"Don't Give Him Access!" - If He's NOT Serious, STOP Chasing & Do This Instead | Stephan Speaks

[@LisaBilyeu]

What’s the biggest red flag you look for?

[@piyusha1912]

When they don't treat children, animals and women modestly

[@r.p.8906]

when he tries to make you look small and overreacting when you just speak or when you just are.

[@alyssarose6262]

The way he treats himself honestly.. does he have integrity? Does he take care of himself, not just physically but on all levels. Spiritually, mentally.. if he doesn't value himself, how can he value you?

[@bee67371]

Love bombing.

[@sunvavachi]

@@alyssarose6262 this.

[@cindyvazquez4333]

I'm not afraid of being alone. I'm afraid of being with the wrong person. ❤❤

[@ONLYmindYourBusiness]

Whew chile....

[@tashaequeen8935]

I can feel that! Same here

[@jasnynekyles8056]

Whew!

[@nknight5228]

I agree,. The wrong person will set you back years.

[@RitaHenson-ui4se]

AMEN! I agree 💯%. 12/12/'24.

[@zeedo666]

"You will never be good enough for the wrong person"

[@swatisaini6447]

Truth bombs!

[@lisacranmer8005]

Agree...you can not lose yourself trying to keep peace.

[@thegameoflife2131]

Very true

[@217maritza]

BEST comment thus far.

[@rawsiebee1]

So powerful! So true!!

[@haileyallen7087]

"one of the biggest mistakes a man or woman can make is to let someone think no matter what they do to you, you will stay." hard truth right there. I've made this mistake

[@perism1586]

As have I, now we know better. And we deserve better.

[@Cezeji1]

Mine was 24yrs worth of that mistake. Finally woke up and divorced him

[@celiaparra8515]

@@Cezeji1 same with m 22 years. Filing for divorce

[@louisedevries4090]

No I've left the relationship. My understanding and patience ran out. He ignored my feelings too often. There was no reason to stay in this relationship anymore

[@badnelly7819]

Me too, your very right. Hindsight aye...

[@ceciliakaari782]

"Nothing will knock you down quicker than offering the best of yourself to someone and it's still not being good enough. "~M.W. Poetry.

[@justinepoyntz1474]

That’s a mistake I made my entire life. Placing my value on outside views of myself. It’s better to own your insecurities, deal With them and build Your own self Esteem. If you get rejected after that, it won’t knock you down. You’ll take as more Matter of fact. And your door will be open to keep seeking to find an ideal fit.

[@sharinvile5074]

@@justinepoyntz1474 Deng me too! 😢😢

[@-_oOtianaOo_-]

Omg this is a very devastating blow. My heart aches remembering how that felt. How it still feels. When u grow up in it and have relationships in it you start to do it to yourself too.

[@d1v1n1ti]

This was to my father ❤️‍🩹

[@christynorman7288]

So true..... Yes give the best of yourself and for it not to be good enough.... Is soul destroying and not that unusual.... Peace out 🇬🇧🏴󠁧󠁢󠁥󠁮󠁧󠁿🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿🍀

[@evelina787]

If someone is mistreating you and tells you they haven’t done anything “wrong”, listen to them. They are telling you they are going to continue😔✨☘️🙏

[@SmackedyDoo]

Agreed. When confronted you may even get a response from them of, "You should accept me for who I am. I accept you for who you are." Which essentially means: I'm not hiding being an asshole and you've been taking it (which is my acceptance of you) so why should I change who I am (being an asshole) bc you're saying now that you don't like (accept) it. So I will continue to mistreat you because I've done nothing wrong. You're the one who is in the wrong for not accepting me for who I am (an asshole). My response is: You're right. I accept that you're an asshole. And then I'd get the hell out of there.

[@evelina787]

@@SmackedyDoo This is an extremely good, enlightening & honest method to use to acknowledge what we go through & witness✨☘️🙏Thank you so very much for your enlightenment

[@SmackedyDoo]

@@evelina787 That's very kind of you.

[@MrsSoftLifeGirly]

That was my ex husband. Always giving other women attention then cried like a baby when I divorced him.

[@evelina787]

@@MrsSoftLifeGirly So sorry you went through this But i'm so delighted you're so strong & wishing you to continuously be blessed with the very best in life, forevermore ✨☘️🙏

[@pamelawilliams3365]

A broken man or a narcissistic man will never be able to give the love you deserve.

[@YourNewestSebie]

How did the man break?

[@frnkjones40]

What is a broken man?

[@pamelawilliams3365]

I was told that a broken man is a man who isn't emotionally available to give love or show compassion or empathy.

[@frnkjones40]

@@pamelawilliams3365 sounds like a typical sociopath to me

[@noblespeaker24_7]

I am learning this the hard way after three years…I feel so empty. I gave my all to this person and it was all for nothing. 😔

[@blessedbutterflytarot3060]

There are good guys out there. You have to look for someone who is good, not just showing you a good face. My husband was very consistent in the beginning and reached out everyday to make sure I was ok. That was just in the dating phase. Six years of being together and four years married, HE IS STILL THE SAME WAY. Because that’s his character.

[@BrooklynBaby100]

Where’d you find him?

[@missdawn5238]

You are truly blessed to have that , that’s so rare these days .

[@blessedbutterflytarot3060]

@@BrooklynBaby100 I’ve found I’ve had the best experiences with foreign men with great relationships (not codependent) with their mothers. Good luck!

[@realestatecoach8626]

Good isn’t always great !

[@beelaparish]

@@missdawn5238 it’s not rare you have to look at yourself and see how are you playing the game. Many men are wanting good wives but the pickings are slim. More women to men but quality women are not there either

[@jcr-studios]

After over 30 years of trying to interpret men’s actions, it is no longer an interest of mine. Lol. It’s about time for men to do the inner work and learn how to communicate in relationships. I taught my boys emotional intelligence but I have yet to be in a relationship with a man who is self-aware, can take responsibility for his actions, and has the ability to communicate his needs/wants clearly without getting his ego involved.

[@hollygrace6814]

OMG Jacqueline!!!! i ALWAYS think this. Its women for the MOST part watching these videos, going to therapy, doing work. Men dont do SHIT! its always us. I bet the guy who gaslighted me last year (nice guy, but it didnt end well cause of the gaslighting) i bet he isnt watching these clips!!

[@gogoldiego]

I agree, also I took from this that it's for men and women. Both need to be authentic and honest.

[@NotTodaySatan557]

Couldn’t agree more!!!!!!! When he says “he left bc he’s scared”, I literally said out loud “and!?” “So!???”. Like outcome is the same despite intention. Men need to learn communication my god

[@jcr-studios]

@@hollygrace6814 100% agree. Sorry to hear about being gaslit. It's a real mind f*ck. Continuous gaslighting is abuse - maybe not such a nice guy-? I can so relate. Good thing is we're on our road to recovery and making better choices in all our relationships, right? Take care :)

[@hollygrace6814]

@@NotTodaySatan557 RIGHT! i found this interview insightful, but also somewhat, pathetic.

[@nataliebishop2527]

There’s nothing wrong with being single. It’s peaceful and if the best thing for you until you meet the right person, you should not by any means “settle”. I’d rather be single than with the wrong person.

[@KimberlyBorges-h5l]

I hv said, "No arguing with anyone, or turning around in the bathroom at night in order to make sure the toilet seat is down, before your boots hits the cold water."

[@mzmagnolia2940]

I agree. Since I've been single I've learned so much about MYSELF...the inner peace I found is something I will never give up for anything in the world. I'm opened to dating but for now I'm at peace and patiently waiting for my person to come into my life...

[@retinamatthews2686]

YESSEYŸYY HELLALUJAH AMEN THANKS 🙏🏾🙌🏾❤🙏🏾

[@deborahjohnson1974]

I feel you. I love being single. It's the best thing ever. Do what you want. Be who you want. Go where you want. Do what you want. I mean it is just great. I'm in my own world and I don't even know if I have room to share it with a man, especially one that's not acceptable in my life. I love me😊

[@meliciajordan775]

Easier said than done until the bs starts

[@jackierumph2779]

Life isn't about WHO you want to be... It about discovering WHO you are!!

[@maceyr.6583]

"It's easier to chase lust than to chase love". Couldn't agree more.

[@phoenixrising8007]

Chasing lust isn’t investing yourself so there is nothing to lose, nothing ventured nothing gained.

[@missqlalah]

@@phoenixrising8007 Unless the other person is invested.

[@lisacranmer8005]

@@phoenixrising8007 Agree

[@babyc.3015]

@@missqlalah if he's truly invested in you he's not gonna operate with his dick

[@user-iw8vg6rd4y]

Oh definitely

[@LizzoBlizzo]

I’ve gotten to the point where if you gotta break down all their actions and are still left confused it ain’t worth any more of your attention.

[@TellitTay]

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@childofgodskingdom8403]

Point blank periodtt

[@SongiGodsgirl]

Facts 💯 💯 left confused and not at peace 😐 run.

[@giggles1219]

Exactly. It's such a way of time.

[@dasiagraves1050]

That's me I'm tryna work it out

[@NathalieLazo]

“When nobody else celebrates you, learn to celebrate yourself. When nobody else compliments you, then compliment yourself. It’s not up to other people to keep you encouraged. It’s up to you. Encouragement should come from the inside.” - Jay Shetty ✨

[@elisavetaivanova8518]

Omg that is such a nice quote ❤️

[@PoliticalWonderland]

Jay steals almost every quote. I suggest finding the real genius who said this. 🙄

[@Hbk-gc7st]

True! Thanks for sharing!👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽💝

[@PoliticalWonderland]

When nobody else celebrates you, learn to celebrate yourself. When nobody else compliments you, then compliment yourself. It’s not up to other people to keep you encouraged. It’s up to you. Encouragement should come from the inside. - *Joel Osteen* *JAY SH!TTY is a CON MAN*

[@anniemartina6767]

Such a terrible quote and not realistic. As humans we need evidence of all of this and can't just pull it out of a vacuum. Yes we need to have confidence but we need to work towards it and needs to be recognised on some scale.

[@doll0726]

15:30 women: follow your strength= which is listen to your intuition, inner voice. 18:34 difference between connection and infatuation 28:48 bad advice men tend to follow 30:56 ask questions rather than assuming the situation and behavior 34:02 what’s gonna happen if you fake your personality and show it to him on the first date. don’t try to win the date over, show who you are instead. 37:59 what you have to be careful not to misunderstand 40:34 responsibility to convey your message to others 43:09 difference between connection, compatibility and chemistry 48:04 the blind side of dating apps

[@NHI_MINISTRIES]

Ty!!!

[@ahandl3]

The hero is here 🙌

[@doll0726]

Thank you for many likes and the comments! I’m glad to be a part of your help:)

[@shonybaby9982]

Thank you

[@elianemaeda2972]

❤

[@kaykay834]

You are right!! If a person think you will NEVER leave they will stop giving 100%

[@paulajohnson420]

I used to be blunt & rude all in the name of being honest and direct. I was careless regarding other’s feelings. I realized I was hurting other people because I was hurt. I realized I needed to work on myself so I took the time to pray, and get counseling to resolve my issues.

[@jedidjab4346]

I’m dealing with the same issue.

[@jedidjab4346]

I’m dealing with the same issue.

[@blessedbutterflytarot3060]

Yes, this is important and something I’m working through as well.

[@josephine5809]

Thank you for being open about your awareness, Paula. Owning your experience is everything.

[@africanglobalnomad]

So now you are two-faced?

[@kaylives]

“Im so in love with the perception of this man i have rather than the reality of this man” freaking felt to the core 😭💯🔥

[@marawashington3280]

You too??? I thought it was just me.

[@BrooklynBaby100]

Isn’t that the man’s fault? He’s keeping you at arms length on purpose Queens

[@Klvmoss10]

Yes rings so true to me

[@rdhairscience]

@@Klvmoss10 reé we rip

[@giannamadison7275]

Most impactful statement, "you'll never be good enough for the wrong person!"

[@lucillejones-yw6yp]

This man has qualities thats even better than a therapist and is spot on. ❤

[@angelwings4793]

As an arab girl it's so hard being single over 30 years old, so you start avoiding family celebrations and weddings to avoid people looking at you and questioning why you still single

[@mcshllymc6656]

Next time they ask you why your still single tell them the man who God knows deserves you hasn't shown up yet, but you are willing to wait on God's timing and not run ahead.

[@areebahshakeel2409]

Move to another country and get independent

[@KimberlyBorges-h5l]

I've been told that same ?, & I'm 54. "But God" led me to meet a wonderful man through a "fr" he sent me, & he couldn't believe e it when I answered it right back, & I said, "Well why wouldn't I!?" :)

[@dolores2022]

I would tell them because I have high intelligence

[@HS-pw2ty]

​@areebahshakeel2409 she might be in America but being Arabic the culture and expectations are still present.

[@paval2022]

I think the advice under "Don't stay out of fear" applies for men and women. I'm a woman and I am not gonna stay in a relationship giving my love if not being reciprocated. No matter how much I love you, if you don't treat me right, I'm gone!

[@silvanusphillip5034]

Hi paola valladares you are soo right, if a man cannot reciprocated too u, run for the hills, anyway stay safe, peace, love and light, goodbye for now.

[@paval2022]

@@jujuherbst8094 You are right. I look young, but I am very close to reach 40. I am kinda that woman you are describing. My friends have kids or are married. I'm the single one. I am still recovering from a relationship that got toxic. He had a narcissistic behaviour, this of course I saw when I distance from him. It hurts so much when the person you love mistreat you, makes you feel you are not good enough and it hurts even more knowing that you have to "destroy" the love you have for that person because they don't love you. But staying there was only gonna destroy me. I am worth something. Not matter the age, someone will see it someday.

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[@Yoginimassage]

@@paval2022 I am similar age and have tons of single guy friends. There are plenty of good guys around to have connection with even if not in a relationship. ..

[@paval2022]

@@Yoginimassage Hi! Completely agree with you! wish I had a more outgoing personality and could easily socialise with both, men and women. I kinda have social anxiety and suffer when in large groups of crowded places. My social group is limited. I am ok with being alone and have a great relationship with my friends, but of course it'd be nice to share my life with a nice fella .🙂

[@karolinah12]

When you really love yourself enough, you have inner peace. Don't try so hard to figure someone else out, just pay attention to your inner feelings and if you feel secure and happy. The hard truth is that not everyone finds true love although most of us want it.

[@dorcaso1619]

step 0 honestly

[@MagickalMoonGoddess]

I'm learning to accept this hard truth

[@carlosibanez2763]

Girls, you're all special, don't fall for words, fall for actions. Also, talk about introducing them to your family, and the guy really has to think about whether he wants to go through all that, make sure you make him go through that, that's the action part of it. Goodluck loves! ❤️ 💙 💜 💖 💗

[@BrooklynBaby100]

And invite him to church see how he acts.

[@lisacranmer8005]

@@BrooklynBaby100 cool

[@mrsbdubc2174]

He can introduce you to his family and that doesn't always mean nothing.

[@carlosibanez2763]

@@mrsbdubc2174 that's so true, and the family already knows

[@marawashington3280]

Absolutely!!!!

[@LindaCasey]

By 74, I've waded through the whole gamut of relationships from roommate to spouse to being married to my career, but the happiest relationships I ever encountered were with myself, my pets and a handful of friends. It's so much more freeing to be able to choose for yourself 24/7 what it is you want to do without hurting someone else's feelings or pissing them off. It's when our own expectations have been dashed that we would become disillusioned in another.

[@user-ip5fm3ck4p]

I like the way you think. ❤

[@SB-cy4hb]

The happiest relationship is by far a relationship with God:)))

[@LindaCasey]

@@SB-cy4hb That's a given

[@minniethomas6206]

​@@SB-cy4hb😂

[@PoisedPen-xm5xj]

The last sentence sums it up!

[@Kimmac-cs7km]

Man, he is teaching right now. I pray that my ears are open to receiving this message without my heart getting in the way.

[@cn7andr]

Communicating like grown folks solves and spares a lot of this confusion and trauma

[@s.p.baughman7885]

very true...

[@Swindysux]

And if you find that it's impossible to engage your partner in a sensible way then that should indicate how successful you'll be

[@ReenaBINA]

Facts

[@charlotteclark6061]

...100!

[@SmackedyDoo]

@@Swindysux Absolutely.

[@saphiquefemme]

Learning about this is humbling but it also reminds me I’m tired. I’ve accepted that dating vs courtship vs marriage is too complicated nowadays and I want nothing to do with any of it. I’d rather keep my peace, it’s cheaper too.

[@childofgodskingdom8403]

Peaceful place is my space

[@KrissyonDemand]

I agree 💯

[@nicklaw2918]

I'm a lesbain & far my concern it's too much expection going into it

[@christine4539]

I'm tired too hun. I never thought it would be this hard to find a mate

[@cassandraowusu5945]

I feel the same way 👌🏾💯

[@haizeabezala]

I totally agree. If a guy is writing, calling and chasing you constantly, it's a major red flag and a turn off. Run and look for a guy who is balanced and has projects, hobbies and self-respect. Don't fall for a guy that seems to come out of a bad romantic film. He may also be stalking material.

[@BFHSNetwork]

Or maybe he has balance in his life... people are on different levels when they meet.

[@itzmari21]

You’re right . I’m still being stalked till this day .

[@rns6889]

Even if I've got my own life and respect and know my self very well. After my previous relationship I'd still be like that, because by nature I'm a very clingy lover and very affectionate, and the way I do it is self conscious and pure, and I'll listen to what the other person says if my behaviour doesn't please them, though I'd be hurt and ask to compromise in a way that i can still express myself. Hearing about all this kind of hurts me making me think I'm that sort of person people don't want to get to be with.

[@shtejahward9582]

Sometimes I get confused because if you aren’t calling or texting me are you giving it to somebody else ? Or am I self sabotaging?

[@tui_kowhai9096]

​@@rns6889 same!! Thanks for your honesty 😊

[@thesolduo1786]

Communication is key! I start with communication in every relationship and I feel peaceful in most of my relationships

[@cindyjones1608]

What’s tough is when you are a decent communicator but your partner is a deaf mute when it comes to discussing relationship issues or his only statements are “I don’t know”, ‘I don’t remember”, “I don’t know how to answer that”, “I don’t understand what you’re asking, could you be more specific”, or just pulls a lie out of his butt that makes no sense at all and you just know…This is not going to end well. IT’S GOING TO END…BUT NOT WELL AT ALL.

[@adetounafolabi6436]

It is very true, I became so afraid to go into a relationship because of the hurt and pain I went through in my first relationship. I fought so hard to forget it. I’m 41 and still single. I believe in marriage and want to be married. Thank God for strength, I believe he shall help me

[@klaird_h4727]

Anyone who starts saying they love you within a short space of time (love bombing)...without having met you or barely knowing you is a HUGE red flag ladies....I know it can feel surreal, but it is definitely something you have to watch out for and run for the hills. Because honestly ask yourself, how can they love you or you them if you don't know each other?!

[@linda01234567890]

Why aren't you letting them know you, I have heard this and it was because he was hiding a lot.

[@emabella1000]

It’s possible. I met my ex online and we both said ‘ i love you’ before we actually met. Maybe it was just lust in the begining because love is sometomes you build over time, my point is that is not always a bad thing that someone can express their feelings early on. We stayed together 7 years. We broke up but it doesnt mean I regret the relationship. We were both youngr and both made mistakes. It was a leason.

[@gogoldiego]

I agree to this for many this day and time, but love is an action. My husband told me he loved me the first week we met and I loved him when I first met him. It was truly love at first sight for me. We have been happily married for over 21 years. Many can't imagine that type of love because they haven't experienced it or seen it. What helped me when I was dating, I was authentic and honest, and I was aware of disrespect from myself and others. I practice being genuine, self worth, good communication, awareness, and prayer.

[@mmommo10]

a guy was kissing me on the first few dates.....(just a peck but still!!!)

[@BlueSkyCountry]

"Lovebombing" is what serial killers and predators do too. Way too many episodes of TCAP showing the preds love bombing the decoys for days or even months before they show up to the sting house and meet Chris Hansen.

[@BeccaL2016]

The thing is once you are not afraid being alone, you become more picky, you just don’t wanna settle down with whoever, then you end up being single for a long time 😳😓 even you want to be with someone…🤷🏻‍♀️

[@littlecat2222]

Same situation here. I have enjoyed too much by myself for too long and I am having difficulties to see myself being with someone again …

[@scorchedearthcreations]

Same here, I enjoy my life so much that a relationship can’t really add anything to it. I’m not saying never but it’s not something I need or want anymore. All the happiest times in my life has been when I’ve been single for a few years in between long term relationships

[@onelovej3296]

That is me there😀🙈

[@lisacartner971]

Been married 15 years and separated on and off for the past 3 years. Never thought I'd be alone at age 56 on the 6th. He has already moved on with a woman 30 years younger and a downgrade and bad person. I realized that even with my ex I was alone. I believe that I will always be alone now. He ruined trust for me and I will never allow my heart to be broken like he broke my heart ever again. As much as I hate being alone, it's better than being hurt.

[@innocentiatheunissen6731]

this is the most sense full comment ever 👏

[@Jennozen1]

I'm not good about INITIATING affection. My family wasn't and isn't touchy feely. Hugs feel awkward. But I love & need affection. That's why I love someone who is naturally affectionate. Having someone i like or love come up behind me and hug me unexpectedly, I melt.

[@mmommo10]

same

[@marstar24]

❤

[@jazz4363]

I learned my lesson. I let a person tell me he don't like me in that way and don't want to be with me. Yet I continue to mess with him and made myself think in time he will want me. I will never do that to my self again. The worst feeling is feeling unwanted and the only thing they want from you is relations.

[@Leila_Vuitton]

Im so sorry this happend to you.❤ you are worthy✨️

[@pdoll96]

Telling my whole story. I knew deep down the first week of our romantic relationship that something wasn’t right and God even told me not to get intimate with him but I wanted him so much, I ignored it. Hard lesson learned. I’m so excited to see Stephan on Lisa’s show. I greatly admire them both and Tom.

[@msmariapaula23]

“Now the goal should be not trying to fit into other people’s lives but, seeing who we fit together with.” 👏👏👏 Amen Stephan 👏👏👏 I have been trying way too hard in my adult years 🤦‍♀️

[@christinalee9336]

This man is so wise. The best thing I heard from this interview is “don’t internalize”. It applies to all relationships, not just romantic ones. Wow.

[@bekindpeas]

Yes that's important. Yet very difficult. But wise. For your own sake

[@DOLCEKAYEXOTICAL]

You guys aren’t thinking clearly. Yes he said don’t internalize and that’s correct, but everything he said afterwards was about trying to understand why a man is acting hot and cold. And then he says not to over analyze. Girl, the minute you start wasting your thoughts on WHY a man isn’t doing something, you’re already internalizing and over analyzing. Not internalizing means that a person’s actions should have no impact on your self esteem and your ability to love. You shouldn’t even concern yourself with 90% of what this man said.

[@kami3131.]

I don’t understand excusing someone withdrawing out of protection of self because they are not ready to commit, and saying the other person shouldn’t internalise it…All they needed to was COMMUNICATE their feelings!

[@kami3131.]

…stop wasting woman’s time, why should they wait when you don’t have the respect to communicate. You can’t blame someone for assuming if you are keeping confused.

[@pj3291]

I said the same thing!! If men can only learn to communicate smh!!!!

[@lisaariottiart]

Men know how to communicate like champs when they know exactly what the want. The issue lies with the reasons they want someone. Lust is a man's biological driver. How and why to love is learned behavior.

[@Ohkeh640]

@@kami3131. yah I agree too

[@emjohnson7207]

I thought the exact same thing! Why would a woman not feel slighted, ghosted, because he changes his behavior. He was concerned that he couldn't focus on his business, blah, blah, bullsh*t. If the guy can't tell the woman he's attracted to this then how is he going to communicate in business. That advice was a load of crock and now you dealing with a woman with her guard up. A hurt woman will take a chance on love after being hurt, but most hurt men will not...as my lawn guy once told me, a divorced man in his 40s is a sure 'nough hoe. This guy really needed an older woman that's been through some stuff, and came out better, sitting next to him. .. or my lawn guy 😆

[@leafyveins4985]

Guy at work wanted me to be his lil work wifey, flirting every day, telling me what I wanted to hear, that I was his favorite person, hugging me all the time, saying my name 30 times a day, but when I invited him to a festival with a few other coworkers he was scared and didn't wanna go. So I called him out and he said he was sorry he gave me the wrong impression and that he just noticed I liked him like a week ago and that he can't get into anything right now. I just smiled, thanked him for his honesty and said that I completely understand. Gotta keep it moving. I don't have time for these games.

[@InnovationTree]

Call the guy out and ask the hard questions within two weeks of him showing interest. A man is not allowed to ignite a woman love if he won't follow through. Cut if off! It will save you heartache, and hope and give you back your peace.

[@mariespi96]

Work wifey? 🤔 Was he married?

[@leafyveins4985]

@@InnovationTree Too true, thanks!

[@leafyveins4985]

@@mariespi96 No, girl what. I guess it's a millennial term? Idk. It means work crush/flirt

[@Choyce2010]

Being his “work wifey”must have taken so much energy that could have been directed at creating a new REAL RELATIONSHIP!!

[@earthangel4971]

This is why communication is so important and necessary. If your words don't speak your actions will. Thats just how it goes. We have to grow up enough to communicate our truth to people even when its uncomfortable. Internilization cannot exist where there is proper communication and acknowledgement.

[@browngoddess5340]

I really appreciated her asking the question "Do they want to be in a relationship or are they looking for someone to take care of them?

[@BrooklynBaby100]

Or are they looking for someone to make THEM feel good or a texting buddy never moving things forward

[@africanglobalnomad]

@@BrooklynBaby100 that 😝

[@africanglobalnomad]

Most people are including long marriages

[@sandragreen5146]

Most" players" leave the straight forward people alone.if they know that bullmess doesn't work on you they aren't going to keep trying.. They'd rather go to someone who is weak and easily manipulate.

[@BeautyNBrains86]

Exactly!

[@Zainygreenstone]

Not in my case. It was a challenge then.

[@SimonKnight1023]

Easy prey

[@badgal_danielle2400]

That's how they hunt

[@Fluvienne]

If a player is also a hunter, they won’t always be satisfied with easy prey. If the name of the game is get the girl/guy, then a good player knows how to play both the short game and the long game.

[@Jagirl1966]

How did he get to this level of understanding? Understanding yourself is a God given gift. I am so thankful for this gentleman in sharing his gifts. Gives me hope in trusting my own intuition and forgiving myself to move into my own self/space.

[@winig5558]

Years of misaligned dating experience and coming to terms with the fact that WE are usually our biggest block between where we are and where we want to be in life, then doing the work on top of prayer is what gets us to understanding at this level. Really looking ourselves in the mirror and saying "wow, I need to do something different".

[@terrilam8505]

@ 12:22...If you abruptly pull your energy away from someone that you really like and everything was going great, BUT you don't explain why you pull back, then what do you expect that person to think? Why would they not trust your intentions or even your future intentions. It's call COMMUNICATION. Plus, switch the scenario around and think about how that would make you feel? It's always simple to me. Treat others the way you want to be treated. That's it....That's all.

[@pauleeresume2020]

💯

[@shanderiarichardson4264]

Right. Because a lot of times actions speaks louder than words. Why not communicate this.

[@helenacummings2745]

What I've learned Just be real and be yourself, don't try to be someone you're not when your dating be real and be truthful. Dont put all your eggs in one basket either when dating, You may be very attracted to someone but that does not mean they will be good for you or a good person , We all have intuition, Listen to it the first time and you can save yourself alot of heartache, and don't sleep with a man or women right away, see what they actually want in a relationship, see what type of person they are, how they think etc., and the most important thing are you both on the same page? Do you want the same things out of life? , Do you want a relationship in the hopes to get married one day? Just take things slow and see how it goes, and if the other person just breaks things off or tells you they aren't ready or starts to pull away don't chase them, let them go. Don't give anyone all your Power so they can hurt you deeply by it.

[@barbarajackson4245]

This is so true good advice thanks

[@chocolateicecream6995]

i'm starting to learn that. I was putting this guy on a pedestal and being very cautious about how I text him to come across interested but also give him space. Now I'll just text whatever the heck I want when I feel like it, because that's how I'm gonna act with my friends. if he's not into it he can respectfully tell me, or just pull away.

[@kathykonkle1097]

What I learned is tell the bastard right up front that you know all about his empty-headed side chick.

[@yoshreimi]

I'm learning so much from you both in this interview. As a gay male I have a good intuition as well but girls have always been my best friends, my family. I would not be here without the women in my life. Thanks a lot Lisa for what you are doing, this is amazing.

[@Ohkeh640]

True love requires flowing back and forth 🥹❤️

[@soniagonzalez1462]

Agreed on the situations where people are truly in love but not together because of fear and hurt

[@ambertorres4444]

My intuition is always right. On top of that, I leave my prayer closet knowing the mysteries of life....armed with specific details about people, situations, motives, intentions, what people were wearing, names of strangers...it's never been wrong.

[@eugenaarnold3965]

He is so right ladies listen to yourself. When your mind, body or soul is telling u “don’t do” don’t do it. He is right on so many level. I am 36 with 2 kids and never been married.

[@DaleRFetz]

Work to make it work. A relationship is a live entity: it has to evolve and grow. It has to be a two- sided affair!

[@africanglobalnomad]

What about ❤️ that’s thrown in our faces? Do you need to work if you are in love?

[@micheleriley8985]

This interview was amazing, now my brain hurts so much information to dissect. What stood out to me is what do you want to experience in the moment instead of attaching all of these meanings to what it should be. Can we as humans just get to the point of having real conversations with each other and let that be the basis for the relationship to flow. Miscommunication always leads to us coming up with our own interpretations.

[@loriellen2726]

Michele Riley, I agreed wholeheartedly with you. If only people would be authentic… But, for many reasons, sooo many different reasons, people are not genuine. They do not own their thoughts, feelings, beliefs, desires, dreams… In my opinion, they are sincerely betraying themselves. They are misrepresenting themselves because of fears, guilt, shame, etc. to get or keep something, someone. But, if you suppress your true self, you will not be truly content, joyful, loving and at peace.

[@GodsGenuineGrace]

@@loriellen2726 Real good & I didn’t even come here intentionally. I woke & all of a sudden this was playing (auto-play).

[@loriellen2726]

@@GodsGenuineGrace Oh, so good!

[@njrosenj2206]

So resonate with your comment 🙏🏻

[@loriellen2726]

@@njrosenj2206 (warm hug)🤗

[@winging2458]

"It is easier to chase lust, than love." Great quote and unfortunately too relevant to the shitty times we live in. Love Stephen... smart, engaging and delicious to look at. I'm glad it doesn't matter anymore. Those days are part of the past and a heavy burden dropped off. Energy should be channeled into more worthy pursuits for the betterment of Nature and Humanity. Time has taught this valuable lesson.

[@Glynis-vh4vz]

Just get God involved in your relationship and life, and you'll have no problem!!!!

[@michaelam7832]

Great conversation. We often blame the other person for our heartbreak or disappointment. My one piece of advice is don’t let a poor decision that you made or a lack of better judgment on your part make you bitter. We often see red flags from the very beginning and we ignore them. It’s so easy to put blame on other people instead of taking the time to work on self. So many women feel entitled and expect for men to walk away when they are not ready but forgot you had red flags and you knew this person wasn’t for you and you didn’t walk away so you played a part as well.

[@pinkylicious6170]

The answers I have been looking for my whole life is in one video 😭 now transferring it into action is a challenge but assurance is a big first step!

[@ladyt_speaks_truths3923]

Communication is key so that both ppl can stay on the same page instead of having a situation where there is a miscommunication taking place.

[@ednaaguas8489]

Super!!!

[@katharina1439]

FINALLY A MAN CONSIDERING MEN AGE 30+ OLD!👌🏻😊 I'm so sick of those men thinking only women get old, but they are still in their prime over 40🙄! All those single men I've met over 40 are still behaving like boy Peter Pan. Not taking responsibility for their thoughts &actions, not knowing what they want, afraid of commitment &rejection, etc!🙄 Every single man over 40 or 50 STILL wants a girl in her twenties! Thinking he's desirable because he earns a little more and still got the looks. 🙄 NO they don't look their prime! 😂 None of them realizes this and they are flirting with me saying they found the woman of their dreams😅 I flirt back, but think to myself that he's waaay to old for me and can't take him seriously. They should have a woman their age -with as much baggage. All of them need a reality check.

[@sharonjosephs7603]

Couldn't agree with you more there is this one in his sixties because he dresses smartly,he doesn't know he is grey, he doesn't realize he is now putting on glasses to read, he doesn't realize he doesn't go to primary school anymore because of his age ,I could go on .

[@babyc.3015]

Men get bald in their 20s lmao not do skincare and rely on 3-in-1 body wash for the face

[@Yoginimassage]

U r so right! I don't know where men got this myth that they don't age like woman

[@TashaLemia]

Amen

[@gailainsley6939]

Yes girl. They are so delusional. 😂 especially when they’ve already been divorced or had kids but tell you (as a young woman) that they won’t do it again. Then they get shocked when you only see them as a wallet. It’s like dude.. what can you offer me? 👀😂😴

[@erinthornton6794]

I think women try so hard because we are always to blame if it fails. Somehow there's always something we should or shouldn't have done. It's hard to stay strong and yet feminine against that.

[@shainamadai]

Dang. That’s it

[@crissypoo69]

yesss 😫

[@SimonKnight1023]

Is that why you always complain about abuse and mistreatment?

[@alikazan24]

I am so sick of these hurt men with no damn courage! We all get hurt, get OVER IT!!! A good, exciting Life takes enthusiasm and guts…get some!

[@SimonKnight1023]

@@alikazan24 Women are only brave because men built a safe society.

[@EE_Lopez]

Stephan seems so wonderful, from the way he carries himself, the way he speaks and his sense of humor. He is so down to earth & by far, my favorite relationship coach on KZbin. I watch his channel even when I have no special person in my life. He breaks it down in such a natural way. Great interview.

[@nikki8789]

Check out Matthew Hussey too! He’s AMAZING, Humorous and just got married and now shares his channel with his wife (who is amazing too) 😊

[@patriciaamrhein]

It’s so great that talked about how compatibility is the most superficial layer and it’s really based on social constructs of “what fits.” I loved that part, so valuable.

[@AlmaMartinez-]

This man is truly intunned spiritually ✨️ Not many will get it 🙏🏻💖

[@jennak.8692]

Really 😂

[@AlmaMartinez-]

@@jennak.8692 I saw your other comments that you stated he speaks alot of BS, why do you think so?

[@jennak.8692]

@@AlmaMartinez- "women should this, women should that..." He never says what a man should, u know.

[@AlmaMartinez-]

@@jennak.8692 I understand exactly what you mean, but also you don't think he says this to us ladies because more ladies get played than men do? He just wants us to be aware, as men will always do what he pleases. A man will always do what he wants, talking to men is like talking to a brick wall sometimes (especially in this generation) atleast us ladies can take what info we like & apply it.

[@saynotohookups]

@@jennak.8692 He did say that he was speaking more to women than to men.

[@kelseymaher1786]

Errm after listening to the first section what I am hearing is, "if he guy isn't ready, don't move on, just wait. ---Don't "distract"/invest in your career or move on to a relationship where a guy might be emotionally ready." Yeah...why do I have to put my life on hold for someone who hasn't put in the time/effort/energy/resources to heal himself? He might be a great guy, but I'll accept that it's wrong timing and move on. Maybe I'll hear something more convincing later in the chat.

[@sunvavachi]

I had a gf who said this statement yesterday. I'm listening to the whole thing to see what else he says.

[@kelseymaher1786]

Lol I think that’s one of his pillars. He says the same thing and more on Anthony O’Neal’s interview (first 10 min).

[@sunvavachi]

@@kelseymaher1786 ah. I listened to the full episode. He brought up good points in a man's perspective. However there are women who want to make it work but certain men will keep it dragging, I've experienced that twice, respecting their career journey but I get stepped on. So if a man wants a relationship he should be ready to do the work to keep the woman to commit and vice versa.

[@donniep.1513]

I disagree. I think what’s he’s saying is being open to a new encounter with the same person in the future. Instead of internalizing why it didn’t work out during the initial encounter and unintentionally blocking the blessing.

[@kelseymaher1786]

@@donniep.1513 I definitely think there's a place for not internalizing rejection. I still have some qualms though. In his example (11:25), did the man articulate why he was slow fading or did he just disappear? Also, why was the situation framed in "I am doing this to protect her," vs. "I am not ready. I've really effed up. I am sorry I hurt you." One is hiding behind gender stereotypes and the other is taking accountability. The former is infantilizing. Thirdly, his concept of just having one person for you/connection keeps coming back around is concerning. I suppose, I believe there are many people for me, so I don't need to entertain an option of someone from my past back. Rebuilding trust would be/is really hard in these situations. Additionally, with the thought "connection coming back around" that could invite really poor behavior---what I think he needs to add in this part of his talk is honing the skill of discernment because when the man comes back, how are you going to know he's changed. And finally (lawd! this was the one that sent me over this morning), I do understand his point on 'try not to get over someone but getting under someone" (13:12), but in that same section, I am hearing that he's saying, "don't invest in you as a reaction to the dismissal, instead wait around until you feel inspired and then move on." I'd challenge him with, what if my inspired action made me as successful in my career or led to another relationship or to me having children in which case, this former guy doesn't fit in. Moving on doesn't have to be reactionary. It is necessary and doesn't mean you have to make space for scrubs from the past even though they may have worked on themselves when they show up.

[@michellemarie2590]

Fear of leaving unhealthy relationships, I once lived that as a mom. Thank you for distinguishing there is a distinction between an agreement to never divorce versus the choice to walk away from a loveless marriage unhealthy marriage. Appreciate the distinction.

[@northofyou33]

I just wish I could tell the difference between a man being afraid and a man having lost interest. Sometimes it's very difficult to tell. This man has seemed so into me, and now he's pulled back and we haven't been able to see each other due to our crazy schedules, so I can't even ask him about it.

[@martinakemunto7785]

Someone who loves u will not leave u confused

[@maryanndiaz1595]

You sound like me. A man will make time for what is truly important to him. I is what it is. It’s the space he needs to cheat and play games.

[@morganei6060]

How is this man so wise? This is amazing advice. I wish this was talked about more

[@sandragreen5146]

Players have insecurity issues them selves...this is worth bearing in mind when encountering one.

[@kadedraduke]

My intuition told me "never see this guy after today" Listen to your intuition ladies I wish I listened

[@DaleRFetz]

He is SO right on about feminine intuition!!!!

[@thebook6861]

I agree with not internalizing others actions. I also recommend that all persons, male, or female, talk, tell someone, this is just going to get more intense, and I’m not ready to be the man that you deserve. Then, when he comes back, she will not be resentful.

[@tamiirae6636]

I can't tell if this video randomly playing is fate in some feelings I've been feeling or just a coincidence but it feels like I needed to hear this

[@mollesmart]

This is so true, the in-between is where you need to hold strong. If your connection is a baby, you both need to make sure at any time one person is always protecting the baby.

[@terrilam8505]

@ 39:50....That part. I am so glad that you brought up that topic. I have a few associates/co-workers with that so-called blunt tone. It's always them saying just what you said...lol. "I'm just being honest and the other person can't handle my honesty. However, that works when YOU'RE the one making the delivery, but when the shoe is on the other foot and the other person is making the delivery being blunt and UPSETTING YOUR FEELINGS, you can't handle it. Now your head is about to twist off because the other person hurt your feelings. It's never what you say, it's always how you say things, and most blunt, aggressively opinionated people can't take in what they dish out. Bottom line, treat and speak to people the way you would want some one to speak and treat you. If I treat you with respect, than you WILL treat me the same way or we will definitely ALWAYS have a problem. Those are the type of folks I keep my distance from because I refused to tongue lash in foolery. I can respect anyone's personality as long as they know they have to respect mine. Doesn't make them a bad person..it just means our personalities won't mesh.

[@elisaconway2872]

So much wisdom and honesty in this. I'm single and consistently working on doing shadow work and learning about relationships including how men think. It's definitely a two way street. I've been in love twice and the connection is undeniable. Love is worth working on yourself for. 💜

[@Missindependentindustries]

"It shattered him so much he dropped out of medical school... It all fell apart because they were both scared"... Literally my pain right now.. Guess I wasn't cautious enough after being single AND abstinent for years .. broken people make people break..

[@livefromtheground7274]

I don’t believe that was the reason, sounds like a crutch. His total package got reduced and he blamed the drop out on her … baby narcissist I suspect

[@DMDNLove]

This was sooo good! This just reinforced for me how complicated relationships could be! There were many nuggets dropped! The big takeaway for me is to be yourself and give yourself room to be honest about what you want and where you are in life! Don’t do anything you aren’t ready for and you should be driven by what you want, and like etc… Also that compatibility, chemistry and connection are all important and depending on your personal experience one may be more important than the other but that depending on the guy and the individual details, chemistry can be more important than compatibility or vise versa! WHEWW a lot to chew on! Thank you Stephen and Lisa for a great chat!

[@ambertorres4444]

I'm a big proponent of holding people accountable for what they do in the time you are parted ways. If someone were to ever leave me, they will be held accountable for what they do in the interim. If they knew I was an option and sought another- stay over there.

[@spiritina]

You are so right Stephan. I am so much in my head and overthinking everything, while my intuition is strong spot on most of the time. I am not trusting that always. Because afraid of beeing wrong and make a wrong judgement.

[@mcleo9935]

Connection,compatability,and connection,goes together no incomparison

[@ThePojengsidur]

@17:18 people want so desperately for the relatiionship to work… Even to the point of delusion, wishing it to be something else that is isn’t, being in our heada and deciding that “i will make” this thing work, until we realise this is a two horse carriage and these horses have to have the same command and move in the same direction. Until we haven’t resolved our childhood stuff, we take our home feeling as little kids, take that as love so that’s also to do with why we repeat our parents relationship or the problems we had as kids. It all starts within. Be the right person and choose the right person - i see no fault in our choices, they are roads/paths/patterns that we take. I really love this interview, so much to take with me.

[@gratefulandblessed7194]

Stefan is so insightful, you have to listen to him multiple times to take it in. Thank you Lisa for having him on your show! Also, I agree, looking at all the people who married when I was younger, all my friends that got married had doubts and many of them since have talked about desiring other men while they were in their marriages! We have to listen to our intuition, and wait on God/love, the real deal, as we do the work to prepare.

[@rosajay]

This video needs to be viewed by EVERY MALE SEEKING PERSON. SO many golden nuggets for relationships! Thank you!

[@Dkt89]

That’s why communication is key. Our interpretations are based on our own experiences and beliefs. When it comes to relationships, most actions are fear driven. Also, if it’s a real connection, there will never be confusion. Compatibility and chemistry can always distort our perception of love or lust. Connection cannot be denied. It either is or it isn’t and there’s nothing you do can make it go away.

[@jeanannedupratt7075]

Hey, what you say about women is about similar to what you could say about men. Your ego is hyper bloated man.

[@CristalJailyne]

Communication may be the key, but comprehending what they need is the issue

[@VeraCrowDarkWitch378]

It's really sad when people try to win the person & not be themself! I always be myself & if they don't like it, they're not for me!

[@KathleenMilliken]

I really needed this. I’ve made all the mistakes, listened to bad advise, didn’t listen to my intuition. Would have saved me almost two years of a situationship. I’m learning and really appreciate these insights and advise.

[@debanderson3932]

I've been watching Stephan for months now and have become much more confident in my dating life. Thank you for this video! It was FULL of very helpful information.

[@Borromeo377]

I love all the episodes from your show, but this is one of the best and what Stephan is saying is so very different from what a lot of the other relationship coaches teach.

[@leandraherring1824]

IVE BEEN WATCHING THIS VIDEO EVERY DAY AND NIGHT WHILE I SLEEP SO IT CAN SINK IN MY HEART ❤️❤️ THANK YOU STEPHAN SPEAKS 💯🔥

[@lilyb2617]

Brilliant advice and this has totally shifted my mindset on a guy chasing. I don’t want a Co dependant or someone just after lust.

[@SS-in1ts]

He’s the greatest 🙏 I feel so much more confident as a woman and dating because of his advice because it’s not black and white and completely one sided bias. Thank you for meeting with him!!

[@aquariusense]

The BEST conversation on connection and compatibility! Great job Stephan!

[@brittanydonaldson1276]

Communication also plays a part. Men need to communicate how they feel and stop leading ppl on also.

[@margaritagonzalez5011]

Someone I knew that I felt so strong attractive to him told me one day,,,”you should be less than what you are and more like me”, and I really thought and meditate about what he said, not that I was willing to be “less of what I’m”and what that means in the first place?, the bottom line is here is, we really need to be kind to people, confident and willing to meet people half way knowing that sometimes one or the other will need to go farther, or be willing to back up a lil…loving and been in love is so beautiful, why everything has to be a fight? We really need to grow up and know that true love is real and be willing to experience what that means to us.

[@Linashka1981]

I think connections between people mean a lot now for all of us. And there was the best explanation of connection by Stephen. Thank you! 🙏

[@astridmallari9288]

i can relate to this 100% i held on to my relationship and threw everything out of the window my intuition and all that stuff at the end it only caused more problems. The emotional disconnection caused many issues, it took me 7 yrs and i finally said enough is enough.

[@nyuuuchan]

Stephan is so genuine and his view of relationship dynamics is spot on. Plus he speaks clearly and logically. Another no-nonsense, valuable interview.

[@jacquelinenoakes9318]

Very interesting 🧐. I have experienced this. One husband passed away and I truly felt no loss. The person I truly loved 🥰 had a massive heart attack and passed away and my heart jumped out of my chest.

[@lisadeav73]

This is so true, when you meet someone you actually like, all that common sense just goes right out the window. At least in my case it did

[@MissManaged1001]

Wow. This was majorly enlightening! At 38 I've sat and wondered why I choose jobless, bad boys....it's because they have nothing to do but focus on me...which ends up annoying after the "honeymoon" period ends and I feel smothered. Anyways, now I know what it is that attracts me to those types. They shower me with attention, which at first is flattering but ends up beng a break up point for me. After having to support a man and then having NO space I always leave. Wow. At 38, this man just made me realize what error I'm making and why. Life changing video! Thank you so much for making this show! You're making a difference!

[@coolcat3452]

You are right Stephan; I had been i a relationship for 8 yrs knowing fully well is doom to fail due to my intuition, dream, feelings & so many red flag which all I ignored!!…I walked away after 8 yrs after I got drained!😢😢

[@MY-tt8li]

Girl, 10 years. Felt all the same things but I always try to see the best in people. So hard to be proved wrong when you just want love to win.

[@coolcat3452]

@@MY-tt8li hi time we start loving ourselves more that someone else love us!!....we put so much energy into people loving us that we forget about ourselves or who we are!!!🥰🥰✌