World First Raider Gets Destroyed on Twitter | Xeno Reacts to Sfia Drama FFXIV

[@thuncerd1087]

He’s going to have to name change, phantasia, get a fake passport and plastic surgery after this

[@IDontNeedThisOK]

Still same link on the lodestone tho lmao.

[@kroganlauncher]

His hairline would rat him out kek

[@hongmeiling6065]

Why would you go on twitter and say "Why don't women wanna play the game with me???" if you dont want people to dig shit up about you? baffling

[@marslara]

with how often sfia comes up in drama, I don't think he has that kind of foresight 😂 Only time I ever hear is name is bad

[@IcyeFaethyvve]

Because if they were smart enough not to post like that, they'd be smart enough not to be like that to other actual human beings in the first place.

[@melissas4874]

These are voluntary groups that come together and not workplaces. So if someone like Lionel is harassing a fellow raider it's not like they can go to HR or make any complaints without risking being kicked for "creating drama" even though the shitty person is the one starting drama in the first place. Raiders love to pretend they are being "professional", but being professional also means not tolerating people who bring a toxic environment to your "work place". There are absolutely corporations out there who still tolerate this, but eventually it is found out and they have trouble keeping employees who just don't like this shit regardless of gender.

[@marslara]

​​@@crodo123If that was the case games wouldn't have punishments for acting toxic. Doesn't really matter that it's just a game. Woman shouldn't have to deal with it anywhere lol

[@LeonTheSuperHero]

​@@marslara That is true, but games have those punishments mostly to appeal to the majority. Do you think the people running the games really care about those things? They might, they might not. But, they have to appear like they care out for decency. Now, I'm of the mindset if you're being harassed, this going for men and women, this doesn't just happen to women, so let's not sugarcoat this. Especially, in an environment that you can mostly control; raiding with people in an online video game. if you feel uncomfortable, you voice it, if nothing happens you leave. It's as simple as that, to sit there and take abuse, especially if you know about it, seems to defeat the point. You will have no real life repercussions from leaving these assholes. You can still feed your family, you can still get a job and pay rent. You might've known some really great people in that discord, and you can still try to be their friend. But, this isn't a work environment; you have all the control to do what you want within this space. Is Sfia a piece of shit? For sure. This kind of environment gets pretty toxic, because the people view it competitively. Obviously, the only thing you should care about in a race is skill, nothing else matters. This is online as well, so there aren't huge biological differences between the sexes that would prevent someone from lets say winning the 100m sprint at the Olympics. To surmise, he cooked himself with tweeting this, if he did all those shitting things, all he had to do was just stfu about it move on. If he never prompted it, and lets say this sort of thing happened later without him being the catalyst of it. He could've just said something along the lines of "Yeah, I did those things, but I haven't done those things in a while, and I'm trying to improve as a person. I'm sorry for all those who I hurt." People would be a lot more empathetic, and he wouldn't be in the situation he is now. People really need to learn how to think, critically think, and be somewhat tactful when it comes to sensitive situations like this. Especially, if you are related to the shitty things you are about to talk about.

[@petitmorte2186]

​@@marslarathey don't they can leave, play with their own groups and let in who THEY want.

[@MissTrysh]

He's not sorry for the cheating, he's sorry he got caught.

[@davidbai3543]

I’ve been cheated on twice and ye they are never sorry lmao😂 my best friend cheated on his girlfriend and tried to convince me that I wasn’t a good friend for not being on his side. Blocked and lost a best friend of over 20 years

[@cakescakescakes]

he's also not going to change his ways just because he got caught. and (not) suprisingly, girls will still fall for it even knowing his history. funny right?

[@LuminateTheWorld]

this only reminded me to never spend more then 1 hour a day on social media if even that. Never be perpetually online. It's not good for your mental health nor your physical health. Seek the grass instead.

[@krett1117]

"I am extremely extremely aggressive of protecting the things that I love" ... he does love us!!!! 😭😭😭😭😭

[@fightingblind]

That's like the "don't mess with USA boats" energy 😊

[@Joppheimer]

Its PR talk

[@Jacqli-Rivoli]

The people that virtue signal the loudest are often the people with the most skeletons in their closet.

[@klownzorz]

Just look at Justin Sane.

[@rashid2898]

@@klownzorz WHY because he is anti LGBTQ?

[@juniormendes7631]

"What is this weeb game" I fucking lost it here hahahahaha

[@GMBastetBaast]

Literally had this happen to me and another friend. A dude started flirting with us, when he saw that he wasn't getting nowhere he started telling us things like "Good luck finding someone to tank for you", got all his friends to treat us like we were "drama queens". What he didn't tell anyone is that he cried when we told him we were not interested, asked us for another chance and had this creepy need to "have us in call while he slept". He left unscathed, and from what i hear he still does the same to other female players

[@chelsthegameruiner8669]

Had a Balmung FC officer who spent practically the whole night trying to get me to ERP with her, saying stuff like how she wants me to degrade her. I eventually got fed up and said "look, I'm not interested in ERP, please respect my boundaries." She proceeded to become passive aggressive towards me and eventually booted me from the Discord

[@gampie13]

To play devil's advocate, same as he is not entitled to your time, so are you not entitled to his time. This is a multiplayer game, no one is entitled to other's time. No matter if they are an asshole about it or not.

[@MysticLuka]

@@gampie13 Unnessecary comment, lol. It baffles my mind that people struggle SO MUCH to just treat others decently. Like, why is it so hard to NOT insult and make weird comments at people? Fucking crazy.

[@katiekaliber]

@@gampie13 This is not how you play devil's advocate LMFAO, such a dumb ass response. This all isn't about entitlement to time but about a guy acting like a damn incel when both parties decide to spend their time together playing the game. Wtf are you even on about.. , i bet you liked your own comment too kek

[@narcymavourneen]

"have us in call while he slept" ahahaha that's not a flag, that's a whole building-sized banner tinted Ruby Red x'D

[@alaineninmah7040]

As a woman that likes end game raiding, but I also DON'T like sitting at a computer for 16-18 hours a day to do world prog. Get 4 to 6 montsh per tier. Got plenty of time to clear lol

[@MentorReina]

Not only that, but all these people that are world first racers with full time jobs use their PTO for a week for a CHANCE to be first. Good for them, but I'd rather go on a true vacation

[@IDC-P5GHD4Z8J7]

@@MentorReina and yet the minute you mention PVP they run and they hide 😂

[@malurus_]

i used to raid end game in wow years ago, top 20 was the peak for me and my guild but it was never ever worth the time investment.

[@oesntdatterm9548]

When a world first/day one/week one raider can do it on a console with 0 technology/mods/cheats, that is when and ONLY then, they can talk down to me as a console player. I have week one clears as a console player, and my group is ONLY console. Better yet, I'm colourblind. Any pussy pc raider that uses mods to do clears, you're garbage tier. "Oh raid is too hard without these specific mods, waaaah I need bottle, feed me I'm a little baby" meanwhile console players have been doing EVERY RAID, here I'll type it again, EVERY RAID, without them. You're bad at every game if you NEED mods of any kind to play a game.

[@KazaarLotha]

@@IDC-P5GHD4Z8J7 not sure what a different game mode has anything to do with it but sure

[@Midnightear]

Sadly this game attracts alot of lonely people, I don't know what it is, but it feels like this game is a dating sim. I don't talk to anyone or get involved with people anymore, the moment I say I'm a girl and see the 'simp mode on' is really kinda gross. Some are really creepy too, I hate it. I know not everyone is like that but I'm at a point where I don't want to take chances anymore...

[@THETHC123]

People who only socialize online and don’t hang out in real life tbh. HC raiding scenes are really the bottom of the barrel in terms of people’s social awareness and morals in my experience.

[@cyblack23452]

This game is mostly strange people , i really dislike that SIMP stuff too thats why as a Raid leader i treat everyone as the same boy or girl because people dont understand the statics are for PLAY THE GAME AND DO THE CONTENT PERIOD , not flirting or weird stuff.

[@IWLGaming]

That's all mmos. Introverts find it easier to socialize on a game than irl

[@smashi4088]

Weebs in general are just super horny and don't know how to be normal about it

[@sr7olsniper]

It’s a bit more than that though. A lot of people playing this games don’t really go out to meet new people. And the people that they do meet might not exactly click with them. You enjoy playing video games, XIV in particular and here is a girl that also seems to like it. Going full simp mode is cringe, I agree, but I can understand why they would try to get closer to the opposite sex. However that is completely different than what Sfia was doing by habitually cheating on ppl.

[@jeremiahbullfrog226]

It's very rare to see someone get absolutely cooked like this.

[@GMBastetBaast]

Also the fact that the people around them know about this behavior and enable it because "it gets them clears"

[@flyingpancake23]

I watched Sfia play with Naguura from WoW and he was a bit weird with her too. Kind of uncomfortable at times.

[@KZorander]

I only know Sfia's name because Rich Campbell kept name dropping him. Not sure how the allegations ever ended up with Rich, but he was "weird with women" too.

[@garrygod1010]

Nagura messaged arthars and asked him about sfia as a player etc and he pretty much said Stay away from him thats all i can say...

[@ariamachi]

​@@KZoranderactually if you look it up, rich tried sueing the person who cancelled him. There are some vids on youtube on it.

[@KZorander]

@@ariamachi I'll look it up, hadn't heard anything since the first allegations. Didn't want them to be true because I liked his videos, but hadn't heard anything since, either way.

[@VForceWave]

​@@garrygod1010That's what I've heard too

[@muovikallo]

Damn, Dawntrail was so bad we're back to dramas 💀

[@basch71]

New drama patch dropped

[@Paraguai123]

I am honestly impressed by the lack of Drama during Dawntrail. Shadowbringers and Endwalker had like, a drama a week between 5.4 and 6.1

[@Lanewreck]

​@Paraguai123 real. I do not miss shadowbringers drama.

[@legalizemarinara]

To be fair, it could've been avoided if Sfia decided not to virtue signal

[@GiorgosAigio96]

Shadowbringers didnt suck and it was Peak Drama expansion tbh. I miss it a little~

[@KoyaMusa]

As a friend of one of the women involved, I'm happy she came forward. I won't speak for her, but I do want to reiterate that this situation really destroyed her love of the game. She was always pushing hard content years ago and this just sapped the joy she found in it.

[@Knives7777]

What happened? Can you catch me up? What did sfia do?

[@kenzor4953]

Lol

[@Malix2238]

the funniest part about this drama is that it would of never existed if he didnt tweet that.

[@Esk854]

It makes me so mad to see that creature Bizu virtue signal in the replies. Every time I see her name it twists my stomach. Back in storm blood I was 16 years old and she sexually harassed me frequently. Oversharing her and her s/o's sexual history, how she "discovered" her sexuality, calling me a twink, trying to share the original nude mod and screen sharing it to us with no regard for anyone else and their consent. Some of the most vile messages I've ever received. I've wondered if I should go dig it all up and do something with them but I don't want that spotlight and don't know how I'd handle that honestly. It's a frustrating thing seeing her around all the time saying moral highroady shit but I experienced something else completely.

[@sera_venus]

woah

[@vain_x]

Aww, it's missing the part where he talks about his own drama, I was told he discussed it.

[@CTN404]

I never tell people I’m a woman irl. I never do voice chat on discord. I just play.

[@magicman25103]

This is why i recommend that female players should only be willing to participate in voice call with a group they are comfortable with and never in any PF parties, you never know what nutjobs youll run into who will lose their shit over hearing a feminine voice. I've seen so many examples of it i feel nauseated by some of the things i heard.

[@lukahcasshe6197]

Same. I think a lot of us are the same. Just don't let them know, it only invites trouble. Only really close friends you can trust. I remember when I was like 15 and didn't know that yet, back in WoW. Those were dark days.

[@Denariusjay]

I never had any issues with women in gaming, ever. I guess I just don't run into those groups

[@せら-s8b]

Get's caught "I'm going to therapy" case closed

[@SyvexDilecta]

content draught is hitting hard... whenever there is nothing to do ingame, they all start chatting on twitter

[@Auraflare2280]

As a woman, I've been stalked, harassed, made to feel like I'm less skilled in a few games. I mostly solo played or just didn't really talk in DF stuff, and joined a FC full of people I knew from FFXI as I knew they were decent people. I started raiding in ShB, and was lucky to find a group that didn't treat me less just because I am a woman. I don't clear week 1 or join HC groups as I have heard that quite a bit of it is a boys club. Further, I have obligations that make a HC schedule hard to commit to. That said, your sex/race/disabilities DO NOT determine if you are better than anyone, and this bull just needs to stop. Glad to see he is getting called out, as anyone that does that sort of shit does need to be called out. I read his 'apology' and it seems weak at best.

[@DarkDyllon]

honestly, i've not seen this at all. i've been in plenty of statics (mainly midcore statics) where it's been a mix match of men and women, we never treated one as a "lesser" hell, I raided ultimates with 3 women and I treat them as I would anyone else, I shit talk, I will tell them like I would anyone else if they're fucking up on repeat. We have fun generally, we meme we all shit talk. not saying there aren't stupidly shit people in this game, that's literally everywhere, there are people who literally go "guuuuuurl" like they never talked to a woman before, that's not exclusive to FF14, that's across every game community, if you're not mentally fit for that kinda shit, then don't talk through a mic, just type, nobody is going like "damn, you talk like a girl!"

[@Auraflare2280]

@@DarkDyllon FFXIV isn't too horrible tbh. EVE Online was HORRIBLE for it though. PSU I was stalked even AFTER my ex husband told the dude to leave me alone. FFXI i was pretty much regulated to healer only for the most part, granted i did manage to learn other jobs for the egls I was in at the time and was eventually able to tank until that EGLS disbanded. For FFXIV, I lead a savage static and had a couple people just have problems with a woman being in charge, but fortunately it's been rather rare, so that's why I've stuck with 14 for so long. But I've heard quite a few times in other games that women can't game well or there was even one dude that told me I needed to be barefoot and pregnant in the kitchen.

[@jencendiary]

@@DarkDyllon Your experiences, as a man, are not representative of all experiences. Shh.

[@DrunkenEros]

​@@DarkDyllonguy to guy, you as a man are not gonna be able to know what happens to women in game spaces lol

[@tsjeriAu]

@@jencendiary "my experiences playing with women are good" You: "shh you're not confirming what I think so you're completely wrong", yeah you're part of the problem.

[@valfayr]

here we go

[@TCSyd]

Literally why would he even tweet this? Is this a psyop?

[@Pendragoongp]

I think anyone that raided on any capacity beyond casual statics has stories about toxic raiders. (Hell, I'll bet I'm someone's toxic story somewhere out there) Those interactions are what made me appreciate my final static (Banana) so much and I did regret having to step down when I did. (Covid wrecked my work schedule, couldn't make raid times anymore) The lack of drama was a breath of fresh air and I can honestly say the chill atmosphere prompted me to play better.

[@FuraiAwayNao]

I try not to interact with twitter users since it tends to be a gathering hole for those who lack reading comprehension and critical thinking skills but there was a comment saying Xeno was in the wrong for not wanting to name victims when said victims wanted to keep things private to begin with and I was like, this can't be someone's real opinion.

[@LiQuiEx]

Fellow frogs, rejoice!

[@phoenixmind4176]

A little besides the point, but glad I'm not the only one who's had bad dating experiences with chronic ffxiv raiders. Won't ever raid another savage tier in ffxiv, or even an equivalent in any other game after that. Some experiences with people are so bad it just ruins the fun

[@ralk7048]

There are some men that use high-end, time consuming content in social games as a compensation mechanic for low self-esteem and inability to create and sustain relationships. MMOs are designed to be zero-sum and thus with enough effort you'll succeed, unlike in the real world where you can try your hardest but the world still isn't going to give you a fair shot. So you have men that are very competitive in this one small aspect in their lives that give them a virtual sense of accomplishment that they can't get anywhere else, which potentially feeds into itself as a cycle of failure when they abandon efforts in real life that could improve their situation. So these people who experienced negativity in the real world, partly due to their own social inability, tend to also don't know how to deal with women, and usually take one of two extreme responses: 1. being sexist to women, because the presence of one disrupts their flimsy narrative of elite gamer who doesn't need women, when they actually long for companionship but fail to find one due to glaring personality issues; 2. being creepy with women, because they lack the social graces or are overly sensitive, but with the shield of anonymity and the nature of parasocial online relationships, they can act out on socially unacceptable behaviour with minimal risk of being called out, because of the isolation and delay online. It's not a 100% with men of course, you'll have well-adjusted individuals with healthy social lives as well, but competitive content will always draw in more toxic people, especially when recruitment doesn't filter based on personality. The only thing you can do is be prepared to cut your losses, don't give in to the sunk cost fallacy or thinking that the drama is worth it if you make progress in the game. The pros are not worth the cons, you'll be suffering mentally far longer than whatever achievement you got, and have the memory tainted by unhinged people.

[@squaresided]

Dawntrail does not feel like a new start. Feels like a 10 year loan payment pepeW

[@polmao]

Ive been "rejected" due to voice or I guess perception of what race I am in this game. I dont want to get into specifics but I am happy to be in a group now where I am respected and cared for. Theres a lot of bad apples in FFXIV.

[@marioharrer9999]

internet*

[@avalokiteshvara113]

​@@marioharrer9999no let's get specific, that's just better. FFXIV has a serious problem

[@lemonc5184]

They stopped giving 'kardia'c arrest to the sage

[@0shawhat]

Is it that hard for people to be normal respectful of others and to just play THE GAME. Mein gott!

[@beecees410]

this is really scary. i know for a fact that anyone involved in this drama isnt someone i know, but holy shit does this sound similar to what ive been through last year. im normally not one to do any dating, be it virtual or otherwise, but this one person convinced me to give her a try so i did. TL;DR i basically went through 8 seasons of Game of Thrones with this woman and was left a broken man.

[@BigChilla420]

Red flag is that she made you watch or rewatch the 8th season you should've known bruh

[@beecees410]

@@BigChilla420 she didnt make me watch or rewatch it, she made me live it.

[@Grimnoire]

I'd be down to hear the full story, sounds funny af

[@beecees410]

@@Grimnoire im sure, but to me it was anything but.

[@Grimnoire]

@@beecees410 I feel you, personally had a year long fantastical experience!

[@PewPewSol]

Man I miss ninjamax he just decided to disappear one day.

[@MisterNightfish]

That's just me, but I never had a problem with women when it comes to raiding, not in FF and not in other games. At least not any more than the normal disagreements you'd have in any other raid group. One of my most successful statics (older content on minimum item level, progging savage raids as they released, etc) was led by a woman and nobody acted any different than if it had been a guy. We weren't trying to set any records, but who cares? All in all, we did well enough.

[@SpaceElvisInc]

Because you're normal average players, people that do day one objectively got a flavor of the tism otherwise they wouldn't be top raiders lmao

[@DarkDyllon]

@@SpaceElvisInc highly competitive places are more likely to be toxic, who would've thought. not saying it's right, but you can't ever get rid of this type of idiotic behavior in these types of situations simply because it's not possible, but nowadays you can easily expose someone to the entire internet and basically ruin their entire online presence.

[@cyberdusttv]

​@@SpaceElvisIncLumping people with Aspergers with these sexual predators is a bit tonedeaf isn't it

[@gampie13]

@@DarkDyllon it's not relay that highly competitive places are more toxic, it's that when you get to the top of performance in any field/skill. Meritocracy and pure competitive drive WILL be the end all marker. And one of the most common occurrence of competitiveness in humans, is banter, which will go from the tamest jab ever, to the filthiest muck you ever heard. All in the name of the competition. That is just human nature. Be it male or female banter, it all has a top and bottom end of filth to stifle and harden the competition

[@shicyn]

​@SpaceElvisInc don't be ableist and talk down and throw autistics under the bus. We are people too

[@HarumiYu]

Why the fuck people on this game are so unhinged, jesus christ, second life making numbers.

[@magicman25103]

This is not a problem with 14, this is a problem with the internet and the anonymity it brings in general. People will say the most unhinged shit for laughs, or because they think it won't carry any consequences. It is disgusting.

[@siyrean]

i used to attend a performing arts high school. the ratio was 3 to 1 girls to boys. Was that because women are just "better" at the performing arts than men, or is it a cultural socialization? Its the same for esports. More women would attract more women and the talent pool would rise from there. It may seem dumb to people who think joining a male dominated space is nbd, but yes, seeing other women in the esport space does influence whether others are willing to take the plunge.

[@carminio79]

LoL Team Siren XD

[@bc9554]

Ok but world first competitions are 100% an objective based competition. You can clearly tell which team is better at a meta level without referencing ambiguous socio-cultural factors

[@siyrean]

@@bc9554 well yeah, i'm just explaining why there's more men than women in esports. its not because men are better its because they have a much much much larger talent pool they're fishing from.

[@bc9554]

@@siyrean they are better

[@hey_its_me_ur_brother]

Performing arts doesn't have any objective goals. Math is full of men. Computer Science is full of men. Physics is a snake parade even with all the encouragement for women. A video game is inherently an objective based undertaking which men excel at because men had to get out and fight things and get food and be efficient in doing so. Or die. There are many things women excel at and no one complains there but as soon as men have something it's an unwelcoming boys club where the only reason women don't succeed is because they are oppressed. I'm not saying that it doesn't happen but saying that women need other women to succeed in video games is a huge disservice to women who actually put in the work and have the talent to make gender a non issue.

[@InternetShis]

Having burned a whole static worth of women, and some of them even start dating each other, is crazy

[@lucasLSD]

How did I end up here... I don't even play XIV!

[@AmayaTetsuki]

whose animation of fandaniel getting beat is that? would have guessed benedictG but i think im wrong

[@KyvannShrike]

When you are looking for the LITERAL best team to clear content with, race, gender, everything takes a massive fucking backseat. None of it matters. None of it SHOULD matter. Period. If you truly believe in gender equality or racial equality then merit should be all that matters and if minorities truly can shine in gaming they will eventually end up in the world firsts. No one should be picking anyone simply because of race or gender. No one should be striving for a diverse team. Whether or not your team is diverse should be completely irrelevant, if it happens, cool I guess, but TRYING to make it happen is cringe.

[@AdrimF254]

It shouldn't but you are literally witnessing how diversity can be avoided not due to merit but due to issues entirely unrelated to skill

[@DarkDyllon]

yeah, read that part of the tweet Sfi reacted to and I was like "what does it matter if you're gay, lesbian, man, woman whatever you want, the only thing that matters are you skills"

[@TechneMakre]

​@@DarkDyllonyou're right, it shouldn't matter. but multiple women that tried bc of their skill had to leave because a well known member was being a creep and everyone stayed friends w em. im sure there are plenty of ppl skilled for WF that fall into the diverse wishes of the original tweet, but if women are being creeped on in there, then why tf would other ppl that could get creeped on as well join. most people that dont fit the established crowd will go 'no, it's not worth the hassle' and refrain from reaching out despite having the skill and dedication to try WF.

[@bc9554]

@@AdrimF254 I 100% guarantee you they could oust every creep in the entire game and world firsting would still be dominated by men

[@DaShikuXI]

​@@TechneMakre So why aren't they making their own groups? If there are enough people that have the skill and dedication, with the common experience of being creeped on, why aren't they getting together and actually competing?

[@GainHP]

No matter how big you get we appreciate how you mention your audience. So many big streamers lose touch and forget who got them there

[@XMegaJuni]

Wasn't Mister Happy in Radiance?

[@polmao]

👀 Interesting if true

[@ARandomUser5]

I believe he was at one point. Can't say if he left due to just getting tired of world prog or got wind of the underbelly of Radiance and decided he wanted nothing to do with it, though. Far as I'm aware, he's always kept his nose clean regardless.

[@ruily276]

@@ARandomUser5 If he got tired of world progging he wouldn't still be world progging to this day when new content drops.

[@tsjeriAu]

@@ruily276 Or just wanted to do it with other people, doesn't mean it's nefarious reasons.

[@F.A-TUBE]

This is why we should all wait for "SEMI" Final Fantasy 19 instead of Final fantasy 14

[@caesurios949]

14:22 You are right in thinking that skill should come first! However, human minds dont usually reason that simply. We have implicit biases that are mostly taught societally, through our families, friend groups or any social setting. These implicit biases can become explicit disdain like in the case of Radiance or they can enter your subconscious and lead you to deciding that e.g. a capable woman is not fit for your group and you take a man over her that has less skill, even though, in your conscious mind, you decided based on skill. Now, measuring skill is not an easy thing to do and everyone looks for different things (you yourself said you dont look at parses anymore and rather look for progging ability, others may only look at parses, but even with those hard numbers, biases can sneak in). However, being aware of those biases and accounting for them in a way that makes your decision truly skill-based is what many people argue for when they look for more inclusive raiding scenes. Of course, the first step is to get rid of raging misogynists (and even that was not done for years), but I wouldn't say this is a step by step thing, you can think and do multiple things big and small to make raiding more inclusive.

[@caesurios949]

Not saying that your decisions specifically are skewed by your biases, I would have to do a statistical study to do that. I was just commenting on the sentiment expressed after the timestamp.

[@axlessr55]

Paisley Park wasn't enough.

[@bigbo8474]

The most frustrating and annoying parts of this whole debacle, and all the ones before it, and all the ones in the future, are the losers who simply want to use events like assault and abuse as a weapon against other people. And I include people like Katie Ward in that sentiment. Blindly, even maliciously mischaracterizing the words that people type out as an excuse to be angry online to advance their own interests. It's not about shining a light on these things, it's not about protecting past, current, and future victims. It's about being mad and wanting other people to be mad. It's the same shit as Pyro leading his crusade against Zepla when she was playing that Harry Potter game. You don't give a fuck about the victims, you do nothing to help them or protect them, nothing to advocate for them, no charities or gofundmes, no resources to help people being abused, but you sure as FUCK are chomping at the bit to be angry on their behalf online and making sure that everyone sees it. The reality is you don't actually care, but making ridiculous tweets and comments tells your brain that you are a crusader for the victims. For the record I am a 40 year old white, straight man, I've been molested and abused on more than one occasion, and I'm currently the victim of an abusive marriage. Do you believe me?

[@unitedstatessc]

Is Sfia xeems ex-lover? I don't understand their relationship.

[@MysticLuka]

Did you skip the first few minutes of the video? He explained it. I don't think it's that complicated xD

[@unitedstatessc]

@@MysticLuka Well it depends on how serious it was. He was talking about open relationship but I think Xeems was hoping it would become a one on one thing with marriage. Xeems is clearly heart broken tho. Stay strong, Xeems! There's plenty of other fish in the sea.

[@ArchonRahal]

Sfia' brain is a smooth as Xeno's bald head xdx

[@aerialdive]

I think everyone jumping on sfia miss the overall point of how this issue is systemic and radiance was very much a huge part of that. the WF community harbor so much vitriol towards women and other marginalized people its insane

[@gampie13]

fuck off with that drivel. When it comes to the apex of performance in ANY game, things like that are left by the wayside, for pure efficiency. Pure statistic shows why there are fewer women or "marginalized people" at the peak of performance. There is not enough sample size of talent to pick from. If you realy want a WF group to be women only, or "marginalized", then create the group yourself, and prove yourself better than the current top players instead of whining

[@RawkLobstah88]

This is why it made me do a double take when he said he'd be happy to accept more applications from women. Like. My dude. You're the one that's driving them away, you piece of crap!

[@zebrion5793]

Sfia was pals with Rich Campbell. Show me your friends and I'll tell you who you are.

[@LOVEPUM5093]

Well... xeno is also friend with rich... does that mean something ?? 🤔

[@Colaschnittchen]

@@LOVEPUM5093 was you mean

[@LOVEPUM5093]

@@Colaschnittchen as far as i know... they are still friend. Xeno is still defending him and they went to universal together not so long ago. All im saying is the peoples you are friends with dont matter.

[@SRFAA]

​​@@ColaschnittchenOnce Rich came back and defended himself, Xeno was mostly (or entirely) in his corner. He has a video up about it. Lol So yes, if you're going after one for being friends with Rich you have to apply that to Xeno too.

[@derecksheppard5913]

Sniff, sniff... Is that...... *DRAMA* I smell?!!?!?

[@Kanokey]

So personal problems between a couple people on twitter/irl = ffxiv drama. Naah this is some soy ass issues that has nothing to do with the actual game itself.

[@BigChilla420]

I don't know who any of these people are but you know they got the type of ego to assume every XIV player knows them and cares bout this lol

[@Garbagevideoplatform]

Innocuous clickbait ass "drama" that just so happens to involve the topic of raiding, but nothing to actually do with it. I feel like you can say "women don't feel welcome in (x) space" to just about anything involving online games. (I have to preface this because some nimrod is going to misinterpret what I'm saying here but), as a girl I 100% get it, but the thing is - you can just like...find another raid group. This MMO doesn't have a small playerbase and it isn't commonly hostile; in fact it's so big nowadays, I find that the people who generalize the entire playerbase tend to be even bigger douchebags.

[@saberix69]

@@Garbagevideoplatform You gotta admit there are red flag dudes in high end ff14 raiding. That obviously isn't everyone but, it's a thing that should be brought up especially with how annoying/disgusting they are. I don't even know any of these people Xeno is talking about before this video though so idk how bad these gooners are.

[@DacianGradaMusic]

The more FFXIV creators I watch the more I realize the bad seeds are qute a lot, actually. As "toxic" or "rude" they may seem on the surface, Xeno and Arthars are among the realest dudes in the community. I'll just follow them and their teams for world prog, it seems almost every other group has those troubled individuals. 💀

[@darkguardian50]

"is this some fucking weeb game". Thats Xeems for ya.

[@Kiyoshii722]

His face is so perfect for Kratos

[@koagz]

Bro lacks some obvious social skills and a complete lack of self-awareness.

[@passerbeta2298]

can't believe my baldicante love us so much... brother love you too

[@princessjello]

imo this is way past "drama"... Drama is people reacting to a react of a react about a benign uninformed opinion.

[@KorhaWB]

As someone who has never been able to have a girlfriend, knowing that people cheat when they have one is insane to me

[@ElderGamerX]

It's crazy how FF14 is considered to have this incredible community, and is way more inclusive than WoW. The communities are definitely different, but one really isn't any better than the other. The only difference is that WoW is full of toxic negativity, trolls, loudmouth douchebags, and tryhards. FF14 is full of toxic positivity, gooners and deviants, twofaced douchebags, and tryhards. In WoW, you're more likely to have an altercation, but at the same time, if you criticize someone for playing wrong in a pug, you won't get reported and possibly punished like in FF14. Also it seems like in WoW, most of the sexual misconduct seems to occur in the company, where in FF14 most of it seems to be in the community. I miss MMO communities from 15 years ago lol...

[@dragumkirisute1998]

XIV players are just too soft. They can not handle a day without drama. Let alone 5 minutes, this game is far from having the best community as they haven't experienced what MMO communities were like 15-20 years ago. Hell, I still say FFXI had the best community in its prime

[@SupremeDouchebaggery]

Shitty people are everywhere, but for the most part as a regular normie, its one of the less toxic communities ive experienced. When you avoid the weird shit its much less insane

[@thesunthrone]

I've seen all kinds of weird shit with every online community, because the root core similarity is that they are ONLINE communities - which means they attract more introverted people, and by that virtue, more socially inept people that don't know how to act in a healthy manner. This isn't a game, or community, or "back in mah day it was better" issue. This is a human issue - and your perception of it is shaped by the fact that WoW content creators just rant about their garbage game more while FF content creators rant more about the dramas in their raid groups. That's it. I'm tired of these lionizing/vilifying communities takes. You are not suddenly different when you play a different game. The people playing the game do not reflect on you, neither as a vice nor as a virtue. They are just people with all the dumb shit people do, that's it, period. If you think WoW doesn't have absolute degen weirdos in it, I don't know what to tell you. I've seen a LOT in 15 years of playing that game, but it never crossed my mind to just scratch it up to the game itself when it's always, ALWAYS clear it's just weirdos being weird and it just happens that their meltdown involves this game or other or your local Walmart or Waffle House.

[@Colaschnittchen]

Mmos 15 years ago would have 0,001% women in it

[@NeFlux]

15:13 statement here is a classic catch-22, guess trying to join a week 1/world race group is the same as looking for a job irl...which is kinda sad for a game

[@MooreRaymond-m4n]

Satterfield Mountains

[@GarnetDust24]

The tweet that predicted this video! I’m screamingggg

[@THETHC123]

The ultimate can’t get here any sooner Sludge

[@SierenGreenwalt-wp3ub]

The "new car smell" comment actively made me retch in disgust

[@EverettBragdon-g2z]

Padberg Hill

[@robbyv8729]

This kind of crap is why I try to avoid large communities in 14. I can’t stand people who are just slimy for no reason. misogyny, racism, and other derogatory things said are different than an off-color joke or two. Dark humor or saying something sublime for laughs is one thing but some people are just unhinged and clearly have zero respect for others. I came to have fun and 14 is my escape. Not a place to hear people being attacked or harassed or berated by nasty people.

[@InTebbs-k3x]

Gerlach Stravenue

[@OtisMack-v7k]

Turcotte Wells

[@Lemon_Force]

Did something happen with Ninja Max or did he just stop playing ff14? Whats the sad faces for?

[@AB-ni8ee]

afaik he has been dealing with depression and tried to kill himself a few years ago. looks like he's still alive and kicking though since he retweeted haru's tweet yesterday so that's good.

[@laughingoctopus785]

ohh the plot actually thickens wtf

[@Nora-rb6tr]

talking about the WoW watch parties, im pretty sure thats when i became a longtime viewer. that shit was so much fun

[@twilight1386]

I do agree with Happy's tweet on this drama, this whole thing isnt a dating scene so interact to people like normal person would do. May be I just always only play this game with in my own group, doing raid and stuff with mostly people I know in real life and do other stuff aside from gaming that I'm not interest in stuff like that at all. I just want to play games :D

[@saberix69]

I'm literally just grinding MGP and doing side stuff while leveling every job to 100 in a very lazy manner(roulettes). I spend time playing and I don't think I would even wanna talk to people too much. I don't socialize unless I want to and when I do it has led to some drama in ff14 lmfao. I was nice to everyone and talked to everyone in my old FC at least once and everyone liked me except the person in charge of the FC after awhile. I did one thing but, I apologized since it was literally just my character sitting next to her partner and then I just left because the FC lead told me who I was allowed to talk to(it wasn't her partner btw just my closest friends in the fc). It was wild and I never really opened up to many since that. The FC kinda imploded a bit after I left it and I am still cool with everyone in that old FC except that FC lead. I just wanna play the game and gpose in peace now because drama is too easy to get involved in with ff14.

[@MrKnaives]

Man, that shit got personal.

[@RobbinsScott-w2c]

Dare Ridge

[@BernardoCaroway-x9k]

Littel Prairie

[@LuciaVaughan-n3l]

Ondricka Lake

[@lobocerro8476]

He read it

[@mdsofiqul2522]

Windler Centers

[@SheridanThodore-r4n]

Ursula Corners

[@bambooex]

how does some1 living down under for years get so many girlfriends? are they all online only relationships or what

[@KyvannShrike]

idk what's going on with the Sfia drama I just want to say that at one point he said that TBN was a heal and that Souleater was a regen Both out of touch takes are fucking hilarious and it's proof that you don't need to understand the game to world first.

[@GeraldStevens-x3u]

Noble Mountain

[@JeremySmith-p2d]

Stan Groves

[@MichaelHastings-f2b]

Millie Corner

[@joshkupka]

Extremely appreciative of having Xeno in the space.

[@NickBlogg-i7t]

Gutmann Ramp

[@DennisOscar-f2h]

Schneider Mews

[@RichardsonSharon-f9l]

Marshall Street

[@Duskaria]

Christmas came early for Xeno. This is worth at least 5-6 videos.

[@TrentJones-c2z]

Tromp Turnpike

[@SpaceElvisInc]

never liked Sfia , happy to hear the news, and I pray for those he wronged, it's a good day to be a hater

[@SaturninaGoertz-t6q]

Fleta Pass

[@enpi-me]

Can't you all just... play the game in peace 🤣

[@purple_goldfish3811]

I have a friend who sounds exactly like stal. My friend is 40 years old, and she is a regular married woman. Stal's voice is rare but it is very normal.

[@ElbaMadry-e9g]

Ramon Mission

[@CombativeMedic]

I really don't understand the virtue signaling that started all of this. Raiding, to me, has always been more about ability than who someone is as a person. I approach it like I do my job. Keep it professional, get the job done, then go home.

[@verdantmischief7092]

"Professionalism" does not mean you can ignore the awful shit your fellow raiders do. As evidenced with this current drama, Sfia is a top raider who has been consistently creeping on women. Now, a lot of women are not going to join his groups because he has a bad reputation now. Now apply that to many other WF groups where its lesser known people who don't do things that are AS bad, but would make some people feel uncomfortable or excluded.

[@CombativeMedic]

​@@verdantmischief7092 Just to be clear, I was adding to a part of the discussion that was brought up in the video. I am not condoning the guy's behavior or the bystander syndrome being discussed.