You're Not Damaged or Broken

People that feel damaged, broken or hurt need to watch this video, its only going on in your head, it's only your reality, not the truth.
Confidence comes from within, lets be better.

[@marsman69mh]

I was unhappily married for 20 years. Then in 2011 our son killed himself. he was 22. It destroyed an already miserable failure of a marriage. Then in 2016 she tried to kill herself. I got the ambulance there just in time. She recovered, went to a psych center then left me. I was broken for about a month. pretty bad. I found out, you need to let yourself feel those feelings. If you're broken, then be broken!! But don't live there!! Move on!! Because life does whether you do or not!! Nobody is going to save you. You have to!! So do it!!

[@jmoreno09]

Michael Hoyt just left my ex of 6 years and she's playing games with child visitation. I feel broken, but you're story gives me hope for a brighter future. thank you for sharing brother.

[@marsman69mh]

I'm glad my story could give you hope!! I always say even in the worse situations, somewhere buried within it is some good and a lesson to learn!

[@HereComesTheSmartAlec]

Sorry about your son, but thank you for sharing. Helps to put into perspective things that are actual priorities and to appreciate the things we have because things can always be much worse. Again, thank you.

[@stephenwong9670]

You were actually lucky she left you.

[@shortkingrulz]

Thank you Micheal God bless you

[@OllyKilo]

"Scars were just proof that I was stronger than whatever tried to kill me" - That just made my day.

[@Gnosis33]

olly killick the same principle applies to emotional wounds

[@ghenulo]

Was uns nicht umbringt, macht uns stärker?

[@Josecito777]

So powerful

[@dommidavros2211]

Oh wow...that's just so "deep", so "meaningful"!! 🙄🥱

[@OllyKilo]

@@dommidavros2211 I wish you all the best. I hope your wounds heal.

[@jenniferbadili2770]

I was married to the only boyfriend I had at 17. Had two wonderful kids. After 15 years of being together, he had an affair with an old girlfriend of his. I forgave him, and given him several chances for the sake of our kids. Then, eventually on 2010 I found out that their relationship has been going on all these time, so I decided to be separated with him. It took me several years to finally move on and then I met this guy from another country. Had a long distance relationship with him for almost three years until he finally given up and found himself an American girlfriend. I was all devastated, I thought he was the one for me. Anyways, it's been two years since we broke up. It wasn't an easy journey to where I am now. "Happiness is an inside job". Because of those experiences, I became stronger as a person. I learned to love myself more. I don't need to be in a relationship to be happy and feel good about myself. I focused myself on my children and on fulfilling my dreams. Thanks so much for this inspiring video. :)

[@JamesBond-yq7st]

Jen Danieles your children should be fulfilling your dreams

[@jenniferbadili2770]

Doctor Detroit and James Bond, my kids are my life and I only desire what's best for them. They are the source of my happiness and strength and I will always be here to support and guide them. Right now, I am dating this wonderful guy, whom I have known since high school. We got reconnected again after three decades! :) Life is good. 💖

[@bradlloyd6261]

Jen Danieles You are beautiful inside and out and I'm glad to hear you are happy when you've been with and without a relationship.

[@mistertexaz]

Ibanezguitars lol

[@ChaosWolfNinja]

Thank you for this and I hope you have healed and grown much stronger. 😊

[@mayaportland8805]

finally someone who encourages people to own their mistakes and learn from them. Every failure is in fact a step towards your goul.

[@jayekpo]

Rewatching Stargate right now and all I can think about is a goauld. Damnit Cornelia haha but yes I agree; it’s so important to own your mistakes and learn from them. “You don’t lose, you learn!” -Richard “brotha from another motha” Cooper

[@rollipolioli]

Goul

[@matth8554]

I‘m a nurse. I‘ve worked on a burn unit for the last 18 years. I‘ve also made a shitload of mistakes in my 60 years, at work and in my personal life. I‘ve been knocked down ten thousand times, and I‘ve stood up ten thousand and one. I love my life as a bachelor, and greet each day as a gift. Sharing our strength and experience with each other is awesome, and makes us all stronger!

[@jonathanasdell4539]

Know this is very old, but whats it like working on a burn unit? Im a 1st semester student 😁

[@carolynlyfordsullivan1377]

Thinking like a victim makes you a victim. Nobody wants to be that . Like everyone else I have had some difficult situations . Once I stopped the victim mental I could work through these things and be a better person .

[@johnnyjones4613]

Carolyn Lyford Sullivan your comment helped me a lot!

[@alibertylover]

Carolyn Lyford Sullivan / our culture is full of victims, but don't worry ..... I'm from the government, & I'm here to help you...

[@adamwarlock5286]

Thank you Carolyn

[@ajamant3716]

Divorced after 9 years. She was emotionally and physically abusive and unfaithful. I never laid a finger on her or another woman. Trying to dig out of the whole. Your videos are a ladder getting me out. Thank you.

[@maxholder1392]

Thanks for the words of wisdom, good stuff.

[@patrickd9957]

Ajamant 371 - I was in an emotionally and psychologically abusive relationship for25 years. Before that I had the same from my Dad and 4 siblings when I was growing up. The past 12 months I have accepted that I am not a victim here but i can use it as training ground to help others. Being a victim was all in my mind. At the age of 59 I have now let go and feel just so strong in myself and there is NO room for the lies that I had been told and accepting them from other people. I was gaslighted ( look it up) and thought I was losing my mind. My mind is stronger than ever now and anyone who feels weak because of abuse is a strong person. Your mind and others around you and yout abuser are lying to you. The film Gaslight is on KZbin. Worth watching. It will open a whole new world to you. ❤️

[@ignacioveiga2539]

You're already on your path to happiness. Stay strong and trust the process. Everything will slowly come together from now on. Stay safe!

[@stevenhanson1454]

Another brother. Not your fault.

[@tankmeister8131]

I lost my wife to Cancer I have two young kids to bring up I still don’t have a clue after three years Grief I hate it

[@keithpate4586]

Thomas-I am so sorry for your loss, and your responsibility. I just lost my wife. I am a christian if its any help. Pray everyday! Its not going to come over night, but peace will come!

[@doboi8121]

Thomas Wakerow Same here dude only one kid though. She died in 2016.

[@yannic8336]

Am very sorry for you! It might take some ore time but eventually you will find your space again and then another person also

[@Watsonclipsfordays]

Keep on pushing brother, for you and your kids! Hopefully you’re in a better place now

[@megamarcbeats]

Hey, I lost my mom to cancer when I was 9. I'm the middle child of 3 and when my mom passed it was pretty brutal. The years ahead were hard on us all but my dad never quit. My younger sister was the first to graduate college. My brother heads a top national performing BOA financial center. I'm still figuring my way through life but I learned to never quit and I think that works

[@daffertube]

Is your inbox blowing up yet? This is my favorite style of video. You've taken self-improvement knowledge and shared it in such an intimate way; through the soft audio of the insides of cars and the way you are constantly vulnerable with the viewers by sharing your own experiences.

[@JamesEdwardTracy]

I totally second that. This channel is helped me tremendously. I'm 65, with the 20 plus year marriage and all the unhappiness that went with it. I didn't know better. Now that I do, there's a certain amount of bereavement. I mourn the life I had, and it could have been so much better had I had somebody like rich Cooper in my life. Well, better late than never! But I'm in the best physical shape ever, dyed my hair and look pretty damn good if I do say so myself and I'm basically a very modest person. So it's 65 the adventure really begins. Life's a funny thing. You're born, live and die. Then they throw you in a hole and shovel dirt in your face.

[@cl5728]

Glad to see you here King 👑

[@JoelManers]

Lost my wife to breast cancer in 2017 after 24 years of marriage. I focused on raising our 4 wonderful children and they have all done well. We don’t always get the life we envisioned but we can choose to move forward in a positive direction. We can’t let the things that happen to us define who or what we become. We all have choices to make. I choose to move forward and honor my late wife by living the best life I can and being an example to our children.

[@uchihasurvival]

I'm 19 now. I was in a depression mood since elementary school and just came out of it recently. All I had to do was change my mindset. If no one likes you, then who cares? It's not the end of the world and not the end of your life.

[@Blahsheep]

This is important to know, nobody is like you 100%. You will never find someone that has the exact same cells and the exact same mindset. You can find people that have similarities, but that's all.

[@EvilSapphireR]

@@Blahsheep I need to internalise this.

[@twofiveb]

Three years after you posted. Congratulations on your progression out of depression. I see humans as being like dogs and dolphins. We’re naturally a social species. We want approval from others. As long as I know that is a want and not a need for my survival I can be happy and peaceful. And I doubt no one likes you. Peace ✌🏼

[@highendbutthurt2781]

This pops into my feed every now and then, still one of my favourites, Rich’s key take aways which have changed my life: - She’s not yours, it’s just your turn, - Avoid people who have a problem for every solution - Energy Vampires and all related content - Burden of masculine performance And finally - Make your wounds your work - Manage your f@$ks Thank you Rich, keep it all coming

[@festernassociates]

spent years in drug addiction and being locked up in psychiatric system... homeless multiple times... all sorts of fucked up drama. got sober three years ago. got debt free. started doing the minimalist thing... work my ass off.. became a landlord for a while... have been dating the same girl on and off for a few years... things aren't all rosey... but shit has dramatically changed since getting sober. I would say sobriety is the single best decision i have ever made in my entire life... the only one that even comes close to as good... was my decision to drop out of college during within about 6 months of starting.

[@zilla16]

Hey Richard, about the kettle same thing happen to me but it was a cup of hot tea. Be turning 44 in August two years ago my wife left me and I was devastated I felt that I needed her... exactly what you're talking about. Started drinking way to much, couldn't hold I Job. I think I was looking for sympathy. Anyways stopped drinking 4 mouths ago. Your right I stopped felling sorry for myself and looked in the mirror and told myself she may break the boy in me but not the MAN in me! I'm at a point where I'm working on myself. I was once over 300lbs now I'm 175 now I'm going to start trying to quit smoking... Richard's like a big bother. You need to wake up. Reboot! yourself, that's what I'm doing Thanks Richard for keeping real.

[@MrGchiasson]

Remember all the self-help books of the 80's, 90's and so on... "How to fix yourself".."How to...xyz" and my favorite.."You can heal your inner child". " blah blah blah.." Your video answered it all. You are not broken.. you simply learned how to cope with...(fill in the blank) Own it..see it..take a deep breath and face what you need to face.. Do it. That first step is a 'revelation' into who you are.

[@zombieslayer1002]

I'm currently fighting the struggle of social anxiety. I often get frustrated as to why this obstacle stemmed from, and have assumed that I'm broken and will never be fixed. I soon learned that without an alpha male to guide us through manhood. We are forced but to either surrender or go through a grueling process to challenge our fear of discomfort. I've discovered the Red Pill just recently- while it is hard to swallow. I've never felt so relieved to finally have the truth unfold before my very eyes. I'm currently going to the gym to finally prepare to join a sport and have made friends along the way. Just because you don't have a firm hand to guide you; doesn't mean it's over.

[@yannic8336]

Rock on, brother! You're on a good path. Staying in motion and DO SHIT is key, even when it's slowly slowly

[@randolph7214]

Omg richard pure gold here. Iv used your line.. "I want somebody that wants me DOESN'T NEED ME" for years. Ex wife was energy vampire that I let steal years of my life. Guys make sure the lady in your life is a partner not a dependent.

[@sjtanman]

I was left by my wife after 15 years worse point of my life...took awhile to get my life back..

[@liasummers1824]

A wise woman told me that healers have burns on their hands

[@thomasj5722]

I broke my back when i was 19, i got hit by a car that took off and life´s been a struggle since. I was lucky and did not get paralyzed, but life is uphill every single day with a lot of pain. I hated the world and destroyed every relationship, friendship i had. Not before now i´m reaching 31 i started to work a lot with myself after i just messed up a relationship after 5 years and close to getting married. I see its all in my mind, i became the bad person as i thought the world was bad. A lot of your videos should be names "Things your dad never told you" You are really good!

[@choiceblade]

This post made me feel so lucky. Thanks Thomas J Voss.

[@thomasj5722]

You should! The funny thing is i felt my life sucked before the accident, but it was not before i found out what i had lost i realised how lucky i was to had been living the life i had up until that happened. The road trips, the hiking, my passion restoring classic cars. All that was gone. the way you can laugh your heart out knowing everything is fine, i have never been able to do any of that since. Very high levels of pain and constant sleep deprivation and beeing unable to do what you love takes time to get used to. Just having a normal life is something people take for granted in this world. Most peoples problems are really only in their own reality, and it´s possible to change!! Just start doing what you have a passion for and don´t think about other people, and soon you will find happiness.

[@keen2461]

Very nice post. Thanks Thomas for sharing your thoughts. God bless you.

[@alibertylover]

Thomas J Voss / when tragedy strikes, the world has a way of wearing you out. Something similar happened to me when I was 20 ; rear ended by a drunk driver @ 60 mph. Nearly killed me; I became very bitter because I was not compensated for this incident. Long story, but it's a fact. Life is never a guarantee & usually not fair. A person who manages to live on this planet unscathed, is a rare person, indeed.... Physical health issues can really wear you out...

[@xenobioticslyingeyes6900]

Stay strong you are an inspiration.

[@laraoneal7284]

I was a victim of incest at 5 years old from my father. I got into a serious recovery process for many years. I disowned my parents for good. My family of origin are very toxic abusive ppl. Had to break all connection. The best thing I could do for myself, long story but obviously it changed my life forever. I was surprised that in the long run it has made me a better and empathetic person and a child protector for sure. It's been difficult I'm not going to lie. But a lot of good has come out of this. I'm a person of integrity and much more the complete antithesis of my parents thank God.

[@rosemariearmentrout506]

You are a brave soul, as that was your fate. -from another brave soul

[@bmxriderforlife1234]

Long story but due to me being 2 months premature and them not figuring out my conception period till I was like 1 or 2 I don't actually know who my father is. Either the dude I got raped by and might even have done shit to a female relative. Or a guy I've never met and didn't bother to meet me yet knows my nephews and didn't respond to me reaching out. Issues with my one sister. And my other sister didn't even bother to tell me our last full blood relative besides our mother died or our nephews or our other sister. Other uncles same deal. Aunt as well including her child was my best friend since like 2nd grade and is married into the family. I'm basically in the process of cutting off my family now. Besides my nephews. Already cut off from the Irish and French sides and both my possible fathers. As well as my half brother and niece on the less shit head potentials side. He's the more likely one though. Dude who raped me is apparently sterilized. You've been through shit most people couldn't handle. Remember you're a fucking beast. You lived. And hopefully you didn't deal with self harm issues like me. But what the fuck can get you now. Don't let people judge you. How can they when most have no clue what you've been through and would likely fail walking a mile in your shoes. There are people who's lives are literally destroyed by shit like this. You survived going through hell and back.

[@laraoneal7284]

@@bmxriderforlife1234 I hope you are recovering from all the sickness and trauma you’ve been through. I just had to get educated on toxic family dynamics and permanently get away from my evil family of origin. I was very determined nothing was going to stop me but no self harm nothing like that. I was in college but had to stop at 19 years of age and get the hell out of my home. Long story. Ty for ur compliments. Hope you have gotten out yourself. You can do it. I prayed to God the whole time and found a Christian psychologist from Christian talk radio who counseled me also who also was an incest survivor. Ask God to put you in the path of even one supportive person. You obviously found me here so that’s a big deal. If I can be of further support to you let me know. It’s your decision only. I would love to to talk to you. Let me know it’s ur choice. I’m sincere I’m not some weird narcissist. God bless.

[@laraoneal7284]

@@rosemariearmentrout506 TY Rosemarie for ur compliment. Thrilled too that u are another brave soul. It’s hard but more than worth it. God bless you.

[@bmxriderforlife1234]

@@laraoneal7284 due to family history Christianity is a no go for me. Some modern history some ancient history literally. My French ancestors were responsible for the crusades despite what history teaches. They kidnapped a pope after slaughtering his army. And oppressed the Irish including my Irish ancestors who were some of the earliest converts. Plus what the church did in Quebec Canada if you know any of that history. Church did some fucked up shit to my late grandma. Eh hard to say if I'm better now or just dealing. Autoimmune disease most likely. Probably gonna be dead within 30 years or so. Kinda don't have time to deal with something that old anymore especially when I don't need to see the dude. Mom's the last one I need to get away from. Figured she got treated like shit by the family like me and she did but she has some of the same issues. Moving to a different country when I can. Kinda lame reasons but something that makes me happy regardless. That or going to a different continent.

[@JakeFields92]

I’m 26 and I fell in the deepest love I had ever felt in my life with a girl last year. The 10 months of being together seemed to have flown by so quickly. It started out with pure obsession and connection and then quickly transformed to jealous, obsessive, emotionally , almost a physically abusive relationship. I became so disconnected from my family, my closest friends, from myself my emotions and my endeavors. Everything, every task, every thought, was for her, about her, to do it for her, us. And long story short, through much trauma we caused each other with cheating and reading text messages, she immediately made an official breakup blocking me on every thing possible so I could never reach her. It’s been 6 months now since the day and she is still the first thing that hits my mind when I wake up. But I don’t kneel over to cry like I did for so long. She fucked me up but I put myself right back together by hitting the gym 6 times a week, eating flawlessly, staying sober as well as celibate. I perfected my lifestyle and became the fittest and most productive I’ve ever been in my life. I play guitar like a true blues man and have moved my musicianship to a whole other realm of professionalism. I reconnected as well as met many friends along the journey that I would have never connected with on the frequency I was living in, even before I met her. I’m a better man no question. But I still miss that bitch. I was alone on this journey for self healing and discovery. No one could’ve done this for me. Only me. And me alone. Me myself and I baby. Not her.

[@antebutkovic1278]

canada day 2015 I cut my fingers off on a table saw canada day 2016 I was sitting on my deck playing a guitar (fingers are back in there place) and now my business is running better then ever and I am doing better then I ever was before (thumbs up to me)

[@mortelk6104]

thumbs up bro!

[@the-based-jew6872]

Fuck that sounds brutal. Glad you made it through. 👍

[@donnieearlharrisjr5941]

My mom passed back in October, so I’ve been thinking or reflecting on somethings she had said back in the day. One that stands out is give my son a chance , you are your own worst enemy! This coming from a mom that was a tough mother , you see we didn’t always have the closest relationship. I knew she loved me but she was a tough one ! You see her father committed suicide when she was 15yrs old . He had been in the war and PTSD , you see back in those days you a drunk ,they didn’t know this back in day. I look back and cherish her words of wisdom, and of coarse miss her very much. Everyone out there keep your head up and know your worth! Also btw its not in possessions !

[@katieadams5860]

For me, in High School, I was bullied, ended up graduating high school with no friends and with poor grades. I later moved to a new city to go to college, thinking that would solve all of my social and academic issues. It solved my social issues, but not my academic, I then realized no matter where you are in life, your always going to have some sort of problems. The way I got over my scars of high school was to find hobbies, drop out of school to go out in the workforce, and join activities.

[@skylerkelly597]

I got sent away to a lockdown boarding school where they emotionally abused the kids. I was only there cause I had stomach ulcers from acne medication and missed too many classes. I drank to forget and my life spiraled out of control. I wouldn't change a thing because I'm proud of who I am now.

[@KingKhan-123]

"We ate masters of complicating our lives.." Some very deep philosophical truth.

[@ruirodrigues9122]

My thing was first year university...got my ass handed to me grades wise. Couldn't figure out why where as my twin brother was doing amazingly well (different universities), had a social life and I could not get my shit together...led to depression and it got pretty bad...one day in 2003 or 2004 (the year of the 3 day power black out), just got on my bike and rode it for the first time in years and I rode hard...so hard my legs hurt so bad but that pain kept me from thinking of my personal mental pain...could only focus on how bad my leg muscles hurt...so I kept riding and riding...a few months later I had lost 25 pounds. Personal thoughts of self loathing etc pretty much stopped as I had a focus again, my grades improved. I eventually graduated and after a few years in the private sector eventually earned a CPA designation. Sounds stupid...but a bike pretty much saved my life and set me on the path I'm on and I'm happy for that. Lance Armstrong once said riding the bike saved his life...I think it saved mine as well. Keep up the awesome vids Richard. And at some point we will meet up and check out the M Coupes I have if you like but...probably early next year.

[@EntrepreneursInCars]

Anytime you're ready to connect brother, would love to see those beauties and maybe do a video with you. Thx for sharing your story here with the community.

[@johnrosko252]

I watched my dad die in front of me, and never forgave myself for not helping him grow his businesses and take over. It's been three years and I'm working at home depot losing weight, and nervous. The power of music and beer help. But I am broken. My mother's new boyfriend kicked me out of her house, and I'm scared to try and visit her. I think about offing myself every day. I screwed relationships up with a strong beautiful woman that thought highly of me cause of my temper. I'm lost but still hear. Thank you for posting. You're like a father figure. If I make it through I hope to be self employed and proud and happy. Thank you. Oh yeah and my sister just got cancer. Idk what's going on.

[@someonehadto7841]

Thank you for sharing the story about your scars my friend. My upper lip got completely split apart from right top side of my upper lip, all the way to just to where my right nostril starts, a result of being jumped by two individuals back in senior year of high school. Its not a scar I can hide, and I do get stared at for it, DAILY. It does become something that can make you insecure, because I simply dont want that attention. The attention was cool at first, for the first year, then it became sort of degrading. People will grab their lip when I end up glancing at them, will cover their lip, just overreact to seeing my scar. People just give off weird vibes after seeing my scar, thats what it feels like. Plain and simple, it just fuckin hurts, it gets tiring, and it gets annoying to constantly see men and women stare at it, whether I am driving by, walking by, etc. Its been three years of struggling with this now, but I will keep on. Anyways, thanks again.

[@packrat76]

Have you spoken to a qualified cosmetic surgeon? They may be able to reduce the size of the scar, but obviously, surgery isn't free.

[@dendanny]

I too, have a pretty big scar between my upper lip and my nostril. I was a 1 yo and got mauled by a dog. People have told me it’s actually kind of cool, and I would agree. You only notice it after talking a minute or so with me and fortunately for me I have not had your experience yet. Either that or our perception simply differs. Stay strong, bro.

[@inZaNeSc2]

I suffer from a sweating condition called Hyperhidrosis and this has bothered me my whole life. I always told myself that I cannot become someone, let alone a tattoo artist which I dream to become one day. Just this year I got accepted by a wonderful tattoo artist as her second apprentice. Never felt this great and alive!

[@mikemyers2626]

Thank you! Going through a divorce right now due to her cheating. I'm not broken...!!!

[@delphi-moochymaker62]

Rings true. I am currently reading Jocko Willink's book - Extreme Ownership. A simple but profound philosophy. I'm 55, and can't believe in retrospect how much I used to blame circumstances or other people for setbacks in my life. It is eminently dis-empowering. Now I can clearly see how the choices I made, made it necessary for hardship to befall me. I make better choices now and take ownership for them. We all teach people how to treat us, whether we are aware of it or not. It's like lifting a heavy weight from my shoulders that I wasn't aware was there. Thanks brother!

[@bmoher2011]

I am 50 and used to do the same. I recommend a you tube video - Rocky Balboa's speech to his son. It is, by far, the best speech Sylvester Stallone ever put into a film.

[@marslave575]

I have been single for over 9 years now and the whole time I thought I was broken but as soon as I moved alone I started to feel better as I'm in a whole new town where no one knows me so I can be anyone who I want and still to this day I'm single but I feel like there's hope now

[@jeffcrenshaw9932]

This is POWER and THE TRUTH that sets people free! Great job brother!!

[@itsmadmatt]

I think what a lot of people need to do is to focus less on thing that are external and out of their control(wealth, cars, how they look etc), simply because if it isn't in your control then why bother worrying about it, worry about things that are in your control such as how much work you put in today, your character, your honesty etc and you will be much more happier. Great videos Rich, keep up the good work!

[@adamtheangler]

Bear with me as this is lengthy. I just joined your channel here after seeing your 2 videos about women to avoid. This one really hit home as here I am at 30 years old and starting to feel broken myself. Your first video rang some truth because my last girlfriend was the type with daddy issues. She lived with her Dad, and her Mom basically abandoned her when she was in her teen years. Her Dad was a really cool guy that I got along with well. When I first met him we hung out on the couch and afterwards she blew up at me about not wanting me to hang out or get to know her Dad. She would tell me how terrible of a person he was. Which he wasn't at all. She ended up leaving me in June of last year...luckily. About 2 years ago my finances were in pretty good shape. My credit was good, and although I wasn't rich, at least I had my finances in order. Then I stupidly took out a huge loan for something that wasn't even tangible and here I am now fighting off the bill collectors. I work a full time job, and then come home and work on my youtube channel, and my music as well. When I was in my early 20's I would go out and party all time, and just blow money on booze and women. I don't do that anymore, and here I am in this shitty position in life. I am currently using youtube to find my community. Lately, I've been doing mostly gaming, but want to expand more into other aspects of life and hopefully find others with common ground. Not sure where I was going with all that. But had to share. Keep making more awesome videos like this. :)

[@ramsesf.7956]

Man, you're not in a shitty position, you are in a TRANSITION, and it's very important be focused in whatever you want to make, or have or be.

[@rvz77]

when I was in my mid 20s, I was in a relationship & it was beautiful. that feeling that somehow you become so close, like a single person, that it's meant to be. I thought I found THE ONE. it was a beautiful vibration that began to wobble and wobble. and on our rltnshp anniversary, she through a tantrum and went berserk. it was a i love you, i hate you, verbal and physical abuse. she must've been struggling quietly inside about the rltnshp. I was done with her...but forgave her after her pleading in the days thereafter, and a month later she dumped me, for GOOD! A COLD SHOT!! no contact after from her! for 7 YEARS, I couldn't get over her! like a huge burn, unfinished chance...i held a candle for 'us', thought of her incessantly. & my father told me at the beginning of the rltnshp, "don't break this girls heart". bc that's how I was..I thought tough & in control. & at the end of the rltnshp, he told me "I can see you're already like the tree whose branch is bending and now is touching the ground. " I lost my sense of self and dignity. I couldn't see that. --when you fail to see the signs of a failing rltnshp bc you have rose colored glasses and so desperately want to sustain the rltnshp, you lose your pride in yourself. like a ghost, she tormented me. I realized that I'M THE PROBLEM. that I built her up as smthg special on a,pedestal. I recently ran into her, & I realized her she chose a secure future at the time over love, although was studying in the medical field back Then. now, she has a husband that isn't wealthy and I can sense she regrets her choices. THAT'S LIFE! OWN UP TO YOUR OWN SHIT, BC NOBODY ELSE WILL FOR YOU. IT'S ONLY OUR FAULT, & THANK THE BIG LORD ABOVE, BC HE HAS A PLAN FOR ALL OF US. it was a beautiful time to live and learn, but now I have a wife that's a million times better that I could dream of. LIKE HE SAYS IN THE VIDEO, IT'S ALL IN THE MEATBALL UPSTAIRS!

[@paulburkholder9690]

What great advice you give! I’ve been married 40 years to the same women. She is strong and very giving, smart and beautiful. The secret to our success is simply over looking the small stuff and being considerate to one another. That is it. She’s not perfect nor am I, so fuck the stuff that doesn’t matter and simply choose to be happy with yourself and make it possible for her to be happy with herself.

[@rjc7289]

The key is to flush out all the negative conditioning we've experienced since childhood. It's not easy and takes a shitload of time, but it will lead you to stand on your own two feet and totally disregard the bullshit opinions of others.

[@supercheesy107]

Yo, I'm so thankful for this channel! I really appreciate it.

[@EntrepreneursInCars]

thx

[@milkiyasmehreteab5567]

Yeah I got a story. I became more sinical about people while I was in college. I had to leave the University dorm because it was built for graduate students and PhD students, and I was just a bachelor student. Then my college didn't have a dorm or hostel for its students, and I got to find this out soon after the issue came up for bachelors to leave. And all this was in India and I'm a black guy...so you can imagine the stress. But I said fuck it, I found a private flat and lived there with a house mate(who turned out to be the worst fucking cunt in the world) for the next two years. And now....Life is getting better, with my Masters in mind in Germany. Stay strong brothers. Thanks for reading!

[@noseefood1943]

Been near death twice, lost everything twice, been homeless, been disabled, been betrayed, had restraining order, robbed, shot at, watched deaths, abused as a kid, but I am still here

[@jorgeriera3337]

That experience gives you the strength to move on and better a better man and I'm sorry that you went thru so much I had a similar experience but I'm a better man for it. Good luck keep leveling up

[@snakeplissken44]

It's a lot different when you have chronic conditions that constantly aggravate you but can't be treated

[@thedoubleop]

I really love your channel. I can see some people thinking you might be an ass but I think you're one of the realist people out there saying it how it is. Thanks for everything you do.

[@EntrepreneursInCars]

I appreciate the kind words, peace brother, I'm all love.

[@kevinreginald107]

I'm almost 27 and i still think that i need that certain person to be happy. This video is an eye opener. The change of perception is everything. Thank you Richard.

[@ballinchaldo1995]

I started being responsible for my family when I was 18 taking care of them and their bills, at 25 now I’ve realized I am being taken advantage of. I’ve become more ruthless, that was the change I needed.

[@Zavrl_Lavigne]

So I used to be 260lbs coming out of high school. At the age of 21 I decided enough is enough, and need a change in lifestyle. A year and a half later I was 170lbs and gained a decent amount of muscle tone with minimal extra skin left over. No doubt I recieved more looks from women, but the stretch marks from being obese shattered my confidence with my shirt off. Over time I realized women gave no shits about my stretch marks, and they only paid attention to it whenever they sensed I was insecure about them. I've learned to embrace my tiger stripes, and use it as a symbol of the hard work put in to fix a version of myself that was extremely unhealthy and self loathing

[@syedzuhaib67]

"becoming a better version of yourself" just love this line. can't believe I preached same line to my friends and younger brother. found your video today just randomly

[@DrumWild]

I was born in the mid-60s and never fit in with anyone or any group. I struggled with women, employment, and pretty much everything. I'd get a relationship, and it would be another toxic venture. I'd get a job and work really hard, and get shown the door even if I produced results. I never knew what was wrong until late 2017, just before my 53rd birthday, when I was tested and diagnosed with Autism and Major Depressive Disorder. Since then, I've been struggling to "be not broken." Of course, there is no cure for Autism, and this is what drives the Major Depressive Disorder. Having this diagnosis is a double-edged sword, for now my entire past makes sense. But at the same time, it feels like a life wasted. All the same, I refuse to be a victim of anything. This relieves a little bit of the struggle, although I've found over the past five years that nobody wants to hire me because I'm over 50. Long story short, there are lots of complicated things going on, I'm working to rise above, and trying to figure out HOW I can rise above, what can be done, and how to do it.

[@DancesofDragons]

Everything is consciousness. It is that very consciousness which one gives their attention to which shapes who they are, and thus guides choices into the reality they live. It is not a big deal about what someone says or does to you... unless you make it one. You cannot have control over anything by not taking responsibility for everything you have experienced. I was harshly abused in a foster home.. and I spent a lot of time trying to figure how to solve this feeling... Finally when I decided to thank the parents of that foster home for the help they gave me... and when I did... I discovered the abuser committed suicide. All that was left is "now what? " ... I had no revenge now no closure no nothing... not even someone to blame, cause he was dead. The feeling was still there, even long after someone goes away... That in itself goes to show you, the situation stays with you even after the "wrong doer" is gone...how can it be their fault now.. they are not even around...This is why it is so important to take responsibility for your experiences. In solution... going to thank the parents... helped me let go of the garbage i was holding on to. I couldn't let go of the "bad" cause it was always on my mind. But when I DELIBERATELY changed what i gave my attention to (thanking the parents)...I changed my reason for going back to that place.. and thus my attention was on something else. The feeling is what brings the thought/memory/ cognitive responses, and is also the binding force into holding on to... what isn't necessary.

[@bro7269]

Through divorce I’m losing my wife of 19 years and losing my nice house. I will be leaving here with less than I had when I was 20. I was definitely broken for a short period. I don’t know where is came from but I told myself I wasn’t going to be a victim...that my life will not be defined by a divorce. It’s been hard but I made a decision to move 1800 miles back to my family which also means quitting a good paying job. Three huge loses but it will be better. Make a decision and don’t be a victim! Forward is the only way!

[@honda24169]

Well, I didnt leave Iraq by choice, I left because I ended up have seizures. Ended up having over 9 grand-mal seizures in less than 7 months. Lost most of my memory of everything prior to deployment, ended up having a divorce and my ex refuses to let me see my kids. The VA had me on a ton of meds for several years. Still went through MMI and passed, and had two girlfriends during that time. Still live through the nightmares of what I had seen. Am I broken, nahh. Im just seasoned is all. And during that time, I had been ran over by a crown vic while walking in cross walk, dumped a MC and delt with many hostile idiots. Still here and loving life. Your vid only confirmed my thoughts, the past is behind us and we need to stop dwelling on it. Time to look forward to the next adventure and enjoy life.

[@alibertylover]

WaterDogZilla/MuttZilla / do you strut around with a superman T-SHIRT on ???

[@dalewikfors9194]

My meatball between my ears says my hugh tumor on my jaw dosen't define me. I know everyone sees it but my actions prove my abilities and that's my perception. Thanks for this journey. Embrace who you are. Much love brothers

[@westcoastsands]

I appreciate that you were able to learn from your first 19 years and recognize that there was victim mentality. You seem whole and secure now, like you don’t need anything at all to validate who you are.

[@nicholasmitsakis7820]

Very true and well said. The key to it all i believe is to try and live in the moment with a positive outlook. Take what comes as a lesson and move on. And always remember to give yourself time to heal . Relish in that pain and find the stronger version of your self. It's priceless.

[@Rog76]

Great video Richard, and what an awesome topic, you are bang on the money. We all generally want what we don't have, if your single you feel all lonely. If your in a relationship you can feel hen pecked, nagged, etc. It's a shame their ain't a third option for many things in life.

[@EntrepreneursInCars]

How do you feel about the MGTOW option?

[@ChrisVAN92]

I think it's a viable option how do you feel about it Richard?

[@Rog76]

+Entrepreneurs in Cars I had to actually look that term up as it was a new one to me, in short it seems like a viable option as long as a guy is willing to not get that involved. A more lengthy reply will follow.

[@EntrepreneursInCars]

I can see the appeal, you may see a video on this topic in the future.

[@Rog76]

I was just thinking about this one and will add a bit more... I think it's tricky from the get go as men and women are basically after different things, it always seems like women are looking for Mr Right this perfect guy, who by the way they will never find and if they did he would most likely not want them because of their attitude. Like it or not they are after a provider for them in the first instance and for any children or potential children in the second instance. They have life goals like getting a "good" man and getting married, having kids, a career, and lets not forget the clothes and bags, shoes, etc... Guys on the other hand are usually just looking for sex and companionship without all the hassle, a guys world is a lot simpler until you put women in the mix. if you ever see groups of guys and women together and separate you can see it all in play. You also hear the old classic about when couples loose the passion and of course the women always say it's the guys fault, like with almost everything else. Women seem to use the whole sex thing just to snag guys, then just change get less passionate, and start treating guys like shit. Of course there are exceptions and there are many examples of relationships where the guys are domineering, controlling arse holes, or cheaters etc, I have to get that out there as lots of guys are not perfect either. Just remember most relationships seem perfect (especially if your single) but most in fact possibly all are not in some way. I remember reading a comment recently about the three stages of a relationship which sums a lot up... Idolise >>>>>>> Devalue >>>>>>>Discard And to get back on topic if your a guy and you want the MGTOW option my advise is to just use women for nothing other than sex, don't get involved. It will be easier to be more passionate, you will get next to no grief, and be able to do what you want when you want.

[@tannerplumbingco]

I too was burned as a toddler. My mother did it to me and almost killed me. Scarred me on my arm and leg. Grew up an orphan till almost 8 untill being adopted into the US from Korea. I experienced all kinds of horrors and abuses physical and mental and had PTSD from it. I learned to use all these horrors as strengths as an adult. What didn't break me only made me stronger, more tenacious and willful. This change in perception has been my biggest asset as an adult to reach my goals.

[@giuseppelarocca2930]

I know odds are you will never read this but man, thank you so much for your content. This video is saving me. I was recently left high and dry by my wife after 9 years relationship and man I faced a lot of depression and dark times. Thank you man you literally deserve awards for your content

[@rebeccaramsden4777]

Attacked by a man..... I survived and I'm an amazing strong, beautiful woman

[@RDDC_Official]

Great video!!! Took me many years, well into my 20's to end the resentment of being adopted and treated like shit. Once I got that out of my head I was on a new life's path of happiness.

[@vantheman1238]

We all go through tough times. I’m currently having a challenging time in terms of my business and my private life. What I say to myself is - “what a great opportunity to grow” “what an opportunity to exact change and move forward because if I keep on working positively at everything things will change for the better”. This is a time of rebirth and development. If we always do the same things as we’ve always done we only ever get the same things we’ve always got! Tackle the challenges now and see this time of change as an adventure. Be strong and stay strong.

[@dannyarnold4201]

I needed to see this message. It's 3:51 a.m. and this video came up in my recommendations. I've been trying to get over my now ex Fiancée. It's been a long, difficult road. This video has made me feel better, honestly! I think I might actually be able to get some sleep tonight! Thank you, Rich! 💪😎

[@jamesmarrelli1847]

This is a great sight. Awsome speaker. I just finished going through a nasty divorce where I was discarded by my wife and this sight has helped me tremendously.

[@beachboy_boobybuilder]

I'm 44yo and still single. I'm a genuinely nice guy and it always comes through. Sadly, the only women who are attracted to nice guys are invariably unattractive women. However, that is not the sort of woman I want. I deserve much better. Until (or if) that time comes, I have in the interim become accustomed to being on my own. TBH, the only reason you need a woman is for sex. When I was 18yo, I told my mum I wanted to adopt orphaned children from a developing country. I now have an established career in the medical field and there is more than one way to have a family. Time for me to honour the promise I made when I was 18.

[@CryptoKernels]

beachboy boobybuilder It’s either that’s all we need them for or that it all that most of them are willing to give of themselves.

[@johngore7146]

Brother this is the realest shit ever No matter the story no matter the pain we are not broken or damaged. Man up accept reality don’t blame or regret, let go and make the changes in your life to create the person you want to be, perception and perspective is everything Amazing video brother good wisdom

[@terryroberts5309]

Ive definitely felt broken after my wife cheated i helped her bring up two girls after her boyfriend he was also my best friend of more than ten yrs so lost a friend and my wife its the respect you get for doing something nice i guess definitely feel broken and so on but ive left her and everything i owned. I have my own flat now and trying to carry on

[@laraoneal7284]

People who haven't had down times are boring. You are certainly not boring. Very informative and encouraging. Thank u so much. I have a lot in common with you.

[@GodOfMischief99]

When I was 3 I had an accident pretty bad. I don't know how to explain the durability, but I can't move my left arm and leg like the other half, even now I have that disability because I didn't treat that much myself after the accident. Now I'm 21, I m happy to be me, I don't regret that I have a disability because I don't know where I would have been if I didn't have it. While I was growing up, I didn't have much friends because they saw me different. Now I'm walking like I have a pain in my leg, because one leg is a little short than the other. I accepted myself 3 years ago and I feel more happier since then. I don't care what people are thinking of me, I know my limits and love myself, but at the same time I want more for me,for my mind and especially my body because I'm skinny. People, accept and love yourself

[@Doug5614]

I like your videos man... you're authentic. I was in a real dark place after my divorce a few years ago. I have bounced back since listening to some good pastors and motivational speakers. You also speak words that a lot of people who are currently in that same dark place need to hear. Keep up the good that you do.

[@EntrepreneursInCars]

Thx for the feedback

[@beerose1482]

Thank you for sharing this. I've lived my entire life feeling and believing that I was broken beyond repair and needing validation from others. But now at 28, I am taking full responsibility and Choosing to change my viewpoints and just live a life where I am purposeful and walking towards my goals. There's a quote I love: "Motion Generates Emotion!" Make positive changes especially the hard ones you don't feel like doing and slowly you'll see your life turning around for the better plus you will find yourself gaining the desire and passion to keep growing which in turn spurs you on to more change. Been life changing to realise that simple true. Again, thank you for the encouragement.

[@markflierl1624]

My plan for success is to not give a fuck about anything. I would like to get to the point where I have no fear of going to prison, being homeless, lots people hating me or dying. Fear is what stops us from living our lives the way we would like. If I can get over those, I can live my life any way I want. I'm over the fear of prison and I'm getting used to lots of people hating me. The fear of dying is a tough one.

[@mr.automation543]

Man I’m very impressed at how far you have came most people would let your situations cripple there entire life. You have not only turned your shit around but are teaching others how not to fall off. Thanks brotha

[@bobkeeler5964]

We should all be Financially and Emotionally independent (period). It took me many many years to figure that out for myself.

[@curtaincowboy]

MY STRUGGLES ACTUALLY DEFINED ME. THEY MADE ME SELF SUPPORTING THROUGH MY OWN CONTRIBUTIONS. I WOULD NOT TRADE THOSE STRUGGLES FOR ANYTHING.

[@Furiusgot]

I had the same experience, with a scar in my face i felt broken and petty for myself for a very long time. And this was the cause of my search for somebody else to fufil myself. Later on i realized that i had only to accept myself in order to feel complete, and everything else and everyone else came later effortless.

[@darclone]

I'm an 18 year old guy from Australia and what you're saying really resonates with me. As a young kid I broke all the bones in my leg, was in a wheelchair for 6 months, a few years later I was diagnosed with fibrous displaysia and last year I had brain surgery because of an abscess on my brain. I have to say I've been dealing with a lot of these issues you're speaking about, and a couple of weeks ago I started watching your videos and other self help videos to broaden my perspective. Quite honestly I think learning from you as well as putting things in place to become a better person has really helped to start to build me back up. I don't think I could have done this as quickly as I have without being exposed to your content and for that I am grateful. As you said, scars are only evidence that I was stronger than whatever tried to kill me.

[@dorkidori]

I normally dont comment very often on videos, but after discovering your channel, along with Donovan Sharpe and Better Bachelor... my eyes have been opened SO much to whats gone in my world and Ive been working so hard since I left my last ex in March to build myself up to be a better man, to let go of old ways and old habits and for the first time EVER, I am 100% happy single! But let me back up a bit. When I left my last ex, I had NO IDEA what I was doing wrong in my relationships. I WAS simping in a lot of ways, HOWEVER, I didnt know about how messed up women have become due to social media influence, hypergamy and narcissism running rampant! I was very angry at myself after I split with her and one day at work, I started poking around the web trying to find answers. Wasnt sure of the exact answer I was hunting for, but I knew there had to be SOMETHING out there to explain what was going on with my failure involving women. After a few hours, and using the right words... a video from Better Bachelor was introduced to me. I was a bit skeptical, but I watched that video (dont remember which video exactly)... But after the 30 odd minutes of his video, my eyes were starting to be opened. I spent the rest of that week watching and absorbing his videos like crazy. He hit on a few key details from his own dating experiences that hit me like a ton of bricks! For the first time in my life, I started to understand what I was doing wrong, but more importantly, WHAT WOMEN HAVE BECOME NOW!!! Since that first BB video, Ive found your channel and Donovan Sharpes channel and Ive gladly taken that red pill. My ex started messaging me again a few months before she went in for a major surgery. I wound up simping out and caught myself after a few weeks. She basically promised me the world again and agreed she wanted to fix things between us... But one thing that Donovan Sharpe has said is that "women lie... but they are terrible liars. they ALWAYS tell on themselves if you allow them to talk long enough". Well, my ex did just that. Unfortunately I messed up on a few shit tests she put me thru... BUT, after reattaching my balls and getting my head out of fantasy land... I started letting her talk and I started shit testing her and asking her questions about things she had said a few months prior, especially in regards to her ex who she swore she got rid of. Well, guess what guys... She started telling on herself via the lies and the fluff she was promising me. 2 weeks ago, I gave her a shit test. She failed, and she failed hard. The conversation ended with this "Look, everytime we make plans... you flake. So tell you what. Why dont YOU get a hold of ME when you want to go out. Otherwise, talk to you later". She responded with some snarky come back about its not her fault shes busy and she has to work so much and bla bla bla. After the response, I deleted her text thread and havent talked to her since (she hasnt contacted me either). With all the waking up Ive been doing since June, I havent been happier in life. Since shutting my ex down 2 weeks ago, I havent felt bettter. Ive been letting go of caring about what the world thinks of me (both in my professional life and personal life) and I really just pushing forward in such a positive manner and frame of mind! I have been exercising each morning Mon-Fri before going into my day job since the start of August, I have been eating better and have been working on my own world that I cant believe how much advancement Ive had from it and how much POSITIVE drive it creates in a mans life! Thank you SO much Rich, Donovan and Joker... you 3 have helped me open my eyes, take that red pill and learn to live my best life as a man. I wake up every morning now with such a different out look on life and the success that is coming with it is just amazing! I feel complete and whole with just being me, and learning how to love myself has been such a rewarding experience!!! I still have trials ahead of me, but Im looking forward to meeting them head on now, especially with the confidence I have as being a man and just being me!

[@stefanseniuk339]

Richard, Simon Weston is a guy you really must check out...He was in the Welsh Guards and got burned to fuck when his assault ship got bombed in the Falklands War...talk about a real hero overcoming adversity...man alive what a guy...they did a documentary on him and went through the stages of his recovery right from the ship being bombed, complete face and body burns, fingers burn't off, nose and lips burn't off, truly hellish...now he's turned his life around...a man with a big, big soul and a UK national treasure...humble, no resentment...just the will to survive and overcome...

[@BiohackerNYC]

"Nobody is broken . Nobody needs to be fixed. We may just need a tune up " What I learned in NLP(Neuro -Linguistic -Programming)

[@annadata]

I found myself hitting the thumbs up button barely 40 seconds into the video. Thank you brother. This is one of the best piece of advice I've heard lately.

[@user-jy8fc5xm2k]

Went through a lot of health issues that I’ve only just got through. I’m 26 and I’ve been able to start a business as a health coach which is creating the foundation for me to do my ultimate dream of music. Keep preachin the good word Rich 🤘🏽

[@zephlaron1750]

Well put, the first step to having better is being better... change your view to be responsible for yourself no matter what has happened to you.... and then you will start to be better, do better, and have better!

[@cloudwalk4566]

Sometimes I come back to listen to this video, first time I saw it in around 2017...This is gold

[@lestat9012]

Thank you for this. I’ve felt most of my life I’m. Broken. In a unhappy job and marriage and latched on to a borderline narcissist for 4 years always blaming my alcoholic dad, codependency, when yes it’s just my poor decisions and not loving myself. Thanks to Rich I’m exiting my relationship with this borderline and will do the work on myself and become the best version of myself.

[@chuck6588]

Getting over a loss is tough. It’s a process to get through and it’s different for everyone. I used to think I was broken. I just felt broken. With the help of some family members and one true, loyal friend, I got through. I’m a different man now...a better man. A Christian man.

[@chaoticlife311]

Another truth is, whether it is a men or women, when things gets tough, pointing fingers and regret making decision. It reflects a lot on the personality of an individual. It is your choice to take it or throw it. Once it is decided, stick with it and savour the moment and i dont mean take responsibility in a noble way. Trust me on this, I had so many advices from people, i tend to see it as though that it takes one to know one kind of thing. Only a person who experience it can tell it like it is. If a person call you ugly.... same thing as i said... he/she was looking in a mirror one a particular day,felt that he/she is ugly and decided to make themselves feel better by putting others lower than them by calling others ugly so that he/she does not feel bad. See... it is really a reflection of themselves. I am the quiet person, i have seen a lot. like a lot. Honestly, when people say take in only the good stuff and not the bad ones. Take my advice, take both of it. Because then you will know what is it that you want. People are born not evil. It is just that some things in life didnt go their way and dont want to experience that not so nice event again by being not so nice to the next one. (at least you're not being ignorant and you tried) It is called being defensive unnecessarily and a sign of insecurity as it gives of a vibe that you are afraid of this and that. People wont approach you if they know that you have qualities that show you are afraid of them. In general people are good in nature and naturally will try to make you less fearful or being afraid. They might punch or kick you to make you tougher. Back to my earlier statement, they were younger, they were weak, they were also afraid and watching you reminds them of their past. We sometimes hate to lose but that does not mean i encourage anyone to always lose. There is a thing call know what you are worth. If anyone thinks that they could not get the love of their dreams. Have you guys question that you might be willing to sacrifice too much that you forgot to care and love for yourself. Listen, to any men and women out there who struggles with relationship, sacrifice is important. So is self worth. Find some time to care for yourself. If you think that you're giving 100% of your love and time for others is noble. Think again. IT IS NOT. I always maintain a rule. If i cannot help myself, dont even think about helping others. I would be making the trouble worst for others. Same thing in relationship, if you dont love yourself, how can you expect yourself to love others. If the closest thing in the world, which is yourself and are not being taken care off. How can anyone expect you to take care or love others? Make sense? I find it hard when women and men when they go out on a relationship, they start to think. He is the one, she is the one. Woah hold your horses there. That is lust and it sometimes take like 90% of our decision making of our life. Life in bed... last for a couple of minutes but the bulk of life last for years, which one would you guys prefer to invest more attention too? Ah yes.... always set a time limit. If this does not turn out the way it is going. Remember, life is too short to waste it all on one thing. That is why many people regret not doing things they could have done simply because they hold on for too long. Basically learn to move on. Listen boys and girls, men and women. Trust is earn not given. When you see someone giving their all for you and explode into a volcano when it was not receive. Read back para 5 and so on.

[@bp7630]

There is always light on the other side of the tunnel! Go through it knowing that the best version of your self's is waiting for you on the other side... I was once divorced, broken, without my kids and fighting leukemia, all of my so called friends left me, now I am cancer free, my youngest child lives with me and I am happier than ever!, God bless you all!

[@BabaBest2000]

I have a scar on my right arm from hot water when I was a kid. And, I don't remember the incident. Don't hesitate to ask for help but remain independent.

[@rifleman17hmrshooter]

I don't know about the need aspect, but I ended up drunk with a lot of left over anger over my ex wife. Still angry for some reason, but otherwise functioning. Betrayal leaves longer lasting anger than anything else

[@craigbixler1154]

Thank you, sir. I needed these words you just gave me. I'm going through a brutal break-up.

[@alejmc]

Goddamnit, everytime I get onto one of your videos where you go into detail about your childhood accident and life struggles it gets to me. Always glad to see how you managed to surpass all that and even overshoot helping all other fellows here in dire need of advice.

[@ClivesEnglishCorner]

Watching older Rich videos is pretty mind-blowing. This version vs present day rich is SO different. There's no better testimony of continuing to do the work.

[@MakeUmad4life]

I was 20 years old (now 21), Got my heartbroken, and lost my summer job all at once. It was really hard. Probably one of the hardest things I’ve had to overcome. I allowed myself to heal and let those scars become a lesson of what I want in a person by my side. I am now much more independent and overall have a healthier state of mind.

[@wolfman3147]

I know this is late but when i was 8 my dad committed suicide and I've blamed myself for years and years, i still do at times. I'm 23 and I'm just trying to get my shit together and also my mindset.

[@ryanbetter7661]

You control two things in your life. The way you breathe and the way you react to things. Chin up. Love yourself. Thanks Rich! You rock man

[@Shamus71]

Excellent! you are a realist and couldn't have presented this topic any better!

[@EntrepreneursInCars]

Thanks

[@MVProfits]

It's normal to feel "damaged" at times, but not all the time. We ain't bullet proof, not physically nor mentally. Experiencing my first crushing heart break so late in life both surprised me (as I never expected it or to feel this TBH) and that dman it hurts. I do all the right things 98% of the time, only about 2% that I have these bouts of despair and sadness, but there is no denying a bitterness that affects me in everything I do, even though I'm doing my best to get rid of it. Of course I've read a LOT of similar stories to mine and shared my own as well, yes in a small part for validation and encouragement, but mostly to help, to relate, to learn, to get over it faster. Again, nothing wrong with that. Believe me, I hate feeling that way, being affected that much, and all that. It's not in line with my character and mental outlook. But it's there, can't ignore it, but move on.

[@owenbowler8616]

One of my favourite R.C. vids, at heart this is just a piece of kindness.

[@toddmason7429]

We all have scars from living life...i have a big scar on my throat from a trach when i was 24..an off road motocross accident left me with no voice for 3 months..after recovering i got back on my bike and still ride..my good friend told me now you have a great story to tell your grandchildren someday..i never thought of that at the time but now it is an obstacle i overcame and a badge of honor. .