Your Aromantic Stories

Hello my lovely peeps! I did a poll last week on what you guys wanted to see for this year's Aromantic Awareness Week and aromantic stories won out! It's so important this week to hear and listen to aromantic experiences and i just hope I made something the aro community can be proud of. Thank you to everyone who sent in their aro stories. I didn't get to read all of them so I might do another video like this in the future! I hope you all enjoy this and HAPPY AROMANTIC AWARENESS WEEK!
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[@AR-il4zy]

When I'm at my job, I can't help but overhear my straight, allo coworkers CONSTANTLY talking about relationship problems with each other and honestly it makes me feel greatful to be aroace lol

[@McMerlin11]

Right? It honestly all sounds so exhausting. I personally don’t understand why people want to go through all that, but then again I don’t know what romantic or sexual attraction feels like lol

[@Never_again_against_anyone]

@@McMerlin11 I fail to understand their desire to talk thaaaaat muuuuuuch about it. I mean if they would at least stick to discussing the topic with really close friends/ about them and about people whom they sort of desire, it would somehow make sense. Instead there seems to be no limit. And I think: " Why? Why can't they tune it down just a little bit and talk a bit more about other things?"

[@LightblueStar27]

​@@Never_again_against_anyone I think the same, I don't understand why is it so interesting to them to talk sooo much about relationships and that sort of things, it's too repetitive and boring in my opinion, and there are a lot of other stuff they could talk about. It's like if relationships were the most important thing in life for them.

[@sofiastudios8075]

Real!

[@Robloxwithstacey]

Gotta gobble down the garlic breads and cakes while we sit and listen to

[@roseforcatsandbooks]

I’m aromantic asexual. It’s so weird to see everyone do “normal” things like dating and feel like I’m normal too, except I’ve never had a crush and would never ever date someone. Truth is, I’m not mad, I never was. I like being myself most of the time. 💚

[@liamodonovan6610]

Iam like you ace /aro i never date and would never date

[@Never_again_against_anyone]

@@liamodonovan6610 Same here.

[@Me_I-cartoons]

I'm Not asexual but im aromantic I can relate

[@cornernumber6241]

You're just like me fr

[@crowbirdy]

Ace aro here aswell, samee

[@eloquentornot]

Ok but the thing about romantic anxiety. When I was a kid, I watched a few shows where a character would have a crush on a guy, and she would get nervous about it, butterflies etc, and she would (initially) NOT want him to know about it. She would watch him from afar, admiring his pretty face etc, but any thought of telling him about her crush would be shot down instantly! And I thought I was the same way? Only, it turns out, I was just feeling aesthetic attraction, and my desire to "not do anything about it" was genuine, because I truly didn't want that sort of relationship. And in the TV shows, the girl denies her crush because she's scared that it WON'T be reciprocated, not scared that it WILL. But because it's portrayed as normal to feel anxious around a crush, and any time I started thinking "he's cool looking" I would get nervous because I didn't want to waste time feeling that way around someone, and I genuinely didn't want to think about the possibility of him asking me out... Yeah, it should really have been a sign that I was aroace when one of my "crushes" turned out to have a partner already and I was relieved because that meant there was no chance he would ask me out.

[@NikkiBudders]

Funny enough I always had the opposite experience somewhat. Every time my friends talked about having a crush I always responded with 'OK so confess already, you'll either be shot down and get to stop agonizing like a weirdo or now you're together' because the decision always felt painfully arbitrary to me 😂 I still don't get how people can flip flop over the 'does he like me?' stuff.

[@Mems4lyf]

When i tell you the EXACT same thing happened to me😂. I think im aroace but im still questioning. I guess this is a sign...??

[@ecowo57]

I love reading stories about romantic love and in theory I'd love to go through that, but when I get a chance, while still wanting a relationship, all the romantic part feels kinda gross ngl

[@korok_05]

felt tbh

[@SanaTT]

same, except I'm more of "I'm not interested at all" I want those stories but at a distance please 🤣🤣

[@ecowo57]

@Catalina tbh that really sounds like me

[@roar64]

You may be cupioromantic!

[@NikkiBudders]

​@SanaTT same. Ironically I love reading romance novels, the shittier the better, because I don't imagine myself as the female lead. This was initially a reason I denied being aro, because I thought 'how can I not want romance but enjoy romance?'. Sometimes I envy the clarity of the other LGBTQ+ people 😂

[@weirdogirl1275]

I’m aromantic asexual and I just recently broke up with my boyfriend. Like a few days ago recently. I was with him for more than four years, if you can believe it. We didn’t do any hanky panky or anything. We’re both awkward nerds and it was awesome. But unlike with the intimate stuff, where it actually feels like something is wrong, the romantic stuff was never gross to me. I was actually one of those kids who fell in love with the idea of falling in love. It sounded like the best thing ever and everyone had at least one falling moment. I was just waiting for mine. But it never came. With the first guy in high school, we just didn’t do romantic stuff. We hung out like friends do. That breakup wasn’t painful at all. It was kinda mutual and full of understanding actually. Second one was just bad news turned annoying friend. This was my third. He was the sweetest kindest softest man I’d ever gone out with. We also both enjoy karaoke. But, whenever the romantic stuff happened, I realize now that at the time, I didn’t understand what I was supposed to feel. A lot of the time, those supposed romantic moments just felt empty and awkward. Like the feeling that was supposed to be there was invisible to me, so I often completely missed those moments. Not all of them. Some of them were so obviously the romantic kind of thing to do that I just played along, but I didn’t have any romance of my own on my mind. I was just thinking, this is for him, not me. The romantic moments pass me by unless it’s a lot like those romantic tv tropes we see everywhere. I’ve watched a lot of tv in my time, and I mean A LOT. That’s the only reason I recognized anything at all. But yeah. Romance feels empty to me. Like nothing is being added to the situation when they are clearly adding something very important. Something we aros just can’t see. It’s scary to think that I won’t have that romantic life partner to help anchor me. I’m still working through what was something I learned on tv and what is stuff I actually believe in. Sorry I know I’m rambling. There’s just so much it feels like.

[@vivianchiang5721]

That was the best description of being aro I have ever read so far

[@weirdogirl1275]

@@vivianchiang5721 Wow, thank you! I really struggled with this aromantic part of myself for a long time, and making that decision to break up was really hard, so you just helped me feel like that was in fact the right decision to make. You made me feel real, so thank you.

[@vivianchiang5721]

@@weirdogirl1275 anytime, feel free to reach me if you ever wanna talk about it. I was never able to phrase it like you

[@owli-wankenobi3727]

I can certainly relate to the description of romance as 'invisible.' It's like some part of your mind knows there's an additional emotion you're not feeling, so whenever I found anyone more attractive than most, I'd spend the next several minutes silently debating whether or not what I was feeling was a crush, then going about my day without feeling any particular way again, but eternally confused as to what it was I felt. Now that I know I'm aroace, it's a lot easier to tell and I'm not as confused.

[@dean1111]

i also definitely feel in love with the idea of being in love, and the idea of being love. its hard unlearning that

[@McMerlin11]

The main thing that helped me realized I was aromantic was the “picking a crush” thing. I did that from kindergarten through the beginning of my junior year of high school, no exaggeration. People would ask me why I liked a certain person, and I would say something like “Oh, he’s funny…” I’m just now finding out what a crush actually is and I find that hilarious

[@roar64]

This happened to me too. In the 4th grade I acted like I liked someone bc they liked me and we were (sort-of) friends so I was just like "This is a nice human."

[@cradica]

I did "pick crushes" in elementary school. It's like I felt a mixture of friendship and romantic love. IDK I was like 9 to 11. However going into Jr. High and High school, I tried to get into a relationship, but I just wasn't feeling it!

[@pinkclodsire]

All my "guy crushes" we're just gender envy 😭😭

[@v_1503]

Same for me but with girls lol

[@smudge8882]

Big mood!

[@MsAngrybutterfly]

I'm Aromantic and didn't know it was a thing until a couple years ago, I was married for about 10 years to a great guy and I just couldn't get the hang of it. I tried dating people after I got divorced, because that's what you're supposed to do , right? I finally got bored with it because I just wanted to get dressed up and go out and do an activity, not have it turn into something else. Every time I was in a romantic relationship, even with my ex husband, I felt uncomfortable in a way I couldn't really define, I didn't have a name for it. When Jaden talked about her going through logic when evaluating potential romantic partners, I was like "THAT'S HOW I PICKED ALEX!!" My ex husband is an objectively great person. After about a year of attempting to date people, I got bored and stopped trying, after about 5 years, I dreaded the idea of partnership, after about 7, I found out what "Aromantic" was, and finally had the word for what I was feeling. I am romance repulsed as well, and people always tell you when you're grossed out at romantic movies as a little kid that "you'll understand when you're older" I'm 47 and I'm still as romance repulsed as I was when I was 5. I actually really hated when Marceline and Bubblegum got together at the end of Adventure Time and I was worried I had some internalized homophobia until I realized My happy ending would have been to keep traveling the universe solo.

[@Nathan-yk2le]

I have no idea how I missed the fact that I was Aro/ace for as long as I did. I didn't go on a date or have a relationship until college, and that only happened because someone asked me out. I said yes because I figured that everyone needed crazy first girlfriend stories, right? (And boy, do I have some now. I won't go into it beyond stating that if you're going to do a pregnancy scare to get a boy to marry you, make sure that you two sleep together first).

[@mimthyss]

Hoooh boy who wants to hear my very long ramble? Here we gooo I somewhat recently started identifying as aroace. But my journey here was a very confusing one haha. As a kid, probably from 6-13 or so, boys would sometimes ask me out. Just like another person in the video, I would say yes, because I thought that's just what you were supposed to do. Neither of us ever acted on it in most of these "relationships" besides one - my first one, actually I think, when I was super young! - where we would sneak off, kiss, and then be like ok bye lol. There were a couple I enjoyed the company of, I liked talking to them and having a laugh, but we never even held hands or anything like that and eventually I would always break up with them. I felt a little bad and would worry about upsetting them, of course, but I never felt sad about it for myself. It's funny, the last boyfriend I had at probably ~12/13 would come knock at my door and ask if I was in, because he wanted to go to the park together and hang out or whatever. And... oh boy, I used to hide, make my mum answer the door and practically begged her to tell him I wasn't in or wasn't feeling well so I didn't have to go. Um, hello, past me?? Big sign right there, lol! 😂 Anyway, so eventually I realised I was different in some way, and it felt like everything clicked into place when I thought I had my first ever crush on a girl. I was like, ohhh, it all makes sense! The reason I never felt anything besides awkward when I kissed a boy or "dated" them was because I'm actually only interested in girls! Which was a scary thing to realise at first, since the fear of rejection by family and friends is very strong - fortunately I'm blessed to have a family who accepted this fairly easily when i worked up the courage to come out. This is where things got more confusing, lol. I 'crushed' soo hard on this one girl. She was one of the "popular girls", and she was (is) super pretty! I was shocked when she and I started to become friends, because I never thought someone popular and pretty would want to speak to one of the resident weirdos^tm, haha, let alone invite me to hang out/come over etc. So we became very good friends and I intensely admired her. I told her I had a crush on her, and she told me she was straight. I don't really remember how but somehow we ended up in an unusual situation where I knew she wouldn't date me and so did she, but maybe she was curious? One way or another we would end up making out on several occasions lol. But the thing is, I still didn't feel anything - I was super anxious and in my head about how to kiss properly and whether or not she was enjoying it, but I guess I assumed the anxiety I felt was the supposed "butterflies" you're meant to feel. In retrospect I think she was my first ever squish, not crush - I loved her dearly, more so than a platonic friend, but I didn't actually want to do romantic things with her. I was very very happy just to hang out and bask in her presence so to speak haha, I loved her company and thought she was the sweetest, coolest person, and wanted to be her friend forever, haha. Anyway, I ended up dating somebody else somewhere later down the line I believe, and once again I found that I didn't really feel anything when kissing them. At this point I just assumed well, I always figured they were exaggerating - there's no way people really feel like they pretend to in stories and movies, it's just portrayed that way for extra added drama and effect. Because after all, everyone feels romantic love, and I was certain I didn't for males, so it HAD to be for females, right? Since I really loved their company and spending time with them, and hugging is really nice, and I don't mind holding hands sometimes, then this must be what love is. Eventually broke up with that person too, after some months or so. The most confusing part of it all was my best friend..! I care about them so very deeply, I love them to the moon and back, haha. But distinguishing what kind of love I was feeling was so hard. When we were just best friends, I thought the intensity of how much I cared for them and their wellbeing, how I wanted to spend lots of time with them, and had the urge to hug them or otherwise make physical (non-romantic, non-sexual) contact, - things like patting them or squishing their cheeks or whatever else haha - how they were my number 1 meant I loved them romantically. I asked them out, and they said yes! To my surprise, they liked me back. I wasn't expecting that, really. From then on not much changed for some time, and we both thought its because we're just too awkward to get past the usual way of interacting with each other as friends. We would hold hands and hug more, sometimes sit in each others laps if we're feeling brave lol, but I didn't feel the need to do more than that - I just knew they wanted to kiss and be more "coupley" and I felt uncomfortable at that. Which was highly confusing because like I say, I cared so so much for them. I guess I went through the motions, and did kiss them several times, but never felt any different about it. I ended up breaking up with them, which was immensely hard because of how upset they were. They truly seemed heartbroken at the time and I felt awful about it, especially because neither of us could understand why I cared so much but also not enough, it seemed. Anyway, then it happened all over again - two more times...! 🤦‍♀️ I feel really stupid for it now, but whenever we weren't "officially together" I felt like I wanted to be closer/more than friends, but whenever we were together, I didn't actually want to be romantic. I felt selfish, like i just "wanted what i couldn't have", especially when i would get jealous over them crushing on or flirting with other people. Yikes. We're still friends now, and I've finally started to come to terms with the fact that I'm pretty sure I'm aroace, lol. There are so many things that make sense to me now in restrospect, like never having crushes, never understanding why anyone would want to have s3x and all the 'hype' around it (I would always complain, and still do, about all the gratuitous s3x scenes in shows and movies because it is so uneccessary to show that whole thing!! We get it, just cut to black!), why I don't feel butterflies and heart flutters, why kissing and such just seems kinda gross to me, why I don't enjoy s3xual themed music, etc, that I wish i knew ages ago so I could've saved us all - especially my best friend - all the trouble and pain I caused! On the bright side, they're in a loving happy polycule now, which delights me greatly!!! I'm so glad they have people who can actually meet their needs, and reciprocate their feelings properly. And I finally know that I just really want QPPs, not romantic relationships - it's why I still love the idea of romance in theory, and like reading stories about it etc. It's really nice to imagine having that deep emotional bond with someone, and sharing your life with them, just not the rest of it lol. Congrats to you if you read all of this haha, hello 👋 you now know a bit about me, a random stranger, pfft.

[@ghost_li]

i’ve never related to anything more in my entire life.

[@darrylisberg9483]

Thank you for writing this out in detail. I really relate to what you have written!!

[@books3597]

Im aroace and instead of picking crushes like a lot of other people seemed to do I thought that basically friend feelings towards girl = best friend and friend feelings towards boy = crush/boyfriend and that was my logic till I was about 14 so whenever someone asked who my crush was i said my best friend who was a boy whoever that happened to be and I thought for like 3 years that looking at someone and thinking they're cool looking was sexual attraction, when nope, not want that is, honestly I should have realized something wasn't quite normal when I thought about what a relationship would be like I was excited about the breakup too since it's part of the 🌟experience🌟and I was thinking about dating as something to try because you haven't, like some people view skydiving or something i guess and I find my own continued obviousness for years kinda funny so maybe you will to, I also thought friends with benifits meant friends who got married for tax benifits for years so yeah

[@puan1211]

I remember when I first realized I was aro-ace I was distraught, I broke down completely for a couple of days. I thought I had lost something very important and the idea of never liking someone romantically crushed me... Then I moved on and completely forgot about it, and once more assumed I was straight because little ol’ me had no idea aromantic and asexual was a thing. Looking back it’s soo obvious, and I think it’s sad it’s not more common knowledge. I hope in the future there are fewer kids like me who has to go through that without knowing it’s fine

[@hunternocedaclawthorn]

Lol same, I'd "realize" I'm aroace and then forget for awhile and then figure it out again. It happened again recently, "oh I think I'm aroace" and then I find a post from 5 yrs ago where I literally referred to myself as aroace and completely forgot about it

[@CravingNoMercy]

Some things are starting to make more sense 🤔 Maybe this is why when I went on a third date with a guy and he dumped me I was more annoyed I'd missed a movie marathon with my friends 😅

[@AnthroFiend]

Thank you SO much for putting this stuff out there! I’m aroace, and I didn’t realize I was aro until part way through the second of the two relationships I’d ever been in. I’m still friends with this person, I still love her, but it took awhile for me to realize that it wasn’t romantically. When we kissed for the first time, I just felt…nothing. It was kinda sticky, but that was it. Her telling me afterwards how wonderful it had felt made me realize that my feelings might not be the same. Very proud to be aro! 💚🖤💚

[@dorashinguji2727]

same about kissing, i thought it would be a "magical" thing, but it wasn't. i haven't told her yet.. happy pride month to you!!

[@AnthroFiend]

@@dorashinguji2727 And to you as well!

[@evilemuempire9550]

Here’s one for ya. My mom and siblings were discussing they’re celebrity crushes, when I walked into the room they asked me mine. This was something I’d literally never thought about, after humming and hahing for a minute, I just said the lead singer of a band I liked. I still don’t really understand crushes, like is it just something that happens, do you pick them, or is it just the person you find the most physically attractive? As a side note, being a guy who’s never dated nor had any desire to, the term “incel” gets thrown around sometimes (mostly jokingly). Needless to say, being associated with people who hate women and see life as just some grand game that they’re losing really sucks.

[@CrepuscularQueen]

I was 9 ish and a church friend of mine asked if he could kiss me on the lips because he was moving away (the pastors son) and he liked me or something. I remember saying no I didn't want to and was confused why he would want that. I did give him goodbye hugs as I often did anyways because he was a playmate at sunday school though the years. That must have been a big aroace moment looking back because alot of my younger siblings and friends had kissed someone at age 6 through 8 or people I know still want to kiss someone and I'm still eh not really.

[@bluesusername]

jeez that is so young....always shocks me how young allos are when they start feeling all the romantic/lovey dovey stuff haha makes me think, huh, maybe i really am not too young to identify as aroace

[@rossimilanova9361]

this is so long and probs no one is gonna read it but i need to rant cause i just found out about this so i’m in my feels about it atm💀i got my first bf when i was 15. i didn’t want one and i was always very confused on why considering most of my friends were constantly in relationships. ngl everyone thought i was gay. i’m bisexual and i knew that then so i didn’t really think that factored into the situation i was in🤷‍♀️ well anyways i hung out with him cause i was very physically attracted to him and i liked our conversations (now i know it was all very platonic for me). he asked me out and i wasn’t expecting it. i was scared and said yes. he held my hand and i remember feeling absolutely horrified at that small action which was a mindfuck for me me because even if i wasn’t actually interested in him it didn’t feel normal for me to literally feel sick at the thought of being in a romantic relationship with him. i went home and cried. i stuck it out for about 3 months cause it was during initial covid lockdowns thank god and i didn’t have to actually see him a lot. but when we went back to school i literally found myself running away from him and later realised that i was so repulsed by the romantic interactions we were having that i lost every other attraction to him. i genuinely started to hate him and he was so nice:( i went down a rabbit hole the weeks after i broke up w/ him, gooleing what was wrong with me. i was literally searching up things if i could potentially be a sociopath but with empathy only towards family and animal. it makes no sense i know but i was so so confused at the time and i had no idea what to look for. well eventually i stumbled onto aromanticism and at the time i could literally only find one video on the topic. and it took me a while to identify with cause i also didn’t know that you could be aromatic but not asexual. but eventually i finally understood what it was that was ‘wrong with me’. i honestly felt at peace knowing why my whole life i had never had a crush on anyone and never really wanted to be in a relationship at all. here’s where the actual problem came in. i went on with my life pretty happy for about a year after that. i ended up meeting this boy in my english class and he became probably the closest person in my life. we were friends for a whole year and i knew he liked me but stuck through a very long time of me just unable to even consider him. eventually i started seeing him as someone i wanted to be more than friends with but still, i wasn’t comfortable with a romantic relationship. that when on for a whole and then all of a sudden it hit me, literally out of nowhere, and i realised i was in love with that man. like very badly. like it genuinely happened in a week. i became more comfortable with doing things like king hugs or small kisses here and there. still was quite difficult for me but i really did care about him and it felt completely different from anything i had felt before. i wanted to do things with him. things that were stuff couples would usually do but not in the sense of picnics and dates. it’s hard to explain but i think stuff more associated with a grand out of this world love or something simple like reading our books together at a coffee shop, rather than a typical cute romance because i was still struggling with that aspect of things. well long story short not long after i had finally figured things out with him he gave up i think. i never gave him enough and it was too slow. he had told me over the course of that year and a half that he was in love with me and that i was hurting him and i just couldn’t explain that i wanted him in my life as someone more than just a friend but i don’t want to date him. but that just made no sense to me even in my head. so yeah i don’t blame him at all because i hurt him unknowingly and for such a long time ( he literally spent a year of his life waiting for me). and i was very heartbroken. i had never expected that stuff to hurt this much because once again i never got that type of stuff in general. i felt physical pain in my chest from the second i woke up to the moment i finally cried myself to sleep. he got a gf 2 weeks after so i knew i would just have to sit in it ( loosing my closest friend and the person i was in love with at once, without proper closure and the ability to talk things through with him. anyways at that point all thoughts that i could be aromatic were completely out of my head cause i was clearly in love with him. i tried so many things to get over it. i was always with so many guys and did everything in my power to force myself to catch feelings for someone so i could feel better but nothing even came close to it. i was at the point where i was getting all these sneaky links in the hopes i would experience the thing a lot of people say happens (hopping id get attached and catch feeling for them). nope. i think that now that i know i’m on the aro spectrum i can understand that it also made me getting over the breakup so much harder because it’s so rare for me to catch feelings i was starting to develop this notion that he was the perfect person and the only one i was ever meant to be with and that no one would be this good ever again, when my brain was just wired that way and i couldn’t feel that connection for someone in that way. i couldn’t get a rebound at all, no one could take my mind off of him cause i was just back in that phase of being completely by romance, and now it was more like ‘completely repulsed by romance unless it was him. it hard to put into words but i kind of just had to sit in this feeling with absolutely no way out and wait for it to fade naturally which i think was a lot harder for me considering the extreme emotional bond i had to have with him to even consider being in a semi romantic relationship. it’s been 2 years since and i have finally fallen out of love with him even though i do think about him a lot still. i think because i’d never felt that way before him and i haven’t felt that way after him. like at all. 0%. and not even love just any kind of care for spent time with him. it was hard honestly. i came to the conclusion that childhood and current trauma were the reason behind what i had gone through for the last 18 years. i was involved (not romantically) with a lot of people since then. i cared about some of then but again in a platonic way. except one who i was friends with for years. i was in the stage of more than friends but not dating (which i was very happy with) but he started treating me terribly and it did hurt me a lot which i now can’t help but feel hurts the credibility of me being aro. but honestly i know that it was purely because i was so close with him and was always nice to him while he couldn’t show the basic decency. because i decided to cut him off and i never really missed him. only the king friendship i had lost. and finally i met this guy pretty recently, a model (that’s literally his job), smart and genuinely the nices person i’ve met ( he asked me to put my face id on his phone like the third time we hung out so i could choose music better). but once again i was only in it because i was physically attracted to him and eventually the cycle with my first bf started repeating and i started finding everything about him repulsive. i tried to tell him i didn’t want a relationship and he didn’t take it well, which i couldn’t really process considering i had only known him for 3 months. i felt bad obviously cause i went back to that place of wtaf is wrong with me i keep hurting literally everyone and i can’t explain it. long story short cause i’m tired of typing but i started looking into aro more and found out that is actually a spectrum and the fact that i was in love with someone did not make me automatically allo. so yes i as of recently know for a fact that i am a romance repulsed grayromantic. and that even with partners i may him in the future i will never be fully comfortable with a stereotypical romantic relationship. i am currently in a middle ground of finally feeling at ease and satisfied with that conclusion, and scared that i will be stuck in a cycle of falling for close friends, getting hurt and hurting them because i simply cannot give them what they want, and subsequently loosing them. we’ll have to see i guess but yep anyways been typing for an hour cause i fr figured this all out recently (on the first day of pride month coincidentally lol) so it’s really fresh😃

[@JuriAmari]

Oof. Went through something very similar with my streaming partner. I’m still figuring out my place on the romantic spectrum. I’m definitely romance positive. I’ve had crushes but they were so long ago I don’t remember exactly how they feel anymore. One thing’s for sure - it wasn’t terror. Also, because I focused so much on academia and my parents discouraged me from going out until college (I also decided to wait until after college - I wanted to be in a better financial position and I’d most likely find people on my level at that point), I had little to no idea of what I was looking for, let alone what I wanted. I was pretty neutral - if I ended up with someone, bonus. If I was alone, not a big deal. I think my issue is with US dating culture as well - we tend to go super fast here so those who are late bloomers, from small towns, or just not into the scene feel left in the dust. Right now I’m trying not to box myself in with labels but I’m leaning towards aroflux until otherwise proven.

[@dean1111]

(dw you don't have to read, its just some personal stuff) I really relate to you. i met this guy a few weeks ago and we really, really hit it off, and im not a very social person so this doesn't happen to me often. it literally felt like fate, and he had broken up with his gf recently, so i convinced myself i had to be romantically attracted to him because anything 'less' wouldn't be 'good enough' and this may be my only chance. so basically i felt platonic and physical attraction towards him, and tried to really get myself to like him, but i noticed that i couldn't and that i was slowly actually getting repulsed by him. he was my first 'crush' in years where there was an actual possibility of reciprocation, all the ones before were me staring from afar and therefore not realizing I don't want an actual relationship with them. so basically anytime he did anything that could be seen as romantic, i felt physically unwell, and just didn't know why. even the platonic & physical attraction went away suddenly because i just really wanted to get away from the romance. because of those feelings i plunged down the rabbit hole of aromanticism, and everything started to make sense. me only having crushes that i didn't actually want reciprocated, me never fantasizing about doing romantic stuff, only being loved & in a relationship, and the breakup lmao. i think i misinterpreted physical attraction and wanting validation as romantic, and was never actually interested in romance. this is all kinsa shocking because 3 weeks ago i didn't know any of this, but I'm actually kinda grateful because now i know. i also know he has a crush on me tho, and also that the friend who told me that probably told him about the repulsion without my consent, so I'm pretty lost rn, and also kinda repulsed by him in general. but its gonna be fine, and atleast i know now haha

[@Aroacerat]

I read it all - I feel bad for you having gone through the loss of people close to you just because you didn’t reciprocate romantic feelings.

[@melody3783]

3:45 What exactly is a platonic crush and how is it supposed to feel like?

[@frejhedman9830]

For me it's just like I wanna have a deep connection with them and just have a close and intimate relationship that doesn't include anything romantic or sexual. I felt that for someone and it took me literal years to figure out that it was platonic and not romantic even if I never really wanted to be romantic with the person. So yea it might feel a lot like having a romantic crush but just none of the romantic desire if that makes sense?

[@ecowo57]

I guess it's different for everybody, but for me it's like wanting to share my life with someone because of how much I like the way they are and spending time with them, but wanting to behave just like friends and just acknowledging how much I appretiate them. It feels deeper than a friendship, but it isn't romantic love

[@melody3783]

@@frejhedman9830 Yeah it makes sense ^^ Thank you for your response

[@melody3783]

@@ecowo57 Thank you for your response ^^

[@Eniramoi]

When I was around 16 I got a squish - which I thought was a crush of course. I met him via mutual friends whom we'd play games during lunch and he got my phone number from one of them. We started talking when he wished me happy birthday and we grew attached to each other. A few months later he confessed and asked if I wanted to date him. Now in my small confused young little aroace brain I only saw it as the possibility of seeing more of his cute face and doing more things with him. So I said alright. Mind you that boy was confused to not see any change in my behaviour. I was still cold as heck. He started being a bit more touchy, hugging me, cuddling me, and I would just stand straight still. Straight lol I felt uncomfortable. And it was so weird but I felt guilty and ashamed to react that way??? Then he started wanting more, as in kisses. And oh boy was that the worst. He would try and forcefully kiss me and I would turn my head away, dodging his kisses. One day he managed to reach my mouth and I just froze like that with my mouth closed. It was disgusting, so wet and disgusting jesus so bad. I felt defeated and dirty. Which I'm still feeling bad for feeling that way cause it's "only a kiss" and it could have been much worse, like rape! So I started Googling things like "why don't I want to kiss my boyfriend?" and that's how I slowly started to discover about asexuality and aromanticism. That was in 2016-2017, and I've been doing a lot of research since then. But back then I was confused and unsure of what I was so still I would stay in a "relationship" with him. My mum was the one to put the "boyfriend" label on him and because of that she would push me to invite him over quite often. She insisted I invited him for Christmas Eve, with my freaking family, jesus. He met my family. I felt so uncomfortable throughout the whole dinner cause I couldn't help thinking about what they might be thinking about me. "She has a boyfriend, surely she gets all lovey-dovey with him, surely she has sex with him" and imagining people thinking that about me makes me sick. He stayed over and slept in my bed. Yup. That made me sick too, knowing there were my parents and brother in the house and imagining what they could be thinking. At some point, he was cuddling me and told me "arms up" to take my PJs top off. At the time I didn't even understand why he would ask that, it's only after a while I figured it had to be because of my top. I just replied "no...? why?". He got off me and turned away and slept like that with his back at me. So that was Christmas Eve. For NYE I got invited to his place. At some point we were on his bed and he was tickling me. At some point he put his hand on my chest and kept tickling me and as I was laughing he forcefully shoved his hand down the top of my dress and oh god I froze and tried to push him away but he was groping my right boob. That made me stop laughing right away. I did push him away but he had time to touch me. I felt so disgusting. A few days later I texted him that I no longer wanted to be his "girlfriend" and that I never wanted to see him again. I never did. I've heard from mutual friends he had to go see a therapist because of me. They blamed me for what I did. Or didn't do, I guess. But yeah this is my story. Edit: just remembered that when I started talking about how "abnormal" I was, he had the cheek and asked if it was okay for him to go have sex somewhere else???!?!?!

[@prestonknight2485]

3:20-4:25 this story is almost identical to my own story. I also had a friend when I was 16 who I was attracted to, and whom was attracted to me. I intended to pursue a relationship, but in the end, I could only muster up admitting I had a crush on her. After that, there were so many anxiety blocks for me (and probably her as well, but I don’t know for sure). - Between my romance-repulsed aromatic nature, and what I now recognize as relationship OCD, I was imploding with so much crippling anxiety that I not only canceled my plan to pursue an intimate relationship with her, but I also ended our friendship altogether. - I’m sure we could be friends again if I reached out, but it’s been four to five years since we last talked, so I’m reluctant. And, I don’t ever want to even consider pursuing an intimate relationship ever again. For me, it just ruins friendships. - I wish I had known I was a romance-repulsed aromantic with relationship OCD, back when I was 16. The knowledge alone would have saved me from a lot of agony.

[@Animus5134]

Aroace here, just started using that label online. I've only come out to a couple people irl, but hopeful that will change soon.

[@zuuza_c1669]

I know it was 3 months ago but how are you doing? I've been wanting to come out as aroace myself and I have no idea how. I feel like I wan't people to know but do I just tell them out of nothing or wait for someone to bring the topic? I guess the second option makes sense but do I wan't to wait? And what if they never ask? I'm just gonna be in closet forever and they're going to think I'm some lonely girl who cannot find anybody. I think I need help 💀

[@Animus5134]

@@zuuza_c1669 I've been great, learned alot more about myself, but there's no way I'm coming to my parents, there are pretty closed minded. My dad once scoffed at a TV character who was ace. So, yeah. The only family member I've come out to is my sister and she was so supportive. But I'm planning on coming to other family members that I know will be supportive.

[@terrylynn7936]

in elementary school, I saw people having crushes both around me and in media, so I thought I needed to get myself a crush too. So I looked around and picked out a guy simply because I liked his haircut. I kind of obsessed over having a proper crush, but instead of actually getting to know him I'd just ask around what he likes, then I'd do research on said thing, and then go to him and pretend like I was so knowledgeable about this thing. Eventually, he actually fell for me. We got together. But to me, it wasn't much different from before. At some point, a friend wanted to test if I really liked him, and asked me if I had the desire to kiss him. My immediate thought was "no, not at all", but I felt like I shouldn't say that since I had a crush on him, so I said "sure, i guess" and shrugged. At some point he got a different haircut and immediately the thing I had initially chosen him for was gone. There was nothing I could hold onto. So I started to ignore him. He was super worried that he'd done something wrong and tried to make it up by making me presents, but to me, he was a stranger again. It's so sad if you're thinking about it, but I just couldn't get myself to care. Now, many years later, I met him again, and we became best friends. He's a pretty amazing guy, and I try to show him my love in my way - which isn't romantic, or sexual - but it's not any less strong. Yay, happy ending.

[@Aroacerat]

I love the ending! 💚💜

[@owli-wankenobi3727]

Honestly, that last one just sounds strange to me. Romance didn't even exist as a concept for me until like, 6th grade or so (at the very least I never once thought about it before then), so the idea of elementary school kids having boyfriends and girlfriends is just really weird and unnatural to me. Thank you for making this video, Lynn! I like to return to it every so often and relax. It reminds me that there are other people out there that feel a similar way about romance to myself and I, for one really appreciate that.

[@user-cy4fd7mx5k]

As someone who is on the AroAce spectrum but more on the cupioromantic side, my realizing was kind of different from those stories. I still want a “relationship” but more like a qpr. I HATE how romance monopolized affection. I like going on “dates” with my friends. I don’t feel romantic (or sexual) attraction at all but the idea of a relationship seems nice to me, like a supersupersuper best friend kind of thing. For the longest time I didn’t know those were different things.It’s been a confusing journy, the desire for a relationship but the inability to feel that kind of atraction. Lol

[@andreadepre4863]

I love seeing my friends happy and in love. Every year, I play a love song 🎹 for my friends’s anniversary. For myself, I call romance a waste of time, sometimes even dangerous. I hate it when someone flirts with me.😣

[@danhurl1349]

I’m aroace and thank you!!

[@just_peachy3582]

Sometimes I love being aromantic. And other times… I feel lost. I watch tv shows and movies and watch people experience romantic and sexual connections. It makes me crave that kind of intimacy, but I end up remembering that’s not in the cards for me. It’s frustrating to say the least, wanting to love people in a way you aren’t able to. I can fantasize and dream all I want, but when it comes to the real thing, I feel nothing. That doesn’t mean I don’t have love in my life or that I don’t love and feel loved. I just have a hard time loving a part of myself that is essentially incapable of the kind of love I want to experience. Growing up a hopeless romantic who turns out to be aromantic is quite maddening. And it took me a long time to figure out my identity. I still question it sometimes because I can almost convince myself my platonic love is enough to count as romantic. But I have some amazing friends and family. I am happy with what my future holds for me. But a part of my childhood and ultimately my life will always feel a bit hollow when I know not all of my dreams will come true, even if it seems like such a simple dream for others.

[@just_peachy3582]

I do want to make it clear that not all aromantics even want romantic relationships. I am just an aromantic who does want a romantic relationship. Even if it’s not entirely plausible. I don’t wish to sadden anyone who is newly coming into their aromantic identity. This is just one of the things I struggle with and wanted to get it off my chest. I hope one day I can have a QPR (queer-platonic-relationship) and I will feel just a fulfilled as any stereotypical romantic relationship would feel like to alloromantics. I’m very grateful to the aro community because without learning this side of my identity, I would feel even more lost and lonely.

[@liamodonovan6610]

So beautiful to see you lynn iam asexual and aromantic and your video make me feel less alone love you so much lynn you are a beautiful beautiful person thank you so much for your beautiful intelligent videos

[@fukase__3745]

The thinking you like someone then getting a lot of anxiety over any sort of romantic activities is so relatable, I'm so happy to hear someone else has had that experience. Now I have wonderful friends and have grown to have a deep appreciation for platonic love.

[@fukase__3745]

A weird thing I found myself doing to avoid the anxiety was treat romance like a dating sim? but I was the character being dated and not the other way around. I saw everything as "choose an option" rather than an actual relationship with real feelings.

[@fukase__3745]

I still love the idea of romance, I used to read fanfiction all the time, I love shipping characters, but the thought of doing it myself brings such anxiety, it's enough for me to stop talking to someone entirely.

[@fukase__3745]

There was also a sort of relief when I broke up with the only romantic partner I've ever had. It feels weird to admit but all I could think was "Thank god it's over, I don't have to do this anymore" I've never once cried over him.

[@i_reallylikecrows]

bro i relatw to this so much. ill have the hugest crush on someone but if they show interest back i always get really bad anxiety and i have to reassure myself i dont have to date them if i dont want to. also my friend "fake dated" me for 3 years and i just thought she was doing that to be funny anytime she flirted with me it would go completely off my radar or id get really uncomfortable even though i thought i had a crush on her. the weird thing is i love reading romance stories and i wish i could feel that way but whenever i have the opportunity to be in a relationship i get soo grossed out

[@cthistorian4656]

I’m aromantic by the book. I “dated” someone and we said “I love you” from the outset and it really meant nothing to me in any emotional sense. I just said it because I felt it was proper and such. It lasted a total of two and a half to three weeks at the most and I didn’t feel anything when it ended. I don’t wish I had known back then because I am glad that I am now mature enough to fully understand the category I belong to

[@cradica]

Same

[@kaseyford1490]

I had a boyfriend at 21 and was really into him too. I broke up with him 2 weeks into the 'relationship' coz I was uncomfortable. I think he was into me a lot more than I was into him coz he treated it like a brake up and when I texted and said 'Can we just be friends, it hit him harder than it did with me. We volunteered together at work and he didn't show up for a least 4 weeks for fear of me being there. He even unfriended me on Facebook as well. Moral of the story is, if I knew Aromantic and Asexuality were a thing, I could've told him about it and got his reaction to it 😅 I'm now 35 and still don't have any desire to go down that path again. I'm happy flying solo with Platonic love instead 😊

[@loTonks]

I just recently found out that I might be aroace and so much stuff starts to make sense now. Until a few months ago I was one of these people who'd say "you're way to young to know if you aro/ace" because I thought that these teenagers couldn't possibly know that they won't experience sexual / romantic attraction in the future because I was their age and didn't experience anything like that either. I thought of myself as just a late bloomer and it took me awhile to realize that maybe I am not and it isn't 'normal' for an allo person to not experience any sexual or romantic attraction as a teenager.

[@dylanm8615]

Does it make me aro if every time I kissed, cuddled, and/or sexually interacted with someone ended in just a "oh that was hot :)"

[@Phoenix-md8sh]

I consider myself a romantic but I do have sexual attraction to people. I've had a friend with benefits before and it was one of my best relationships due to no strings being attached.

[@cradica]

I feel the same way. Though I may have had romantic feelings in Elementary school (Or at least I thought I did). TBH at that age it's hard to tell.

[@kinny6823]

I’m aro and I think I’m gray-ace. However I never really thought about engaging with the aroace community because I didn’t think I needed to. Looking now, I really like what I’m seeing. I should engage more :)

[@da1zed]

So Ive suspected Im aroace for a little while now, with a fluctuating orientation/preference as im both sex/romo positive. But I realised that throughout every relationship Ive been in, I was selfish, I loved what they did for me, and I cared more about them as a friend or a roomate than anything else. I only ever experienced crushes/attractions if you will, on friends, fictional characters or celebs. I dont find people sexually attractive either. And realising that has been liberating, I feel less stressed about my identity than I have in a long time. I dont want a romantic or sexual relationship, i want like a qpp or deep platonic bond.

[@isfavingurvids9]

I remember in high school a guy a couple grades below me had a crush on me. We were both in marching/pep band, he would always come to sit by me when he could. Minecraft was still new and he was showing me the game on his phone. He would put his hand on my knee, which made me really uncomfortable. I don't remember if I played along or not. We went on some kind of trip, and during the ride he would come sit by me and tell me about "oh btw I'm dating X now" and I was just like "oh ok that's cool" and generally didn't get why he was telling me this. It wasn't until after I graduated that my mom and brother were like "you know he had a HUGE crush on you, right?" I swear I had not a single clue.

[@theseedsofloveandhope]

*aromantics and asexuals are literally the best because they (and myself) are able to see and explore and understand all the other types of love/attraction like: intelligence, aesthetic, queerplatonic, platonic, alterous, and others if there are any...*

[@dylanm8615]

Im only 15, as far as I know I'm a straight male but have had little to no romantic feelings from anyone yet. I had no interest or desire to have it from romance in movies, every relationship I've been in it felt like I didn't like them enough, and every time I have a crush it's saturated and masked in sexual and aesthetic attraction, obscuring my whole vision on if I can like the person romantically or not. The whole world seems to condemn me for the way I've reciprocated love w partners(barely any at all) so I'm honestly just lost and am seeking refuge under the label aromantic. If you have advice, I'm willing to take anything. ( I stopped dating btw)

[@darrylisberg9483]

I'm happy that you've found out about aromanticism and atleast have that to fall back to. All you can do is continue on in your life and gauge whatever feels right as you experience emotions and activities as you get older. You posted this a year ago. Are you feeling any better about your romantic qualities?

[@stormfire2274]

Some These stories are similar my experiences before realizing that I'm aromatic and help me feel that my feelings were wrong

[@theseedsofloveandhope]

*i thought i had a crush on two of my classmates because i liked being around them and they were in opposite sex to me.* *but really i just wanted to be their friend because, looking back on it now, i wouldn't want to do any romantic stuff with them.* *Deciphering the difference between platonic and romantic attraction is a very crucial thing to potentially figuring out whether you're aromantic or not :p and maybe aroace*

[@cradica]

I think I felt the same way, but I felt something in-between " I want to be friends" and "I want to be your boyfriendc

[@trisharaichatterjee2578]

I am bisexual. I do have an ace, family member. My whole clan has a few members from my mom side that are part of the LGBT community. I like to call my large extended family from my mom side, a clan because they aren’t that big. I may have family members under this category. I may not. Either way I am here to support anybody in the LGBTQA plus community. I didn’t get that much support when I came out of the closet in 2009. from the outside world. Borderline shunned by my classmates. I will do anything to make sure that this doesn’t happen to my fellow LGBT brothers and sisters and preventing from such things to happen, including educating myself and supporting you guys whoever you guys are. And girls and non-binary pals

[@dylanm8615]

Would I still be considered part of the LGBTQ+ community if Im an aromantic straight cis male, because I really don't face any sort of oppression if I don't marry a woman or something(maybe seen as a disappointing failure to my family). I'd probably even get commemorated and seen as a player. I've been questioning that for a while.

[@onlyony]

hii! I think thats your desicion to make honestly. Technically you are part of the Lgbt community but if you don't feel comfortable labeling yourself that way thats fine too. I really recommend to check out Nik Hampshire on yt, he talks a lot about this since he's also a aromantic straight cis guy and a really cool dude :)

[@salem481]

I am very recently coming to terms with being an allosexual aromantic lesbian. I am currently in a relationship with a girlfriend of year. When I finally allowed myself to start thinking about being aro I felt a heartbreaking sense of relief. I always wanted something with us to just make sense, I wanted to say I love you back to her and mean it, but I just couldn't. Not the way they loved me. I still deeply care about her and know I need to end this relationship. Its not fair to her to continue it and ill hopefully be ending it sometime next month (to avoid dampening her favorite holiday and their birthday). Romantic things with them always brought me such anxiety for a reason i couldn't put my finger on until roughly a week ago. Knowing puts me at ease, though I have a lot of things to think about and to come to terms with. Thank you for putting out a video like this, as it has helped me soothe a bit of the grief ive been feeling for the life i no longer want to have

[@sebswede9005]

I'm 30 years old, i'm both asexual and aromantic, and i've never had a crush on anyone in my entire life. I don't like being touched, cuddle, or any intimate activities. Sex repulses me, i find sex gross and i hate it, even though i'm still a virgin. I don't have romantic feelings or sexual desires for anyone. I rather stay single than to be in a relationship with someone that i can't give love back to. Because i have no love to give back.

[@keiem5263]

during my first years in college, i thought i had a crush on one of my classmates. we talked about anime and stuff, and i wanted to talk more with him. Next, i had a crush on another classmate, who's part of our group, but i felt like im not really aesthetically crushing on him, its just that he's there and i can talk to him. Lastly was another guy who was also part of our group. It occurred to me then that I dont have a crush on them. I just want to hang out with them like how siblings do. same when i was at elementary. i had a crush on a guy and instead of using the term gf or bf, the thing that comes to mind is partner or to partnered with him. long story short, im starting to think im aro too.

[@zeliakora]

ive seen a lot of aro/ace ppl have experiences the 2nd one ahhha i forget best friend relationships are a thing too lol

[@Me_I-cartoons]

Im aromantic

[@sboylers]

I’m very late into the train but I wanted to share. In high school, I was called a home wrecker by many high school girls in relationships because I talked to their boyfriends like a normal person. I never had those romantic thoughts about them, just a person who I’m like “I can play video games with this person. Friend! 👍🏼” it got so bad that I now have hesitancy towards people in relationships. I have experienced crushes before (not the ones who were in relationships) but I never acted upon them. Therefore, my colorguard thought that was the greatest opportunity to virgin shame me. This was long before I knew I was aroace. But my colorguard always told me that “Wow, you don’t do anything” “Wow, that’s sad” “Wow, why are you like this?” Etc. I decided in college that I would try to be in a relationship because I assumed it would solve my problems, but I never got in one. One guy once had a crush on me, but it left me with such weird gut feeling. He was a nice guy, don’t get me wrong. He’s happily engaged now! I just had weird feelings about knowing that people saw me as attractive. I thought I was straight for the longest time, but when JaidenAnimations came out as aroace, it was a mirror to my face, and I felt like a weight had lifted off of me. I’ve come out ever since then, and I’m happily single open to mingle platonically, and happier than ever! Thanks for reading!

[@gracev1654]

i dont understand the boy in that story, he only talked to that person one time (asking them to be his girlfriend) but then was crying when he said they broke up with him? they never spoke/never did anything for 2 years?

[@RivLoveshine]

I am aroace. I have autism and ADHD. I was also born with developmental delays. I've known for almost my whole life about these things. I have always been mentally a couple years behind everyone else. Not as far as smarts go, but as far as interests and other stuff. In middle school (around age 11 to 13-ish) I still was playing with my toys and doing some imaginary play and loved my stuffed animals. Everyone else was into their phones and social media and, well you know, general teenage stuff. I remember feeling like an outcast because I was still into stuff everyone else seemed to grow out of. I wanted to be like the other kids that loved their phones and social media and whatever was a normal teen. I wasn't really feeling too weird and different because of not feeling romantic or sexual attraction. Throughout middle school I found the teenage stuff that I was actually into and slowly lost interest in the childish things naturally. By the time I was in about 10th or 11th grade (about 15 or 16 years old) I found the words aromantic and asexual. If I hadn't have found those terms I would have started to feel like an outcast again. I remember once when I was in 5th grade (about 10 years old) a friend asking me who my crush was and stuff. I felt so awkward about it and said Harry Potter (from the movies). Looking back now I think it was just gender envy. I am a trans man, so…

[@mothMOV]

I like romance I just don’t have crushes

[@cradica]

Same. Though I may have in elementary school (at least I thought I did)

[@dean1111]

gonna just ramble a bit: i met this guy a few weeks ago and we really, really hit it off, and im not a very social person so this doesn't happen to me often. it literally felt like fate, and he had broken up with his gf recently, so i convinced myself i had to be romantically attracted to him because anything 'less' wouldn't be 'good enough' and this may be my only chance. so basically i felt platonic and physical attraction towards him, and tried to really get myself to like him, but i noticed that i couldn't and that i was slowly actually getting repulsed by him. even the platonic and physical attraction faded quickly and were replaced by this feeling of being trapped. he was my first 'crush' in years where there was an actual possibility of reciprocation, all the ones before were me staring from afar and therefore not realizing I don't want an actual relationship with them. i see lots of people talking about mistaking romantic attraction for platonic attraction, but for me it was actually usually physical / sexual attraction that i mistook (I'm allosexual). also i think i just feel in love with the idea of being loved, and being in a relationship, because i thought that that would complete me and heal me and make me worthy, like being worthy of love. that explains to me why i always lost attraction after reciprocation, and why i always fantasized about being in a relationship for the sake of it, not actually doing romantic things because they're nice, and about the breakup and drama lmao. because of those feelings i plunged down the rabbit hole of aromanticism, and everything started to make sense. this is all kinda shocking because 3 weeks ago i didn't know any of this, but I'm actually kinda grateful because now i know. i also know he has a crush on me tho, and also that the friend who told me that probably told him about the repulsion without my consent, so I'm pretty lost rn, and also kinda repulsed by him in general. but its gonna be fine, and atleast i know now haha

[@elinwestoo3545]

💚💚💚

[@trisharaichatterjee2578]

Hats off to the person’s older sister. I may have not outside shown it. The amount of fear I had coming out of the closet. But despite a good majority of my classmates outright ditching me because I was bisexual and courageous enough to come out of the closet in 2009. I do not regret it one bit. I lost a close friend, but I do not regret it. I lost the whole rank of being the popular girl at school. But popularity means nothing when it comes to becoming my true, authentic self, do I miss being popular. Yeah a lot. But it’s definitely worth the sacrifice. Because I don’t have to put up a façade of who I am. I am who I am take it all of it. If I truly care about you, maybe I’ll try to compromise my bad habits. And sacrifice a few things out of love. But if you don’t care who I am. And you don’t want me in my unapologetic bisexual self. It’s cool. I have my mom side of the family. And this beautiful community and I support all my LGBT brothers and sisters and non-binary siblings to the moon and back.

[@projectgachakid2386]

Im aromantic and i always thought i had a crush on a lot of people in the past but i figured out it was platonic atraction, sexual atraction attachmant issuies daddy issuies and gender envy so yea its complicated

[@kolyo2]

Im aro and I realise I cant fell heart brocken the way others feel it because I dont feel that kind of love. Usualy I feel happy when I end up a relationship because for me It feels like a prison

[@brittanyparks8242]

I swear I hear faint meowing towards the beginning.

[@meznakahara]

One time my friend confessed their love to me and the line started moving and my class starting going in. I didn't know what to say so I just ran. (Called them "their/them" bcuz I don't know if they want their gender on here)

[@Thecollectoristheruler]

I told my friend that i dont understand how you get a crush on someone you dont know or isnt real like you dont know a celebrity and carachters in a game arent real

[@colddino]

i thought that t-shirt spelled something else

[@Phoenix-md8sh]

I meant aromantic.

[@ETori380]

2:11 i have Kinnie

[@mothMOV]

Romance favorable not romance positive

[@thatdisabledprincess]

I'm loveless romance-repulsed aromantic--when I realized I was aromantic, it made so many things make sense. Like of course I wasn't experiencing a crush! I'm aro! It's must have been a squish, right? ...what's a squish. Turns out I'm aplatonic, too. I was self-aware enough to realize I thought crushes were a lie, but I thought squishes were a lie as well. People actually feel the desire to form friendships? I do experience sexual attraction (I'm bisexual) and think people are prebby, and find some people fun to be around, but as for actually wanting to deliberately form a friendship with someone... I just don't experience that. If I happen to develop a close friendship with someone, that's cool, and if not, I'm perfectly happy with that too.

[@buchelaruzit]

No offense it's nice to have videos on aromantic people and experiences but please at least get your terminology right. 4:14 romance favorable not positive. positive-negative and favorable-repulsed are 2 completely different things. and 6:52 romanticism? like the movement?? you mean... romance. lol

[@thesleepyreader]

I'm copioromanitc asexual, aka i want a romantic relationship but i lack the feelings for such. Aka all the loneliness! Yeyyy...🥲 But it's fine f that Anyway I'd like to share a more Ace story. My biggest giveaway ever. So a couple years ago i decided to look up p*** because i though that that what people did, well giveaway 1: i needed to search cartoon versions cuz real people made me uncomfortable. Giveaway 2: i was questioning and judging the anatomy the whole time. I don't think that's what is supposed to happen