Work Tirelessly to Care for My Kids, Clean the House, and Satisfy My Wife's Every Need. But She...

Work Tirelessly to Care for My Kids, Clean the House, and Satisfy My Wife's Every Need. But She Just Uses Me and Puts Me Down Constantly. So I Finally Told Her I'm Done.
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[@smorphous8928]

Op is the full package, he cooks, cleans, and he’s even there for his kids, but his wife just dropped the ball because she’s entitled.

[@OTDinosaurScrubs]

She’s just an absolute waste of a human being

[@itsobviouslyyuta1461]

Fr. Find me a man like that and I’ll never complain about a single thing ever again

[@merykhan97]

He's a dream husband. She's insane tbh

[@jenniekham5838]

I'd litterally do anything for a husband like that he cooks he cleans he works he takes care of the kids plus he can communicate and don't give up on u easily I just wanna ask ops wife where she found him

[@xxxtabamimingxxx6853]

Yeah hes full package u forgot to include that hes a doormat too 😂

[@magoichi75]

Gotta love how you can do everything right and still lose and get divorce.

[@333333joshua]

He didn't do everything right. He took the abuse. The more abuse he took the more unattractive he became to her. If he left her the month this started. She would be begging for him. Because he would be strong enough to respect himself. And have control over his own emotions

[@AbrosexualBlender-tu3gz]

That comment would be different if the genders were swapped. Seriously no matter the situation it all ends up the males fault when it comes to stories like these. Abuse is wrong and all that but abuse comes with manipulation. Pretty sure you commented this without thinking so no hate! Just making a point

[@Tauramehtar]

​@@333333joshuaYou're right. He was a pussy. Women already have pussies; they don't need another. There is a way to be a good father and not a doormat. This guy (good as he is, no hate) was happy to be such and when he actually spoke on his feelings, it was too late. This is a lesson to everyone: keep communication open and strong at every step. Don't wait until it is "too little too late." I'm not making excuses for the wife either; love is a two way street. Make yourself lovable to your wife; wives make yourselves lovable to your husbands.

[@Dustin81]

@@333333joshua So basically any abuse is his fault? Bullshit

[@MrMonnTM]

@@Dustin81 It is in a way. We are human but we are animals, if you turn your back to a tiger or any predatory animal it will attack you thinking you are prey, same with humans. If you let someone disrespect you, guess what, they will start disrespecting you, you cannot mix love and respect with disrespect, it just doesn't mix. He needed to be a good husband but retain his self respect and self. If you are spoiling the person and receiving abuse from them consciously and unconsciously they think they are better and as if they are settling for you. Mostly women will feel out of love from you, they will not feel frisky about you, their innards won't tremble and feel hot when around you, they won't want you filling them (i've described what women feel when they are aroused).

[@Kkell0x]

Instead of letting him boost her up She tried to pull him down as hard as she could Now that is some cancer BS behavior. Just NO

[@DaBozrk]

yeah. it sucks.

[@rayxav]

To all spouses going through something of this nature: Cameras, cameras, cameras! Set up cameras in every common area BUT keep them hidden. A month or two of video showing that your spouse does NOTHING to improve the household goes over awesomely in any confrontation. You can SAY anything you want and it will just be “he said, she said.” Stop being stupid and load up on cameras. Consider it a part of your exit strategy.

[@MrArielK]

This story is AÍ generated

[@rayxav]

@@MrArielK thank you. It sounded a little off and for such a hard worker, the OP was a little too stupid.

[@MrArielK]

@@rayxav teh hero(op) was to well rounded, besides the fact that he doesn’t have a back bone, he is the perfect husband and father, which makes the villain(wife) looks even worst. There are only good facts about OP and bad facts about wife, truly two dimensional characters

[@jordanwardle11]

​@@MrArielKeven if it were a true story, you only hear one side. So of course people try to present themselves in the best light

[@fall22123]

I have a feeling she's going to get a cold slap of reality when they have split custody and it's all on her 1/2 the time. Also, she'll have to get a *GASP* job.

[@mannydcbianco]

Yup. She will come crawling back after she's had a few abysmal dates with men who treat her just as bad as she treated OP and she realizes that she threw away the best man she could ever have hoped for by being lazy, selfish and nasty. She doesn't deserve him.

[@StreetWarrior24]

A job???? Noooooo!!!!! 😱

[@danacarter9147]

​@@mannydcbiancoWell said. And worse, her kids will cut off all contact with her, when they hit their teens.⚠️

[@royal-wolf]

He genuinely tried to save the marriage, but it just wasn't working

[@333333joshua]

You don't reward bad behavior

[@HuntCares-zo8qx]

​@@333333joshua Quiter say what??. Seriously though, when you're married you're dedicated to your marriage, one little mishap shouldn't shatter the entire thing

[@mimictear6788]

@@HuntCares-zo8qx It wasn't 'one little mishap', it was a repeating pattern of lazy and self-centred behaviour that she clearly had no issue in fixing.

[@MrArielK]

@@mimictear6788you do know the story is AÍ generated right

[@HuntCares-zo8qx]

@@mimictear6788 oh, I thought the guy I replied to was talking bout the man, no the woman. No the woman doesn't deserve sympathy

[@PapaSwall]

Im glad that OP knows that he’s bringing some serious business to this marriage. Not only a man who cooks, but a man who cleans, takes care of his kids, etc. His wife is dropping the ball

[@ianmoritzplatapino3684]

Damn this man took too long to divorce this entitled woman.

[@hideangels]

I knew when she said “i was drunk why didn’t you do anything” that there was something inherently wrong with her ideals. She wants a guy to treat her like shit and he couldn’t. Thats why she took advantage of him so much. She squandered the perfect man and father. Its a shame

[@Mia-dt3gl]

I feel like she was trying to set up DV situations expecting OP to hit her, so she could have him arrested and out of the house and so she could screw him in a divorce.

[@amazon6761]

I Want This Man So Badly!! There Are Women Who Would BEG AND KILL For A Man Like This, Some People Really Mess It Up 😒

[@mashiyahmartin6070]

I’m surprised he ain’t cheat on her

[@DocMartn253]

This woman had a man who was literally willing to do anything on this planet to make his wife love him the way he loved her. What did she do with that?! Threw it in the trash for absolutely no justifiable reason whatsoever and when the realization that she threw away the perfect husband hits her... I can only imagine what the fly on the wall is going to see when she has her mental breakdown.

[@inmamata]

I`m going to call it : she was cheating on him the entire time most likely. He was working, doing house-chores and taking care of the kids and she as a stay at home mother was doing WHAT exactly? Then she had the gall to tell him that she felt tired? Problem is that OP taught her that its ok for her to act like that since he never set his foot down and actually asked her to damn contribute to the household and the family. What you encourage grows and you encourage what you tolerate ...I hope he ends up better in the end and I hope he learns his lesson and that he never accepts half assed behavior like this from a life partner... She acted more like a child than an adult. He was acting like the father for his kids and even the wife in the end...

[@LouisWarren530]

And also if I’m the husband DNA test those kids just to make sure they’re his because if she this cold towards him how do we know if the kids are really his

[@Asrajzz64]

Yeah, she said she didn't love him anymore and she also works a job, more than likely it's a work affair.

[@ihatepeopleyes9492]

Agreed.

[@fatoumatadanso1516]

She was cheating the whole time. He grow up abused by family just to be married to one.

[@danacarter9147]

That's really messed up. I'm seriously worried for OP's kids, and especially, the daughter, because she'll end up dating/marrying a guy who's toxic and abusive, just like her mother is, backs her into a corner, and she won't have OP or anyone to protect her.

[@mashiyahmartin6070]

Damn this man is literally every woman’s ideal guy he cooks, cleans sent the kids away so that he could have some alone time with her and she just treated him like shit poor guy he deserves better than a selfish wife like her

[@DelionX]

When I hear these stories, real or not, I start to think that love is a mental illness that negatively affects the ability to think logically 😂

[@chrisakasen3565]

It is not. I mean if you can stand your ground and dont be a doormat,...

[@RepellentJeff]

It really seems that way at times. A comedian I like said it best: “When you’re in the early stages of love, you could be reading a phone book together and still be like ‘It wAs MaGIcAL!’”

[@ianmoritzplatapino3684]

It is man. It is

[@CreditR01]

Genuine love doesn't do this. It's fear. Fear of being alone, fear of losing stability, fear of rejection. Love doesn't put the blinders on, aversion to conflict does.

[@amp3661]

Yeah,me too,after these videos,I doubted myself to go into the new relationship,and scared af.

[@zeinaba-ismail1751]

OP is the perfect husband, a gem not to be taken for granted and she wasted his time an effort for what?!

[@CorbanHoch-bb1xn]

the Father in law is a GOAT

[@IFAMILYIH]

THIS GUY ANNOYED ME HE LEFT HER BUT KEEPS HANGING OUT WITH HER!!! TOOK WAY TO LONG TO DIVORCE THAT LOSER!!! SHE WON’T DO BETTER THEN YOU. YOU NEED TO LEAVE HER COMPLETELY

[@dannysilva3210]

OP definitely deserves better

[@danacarter9147]

Well said. But sadly, my heart hurts for OP's kids; I predict that, the kids will disappear on their mother to couch-surf with friends who negative influences, next, at 17, OP's son will stay with a girl whose mother is a dumpster fire, have a kid with her, and become a single father, when his baby mama self-deletes, care for his kid with the help of some random family, while getting his GED certificate, then, at 18, move with his kid to another state to create a stable home environment for her, find a cheaper apartment in a safe neighborhood, take online college courses, work one or two jobs to support himself and his kid, and ask neighbors to babysit for him, because he won't have OP or other relatives in his new state to help out; all the son and his kid will have is each other. At 18, the daughter will stay with/marry a boy who cheats on/mistreats/abuses her, mentally/emotionally verbally and physically, to the point of where cops and EMTs show up at the door, fall pregnant in her abusive relationship, then, flee to another state, stay at a women's shelter, until she finds an apartment, and have to prepare for her new life as a single mother. But sadly, the son and daughter will lose contact with OP, and their kids will never get to know their grandfather.💔⚠️

[@ThePawerStation]

It took his time but great for him. Wife now is going to have a reality check soon.

[@guyperson754]

This man cooks, this man cleans, this man works out, and this man spoils his kids rotten. This woman had the gall, the audacity, the fucking nerve, to say that she hated him because he never got mad at her when she put him down and that just made her more mad? OP has the patience of a saint and ex-wife fumbled the hardest I’ve ever seen a person do. Now I wanna marry this man, he’d probably treat me right.

[@HughJassMarioFan2009]

I'm so sick and tired of people saying these stories are fake. Luke c'mon, these stories are no different from the ones you've listened to on Am I the Jerk.

[@neoleonor7140]

Big difference is that there are comments

[@fl-ri-]

I swear there were more updates to this.

[@blue3532]

Spill the tea

[@MrArielK]

Being that is AÍ generated that easily fixed

[@Irondrakeshield]

​​​@@MrArielKif it is ai generated why isnt it finished viewers are more happy with finished stories so why 'ai generate' stories that arent complete oh i know IT ISNT AI GENERATED

[@MrArielK]

@@Irondrakeshield you probably know how these story channels love to repost a video with something new, think of the revenue, plus this story is not on reddit, where did it come from?

[@Irondrakeshield]

@@MrArielK yes I know but maybe U can't find it or it's from a similar app

[@yuliiastelmashenko8650]

OMG, does anyone has OP's number? Need me such a golden family man! No, but fr, that woman is just insufferable. Sometimes a family is a precious husband/single father with his two kids + pain in the a$$ 😢 It's horrible

[@nikitahatamov4312]

​@@DaBozrksmooth,buddy)

[@anonymouscausewhynot]

@@DaBozrk Wanna talk?

[@DaBozrk]

@@anonymouscausewhynot sure

[@DaBozrk]

@@nikitahatamov4312 🤟🤟🤟

[@yuliiastelmashenko8650]

@@DaBozrk smooth way to meet people😎 Wanna talk x2?😂

[@user-mp8qg5tb5e]

She shouldn’t have the kids. She should pay child support, and shoul pay alimony

[@MsMango-rq6cw]

What’s an annoying response from your partner that’s not giving you sex is “sex isn’t everything about a relationship” no shit but it’s definitely part of it. If it’s not in a relationship y’all are basically roommates

[@sebastianpantin2754]

That woman never cared and she showed you time and time again. Some men are too nice,being a doormat,no woman ever says let me do the right thing, this is a great man. She took and took,then told you she doesn't love you.

[@gwenrichard7507]

If the parents are on your side, involve them in the fight. Ask them to spend weekends over to watch the kids. Once they see how little she does, they can help you go for a separation and then a devorce. Fathers can always find partners. No man wants to raise another mans kids when the original is around and the wife is spoiled.

[@austinquinn476]

The wife is so clearly depressed and she's in denial about it.

[@mateuszlewinski7774]

It is simple, the guy put her on a pedestal, and she lost all respect for him, and if she does not respect you, she does not love you. In the end of the day it is his doing. His logic is flawless....she does not respect or appreciate his work...so what he does...MORE WORK...hahahah

[@ogfail1867]

He'll get taken to the cleaners in the divorce and will be lucky to get 50/50 custody.

[@danacarter9147]

True, and when the kids hit their teens, they skip out on their mother, and move in with friends, at 18, the son will gravitate toward/have a kid with a girl who has severe depression, and after she self-deletes, he'll move with his kid to another state, and start a new life with her as a single father, the daughter will stay with/marry a boy who mistreats/abuses her (verbally, emotionally/mentally, and physically, to the point where cops and EMTs show up at the door), fall pregnant, when her husband traps her, and hide her abusive relationship from OP, because she doesn't want him to worry, then, flee to another state, stay at a women's shelter, find a cheaper apartment in a safe neighborhood, and work two or more jobs support herself and her kid. But sadly, they'll lose contact with OP, their kids will never get to know their grandfather, nor, will they grow up with each other. Plus, instead of getting excited about entering the dating pool, just like OP is, the son and daughter will need to concentrate on getting therapy for themselves, and creating stable home environments for their kids as good single parents.💔⚠️

[@sparkeyjames]

Treat them like a queen and they'll treat you like a pauper.

[@johnnyhall9154]

Give her a year, she'll meet dudes that embody what she accused OP of. Have to do everything herself and have to get a job. It'll be hell for her when she realises what she gave up

[@Vredtarm]

"Where are all the good men?"

[@taylordaenzer4852]

It's not you're it's her fault.

[@ladyweasellou3367]

What a friggin nightmare.

[@Itzme2486]

Im sick of all these comments that like to call men in these stories doormats and "disgraces to men". Most of the time its abuse and manipulation. I get it, they need to grow a backbone, but shitting on them and calling them doormats is hardly fair because if the roles were reversed you guys would be babying them. Get off your high horses and either keep the same energy for both genders or recognize the abuse in both genders.

[@CyberianFaux]

This poor guy was living a life harder than the single dad of two kids (or however many) lifestyle by having a life that was the equivalent of that plus one more, adult aged child to take care of. Genuinely, this will be the best/easiest transition of his life after what he has been through.

[@kyleP1818]

It's crazy how this is a copy and paste of my divorce.

[@MegaHarvickFan29]

Marriage is a partnership. Even if OP is shouldering 💯 of the effort and upkeep of the marriage, it won't last without effort on the spouse's side. Wife said she didn't love him anymore. Honestly, listening to how OP described her, I don't think she ever truly loved him. If this is how she is gonna be in every relationship going forward, they'll always crash and burn. I think a lot of people get married and pursue kids and families because they think that's expected of them. If you aren't able to picture yourself being married or being a parent right up to your last breath, then just don't do it. You're making lifelong commitments and those only last if you're willing to put in the effort to make them work. I think OP's wife will be happier just being alone until she is willing to fix whatever she has going on in her life.

[@alexuz93]

What a toxic and exhausting person his wife is. Idk how he put up with it for so long

[@Syrin23]

Is this guy a professional maid? WTF?!?! If you treat women like this, then they will treat you like this

[@danacarter9147]

Exactly. If the daughter ends up with a boyfriend or husband who's a total opposite of OP, and the son treats his girlfriend or wife the same way the mother treats OP, that will be even worse.⚠️

[@crossanddream2]

The people calling him a doormat is honestly true... I mean any one who has enough self respect wouldn't allow someone much less there spouse use them as a literal toy and a maid/babysitter, much less let someone treat them so poorly. And as a fellow doormat, its easy to tell when someone is a doormat too.

[@charliegone1652]

I don't get how this guy put up with all this all these years. I would've told her to try or else leave. He's too nice to her. Now it's way too late to save that marriage, but at least he can move on. A man can always rebuild his life. Glad he realized he deserves better.

[@mr.angelaigorio966]

My moma would love a man who is as generous as him.

[@CharleyOlivesss]

She doesn't love him like he loves her it's over

[@newyork2152]

Nah even the dad was sad😢

[@victoriamiranda-stotelmyre4382]

I have known several men in my lifetime that were the best partners to their wives all the while the wives just coasted without putting much effort into the marriages. I tried to make two relationships work with two different narcissists before I found a great man that I would go to the ends of the earth for and he puts “us” and me first. People don’t usually think men live through such relationships because they almost always suffer in silence. Best of luck OP in making a change in your life.

[@unclelink]

Father-in-law was cool. Listening to both sides and sh*t!

[@user-ue5sg9nc5g]

What is wrong with that woman?!? She’s such a selfish brat!

[@yuniwulandari3917]

Oh dear lord, I'll do anything for a hubby like this, seriously....some women just dont know what they have, geez

[@chanayplease]

I hope one day my dad takes a page out of OP's book bc he's in a similar situation. It's a shame that there's good men out here and they end up w/these women. Like he does all of that AND HE'S WILLING TO GIVE ORAL!?!?!! That man is like a needle in the haystack and she fumbled him HARD bc the dating scene is rough out here. She's gonna be punching the air once the divorce is finalized, but that's okay, I'm gonna swoop in if I ever find where this lovely gentleman is. I wouldn't mind creating a blended family w/him ;3

[@yourdad9083]

If husband is the bread winner and wife is stay home then you should expect her to do most of the house chores and take care of kids

[@kalebd1868]

This is the shit that terrifies me about getting married....

[@SnerMerNer]

Just stay single gentlemen

[@rainyrayrae]

honestly, the second he said she isn't interested in actually having sex or reciprocating, i knew that meant she wasn't in love with him anymore.

[@AllmostLucy]

Where i heard similar stories? Ou, yes, this sounds like a daily life to a lot of wifes .... Husband do suffer too.

[@mongviemong]

Damn it! I want OP as my husband, Ill worship him!!! like seriously he all I want 😭😭😭

[@DaBozrk]

well, i hope you will find. i will just like him in future wife and kids, so good luck for findibg 😅

[@revresbo101]

Sucks for the kids every story I’ve heard the kids always get it the worst just by being there not even their own fault

[@rijusorkar9253]

At this point 10:34 the wife was asking to get cheated on...

[@ladyweasellou3367]

There is a song by Vince Gill That's hilarious and so is the video. "It's hard to kiss the lips at night that chew your @ss all day"

[@khitabsingh848]

😂

[@DoctorFoot.]

I wish this man was my husband. Damn

[@vajidali530]

That's why occasionally the pimp hand needs to come out.

[@dazai974]

Get a divorce and after all the settlements just stop paying her alimony, child support if she files a case again, again pay some money for a while and then again stop paying her

[@crossanddream2]

I'm sorry but that's stupid, and from doing some research; "If a party violates those orders, the court can hold the offending party in contempt of court. The consequences of being in contempt of court can involve monetary fines and jail time. A party can request the court to hold a party in contempt of court for missing child support payments". He will go to jail and loose a bunch of money. That's stupid and it's not worth it at all, especially not if he cares about his kids enough to not lose them.

[@TheChosenOne20100]

Unfortunately, this is what happens when you have a relationship based only on provision and not mutual attraction. You can do everything for someone, but attraction isn't predicated on doing something, it is derived from BEING someone who is worthy to be attracted to. You cannot force people to like you, you can force them to only pretend to. Women do not like slaves that cannot break out of their own chains.

[@GreyLeo]

Bruh she is an embarrassment to the Pokemon community 😂😂

[@MurciélagoToast]

The OP in this story reminds me of Adam, Mf really said "Does A Father Need a Reason to Protect his Children?"

[@AAA-AAA_AAA]

random ik but whats the shader(s) u use in the minecraft gameplay?

[@AskCorey]

❤

[@devhxh1558]

OP was too much into relationship... It gets cringe and too much to handle after sometime... There is no space for a partner to breathe... His wife might be crappy and lazy but OP was all over in this relationship... It gets boring... OP should hav taken time off and went on vacation with friends.... So his wife' would get to handle kids alone and appreciate OP... And both of them get time to breathe.. They should go on couples vacation next... Letting partner handle kids and full time baby sitter for a week... To get closer.

[@kitcarandang]

Typical Women ☕️ Already had the bag and still FUMBLED IT BAD!!!

[@miravelmejia1438]

OP let me ask this. Will you marry me?😅 kidding aside i hope you get all good things in this life that you deserve.

[@user-kg3zi5hl1x]

i would love a man like that

[@jamfero]

this is a reupload doesn't she come back to him after a bit stating she fucked up?

[@jaylarkin4331]

Severe depression 🎉

[@wteverisgud]

He made himself the doormat by doing everything for her. She needs to clean the house too and more than him if he works and she doesn't.

[@kevinroberts8441]

Simp should of just said we're divorcing and left

[@thousandyardgavri2785]

I swear to God people call every man a simp or doormat for trying to make a relationship work its annoying.. Save it for men who are literal doormats like ones that whine about how horrible their partner is then forgive them and make things work. Even after she cheated, robbed him, isolated him, unalived his dog, manipulated everyone against him or whatever, he still loves her... That's a doormat.

[@goodnightmyprince6734]

You can marry me OP

[@Vikashar]

When he told her he was done, I let out the biggest fart

[@heiiopazz4614]

Woman punishment nice guy and reward bad boys

[@Carehuea]

Painful to read this... Masterclass in being a Doormat...

[@TTVKingSlaysTV]

"bare minimum" 2024 fem. LEAVE now

[@SelflessHero]

OP is an absolute simp. Skip to 10:00

[@anonymouscausewhynot]

No. The first ten minutes provide valuable context. Besides, trying to make a marriage work isn't 'being a simp' it's 'trying to make a marriage work.'

[@MrArielK]

@@anonymouscausewhynotstory is AÍ generated

[@anonymouscausewhynot]

@@MrArielK maybe, but that wasn’t the topic at hand.

[@MrArielK]

@@anonymouscausewhynot usually what views are interested is the ending, where the hero absolutely destroys the villain(usually monetarily speaking)

[@Tdot_blackout]

third 🙏🏾

[@DarkEinherjar]

Still a doormat for letting her walk over him for this long.

[@LPL1221]

This woman is useless

[@mordecai2251]

First ❤

[@onebg3450]

buy me da pokemon scarlet and switch

[@emanx222]

This op is one hell of a doormat, like its actually infuriating to listen to him continue to ignore how useless his wife was

[@Adarkane325xi]

“Tears of confusion??” Assuming this story is even real, this guy is a pathetic beta. The wife isn’t depressed, she has no respect for her husband.

[@AbrosexualBlender-tu3gz]

Op was kinda sus with the sexual stuff at the start, but he honestly is the overall good guy NTA

[@hm5468]

So sad men like this him get stuck with women like her.

[@utkarshbhardwaj6198]

If doormat has a defination he is the prime example for that shi

[@ihatepeopleyes9492]

This is what happens when you put women on a pedestal.