You Called Me WHAT?!

Real fam, do you think it’s rude to call someone older than you by their first name?

[@hadiyazid]

I think addressing any women as "Miss" is the most universally accepted and the safest!

[@thadonjuan2339]

Or Madam

[@gabb5]

I say aunty 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@danniamendoza9260]

Hadi Yazid yes we love to hear Miss

[@kathleenrod8423]

Yes! Bc ma’am makes it feel so old instead of respectful idk

[@EvieBam]

I disagree. I HATE being called miss. It’s patronising as a 5 year old girl is also a miss. So I prefer Ms. Soon, the only correct way to address me will be Dr. I think you should always ask. That’s the safest.

[@fromarmania9103]

As a Nigerian who was raised in Nigeria, I can’t even imagine calling my parents/aunties/uncles/any adult BY their names 😰

[@nessababy146]

Yes I agree wholeheartedly. I cant stand when young kids and teenagers call me by my first name..its so disrespectful...and a lot of it has to do with the parents and how they brought up their child

[@siyamthandaciti9022]

I'm from South Africa, and you WOULD NEVER... EVER call an elder by their name. I don't even know their names sometimes the way we be respecting 😹

[@delenathewriter2855]

was looking for this comment

[@Ivashaaa]

FromArmania that’s sad

[@thelmankenda-bikoumou4474]

Exactly 😂 we don’t play like that.

[@daisybravo1897]

In Spanish we call our elders by “usted”

[@FA-dv5he]

We also call them Doña and Don followed by their name.

[@ada12j]

Edit Name doña is mrs. in English so we do the same as they do by calling them mr. and ms.

[@justme-bo4im]

I know im surprised Adrienne didnt recall that

[@s.p.3702]

just me .. does she not know Spanish?

[@jesusvelueta3683]

ada soriano well we usually use that when talking with adults in Mexico, And for what I Know Adrienne is not mexican

[@abbys1481]

This is definitely an American thing. I’m African and we definitely don’t call older people by their first name

[@roxy5344]

abby S I’m Jamaican. The first time we would ever try something like that, we would catch licks. Adrienne is lying because that is not a New York thing. Must be a Bronx, Hispanic or American thing.

[@lupitabracamontes8338]

Roxy I was raised in a Mexican culture we don’t play by people’s first name it’s usted always 😂

[@yasminh1000]

I’m English and on the whole we just call older people by their first name. For my biological uncles / aunties, I would say uncle / aunty X until I was a teenager and then just use their name only. They didn’t care. Although I had an elderly Greek neighbour and I called her aunty, because that was her cultural preference. We never use ma’am in the UK.

[@princessmelaniekamolane7580]

Facts

[@noelle2654]

We just explained that it is only in certain parts of Amefica

[@jaelledickson2724]

In the Caribbean we are taught to call older people aunty and uncle or Mr. And Ms

[@ibby8198]

Jaelle Dickson over in Africa too

[@sadi3182]

True

[@katleen1022]

Lol I know right

[@Ahjusshi_Brown]

Yep yep

[@thelmankenda-bikoumou4474]

Jaelle Dickson we African’s too

[@Bestrecipes2023]

In most parts of Africa we call our elders auntie or uncle even if not related❤❤❤

[@berimahee1127]

soo true even my parents friends I call them aunty or uncle.

[@justsitwatchpimp4353]

Mum literally met a women at the market one time and I had to call her aunty like my doesn’t even know her name 😂

[@dr.dermixgirlmd7479]

Co-signed.

[@life6391]

Same in Indian culture. Every adult growing up and even now is uncle or aunty

[@char6081]

YUPPP everyone is blood 😂

[@itsamandanaomi]

I called my mom "girl" the other day, when telling her a story and boyyyy did she put me in my place! lol I feel Tamera on that one!

[@michelleb3167]

Everytime I get really into a story, I say guuurll without realizing who I'm talking to. One time it was a guy lol so I can relate

[@donuts4680]

I did that on accident once and my mom just laughed 😂

[@r.ellis-brice]

@@donuts4680 same🤣

[@fritziejanvier6669]

I do tht all the time and my mom nodding but its a whole different if i call her by her first name lile if i say Nuevlyn im dead period

[@daquonstevenson300]

My mom has np with it I been calling her by her name since I was 2 I only call her by her name really to get her attention.but not to disrespect

[@mousiex_o]

This older lady got offended because I called her mam she’s like I’m not that old. 😂 okay Karen just trying to be respectful but whatever 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@deserieoware7055]

😅😅😅😅😅😅😅

[@alyssacamarillo7278]

Preach

[@Dtzeo503]

lol probably it's more understood by Southern folks.

[@Crismsu11]

Yes! I live in the South, so most people like to be called Ma’am since it is taught to us since we are little as a form of respect. However, I have come across some women that take offense to it because it makes them feel old. It’s like, what do you do? 🤷🏻‍♀️😂

[@jazzinikki01]

😂

[@karibxbyyy7052]

“I ain’t one of your lil friends” 😂😂😂

[@yosselinedelapaz5481]

“Who’s the ma’am around here?” was totally me when I was 17 working at McDonnald’s. Kids would be like “Excuse me ma’am can I get some ketchup?” Lol

[@vanessa386]

Yosseline de la Paz sameee 😂😂

[@danekacampbell3524]

That's true I used to feel that way too but I think it's more about respect

[@af8071]

Me too! But once I became real grown I appreciate it.

[@p0t69]

Ma'am has nothing to do with age and everything to do with respect and MANNERS.

[@Hobsy_Homestead]

😂😂awww idk why this comment was so cute to me haha!

[@naiyaalysia5152]

As a Dominican raised in New York Im with Adrienne 😭 it’s confusing

[@lizarrington3636]

Fr. My mom is Puerto Rican and I call her mama or ma

[@texasgirl73goodjob46]

@@lizarrington3636 yes

[@megami7373]

it's iffy, because some adults get offended when you call them ”ma’am” and ”sir”.

[@lunlun425]

I want to hear Tamara's story about her son , but she got interrupted , damn

[@namelastname8273]

Yes!

[@GreatRhyno]

Yes by Adrienne of course

[@mischiefmaker3140]

Haven’t you heard enough lol

[@veronicaivanova]

Tamera is sweet but I am happy others got to talk too

[@tubester4567]

I always feel like these women are going to start fighting any minute. Loni always seems like shes pissed off with the others.

[@underwaterseas]

There’s nothing wrong with asking people, “How do you prefer that I address you?”. It’s polite and thoughtful and avoids awkwardness later on. ✨👌🏾

[@steffii921]

I mean, where's the lie

[@youheartmel]

That’s very classy and thoughtful

[@tianamiller6820]

My friend did that when she met my mum for the first time and my mum appreciated it so much.

[@shanehopie8822]

Simple n to the point. Cant be mad at that

[@thekeistohairsalon]

I’m from the south “Texas” and everything Tamera is saying is the truth. My parents don’t play that what or huh. You better say yes ma’am no ma’am.

[@texasgirl73goodjob46]

YES♥️same with mine

[@sydneystephens6428]

I’m honestly like Adrienne. My family is just really informal. Everyone outside of my parents gets called by their name

[@destineeallen88]

Same, I don’t have any less respect for my elders when I do. I just call you by your name I mean it’s ya name right!

[@texasgirl73goodjob46]

@@destineeallen88 YES HAHAHA♥️♥️♥️♥️

[@texasgirl73goodjob46]

@@destineeallen88 Wait a minute where are y’all from to the point that you can be like that?

[@delenathewriter2855]

To Nigerians, your parents friends are your 'aunty' and 'uncle' even if they aren't related by blood. It's our way of respecting our elders

[@MrMedude77]

that's how its in india too

[@Sarah3944]

I would be so confused by y’all. I mean, is she REALLLY your aunt. It’s like your siblings, and aunts and uncles are always increasing by the day. Like I wanna know your family. I don’t wanna know your fake aunts and uncles and cousin and bro’s and sisters. Or “cousin brother”. Who is your REAL family dude?! 😂🤣

[@delenathewriter2855]

@@Sarah3944 Its our way of showing respect to our elders. And by knowing our real family? Lol, you'll never know unless we're like 'This is my ACTUAL aunt/uncle. Like, by blood' lol

[@Sarah3944]

Delenathewriter I guess I don’t like being deceived. And I don’t want to ask “is this your blood”? Lol. That would kind of be rude. But over time I am able to tell who is family and who isn’t. But it does annoy me. Like “call me Sarah”. I don’t need to be aunty. I’m still young. Don’t age me. lol

[@aura5944]

SarahA Idk dude it’s like when your uncle and dad fall out and don’t speak interact anymore or speak do you still call him uncle? Are you even close to your cousins bro??

[@kezia-priscillavalentine1274]

For West Africans we call everyone who is older than us Aunty or Uncle or Maa if your Ghanaian

[@malumbesyatwinda8094]

same for southern Africans

[@kolurose2062]

same with Liberians lol and everyone is your cousin haha

[@Blessedchild4]

Even Zambia

[@julesa1754]

Eastern Africans too😂

[@reneidaparker8676]

Kezia-Priscilla Valentine dame in Sierra Leone as well.

[@NoBody-we3iy]

In Sweden you call everyone by their first name even the teachers lmao

[@IsaBella-th7km]

Yess

[@msimrxn]

couldn't imagine doing that in india 😵😂

[@makitoanderson6652]

I got a whopping for answering “what?” 😂 to a calling lol

[@hannahwalmer1124]

That’s so extreme. Damn, parents need to chill

[@karaniqueskorner]

“Who’s the Mam around here?!” Lmaaaoooo

[@tara6279]

"Not I" lmaooo

[@DaGoodVybe]

karanique’s korner 😂 lol

[@Trixie_Tang]

Giiiiirrrrrlllll 🤦🏽‍♀️🤷🏽‍♀️🤣😂😂

[@anticringepill1313]

If she said to me I would say yes bitchhhhhh

[@heartfull92]

As a 26 yo, I HATE it when people call me ma’am. So I get her reaction lol

[@aleablue]

I’m like Adrienne I don’t know if it’s an inner city girl thing, but I have never referred to my elders as mam and sir (that’s hella weird tbh). I did and do however say Mr. and Ms. if there is a distinct and noticeable age gap between me and said person.

[@gospel3067]

Depends on what inner city. From Chicago and you have to put a handle the name. Either Ms, Aunt. Sounds same as Loni, my Detroit neighbor. We migrated from the south thanks to JC.

[@sersabio3401]

​@Kayte Larsen I see calling people "Miss" and "Mr." like @Sasha Kimmy as just as polite as calling them "Ma'am" and "Sir". You were right that it is about how you are raised, but the rest of your comment was so unnecessary. There is not one singular innercity experience ma'am, and every area (urban, rural, suburban) has its issues. Some families are like Adrienne's and very casual, and it has little to do with where they are located.

[@miahenderson7125]

I think it is an inner city thing and there is nothing wrong with that. I’m a Texan so everybody is Miss and mister or sir

[@miahenderson7125]

Sersabio that’s also true too

[@4bfam]

Same here from Cleveland. We do Ms. and Mr. But didn't grow up with Sor or Ma'am. The military trained ne more on the Sir and Ma'am titles and living in the south now I see people prefer that. My kids friends can call me Mrs. first or last and some just call me mom.

[@stanleyray]

I was def like Jeannie cause my mom and dad NEVER liked me answering with "WHAT?!"🤣🤣Expect a beat down for sure lol

[@JocelynManislovich]

loni's chi-chi's poppinnnn and adrienne's earrings are sooo cute

[@PHlophe]

auntie jocelyne , yes they are

[@maxineramsy1425]

Doea anyone know where they are from? Love them!

[@maxineramsy1425]

Thank you Janelle Mohan🙏

[@itsAdatudde]

@@maxineramsy1425 I believe they are actually from Adrienne's jewlery line. Check out her channel/website

[@tinabahena1254]

In Spanish you have “usted” and that’s what I usually use for people older than me, unless they specifically tell me not to. In English I try to say ma’am and sir.

[@owliealim745]

It sounds similar to what arab people call their teachers and anyone with authority..."Ustaz"

[@micaelafernandezalvi3855]

Si, usamos “usted”, pero no hablamos por apellidos. En general usamos los nombres de pila

[@cynthiaolmos12]

yeah I agree with you

[@maya9345]

owlie alim yes I was thinking the same

[@alexasoto6542]

Esteban Aguirre Other countries say it too

[@MarcusMartn]

Tameras mom seem real strict and stern

[@MultiSassy84]

Her mom was in the military for many years, her dad followed and joined her becuz he wasn’t so in love! Her mom and dad were both military lol

[@gloriabowie5629]

@@MultiSassy84 my dad was military and i never called him sir or my mom mam,or any of my adult neighbors but we gave all adults much respect

[@shaythareal2382]

Yeah lol a lil too much

[@Ivashaaa]

Marcus Martin she sounds like a right bitch

[@Nanafia1]

And look how well-grounded, respectful and humble her kids turned out to be.

[@gabyirigoyen2836]

I’m just like A. I call my mom “mom” and she doesn’t pay attention to me I’ll call her by her name. I don’t think it’s disrespectful. But with other women I’ll call them miss or aunt

[@deliapalacios5968]

my latina mom be like...no se dice “que” se dice “mande”

[@Kayyyoxh]

My grandpa said this to me too! Lol

[@carolinaartavia7029]

This dependes on the country. I am from Costa Rica and we don’t say “mande”. I hear that a lot in Mexico.

[@khayteeh8785]

I’m with Adrienne lol it’s confusing and I’m not trying to over think it all.

[@aailatan12]

Katie Caceres yes!

[@Sarah3944]

Same.

[@CreativelyKia]

Katie Caceres she made that more complicated and deep than need be lol it was no that serious

[@aura5944]

No manners

[@kait490]

@@aura5944 bitch manners is not the same thing as "reverence" as loni put it. I'm not gonna bow down to you because youre older than me. Being polite and having manners is NOT the same thing. Age doesnt determine respect. I respect everyone equally. Not gonna walk on eggshells avoiding calling someone by their name just because they're old and entitled.

[@claraocabrera]

Nah, I prefer how the Australians do it. Everyone calls each other by the first name but it’s not out of disrespect. Instead it’s mutual respect among all, regardless of age. I hate when older people talk to me condescendingly just because I’m younger 🙅🏻‍♀️

[@salmareda7073]

Girl, its 4:00am. I thought i was the only one awake 😂

[@MahoganyonEarth]

Clara Cabrera i like that. Always wanted to move to Australia too 🤔

[@theelolicious9302]

yeah like why is saying someone’s first name disrespectful? you don’t like your first name? then change it but tf that got to do w me calling you MISS or MRS or MR?? absolutely nothing

[@Ivashaaa]

Clara Cabrera Australia’s got it from us British

[@aura5944]

Are the fires being put out?

[@tabithalennox1526]

I'm with Adrienne, I was raised in a New York/New England household and you just call people by their first names (except your parents). It wasn't till I met southern people and realized the whole MR and MRS thing is a serious thing they do.

[@thegreenrose4660]

Adrienne, you're fine! It's crazy how formal Tamera, her mama, and Jeannie's family are. LIKE WHY. Not every older person deserves respect. We are all people. We ALL deserve respect, doesn't matter what age you are.

[@yenitaylor84]

I call my mom by her first name as a joke 🤣😂 she doesn’t care. And yes we’re black.

[@user-rw1ii8wb7v]

same haha, i'm with adrienne. nothing to do with respect

[@ramenwayfarer]

Yeni Taylor I’m half black & I called my black dad by his first name my whole life. And we’re Southern, too.

[@Lavishlyashleyy]

Same! I joke with my mom like that sometimes and she doesn’t mind🤣. But any other adults that aren’t in my family, I say “Mr.” “Mrs.” “Ms.” “Ma’am” “Sir”

[@quetta1182]

I'm from Alabama and we do the same. But the only time I called her by her name as a joke was in front of grandma because you can't beat me when she's around!👵💃

[@islandQueen246]

Yeni Taylor same

[@ayleendal8340]

Omg I remember I was in tamera’s position when I told my mom “girl you crazy “ 😂 too and she straight up looked at me like : 👁 👁 👄

[@roisinkelleher8189]

In Ireland we call everyone by there first name

[@ohitsnotme9056]

Even teachers?

[@Joy32046]

@@ohitsnotme9056 Not in a school/collage environment no we call teachers Mrs, Mr, Ms or sister(if it's a nun teaching) insert last name(sometimes a teacher will ask or let you call them by their first name but only if they say you can) or if its a male teacher sometime's sir which is a habit that can't be broken even if your gone from school if someone asks about your old school or you meet an old teacher your always calling them that even as an adult. Also if we dont know someone and trying to get their attention we call them Sir or Ms but if we know your first name we are going to call you by your first name everytime. Sorry if its a bad example im not really good at explain our ways someone can correct me if i'm wrong or explain it better to ya.

[@therachelandbessshow3517]

So get what you all of you are saying. Made us laugh Adrienne when you said you didn't know what to say! Great energy every time. Thanks for inspiring us, ladies

[@danielaachury7095]

Once, a guy at a store called me ma’am and I’m 21. 😂

[@PHlophe]

Daniela he wasn't going to call you by your first name, now was he ?

[@danielaachury7095]

Lechiffresix six no but it was weird. He could have just said hey miss, that would have sound better.

[@yasminh1000]

I don’t get this. I’m English and don’t understand why they need to call you anything? Just be like “is there anything I can help you with?, have a nice day” etc

[@MissMBA]

I don't like saying it is for "reverence". Older people are not Gods or saints. It is to express respect.

[@osimeon00]

That's literally what "reverence" means. 🙄

[@breememe6192]

That’s what reverence means though. To show respect.

[@gaila.9852]

@@osimeon00 Reverence means deep respect. There is a difference.

[@EnchantedReader89]

Seriously? Tam calling her mom girl and she got mad? It's like a term of endearment. Wow it's not that deep 🙄

[@WAKINUPwithDee]

I love this conversation and hearing about where each of the hosts come from and their culture. I’m happy Adrienne was so real about it even though she was the odd one out.

[@mickey_dbeh6105]

I've had ladies be offended with me calling them ma'am 🤷‍♀️

[@quinnquazy876]

SAME! i never understood it honestly unless they take it as im calling them old or whatever

[@lunaForever2020]

Yes me as well. Not ALL old people deserve respect

[@PHlophe]

@@quinnquazy876 depends on the tone, really. i called a racist white co-worker in her 30s " yup! mamma of course", with a serious face.i knew i was being extra shady and i also knew that if she argues she'll look loca.

[@hb1128]

If they feel gross about aging, that's their own problem. Getting offended over that is a choice, and a petty one at that.

[@Benz5469]

This is me all the way. For me, respect isn't shown the standard stereotypical way. It's more about your attitude rather than your words. Just treat me the way you would treat anybody else. I'm not above you just because I'm older than you. I'm very big on equality.

[@KeshaAustin]

I was raised 100% like Tamera! My dad didn’t play that.

[@monicadolo5151]

Exactly

[@avareezimmerman5978]

I am always so respectful of my elders. I was taught since I could talk to always say yes ma’am yes sir to even my parents. It’s just a southern thing

[@theyJC]

I was raised like Adrienne It may be a culture difference and I always find it interesting to compare

[@washurhands5079]

Adrienne, you never used “usted” vs “tu” when talking to señoras?

[@idalia-anniecastillo]

Riiiiight i was wondering this the whole time in spanish theres a difference, yes.

[@MissMBA]

Wondered, too. Maybe she spoke more English with her mom.

[@flacotaco6737]

I asked my mom about that cause we're Hispanic and she said she didn't care. It's just not a big deal to certain people Edit: should have added too that most Hispanic adults I've addressed don't really mind. Unless they state they wanna be called Sr. or Sra. I say their names

[@natashaalvarado2966]

I don't think people in the carribean spanish speaking countries emphasize "usted". They really refer to them as "tu" to everyone. For the older one, they have respect but do reallly emphasize "usted".

[@AliciaRodriguez_]

Adrienne never spoke Spanish to anyone, por favor. 😂

[@zulekhaosman7540]

From my east African culture you have to referee to my elders auntie or uncle. mrs. or mr.

[@user-yy7cw7fl8p]

Zulekha Osman u Somali 👀👀

[@zulekhaosman7540]

@@user-yy7cw7fl8p yh, how did you know?

[@aaiish9097]

@@zulekhaosman7540 your name is so somali lol

[@sumeya1923]

Aaiish right

[@animebabe539]

Same

[@DLC0579]

“We southern people”? Isn’t Loni from Detroit

[@dreamgrlarchive]

Dayz M. Her family is probably from the south like mine

[@melaninqueen2413]

Yes. But during the great migration in America in the early to mid 20th century, Black people migrated to other regions and a lot kept the way they spoke... like my grandmother. My mom and my sister and I were born and raised in Michigan. Instead of saying yes ma'am to my mom and grandma, I just say yes grandma or yes mom.

[@lukalakicevic2305]

She was born in Detroit but schooled in Houston

[@bambi7563]

Luka Lakicevic she did not go to school in Houston. At least definitely none of her formative years. I’ve never heard her mention Houston and she doesn’t sound like she’s from Houston at all

[@bambi7563]

Luka Lakicevic also I remember her always talking bout growing up in the Detroit projects and how her nickname is Detroit Debby as he stripper name or alter ego or something

[@ve7095]

I just LOOOOOVE how Adrian segways are 😂😂😭😭😂😂 she is hilarious

[@aaliyahlopez4478]

I never say “ WHAT “ to my mom she we’ll kill me 🤣😳

[@ilzshine_aa3936]

Aaliyah Lopez yeah mine too 😂😂 I say “yes mom”

[@adriannadavis3597]

It's huh? Yeah? What you say? Not just what?

[@chautang3055]

I did that to my mom once by accident. I just wasn’t thinking bout all of that. I almost got my face smacked. I caught myself and like oh snap, no wajt mommy!!! 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 idk bout y’all but don’t play with an asian mother 😂😂😂😂😂

[@TheImprov]

Really thinking about it, I don't see the disrespect in calling someone by their name. Its their name lol

[@zakiahwynn]

Same! My family is very informal. My grandma does not let my mom call her mom, she likes to be called by her first name "Betty." When someone wants me to refer to them a certain way, I will. Otherwise, I will just naturally call someone by their name.

[@spacepirate3391]

I know lol Like my mom gave me a name for a reason and she sure as hell didn't name me Ma'am

[@jclyntoledo]

Yeah it usually just makes me say, oh you can call me _____, that's my name when people say miss or ma'am to me or I make a joke like I'm not an officer in the military call me by my first name. I kinda hate when taxi/lyft/uber drivers do that.

[@steviebana8827]

I think the only reason formalities are used is to establish dominance

[@mariacosmo262]

In Nigeria, Every Older person esp your parent's friends are your aunties and uncles lol....

[@lifewithbriandthefam]

Some people don’t like to be called ma’am . A lot of people tell me not to call them ma’am because it makes them feel old 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@gathajayan3558]

Really thats stupid I would never call an elder by their first name. I would never call my parents or older relatives by their first names its weird. I don’t get it whats the big deal if some says ma’am it clearly means that they are insecure about their age. You don’t call a teacher or a professor by their first name.

[@texasgirl73goodjob46]

@@gathajayan3558 yeah

[@stephanierodriguez9769]

It is. Its a New York city thing. When my mother isn't responding I call her by her first name! 🤣👍🏼🗽🗽

[@SKYYLOVE]

*even though (because) i was raised in a household where i was supposed to say “ma’am” & “sir” i’m like adrienne’s mom lol it’s never that deep*

[@zaram3134]

Woah, Mama Darlene is strict. It was just a joke bro 💁🏿

[@holzlastname1976]

I like the adding Mrs before soneone older. Its a sign of reapect and this world could definitely use more of that

[@JoannieLugo]

I literally love this show

[@briannawood22]

Let me also add that Adrienne is my fashion inspiration all the time.😍 she’s always so cute, I LOVE HER!

[@karisdaone8646]

I agree with Adrienne I'm also a New Yorker and didn't start saying ma'am or sir til I moved to the South.

[@knightcool7769]

Brought up in South Africa but my dad is American. When I spoke to my mom and dad, I could say stuff like ‘yes mom’ or ‘yeah dad’ and they were fine with it. All other adults were called Auntie and uncle 😂

[@user-ly2cm6zk5l]

Small confession: When I was younger I thought my mum’s name was mum, I didn’t think she had an actual name and then when other kids did it as well I thought all mothers have the name mum. I learnt, my mum had an actual mum cox she had to be called something else before she had me. I don’t ever call my mum by her a ACTUAL name, that’s be a quick death, HELLLL NAHHHH

[@user-ly2cm6zk5l]

JasmineN Williams HAHAHAH that’s kinda how I also realised as well, and it all started to make sense. But for the longest time I didn’t think ‘mum’ was a title

[@gloriabowie5629]

@@jwshow you had to hear other people talk to her,they did not call her mom.

[@agnesdiary]

This is such a interesting conversation to me. Here in Sweden we always call eachother by first name. Our parents and grandparents are the only exception. Like we all have the same ”status”. We show respect to elders in other ways, like behaviour. Its interesting to hear about difference in culture. 😊

[@03Destinee03]

Adrienne pulled out a Lozada accent when she started talkin to Sonya 😂

[@bebee10]

Omg I LOVE LOVE LOVE Loni’s hair makeup and dress in this episode! The color is Soooo pretty.

[@KamalIsaiahMorales]

3:10 “who’s the ma’am around here?!?? Like... NOT I !!!” Hahahahahaha Adrienne has me weak

[@sharmellajohnson8958]

I’m with Adrienne I’m from the east coast and we hardly ever call anybody miss or Mrs. But I can also be because my mom is West Indian and I would call aunty or uncle.

[@natashagraham9040]

Def can relate to ade here. I grew up in nyc too and not once was taught to answer with yes ma'am/sir etc. I moved to tx when i was in high school and it was such a thing... like you might as well get up and spit in the teacher's face if you don't respond "yes ma'am no ma'am". It still confuses me

[@quinnettesupersite]

I’m malaysian we call people older than us “uncle” or “aunty” or “abang” (older brother) or “kak” (older sister) Regardless if we’re related by blood or not 😅

[@emails2her]

Y’all know it’s never gonna be on a first name basis especially if you black or African

[@mikkijaymes12]

I’m with Adrienne 😂 I guess I’m disrespectful af lol but no it’s just how you are raised, not everyone has the same upbringing

[@stephaniethurman8404]

I was raised like Adriane. I call my Mom by her first name sometimes, we are very relaxed in our relationship. I will say yes ma'am and no ma'am to her when appropriate though. Everyone's relationships with their parents is different, don't feel bad Adriane! I think these are 2 different situations in my opinion. With others I always pay reverence to my superiors and elders. I will say Miss and their first name if I do not know if they are married and I say yes ma'am and no ma'am everytime.

[@tiareneedenson1845]

Adrienne’s looking fabulous!!! 💪🏾💕🥰🙌🏾

[@aniarob1895]

I'm from the south and we can not call our parents by the first name we gonna get slapped

[@britneyamber-marieblaska4679]

I call everyone by their first name lol.

[@kailan523]

Thank you, Adrienne for feeling my pain!!!

[@trinigrl09]

I had a man in his 60s get angry with me for using the term ‘“Sir” I was about 19. He wanted me to use his name Dori which I assume was short for Dorian. So that is what I did when I took the bus... I messed up a few times though and he became irritated with me....(he was the driver so I saw him often) It was strange because in southern families the terms sir or ma’am are used. I do think some seasoned people take it to the extreme with their outraged attitudes though....I think some people come off as haughty or elitist which is not ok. it’s as if these people think their age makes them superior or more valuable. However if u read scripture, Jesus seems to have a higher regard for children. Tamera’s mom kind of came off haughty. Tamera didn’t mean to offend her....it was in jest. Tamera knows ur her mom and u are a ‘mama’. It seems to be more of an ego thing and less of a respect issue because respect is in how u treat people, whether u are truthful, kind and considerate not in what titles u use when referring to them.....I can use the term sir or ma’am because u forced me to but that doesn’t mean I respect u as a person. If Jesus answered to His name who am I to be offended when someone uses mine?

[@Amanda-qz3zh]

I’m Mexican and grew up in South Texas and I relate more to Adrienne 😆

[@KevRomo]

Being Hispanic we would call our aunts and uncles “Tia/Tio *their first name*” but if it was like a teacher I would always call them Mr or Ms/Mrs

[@ohitsnotme9056]

And ‘tu’ and ‘usted’

[@nectarofambrosia990]

Me as a New Yorker like Adrienne, speaking for myself I don’t call people ma’am or sir, doesn’t mean we don’t respect elders, how people in the south view respect is different than how people in NYC view respect because courtesy and verbal communication is different everywhere you go.

[@chaosgamer7348]

Omg Adrienne has be f’n hollering right now like she is legit confused pobrecita 🤣🤣🤣💙. I was raised in the south with a Puerto Rican mom and a Black father so I got used to say ma’am, mr, misses and always the last name of the person.

[@silviaj4965]

I mean I’ve most definitely called my mom by her name when she doesn’t answer me lol she really don’t be hearing me

[@benjaminreyes3624]

Man i Agree with Adrianne. I'm from NYC too 😭

[@mayab.1633]

I’m obsessed with Tameras laugh 😂♥️

[@akilahmcneil4788]

Where I’m from it’s very respect to say yes ma’am and no ma’am! People always tell me my manners are great and will take me far in life!! I would never call an adult by their first name.

[@yenitaylor84]

WE DONT WANT A NEW CO HOST! NO. IF ITS NOT YVETTE WE DONT WANT IT.

[@Siouxnami]

Yeni Taylor i want joseline

[@strangerthanfiction708]

MISS Yvette lol

[@tiaraw872]

OH WEEEEELLLLLL🤷🏽‍♀️your gonna have to deal with it sweetie

[@raquelandrade7195]

True

[@raquelandrade7195]

I support

[@MacyHarrell]

I notice white people say “what” all the time. I thought it was so rude. But I’ve learned it’s how they were raised and try not to be offended. My parents always told me “what?” Is rude.

[@shelocsher2396]

Macy Harrell YES!!! I’ve noticed it a few years ago and I find it rude AF.

[@JjisNmb01]

We Arab people say "what" to our parents too 😂 Not all of us though

[@JjisNmb01]

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[@mariyaa111]

Stop 🛑 There are people if every race who say everything that the gurus just said. Stop trying to make everything about race .

[@jada7323]

Adrienne is completely correct. It’s def like that here in nyc 😭 you not horrible Adrienne it’s cultural 😂

[@maxineramsy1425]

The girls look good! Love your whole look Loni esp makeup. Havent seen it this great in a long time..

[@monig292]

Mexicanos are the same we say “USTED” (older you, shows respect) & “TÚ” (younger you) I was raised just like Tamara no “huhs” “what?” & “yeaaaah mom” 😂

[@BATOOLESK]

in middle eastern we call them uncle/aunt , thats why we need more races on the show to educate them more

[@missnewvillage]

I feel Adrienne. That’s how I am with my mom. Must be a New York thing. Although my mom does say Hay is for horses. 😆

[@fcnyc952]

Ms. Adrienne, I was born and raised in New York and I was taught to say Mr., Mrs., Ms., etc. Therefore, I think it is all about your upbringing and how you were raised. God bless you, Ms. Adrienne!

[@ramonnamoore5437]

Loni love, I’m am here for it hunnie. I love this look.

[@eirinholt5382]

I’ve always called everyone by their first name. That’s normal here in Norway. Teachers for example. This is a America thing.

[@ecilamaj]

Eirin Holt Same here in Sweden🙋🏼‍♀️

[@lauren-ashleyblack8610]

No, in the Caribbean we call adults Miss or Mister or even Aunty and Uncle even though we aren't related.

[@beyonceschild]

Oh hell no in America we would get scolded by our teachers or any elders for saying their first name. Its strictly Miss, Sir, Mister, Ma'am

[@SD-br9kb]

Also living in Norway. You are right we do call people by their first name why else would you have a first name if nobody is going to use it. BUT you are probably young because when i was little we called our teacher frøken we could not call her by her first name. So its a respect thing from the old days. In Norway we dont respect anyone anymore 😂 so it died out 😆🤭

[@SD-br9kb]

@@beyonceschild Haha i remember one guy did that in school and filmed it. Not my school but a american school, the video is from KZbin. It was so funny to see their reaction 😄

[@mandypaz]

😂😂😂 yea I’m def with Adrienne on this one ... in Miami we don’t say ma’am , sir , mr. , ms, mrs none of that ... we just be like el señor,... or la señora,... tu vieja ,tu vijeo would be someone else’s parents 🤷🏻‍♀️ but we def use their first names mostly .. I’m also like “maaa , mom, madreeeee, Angelaaaaa! “ lol

[@SophieLovesSunsets]

Growing up I was always taught to call older people ma'am or sir. It's something I've just always done. I think the ways in which you were raised become intuitive and second nature.

[@CHiQUiLLA5051]

I’m Hispanic and we do as Adrian explained

[@romezbrown5878]

I love it hahahha

[@FA-dv5he]

Nahh I'm hispanic we call our elders Doña or Don and we refer them as usted. I call my mom, Mom. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@katya3805]

@@FA-dv5he same

[@andreagomezguerra3602]

I’m Latina and I’m 100% with Adrienne hahahaha I think is a cultural thing

[@AMC3120]

AndreaGomezGuerra I’m not Latina and I’m 100% with Adrienne. I grew up calling my parents friends by their first names and I always say what to my mom. That’s how I answer the phone when she calls.

[@jaimesheehan6795]

Just gotta say, Loni looks on fire today! Living for the look!

[@justluna3347]

LMFAOO me and Adrienne are the same person! We don't do that around here in NYC.