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[@swiitdoll]

Can you please put the link to that woman’s video.

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[@swiitdoll]

@@MariaDavidsthank you

[@misslola007]

I don't call it selfish when it comes to the safety of your own body, energy and sanity. Unconditional love does not exist. Anyone asking for unconditional love wants to use it and @buse it. There is always a condition, even with your own kids.

[@HaughtyHedonist]

You Said Nothing But The Gospel Truth Sister ! 🙌🏾

[@bibijoyous]

Yeppp!

[@unicorn73212]

Yeah they also live with the delusion that men are capable of loving women there not because if they were they wouldn't be looking for a full time slave or work horse to do there bidding for free women are not something you want to keep toying with and if you put them in a position to disrespect you they will they don't care who you are either and they aren't required to meet those standards for men if none of us are signing up to sleep with them or date them anymore.. usually a traitor will always make excuses for themselves because they don't understand that they have a problem. I don't want to hate anyone but they push women to it by expecting validation in return for being disrespectful it's just not happening I actually pulled myself off my ex's lease too maybe sometimes it takes women awhile to save money and get away from them but at least we are more willing to accept that we have a problem and leave when we know we're being disrespected. Men would hang around forever if you let them and somebody has to draw the line somewhere before something bad happens to there credit too.

[@tita8202]

Whether you're married or not they still don't respect you.... BE SELFISH LADIES!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[@LovelyKola]

💯

[@ak-47intelligence75]

Exactly.

[@destinedtodevinespiritualc119]

This is why men are becoming angry and lonely because we are waking up to all this and making sure that if there not all in they get nothing

[@stephaniegrace609]

For real!

[@Childfree334]

I have YET to come across any videos where anyone tells men to not be so picky and to give an ugly/homely woman a chance, give a fat woman a chance, give a woman with 5 kids a chance, give older women a chance, give a woman with no ambition a chance, to be satisfied with a woman who can only pay the light bill, to stay married to a cheating woman, to put up with an abusive woman, etc. If anyone has, PLEASE share the link(s). I have got to see that.

[@edithart5753]

Exactly

[@justthatdude1119]

We don’t need videos your literally speaking on normal occurrences for men… 🤦🏽‍♂️🤣🤣🤣 y’all gotta be blind or brain dead. 😂

[@nessamunik2044]

Preach🙌

[@ineedhoez]

Facts!!!!

[@destroyraiden]

There will be with this decenter men! It's turning a few into reluctant straight gays so who knows what term they'll come up with for that beyond situational partner! Cuz they aren't gay they're just banging the other straight men till they find a woman to leech off of! Yet if women keep up decentering them they may very well be churning out those vids hoping they can leech off them! Yet if women start teaching 6 year old age appropriate decentering men & others this may help young girls to not fall for the 8 year old boys adrew tate impression as they try to make this little 6 year old think she's a ho! Cuz that's where we are now 8 year old boys sexually, mentally, and emotionally harassing women & their female teachers as they parrot some sexist & tells them they need to concerned with getting laid now! Cuz the kid has no idea or doesn't care the content was made for teens and men.

[@ellanina801]

The problem is that living in a patriarchy, men center themselves regardless. As an asexual, I am always battling against the flow to have the same power as men… and so many women act as flying monkeys for men that it makes it even harder. It’s really unsafe to be this way inthe patriarchy. I own a house, and I’m always battling with the patriarchy. I know for a fact I get treated differently then men, particularly men in my position. Even women in my position fall in line with the men, and condemn me for enforcing my own boundaries. I’m just expected to submit submit submit.

[@toscadonna]

Yep. I regret getting married, because I was in the Army and wanted to go from Korea to Germany, and my husband demanded that we go to Fort Bragg because of his career. At Fort Bragg, I broke my neck and jaw on a parachute jump, and he didn’t want me afterwards. I lost EVERYTHING because of him and his refusal to go anywhere except an Airborne unit, and he knew I had already had a previous neck injury, and he still only cared about himself. We could have gone anywhere in the world. I even mentioned Hawaii, and he refused, but he did go to live in Hawaii with Wife #2. 😢

[@kruidnootje437]

It hurts, but you're free of this man with terrible evil character and did not waste the rest of your entire time on Earth with him. I hope you get back on your feet and find happiness, you deserve the best.

[@chailatecookies7341]

You will be just fine , so glad he’s out of your life and you should be grateful that he went . You got this 💪🏽

[@ineedhoez]

Damnnnn

[@shaypope4732]

He could have went to Germany,Italy etc he was just doing too much cause I lived there for 5yrs and the amount of airborne units there is crazy I was the only woman mechanic in my unit until I had to fix something for airborne unit where I met other women mechanics it was awesome but I'm glad you got away though he wasn't worth ur time or energy

[@omphilemoerane2569]

From the stories I've heard from colleagues and friends I've concluded that men's stubbornness is just a means to control. These men say "no" to the most minor and insignificant requests😂 All that time you spent begging him to move only to find out he never even had an issue with Hawaii 😂

[@chailatecookies7341]

I have stopped to care about men when my aunt ended up with bottle of anti depressants after she been used and abused by them. It really breaks my heart that women have to go through it just to get the bare minimum 😞

[@nynyjohnson1]

Girl..same boat. Coward left my aunty for dead after messing with him. I’ll never fall for one again

[@Sociedadematriarcal]

Yep i start to being more selfish than i used to be

[@redrock740]

Everything in life, including relationships are transactional. This is why narcissistic women hold onto their husbands, and doormat women, lose their husbands.

[@fayelis]

If you have that mindset please do not enter relationships

[@redrock740]

@@fayelis You can't be a doormat in life. Men are not doormats, so women shouldn't be either. Life is about survival of the fittest. Ever wonder why people think why do the good people die so young? The answer is staring at you in the face. Don't be naive in this life, it will get you killed.

[@edithart5753]

Facts

[@swanam_1]

​@@fayelis I mean, OP isn't wrong. Transactional doesn't necessarily mean financially transactional. Nobody is going to stay in a relationship that adds absolutely zero value to their life.

[@ineedhoez]

Transactional isn't the correct word. Relationships are based on reciprocity. You have to contribute love, care, and respect into a relationship. When the relationship becomes imbalanced and one person continuously takes the love, care, and respect, that is the narcissistic person aka "self" oriented person. A self oriented person is going to enter into a relationship with an other oriented person, aka doormat, aka codependent. This person puts others in before their own. In our society, this is typically women comma because women are socialized to self sacrifice. This video is talking about women adjusting their orientation towards a higher degree of self orientation. There are healthy levels of self orientation. You do not have to be a narcissist in order to become self oriented.

[@LaughinMyAssOn]

OH! How could we forget the best part though??? When we give these "lesser" men a chance and get burned, other men turn around and say, "you should have chosen better!". Ya'll, PROTECT YOURSELVES.

[@TheCoffeeCat]

Yes, I've been saying that! We should learn a thing or two from them. We need to put our interests first and choose men based on what benefits they can bring into our life. We have been brainwashed to put everyone else first and to fall in love with project men we can help build. Please stop this!!

[@tita8202]

She aint never lied.

[@trulykey8106]

But women these days are choosing themselves and im so happy for it

[@AquariusNation777]

Just want to help with the algorithm ❤

[@coyotegaxiola4281]

Thanks so much for this video. I wish I had learned to put myself first years ago, but I am making up for lost time.

[@ineedhoez]

The root cause of the problem is your self love deficit disorder aka codependency. People with self love deficit over-contribute love, care, and respect in relationships. Their contributions are not reciprocated but they choose to stay because of their pervasive fear being alone. The fear being alone makes them accept horrific treatment. They don't care if the man is unemployed, doesn't have a home, and treats them poorly, as long as he comes home at night or some nights. Being alone is more painful than the poor treatment. Because of childhood trauma and unresolved core wounds, the person believes that they are unlovable, defective, unworthy, etc. No one will love them, so they better stay with the dusty. They choose to accept the trash treatment. The subconscious runs the show. 90% of our behaviors is controlled by the subconscious. Once you heal your self love deficit disorder, you will not even entertain bs. If you are not scared of being alone, you will break the cycle. You won't have some man living in your house because your standard is to only date home owners. Booooom! Dusties are automatically removed from your life. You still have to have other standards, but you have just entired a different stratosphere of men. So many of us are so deficient in healthy levels of self worth, self esteem, and self love, that we have no perspective of what healthy relationships look like. In reality, the worse our codependency is, the more likely it is that we are surrounded by takers in EVERY aspect of our lives. even when you ask for advice, you are going to be gaslit. If your mother had no self worth, neither will you! You likely don't even know any emotionally healthy people. The higher the levels of narcissistic/sociopathic/psychopathic behaviors our partners demonstrated, the higher our self love deficit is. It is a magnetic attraction. They may be a +5 malignant Narcissist but that means that we are a -5 malignant codependent!!!!! As you increase you levels of self worth, your magnetic attraction changes. You start to repel takers because they can see that you do not give. They literally are not even attracted to you any longer. Obviously, they will holla, but they wont pursue because you don't give them anything. There are healthy relationships out there. We just have to heal. I understand why so many women are legitimately traumatized. We have been surrounded by effing sociopaths our entire lives! You can live your best life and be open to finding a healthy relationship. Find someone that pours into you, instead of taking from you.

[@ak-47intelligence75]

💯

[@ruthmchuwen]

So true man… I supported him in all kinds of ways 😂 Uni, financially little money here, there.. We met at 19 now 25 Now I’m literally making him pay my phone, and stuff until I think I have my money back. Then that would be it for me. He never got me flowers or card even for my graduation. I can’t believe this actually happened to me 😏 Sneaky

[@beepbopboop7727]

This is the way, Sis!

[@BronzgoddessBotanicals]

Been there, done that; never going back. Love has always been a two way street. Not transactional; but basic decency & reciprocation goes miles with me. Not running myself ragged for someone who won’t sprint a dash for me. Nope 👎🏽

[@royalregal722]

I just came to support my Kenyan sister speaking and my nja gerl! It’s time for us african women to speak! Love ndiyo?

[@mundu3]

Lazima tuchangamke.

[@tu3521]

Safi.😂

[@yoursnatchedwig2856]

They get crazy bc we said we don't want to have kids they might kill us if we start acting selfish like them😭💀

[@Childfree334]

You can't live your life in fear. Take a self-defense class and learn how to use a firearm. You also have to radiate confidence around men. If they sense any weakness in you, you immediately lose their respect. They will try you every time. I reject men all the time, and they skulk their azzes away from me with the quickness.

[@yoursnatchedwig2856]

@@Childfree334 am only 19 i already get hurt by the hands of man so i still carry that truama around man it's genuinely hard acting strong around them😭😭

[@Childfree334]

@yoursnatchedwig2856 If it is hard for you to be strong around men, then you need to STAY AWAY from them until you get stronger. Like I said, take some self-defense classes and learn how to use a gun. You also need to look into getting therapy to help get your confidence and self-esteem up. If you don't start putting things into motion to help yourself, then men will continue to abuse and crush you. You are 19. You are a legal adult, not a child. Start behaving like one.

[@yoursnatchedwig2856]

@@Childfree334 ok😊

[@fitp74]

And it’s sad because she’s right. The women who go in for love actually loose, love doesn’t exist with men. I actually now, choose to stay away from them because I’d use them& they are broke and have nothing black men especially. I try to stay away from them and they keep coming into my life. Because they suck the life force out a woman

[@ak-47intelligence75]

Yes, they come to suck the life force energy out of you. I'm currently doing the same. I'm avoiding them.

[@fitp74]

@@ak-47intelligence75 as a girly who takes the train … when I tell you they go out all the way to come and talk to me. And it’s like they can smell when you’re not interested in them and they come with full force. Int it crazy how we stay away from them when we don’t really like them. But when they hate us they try to still talk to us smh just sad

[@TwoMenAndALady2011]

Do not sacrifice for someone who isn’t doing the same. It’s that simple. I have been married almost 15 years. He wanted three kids. I gave him ONE. 🤷🏽‍♀️ That is what we can comfortably afford and all I am willing to deal with.

[@omphilemoerane2569]

Ma'am you and I think the same. One kid is enough. I don't like being broke and I'm busy 😂

[@TheReader19]

At first I wanted to crawl under the floor boards in embarrassment; as that woman was me. It's taken years for me to break the programming and start decentering men. But I've always believed the best form of revenge is good living. I'm starting to thrive and the father of my kids is feeling the karma for the way he treated us

[@Daug555]

The way I hollered when she said dreadlocks 😂

[@idreadFell365]

“I know what chakra is, I watch Naruto”

[@munix9351]

My first, middle and surname is "Me first"!!

[@ChanceViola]

I love that red color on you

[@MariaDavids]

Thank you!

[@digimonalvatrax2738]

Yet men would expect *you* to care for them.

[@destroyraiden]

I've seen many men who won't do xyz or do some after work activity like going to a movie cuz they have a wife these men i know who are at least 5 who do this will never go on a trip w/o the wife, and if it's game night they'll reschedule due to whatever the wife wants to do comes before the game night, yet these men seem to be very worried about what she'll do to him if they do not consider her or what she wants to do with them above the xyz in question.

[@deborahgardner7862]

If both of you are being selfish, how will you get along, just about the basic of things, and not even with someone you date. You can still be who your Spirit has called you to be, but don’t train yourself to be anything other than what the Spirit feels at peace with, or you are corrupting yourself. Our Creator told us to love one another as you love yourself, if you’re already selfish it’s what feels comfortable for you, just know everyone is not gravitating toward selfishness, especially in this economy.

[@bdnjck14]

‭‭1 Timothy‬ ‭5:5‭-‬6‬ ‭ESV‬‬ [5] She who is truly a widow, left all alone, has set her hope on God and continues in supplications and prayers night and day, [6] but she who is self-indulgent is dead even while she lives. Be selfish all you want.. but GOD says "it is more blessed to GIVE then to RECEIVE" Peep the verse i posted.. woman or man who decides to live in a self indulgent manner are spirtually dead.. even while alive. You can go to war against men, but you and only you will be held accountable for your own soul and the actions you decided to take while here on planet earth

[@themissmay]

Love your videos 💗

[@MariaDavids]

Thank you!!

[@moniquejanel]

I am lol

[@trulykey8106]

Well, my dad wont leave my mom for nothing..He didnt even want to go on a trip to another state!

[@omphilemoerane2569]

Thank you for telling us about the exception. That is so helpful 😂

[@attitudeproblem6462]

Heck yeah! I approve this message! #MeFirst

[@sparklyunicorn5431]

I love your channel, you're doing the Lord's work sis! 🙌

[@MariaDavids]

Thank you so much!

[@marisaneally2023]

Great video❤

[@pinky-lett3501]

I wish you didnt cut the video😢

[@catcat9582]

Are men healthier or selfish in regards to prioritizing themsleves?? I can't tell

[@gunsmithcat]

No, they are not. They need women in order to be happy and not off themselves. Women, on the other hand...

[@rengurenge]

Statistically married men lives longer than single men and married women lives shorter lives than unmarried women. They are healthier when they are prioritizing their own needs IN relationship on women's expense, like vampire is healthier when there is no shortage of blood supply.

[@destinedtodevinespiritualc119]

It's all to funny look how mad all these men be because we can and do it all on our own, there mad because we can have it all and still have children because there so easy to sleep with but nooowww there all angry because daddy wasnt around and there mums were crappy, how can any real man say that about there mother, my boys see me even as a married woman as the parent to come to i raise 2 on my own and this old bs about women with kids are washed up hahaha I'm not going to be the one in a care home on my own

[@blessings4life]

What’s the point of being married if you are thinking of a plan B, not a good plan. This is why marriage are for the dummies, your life is literally in his hands and vice versa

[@questions1408]

the power of shlong!!!

[@honesteaparty]

Change The Title (drop the "like men")! Stop comparing our actions to those of men; they are not the standard!

[@alexussk]

No it's fine since it's exposing how men really are and women rightfully using that tactic to our own benefit

[@nessamunik2044]

​@@alexussk Exactly 💯

[@ineedhoez]

I feel you, but in this situation, it is spot on. Men are self orientated. Women need to be self oriented.

[@digimonalvatrax2738]

I'm gonna continue being caring and nurturing. I just don't see myself opening up my available hurt to men😂 they are the "strong" gender, they can look after themselves 👍👍👍