You deserve to feel loved, respected and supported in a relationship❤❤

[@cazdaz3863]

She’s 100% right. When you constantly have to walk on eggshells around a partner because you know that they will take what you say the wrong way and it is better to hold back and say nothing… there is a serious problem in the relationship. When you can’t be yourself and feel suffocated because of this, you are not with the right person for you. Usually these people are very rarely right for anyone.

[@RojaJaneman]

No. It’s when they don’t care about u. Disrespect can b fixed. When someone genuinely isn’t interested in u, there’s no fix

[@uzmakashif4131]

I ne dimagh thik kiya ha apne husband ka hr baat pr mera mazak so l didn't cook l didn't wash l didn't take care of house hold and children then he realized k me tb pagal thi k ab hun 😮 l warned him never ever

[@ds4275]

And most of the Indian married couples lead their whole life thinking ' jaane do na, sab teek ho jaayega. Aakhir bachhon ke liye....'

[@Saadfunfoodsandvlogsforyou]

​@varraprassad9276😂😂u have a point bro❤...still big n joint families r lots n lots more problematic to manage emotionally though they have huge advantages as well😂😂

[@Saadfunfoodsandvlogsforyou]

​@@ds4275in Pakistan we start with a high level of intolerance against disrespect n if wives r not feeling happy...but I think instead of breaking the bond females should strive to correct things n fight for them n kidz coz all men r ultimately just men😂😂...n culture cannot be changed in a year or ten ...so I support to fight n correct things for you coz ur kidz would get only one father😅

[@rosefangirl8035]

She is millions of times correct. Loved how she just emphasized everything to the T😊

[@dkvmba07]

She is absolutely right.even in our own family members do that.even friends takes it as granted.

[@Straightastheycome]

Taking for granted is a natural thing. U don't want to be taken for granted, take the appropriate steps to put forth your thoughts. Take initiative to get what u want, don't expect the other to be a mind reader. God has given you a mouth, use it appropriately.

[@ARMY_of_knowledge]

Very apt explanation!

[@vikramk6869]

This need not only be in romantic relationship. When your best friend start behaving like this, it pains even more.

[@Jiihbvfccx]

Bilkul sahi। Disrespect सबसे पहला साइन होता है। मज़ाक के नाम पे किसी को नीचा दिखाना ।

[@deonomsubba8765]

Yaaa, Like Sri Devi's husband was a red flag in the movie ENGLISH VINGLISH, always wanted to put her down using the humor weapon.

[@pinkuchoudhury2400]

One can see the pain in her eyes and the level of frustration in her words.

[@puNKSTER70]

That's why she chose to marry a rich guy after divorcing a regular actor

[@lavya512]

​@@puNKSTER70ohh really, who the.. you are to judge someone personal life if uh r not part of it

[@totoitutucoco]

​@@puNKSTER70 maybe the rich person respects their partner more. Broke/poor/unemployed doesn't always mean more love and care to give.

[@puNKSTER70]

@@totoitutucoco most separations happens in the riches.

[@MiniPrakash-Dubai70]

@@puNKSTER70coz they have options, poor and common people adjust since MONEY plays major role in life.

[@radhakannan104]

Very well said....I didn't realise when my husband insulted me in front of my whole in-law family. Something literally broke inside me. It took so many years to come out and stand for myself.🙏💐

[@Saadfunfoodsandvlogsforyou]

It's time tested method of keeping wives within their limits 😅...thnx Allah u get over it afterall ❤..heartiest congrats ...u r very strong sis coz millions could not find courage to do tht😢

[@mightypen369]

A guy has to stand WITH his wife in front of his parents IN EVERY SITUATION. They can discuss things in private later on. The minute the wife feels that she comes ONLY after the immediate family, that is the beginning of martial strife. I'm very clear about that with the better halves my 2 sons have brought home. MY PLACE IN MY SONS' LIVES IS ONLY AFTER THEM. I'm very clear about that.

[@radhakannan104]

@@Saadfunfoodsandvlogsforyou thank you

[@rukhsanakhan7551]

Well said 👏 Stay happy and stay blessed always ❤️

[@rachurachu2994]

Yes. My husband had such a thought. That he is my boss. After years of suffering I started reacting. Now Alhamdulillah.. I'm not suffocating at least...

[@gretaaarons4941]

Dignity & respect holds a marriage together more than love. Love follows respect.

[@Mihi_Dana-z2x]

Love/marrg d whole package. So either love /marrg or just using destruction ppl

[@nutansudan7306]

Exactly

[@Mihi_Dana-z2x]

@@gretaaarons4941 all needs requirements fr which love / marrg us those matched all normal naturally all truths life's every second all humanity goodness innocence based safe secure fully each other based love / marrg, else nothing. Whts respect whts dignity shits?

[@Mihi_Dana-z2x]

@@gretaaarons4941 no compromising no lies no dhoka deceiving no secret no hiding no plans projects no games no wrong no using no destruction no efforts no understanding shits, all truths all ok based at d beginning. Else enemies r ok fr all

[@JL-rt7vb]

Me too, I grew up in a fam where my dad made fun of my mom. It hurt me so much that I wud be the one fighting and standing up for her. Later he realized and never disrespected her in my presence

[@Mihi_Dana-z2x]

He as fathr identity holder touch tried to let me feel type, grabbing, etc. No father, no mom. One lady look after me as mom.

[@Mihi_Dana-z2x]

He use mom her,me fr his image etc.

[@jyotikerkar2728]

She expressed it to the point, ❤

[@jineshkumar4706]

When she utters the word DISRESPECT it shoots straight like a bullet - straight and sure to kill and Yes, that’s what the disrespect do to kill a relationship. Disrespect is the stealth way of expressing ‘Discontent’ which could have been discerned sensibly. But a fool’s ego doesn’t allow to take that path. She is correct in every word of what she spoke. The relationship dies only to let the apparition to stay. Sensibility is a rare thing

[@grp8706]

She is spot on !!!

[@beautimarks]

I grew up in a household where my dad always did this to my mom. It really hurt my feelings. I’m still hurt by it. Mom is use to it and dad has no clue how it hurts to hear him talk like that.

[@vathgriffith]

Try to tell this to him for once

[@beautimarks]

He is over 80yrs old and this has been his norm. He doesn’t even realize what, if anything, is wrong in his behavior and he gets offended way too easy.

[@savitagupta132]

​@@beautimarksthe thing is he knew it since the very beginning. He knew he could insult his wife and she would not retaliate in order to guard the respect and reputations of the family .Because women in our country are raised to believe that it's their shoulders on which the " khaandaan ki izzat rests"! Even though the man is the one who is shredding the "izzat of the woman"

[@vathgriffith]

@@beautimarks sounds like a narcissist i'm sorry

[@meenatiwari3468]

Ur dad is a narcissist

[@NTML-6]

This is 💯 true. I thought I could never unwanted him or hate him but his constant disrespect made me disgust him at last. Love is far gone!

[@komaldsouza8443]

Absolutely 💯 Wish somebody told me this 26 years ago, wouldn't have been in this shit. My brain kept seeing the red flags from day one but sadly I only followed my heart. Only positive outcome is my kids are well aware and alert to immediately notice such red flags and know that they should stay away from such people

Shes come out very strong good. Loved n respected her always

[@shikha8827]

I think this happens in every husband wife relationship, specially in india where women are judged for their every small action....be it how she speaks, how she laughs, how she eats, how she walks...and what not...how can one be comfortable in being herself if she is going to be judged even for the way she breathes 😢

[@anamjaved3419]

This also happens in every relationship between wife and husband in Pakistan as well

[@anamjaved3419]

This is very unfortunate

[@karendlima9059]

Say it loud! You've nailed it! Completely 💯 agree. The most practical and the issues that have been most often dismissed are articulated so well and clearly here. I wish such was taught to kids in schools and at homes. We, as therapists and counsellors, would have fewer clients.

[@savitagupta132]

I am a counseling psychologist too...and I totally agree with you

[@sohinisen3042]

Very well explained. It applies to all kinds of relationships and not just romantic ones. When you do not feel safe and accepted for who you are in a relationship, then there is certainly a problem. Instead of feeling suffocated, better to just let go.

[@vickyprakas]

She has be hurt so much look at the pain her eyes and gestures 😢 heal

[@ingenious5699]

She gave the correct answer, disrespect, and intolerance.

[@a.s306]

This whole explanation is the life I'm currently living

[@aninditalaha7233]

I hope you find the strength to stand tall and walk away from there. Sending hugs

[@sandhyarao3328]

You know you have the power to change the course of your life and only you can do it no one else is in power

[@shashi3072]

Practice vipassana meditation by sn goenks 🧘‍♀️. One day you will be able to leave without fear with your head tall.

[@RojaJaneman]

If u allow others to disrespect u continuously, it means u don’t have any self-respect. No one can help such a person. When u urself don’t respect urself, y should anyone else??

[@Rinee_96]

Same

[@vilasini552]

You are totally right… each and every word that you said relates to me. I can’t discuss or even open my mouth in front of my husband because of his worst behavior and judgmental nature. This is killing me. I’m losing myself. It’s been years since I laughed heart-fully😢.

[@chandamama9619]

I feel u stay strong

[@reenaraibajaj]

Do you think that it will be better to leave him ? And live freely.

[@Nisha-777]

Been there

[@JaiShivrai]

U r not alone

[@saminatinwala5946]

Sometimes people don't mean the things they say and are hardly aware how emotionally damaging it is for the opposite person. Have dealt with such people. Tell them clearly it's not ok and say it firmly. Distance yourself emotionally with them for sometime. They will realise your absence and get back for the better hopefully. If not you are always better living with better choices.

[@kallpanabhann9932]

100 🎉% she is so right . As mostly men disrespect and then rest will judge - he has been like this from years . They feel it’s their birth right to do so as they h w seen their fathers doing same with their mothers .

[@neelm1956]

Soo true soo happy that you have the guts to bring this out in lndia❤❤

[@sg_j1547]

Each word is so true .

[@meera-gn8yf]

She is so true but I add one thing that it's not about only relationship it's about all relationship including our so called friendship as well.

[@Bliss77705]

In many things ❤

[@tashfiahabib9525]

She is too good

[@rashminargundkar89]

It's applicable in all types of relationships... Not only romantic one!

[@meetavyas4103]

Very true. 1st jokes . 2nd name calling. 3rd abusive 4th hitting. Walk put before it gets toxic.

[@lornagreen8961]

Nailedit nailed it NAILED IT!! It's so subtle.. but Real!! It pecks away at your awareness of the disrespect. It weasles its way in and resides. Then you look around and it has a home relating to you that way. Nailed it Sis.💜💪🏾💜

[@ElixirOfLife-mm7kn]

Self assured people take and give space for others to be themselves! Insecured and people who live to maintain certain standards as per society restricts themselves and others too.

[@aithalsujatha]

U r absolutely right! That's the reason, I always end up with fights, in protecting my feelings , my opinion & myself 👍🙏

[@noora94545]

Absolutely right absolutely right mam💯

[@anguie12]

Her language switch had me wondering if I was hearing her correctly 😅

[@arrcchu]

I love her personality....very genuine

[@subhamgangdeb6618]

I hope all couples out there have all the strength and love to overcome any pity issue that they will encounter in their lives.

[@JaspreetKaur-o1h]

My husband is also red flag....but at home...in front of me n my daughter....koi bahar se aate hi ...he is a great green flag....

[@monalepcha6486]

yes ma'am I agree for you...👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼

[@veenaramesh6473]

I'm living thru dis...for more than 40 years now....nd she rightly says....in d movie Dil Dhadkene Do....nd her son acknowledges.....she didn't leave her husband...bcz she had nowhere to go

[@Hakunapatakha123]

So true. Blessed to have a wonderful human being as husband ❤

[@NPPREMA]

Yes exactly. Respect is the first thing. Everything else comes later

[@luckycharm1611]

She is very correct. Disrespect like this is a very confidence-robbing technique

[@sonalibanerjee9952]

Exactly 👍 she perfectly explained the situation 😔

[@Loading_rn]

She is best among all in Bollywood. Her acting in Brothers r 100%

[@padmajav5204]

💯 Percent right. This is what happens in the family.. especially once we get married 😢

[@sreekalakrishnakumar587]

It's essential to be mindful of how humor is used in a relationship. Communication is key-both partners should feel comfortable expressing when a joke goes too far, and there should be mutual respect for each other's feelings.

[@lavya512]

Shez dam dam true in her into.. completely relatable and true

[@brijinderdogra3201]

Absolutely flawless and logical .

[@gaurisv]

She said it soo correctly...😢havwgine through this all my life

[@gurdevkaur4505]

❤❤aap ne mere dil ki baat keh di... main ese logon ko dimag se hi nikal deti hoon.....❤❤❤

[@deeparuhela6755]

बहुत प्यारी है शैफाली।। बहुत प्यारी ❤

[@ikshvakugautam6132]

Absolutely true ! Sidhi baat

[@irenemistry8904]

You are very right. A brave woman. Not just an actress. Some men are so arrogant, ill mannered.

[@nancysokhey5129]

👌🏼ABSOLUTELY TRUE 👏🏼👍🏼

[@deepalishetty1315]

Jst couldn’t agree more. Short & crisp. ❤

[@kaydee5245]

We can se how much she's carrying inside. 💔

[@luckycharm1611]

Bravo on your clear, honest, experienced response

[@mildredsmith7687]

I truly admire u acting n how relative u are in your discourse.

[@akshaya4984]

Shefali maam is the best... I love her ❤

[@khushboobhatibhati3225]

अनादर। कम शब्दों मे 100प्रतिशत सही वक्तव्य।

[@nishadhruna4487]

I like what she says... And it's true... If one cannot be oneself (obviously there r boundaries and discretion must be a factor even with a spouse)... be comfortable saying what one feels under most circumstances, feel that one will be understood, feel safe from ridicule, feel loved & accepted so one can be oneself.. without fear of mockery... the relationship fails to be what it needs ro be... to serve its real purpose..

[@MasratNawahad]

Really I am over whelmed and in tears after hearing you

[@devanshimishra5807]

This problem not only with your partner with all relationship even parents your family.

[@mpushpaparamashiva8516]

She is exactly explaining my life 😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢

[@DivitaBansal]

so true if u can't live peacefully in the relationship so leave it immediately

[@arindamchakravarty8955]

100% agree to what you say Shefali ji.

[@preetgill6690]

Well said. Absolutely right

[@alphabetagamma09]

Who has realistically found or more importantly been this ideal partner everyone should supposedly have for a lifetime! Our expectations of our partners should be at least equal to the ones we have of ourselves if not lower. Striving to find such a partner or striving to be such a partner, which one do you think is more possible.

[@veenarajesh7625]

My God! How true she is! 100% correct

[@AFireBirdPhoenix]

My siblings and I have been dealing with an abusive father since our childhood , l feel very uneasy when he is around and the saddest part is l am the only one who is aware of this abuse but my siblings have taken this as our father being normal and have grown kind of used to it , which l find tragic

[@Vibhavijay1]

Same with me 😢.

[@vd2114]

We in our family face this with our mother We want to speak something but we hold it back because she definitely cuts our opinion but poor thing she doesn't realise But she sacrifices a lot for us so we will be chup

[@pushpamargaret6672]

Agree 100%. Shefali is my favorite actress

[@Godiswithme995]

If you are worried about being yourself - yes If you want to speak something but you can’t ke Jane do na - yes All of this is there in my relationship.

[@sadafshaikh3735]

Where do you have such perfect match an relationship…. Only in heaven…. Most of the time it’s compromise and adjustment and if u can’t do that … one end up staying single

[@soniamehta273]

Uska past sirf uski bato mei hi nhi. .Uske Expressions...Uski ankho mei dikh rha ha😂😂😢😢😢😢😢😢😊😊😊😊❤❤

[@nobody_knows536]

Isme itna funny kya hai ?

[@soniamehta273]

@@nobody_knows536 Funny kisne kha kha???

[@nobody_knows536]

@@soniamehta273 apne emoji dekho behan iska kya mtlb hota hai??

[@nishaharidas1361]

Absolutely correct no doubt at all ❤❤❤

[@queenvictoria2897]

So true and so well said.......many women living this

[@RadhikaThacker-h3e]

Can’t like this thinking enough.very well said

[@mnmnmn0097]

Thank you Woman. Rightful.thought pulled.out from.many woman's deep under left aside.

[@preethimadhukumar1865]

Very true... Sab humour hi hai.. arrey mein toh mazak Kar Raha tha.. u can't take a joke even .. u r so serious.. tumse toh mazak bhi nahi Kar sakte hai.. I am living it on daily basis..

[@sonalshalom8240]

I ❤ her. Since Nukkard days when she mimicked Sri Devi.

[@appymichael9099]

Perfect answer very intelligent 👌 ❤❤❤❤I agree

[@nehasoni2823]

She is right

[@dushyantrao6041]

Great explanation , I have experienced this being a male when I was in a relationship before my marriage . Touch wood I have an extremely understanding wife who accepts me the way I am.

[@MalleshwariKommalapati]

You are 100% true…

[@amberinezaki969]

Such wise words

[@nehadutta3533]

Well said💯💯 i think every indian woman cross this situation in her life😢😢

[@MsMumbaikar]

I am absolutely in love with how she is. It was quite evident in Delhi crime. I have met many so called high ranking from her field, but I was ecstatic to meet Lisa Ray at the airport and if I ever meet Shefali, God only knows how I will feel

[@dianad.1174]

Definitely! That's one thing that can never be forgiven

[@binduhiremath8764]

So very true. I can relate this so much in my own relationship 😢

[@simpleliving3505]

Very true ....I am computer engineer, I was earning more than my husband still I went through this .

[@UpendraVishwas]

1thing I always amazed me, when a lady earns it s her money but when a man earns it s for whole family . N with a lady it s always comes down to earning .

[@Luckyb4u-r]

​@@UpendraVishwasshe is telling about her self respect brother not highlighting about money. If you can understand a boy or girl self respect in the same way you can feel her pain. If a wife doesn't give respect to her husband even after providing every thing for her daily life ..and husband complains about his pain ..men will understand that very well but why a pain from women is not accepted when expressed.

[@UpendraVishwas]

@@Luckyb4u-r bro ,my point is ,girls self respect suddenly sky rocketed when she starts earning (I am not demeaning anyone n never intended too ) self respect is self respect whether you earn less or more doesn't matter .

[@bishakhagoswami8353]

But society doesn't work in that way.​@@UpendraVishwas

[@UpendraVishwas]

@@bishakhagoswami8353 women are also blamed for this.

[@professional.on-line]

Hello Not only in relationship (We) I am who I am wherever I am. If it's not so then nothing is "secure: 50 ++ year's of experience. Well if it's MOTHERHOOD OR YOU'RE MY LOVE IT like a coin 🪙 It's the situation not by chance. Best regards ✨️

[@swastigoyaliya9777]

Yes....no compromise on that... whatever may happen 👍🙂

[@lightworker6298]

And it keeps escalating after that. 😢 True

[@lalithamurali3237]

Very true..disrespect is mostly brushed off as humour...

[@JayashreeBose-i8y]

Om shanti from Brahma kumaris 🌳🌳🌳🌳

[@kaypatel1686]

She is absolutely right