yeah ow (sept)

[@goldfishcrayon]

It doesn't matter the age- I don't think adults ever have their shit together. Just keep growing and try to be kind to yourself each step of the way.

[@MagisterialVoyager]

👆

[@kieratea]

going through a breakup at the same time as dodie is either a blessing or a curse and i haven’t decided which yet

[@ameeralemieux]

a blessing, because you are not alone :)

[@Fortune090]

Yeah, it’s been rough, but is validating seeing others going through it with you. We should make a Breakfast Club spinoff, the Breakup Club.

[@phoebexesther]

I’m also going through a breakup :( You’re not alone

[@angeliong5600]

you know I feel this. We are all going through a break up rn ahahahha

[@helloiplaypiano8671]

Yes omg. I’m in a lot of pain and I wouldn’t wish this to Dodie but it’s nice to know we’re not alone :,)

[@chrisstephenson9386]

When that "perfect" relationship is quietly falling apart without anyone else noticing. Looking back years later, I realise that us, the "perfect" couple, were doing everything we possibly could to hurt one another, without even knowing what we were doing. How can a one minute song take me back all those years and reveal these truths to me again? Because art is universal, and this is great art. Help Myself and No Big Deal are like arrows through my heart. Healing for me, ultimately. I hope healing for dodie, too.

[@NinjaBunni13]

I relate to your comment so so much, thank you for sharing your words.

[@Gafferman]

Stopping and starting with feeling upset is the mind's way of slowly releasing that emotion I believe

[@margareeta1369]

Lonely bones has skyrocketed to the very top of my all time favourite songs and the whole EP has been on repeat I just love it so much, thank you.

[@Jasmineee3000]

TIP FOR GALLBLADDER ATTACK: I say this EVERY TIME you mention your gallbladder in hopes that you’ll see it - it helps me so much every time!! Put about 2-3 tablespoons of apple cider vinegar in a small glass of apple juice and chug it, followed by some more apple juice if the taste is too gross. Give it 20-30 mins and it should help even if it just takes the edge off. That, plus two paracetamol and two nurofen plus (the one with codeine in that you buy over the counter at the pharmacy) and a heat pack. Also I’m so sorry about your breakup, thank you so much for sharing something so personal with us, we’re honoured. Love you.

[@Me-ss2gq]

Commenting to boost!!

[@Jasmineee3000]

@@Me-ss2gq thanks so much!!! I hope she sees!

[@tftrh4536]

Also avoiding eating fatty foods might help reduce frequency of attacks And co codamol is a great painkiller (codeine + paracetamol) but attacks still suck ass

[@Jasmineee3000]

@@tftrh4536 oh absolutely yeah, painkillers are never enough but it’s good to know you can get em over the counter in slightly lower doses if doctors won’t prescribe! And I just assumed dodie’s aware of the avoiding trigger foods etc, but this vinegar trick has saved me tooooo many times to count, so I’m hoping she might see and maybe try it if she hasn’t already! ♥️

[@zeebzeebo]

or maybe, you know, take the proper meds or get the second most performed surgery in the world.

[@smythe12247]

I've been crying over a relationship I'm not sure will last. The "letting go" part is easily the part I'm most scared of. You're so strong, how do I get there? Also I love you, I want the courage to lean in

[@letsgolesbians9617]

Ik I’m a stranger on the internet but you got this. The pain is temporary, and it sucks hard but a part of you will immediately feel better when that uncertainty and fear is gone.

[@doddleoddle]

it literally took me 2 years hahaha - i wrote let go in 2020 it's hard! it will continue to be hard - i trust it will stop hurting and if it wont then i'll do something about it lol

[@doddleoddle]

u got this b ♥ it's so so so hard so so so hard!! but if u feel bad all the time anyway then push through the worst part to feel better ♥

[@sarap9431]

Honestly crying is the strong part. It means you're processing it and letting your brain cope with the pain. It'll get better, just take it slow and let yourself heal in pieces. You got this ❤️

[@annelieschulze3945]

I am in exactly the same situation atm, we’ve been together for almost 5 years. I don’t know how to let go

[@odalilleaasen]

Yesterday I found myself crying (of relief and shock) as I realised I’m finally no longer in love with my ex from nearly four years ago. A while ago I understood that I never got the chance to grieve that relationship because of bigger challenges happening in my life right after. Now I’ve been allowing myself those thoughts and feeling the pain for a while, and grieving actually got me somewhere.

[@odalilleaasen]

I think I finally let go of him.

[@odalilleaasen]

And thank you for writing and sharing your music with us dodie, because I’m pretty sure your songs have directly helped me.

[@offbeatkiki]

grief is like that. spontaneously painful. you will heal and grow and be a better dodie for all of this. sending you love dude

[@orlagartland]

big ow watching this. love u to BITS and ahaha that clip at the end sent me

[@billy101cat]

Being 27 and wondering when everything will get figured out, quite relatable. Something makes me think most adults/people were just figuring it out as they went along. Like a bicycle, forward momentum to keep from crashing, not that that is sustainable, sometimes you need off the ride despite how painful it may be.

[@ellenlove]

the objective peek into both your good an bad is what makes this series so special, thank you for sharing, sending so much love bb 🥺💓

[@eliontheinternet3298]

I think the sobbing/disconnecting thing is just trauma response. I believe it's a similar skill to dissociating - if you were only allowed tiny moments to be okay, you had to learn how to get that emotion out and immediately bottle it back up.

[@felienmusic]

About disconnecting from the crying: that's the dissociation. Dissociation in its core is because one time in your life, things just got TOO much to handle for your system. Too many emotions to process! The mind thought: I'm gonna look at this from a point more far away, byeee. So trying to feel the crying in your body is actually a good way to teach your mind to connect, that it's okay to be present with the emotions and to process them, even though it is really hard :( !

[@abkh7777]

“See you next month” 😭😭😭

[@itsflorrieeeee5965]

lmao why did i get so emotional at the end of this?? ‘see you next month’ except we never did.

[@AychJayBee]

Oof, that hit so hard. I had to let go of my longest relationship this year and even though it was my choice, it's been the hardest thing I've ever done. Thank you for talking and singing about it. It helps me to feel less alone. Love you dodie ❤️

[@Teagueykid]

I feel that with my whole chest. Wishing you the best 💙

[@Aurelia2147]

When you said: "This is the year of pain... maybe I just have to lean into it" I don't know why but it made me feel so fuzzy and warm. Leaning into the hard feelings can be so freeing and calling this the year of pain shows how temporary pain can be. I hope you feel better soon but I especially hope you just pamper yourself and lean in and write a f***ing amazing song about leaning into pain 😍

[@Heyitsjordii]

I’m honestly so grateful I got to grow up watching you and still do watch you for comfort. Watching you go through breakups and beautiful things alike makes me feel a little less of a mess most days. Love you dodes

[@clouds_andfretboards]

I’m currently in the healing process of getting over a friendship- I don’t even know what to call it. I looked at the day you uploaded this, and it happened on the same day 😮 I had feelings for the person and I chose to walk away because I was in too deep, and things in general were just not working anymore. I feel kind of comforted to know that you’re going through a similar thing. I wish I could give you the strength to help you get past it. To anyone reading this, you are wonderful and deserve all the love💙

[@skooma1855]

I'm 51 and still trying to figure this shit out!....You've achieved so much in 27yrs, you're a good person that makes mistakes, like the rest of us. Be kind to yourself. x

[@pickles4801]

oh my god, i’m literally going through the worst heartbreak right now and randomly decided to check up on this channel and found this ☹️☹️ it’s exactly what i need right now because i’ve felt like the loneliest person in the world the past few days and i feel terrible for being so depressed and crying so much- this video means so much to me ❤

[@TRUETOILETTENPAPIER]

it’s kind of nice to read this comment section and find out there’s a lot of other people out there who are also going through a breakup at the same time as me. hang in there everyone, we will make it through, we will change and grow around this pain, and some day things will be okay again (even though it may be hard to believe right now)

[@derangedpoetess]

Oh the good ol’ doctor saying “just take pain relief.” ☠️ Maybe it’s a year of pain, but it’s a good, healing pain. 💛

[@jes9104]

i really appreciate how raw and emotional youve always been online. you and your music have such a different realm of relatability to me, and im so thankful for you!

[@kieran163]

i really relate to the sobbing and then being fine. my cat died this month and it hurt me more than i ever could have imagined. i was in a situation with a boy and then i blinked and i wasn’t, and he was avoiding and ignoring me. i’ve been realizing over the past few weeks that i was deeply manipulated and used. it’s been such a hard month and i hope the pain eases soon.

[@LittleDergon]

the nothing to crying to nothing is dissociation (yes that old friend) I have had that experience many times, you are not alone. also from a fellow chronic illness sufferer, I'm praying some of the tips in the comments helps you out and that your waiting list is short

[@camron927]

I hate when people say that @ 2:48 like miss ma'am WHAT DO YOU THINK I'M DOING OVER HERE you're supposed to help me MORE. I'm in the same boat of grieving with you Dodie and your EP came just at the right time too. You're not alone y'all. We got this because we're badasses.

[@mirandal.731]

the crying and then nothing you’ve described is how i’ve always cried and it’s kind of wild! i feel like for me it’s a logic vs. emotion thing but also a lack of emotional vulnerability. cool to hear someone else talk about it!

[@tessw5304]

its painful. i feel you. going through this right now. it gets less painful over time. but somehow that brings its own kind of grief. forgetting them.

[@lianep9100]

i’m also going through a breakup rn so it means a lot to see you going through the same and releasing beautiful music along with it

[@YELLERHEAD]

"maybe this is just the year of pain" YES IT ABSOLUTELY IS. we'll get thru it though.

[@julieeyerman]

breakups make for the rawest songs honestly. sending lots of love, dodie!! whoever you end up with is gonna be so lucky to have you.

[@livc.o.4420]

Im so sorry honey, its hard to go through something like that, but you have been making great strides in healing and working past it in a healthy way ❤️

[@iuliam2851]

This is just what I needed. I've never sobbed like this before but also I've never felt so empty. I hope you and me find a way to move forward

[@katnon]

I’ve been watching you since high school. And now I’m out of college and so much older but the comfort of hearing you talk about your pain and journey remains. So it was lovely to watch another video that feels like a chat with an old friend. Feel better soon

[@gohantabetai8186]

“When do we figure our shit out?” I have no idea and that’s probably why I keep listening to your music. Love you!

[@karolllaaagomez]

god i’m crying again i went through something like a breakup and when you literally yelled “let go” i broke down. i’m trying !!

[@karolllaaagomez]

hi one year ago me ! i’m going through a breakup once more and this time it’s a REAL one. i’m here hoping to heal, let’s see what happens a year from now

[@Subllama]

I remember going through this and it sucked so badddd. I love being able to see you grieving your relationship and just trust that time will literally heal your heart Ps: i dont love her grieving but it is so raw and honest where she cries about something that hurts esp on youtube

[@MinurielLai]

That switching from sobbing to feeling absolutely nothing is called *dissociation*! It's a coping mechanism for when your brain feels unable to properly process and cope with pain, so it essentially tries to build a wall between and you and the painful feelings so that you can keep functioning. This can be good if done temporarily in stressful situations, but if those feelings remain unprocessed, they will stay in the back of your psyche and have a major impact on mental and physical health. Processing can be done alone or with a mental health professional. In case you or others are interested: for me personally, the NEPA model has worked great. 1. Name your feeling(s) (e.g. love, anger, sadness, relief). If everything feels overwhelming and too much, it can help just to name the first one that comes to mind without stressing about all the rest and then step by step naming more, and you can even start with physical sensations if feelings are hard to start with. 2. Experience & Express those feelings in a safe manner, be it art, journaling until the pen tears through the page, working out furiously or talking to a friend. It's important that you leave your brain out of this stage - don't fret about whether it's "reasonable", don't overthink. This is purely to get the feeling out of your system, analysis comes later. It may seem scary, and it definitely takes practice (I'm still a work-in-progress on that point), but let yourself FEEL that feeling until it fills you from your toes to your fingertips. Skipping this part just results in further repression and dissociation, leaving the feeling/memory unprocessed. 3. Process and reframe the feeling. This is where the analysis comes in. Why did you feel that way originally, and why was this feeling pulled to the surface now? What was your emotional reasoning? (E.g. "my friend ignored me unexpectedly" -> "I got angry because it makes me feel like they have no interest in me" -> "that makes me feel like I'm not interesting or lovable and that hurts"). As soon as you understand the mechanism behind why this hurts, you can juxtapose that with what you rationally know (e.g. "my friend doesn't usually ignore me, and she actually often goes out of her way to spend time with me. It's unlikely she suddenly lost interest in me, so the cause is likely something else that I don't know about, and I can ask her about that. Even if she someday lost interest in me, it doesn't mean that I'm unworthy or unlovable, it would probably just mean that we'd both changed in different directions, and that wouldn't mean that I couldn't have other friends or we could discover new things we have in common"). Understanding your past to see where toxic messages come from is hugely helpful in this step (e.g. "I feel unlovable because of neglect during childhood. I am an adult now and can take care of myself, and I'm not in that space anymore"). It's important to make the distinction between rational and emotional reasoning, because both of them are integral parts of the human psyche, and you shouldn't beat yourself up for having emotional reasoning (literally everybody does). 4. Affirming is the step where the two sides can be integrated with one another. Be gentle and kind to yourself. To align your instinctive emotional reason with what you rationally know to be true, try saying "bridge thoughts" out loud: your heart can't make a leap from "I'm unlovable and will be abandoned" to "actually I'm a decent person" (or whichever issue you're dealing with), so take smaller steps: go from "I'm unlovable" to "there's a chance that I'm not" to "I don't hurt other people and that's good" to "XY told me they loved hanging out with me so maybe I even bring happiness as me". If you know your issues, having a set of affirmations that address your insecurities specifically is great (my main ones are "I'm in the present, I'm an adult now, I am strong, I'm safe" and "My trauma is my responsibility but it has never been my fault"). Processing past pain allows you to fully integrate it into your narrative, lightening your load. Memories properly processed are no longer scary or painful, and so they don't return as flashbacks or sudden disproportionate outbursts of emotion. Moving from dissociation to healthier ways of coping with pain is similar to the process with any other unhealthy coping mechanism (be it overeating, alcoholism, taking it out on others etc.), it takes work to understand the better method and it takes practice to apply it. I still dissociate constantly, but thanks to therapy and practice, I am both becoming more satisfied and comfortable in my mind and more able to face new adversity. Oh well, this has become a long comment. If this helps just one person, I'm happy. To everyone reading this: there was pain in the past and there will be pain in the future, but you have an incredible mind and a strong will at your core. Keep going, even when it's scary and frustrating. You can always get up one more time, and I believe in you. :)

[@sarap9431]

Man "let go" is really rough for me lately. I finally ended my string of abusive relationships but for the first time in 12 years I have no partner to fall back on. Single, and alone, for the first time in 12 years... Processing all this trauma, both from relationships and childhood, without anyone to hold me and tell me it's gonna be ok... I desperately want a new lover just to have that again but I know I have to heal before I can let anyone in my life like that again. Just a rough time. 💔

[@Hannah-et4fh]

I don't know if this is an option for you / if you are already doing this, but sometimes it helps to start putting a LOT of effort into your friendships. Not just one or two but completely throw yourself into finding those meaningful platonic bonds. It's just so, so helpful to have a stable network of friends who know you well and can help you combat unhelpful thought patterns and lonely moments, while at the same time platonic love often leaves more room for the neccesary work on yourself and learning how to stand on your own two feet. Anyways, good luck ♥️

[@shl9560]

I'm so proud of you, Sara P. What you have chosen is so brave. You are enough. You can be complete in and of yourself. It's hard to learn to be your own best friend, but you can also learn to be there for yourself, for life. I hope that one day you feel that Your company is so good, you want to spend it only with yourself. Hugs.

[@maggieo1683]

For me, it's been choosing emotionally detached people for my "relationships" that barely count as dating, and I know I do this, put my walls up to keep people at a distance that is, because I was neglected as a child which is something my therapist recently helped me to understand. I think we tend to choose relationships based on how our parents raised us, or at least how they modeled relationships.

[@rea_keebz]

omg gallbladder attacks are awful, i vividly remember thinking that i wanted to delete my _entire torso_ when they hit, i'm so sorry you're going through that dodie. obviously everyone is different, but if you're having trouble sleeping bc of back pain, research a sleeping position that works for you to help alleviate that area specifically. wish you the best xx

[@Manda4Jolie]

Dodie I am 35 and havent dated anyone since I was 27. I'm convinced nobody has figured this shit out. But it does get better 💖

[@easoo_]

My hearts breaking for you dodie, immediately burst into tears when you did. You are so strong and we love you so much !

[@BurgerEnForce]

Someone, anybody, please just go and give Dodie a hug. This really hurt to watch and it felt like witnessing a close friend going through heartbreak. I truly hope you will be able to let go as soon as humanly possible, watching this brought me to tears. Wish I could just go through my screen and give you a big hug and some of my cookies again. Take care of yourself, I'm turning 30 and haven't figured this shit out either... Now I need a hug

[@reagan_reads_]

currently going through my first breakup (happened a month ago today). Still love each other but the timing isn't right. My grief has been like this too. I don't know how to let go, but I am trying!! It's hard! Thank you for some lovely songs that help with the processing. I hope you learn how to let go, too. xx

[@professorquinsonsnib]

same 🥲

[@bonsthoughts]

i'm so sorry dodie, also going through the worst breakup of my life and its detrimental. and i'm grieving so similarly, its so strange. sending you love. sending you hugs. warmth. comfort. lots and lots of love🤍

[@jxss_snail0532]

Awe dodie :( you’re so strong, you’ve got me through so much, and I’m so proud of you

[@byomat5536]

It's fine. You are able to cry about it, to let in the love and the pain of letting go. You'll be fine :) Listening to you often reminds me to slow down and feel things. Your creativity and your emotions are precious!

[@felucca]

decided to check up on dodie for the first time since 2017, had to check the date of the video several times because it felt SO much like dodie of 2017 haha

[@ForeverAbroad]

Keep it up, whatever "it" is, it's worth doing because you're doing it and you're worth it. Everyone is worth it and everyone has value.

[@cassieroo17]

I love how that intro refrain from hot mess is acting as like, a mini leitmotif in these videos at this point, that represents this tumultuous relationship. Like when it started up this time my brain went “ah fuck oh no not again” lmao I don’t even know if that was intentional this time but honestly I wouldn’t put it past you, an artist’s gotta art!! 🥰 (I wish you well in the productive pain and hope you feel more at peace with things soon, we love you! 💖)

[@fernij]

uh oh i am preparing for tears

[@fernij]

thanks yeah im already crying

[@meganviolet8039]

And to this I was only suffering this September. The letting go part truly is the hardest part and makes you realize how attached you really were which is probably also why it hurts so badly. I’ve been asking for signs to help me and as crazy as it sounds I feel as though this a sign to let go and lean in so thank you for that dodie. You truly do speak words of wisdom 🤍

[@carabruyn]

i'm also going thru a breakup rn and this song (and the new ep obv) are helping me a lot :')

[@jonamedhatten]

parasocial squad is frantically pausing and replaying at 2:55, couldn't be me

[@lianne1593]

Out here as one of your older followers (35) just so mesmerised by the presence of song and poetry throughout your plight as a human, and the way you breathe function and magic into pain. I have lots of physical stuff and mental health stuff and I love seeing people make amazing art within those sorts of painful spaces. Also - letting go- ha! What a paradox to make a thing of yourself in order to let go...?! yikes

[@jamessnow3992]

This is bitter sweet and somehow beautiful

[@mariaysart5599]

I hope ur getting better :( it was lovely to meet u at the screening, and all of this is super cathartic to hear tbh…makes my sad bones less lonely lol what am I even saying

[@forcefedsoup]

dodie or anyone else reading who may feel this way im not gonna tell you what to do, but if you havent already id suggest looking into borderline personality disorder/ emotional unregulation disorder. a lot of the things you describe (constant mood fluctuations, severe dissociation, generational trauma, invalidation, being “addicted to someone” aka having a favorite person who we attach to, and more.) getting diagnosed with bpd opened my eyes and helped me finally start taking control of myself. dbt skills are so beneficial as well. best of luck

[@brttaney]

been having breakdowns to dodie songs (and with dodie) since I was young, maybe around 11 or 12. I turn 18 in a month and 2 days. and I am terrified, because I am not ready. I am scared that I am not that girl anymore. she was happy, carefree, going through her emo phase. I would give anything to go back, back to when everything was whole again. but I have to let go of my past. thank you, dodie, for being there every step of the way.

[@lynnbakker98]

this pain is soooo recognizable, i have a falling out with my best friends. and this feeling is just that only not romantic, but it feels so familiar. my heart is just breaking and keeps breaking

[@Jskid666]

Like Mike Shinoda says: "Sometimes you don't say goodbye once, you say goodbye over and over again"

[@sage_aurielle]

the let go part made me sob once again in the middle of french class lmao. i'm a day late because youtube did not notify me but goddamnit i needed this. breakups where both of you love each other but breaking up is just whats best for the future are arguably the hardest because its hard to find a reason to stop loving them. anyways have a great day lol

[@expealidocious]

that ending song about the bites broke my heart into pieces

[@psalm8306]

I love this series so much man, I dont even know how to express how every ups and downs have helped me with my own life. Will forever love you Dodes!

[@iamcornelia]

Oh Dodie, in my “older” age experience, to figure things out is not age related. It’s all a lifelong process. ❤

[@forcefedsoup]

that constant flux of crying and then shutting down and then sobbing and then shutting down again for me is a trauma response of dissociation from my borderline personality disorder/emotional unregulation disorder because i was taught to stop being dramatic/push down my feelings. it becomes ingrained in you if your brain developed as a kid around invalidation and trauma. look up dbt skills, they can help a lot

[@jasonwilson9212]

I don’t comment much on artists’ sites because well it makes someone seem obsessive, but you seem like you’re really grieving and I think at the heart you’re a genuine person that makes mistakes. Having said that, I’ve been in situations where I can’t share feelings with someone because they were my superior and I seem distant and indifferent -maybe you experienced something like that. Whatever the case from one imperfect soul to another I sincerely wish you all the best Dodie (even if that’s just your artistic fake name:)).

[@moonpixie33]

as a follow person with dpdr, the crying and then stopping is because of the dissociation. we just can't stay present for long enough to feel the sad and let it all out, and end up just stopping feeling anything mid cry. happens to me anytime i cry it's really frustrating. stay strong dodie love u!

[@jakeverbeek]

that google search history list is i think the funniest google search history list i have ever seen in my life that cracked me uppp

[@itzspiffy6305]

I'm also going through a breakup that I instigated and have had to really, really stand my ground on, such that I am constantly second guessing myself, and sometimes I have to work to remember the anguish I was in before I made the decision that lead to the decision. It's not easy when you can't blame just one person, and even more so when you know you aren't perfect either and never were, but you cannot change your heart, mind, and who you are enough to make yourself be happy enough to stay. I have these exact same moments of insane sobbing out of nowhere that literally bring me to my knees in a heap where I suddenly have no will to move on my own, and then it gets out of my system and I stop - usually as I realize I am a feeling sorry for myself second guessing things that don't need it, and also freaking my dog out, who incidentally turns out the be the most amazing emotional support animal ever.

[@coldhands6648]

0:41 godliest screenshot

[@friendlyenby]

love u sm so proud of u

[@ningthings]

I felt this. I hope you find your healing in ways that feel true and right to you. Sending you love, peace, and courage Dodie.

[@efoxre8774]

this one made me feel less alone, thank you!

[@MainlyHuman]

I'll be turning 30 before the year is out. My 20s were pretty damn crap, but your music and mental health content helped get me through it. I've found some peace from realising that the reasons they were crap were not normal, not something that everyone has to deal with. I still have trouble blaming myself for not being happy, not getting my life together, but I'm getting better at it. Feeling crap is a natural consequence of crap circumstances. I found better circumstances by moving closer to my friends, asking for help and being generous to myself. I hope you're able to do the same for yourself, you deserve it.

[@fonya_thee3026]

I'm crying with you, Dodie.

[@EmmaAus]

Yeahhhh.... I can definitely relate to this one ❤️ If you're anything like me, I've found it usually comes from flicking between *feeling all the things at such a depth VS just acceptance* - As in the sobbing comes when I'm either reminiscing or thinking about all the would be's/could be's *VS* the disconnection comes from knowing this is how it has to be/its done - It's sort of me snapping back to remembering I couldn't live like that - So I instantly flip into feeling nothing/disconnected/almost numb..... It's hard to explain.... But yeah, can relate - I think it's possibly dissociation related as well? I know that tends to heighten those flips for me as well I think 🌹 Not sure if this is helpful? I haven't commented in forever... Sending love from Australia as always 🌈

[@professorquinsonsnib]

this makes so much sense. the flipping between knowing why it ended but also remembering all the good it brought you that you’ve lost.

[@anatishmusic]

First thing to accept: 27 or 97, none of us will ever have any of this figured out.

[@roxas7418]

The nothing to everything to nothing emotions are very relatable. It’s scary but I feel like it’s easy to go thru when ur brains fuzzy as is.

[@flouce]

I usually recommend your music to ppl to go through life, AND Sigrid’s ‘How to let go’ album. Actually what helped me survive post-break up.

[@cyt4149]

I'm so glad that I found you years ago. You make me go through a lot of emotions, and always make me cry lol

[@SingingRox4]

resonated so deeply w this video… the year of pain thing too god i get u

[@taog4928]

Ive had times in my life when I was processing some heavy stuff and I would be hit by waves of emotion/flashbacks/etc and my brain would have a window of tolerance before it would send me into a panic response so my brain just started shutting the feeling down, sort of removing myself from the emotion/world, in order to cope with it.

[@nd1371]

Thank you dodie for each of these behind the month Videos. I just realized how much ive been looking forward to these every month and that we will have only a few of them left this year😢🥺 I love this format, your music and the editing is on point as well ;) you actually inspired me to go buy a uke and do some music myself and ill have my first lil gig in three weeks so thank you for everything ♡

[@deerose8521]

awww dodieee , wahhh I'll never stop going to watch your videos for comfort.

[@Carina5707]

Oh man this made me remember so clearly a break up I had a couple years ago…I dug through my notes to find the poem I wrote about it. Rock Candy State of Mind I’m sorry you don’t care care that I love you I didn’t know anything from the outset There were only a few beautiful moments But I wanted a million Like endless bites of sunset- Why couldn’t it go the right way Just for once Days of happiness swallowed up Dissolving the cotton candy of the past seven months Friends to lovers or friends to nothing Laughter and puns and a sense of a something A wish I’d thought I’d lost Or just a mirage in my desert That I’d been too scared to cross. I earned a friend and garnered a hope But in pursuit of the latter I’m sure I’ve lost both And though it isn’t your fault and I don’t grudge your name It would be a lie to say you aren’t to blame. My situation was never yours to fix But don’t tarnish and shadow With your secret stash Of uncertain bits. I don’t know what you thought this was But all the sugar has turned to dust Skin I wanted to believe in Is now just a gray lifeless something Scattered in the dust bin.

[@eudaenomic]

I watch you for your beauty, your candor, your voice but mostly because you delight me. I fancy you.

[@SkyfullofStardust]

hey dodie you'll probably never read this, but just in case you do I wanted to let you know that I am so grateful for your existence. I think you make the world a better place. With your honesty, kindness and calmness and crazyness and just being you, I think you have helped many others, including me. I don't think anybody actually has their shit together in this crazy world, it's all just a big game of playing pretend. We're all kinda lost here. But you make me feel less lost. Maybe life is about finding people and activities that make you feel less lost. I hope you're doing okay. We're here for you. Take your time. Be kind to yourself ❤ Star

[@veebeelights]

Tip for gallbladder attack from someone who is also in their twenties and just had mine removed: take pain meds immediately and then have a hot shower. If heat makes it worse, cold shower.

[@easternblot]

Fellow gallbladder sufferer here. (Mine got removed but I still sometimes get the pains, lolsob) Do NOT go a day without eating! Eat tiny bites throughout the day instead. If you don't eat for a while and then suddenly eat a meal again it can get more painful. :(

[@phoebebranchh]

Honestly relate so much, the songs you write are amazing. Same boat.

[@ninawii5318]

ive never gone through a break up so I'm sending all my love to the ones that are hurting right now, I don't know much, but I do know that pain is insufferable while living in it and this too shall pass, so don't be too hard on yourself

[@pvic6959]

im 25. i have NOTHING figured out. i havent even had a girlfriend. from my POV, you've done so much. lived so much. Your pain is growth that I have never even experienced (maybe will never experience). im almost envious that you've had such a range of experiences. You're living life You will heal and you will be a better person for it

[@meiniemoon6246]

you started this project when i was getting out of the first type of relationship you mentioned, and it was so fucking hard, the hardest thing ive done. but this project helped me so much and in that dark time was something I could look forward to

[@aaliyah_cm]

These videos reminded me that it's great to cry. It's so good to cry!!! It's so liberating lmao

[@timaeus22222]

All the best for you! I love how genuine this is.

[@clairebrown4028]

I know this was seven months ago, but I was rewatching it today because I'm going through some tough things. My grandma said to me the other day that she always wondered when she'd feel old enough to tackle certain things in life, and she realized that she'd never feel old enough. Life happens when it happens and we just have to deal with it the best way we know how. So yeah, no one has it together. Ever.

[@lanabanananana]

1:10 PLSSHDJD THE DONALD GLOVER IS TOO REAL