Women Must Wonder About You

[@SkillofAttraction]

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[@Solitarian-Falcon]

Not in dating only, Mystery is forever in longterm relationship. Nowadays you have to play it all along the way

[@SkillofAttraction]

Exactly.

[@mrsimo7144]

20 years ago, I chased/ courted this woman for a year until she came around to me. I was over the moon. She was amazing. These days, being altruistic, caring open, kind etc pisses them off. I've no doubt, social platforms and mobile phones are recking people and relationships. Keep it up. Stay strong. You're amazing.

[@SkillofAttraction]

Thanks, man! Yes, these days women get unlimited attention from unlimited men due to social media. So, you really have to stand out to capture a woman's attention. Oddly enough, your lack of attention on them (as long as you've already caught their eye) is what makes you stand out. They'll fight for it if you do it right.

[@stefanross8129]

watching this again. A real Man who doesn't give direct answers to questions is very mysterious and appealing to Women. Yes!!

[@SkillofAttraction]

Never give her full disclosure..preferably in a playful way to where she never knows if you're joking or serious.

[@stefanross8129]

@@SkillofAttraction yes, I got that almost mastered. I've had girls over the years tell me stefan, I don't know if you're being serious or you're messing with me.

[@SkillofAttraction]

@@stefanross8129 Perfect. It's always good to keep women a little frustrated with you.

[@stefanross8129]

@@SkillofAttraction really? Are you sure? Hahaha!!! Because typically when I've messed with a girl and she tells me, I don't know if you're serious or you're just messing with me, or they tell me you know I never know what you're going to say next Stefan it's always a freaking surprise coming from you, I noticed that the next time I see them they'll typically go out of their way to ignore me and when I say hi they'll move their face and head in the opposite direction. Hehe. Love it. ;-)

[@johnmortimerjbmfitness7753]

I think the greatest example in cinema history, that all men should watch is "Gone with the wind". She gets and enjoys all the attention of all the men, but chases the one she can't quite get her hands on. The one who is roguish and a bad boy, eventually wins her over, but looses her because, although confident, puts her on a pedestal too much....classic.

[@SkillofAttraction]

yes. A lot of older movies show the correct dynamics. Many of the newer movies get it completely backwards...the guy who pedestalizes her gets the girl. If you're going through a breakup a great somewhat modern movie (from the 90s) that gets it right is called "Swingers".

[@stefanross8129]

@@SkillofAttraction yes swingers is a fun cool movie. But of course John favreau's character is a perfect example of a grown up man doing every single thing wrong, up until the end of the film. Hahaha!!!!!

[@SkillofAttraction]

@@stefanross8129 Yes, exactly. However, I think most men going through a breakup will relate to it...it falls in line with the stages men go through in a breakup. And Vince Vaughn's character, who has good game, gives away a lot of truths about women. I honestly think that men can learn a lot about women & breakups from that movie. It's one of the few modern movies that get the masculine/feminine dynamics right.

[@patroklosvondruben1706]

Just realized how big of a nerd I am when I got both the yield farming and flux capacitor references... thanks for the vid!

[@SkillofAttraction]

Haha! That makes two of us!

[@julianblackycaesar7472]

Mysterious men are very attractive. Don't be an open book. Stand out...!

[@SkillofAttraction]

Exactly!

[@THEMAN-ru8ek]

So much true 👊✊💪😎

[@RealityHurts2024]

Been watching your vids a lot lately. Great advice and content. Keep it up!

[@SkillofAttraction]

Thanks, man!

[@fuzzypanda1684]

God it must be nice to be living life on "Easy" mode, where things work the way they're supposed to. Like how being a challenge, being mysterious, not being needy or clingy, being in good shape etc. actually works. Try living life on "Nightmare" mode, where you can be in great shape, be attractive, dress well, have a full head of hair, be confident, charismatic, mysterious and have lots of social proof, yet still get nothing but rejection and disinterest from women. It's a unique pain that only a small subset of men also condemned to live life on "Nightmare" mode can understand.

[@SkillofAttraction]

Sounds like you have a chip on your shoulder. Mindset is key: kzbin.info/www/bejne/hXKofmt8os1oeZo

[@fuzzypanda1684]

@@SkillofAttraction I appreciate it, but I've spent a lot of time learning about mindsets, how to be aware of yours and how to control it. It didn't do anything to actually change my life though because eventually, it became impossible to maintain an abundance mindset when everything was coming up scarcity.

[@sairian]

@@fuzzypanda1684it feels like you’re a bit fixed. your goal isn’t to maintain, but to believe in it and become it. I’ve been in your shoes believing I can’t sustain this, but it comes easier when you actually have a positive outlook on life.

[@fuzzypanda1684]

@@sairian Thanks man. I've gotten myself into very optimistic, positive mindsets before, where I woke up every day ready to take on the world, stuck to my schedule and did what I set out to do. But I never got any traction or results, so eventually, it became impossible to maintain the positive mindset and I'd crash. I've done this routine many times and each time, it's harder to get into the mindset, and it breaks easier.

[@sairian]

@@fuzzypanda1684 that's called a rut buddy. It's absolutely normal. I really suggest reading or rereading atomic habits. Once you understand it, building better mindset and habits becomes a lot simpler! Don't do everything at once, I was in the same shoes, took forever but with patience comes great returns! If something takes too much effort, it's probably far over your current level. One step at a time, pal 💪

[@konspiracy9953]

You are back!

[@SkillofAttraction]

Yup! working on uploading regular videos for you guys!

[@bond7459]

Very true,a very good work like always. Great vid bro.

[@SkillofAttraction]

Thanks, man! Much appreciated!

[@EinSofQuester]

Women do wonder about me. They wonder why a wealthy looker like me is single. But that's why I'm single.

[@floki5605]

Everything you're saying is spot on 👌

[@SkillofAttraction]

Why, thank you, sir!

[@jhamilton1007]

So, what if you are being a mystery and you know she likes you, but she has stopped trying to win you over. On the other hand, she is seeking advice from her friends about you? You've already shown her your interest, you know she has interest but for some reason she is not able to communicate it. It's something I'm dealing with right now and it is very frustrating, since we have been doing this "dance" for months now. She has also tested and re-tested me and re-tested me. So again, I know her interest is high. She's just making this way more difficult than it needs to be. I really like her, but i have other options and won't wait around for much longer.

[@SkillofAttraction]

If she's getting advice from her girlfriends & she used to invest to win your heart, chances are her girlfriends are advising her to stop investing & make you chase her. Women believe this is the way it's supposed to be, but it never works in their favor. I have a video on how to handle it when your girl stops putting in the effort: kzbin.info/www/bejne/l3W6YXikrdeiarc

[@naderalmarei2908]

We all needed this vid, thank you Erik. I've seen some memes recently on social media, they're basically a chat conversation between a couple and the guy says "dress up bitch, we going out tonight", it's weird bcs girls seem to love this type of stuff, why is it? I think is the aggressiveness and leadership that turns them on, but how can we be aggressive without being too much, just enough?

[@SkillofAttraction]

It's the strong masculine energy of these "jerks" that women feel so drawn to, not so much the "jerk" part. So, yes...it's their aggressiveness, leadership, dominance, etc. However, you don't have to be an abusive jerk to attract a woman & have her fall head over heels in love with you...but you DO have to embrace your testosterone. There's certainly a balance between too much & too little that you must find. Women WILL eventually leave if you're too much. In the words of Dr. Jordan Peterson (no relation), "Women love dangerous men who are civilized". In other words, they like aggressive men who treat them with kindness. You might like this article I just happened to stumble across yesterday: heartiste.org/2012/05/18/chicks-dig-jerks-in-every-way-the-science/ -- From the study this article talks about -- "Male characteristics such as greater symmetry, masculinity, and social dominance are purported to be markers of male genetic fitness. From an ultimate evolutionary perspective, ovulation is believed to lead women to desire men who have these features because such men can provide genetic benefits to potential offspring"

[@TheDetroitLion313]

Hey,you're back!!🙏🏾👍🏾

[@SkillofAttraction]

Yes I am!

[@MBAYoungboy]

What do you do when a girl is adamant about a specific answer. Like I make a vague funny joke about her question 3 times and she keeps asking? Do you eventually just answer direct? I’ve done this many times before and the girl gets frustrated and says I “play too many games”

[@SkillofAttraction]

The idea is to make her earn your direct answer. So, yes, eventually give her what she's looking for.

[@Fullrusher]

But doesn't this mean eventually when she figures everything out she'll leave ... So basically no relationship lasts ... So what's the point ?

[@zakhariihusar6975]

Just don't give a f if she leaves, you always have to be ready to end this first)

[@SkillofAttraction]

She will definitely learn more about you as you get deeper into the relationship, but that's completely fine because she will feel closer to you. However, you continue to remain a bit mysterious with new things happening in your life. Having a life independent of your relationship will certainly help with this.

[@SkillofAttraction]

@Zakharii Husar - Good point.

[@SkillofAttraction]

@Yez Kex - I'm not suggesting to be completely closed off. There IS a balance. However, what you're talking about, being with the man who is completely open, has no mystery, etc, etc...women may choose that guy for marriage, but in several years you will be bored as hell, lose your libido & start dreaming of the guys who were fun, mysterious, sexy, etc...which often leads to cheating or divorce. I've seen it happen many times.

[@SkillofAttraction]

@Yez Kex The way our brains are wired, it's impossible that you don't think about the mysterious guys. And no, women don't use mysterious men...they obsess about them. It's just human psychology. There's no way around it.

[@RoAaNThEKoNkeR]

Man i love your videos, keep it up 😎

[@SkillofAttraction]

Why, thank you, sir! I appreciate you watching!

[@amandabretch85]

If men think that you should receive our body by the third or fourth date, don’t dog us out afterwards. Because if you get it too soon that’s what happens. On average. We lose your attraction. By us waiting we’re 9 times out of 10 trying to preserve your attraction towards us. Women feel so used sexually by men. We hate it, trust me.

[@SkillofAttraction]

It's not that men SHOULD receive a woman's body by that time, but that's typically (on average) when a woman will sleep with a guy. Of course how long you wait is up to you, but attractive men who have options will not wait that long in most cases. From a man's POV, he will still respect you & be attracted to you if you sleep with him after 3-4 REAL dates. Hopping in the sack on the first date? maybe not...

[@amandabretch85]

@@SkillofAttraction perhaps. Depends on the guy I guess.

[@stefanross8129]

Oh well.

[@sponsponm1]

@@amandabretch85 I could only wait longer than 3-4 dates for a woman if she was a virgin .if not 3 dates I think is reasonable. Anything more and than that and men start feeling used. Especially if shes dating around and sleeping with other guys, but trying to making you wait. Thats like the ultimate sign of disrespect and thats why I wouldn't wait

[@jimdaniel4412]

Ummm men don't use women for sex, unless he has the say when sex happens. Only a few men have this power and I am fortunate

[@kyleharr10]

Gold.

[@SkillofAttraction]

Thanks man!

[@gilakmen2041]

sir..is no contact can make ur gf wonder ?

[@SkillofAttraction]

Yes. No contact definitely falls under being mysterious...

[@stefanross8129]

.... Good video Erik!

[@SkillofAttraction]

Thank you!

[@antonioangelocento9855]

Eric great video and good job ,,,,,,, but being mysterious works wonder ONLY if you are a very attractive man to woman , who doesn't allow them to get to know him

[@SkillofAttraction]

You're right, she has to be interested first...but it's part of being attractive to women. Women are mostly attracted to a man because the way he makes her feel.

[@jasonrichardson8012]

Another good video Eric 👍👍

[@SkillofAttraction]

Why thank you, sir!

[@VlogsWithGareth]

CHUCK NORRIS!.🤘 does this apply to getting an Ex back? My ex ghosted me for 3-months she's been off social media coz of me had a argument! DOES this lower the Negative feelings

[@SkillofAttraction]

It sounds like you're talking about "no contact", but yes being a little mysterious is important in all stages of a relationship...even in the re-attraction process. No contact will help with lowering negative feelings & adding a little mystery to yourself.

[@gnocchi.artyst]

Thanks!

[@SkillofAttraction]

Much appreciated!

[@dandanthefireman1006]

Its been 50 years. Is it working yet?

[@SkillofAttraction]

50 years? Not sure what you're referring to...

[@dandanthefireman1006]

@@SkillofAttraction 50 years since I have seen her. Is no contact working yet?

[@SkillofAttraction]

@@dandanthefireman1006 Ooohhh...you should probably move on...lol. But hey, you never know...I once reconnected & got into a relationship with an ex after 15+ years.

[@jakubklimczak5858]

Well said, however I would avoid women who agree to have premarital sex. It's easier for them to betray you when you marry her, because she already had sex with the person outside of marriage.

[@SkillofAttraction]

Of course that's your decision, but you're seriously limiting yourself in these modern times. However, studies have shown that the more men a woman has slept with, the less likely she will have the ability to pair bond successfully with a man. So, it's important that all men take her past lovers into consideration if you want a successful LTR/marriage.

[@ralfj.1740]

You would have to rule out probably 95% of the women in the modern western world

[@THEMAN-ru8ek]

If you Barrow a Money with a woman and you walk away she'll wonder about you 😂

[@SkillofAttraction]

True

[@ErnieLeblanc]

$450,000.00 for a house paid for by the man but he can't be there?🤔

[@SkillofAttraction]

Sounds like you're misunderstanding.

[@ErnieLeblanc]

Thanks for your mature reply. Experience has taught me that ''Women'' mustn't have ''LOOP-HOLE OPPORTUNITIES.''@@SkillofAttraction

[@GeoffMaxwell]

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[@SkillofAttraction]

You got it! 👍🏻

[@Darktacomic]

It’s its all because women make no sense 😂

[@SkillofAttraction]

Once you understand female nature & how female attraction works, they're not that confusing. They're not going to explain it to you because, often they don't even understand themselves...& the ones who do, your confusion works in their favor. Keep following this channel & they'll begin to make sense.

[@ErnieLeblanc]

Sounds like Ted Bundy.💯🎯💥🎯💯🇺🇸

[@SkillofAttraction]

Can't imagine where you're getting that from...

[@ErnieLeblanc]

GPS: ''Grabbed, Punched and Stabbed!'' by my exgirlfriend. @@SkillofAttraction