Republican, who wants to turn America into “Handmaidens”. Thereby voting AGAINST FREEDOM to choose for yourself. I applaud those women who have made that choice for THEMSELVES.

[@clementmckenzie7041]

She is right. If she doesn't want kids and she would rather enjoy her life without kids and with her money good for her.

[@tth715]

It’s a Hard NO for me…. I’ve never had a desire to be anything other than a fur baby mom (dog) 🐶, possibly a cat 🐈‍⬛ or tortoise 🐢 mom, one day 🤷🏾‍♀️😑…. Hats 👒 off to all the great 🥳😊 moms like my mom, aunts and friends! It’s definitely a selfless and thankless job but I imagine rewarding as well. It just doesn’t appeal to me…and that’s okay ✅

[@lalat5899]

This comment is for me. I want two dogs, a cat, and a turtle 😂😂

[@adellturner3846]

I’m sorry at 2:14 did she just say a 4yr old mother of 2?! I’m still stuck there 😂😂😂

[@DestinyUteh]

🤣🤣

[@redtankgirl5]

I agree with the commenter that if you don’t want children that’s your choice to do so or not but I don’t exactly agree with her analogy comparing talking about not being a mother or not being a doctor. People don’t ask a woman when they meet her if she’s a doctor but they do ask her if she has kids, usually amongst the first questions they ask. Then it proceeds to when or why, as if it’s either their business or a crime to not do the same or you’re in a phase unless you see their point of view. It’s never a problem to be child free as long as you shut up about it and don’t talk about it or make up good excuses for them. That’s just been my experience.

[@bluebird7557]

Mine as well. I've gotten to the point where I tell people I don't want to discuss my personal life, just so I won't get questioned and shamed for not having children.

[@andrenefinn704]

As BW we have our own problems. Moving on..

[@ladytesha1]

Team not having kids I helped raise my nieces no thank you

[@mrs.w8193]

Ok why are they announcing the fact that they don’t want kids? Who CAReSSS??? Ugh. Don’t have them then. 🤷🏾‍♀️ we love having kids. Plus we have good money management. We both work from home so costs are low. Also no daycare

[@swiitdoll]

Just like u are announcing now. Nobody cares!!!

[@charmanyhaddock3768]

I call it stress free life.

[@rainbeauxunicorn5237]

😒“Child-free” woman have the same vibe as “I don’t date bw” blk men. Ok. Do what you do and leave mothers and children out of it.

[@sonecessarycreative]

To each their own. Don’t see nothing wrong with having kids and nothing wrong with not wanting any, it’s just another personal decision. We have 3 children and although it’s not easy to raise them, they are our everything.

[@ciarraleone2040]

She’s overly aggressive trying to let us know how happy she is without children. Why didn’t she just scroll?! Just go live and be happy with your choices!

[@mizzpoetrics]

People NEED to mind their own damn business! My choice to have or not have children shouldn't be anyone's business but mine! If a woman wants to, I'm happy for her! If she doesn't, I'm still just as happy for her!

[@kitaboo206]

It just bothers me when Women with children look at me and say "Girl don't have no kids." Meanwhile they have multiple 🙄 Lol. Like, if you didn't want kids or if it's sooo stressful why do you have multiple 🤔. Do what you want ladies. Just like a woman can possibly regret not having children she can regret having them as well. Most of those women would never dare to say it out loud though because that's "frowned upon". I'm 31 and still struggle with the idea having children. When I was 20 I imagined how cute they'd be and what I'd name them. Now I imagine how expensive it would be and the daily stress it could cause along with having to work.

[@lalat5899]

This ‼️ all of this

[@princesswilliamsmommyof5]

This whole situation is funny, but I digress ...stay blessed

[@wildflowersun5840]

Thank ya, Non-Child Wanting Woman!!! Funny how we cannot express this... As, a Woman??? I NEVER, Try to Convince... However, NEVER HEAR OUR, THOUGHTS ABOUT, THIS!!! I Never, express in Life, because, of Fear; from Women, Out of Being, Treated like a "LESSER" WOMAN. Just, My experience growing up to Present!!! 50+ No, Regrets 😁!!! Perhaps, Trauma is my Seed!!!

[@Heartfeltpsalms120]

🌸it’s not “ us against them” 🎀👶🏻🧢…. If you want children then have children and build a beautiful life with your husband and enjoy your family. Blessings to you and yours. But If you don’t want any children, then don’t do anything that would cause you to have any unwanted children. Enjoy your very beautiful childless life👍: ]

[@xzyle1000]

I see the reason why them people reversed that bill cause we excepted everything else so they bully the rest

[@skyy4140]

You have to be a selfless person to have children no one should have children if they are selfish. But when your old and all your friends and closest family members are dead who will speak up for you

[@bres.4806]

Their dogs ig..lol.

[@Diana734]

Some parents are selfish and no matter how you raise a kid they can choose to abandon you in a nursing home.😮‍💨

[@pkp6791]

The woman who has 2 kids and is ranting against the childfree woman looks and sounds miserable. I hope she is in a better mood when she is around the kids she says she loves so much.😮

[@tinabrooks3045]

For somebody that don’t want kids she put a lot of thought into this topic. Keep it real you probably can’t have kids. Most men want kids he will have kids with someone else and you might be help him support his them 😅😅😅

[@ivybee347]

😮‍💨They're both miserable and trying to convince everyone else that they're not miserable and that their life is better than someone who made the opposite decision. Have kids, don't have kids...... one choice isn't better than the other. 🙄

[@lashernedickson8675]

The lady with the 2 kids quite LITERALLY coulda STFU!!!! Another woman's choice is NOT YOUR BUSINESS

[@lf1496]

And they wonder why the birthrates are crashing in the West. As an Afro Cuban Puerto Rican women married to a Sicilian Roman I don't understand this concept. We have 4 kids. I look forward to their weddings and their children. We're old a lot longer than we're young. Dying alone with no kids or grandchildren is sad to me.

[@wonakeeharris6990]

Lord knows I hate I had kids. They cute when little. Once their older You begin to hate your own kids. I really should have waited til I’d gotten married. So, if you have no kids. PLEASE PLAN FOR THEM BEGORE HAVING THEM.

[@dj51562]

Who else saw this title and felt they had to click it lmao

[@konnieitsreal3606]

It's hard to have kids but once they are here it is what it is...and I love my kids more then myself. But kids will not make you happy tho...😆 🤣 😂 😹

[@chestchirecateyes]

Too often women have children to recreate, eg, fixed/heal, their childhoods, particularly, if their childhoods were problematic, then their children become the collateral.

[@Nanaunleashed]

If she doesn't want children, it's her business. I have 3 daughters, and my youngest does not want any children, and I am not going to badger her about it either. If anyone does, I hope she taps me in. MYB

[@tramainedoyle4630]

There are pros and cons to either situation. You can agree to disagree, having kids is a choice. There are no right or wrong reasons to women choosing to have or not have kids. I say just respect a woman’s choice and body and respect what she wants to do individually. At the end of the day kids are a blessing, but also there are 11 million kids in the system with different circumstances to why they’re there, but at the end of the day these children don’t have anyone to take care of them, so I’d rather women who don’t want to have children. Keep that as their choice instead of having parentless children be in the system, and then they have trauma and PTSD coming into the world as adults.

[@djx_5430]

Omg 😲 people on tiktok are so creepy.

[@josephineyisrael1916]

You know I was telling someone one day I said I am grateful that I don't have children because, I'm not in constant fear of society corrupting my children, I'm not in constant fear of my children being molested, I'm not in constant fear of my children not coming home I'm not in constant fear of not being able to take care of them. It's not that I don't have faith in the heavenly father that's not it, let's face it I wouldn't want children here in the United States of America.

[@VeaRobinson]

I'm childfree by choice no regrets here...I think kids are adorable but I will never be anyone's parent.

[@thegazetteyt]

No kids by choice Black Woman here. I'm LOVING my life, and I have an entire group of mostly partnered, child free professional women around me all the time, LOVING their lives. We good. If you want kids, go for it, but children are a sacrifice. It can be a rewarding sacrifice, but a sacrifice none the less. Let's not scape goat that, okay? I've seem so many women who had kids and HATE where they are. They love their kids, but if they had a chance to do it over, they totally would opt out, and we have to make sure we don't stigmatize that choice. The second woman who talked about not having children to not being a doctor was obscenely disingenuous. There is a smugness among women who want kids, as if they are making "their inherent choice" and they have an in with knowing this is what they were supposed to do. When society for eons has told you that your one function in life is to procorate, and you buck that ideology happily, other women look at you as if they have the cheat code that child free by choice women don't. 16:12 Um, the status quo IS HAVING CHILDREN! WTF are you talking about!?

[@DestinyUteh]

🤎🤎🤎 the most important thing is that you are happy

[@rainbeauxunicorn5237]

🤷🏾‍♀️Not seeing a difference between having dogs and having children. If you care for them properly, they’re just as expensive, just as inconvenient, just as annoying.

[@opeyemiadegoke361]

At least the dog will not grow to resent you or even worse kill you because they hate you

[@sirenthomas4595]

good thing cats are less needy lol

[@rainbeauxunicorn5237]

@@sirenthomas4595… they aren’t. Cats require more stimulation than dogs.

[@rainbeauxunicorn5237]

@@opeyemiadegoke361… you must not know the chihuahua or husky breeds. Besides all of that, you must be a really shitty parent if your child wants to harm you.

[@opeyemiadegoke361]

@@rainbeauxunicorn5237 I know I struck a nerve right ,it not my fault you made the wrong life choices so quit projecting ok ...we see it on the news daily how your so called kids are becoming school shooters , killing you parents and committing all sorts of crimes. you know nothing about me ,I am child free by choice and I thank God I didn't make that mistake cos that is the most thankless job in the world ..

[@darrencarlos5492]

The women who don't want kids, two (2) words: "angry -crazy ".... the tone and vibe is telling...no offense to women/men who don't want children..

[@sweettreatsoverload4296]

I never had children. I didn't want to be a baby moma. I was fit to be a parent I just chose wisely. I didn't like the men that I dated. Not marriage material so yes ladies stay single and childless until you find the right man if that's what you want

[@JustMyExpressions]

I say too each is own,

[@briantaylor3124]

Passport Bros are from all races & cultures. I am 61 and found a beautiful, widowed Filipina aged 53. Just one site has tens of thousands of Filipina women of all ages looking to marry a foreign man. Many have degrees and are well educated. My lady has 2 degrees & now lives with me in Australia. She has 2 adult children and weighs 59kg (130 pounds). We belong to a Filipina church in our local area. All the adult women are Filipina who are married to Australian men. All of the Australian men in the church are divorced from Australian women. All of these men have lost their wealth and their children through the family court system. These Filipina women have given these Australian men a second chance at life, and in some cases given these men children who are raised to respect their father. The contrast is unbelievable. Another funny story. Early in our relationship I asked her what she understood about feminism. She said that she had heard the word but did not know what it meant. When I explained the effects of feminism in the West, her first response was that she now understood why there were so many foreign men in her country looking for a wife. ..

[@teekey116]

I don't have children myself but I think kids are the Jewels of the earth. I don't understand why these women talk about kids like that. If you don't want kids that's ok but they shouldn't talk about kids like that. She called them crotch goblins That's Horrible. I pray TMH sends his Blessings on every child and their parents

[@smartanajones4u]

All I know is i was built not to have more than 1.

[@full-lifesoil1549]

MOST DONT WANT CHILDREN BECAUSE WE LACK SPIRIT! AND ITS SAD.....HAVING KIDS IS BEING A GOD AND GODESS! GIVING LIFE!! MEANING YOU GIVE LITTLE PEOPLE ALL OF LIFE! SPIRITUALLY I SEE DEAD WOMEN. ITS TOO SAD. GOD DOES IT FOR US, AND ALL I SEE IS UNGRATEFULNESS! BUT EVERYONE WANTS TO GO TO HEAVEN?????

[@aliciac.437]

I'm not a mother... but I am a K.A.M.B.G.W. (Keep A Man Baby Gone Wrong). I'm happy to be alive & my life (tons of therapy), but being a child of a woman that only had me merely to keep a man, was HORRIBLE! I have no relationship with my mother or father due to the fact that "she" looked at me with nothing but regret and the emotional & physical abuse I went through was traumatic. As for my paternal unit, he wanted nothing to do with me because I was a pawn & nothing more. I didn't have children due to being so scared I might end up like my mother and I didn't want to pass on generational trauma. "She" (maternal unit) made it seem like I was nothing unless I found a man and had a child, which I disagreed with. At the end of the day; it is a choice, a personal choice and nobody should be belittled for the best choice for THEIR LIFE! I have the utmost respect for mothers and the love & sacrifices they make, but I also respect those who choose not to take on that responsibility. Great topic... sorry for the novel. ❤

[@Sirryiahprincess]

I have a kid & I agree with the woman who doesn't have kids. Bcus as she said u would have to wanna be a mom to put the effort into it. And as for thinking of things u want from what people expect u to do is different. She's stating facts people expect us as women to give birth. People don't expect people to be Dr. Unless the person expressed interest. This is a foolish topic let people be social media is for people to express their pro or anti without another being offended.

[@krismiller7085]

I am child free by choice and think people should be allowed to make choices whether or not to have kids. Now, what I DON’T agree with her is trying to liken this to women who have an issue with trans women. There are various reasons, especially when it comes to melanated BW. Too much to delve into, though.

[@DestinyUteh]

Just be happy that's the most important thing

[@Carameldamour]

Misery loves company... Let people chose to do with their wombs as they see fit.

[@et2525]

Interesting

[@Heartfeltpsalms120]

…correction!!!! I meant “child-free”. Please I didn’t mean to offend anyone 🕊😘

[@darmadusa]

This is all so silly. With all of the craziness going on in the world, it's so ridiculous how people find the most unimportant things to go back and forth about. I'm a mom, and I love being a mother. My personal opinion is that motherhood is not miserable, but very rewarding- exhausting at times, yes, but nevertheless "mother" is a title I'm proud to have. With that said, if a woman chooses to not have children, that's her right and choice no to. What is the problem here? The choice to have children or not have them is nothing to quarrel about, nor does it makes a bit of sense for it to be something to throw up in each other's faces. Social media has truly made it possible for the silly and bored people in the world to air the most ridiculous of grievances. Live and let live. Damn. 🙄

[@chasitystoudermire1126]

why does her proclaiming her choice bother you so much

[@ParkerParker123]

She said “they are like gremlins - they don’t like being wet!”

[@taffetajackson3770]

Lol the woman without kids, but have dogs is amusing to me. You still have to take care of the dogs as you would a child. Not only does she have 1 dog.... she has 2! No, a human is not comparable to an animal, but I get a sense of her being lonely and replacing her desire to care for a living being with her pets. Some women do want children but haven't found someone to have children with. She seems like one of those women.

[@Metropolitangirl]

Are you trying to convince yourself that child free people are genuinely happy? Some people like pets more than children 🤷🏽‍♀️ doesn’t mean they’re lonely. People with kids also have pets. Does that mean they’re lonely?

[@taffetajackson3770]

@@Metropolitangirl no doll, I'm not trying to convince myself of anything when my mind is already made up. Thx

[@mrs.w8193]

It’s kind of like the people who post on SM saying they have a lovely marriage and then you find out their marriage is in shambles. It’s like you are compensating for something, seeking validation, trying to convince yourself of something, or trying to show up others. If you were truly happy, you wouldn’t both making such a silly attention seeking video. It’s super weird. I love my kids and I tell them. I don’t have to make a video and put it on Tiktok 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@Metropolitangirl]

Actually i post about being childfree and im the happiest ive ever been in my life . Its not for validation seeking no compensating. I cam genuinely tell you I LOVE my life! Childfree people post to show women that its okay not wanting children since society has looked down on women who dont want kids! Some even call us selfish!