Lysa TerKeurst: Overcoming Loneliness and Setting Healthy Boundaries | Women of Faith on TBN

[@pamboire6973]

Love the quote "mental health is a commitment to reality at any cost"

[@thaiandgabriel980]

❤❤

[@dr.florenceisiguzo-davis285]

Not sure how I stumbled into this… this Godly woman is sharing my story. Only difference is I was married to my ex-husband for 16 years and he not only cheated but also was physically and emotionally abusive . I was broken, I prayed, I forgave….I thank God for giving me a second chance that after my divorce, 2 years later I met my wonderful husband. And we are happily married for 5 years and counting… Thank God for rescuing me from a dysfunction. I know my children at their young ages experienced the dysfunction but it made them resilient and who they are today.The backlash from church members are real, but as long as God is by your side, that’s ALL that matters. Trust in God and He will turn your trials to triumphs and give God the glory always!!! God bless you sister for sharing your story. I can relate!🙏🏽

[@dr.florenceisiguzo-davis285]

Thank you soooooo much for speaking on “Healthy Boundaries.” It is very important in a marriage and in kid’s discipline.

[@mn9181]

I wish God would bless me with a wonderful Christian husband. Feel so lonely after divorcing abusive husband 15 years ago .

[@dr.florenceisiguzo-davis285]

@@mn9181God is faithful and will do it in His time. Keep trusting Him.🙏🏽

[@candidawojcik6356]

I am so sorry that you have been through this. My mom had cheated on my dad pretty much their entire marriage and walked out on my dad after 40 years of marriage. She was emotionally abusive and physically abusive and did everything she could to divide my sisters and my dad and even when we knew the truth she still continues to lie. I still feel guilt over things i have no control over simply because she blamed me for existing and stating that when she got pregnant with me was why she stayed married to my dad Since my parents divorce my dd has become so strong I am so thankful to God for it. . I will keep you in my prayers and hope you can also find healing in such a messed up world we live in . God Bless you

[@ChristianaSenibo]

That is so good to hear. Glad you came through

[@laurabrown4331]

I can identify with this video on all levels. After 40 years of marriage, my husband divorced me. I made myself face all the emotions that come with this experience, it is a process, and the emotional pain is like nothing I have ever experienced in my life. I also suffered a stroke from all the stress. Thank you for sharing your story.

[@daughterofzion333]

Praying for your complete healing! My husband divorced me after 32 yrs. It happened because I put my boundaries up in my marriage. As painful as it was, now am so glad that he left. I hope you you can read her book. God bless❤

[@sudhakhristmukti1930]

Had abusive neighbors that our family had to face for years,along with their other miserable allied couples with grown, bullying children.They caused lot of stress & sleep deprivation from their loud and deliberate racket. One of them, a mean,foul-mouthed postman,(& his equally abusive-to- us wife)retired, entered his name fraudulently into my deceased mother's house-document records,through corrupt officials.Took 3 years to solve this,while they shamelessly enjoyed the process.

[@sudhakhristmukti1930]

Had abusive neighbors that our family had to face for years,along with their other miserable allied couples with grown, bullying children.They caused lot of stress & sleep deprivation from their loud and deliberate racket. One of them, a mean,foul-mouthed postman,(& his equally abusive-to- us wife)retired, entered his name fraudulently into my deceased mother's house-document records,through corrupt officials.Took 3 years to solve this,while they shamelessly enjoyed the process.

[@cindymittan4010]

I needed this 15 years ago. What great advice. No one is worth your mental health.

[@ChristianaSenibo]

💯

[@karenmarie2833]

Good Boundaries And Goodbyes has opened my eyes to what I knew I needed to deal with, not just get over quickly. This book, at times I could only read a little at a time..because it was telling my story and I knew what to do that was healthy, but I thought if I prayed enough my husband would change and do his part. I wanted to be that godly wife and give him time. Well, I have given 34 years, and it has not changed... I trust God as I apply the boundaries in all. This is a great book.❤

[@georgiebridgers]

I am in the same boat!! Prayers to you ♥️

[@rhondagriffith2159]

When you've tried every solution and they don't want to repent, make changes it's time to move on...severe dysfunction is not what God wants for us.

[@ChristianaSenibo]

Absolutely

[@angiemaiapu763]

I agree

[@irmarosario676]

My daughters and I are doing a study on her book and it has been an amazing journey of healing, growth, and transformation in our friendships and relationships. It took us to our childhoods and who are today as adults. God is soo Good that he doesn’t leave us where we are at in a broken state. He is the great Jehova Rapha, our healer!

[@ChristianaSenibo]

I love that “he doesn’t leave us where we are at in a broken state”.

[@calledtomore]

We’ll said, Sheila, Lysa has stewarded her suffering well. She has walked this out with grace and truth and has helped women all over to find the strength to do the same. ❤

[@rosesolorio81]

I was rescued from 3 horrible relationships through out the years, this was before I was saved .Today I have a man of God that loves the lord loves me I thank God for never abandoning me I love him and will serve him the rest of my days

[@joyh.729]

I love the boundary analogy that Lysa gave at the end of how CPR cannot sustain life indefinitely. Great point!

[@boipeloandsipho]

This is SUCH a good conversation ❤️

[@monaperry2635]

Godly wise conversation. Reconciliation comes after repentance.

[@patwoodard4280]

Thank you for sharing. I just came upon this, but not by accident. GOD is Good and ALWAYS knows what we need.

[@anitad8070]

Lysa, you are amazing. For 5 solid days, my mind was thinking how my ex husband seemed to want to return to the marriage a month ago, and, then went back to being cold and going back on his words. I had no peace despite praying. Last Sunday, I prayed to God to help me get this out of my mind. I chanced on your video the very next day and I feel alot of weight taken off my shoulders especially when you said that i need to decide that I want to be brave. In 2 days time, I will be informing my ex to proceed with the divorce that he asked me a year ago. I will be clinging to your words when I speak to him. Thank you so very much for giving me the strength.

[@LejlaEnigma91-oy1mj]

She is a very strong woman ! A warrior ❤

[@peggybaker5730]

You just told my story though there was so much gaslighting for such a long time it took a long time before I recovered. Also I now am painfully aware of the judgement in the church

[@chrishall8906]

"You have Stewarded your feelings well" ❤❤❤

[@brightpage1020]

Look at this amazing woman who has built an empire on probably the most painful moments of her adult life so far by sharing the strength God has given her in the downslope of change. Thank God for compassion like this. Thank you, both, Pretty Ladies! Keep shining 🔦 flashlights 💡 for the rest of us onto the support of the Holy Spirit. Praying your successes continue to grow and grow you increasingly.

[@ChristianaSenibo]

Amen 🙏🏾

[@KelceyG2019]

Great testimony and will help many. Thanks for sharing!!

[@sylvieclerc7667]

Thank you for this video. It encourages me. My husband left me 2 years ago and I am still struggling with pain, low self estim. I always wonder if what I am doing with the kids is good. Thank you for this message, God bless you.

[@lindsiwhitaker6722]

I whole heartedly believe that you went through your storms so I can walk through mine. I have never met anyone or heard anyone who has felt or is feeling just like me. THANK YOU for letting God use your storms to bring light to mine. If you weren't obedient, I would feel alone and like I am not understood. I have SO MUCH WORK TO DO! But I am healing in Jesus' name!

[@user-friendly36]

When everyone you were close to dies who truly knew your heart. Theres no one left who truly understands what youve been through. Only speculations, I had a hard time navigating life through lots of sickness in my body. Being spoken about disrespectfully online. Everyone taking certain peoples word on you and your life. I was damaged and mentally and physically sick. I needed God more desperately than I ever have if thats possible. He never left my side, and began to open my eyes to changes that I needed to make and He also made it easier for me by giving me a clear path out. Im so thankful to my BEST FRIEND, FATHER, SAVIOR, COMFORTER, PROTECTOR, PROVIDER, MY EVERYTHING. HE IS MY HERO!

[@jacquelinemcgowan8164]

Please may I suggest that music not be played so loud when someone is talking it is very hard to listen, I found it a little distracting thank you

[@vkeith990]

I agree 100%...the music was so loud and distracting!

[@guriausa]

Agree

[@aliciawolff1546]

Totally agree

[@HiHi-ir6ke]

Same

[@RestorationAcresTN]

Agreed

[@RainsK2]

I needed to hear this today ! I’m about to share my testimony publicly and have felt such fear in doing so. You have spoken with both grace and truth in your words . I’m deeply encouraged! Blessings Lysa ♥️

[@ChristianaSenibo]

👏🏾👏🏾

[@angelawood9077]

Yes! That's the same time I went through it. I soo relate to this. My life. Mine went crazy abused my daughter, and gave me a brain injury. Insanity but God Blessed & Rescued ME. I'm now grateful I got out.

[@Lionessamonglions]

This interviewer is phenomenal. Great questions.

[@Webbgurl2000]

That’s Scottish Singer Shelia Walsh. Used to be on the “700 Club.”

[@angelawood9077]

I pray daily for All my Family

[@ChristianaSenibo]

Love how she said that boundaries helps us bring things back to the middle.

[@sbg4ever120]

Thank you so much for this. I’m walking through tough days and I needed that reminder that God is working even when I feel overwhelmed. God bless you 💜🙏

[@angelawood9077]

Yes, years of abuse, Grace, it took my personality away from me. Now, I'm ME again, who GOD MADE ME.

[@Eng4555]

Truthfully quoted control all around you precisely yourself!! In that sense be focus on you and take advice to blessings forward!!

[@NicoleSavoie-m6r]

Thanking GOD that I randomly came across this video. I was drawn in more than anything I have ever watched. Thank you. Thank you for letting me see that I can not stay in this anger. That I can control how I respond to this pain. I have ordered the book and can’t wait to learn from Lysa’s wisdom that only experience can provide. I want to heal and grow and forgive after this traumatic divorce. Her PEACE emanates throughout this video! I want to reach that goal.

[@jacquelinemcgowan8164]

I remember a lady in my church who,s husband had an affair and so many wanted her to take him back, again no repentence and I thought which one of you people praying would like to be married to a liar, I wouldn,t, we do not has christians have to stay with a adulterer or abusive person, we have such a warped view on things and are so shallow. I commend you Lisa especially for your honesty, I have often thought to pour my heart out in church would be less painful if I chewed my leg off, thank you Lord Jesus for being our perfect saviour xxx

[@debbieoneal3744]

God bless Lyssaand her Children

[@nicj5354]

I've had a similar experience. The Lord encouraged me to stay in and fight for my marriage which involved years of cheating and abuse. I did everything I could, and ultimately after the last discovery He said that it was time to leave. I've been divorced now just over a year, healing and coming to terms with everything. The most important thing to do in any situation is listen to Holy Spirit and do what He tells you no matter what anyone/everyone else tells you you should/shouldn't do. He knows what you need and when you need it. The church has a lot of opinions, but it's The King's opinion that really matters. Praise God in Jesus Christ!

[@daughterofzion333]

Glory to God for our freedom.

[@genuine440]

I just finished reading her book ‘Good Boundaries and Goodbyes’. Great read 📖!

[@Jesusandme100]

Wow what she just said wow, just opened my eyes i never thought like that

[@violetagood9051]

I needed to hear this - Thank you Lisa and your courage to share how to walk through this in a godly stewardship way. There will be joy in the morning! Amen!

[@sdmoore8408]

Im sure that boundaries are different than cutting out of life completely without ANY explanation or restorative measures

[@tracymanengatkayumba]

Thank you for your story❤🙏🏽, Our GOD is a GOD of order.❤

[@geoffwatson6899]

mental health is a commitment to reality. stewarding suffering....... so important.....God is always at work for our good and His glory. Thank You ladies for this interview.

[@KelceyG2019]

Menta Heath is a commitment to reality at all costs. WOW!

[@kristink4530]

Wow this is so powerful! I may need to listen to this daily. Thank you for sharing!

[@EliznaKotze]

Thank you Lord for Lysa

[@annabanzon313]

Thank you for explaining self control vs. Controlling others.

[@Connie10000]

❤

[@daughterofzion333]

AMENNNNN

[@wombakazembe6610]

I just came across this and it has really helped me to see and do things differently. God bless you

[@ToFishTeacher]

I love listening to Lysa and this video is no exception. But I would like to request the background music be both quieter and less repetitive. I found it difficult to concentrate and learn with those weird tones repeating over and over at nearly the same volume as the voices. Just a suggestion :)

[@jessicacarpenter9518]

Praise Jesus I need to learn boundaries

[@lyndastevens9726]

Thank you for sharing your story with us! That time of my life was beyond awful, But God! ✝️❣️

[@marymorse7467]

It’s amazing how Gaslighting has become so common in relationships.

[@gobigandgohomeschool4882]

So very helpful. I like the idea of stewarding suffering well.

[@kerryfaden94]

Thank you so much both of you! I am going to buy the book and learn how to set some boundaries! Feel for you both that you were not treated well by all when you spoke up ! Thanking you for helping me!!

[@joya2008z]

Thank you for your testimony!

[@ncorneliusacts1011]

Two strong godly women. I love 💞 the host. And I'm getting this book my sisters.

[@yr2180]

Thank you for this. Both my son and I am out of control. I am a mess. This gave me hope

[@faithlewis4176]

Absolutely love this ❤

[@jolenepayne1378]

May GOD BLESS❤️🙏 both of these AMAZING WOMEN and THANK YOU❤️😘

[@jane77722]

This is so good! Thank you.

[@jocelynwhite3351]

Lysa's story is almost exactly like mine... the mental health crisis that my first husband put me through was much bigger than I realized then. The good news is that my late husband got truly saved and changed! Yet, the baggage of that earlier time lingered. My late husband was probably bipolar but was untreated. I lived life on the edge struggling to balance the doctrine of submission with the reality of holding my family together in case my husband started to get wild ideas... there were truly scary times. The kids never saw their dad in his messed up state. They only know him as fun, loving and full of life and passion for Christ. Sadly, at least 2 of my children have his tendencies. When do I tell them the , if ever, the truth of their father?

[@Uponhizwingz]

Loving this woman❤ god bless you for sharing your story

[@allisonb.8492]

Lisa is such a special person.

[@shereemoon]

Great wisdom and inspiration! Thank you, sisters!

[@princessofgenovia1407]

Thanks!

[@adristrydom5154]

I didn't know that this level of self-control was possible. Paradigm shift

[@Connie10000]

Amen❤

[@CoachTaraTucker]

This blessed me. It showed up at a time I truly needed it. I thank God. ❤️

[@irmarosario676]

Good point

[@victoriaklein5017]

Brilliant, raw and vulnerable interview. So helpful on so many levels. My only critique is the music felt out of place and detracted from the depth and seriousness of the conversation.

[@Jer.616]

Love Lisa Terkeurst. (The background music on this video is too loud. Please bring it down.)

[@ReAnnRing]

This is so good.

[@melastname6481]

this is a powerful and helpful video, thank you. Although, please turn the music down or off in the background? It is distracting, makes it hard to listen closely.

[@csiesel1]

Message so good. Background music too loud and distracting

[@amandine.84]

Thank you for this beautiful exchange. Would love to buy your book, is a translation in french or german planned? Thanks in advance for your response.

[@kleeham3262]

Love it.

[@loribixler1939]

Trauma over and over I am begging God to show me a way to forgive because it's endless

[@4mamamel]

Just like a narcissist-they always have to ruin special family events!!! He had to tell her On her daughter’s wedding!!!! Such a pos-narcissists have the same MO!! Lysa, you have, you are, and you will help so many people!!! One of whom is me! You too Mrs. Shelia! Thank you God bless you both!!!

[@jamiehiatt4596]

For other women.....and men! Lisa has a male audience that she may be unaware of. Women are not the only ones who experience relational pain.

[@sandyrabalais4731]

I been in this season all my life I I been lonely when will God show up praying for years where is he How do I overcome this I feel like God has taken every one for me. I've been stuck emotional abusive relationship for 30 years . 8 years ago nothing has happened.

[@faithsukhoo5437]

It's the first time I'm seeing her on tv

[@anneliesewright662]

Wonderful interview, but can you PLEASE delete the background music for those of us with A.D.D.? I want so much to hear what y'all are saying, but my brain gets scrambled by the distraction. 😞

[@cecebaby05]

Lysa ❤️

[@JudionSmith]

Such profound discussion. Very much necessary. When we ask for forgiveness, we are expected to repent and turn from our sinful ways, why then are we expected to reconcile with someone who is unrepentant and stuck in their offensive ways? We forgive by all means. That's the beginning to our healing. However, we cannot heal in the same toxic environment that cause us pain in the first place. We don't just throw in the towel, but we must look after our own emotional well-being. As a Christian, I used to find it rather challenging with the expectation to 'stay and pray'. Hence why I wrote the book '12 Fundamental Truths about Forgiveness'. It gives clarity to the misconceptions of forgiveness.

[@kriskross4308]

Please do a second episode. The first one was such a blessing. 🤍

[@brendareed5050]

I am wondering if learning to set healthy boundaries applies to men as well. I have not heard of any men doing this, only women.

[@Honeysuckle33]

I am working through my Fiancé cheating on me. This is helpful. Thank you.

[@queenofdahouse1591]

Ya. Don’t marry someone whom was willing to risk losing you. Doesn’t matter if you have a “history.” God will heal and provide you with one whom will treasure you. Please trust me on this… I forgave, but years later after breaking it off four times, met the man of my dreams. He’s been faithful 41 years. Raised three great kids now two grands. Yes, painful but trust me nothing like a divorce with children, which I can only imagine. Look up Focus on the Family, Insight for Living, Family Talk and David Jeremiah. You can speak to free counselors each place. Dave Ramsey for finances. Please read the Gospel of John. It will change your life. God bless…

[@tinalouise9547]

If he’s cheating now, what do you suppose he will do if you marry him? 7:14

[@sudhakhristmukti1930]

Kindly do not have background music...can't fully hear the talk.Thankyou.

[@thelmakaluba7426]

I need that book

[@eloisagonzalez6857]

Please next time take the music out....

[@mariannepionati-nd5zy]

Great interview, music very distracting.

[@timjohnson2186]

Man of faith

[@annatevesbanzon1359]

Limit access yes

[@jendee1260]

the background music is not background. please turn it way down, it’s distracting from the actual conversation. thanks.

[@monkeyloven]

music too loud, great info though.

[@kasakulasharon1312]

Amen

[@mellissiad7281]

😢

[@TeresaGradolf-hu5fk]

Psalm's 91

[@erikamartinez9604]

My story 😢

[@Flower_hoarder]

JESUS🎚️JESUS🎚️JESUS

[@thelovechannel7236]

Great conversation, these one size fits ALL Christian’s views that they speak of need to be addressed . You’re Christian so your life is perfect … nope . GOD treats us all as individuals and gives us all individual trials and journeys . I tried to hold my own marriage together and GOD literally told me loud one day two words - GET OUT- . The next day I was at the attorneys office . I wasn’t growing to become the womenGOD wanted me to become and my husbands issues were getting in the way of the plan GOD had for me . Life isn’t supposed to be this perfect journey , look at the Bible and see all those who have gone through seriously awful trials !!!! This is life . Where is GOD ?? He’s watching how you endure this trial / the lessons you learn / the changes you make and most importantly do you lean on him ? He doesn’t fix things . He doesn’t go by the typical white upper-crust American standard . He again has his own ideas of what you’re destined for . Im saying this all with the wisdom God has given me through my own trials and with love . ❤

[@brightpage1020]

Lysa’s lookin’ gooooood! Hot momma here! Watch out, World! 👀

[@NanaCasas1]

The background music is very distracting!