Work is not your family | Gloria Chan Packer | TEDxUTAustin

[@jayleebeach4664]

That practice made me cry because I'm so burnt out from work cultures that doesn't respect the employee's boundaries. This was an eye opener!

[@franklyscar7959]

Just recently started my own business and my had been struggling with emotions felt from former colleagues who didn’t rush to support me like I did them when they started their own business. It hurt me deeply, like when a loved one betrays your trust. I ended up letting go of that reality with a bit of difficulty. Now that I’m here watching and pondering on this talk, I whole heartedly agree, accept the new insight…(one I wish I had found just a year ago) and witness this to be true. I’m now saving love for loved ones, and kindness, respect and boundaries for colleagues, clients and associates. Business is a much happiest professional place. Thank you!🙏🏻

[@Reeny125]

This couldn't have come at a better time. I've been working at the same "we're like family" company for 3+ years. I made the mistake of getting closely attached to my co-workers (invited to kids' graduation parties, sent me flowers after I had gotten in a car accident, etc.), but have been wanting to leave as there are no growth opportunities and I'm not inspired by what I do at all. I haven't left because everyone is so nice (especially my immediate supervisor who has become like a big sister to me), and I know they would take it personally. But that's my fault - not theirs - for not setting boundaries. So I've been in self-imposed misery for the past 3 years instead of just leaving. Listening to Gloria's TedTalk is exactly what I needed. Time to move on and move forward.

[@gmac123]

Good for you. I hope you've found a new role by now!

[@jsoul6647]

I was in the same exact position. When I decided to move forward and got a great new opportunity, some "work family" showed their true colors and it was disappointing. Some cheered me on, and some were complete haters and unsupportive to my growth. Best of luck! I feel free now and excited for a new beginning.

[@jessicamessica2271]

It's nice that you found a place that was actually good to you. But for me, any place that sais our workplace is a family has never been a functional family lol

[@GangstaVic]

Work is not your family 💯

[@LacyJane]

making work our "family" seems like another piece that we try to add to our identity. Similar to "I am a mother" "I am a wife", etc., instead of realizing that we can just BE ourselves, without feeling the need to attach to anything.

[@haritikanand8502]

But we attach ourselves to our relational roles because they are rooted in and imbued with love and connection..those things widely affect our lives and become tightly and deeply ingrained to it... So isn't such "attachment" inevitable and why should it be avoided rather than embraced as a very intrinsic and primary part of human nature.

[@janetslicer3637]

@@haritikanand8502 I think you missed the point and I don't mean any disrespect by this. Are you male, again no disrespect, but you may be looking at it from a different perspective.

[@tangerinetangerine4400]

Some women can't function without seeing themselves as mothers and wives and it's very sad when children grow up, move out and divorce happens. That can never be easy but I see some women lose their entire identity and purpose when that happens. They just sink. Yes we humas are a social species but too much dependence on these labels is a devastation waiting to happen. You have to know who you are and know your worth before you are a wife or a mother or a friend.

[@haritikanand8502]

@@janetslicer3637 i am looking at it from the perspective of impact...the impact and meaning of a bond or a relationship over our lives. It doesn't matter whether i am an or a woman in this scenario.

[@ClaudiaDCD]

I love the sports team metaphor. A bit of fun, with even a bit of professionalism that's more about focus and getting better, in the time you're in the game or practice. But we see examples of sports professionals having balanced lives, actually using the big money they make, it's a good touchstone.

[@triciawhitman4890]

Work should be your family, because every family should start a business that they can work together

[@mariamoya1539]

OMG Gloria, it seems that you are talking to me directly. I am that person! I really have to re-evaluate my life.

[@krystalmcguffie7324]

This is very interesting and I completely agree with this. I identify with all of the points mentioned. Awesome job!!! 💯

[@akshaytyagi7998]

Watching this in the night at 11PM after such a long working hours 😵‍💫

I try to work as lest amount of hours possible, I will not be on my death bed wishing I had worked more hours. My passions are martial arts and piano which I milk for what it's worth.

[@nigelsimon8865]

We're a family is a red flag

[@biplabdev7403]

So true. Eye Opener. Must be shared, must be used to self reflect. It’s about time..

[@oahugirlfriday7430]

She did such a great job! She would be a wonderful guest speaker for a Team building or a commander conference!!! Would love to have her speak as a guest speaker in our organization!

[@GOlone9597]

Company when you initiate resignation: you need to render a 30-day notice / Company when they terminate employees: you're no longer our employee effective today.

[@nemyakovsky]

Godness! I will show this video my boss.

[@allenculbertson8170]

God bless U and thank U for sharing your knowledge and wisdom with us. 🙏

[@erikaronska1096]

I would add work is not your second home. I just cleared all the personal stuff out of my office. I’m not quitting but I just realized that all I need in my office is the stuff I need to do my job. I have family pictures on my phone and don’t need the “quirky” stuff that shows my personality or interests.

[@davideangelini_it]

This speech is pure truth

[@pinoyexploresus2129]

Very well discussed. Work can have an objective that may opposed to an objective if you are in a family. In the family you can honestly say something, at work you say something that pleases.

[@Muchaspass]

Including myself I must admit this very feeling now Hits me to identify within my furniture which took standards of taxation an rendering onto whom is to be rendered. Hello Global People whom payed the way for us as we have had inclined our unseen reminder that Work is not Family.

[@Golgibaby]

Mahalo for this needed healthy wake up call.

[@bluehorizon9435]

A really helpful talk, thank you

[@VillageCookingWithParnik]

Ich liebe deine Videos❤❤❤. So kreativ und professionell👍👍👍👌👌. Gut gemacht🌹🌹

[@1kaaa]

Exactly what my current employer said the day of my interview. Yet, 8 years in, they let go 8 employees both voluntarily and involuntarily.

[@VillageCookingWithParnik]

I love your videos❤❤❤. So creative and professional👍👍👍👌👌. Well done🌹🌹

[@Michael-kw1mz]

Excited to hear about this.

[@johnwesterman]

Timely. Thank you.

[@Persianmotivational20]

Your talking was amazed me thanks sister 🫰❤❤

[@dnguyen787]

Work is not family, unless it's your family business!

[@b1ngnx33]

I HATE WORK! I WOULD NEVER CALL WORK FAMILY! THAT IS INSANITY!

[@nigelsimon8865]

I feel you coz same

[@gamingtime4835]

Work isn’t your family. But you should find something you love doing 💕

[@Decopainterandtea]

Find something you like better.

[@TECHN0]

No one wants to go back to the office after covid so we don’t have to pretend to bond with coworkers.

[@ChiefJeyEf]

Lol but so true. Especially if we can deliver productivity even when we're at home.

[@deusvultpictures6550]

Fuckin hate the office me, O God I need a 100% remote job

[@barbaralynch5139]

I have worked in an office through the pandemic and appreciate the social contact. I couldn't stand life as a recluse/hermit, which I would become if I worked from home.

[@Solidsnake856]

CEOs watching this: 😡😡🤬🤬

[@sheldonlandry5135]

i needed this, thank you for yours

[@etynathalie8637]

Very interesting, thank you very much

[@Abby-ll5yw]

I’ve heard “we’re one big crazy family,” so many times in professional settings.

[@maddip3187]

This was great!

[@WomboBraker]

This made me cry

[@mk8829]

I've never felt obligated to my jobs. I'm replaceable. If I got fired today, my job would be posted tomorrow morning. My jobs are just a way for me to make an income to live a certain lifestyle, nothing more. I'm okay not "loving" what I'm doing. It's okay to be content and find joy outside of work. I'd say most people aren't "happy" at their jobs, so don't try to strive for that. I'd say just find something manageable that works with your circumstances and provides enough income where you can do the things you actually love outside of your job. Now, if you hate your job, that's a different thing, but nothing wrong with just being content.

[@JosefMackiewicz88]

Thank you 😊

[@jowprower8467]

I'm 17 years, and I'm really scared about how can I apply to collages without wasting time..when I did this activity with you and sayed that your feeling stable and your in the safety line..I really got terrified... I'm really afraid that no one could accept me or I can't earn a job and be independent.. I really need this kind of video..I know I may be silly...but I'm watching this video now at 1:57AM and I'm feeling that im needing someone to help me...or survive I dunno...anyway great video.

[@brujo36011]

Co workers are just that, co workers! Do like that episode of American Dad "go to work, go home". If u let the vibes of other people get to you at work, thats no bueno bro.

[@brujo36011]

Oh, and remember this, you are always going to encounter the same type of people on EVERY job. Keep that in mind and you are going to notice. Hope that I could helped a little, bro :)

[@rocky2500]

I'm not trying to make friends at work. We work for money and that's all I go to work for.

[@joancollins6207]

Thank you for this wonderful TEDx talk. This subject really resonates deep within me. 🙂

[@synesthesia.aesthetic]

We focus on the "family" part instead of "like". "Like" does not equal "is".

[@takimissaoui2888]

It should not be "like" a family, it should be like a professional work space. The phrase "like a family" gives you the illusion that it's okay to be exploited, and that you are making a noble sacrifice. And that's not true, you're just risking your health so that the company can generate more profit.

[@alezandradavila2581]

Exactly work is not my family and never will be that’s why I would never go back to work in person

[@DoormanSoorman]

True!

[@DEO777]

It's true, all companies are like family... If they don't want you, they will abort you.

[@windgemini66]

10/10, 100% agree...although some times, company management also needs to stop calling their employees "assets." It's a big lie when financially, employees (their salaries) are liabilities per GAAP. Too much platitudes and drinking cool-aid

[@zipperdingo6385]

This lady is spelling jewels

[@dissonanceparadiddle]

Remember if a job ever says we're family here you do not want to marry into that one AKA divorce that job ASAP if you can

[@francescos7361]

Thanks I love you so much

[@francescos7361]

I don t like work but I think family and have child is important

[@JustJRR]

❤️

[@alijaji876]

But God first and family ✊🏿

[@bootney66]

I have yet to be laid off or furloughed by my family. I hate when businesses try to push that “family” narrative.

[@UPTV16]

Yes I like family and also I like money.

[@STEALTH1USA]

I'm sure the ones working lower tier, hourly jobs don't have a problem not considering their workplaces "family". Most can't wait to leave the mf building at the end of the day...

[@Red-jl5dq]

I’ve been saying this for more than 12 years .

[@GetYourLifeBetter]

Dear my friends who are reading this, we may not know each other but I wish you all the best in life! ✨ Stop blaming yourself, accept things and go forward. Your smile is precious 🥰 all the key to happiness is in your hands, so open it up 🔓 Love You! ❤️.... ❤️

[@IM_ROZZ_YT.O1]

Let's w a moment to appreciate how much effort he puts into his contact to entertain'"

[@janetslicer3637]

What?

[@themcgeefamily7514]

💚💙

[@mr.nobody7914]

""Work is not you family ""... So true...then you don't need family....

[@abdelkerimbrahimbadradine4736]

Is not about you don't need family but, don't mix work and family

[@alijaji876]

Family is everything in this life

[@chaimomma9198]

If we’re like family then I’m in a fing cult.

[@a.j.infowars7582]

Welcome to the family.

[@Анималистка]

11:36 11:44

[@SH-rt3zx]

Hi everyone who found this early

[@akshaytyagi7998]

Whosoever has clicked on bell icon

[@havalrahmed]

Hi Sarah, just seen it

[@masteringlife404]

Hello there

[@najlz2403]

Such an amazing listen! This is the best I have come across so far.

[@kintiyura2855]

Hi! 😊

[@paulraymond890]

Hi Kintiyura How are you today?🌺🌺

[@escorcio4089]

she is necesseary

[@feedbackzaloop]

In other words, if you come from a strict Asian family of try-hards, good chances you will end up a try-hard at work too. Our behaviours are - indeed - based on previous experiences. And where else do we gain them as unconsciously yet eagerly if not in the family?

[@janetslicer3637]

So true.

[@stuartbedwell8576]

What's wrong with just getting on with life? It's quite easy really - try it some time. Cheers Stuart.

[@alezandradavila2581]

Yep work is not your identity

[@rubialexandra0143]

Primera

[@macegb9364]

This has nothing to do with the "work is family" culture :p this was about burnout. Yikes.

[@TRES-LECHES466]

Boooooooring!!