You Have to Be Able to Say, "No!"

[@stevenlightfoot6479]

You MUST push back against things that go against your values. NEVER passively agree to anything with which you don't agree.

[@stevenlightfoot6479]

@@SeekerAppleSwordSerpent Yes true. Sometimes all you can do is go along with something with which you dont agree, but firmly recognize that you are doing it against your will for a larger purpose, and never give in internally.

[@amfarrell42]

Somewhere in Michigan, there was a civil engineer who failed to say no to changing the pH of Flint’s water treatment. The result was an engineering injustice. (also incidentally a racial injustice)

[@LeeAdrian777]

Push back against scum

[@Bolpat]

Yes. And also, you're morally obligated to point out any other problems you see. I recently did that and the answer I got was underwhelming, but it wasn't bad.

[@clearvision4233]

Agreed.

[@dead_or_alive2649]

I never get tired of listening to Mr. Peterson speak. Every time I learn something new but it also makes me realize how much I actually do not know. Humbling to say the least.

[@KEW-pd1jn]

Must be able to say No, set boundaries, and eliminate the habit of avoidance.

[@Eric-zv9ut]

Can you explain the avoidance thing

[@universalspirit6528]

When you combine passion with knowledge the results can be fantastic. Dr Peterson delivers his advice with total conviction. Imagine if all teachers were like him? I believe I would have done better at school. 🙏🏼

[@aWomanFreed]

And you’d be completely brainwashed today

[@stevenlightfoot6479]

Man's Search for Meaning is one of the best books ever written.

[@WoFDarkNewton]

If you don’t push back against tyranny when it’s not that bad, and you wait until it’s worse, it will be much harder, and the only way you MIGHT succeed is by mustering so much willpower you didn’t have before and suffering so much more than you were willing to before that you will wish you had just said “no” when it wasn’t that bad. Remember if you tell yourself “I’ll push back when it’s worse” that the only time that’s correct is in a situation where you’ll wish you hadn’t waited.

[@Bigmtj10678]

Sheesh

[@williamcooper2415]

Remember that scene, when the bounty hunter walks into the bar and says he's looking for Josey Wales? He was given a chance, (basically saying to himself, "No," I'm not going to draw on Wales") to walked away, then he came back and lost his life? "No," is good, if you can resist the temptation of changing your mind.

[@ittaiklein8541]

This is a great person! The world needs millions like him - Not in addition, but instead! Instead of whom, you might ask. Instead of those who can be moved to ultimately persecute others just because they want to & they can.

[@axbxa]

So well spoken, thank you JP! Reading Ordinary Men now.

[@remiagoldenberg6304]

Never get fed up with his views . Thank you for sharing ❤

[@heidimartin859]

Agreeableness has an ending point.

[@randomlymeander2467]

As Chinese I really hope more people hear this. There are corners on this planet that still have free speech and people better fight for it before it’s too late. Now rebellion doesn’t put your life at risk, but if this trend continues then who knows.

[@Razear]

The conundrum with choosing to speak up, especially if the position you're advancing is contrary to the widely accepted narrative, is that it singles you out and makes you an identifiable target. People realize this, whether consciously or subconsciously, and would rather not take on that burden. It takes a lot of spine to be able to embrace an incoming tidal wave of criticism alone and most people would rather not risk being mobbed, even if it means falsifying their speech.

[@LarryP248]

The richness of this material is striking. A similar book I read was the catalyst for significant personal growth. "The Art of Saying No: Mastering Boundaries for a Fulfilling Life" by Samuel Dawn

[@guyincognito1406]

I was competent and silent, kept me hurt for a while working for peanuts compared to what I brought. Took a step back, collected data, charged 3x more and nailed the negotiations.

[@hamdoolam]

This is one of the most important of his points man.. i pray the world hears this asap

[@kevinmorris7722]

The world is lucky to have Jordan sharing what he's learned. He's only controversial to those who are blindly convinced of what they think they believe. Most extreme liberal people I've spoken to express the ideology until you reform the same question in a way they've not yet considered. This allows them to think for themselves and typically results in very different moral beliefs than they stated earlier in the conversation. This shows how they've been blindly convinced by someone they simply took their words as facts.

[@PaulMclauchlin]

His point about the book "Ordinary Men" is spot on. My whole outlook on humanity and human behaviour changed after reading it.

[@sannii2222]

which book exactly is that? I find multiple version on the internet :d

[@Miracle-Needed]

People who had a difficult childhood, especially those who never had their emotional needs met are prone to limerence. The reason is because we were always prone to imagining a parallel reality, a whole world of fantasies we could escape to. Fantasies have always been a safer world for us than the real one, so our mind is already used to this dynamic (it's basically like 'muscle memory'). When something triggers this dynamic, it's like opening a portal to our safe fantasy world, and as destructive as it is, we are used to actually loving it... That being said, my soul is brutally violently viciously maliciously raped and has been my whole life I am desperate to die REMINDER TO SELF: FEAR is a bully. If you try to avoid him, reason with him, appease him, beg him, he will kick the shit out of you and ruin your life day after day, until you don't have a life no more. But... If you start looking him in the eye and saying "FUCK YOU, do your worst, I can take it" and you mean it... He may beat you once or twice but after a while, he'll let you be. You might even become friends over time. ALSO, You must not be afraid of playing the wrong damn notes. Just forget it! just play the whole damn thing wrong, if you must! But for the love of God... PLAY! AND... You MUST push back against anything that go against your values. NEVER passively agree to anything with which you don't agree!

[@Unexpectedperspectivesnow]

No is the most important word in the human language.

[@MasteryOrder]

Indeed. It helps create boundaries and define individuals. If you enjoy challenging ideas and if mastery and masculinity are subjects that interest you, I invite you to explore the videos I share on the Mastery Order Channel. Challenge yourself with some ideas about manhood, explore your masculine potential to the maximum and become the kind of man you would admire. We can only better ourselves together, as men among men, so I invite you to use what I share and, of course, share your own opinions so that others can benefit from them as well. Looking forward to your points of view. All the best to you!

[@cullentaussig]

No!

[@tvathome562]

Apathy allows tyranny to rise, with a strong community these powers never get a foothold.

[@yomomshouse100]

Source?

[@tvathome562]

@@yomomshouse100 regurgitation of Jordans philosophy in my own words, I believe he's right to a point. A tyrannical leader cant take over with out the backing of a portion of the group and /or the apathy of a large portion of the group.

[@tracyjasmine9180]

My husband always tell me how confrontational I’m. Which I love that I’m🥰 some situation it’s not worth but some! Trust me it’s. NO! Assertive! Fearless 😊

[@chrismaxx8528]

❤ love Jordan Peterson

[@NobbyYuri]

Thank you very much, Mr. Jordan Peterson.

[@bman5257]

No. I’ll never learn to be disagreeable, and you can’t make me.

[@erica.5620]

ok

[@bman5257]

@@erica.5620 Fine. I’ll do it.

[@arcanejel]

@@bman5257 😂

[@erica.5620]

@@bman5257 yay

[@dirtybubblerising]

Ah, I see what you did there

[@Johnwilkinsonofficial]

what a brilliant answer to a very good question.

[@beendlebe2155]

I've once asked my boss for a raise from a point of weakness because he promised we would talk after 3months and I took that literally. I had no idea I had to be confident & negotiate while saying it.That's the day my former boss literally didn't see value in my work or any input I had at work, he broke me down to a point where he was expecting me quit. Basically he wanted me gone but I held on until a year later when finally decided to retrench me. Thank you JP for sharing your wisdom accompanied by your professional advice, now I know how to go about negotiating a raise👌

[@williampowell3378]

6:10 spot on

[@JamecBond]

I agree, Jordan.

[@hor_ger]

just speak your mind like there's no tomorrow!

[@ketoonkratom]

Love One Another

[@JGComments]

It’s even better if you have a competitive offer IN HAND when you make the request to your employer.

[@adllllla]

For a person to be prudent (wise), one has to obtain virtues of justice, temperance and fortitude. Without courage our righteousness will be lost.

[@riledmouse4677]

6:46 what author is he saying here? Sols Njidsen? I can’t seem to find it. Thanks!

[@blakebunch4485]

Aleksandr Isayevich Solzhenitsyn

[@junevandermark952]

Thanks for honoring my freedom of speech. Had Jordan Peterson (as a professor of psychology) been an Atheist rather than claiming to be a Conservative Christian, there shouldn’t be any doubt that ALL Christians would have scorned him … and today, his name (in the public sphere) would be unknown.

[@nathanmciver6496]

It shouldn't have to be an effort!!!! So grateful to have people sell law and yet not have abided by it themself! "NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!" People shouldn't even have to worry about saying this! Really these cons shouldn't have the feild to be within other people's peaceful life's! Usualy it's because they hide within curruption recycling

[@donaldfrederick501]

It's fascinating, to have such a high agreement with the 1st 1/2 and disagreement with 2nd 1/2 of a video. The validity of importance of negotiating from a position of strength to disagreeing with his attempt at blaming everything in a authoritative state more than its leadership. Some will see I often have disagreements and ask why continue to watch. Well, it's important to not be in an echo chamber, to listen to views one may disagree with, to see both perspective and where agreement may exist.

[@joeday4293]

The thing is, there's no "negotiation" possible when the proposal on the table is a compulsion antithetical to your morals; and the only possible response, after careful consideration, must be "Abso-God-damned-lutely NOT, on my very LIFE." That's the situation Jordan Peterson found him in in the conflict that brought him fame in the first place. So no, it was not the best first presentation of who he is and what he is, if you didn't know already. He has spent a professional lifetime studying negotiation, but he was in a situation where no negotiation was possible, and unfortunately, that's exactly how he got famous. And I would have done likewise. Sometimes you are made an "offer" that is so absurd and insulting, the only correct response is "go fuck yourself."

[@donaldfrederick501]

@@joeday4293 that's part of negotiations too, on knowing when to walk away and move on to other opportunities.

[@joeday4293]

@@donaldfrederick501 How do you walk away from the police power of your country's government without emigrating?

[@donaldfrederick501]

@@joeday4293 1st I would suggest a "check the facts" if dealing with a police power state (China, Russia, Iran and North Korea come to mind). If that that level leaving might be only option. What specific place are you referring to? Note, Canada is not that.

[@joeday4293]

@@donaldfrederick501 No, but Canada is a place where Dr. Peterson had to resist.

[@Cinderella227]

Bravo 👏🏻 ✝️❤️

[@Alaskathelastfrontier]

Yessssss 1:34

[@chainsawchanselour5452]

Now tell me how to say no bro

[@Milestonemonger]

If you agree with something that feels wrong, you falsify your being bit by bit. So DON'T TAKE THE FIRST STEPS.

[@Lsyftw]

Hell yeah!😊

[@Bolpat]

“He's more introverted” Not that hard if Peterson happens to be in the ninety-something percentile of extraversion.

[@lesliem.dimarzio7901]

Master.

[@Sheikdaddy]

A robot does everything that it is programmed to do. It cannot be programmed to refuse. The thing that makes us human is our capability to say no even to things we want.

[@cypressbutane4575]

No I don't.

[@sugar_nutss]

I am on left and I love you!

[@johncooley9920]

And how can a free, sovereign individual, justify the compelled speech of submitting an 'IRS tax return' ? A business paying a tax is not the same as an individual, by the necessity of survival, being subject to a tax. A business is simply a process. An individual is a living, breathing soul. An importer of a product, for example, can simply refuse to import the product, thereby not being taxed. An auto maker can refuse to make the machine. But an individual must eat to survive. To tax a person for surviving, for existing, by compelling a persom's speech, .. where will that lead except into slavery. The Federal Reserve recently raised it's interest rate. Now, Americans are obligated to pay a trillion federal Reserve Notes per year ? Into slavery we are tricked.

[@jesushernandez-eo8fq]

Bro whoever send that question JUST GET TO THE POINT!!!!

[@peacockLife]

some people need the slightest inch to load on ...

[@daneallan1320]

NO, NO, NO!!! How's that?

[@ittaiklein8541]

Who or what is "Height" that is mentioned several times in this video? Will someone be kind enough to tell?

[@blakebunch4485]

"Haidt" I think

[@sh4dow2a]

You mean... Say" no more!"...?

[@DerGoRaN96]

yes, no i mean, im mean i dont know what to say. help.

[@gavingleemonex3898]

I did say no. And then they sent Jorday and Mikhaela to mount a full scale assault on my already shattered nerves. I belong on a no-fly list, is all I'm saying.

[@abcd3fgh1jklmn0pqrstuvwxyz]

Bad things happen when good people do nothing

[@juliovillagran4105]

I have that on a poster. Need to put it on my bedroom wall but I keep putting it off.

[@Ggdivhjkjl]

How can the "no" of one man overcome the crowd of yesmen?

[@TheJoyfulEye]

hear hear!

[@dolabellajr]

Wow.

[@jasmina-antic]

I call him papa Jordan 😆

[@robnee3313]

Wow!

[@selfelements8037]

4:32

[@thundergrace]

he be in the fray?

[@nesa9102]

What were the names of the other influential professors/people at the beginning?

[@toddthomas4761]

Jonathan Haidt and Robbie George...

[@nesa9102]

@@toddthomas4761 Thank you!!

[@pitfighter871]

Defenestrate Jezebel

[@pauperslament3467]

People cannot even be bothered with turning a knob that engages the safety lights of motor vehicles.... The simplest of tasks are beyond their reach.

[@GuitarAndWhatevs]

No u

[@LeeAdrian777]

Read Ordinary Men and Man’s Search for Meaning

[@MrGobsmack]

poor mr. p. when you see a wolf in wooly clothing telling you how to think say, 'no'...or better 'no, thank you.'

[@TheMaleRoleModel]

and now he's in re-education

[@christwins1]

Jesus Christ saved the entire world from the foundation of the world.

[@IndoctReeducate]

🙏

[@Stovetopcookie]

Blah blah blah. Jordan start speaking at. 1:20.

[@briansantos2287]

I wish I would have saw this before I went to the strip club.

[@stellaneyramusica]

💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖

[@pitfighter871]

No one has the power to change anything. If there was we wouldn't be here. Like this. Indefinitely struggling toward sanity and beauty God or goodness now is what you mean when you want to dignify Humans There is no inherent,. masqueraded goodness, under the face of mankind. No history that isn't rooted in Hell. There is only a sprint for space and fleeing from previous premature states of being into something more empowered to withstand Hell itself. There is nothing decent that lives in Heaven if it's feet stomps on children.

[@gusposey8218]

Does Jordan Peterson have a working brain? No.

[@denniswalter3920]

Blah blah blah...lots of meaningless garble!!