Worriers - "They / Them / Theirs"

[@amanitavirosa1999]

“Fighting between a rock and why bother” hit me harder than it should’ve

[@maple22moose44]

you could say it hit you like a rock

[@edthemammoth4175]

Me hearing this for the first time: this is a really cool song, it’s good enbys have a song to relate to, even if it doesn’t apply to me Me after some self realization: HELL YEAH

[@arex7350]

Congrats on finding yourself!

[@teahonkala9872]

*hugs*

[@gabe_s_videos]

"Between a rock and why bother" is a perfect way to describe this feeling. Sure, you could say "No, YOU'RE the one making a big deal out of nothing!" to the people who don't understand/respect they/them/their pronouns, but it won't make them learn any faster and I won't make you feel any more validated. It's just a screaming match.

[@gummysnacksandknives9229]

You’ve got a word for one, so there’s a word for all. The smallest things have become which side are you on? What if I don’t want something that applies to me? What if there’s no better word than just not saying anything, anything? You are fighting between a rock and why bother. We are floating between two ends that don’t matter. So many questions get asked. So many times when I don’t have the energy I’d like to correct and react. What if I’m not a part of the see and be seen? Neither nor, both and me, in between, in between. We are fighting between a rock and why bother. You are floating between two ends that don’t matter. What if I don’t want something that applies to me? What if there’s no better word than just not saying anything, anything? We are fighting between a rock and why bother. You are floating between two ends that don’t matter.

[@prawn4527]

thx!

[@lelandbecker3233]

Thank you

[@teahonkala9872]

First time I heard this song, I cried like a baby. It was such an emotional relief...finally a song that was exactly what I needed it to be. The lyrics hit me so much harder than I ever expected.

[@beetle7710]

This is a fucking vibe and a total mood “You are floating between two ends that don’t matter” its my gender identity crisis and i get to pick the song.

[@alu2901]

It's a good thing that you're the one picking the song, this is a banger.

[@Sydney-2763]

I dont care if this is 9 years old! I found it in 2023 and still listen! This song has made me how i am today! A she/them! Thank you

[@subtlefire7256]

As the kids say, this hits different.

[@GaruxPuru]

god, finally a song about being genderqueer/nonbinary... i feel like i've been waiting for this my entire life

[@veronicasawyer3211]

Same

[@13gudadod]

Same I cried

[@Ella_theghostest]

yup, finally song

[@sunarctus]

There's also they/them by atlas if your interested

[@sunarctus]

@ABIGAIL SAFLUND hey np enjoy it 😁

[@mindfulselfindulgence]

I’m not non-binary, but I really relate to the struggle here. I’m at a point in my life where I’m trying to unlearn boxing people into categories, and trying to understand that any labels I use for myself aren’t truly a part of me.

[@timekeeper2569]

WTF THESE GUYS ARE SO UNDERRATED AND HAVE SUCH GOOD MUSIC????

[@wigglyfruit4708]

im not nonbinary but it feels so nice to see that nonbinary folks get included with their own song

[@christawffdoorknob3926]

Give it time

[@lammieshipper]

hey, you wanna rethink that comment yet

[@Dictator_Crow]

Can we stop trying to convince people what their own feelings are, please? I know you're just joking, but I see it far too often under lgbt songs/content in general.

[@cordrobertson6864]

I have finally accepted I am nonbinary and this song makes it so much easier to feel proud of!!!

[@scoutstrong3003]

Congrats!!!

[@emperorzerg1138]

There's a song for us :)

[@ghostie7776]

So glad for my enby friends❤️

[@max-vf9qo]

yup !

[@TomTom-sm7il]

But, I thought the song was theirs. What will they think? I hope it doesn't bother them.

[@carriesauder7244]

The Spook School is another awesome band with some songs about being nonbinary if anyone's interested in finding more stuff to check out!

[@blaketheythem]

Will check out their music! Thanks! :)

[@maple22moose44]

thank you!

[@Iamtk777]

Crap, this feels so accurate.

[@catch5145]

trying not to cry in my uni library. thank you

[@beebalm.boysenberry]

between a rock & 'why bother'

[@Googsqui]

i cant belive this was made SEVEN years ago

[@crimes2004]

This is WAAAY too underrated omfg

[@kauanelucille1011]

"so many times when i don't have the energy i'd like to correct and react" this represents me every time i just get tired having to explain my pronouns and my gender identity

[@ratbones620]

Oh wow has this song been saying exactly what I’ve been struggling with lately.

[@themountainradio]

I keep listening to this and man is it good. I checked out some of your earlier stuff and the progress is flagrant. I really like the old one too but this is just really another level. Bass riff and tone= win, drums sound amazing, the voice is perfect, the guitar sounds amazing. I'm really glad to see a band that still pays attention to the fine details of rock music production. The mix is sick too. Can't wait to hear the album.

[@protonmonkey]

Jp Chartrand Fun fact: Laura Jane Grace of Against Me! produced this. c:

[@libbybelle3597]

Oml jm crying someone understands thank you so much

[@Alex-by1zq]

_Between a rock and "why bother"_ huh? Do you listen to my conversations?

[@c4ndym0nster]

As a trans non binary (they/them) I love it

[@charlie.161]

same

[@christawffdoorknob3926]

You know She/Her/Hers?

[@aryshaze2739]

Thank you, from the bottom of my heart.

[@MegaCheeseycheese]

Ahhh this song has been such an amazing find!! :D I really love it and its so validating. First time I heard it, I big cried and it feels so good to be seen. Being an enby I don't hear a lot of music that specifically relates to us, so it's very good on the brain!

[@zoye2468]

I thought I was faking it but I found my people and now all I want to do is dance to this song

[@Ankku98]

I still think i'm faking it.. i can't get rid of the feeling

[@maple22moose44]

@@Ankku98 i hope you’re more confident in it now

[@Creativelygrey]

This nonbinary song is awesome! Time to listen to all the other worriers songs

[@ericrussell6272]

Lauren Denitzio absolutely rules!

[@alu2901]

I love this song. I found it recently, and have been listening to it on repeat. It's just a nice song with awesome instrumentals and nice lyrics.

[@Knifelbows]

Thank you

[@gummysnacksandknives9229]

I love this song

[@msp654]

Anyways trans rights!!!

[@HeartandSoundTN]

This rules. Worriers rule.

[@konnie1114]

This still slaps bro

[@waytoobiased]

Produced by Laura Jane Grace…POGGGGGGG

[@themountainradio]

Really really good song. Haven't heard something this interesting and good for a very long time.

[@mariiexp]

me, a genderfluidiot: i see this as an absolute win.

[@crimes2004]

Hi! He/they here :)

[@glassesguy4086]

yay! another he/they (don't mind my username, it's my birthname)

[@sydlovesfrogs3992]

ay ay he/thay gang

[@willshogren1987]

Your birthname is Glasses Guy?

[@doodikr]

great song!!!!

[@StarTheSillyCreature]

Chills

[@jeremyharris8796]

Great song, I dig it!

[@9th_grade_biology_guidelines]

this and Sweet Cis Teen are playing a part in my survival, thank you

[@danivaldiviaabt2538]

thank youu

[@evilsquirrel5214]

❤

[@Summerikku]

Thank you.

[@leucopsarrothschildi]

English isn't my first language, I wonder if someone can explain the lyric to me? Fighting between a rock and why bother? I know there's "between a rock and a hard place" but it doesn't seem to fit her upd: thanks everyone for suggesting interpretations, I was just super confused by the lack of any punctuation in the lyrics

[@TheOldYeBard]

while there's likely a few interpretations, I read this as it's using "between a rock and a hard place" as an analogy, by substituting 'why bother?' - the meaning is effectively the same, caught between two inflexible realties - people that actively don't want to use chosen pronouns (the rock), and "why bother" those that even don't care / don't want to try (the hard place) - i.e. it's hard to make people care, fighting indifference/apathy and on the other end bigotry, just for a place to exist.

[@Insidious_Mango]

It basically about the experience of being non-binary

[@teaartist6455]

To add to what TheOldYeBard said, it could also reference the difficulty of (continuously) correcting people and just resigning oneself to being misgendered constantly. Correcting people can be hard both because people may be actually transphobic and hurt you in response, but also because of plain old apathy, which in turn makes it easy to feel like there's not really a point to correcting people since it's never going to stick anyways.

[@anonymousraccoonchild1953]

I use zei/they/he pronouns but yayyy this is a good song that I can relate to tysm

[@smalltownhorrir]

sick pronouns dude! great to have a song to relate to and stuff.

[@acetraineraster5171]

those pronouns are super cool! don't think I've seen zei/zeim (or is it zem? again, i haven't seen them before) but that sounds really cool!

[@alittlespooky]

A song about pronouns and being gender neutral/sporadic?!?! 😍

[@maple22moose44]

what is sporadic? just curious

[@christawffdoorknob3926]

Random

[@JM-ec9vx]

Sweet Cranberries feel

[@yurikz9]

they remind me SO MUCH of cranberries and against me

[@mati.vilchez]

@@yurikz9 perfect fusion

[@annieholley1808]

As a strait person whose best friend is non binary, this is such a cool song with some pretty interesting lyrics. Thx

[@ge569]

It's great you support your friend, but the opposite of non binary isn't straight, gender identity and sexual orientation are two different things :)

[@theskeletonappears2854]

@@ge569 you're right, but I don't think they implied that? Or did I miss something? Sorry if I did I'm very tired! :3

[@mysticash7695]

Gin that’s not what they were implying at all.

[@maple22moose44]

@@ge569 they didn’t make it seem like that

[@TapeFanatic]

Makes me the happiest ever to be gender neutral

[@jeramiahbillings666]

SXSW brought me here. Love the energy!

[@Itschlohere]

dont know if I belong here but im genderfluid lol

[@beetle7710]

That is under the non-binary umbrella and at the end of the day gender does matter anyways, just vibe.

[@mxemoji]

NON BINARY RIGHTS

[@reg1446]

yes!!!!!!!! i'm so happy right now yes!!!!!!!!!!!

[@alexiswilson8093]

Now I know why I loved this song so much when I first discovered it. It's because I'm a demigirl. My pronouns are she/her and they/them. Edited: It turns out I'm a gendervoid demigirl. I will forever love this song.

[@Kaydence_00]

I came out to my gf she accepted me and I came out to my sister and she said she will still call me a girl

[@samjohnson2449]

Aww, fuck. That sucks. I see you ❤❤ I hate it when my family members call me anything other than neutral. I came out two years ago. It does get a bit easier. ( not with strangers, but with family that is accepting. ) it can take time for people to adjust to using new pronouns or names. I'm proud of you. And also, yay!! I'm glad your gf is a decent person 😌

[@Kaydence_00]

@@samjohnson2449 We broke up a month ago :")

[@maple22moose44]

@@Kaydence_00 I hope you’re doing better now!

[@Kaydence_00]

@@maple22moose44 Just a little I am no longer dating her and my sister still won't accept me but that's okay :) thx for asking

[@13gudadod]

🖤💜🧡❤️

[@a.m_blueberries]

💛🤍💜🖤

[@gracenicklas922]

It’s about being non binary and ITS MY MUSIC TASTE

[@scott12xu]

Not only that, but they’re definitely Mission of Burma fans. This song is very similar to “Execution,” especially the beginning.

[@bennie3591]

OH YMH GOD WHAT

[@ghostification]

i love this but i wish the lyrics and singing was a little easier to hear

[@Smallejandro]

here's a link to the lyrics: worriersmusic.tumblr.com/post/120062252329/they-them-theirs

[@ghostification]

+Lee Lazuli ahhh thank you!!!

[@harrison8340]

FUCK YEAAAHHHHHHH

[@evilsquirrel5214]

Finally a rock song about my pronouns!😊

[@chetwilli7756]

You might want to check these guys out... MR SLADE This is how we make the love lyric video - KZbin

[@chetwilli7756]

kzbin.info/www/bejne/nZm7g6hpnbmlna8

[@charlie.161]

[@8ser8]

Fucking awesome 👌🏼

[@nomijames4422]

We are floating between two lines that don’t matter I felt that

[@christawffdoorknob3926]

We are floating between two ends that "don't matter."

[@LiquidKittens]

A generic pronoun all for exists, so I use that

[@cha1966]

I think that's the first song I hear about being non binary, so even though I don't personnally use they/them/theirs pronouns thank you so much :)