You'll Push Him Away If You're TOO Nice, Do THIS Instead

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@MagnetizeYourMan Ай бұрын

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@Portia620 Ай бұрын

Have a video on how to tie up loosen at the end of a relationship if you moved in together or they left stuff at your house. Thanks

@Portia620 Ай бұрын

Have a video on how to tie up loosen at the end of a relationship if you moved in together or they left stuff at your house. Thanks Oh, I’m the kind of girl that will not show a guy that I like them a lot in the beginning. I play it cool oh something else I need to fix. I 🤦‍♀️. doesn’t matter and then end up breaking up with me and then they see how much I cared for him so they walk away everytime so it’s a defense mechanism. I’m authentic and other areas of my relationships, but I’m scared to show how much I like somebody. It’s been used against me, so I guess it’s a defense mechanism not to show that side of me

@Portia620 Ай бұрын

You don’t bring up trauma at all and some people have been hurt intentionally and then very manipulative ways so people might not hide their emotions on purpose. They do it as a self protection and maybe they’ve spent eight years working on themselves but they’re still things that need to work on not everything is intentional manipulation sometimes people have been through trauma and they don’t realize that they should tell someone oh I’m not laughing all the time because I’m laughing at you. I am very nervous because I am very attracted to to you or I really like you..😢

@Mary_QQQ Ай бұрын

This is brilliant 👏 💍 💎 ✨️

@tanyadepoalo4312 Ай бұрын

I’m tired of having to tip toe around men. I’m just a nice person in general. I love to do nice things for my man, it makes me happy. I don’t want to have to pretend to be helpless just so a man can feel masculine. You’re either masculine and secure in yourself or you’re not. I have strengths and weaknesses, I’m a natural doer and have been taking care of myself for a long time. I ask for help when I need it, if I can do it myself I do it. I am done coddling immature insecure men, love shouldn’t be rocket science, I find it very easy and simple to be kind and generous. I value my alone time and pursing things that bring me joy, health, peace and prosperity. I value and happy balance in my relationship. Some men push women out of their feminine energy snd into their masculine energy. Some men it doesn’t matter what you do, they are impossible to please. Men exhibit low value behavior and treat the high value women as if they are a low value woman. I’m exhausted with relationships and am much happier being with myself and my dog. Men are so much more complicated then they think they are.

@nushka1111 Ай бұрын

or so much more primitive than they think they are.

@bettyboothe2523 29 күн бұрын

Gosh ! I can so relate to everything you said.

@keonao.3215 29 күн бұрын

This! All of this!!

@tajha123 28 күн бұрын

I thought your last sentence was going to say..”Men are so much more complicated than their worth!” I guess that’s where I am with things..🤷‍♀️

@jennifer9325 25 күн бұрын

Damn, so well put!!!

@gailross724 Ай бұрын

Im not nice to make a man like me. Im just nice.

@travelchannel304 Ай бұрын

Ditto here!! Not trying to manage any one.

@jessicatsao92 Ай бұрын

If a man doesn't like me because I am nice, he probably prefers callous, mean girls. He might even especially want sociopaths, too.

@MrsTruthTeller Ай бұрын

Same 😂

@CsodaSzarvash Ай бұрын

Exactly. If he does not reciprocate..BYE BYE.

@CsodaSzarvash Ай бұрын

I'm not here to train anyone. Either he gets it or he does not.

@catb8661 Ай бұрын

Instead of being too nice to men, do this instead: 7 - Ask for help and allow men to give to you. 6 - Be congruent in your communication. Speak up authentically, and share your emotions. 5 - Invest into yourself. Get support and do self-care. 4 - Don't immediately enter into a relationship or have sex. 3 - Submit (receptivity), but don't comply. 2 - Embrace what makes you unique. 1 - Increase your feminine self-worth.

@Melissa-cp2rv 11 күн бұрын

@@catb8661 🤣🤣🤣🤣omg my mind f hurts seriously

@Swingn2plants Ай бұрын

I've been watching you for a month now, and I've used every single advice you've given. It truly works. It has opened my eyes to why I've been single for 13 years. Since use your advice the relationship I had for over so year has drastically changed. He now does stuff around the house for me without me really asking. He's happy wants to take me out and do things for me. I speak up when I'm not happy, I show respect when speaking to him. I ask to share my feelings. I let him know how good he's doing. I'm just being myself and reviving rather than trying to give and being in control. It has also helped me be a better leader at work because I lead a team of all males. I see why they struggle with my leadership. So I just want to thank you, and I truly believe you're doing God's work. Bless you ‼️❤️

@sandymhancock Ай бұрын

It seems being a queen means being real about your thoughts and feelings, letting him help, and being nice

@ceco145 24 күн бұрын

This is so true. Everytime when im being too nice he ignores my messages. But when he dont hear from me he starts messaging me and sending loving messages

@jessicaj8148 Ай бұрын

Wish I knew this back when I met my husband in 1995. Might have prevented me from losing myself to please him. And honestly he never said he wanted me to lose myself. I did it thinking that’s what you did. We’ve been married for 26 years but it has been very challenging for both of us.

@pamelav.5699 Ай бұрын

I can relate to some of this. Met my husband of 40 yrs which passed away 7 yrs ago this last October. I was 15 1/2 and he was 24. Broken homes can cause you to definitely be around the wrong people. But I kept a hold of it for 40 years too much of the time he wasn't around and he was not a caretaker, and I will leave it at that! His family wanted me in the masculine side so that I could lead him out of all his yrs and yrs of troubles. We had two children which are grown and have their own families. I did not wanna have anymore children with this man. I don't wanna bash him or criticize and judge him, just want and need to go on with my life!

@SparklingOnyx 28 күн бұрын

I am saying this with all respect and not as an attack at all. I think what frustrates a lot of women about all these kinds of videos and relationship coaches is the fact that everyone online is focusing their content to educate, "fix" and train women (a good 90%). There is barely anyone teaching and talking to men and thats a huge problem. All we have to do is look back at the generations before us, our grandparents and great grandparents. For decades and centuries before us women were in fact extremely feminine; they were nurturing, submissive, sophisticated, classy, had high self respect, values/morals, did not degrade themselves in public, let a man be a man, supportive, did not chase men, men had to court them properly and most did not give sex causally or at all without real commitment and or marriage. What were the results of that? The feminist movement was born. Why? Because many women were being neglected in the home, verbally or physically abused, financially abused, taken for granted, cheated on, under apprieciated, those men had many vices from alcohol to gambling, etc. So we are completely aware of what happens in a society where we are so hyper focused on improving the behavior and quality of women but grossly neglecting the improvement of men. The resluts are catastrophic. Sure, a few women will strike gold and win but the majority will suffer. There are enough ppl online being an echo chamber for what we need to do as women. We need more men to stand up and speak to other men and to raise up quality men as well. God bless you and your beautiful wife.

@bri-v1t2v 23 күн бұрын

Well said.

@bebedulce9986 20 күн бұрын

Maybe someday scientists can fix the male brain to have inbuilt emotions to be emotionally available consistently.

@Dsimpleify 26 күн бұрын

Ok, I will ask him to clean the toilet, floors and so on…thank you for advice! I’m going full on feminine.

@courtneysands6646 Ай бұрын

I'll ask a random man to reach or lift something for me in a sweet way and they're genuinely flattered. I thank them profusely and they light up. Being feminine and, yes, vulnerable is a woman's super power.

@Hss-q3h Ай бұрын

Really good, solid advice in general let alone relationships! You gotta fill yourself up with love first before you can share it!

@monicac.495 Ай бұрын

Been there done that and learned from it= never again

@MichelleJoyQuilisadio 24 күн бұрын

I'm nice to all in general. But with boundaries.

@GretchenGroenewald Ай бұрын

I loved the video as I am one of those nice girls / people pleaser I am slowly trying to change my ways. I never realized my worth until now.

@travelchannel304 Ай бұрын

So ask men for help, & don't be nice. Yeah sure! Many wives ask men for help & get none! 😅😅

@0906blue 10 күн бұрын

Like what. I'm a woman and see so many thirsty women do anything to get a man and try to keep him. I rarely see those mannerisms or behavior on a man.

@joycemcclarty7491 27 күн бұрын

Nope my hubby said to me. IF YOU CAN DO IT. DON'T ASK ME FOR HELP OR TO DO IT. I have been doing the hard things for years. Now he says let me do it when I'm doing anything around the house. I say NOPE I got it, thanks. Feeling unloved for so many years now he sees me and loves me. But I can't get it in my mind or heart that it's real. I dressed and waited for him for so long. Now I don't dress up. Could care less what I look like. My heart is hard.

@0906blue 10 күн бұрын

I can't do broke ass beotch all on my own. I won't be a mans beotch or anyone's. I'd live in a shelter first. Don't have to be that thirsty, it's a choice.

@eishaacatubig9812 Ай бұрын

Thanks!

@transitionshotline Ай бұрын

I need to add something. I have literally asked many men for help in my latest relocation and they have literally said no. However I do think I am far too nice, and that spells doormat for sure. So thanks for getting my attention and what you say will probably work when a woman is young and pretty, and then again, maybe not, depending on the situation. Also, I would recommend leaning on those intuitive skills and discerning early on how long you are willing to keep up the act? If one has to fit into a mold of an entirely different shape in order to keep him, then it's really best to lose him. But I know about love and rose colored glasses. Still, while one still commands the power of beauty, put it to good use with intuition and find someone who will stand by your side and build with you. Off my soap box. Brilliant channel!

@eastcoastmonkey 16 күн бұрын

I agree that the younger and prettier you are, the more likely he'll agree to doing something for you.

@saturn6020 Ай бұрын

I needed to hear this. THANK YOU.

@TerryGarcia-gg2qb Ай бұрын

🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉 celebrating the freedom of knowing it's okay to be feminine! Thank you!

@Mandy.tardif Ай бұрын

Amen

@ayisha1978 Ай бұрын

Good advice, good advice, thank you

@denessedavids791 Ай бұрын

Me too. I'm just a nice and caring person.

@SpaceMonkey1029 5 күн бұрын

I appreciate all of your advice. I also enjoy your profile picture. Bc it plants the seed in my minds eye to visualize COUPLES. Being coupled. I grew up with a mother constantly making me look forward to college and to accomplishing great things. There was never emphasis on finding a partner or that it’s ok to have a partner. I find myself with the mentality of a desperate man. 😞 I’m a single mom of 2 and very ambitious. I’m also very scared to be in partnership again. After my failed violent marriage and violent baby daddy relationships

@DeeneleGolding 10 күн бұрын

You’ve given excellent advice Thank you very much, love your content.

@Mysticoach88 28 күн бұрын

I love what u said, submit, but don't comply. Be yourself, let the freak come out, like a child at play. Ask for help but don't be nice

@ILOVEMYDAUGYE Ай бұрын

My husband hated when i ask for help

@aeiou0123 Ай бұрын

He doesnt love u

@pamelav.5699 Ай бұрын

🌈🌟ThankYou! The freakiness I like that! So true, and I can't be anyone but myself and to most that's not acceptable! But I believe I'm worth it for myself and hopefully one day to someone else!

@Neelam-uk3yk Ай бұрын

😂my personality is just nice to everyone I can't be mean at all even if though I plan it

@bebedulce9986 20 күн бұрын

Hi...Do you have Asperger's 😂

@Master.Number33 Ай бұрын

So what's the difference between giving and providing in masculine energy and nurturing in feminine energy????

@missmissy5170 27 күн бұрын

Im sorry, im not willing to play these games with people.

@0906blue 10 күн бұрын

Not really games, common sense. It turns men off when a woman drops her panties right away.

@simoneribas4353 23 күн бұрын

Super helpful thanks

@heathersinclair3295 27 күн бұрын

I think your advice is excellent, thankyou

@englishpuresimple8255 Ай бұрын

Thank you for this teaching!

@passinthru4788 Ай бұрын

Thanks for sharing!

@Rebecca-m3s Ай бұрын

I was told recently that a coworker of my husband wouldn't like me because I am too nice. I don't get it .

@Rebecca-GLaines Ай бұрын

This would be VERY hard for me. Especially having OCPD- a hige obstacle w that is the fact, I dont ask for help because I dont want to redo it! 😂

@mattanderson6672 Ай бұрын

Thank you

@Believe-777love Ай бұрын

Thanks for this … I need this … I’m way too accommodating, helpful and ready to please … 🙏🏼

@kko-88 Ай бұрын

Thanks! 😊

@FlorenceLunsford-sk2nj 28 күн бұрын

I'm trying to be too nice l really should keep my distance

@endoplasmatischesretikulum4999 Ай бұрын

Men also need to share their emotions. Otherwise it will stagnate. Its not about guidance from somebody. That will happen automatically. Its rather serving... he needs to involve so much in her life, and start giving from an open heart, that he forgets about the fear of being played on. Then all falls into place.

@oambitiousone7100 Ай бұрын

Making him happy as masculine energy. Whoa

@FlorenceLunsford-sk2nj 28 күн бұрын

Exactly

@beautifulheart7 Ай бұрын

Great advice. Thanks 🙏🏼 ❤

@chanichanti4241 28 күн бұрын

He asked me for money

@jcjohnsong8570 Ай бұрын

Interesting using the man leading ina dance and the woman following as an example of what submitting should be like in practice. I think certain words ... like submit ... have been made to feel bad in modern times ... But using the following in a dance is much more comfortable and enjoyable way to look at relationships.

@jcjohnsong8570 Ай бұрын

I wonder if couples in failing relationships who took ballroom dancing lessons together might be able to heal the relationship if they are leaving a basically good relationship. 🤔 Huh, worth a thought.

@jcjohnsong8570 Ай бұрын

So that was the benefit of marriage before sex in years past ... The couple took dancing lessons together before the wedding to prepare for the wedding reception. ... Because it gets each to fall more easily into their masculine and feminine energies that they need to be in for a healthy relationship.

@berenicegalvan4251 Ай бұрын

Had a date last night. He took me to a hotel, well we put music on, hugged and cuddled all night. All I said was marriage before sex is nasty work 😂 . Long story short we're going snowboarding next week. 🙏🏽✨

@sharnekilsby2023 Ай бұрын

So, was I in masculine energy when my spouse talked about buying us a house and I said I wanted to contribute to that (we were dating)?

@gabrielamartiniuc6322 Ай бұрын

Absolutely. You are better off letting him take the lead and you just receive.

@LisaCulton Ай бұрын

Let him buy the house.

@PinkyJones-p3d Ай бұрын

How does a man claims a woman? Kindly explain

@MagnetizeYourMan Ай бұрын

By committing to do whatever it takes to make her happy and be her Hero.

@PinkyJones-p3d Ай бұрын

@MagnetizeYourMan appreciate!!?

@Heather-gf9oi Ай бұрын

He also said married

@latashaabrams5224 Ай бұрын

When a man is willing to invest in you without you asking then you'll know he will pour into

@pamelav.5699 29 күн бұрын

🌈🌟🌻ThankYou! With a long distance relationship, would texting good morning and good night and talking in times of convenience for each other be the same as chasing a man?? ThankYou ❄️

@Patricia-v9t1l 22 күн бұрын

Iam me in all the world no one has my fingerprints I value my self as a high value human Men are weird at times as we are I know the internet modern times has changed the lot & most men on my siflde of the country like women who make the first move im in my late 60s been there in marrige some short term some long term liaisons all good Boundrys are important Ppl pleasing is not criminal love not hatred wins the day mixed up world &bhumanity should think of love more giving helping then there may be more deccent unions till then out there & enjoy ❤

@fihourigan 27 күн бұрын

I'm for sex before marriage.. Always have been..love is not love without physical contact.. But yes, never rush into anything.. And NO friends with benefits.. You're just using each other and it's demoralizing.

@PSWildlife Ай бұрын

I have a question. Is it a bad idea to date more than one man at a time? If you are not having sex with either one. And then what if you are having sex with one who you know is not long-term but not having sex with the one you want to be long-term? This is a bit philosophical but potentially real world for me as well. Or is it just a bad idea to have sex in general when you are looking for a long-term relationship as maybe it reduces your magnetism? I hope this makes sense. Thank you.

@suziebee4240 Ай бұрын

My experience, it just gets messy and guilt ridden if you have sex while seeing multiple people. From your perspective, it may not be against the rules, but its a level of betrayal to the guy. Whether he knows or not just decides if you are incriminated. The bad deed has been done nonetheless.

@stlgal85 Ай бұрын

No problem with dating more than one man at a time… for one thing, they love competition; for another, it ensures you won’t waste too much of your precious time on any one man. However, why on earth would you sleep with someone whom you KNOW isn’t a long-term match for you? I personally wouldn’t sleep with any man I was just dating, serious or not… that’s reserved for the man who was actually able to commit to me - my husband. Don’t waste your body on someone who isn’t worth your time, and if he’s worth your body, you can take your time. :)

@LTizzle34 Ай бұрын

Date yourself. We have more than enough goals to put energy towards, why does it have to be toward men?

@yupidilicsart Ай бұрын

Do you also mean to be receptive about him providing lots and lots of information about he is passionate about ? I feel I’m not so achieved in being so informed like a walking documentary like him. While i don’t want to bore someone by mostly listening .. i really enjoy listening not necessarily being too nice but also being a teaser. What would be a good formula in this case ?

@Anisa-dt7zr Ай бұрын

You so funny ❤

@melissajorgensen6590 Ай бұрын

How is telling a man how you are feeling about how he is acting etc going to help? He thinks you are trying to control things then or making a big deal out of something

@suziebee4240 Ай бұрын

I understand, some guys are like that. But this guy, this one guy im currently seeing, he's not like that. I even told him, I hate sharing all these things that bother me cuz it feels im trying to change or manipulate him. He says he doesnt feel that way, and Im just sharing how I feel. I dont force him and he doesnt make any promises to me that he wont keep or he feels is unreasonable. But he does try to make me feel loved. That girl I was bothered by? He didnt promise me he wont ever talk to her again, cuz shes part of the friend group, but hes giving me focused attention before, during, and after we see her together. And that makes me feel better. He cant tell me he thinks shes ugly or blah, but he can tell me he loves me and only me and im the one he wants to be with. Im not 100% satisfied (lol) but im okay with this... for now...

@christina4018 Ай бұрын

Depends how you frame the communication. Saying “you make me feel….” something negative puts ppl guard up, better is “I feel like …… etc. Bottom line tho, some ppl don’t take feedback well and will switch off.

@bigthangz5489 Ай бұрын

W0man, if u fo not feel HEARD & CONSIDERED when u have shared HOW U FEEL LEAVE. There is some1 who will.

@bizimfattmaa Ай бұрын

I've asked help for many times, but he's responded "no".. So what is that mean?

@robbinpapalucas4620 Ай бұрын

Dump him that’s what it means

@bizimfattmaa Ай бұрын

@ We don't have a relationship, but just a situationship, so I think we'll use each other for a while..

@andreac980 Ай бұрын

You're wasting your time @@bizimfattmaa

@gabrielamartiniuc6322 Ай бұрын

@@bizimfattmaaso he’s using you but you’re not using him? Yikes !

@jenaiquintero4916 27 күн бұрын

@@bizimfattmaawhy are u expecting standards and love from a situationship

@LLissa-d3c 23 күн бұрын

Who is this man im being nice to?

@paulettesmith4071 Ай бұрын

Hello Brody: I am going back many years ago. When I was dating my daughter’s father. (This is before I got pregnant with my daughter’s). When we would have sex, I would ask him to perform certain sex acts on me. He would not perform it on me. Why Brody? My daughter’s father only performed certain sex acts on me. He would never kiss me passionately. Why Brody? His form of showing affection, was a pat on my head, or a short kiss on my forehead. Why Brody? If the man doesn’t know how to tongue kiss I would have showed him. Brody, we broke up many decades ago. I really don’t care anymore. I am just curious to why, he never wanted to try certain sex acts with me. I kept my hygiene clean, so what do you think was the problem? Brody, I have a question , the feminine energy, male energy is this only when a person is starting to date. Or, is this energy carried through after the (getting to know you process). You know what Brody, we are living in very difficult and dangerous times. The very person that a person thinks that they maybe able to trust. Maybe stealing their identity. I am 75 years old, I think that I am going to wait for God to call me home. I only hope that the dating process in heaven is less complicated.

@HSBsoulsurfer Ай бұрын

No offense, but was he secretly gay? It happened to me. That's why I ask!

@courtneysands6646 Ай бұрын

I would say that he wasn't that attracted to you. You probably know that, but it's hard to admit.

@bri-v1t2v 23 күн бұрын

Same for me. 71 years old.

@bri-v1t2v 23 күн бұрын

@@HSBsoulsurfer I am still asking me the same question, 30 years after.

@Elaine-p3g Ай бұрын

I cant believe that women actually have to be told that men have to.help.them do some things. Like mow the yard.or carry something or whatever.

@LisaCulton Ай бұрын

There's a lot of men who won't take care of these things, so women become accustomed to doing it themselves (or it doesn't get done).

@Patricia-v9t1l 22 күн бұрын

In my country in the game of dating Ladies choice always been tht way since 70s Sound aggresive Maybe guys are a bit more laid back here or lazy or both but let me tell u Women here are full on in their wht ever power Thts ok to iv deen many a hoid union ladt like this I cant be anything else except me I met someone reccently was softer than usual lost outvwasnt meant to be but hes with a women who knew wht she wanted went for it Does it matter who inisiated My longest relationship union was 28yr & young i was fullnon he knew it we had a child we co parent a grandson & Does tht make beeingh in masculine energy a mistake No no no its who I was younger

@PrayWitRenee 25 күн бұрын

excuse me, but I think i'm in the wrong group chat. I didn't know it wasn't lady like to want it more lol

@bell5309 Ай бұрын

Wtf are all these comments

@luckyduckydaisyflower2344 Ай бұрын

😂🎉

@mw8142 18 күн бұрын

Im a nice person. Just dont think, im going to be nice all the time. I have a certain level of pettiness. That I will activate. I will pretend you do not exist. I will nt answer, your call or your text. Until im done being upset. When im ready to talk with you. I will communicate with you. Other than that you're non existent...

@tristamarie7115 Ай бұрын

How would you communicate to a man you don't think he's being is authentic self in the relationship? Not really into the woman. maybe settled and you can feel it in your gut? Or would you recommend the woman saying, 'I don't feel this is a good fit for me.' or 'I'm not feeling as strong as emotions as I should at this stage of the relationship.'

@user89076 Ай бұрын

What if I already slept with him, on the first date? Is it too late?

@24_xx 23 күн бұрын

So when a woman gives up her ultimate prize, which is her womb so to speak because when we have intimacy, it brings the two together pretty much you gave up your ultimate power because men like to pursue and to see how long you will go without it because it could translate that You were easy to get, you know but if you would’ve kept him waiting, it shows something different like oh man this one’s gonna be a challenge to get and I like this ! men like to be challenge if you still reaching out to you that’s a good thing, but if it starts to wear off, just know it’s because the novelty and everything has wore off really quick and because you gave it away fast.. us women need to control our emotions. I get it being in the moment is everything but sometimes it’s best we don’t.

@eastcoastmonkey 16 күн бұрын

You look like Zach Braff.

@Patricia-v9t1l 22 күн бұрын

A very long time ago as im nearly 67yrs young had my share of long term short term A wise ols owl says to me a women chooses the man Always she will look with her eyes Firstly at his overall appearance his eyes his neatness see behond the hunk Whn a man chooses a women he looks at boobys first eyes overall appearance All good tht was the 90s Fast forward to NOW WE ARE IN A AGE WHERE WE AS WOMEN HV LEARNT FREEDOM WORK SUPPORT OURSELF be ur self We multitask even more married or single than in the 70s 80s 90s If single whts wrong with showing a bit of oolala i like u i like wht i see Its ok to express this im in another country Men get offended unless ur friendly or dont take the lead Relationships are like ling term carees Sometimes we hv to change switch it up a bit make it fun not a burden At 67yr this is the go not oh im locking this one in it may be my last Far frm it ladies

@Hannah_BananaXO Ай бұрын

❤️❤️❤️

@MWroses Ай бұрын

Do you think, if a masculine man is truly interested, he would be more willing to wait for s*x if the woman explains that she wants him to protect her virtue? I mean, it's a delicate and vulnerable thing to discuss, but if the woman approaches it in a way that makes a man feel like a protector and her hero if he agrees to wait.... would that be more effective than just stating no s*x til marriage. I would think letting him know you want him is important but that you're both worth the wait.