You Need To Start Ignoring Yourself

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[@WhiteyWazoo]

*You Need To Start Ignoring Your Impulses

[@doubleofu8254]

find the title quite misleading as well since it can easily sound like "ignore your feelings" which can't be farther from the message... He anyways made fun of redpilled stoic people (including himself 20 years ago)

[@ryanbarker3978]

Agreed, this is a much better title.

[@monstermoo4191]

I love this channel, but they're not immune to clickbaiting people.

[@A123-d8o]

most people probably haven't gotten through enough content to realize they are not actually their impulses/thoughts etc, they are the observer.

[@viciousgamer0619]

@@A123-d8o OMG, I needed to hear that. That resonates so much with me cause I’m super hard on myself because of impulses. Thank you

[@bohba13]

as someone with ADHD this is something I strongly recommend. it won't solve everything, but it will help stop the more destructive impulses and help with the emotional dysregulation. (obviously with a medical regimen as well)

[@iche9373]

Do a Keto diet to deal with your ADHD

[@bohba13]

@@iche9373 I'm also autistic and my brain will just say certain foods are illegal.

[@madeliner1682]

​@@iche9373it's important to eat plenty of protein with ADHD so you can manufacture more neurotransmitters, but it's not worth it to cut all forms of carbs completely and indefinitely - especially with AuDHD. Just eat a variety of foods with adequate nutrients and be mindful of foods/additives that negatively impact gut microbe if you can afford to and/or don't live in a food desert. When in doubt, focus on what you can add to your diet rather than subtracting, especially when talking about a whole ass food group

[@madeliner1682]

​@@bohba13you can pry butter pasta out of my cold, dead hands 😂

[@iche9373]

You can also try intermittent fasting to deal with your ADHD

[@trappart9209]

I think it is important to be able to notice your desires first without ignoring all of them. Notice it and ask yourself if it is good or bad for you

[@erdemalegoz1816]

Dr. K ignored that part it seems:D

[@adamgreenhill110]

​@@erdemalegoz1816He probably used more detail in the full video, this is just a clip

[@Kas_Styles]

This

[@thebananas6483]

​@@erdemalegoz1816No he didn't. He literally has a video (and a short) where he talks about the importance of being hyper aware of your cravings/desires, because it makes it easier to deal with them in a healthy way. He draws upon his experience training to be a monk, and gives an anecdote about chips.

[@erdemalegoz1816]

Ok guys I didn’t watch the video but shorts taken out of context begs to be questioned sometimes.

[@alirak9261]

The point is not ignoring your desires. Its recognising which ones can actually benefit your life. For that you have to feel them all and sort them out. THEN it goes around ignoring or rerouting the harmful ones.

[@kinseydesignsbrands]

This is really well said and I think clears up a lot of the confusion here in the comments. It's about discernment through paying attention to what your self actually wants, so you can make that choice in the moment, rather than be influenced by in the moment gratification or what an external source is telling you what you want. You have to pay attention to yourself so that you can ignore the impulses that are out of alignment with what you want long term.

[@VeryBadPlayerTV]

I swear i don't watch enough of this guy. He really does open up a new way at looking at things the more and more i see of him and ive been subbed for so long.

[@andersanders47]

Yeah. U should watch the old interviews with random ppl. They're hours long all super good

[@crow_feather]

Same! I subbed to his channel on a whim, and have been just blown away by his advice! I don't have a gaming addiction, but I definitely have an Internet addiction, and that, plus my ADHD combine together to cause problems for me that his advice has been super helpful at combatting! Even beyond that though, he dishes out advice that's amazingly helpful to my life in general, in ways that go far beyond helping me with my ADHD and internet addiction, alone! I am so grateful for all of the work that he does!

[@breakfastonuranus]

Fr it all started with him for me

[@Dextroman420]

See this is actually really helpful for someone like me who generally thinks too much and spends waaaay too much time worrying about my situation rather than try and fix it

[@oOVanillaMelOo]

I literally talk to myself out loud to tell myself to stfu 😂 works every time!

[@ahmadsab_]

Will try this

[@lancepeterson7997]

Same

[@hitishasharma6014]

I do that when negative voices are loud, I’m like “ya ya I get it. I suck or I’ll fail.. that’s it? Now F off!”

[@jamesbernards8409]

My therapist calls this, "Therapuetic Apathy" and it has helped me recognize terrible thoughts and emotions and then be able to move forward in a neutral manner aka with control over myself.

[@TheRealPostpunker]

Recognize your emotions and feel them. That is very important. See where you feel them. Don't judge just feel. Let it come and don't force it to go away with stimuli (impulses) out of these emotions and don't act to fast out of these emotions if they are bad habits. Then you'll see that you are closer to yourself and can start taking actions that feel more close to home.

[@PROFESSIONALCRASHOUT]

This is how I stopped smoking weed. It’s the only drug I take, but damn was I addicted pretty hard to it. Severely. But sitting with my emotions is more important than numbing them with artificial ones. However just spending time being conscious when I smoke, I did realize that it smells bad hurts my throat burns like hell and makes it hard to breathe. This is all obvious, but to most people who smoke they ignore these signs and wait for the high to come. Funny thing is I can go for a run now and the high will come. Every single time.

[@IthinkIneedAhug]

​@@PROFESSIONALCRASHOUTooo, if I may, I would like to add a flip side perspective, not to argue, but just a different experience. My dad got diagnosed with cancer earlier this year. I was staying with them once a week for a while due to work..I would take an edible there, and eventually just got comfortable talking to my parents while high. For me, it helped me process through some really hard and uncomfortable feelings and thoughts. I was able to be introspective about my relationship with my parents and who they are as people without anger, shame, or guilt. I absolutely use it as a bandaid most of the time, and I try to be aware of when and why I'm getting high, but those handful of nights, it was pretty beneficial for me.

[@yumnom69420]

Thank you! Well said! 👏 You should keep saying things places lol

[@miquelmoorrees6010]

​@@PROFESSIONALCRASHOUT i think at least the smell thing is more if thing=good then smell=good and vice versa

[@PROFESSIONALCRASHOUT]

@@miquelmoorrees6010 yeah I just like noticed I really enjoy the high feeling really hate the actual smoking. It’s definitely “smoother” with dab cartridges of course. It’s just a water based vapor in your lungs , instead of smoke and particulates and shit. I’m not going to say one is any better than the other, they both have some pretty harmful negative effects on your respiratory system. But it definitely “feels” better to vape THC, at least for me. Ever noticed that when you drink? I noticed like as a man, all my “manly”drinks taste bitter and taste like I ate someone’s ass. I really like feeling loose and drunk but I actually hate drinking it tastes disgusting. The girly drinks can help with this, but I argue it’s the same thing as switching to VAPE cartridges. Making the same thing easier to consume.

[@Grey_Warden_Invasion]

I am autistic. Constantly having to ignore myself for everyone else's comfort is what turned me into this wreck in the first place.

[@KeiFlox]

Ignoring myself was a pretty big component of the therapy I was in as a teen for my OCD. I still have counting and OCD obsessions going 24/7 in my mind, but it's background noise. I ignore it, I continue on with my day.

[@Nick-pl8st]

Very interesting. It’s a tightrope walk for me between maintaining distance from my impulses and maintaining awareness of the data my body is giving me (for example, should I ignore my hunger and get back to work or eat dinner now?)

[@DreiSchwerterZorro]

Dr K is not saying you shouldn't eat when you are hungry. He is talking about impulses / cravings you have without being hungry (or picking the unhealthy food all the time over healthy one)

[@iamchillgamer5]

Criminally underrated piece of content. 10/10.

[@thelastonequesqueca8982]

I agree with this to an extent, I feel like this is what I was master of when I was younger. I had a 7 hour concentration span, highly disciplined etc. But I've come into adulthood not knowing myself and with a great deal of shame. I think discipline was my coping mechanism for my surroundings but also a crutch and stopped me from knowing my social self or just feeling any sort of ease within myself. I can go back to discipline because I've known it, I definitely overshot on the lack of discipline later in life- I'm sure there's an in between too where you can know yourself as well

[@iammorrissey]

Literally the story of my life. The extreme self discipline during childhood cost me uncontrollable emotions in adulthood though. It's like they took revenge bog time for being surpassed for so long and so early.

[@Xpors-Gaming]

Every word that comes out of your mouth is so insightful. I think you might just be the best self-help guy online. Working wonders for my mental health.

[@markd.9042]

Ignore your impulses is a more accurate term.

[@elizabethsimon9000]

I gave up 3 of my biggest bad habits for lent and sometimes it's really hard to keep from giving in

[@plcdfa]

Why would I ignore myself? I have everyone else for that.

[@artsyanaa]

Meditation is ignoring yourself I’m pretty sure and this is for people with no direction in life

[@BEE_n_ZEE]

😅😅😅

[@Silverstar257]

Time and time again, many of my best experiences have come from ignoring myself.

[@mansisharma46]

Your videos have made my life so much better. Found you when I was struggling with getting past certain road blocks and here I am thriving and getting better!

[@fragglyone7607]

This advice also correlates to the other thing you mentioned before. To know if your mind and thoughts are acting properly, do not let the emotions you are experiencing control your behavior. Be self aware of them and do not allow them to dictate your behavior. It is when we allow our emotions to take over when we make bad decisions. Not exactly how you said it, but something like that. Great advice!

[@yougotsnipedbro6060]

as someone who ignores itself i can say sometimes I don't understand that I am thirsty for like hours

[@waterlemon3885]

This fr

[@immortalsun]

Itself? You are an object?

[@holymosey2556]

I think it's a good thing that my desire is to just be better.

[@SeanMcKenna_]

Worked for me but be prepared for disapointment in others

[@MidnightAhri]

Been working on this, for sure in my emotionally reaching and saying stuff that I wouldnt say the day after.... Gotta give myself some time to let things sink before hurting others with my Hurt and overly emotional self 😅

[@gobetter350]

Even discipline requires energy.

[@maximooze3196]

Becareful with the phrase "Ignoring yourself", what he said halfway through the video is true, I'm actually at this point right now and my perspective got widen but the trail of negativity keeps accumulating, becareful with "Ignoring yourself".

[@woolyyyyyyy]

Ignore your impulses, not your feelings

[@JoseTorres-ry9qe]

Can't trust anyone anymore. Least of all, yourself.

[@lapeaches8006]

🤣😫

[@dancole2994]

Learning about it easy. Applying when in an emotional state takes years of training. I'd argue you don't ignore them, you debunk them, or acknowledge something more important.

[@hxrl5838]

bro dropped 'do something impossible' and called it a day

[@annaburns2865]

A lot of us have tried to stop overeating based on willpower alone. But as you have even stated in this video, most foods have chemicals, spices, or other addictive properties that make overeating more harmful. It’s not simply a case of mindset when your body is physically being altered on a daily basis. You can have a strong mind, but if you have a weak body, you will always give into your body’s cravings. But I do agree that at

[@2BVayne]

I feel like these have a message but it's so much easier said then done. It's very hard to stop playing a game of league until you have that one good game that you're satisfied with. It's very hard to not get on a computer or on my phone all day. These things are extremely difficult and just saying to ignore impulses that you've been used to dealing with on a daily basis isn't enough to convince me when it's the only thing that makes sense to me.

[@philipfahy9658]

Interrupt your own line of thinking when this happens. So let's say you just came off a bad loss on league. Before you decide to make it up, commit to doing a 2 min chore. You may just decide you want to get other stuff done. And even if you go back to league, you just crossed something off the list anyway, and can do it at regular intervals (everytime a game ends).

[@Emil-lf3no]

Doing shit likethat made me suicidal don't, just don't ignore yourself. Practice self reflection and evaluate if you really need something, don't ignore yourself tho.

[@gaugeballance2036]

Fuck I love this guy

[@NetflixTopVideos]

The food thing is so true.

[@ClassyJohn]

i ignored myself and now im a wreck. Thanks!

[@pallmallninjak]

The mind can be seen as “the great trickster” and will fabricate things that make us get in the way of ourselves. Making us wonder away from the present moment which is called the present for a reason bc it is a gift. Guard the gate of your mind as to control what is allowed in and out. Difficult for a reason.

[@Viper3220]

Ignoring your impulses = discipline

[@jessIe76468]

What a good skill to learn, self-control is lacking but is so important (in provocative settings not to act violently and to diminish assaults) though I think it's connected to the fear of missing out. By tackling this or having more self-control both will diminish. For me, that means ignoring notifications but I'd like to point out, being too hard on ourselves affects happiness too, if you're constantly ignoring notifications and telling yourself no you'll feel discouraged and exhausted so for me that means toggling notifications off.

[@lagos4312]

Seeing all these not understanding "first step" and "foundation" is both gold and sad

[@spadeofhearts713]

Oh shiiiit I used to do this all the time. I thought it was keeping me from loving/appreciating myself enough so I guess I stopped doing it entirely. And now getting myself to do anything is a massive pain… damn, reacquiring that skill is gonna sUUCK!

[@navjotsinghdhiber3454]

I like the way, Dr. K put it. Ignore myself

[@DivineLogos]

Detachment is the word.

[@ciel_mist]

Thank you !

[@fifthycharaktersforaqualit7468]

Man I love the internet you can lern an about an important life lesson you might have never thought about if you are slightly interested in science and philosophy. Even when I dont lern something totally new its always nice to hear something like this as an reminder.

[@sunriselotus]

This is why processed foods are so addictive, this is why I crave desserts and sweets and packaged foods so much.

[@skykid]

One of my issues has actually been almost the opposite, brought on by depression, which is apathy. And yes I know it isn't the same thing but sometimes it's hard to parse between what's just an impulse and what's a legitimate need, especially when none of it feels super fulfilling anyway...

[@tomsterbg8130]

As someone who almost got removed from 3 schools due to my will to return a fight I strongly recommend ignoring your instincts and just sit there, understand the situation better. My last 3 years at school were without any fights because of that.

[@VD-cc4hx]

you should ignore yourself NOW!! 🌩

[@StevenDiLeo]

Great advice. Our egos are strong. Learning to ignore takes away that power, which in turns give you power. Odd contradictive universe we live in ❤😂

[@TehPompkinHead]

I feel as though I’ve got a super power to ignore my impulsiveness, it’s really been a question of choosing to that’s made the difference, also feels like something that comes with age

[@isthisanonymousidk]

As a person with ADHD, this is SO HARD but sadly, the hardest things in life are the most necessary to practice if you truly want to experience the freedom offered by discipline :/

[@einargs]

Emotions and impulses need to be data you consider, not what controls you.

[@spiderdude2099]

It’s not fulfilling in the moment, but it’s actually a euphoric feeling to successfully resist temptation for something that looking back, would have been really bad if you indulged in.

[@mashuu2301]

I should ignore those thoughts of worry and doubt about the future that i can't do anything about them in this moment

[@IamJason99]

With anything, it's a balancing act. Ignoring your own impulses without understanding them only leaves you with a partial picture of your own self understanding - which can be scary when you can backslide when you have harder days. At the same point, it's the context of how comfortable you are with your self understanding. You're literally made of billions upon billions of cells, each doing actions at the same time, and then there is you being the focal point for it. Let yourself understand why it hurts/affects, be honest, let yourself be familiar with what you feel is comfortable, and when it does become uncomfortable? Take a break, and understand why it makes you uncomfortable after some time and grow from there.

[@regularly_priced]

Sir I’m autistic. I ignore my body so much that I sometimes don’t notice that I’m in pain until days after getting hurt. I don’t usually notice I’m hungry until I feel my stomach rumbling. If anything, I need to learn how to notice my body more.

[@Zalamandar]

The way he worded this was a bit strange. To clarify, what he means is that you should identify and be aware of your emotions and thoughts, but then try to not immediately act on them. Identify them, then ignore them, but remain conscious of them at all times. The use of the word "ignore" is just a bit out of place; that's all.

[@mimoleta]

​@@Zalamandar It's not a strange way to word it as much as it is part of a bigger conversation. It's a short so it only makes sense that some people would misinterpret it.

[@Zalamandar]

@@mimoleta Well, yeah, I would say that too. But I even watched the video that this came from with all the context and everything, and it makes sense in context, but even then, I still found the use of the word "ignore" a bit of an odd choice.

[@MijoShrek]

Ignore your impulse to take in information from the internet that is not specifically designed to your specific needs. 😂

[@regularly_priced]

@@MijoShrek Ignore your impulse to assume everyone else is exactly like you. More people struggle with this than you think. It’s a numbness that develops due to the hypersensitivity that comes with an autistic brain. My point was, he shouldn’t have just tried to focus on a particular audience (neurotypical people/allistics) because everyone’s body and brain operates differently. But according to other commenters here, I may have misinterpreted him. So it doesn’t really matter.

[@jimgarcia2468]

This man is my favorite person online.

[@Jousef9]

Thank you Raj koothrappali

[@luciusaurelius209]

Suppressing your desires will lead you to succumb to them so it's more important to acknowledge your desires instead of ignore, then you can autonomously make a different decision if you think that will serve you. cheers.

[@The_Questionaut]

Replacing bad habits with good ones

[@R41Cloud]

i live in japan and i learned to do this by saying zen to my mind basically means to be zero or nothing within whenever im stressed at worked or some thoughts that doesn’t really put meaning in my day to day life i think this works the same as ignoring oneself

[@a.b.creator]

I'm a natural Stoic. Thats how i delt with a severely imbalanced abusive mother growing up..and i came to discover i had actually taught myself stoicism at a very very young age.

[@rinotz7]

This is a skill that took me a long time to develop but I feel like it's one of those things that doesn't have a ceiling

[@Angie_suv]

I already do that. My psychiatrist calls it dissociation 😅

[@Elise762]

LMAO STOP💀💀💀

[@DataLog]

Psychiatrists are pretty reterded.

[@josh8584]

​@@DataLogYou're joking, right?

[@DataLog]

@@josh8584 nope

[@josh8584]

@@DataLog Oh, ok. You're just insane, then.

[@edwardlawns]

I learned this about two months ago, at the age of 22. I feel proud of myself because I finally have control over my life: I stopped smoking weed and playing games all day so I'm no longer ruining my brain and potential, I started writing again because that's my only talent and the only thing I'm good at. Nevertheless I still feel stupid; when the "post nut clarity" reached me I realize that a lot of people develop the ability to ignore and control unhealthy impulses by the age of 18 when they get into university or even before. I'm at least four years behind my generation in that regard, I lost three years of university and barely managed to not get kicked out. Time flyes. The best advice I can give is to stop thinking in today's time, think what you want your future self to be like.

[@jojo-yz8qf]

A very good way of coping with bad habits is to instead replace them with good habits. For instance, if you have a craving for sugar, it could also be you misinterpreting thirst. Have a glass of water instead, even if it's a lot less fun. After a while it becomes a habit and you start feeling less cravings for sugar

[@michaelatorn8380]

i ignored myself and my health plumetted.

[@Valvex_]

In Islam we call this controling our nafs, our desires/impulses. You have to take responsibility and discipline yourself to stay healthy both mentally and physically.

[@Sabciaszek]

I wouldn't say 'ignore yourself'. I'd rather say 'Know yourself and learn to distinguish between an impulse and a need'

[@beanie741]

I was pretty good at ignoring myself when I had an eating disorder 😅

[@orangejuice7351]

I did this for 15 years and now I have no idea what I want or what makes me feel good)

[@dnacrizpy6356]

The only gamer our society needs.

[@jackrode6105]

I don’t know ignore is the right framing. Feeling fully and responding consciously feels better.

[@JustaReadingguy]

Great thoughts. But now I have to ignore my impulse to watch more of your videos.

[@NeedForWisdom]

To be honest the key word here is "Dopamine"... Anything that triggers a lot of dopamine in our brains needs to be handled correctly. But the truth is "some impulses are quite difficult to just ignore than others". It's a piece of work sometimes, especially if most impulses come in "usually" as a result of a habit developed over time. But to disagree a little, ignoring yourself is the very reason why you would jump on to somethings like tech, games, insta or food. Instead of just ignoring yourself, it is good to properly take care of yourself, accept and handle yourself in the best way possible by doing small tasks like shutting down your phone at certain times during the day, not walking around places where you'll easily find things that you crave for and doing things that come in as a challenge (like sports, exercise or games like puzzles). I understand that this is a "YT short" and he had more to say, but this is my own take on this - So that people in the comments section can get a little bit clarified on this matter.

[@daveydaveable]

The irony of watching this because this channel spams us with notifications of Dr K shorts is pretty funny

[@krox477]

This is why i deleted every social media

[@waterlemon3885]

Google, what is youtube? KZbin is an American online video sharing and social media platform. ??? 😂 (not trying to make fun of you. The irony was just funny)

[@kittenloveer1625]

​@@waterlemon3885hey, they could be watching from a browser lol.

[@igoresque]

​@@kittenloveer1625they didn't say they removed any apps, so this would mean accounts as well

[@korolsmertsgametube5981]

GG Paychologist, the first step is to know oneself. To be able to discern oneself from what is and isn't. Assuming the role of a detached observer effectively allows for clarity that by itself helps with self regulation, and surely emotional regulation. Anyway... To wrongly ignore elements that are not ourselves means to become blind to the purpose of this practice/philosophy in the first place. Like it is mentioned, to identify triggers, impulsive urges, stimulants that elicit responses, manipulation or projections of others that is coercive and compelling, and other elements of influence that one would be susceptible to. Ignoring what essentially we seek to identify would be an exercise in vain. Learning and settling into oneself will automatically help your mind to learn how to shield itself from sources external manipulation, which I think is what this video is trying to get at. How to be anchored and stable in your reality and self identity. Cheers.🎉

[@Freeze_Art]

I've been doing this for so long without even realizing it, yet people have told me it's unhealthy... which is it? To be fair, I've kicked many bad habit because of this (mainly drinking lots of soda, eating out, and eating processed foods. Still working on getting rid of the last one, but I've improved a lot because of this method)

[@ErikKristoferAnderson]

If I could ignore myself at will I would be unstoppable. It’s just a shame I can’t.

[@ljsong1]

Not to be a contrarian to what he's saying, but I used the Samsung Health app to heavily track my exercise, diet, water intake, sleep, etc, and I learned a lot about myself. My phone (with the app) became like a best friend who knows me well. I've lost the weight that was killing me and I'm able to dance around and enjoy music again.

[@marnevanvliet26]

I learned controlling myself by doing 5 minute controled plunges in the river getting colder as it gets colder step by step into the winter 2x per week!❤

[@UnlimitedFlyers]

Be aware of your impulses and desires, yet somehow never let them control and get the better of you. Sure, this is Cardinal Virtue of Temperance that people knew back when... still, knowing it and practicing it are two very different things. That is to say, I too wish it were so simple: when I'm having a bad day, and dopamine seeks to entice me into relapsing back into bad habits and vices... dude, it's REALLY DIFFICULT not to let the Dark Side in -- sometimes I win only by the hair in my back.

[@viola1699]

I wouldn’t say ignore the impulse. I would say be conscious and choose smart.

[@anonymouskheerlover]

Hi i dont think ull see this but im very great ful for ur vids and u just talk about mental health on youtube so its acessible for everyone. your video rrly help me thx

[@sammylove14]

What are some techniques or ways of thinking that help you ignore yourself? And how do you know when to ignore and when to listen?

[@Mr.Existence]

Can you go back to linking the full-length videos in comments again please, this needs more context regarding "learning how to ignore impulses".

[@georgeeaster]

What do you think of people who say avoiding obesity is fatphobic?

[@mikeunkown8066]

very common in martial arts too

[@mendmywings7238]

Do you have any tips for addiction to hard drugs. Will my serotonin ever go back to normal? X

[@pxritus]

well to answer your question, yes it will as long as you stay clean. Brain cells grow back, it’s called neurogenesis; people often downplay the neuroplasticity of the mind and it’s ability to return normal. Homeostasis

[@ferguson8143]

Do you also take anxiety type pills

[@ferguson8143]

What sbout your dopamine levels if your on a stimulates

[@PopRockandRoll12]

Funny enough, my anhedonia helped to silence my impulses because I didn’t care about much. But now recovering from it, I know the difference between an urge and actual fulfillment.

[@tripwire202]

Not sure if I should apply this advice to myself given that I am constantly disassociated. Do think it is very good in general though and will apply the parts of it that are useful. Do very much like analysing impulses so they do not claim me but I am typically so distanced from them I am often unable to make simple decisions.

[@kpoppy9635]

I really want to learn how to ignore my emotions and ruminating thoughts so I can actually do shit. Do you have a video on that?

[@Stufwgbkuvsqfvuivdwg]

One thing I’m concerned about is that the mother only hugged him once he went through the whole process and promised to do what the mother deemed right, so won’t this confuse the child, thinking he has to earn and only get parental love by being good? Creating conditional love? I wonder if that hug could have been positioned better, to before he promised to never do it again, or would that be even worse? It’s hard, using parental love as currency, or subconsciously doing it is equally damaging, how to fix this?

[@jannomeeuwessen4886]

This is only partly true. I wouldn't recommend ignoring a lot of your body's and mind's signals a lot, because they send it for a reason. That is how burn-outs happen, because people ignore the signals their bodies give.

[@isanuracat20]

I was in need to be reminded this

[@kasra5700]

Everyone ignores me… how hard could it be

[@BigIndianBindi-jy1cz]

can't do shit until i have love and support. if people continue to neglect me, nothing is changing. People did this damage to me, and only People can undo the damage. It is not possible to undo it by myself. It is irrational to think otherwise.

[@Hope-ou3mv]

Hell no don't start ignoring yourself my god that's terrible Keep your impulses in check and you will do great

[@totallyharmlessbear]

Isn't that what he's saying? Ignore the impulse to eat sugary foods until it's meal time. Maybe I'm misunderstanding...

[@jamesloll4601]

Hello? If you figure out HOW to ignore yourself all the time? Suicide time for what are you living for? It's more a question of moderation. I LIVE for myself so if I ignored myself all the time? What am I LIVING FOR? Instead I learned how to redefine my goals in life and make them more achievable. Instead of trying to have EVERYTHING? I instead aim for what's important to me and if it happens to be something big? I also know I'll be saving for a long time for it as I also make sure it is something achievable and STILL live within my means. If it's not? Go down to the next best thing you want. It called controlling your desires WITHOUT killing them. A person with no desires in life? Truly scary person to me.