Your brain is wired for negative thoughts. Here’s how to change it.

There’s a reason that insults stick with us longer than compliments.
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Is the glass half full or half empty? 🥛 Turns out, the way that you present a situation to people can really change how they feel about it - our brains tend to fixate on the negative aspects over the positive ones.
Alison Ledgerwood, a UC Davis professor of psychology, studies how people tend to get stuck in particular ways of thinking and what they can do to get unstuck. Can we stop the negative thoughts?
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00:00 Intro
00:37 Negative and positive frames
1:54 Negatives really stick
2:05 Why is that?
2:37 Can we shift our way of thinking?
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[@fig1]

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[@flipaust239]

When I get a negative thought, I tell myself it’s an old program and it no longer belongs in my subconscious mind.

[@markobaraba3876]

Does it work for you?

[@qalathea6015]

Very beautiful if it works. What can also work is sometimes meditating. Looking deeply into something, by that I mean thinking about all the things that where needed to bring you for example a cup of tea. And then keeping the good feeling by for example sometimes focusing on your breathing

[@davids_blog1]

Like Rhonda Byrne wowo

[@nicholasdorazio10]

I love that ✌️

[@natureisallpowerful]

Yes mines constantly updating or buffering

[@Cody_Rea]

Whatever you focus on, grows. Just focus on what FEELS good to focus on. And slowly but surely, it will grow. Gratitude is the shortcut.

[@quentinholmes8084]

Facts bro

[@TheShospitali]

For one thing stay away from negative people that always try to tare you down if you can avoid it.

[@Pocahontas689]

Yes you are right but not only people but negative habits and surroundings also.

[@user-sd5ne9gf7b]

What if its the people in your household

[@supervincent_]

rent ur own place if u can

[@yeahiprotest]

“Don’t kill what you hate save what you love” is a quote I’m trying to live by

[@remingtonwilbur8174]

Ways I get out of negative thinking: 1. Embracing positive thoughts, I look around and find the silver lining in ten things. 2. Visualization. I think back to a good memory and relive in or imagine something. 3. I reframe negative thoughts. Once I notice a negative thought, I find the cognitive distortion as there always is one and reframe the thought into a positive one.

[@ShyamsMotivationalVideoTamil]

1. Have Daily Negative Thought Time 2. Replace the Negative Thoughts 3. Be Your Own Best Friend 4. Write Instead Of Think 5. Make A Conscious Effort To Find Things To Love, Like And Appreciate 6. Establish New Habits 7. Use Affirmations 8. Develop Your Success Routine 9. Channel Those Thoughts Into Something Constructive

[@willieluncheonette5843]

"First thing in the morning, imagine yourself tremendously happy. Get out of bed in a very happy mood - radiant, bubbling, expectant - as if something perfect, of infinite value, is going to happen today. Get out of the bed in a very positive and hopeful mood, with the feeling that this day is not going to be an ordinary day - that something exceptional, extraordinary, is waiting for you; something is very close by. Try and remember it again and again for the whole day. Within seven days you will see that your whole pattern, your whole style, your whole vibration, has changed. When you go to sleep in the night, just imagine that you are falling into divine hands...as if existence is supporting you, that you are in its lap, falling asleep. Just visualize it and fall asleep. The one thing to carry is that you should go on imagining and let sleep come, so that the imagination enters into sleep; they are overlapping. Don’t imagine any negative thing, because if people who have an imaginative capacity imagine negative things, they start happening. If you think that you are going to get ill, you will get ill. If you think that somebody is going to be rude to you, he will be. Your very imagination will create the situation. So if a negative idea comes, immediately change it to a positive thought. Say no to it. Drop it immediately; throw it away. Within a week you will start feeling that you are becoming very happy - for no reason at all. "

[@Queengjuicy2015]

#FACTS

[@superunknown6560]

So if I think I'm going to find a million dollars next week I will. How come its always something negative you bring upon yourself and not something like I mentioned above

[@shivbhaktsanatani23]

But people with anxiety or depression find it hard to switch it off.

[@TimTamSlam7]

Everyone does. And the same method to get rid of those negative thoughts also help with anxiety and depression as well. Its the frequency of it that changes from person to person and the intensity.

[@newdrills4583]

@@TimTamSlam7 The person also needs to be willing to do the work, as hard as it is, they need to be willing to put in the work to train their brain differently.

[@frankieangelo413]

As I could observe about myself, I'm really being hardwired for negative thoughts. It makes me feel being a silly, dumb, ugly, or stupid person is better than being a smart, normal, gifted, skillful, and confident person, yeah that's true. That feeling like someone or something is forcing me or compelling me to stay on the negative side, because negative side is better than the positive side. It even makes every regular activities a hard work, like thinking, socializing regularly, learning, communicating, understanding a simple sentence, and make decisions. It's even impossible to convey my real emotions. I couldn't even cry what I feel or tear it out. It mostly tooks away all the abilities that you have, that's how unbelievably powerful this condition what I have is. I even almost took for granted my ability to understand, communicate, compose a sentence, and any other activities involving development, learning, communicating, and thinking because of this strong and compulsive negative desire, though it dissapears for a while, then it just suddenly appears back quickly. I could only act like a normal person for a while like for 2 to 3 days, but when me, being a stupid and opposite person, are more often like it lasts for a weeks or a month, though it's not continuous. Yeah It's so aggressively debilitating and compelling, yet I'm trying to fight and eradicate it; I'm trying to change the directions of my heart and brain that I'm able to be completely conscious and mentally awake again; and one thing I have to add, and share to y'all, bcoz I've been really holding this in my mind within already a long time, is that there's someone or imaginary people in my mind, although they don't seem like a real person, they keep telling me that "You're a normal person, that's only a challenge that has been given to you, so you have to fight it, your negative desires are strong, but you are stronger than them, don't give up! You are yourself, prove that you are undefeated, we always had your back and always support you, though you don't have real friends to motivate you" They keep encouraging me and motivating me to stay strong and invincible because I'm strong. And yes, I truly learned and realized a lot from them, then I realized, you could actually make a lot of friends and companions from your own. But honestly and genuinely, It's still so hard to change my heart and mind, I missed being a normal person like I used to be, before, please just help pray for me guys that I could succeed through this journey, I'm still 16 years old, still learning and studying, yet I already have to face and experience this big problem like no one has ever experienced yet. Anyways, I'm so glad that I finally have the ability or words to share or voice out this to y'all😭

[@leafmebee]

Thanks for sharing. You are young and have a lot of time to figure this out. I wish you all the best on life's journey.

[@frankieangelo413]

@@leafmebee thanks, hope I could get out of this situation, and able to enjoy things more often, rather than focusing on the things that aren't even real

[@frankieangelo413]

I know, negativity bias is so hard to believe that is real, and what makes more harder, is you can't accept that you have this disorder, and you just let this stubborn stupidity control and compel you

[@frankieangelo413]

@@leafmebee and this bias, is what makes my social anxiety intensify. I hope my brain could get rid over that thing, I couldn't desire properly, and how to love things and have my own passion

[@shyaaammeneen63]

@@frankieangelo413 To feel better reduce negative thoughts. Be careful what you feed your mind. Avoid comparing yourself physically or mentally with others, reduce negative social media and avoid constipation as it affects the mind [psychsomatic]. Your breathing is closely related to the brain [mind] and gives relief from stress-anxiety. For a relaxed mind observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for 10-15-20 minutes or more. You can sit or lie down, anywhere-anytime, neck straight and eyes closed. Never meditate with expectations but with awareness. Don’t fight your thoughts. With practice the mind will relax. Keep a reminder to observe your breath sensations throughout the day and night --before sleep, when reading, at work, in school, at home, etc with eyes open or closed. Make this a lifetime habit to have a better life. Best wishes--Counsellor.

[@slywlf]

Fascinating! I just found the link here in a Tumblr thread on the subject. On the one hand it is a relief to know there is a basic human reason for my negativity, but on the other hand apparently I have been using the correct tools (counting blessings for example) to counteract the worst of the side effects!☺

[@chandrakanthmendon]

Changing Negative Thoughts to positive ones will require conscious efforts...deliberately use more Positives words in your communication for at least 15 days, you will find a positive change over in your thinking.

[@AManofBalance]

1:51 - Ego wants to survive so it’ll ignore the positive for the negative to ENSURE that it has THE HIGHEST CHANCE for survival.

[@miguel-ew8xw]

wow, i never even looked at it like that. thank you for giving me that insight brother

[@brendahall253]

I'm 72-years young ... Let go let god--is my go to thought ... over & over until the negative thought is gone. Life is too short--now ... I embrace each day HE provides and remind myself: Life is Good 🤗

[@shyaaammeneen63]

Brenda, To feel better reduce negative thoughts. Be careful what you feed your mind. Avoid comparing yourself physically or mentally with others, reduce negative social media and avoid constipation as it affects the mind [psychsomatic]. Your breathing is closely related to the brain [mind] and gives relief from stress-anxiety. For a relaxed mind observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for 10-15-20 minutes or more. You can sit or lie down, anywhere-anytime, neck straight and eyes closed. Never meditate with expectations but with awareness. Don’t fight your thoughts. With practice the mind will relax. Keep a reminder to observe your breath sensations throughout the day and night --before sleep, when reading, at home, taking a walk etc with eyes open or closed. Make this a lifetime habit to have a better life. Best wishes--Counsellor.

[@GeminiNES]

Best ways for mee is to see people helping/saving people and animals on youtube, gives a good feeling everytime.

[@jolynmiller3194]

people who think negatively dont live to be elderly, constant stress on the body has its toll.

[@FoxycityGD]

I have negative thought about myself, and this video helped me. Thank you

[@naturalstrength8393]

I don't see the glass half full or half empty, I see the whole glass, that's the most logical way to see things, don't exclude the good or the bad.

[@tnt01]

i agree.

[@joyceabender]

Great content; background music a little too loud to hear the commentary clearly.

[@mustaphathefirst]

I see what you did there 👀

[@Mr3344555]

@@mustaphathefirst but it is also a bit too loud, it's a double take 😂

[@noreenebostick9593]

The negative I think is the negative I hear about in the world. The other negatives I hear towards myself I ponder to think what can I do positively. Patience is one of my best gifts. Time is also a great gift. Breathing abilities is a great gift. Utilizing things that in life to the best of my abilities and needs is wonderful. I am 64 years, eight months and six days as of this comment. However many more time, I look forward to making the best of it bringing my past to assist me on the remaining life journey.

[@genasutton2130]

Great information. I get it. I’m trying it for 30 days. I can find loads of things I’m grateful for and say positive thoughts daily. This is not going to be easy for me to train my thoughts to not to think negative. It’s worth the effort

[@JP-je3nw]

How are things going?

[@rossananardone1199]

First I have spent enormous time rewiring my nervous system so that now the emotions that arise in response to perceived negativity, are no longer overwhelming. This allows me to snap out of triggered/survival states in minutes. This creates space between me and my emotions. In this space, I over and over again make the choice to shift my focus from the negative to the positive. While I do that, I also take a moment to observe both sides and revel in how fascinating and satisfying is to reprogram myself. From that point, it feels like when I find the right thread to pull out in a knot. It all dissolves in one move. Then I get back to the situation and approach it from a positive standpoint. My heart opens and my physiology responds to the positive feeling giving me a sense of uplift and gratitude. Self-awareness is key and most importantly soooo much gentleness and compassion towards yourself is needed to do this work properly.

[@uroojz3152]

Any tips for someone else who wants to do this?

[@yeh2319]

@@uroojz3152meditation?

[@fiskyfiskums]

Every night before dinner our family says a prayer we tell our lord thank you for what we have. And how blessed we are. Teaching a 5 year old gratitude can easily be forgotten through out the day. But a reminder to add is better than nothing.

[@kasiivee]

negativity is so poisonous, I’ve been overly negative for the last 5-6 months and it’s most definitely because of the environment I was constantly in. I’ve removed myself from that negative place but all those bad things I fed my mind are stuck with me so it didn’t really make a difference, I wish I could just erase it from my memory lmao

[@michelled2175]

Same. Please try counselling. I'm going through it now and it's helping x

[@Zeeshan12368]

You can't remove old memories, instead you can weaken them by making other memories.

[@DonoWono222]

I definitely feel u💯I went through the same thing and still am, but I can tell you my friend, that you simply need healing. To heal you need to understand your emotions and where they come from, understanding will give u peace by letting u feel secure in urself and ur SELF IMAGE. Sit in silence and EXPERIENCE your negative thoughts / feelings and breathe; observe where they stem from. That’s what u need to heal, u need to shift ur perspectives on basically everything… BECAUSE HOW U DO ONE THING IS HOW U DO EVERYTHING💯change ur body movements, try new things… U just need more time healing, you can definitely go to proffessionals for help but I would advise u don’t try medication to calm ur nerves. Get into physical training and exercise and make ur diet super beneficial for the body ( like the athletes eat ) haha. I hope u or anyone else took the time to read this💙I’m not a professional but I speak from experience and the heart. You got this just hang in there and find positive habits that u enjoy as well. All love fam wish y’all the best 💯🙏🏽

[@shyaaammeneen63]

@@michelled2175 To reduce overthinking be careful what you feed your mind. Avoid comparing yourself with others, reduce watching negative social media and avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Your breathing is closely related to the brain [mind] and gives relief from stress-anxiety. For a relaxed mind observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for 5-10-15 minutes or more. You can sit or lay down on the bed--eyes closed--No deep breathing. Don’t fight your thoughts. With practice the mind will relax. Keep a reminder to observe your breath sensations throughout the day and night anywhere -anytime-- before sleep, at work, taking a walk, at home, when travelling etc with eyes open or closed. Like me make breath observing a lifetime habit to have a better life. Best wishes--Counsellor.

[@shyaaammeneen63]

RV, To reduce overthinking be careful what you feed your mind. Avoid comparing yourself with others, reduce watching negative social media, keep yourself occupied and avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Your breathing is closely related to the brain [mind] and gives relief from stress-anxiety. For a relaxed mind observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for 5-10-15 minutes or more. You can sit or lay down on the bed--eyes closed--No deep breathing. Don’t fight your thoughts. With practice the mind will relax. Keep a reminder to observe your breath sensations throughout the day and night anywhere -anytime-- before sleep, at work, taking a walk, at home, when travelling etc with eyes open or closed. Like me make breath observing a lifetime habit to have a better life. Best wishes--Counsellor.

[@mindhaven22]

It does take time and practice, but so worth it! I managed to shift my thinking into positive results all the time now.

[@daliastravels]

How did you do that?

[@jeanlister2897]

I'm an half empty type of person so I'm taking note of these as I suffer severe anxiety

[@jayf9577]

Block out all the negative things you can e.g news/media and try to reach for neutral things from there you can start to flood your mind with funny/happy things and get to a point where you can’t even reach the negative thoughts anymore. I know because I have come from depression to laughing everyday in less than 2 years.

[@tannupokhriyal963]

How . Help

[@bethanyyy7695]

I think the issue here is people need to stop REACTING to the negative thought. The reaction is the issue not the thought. Who labels the thought....us. It's biologically in us to have thoughts what we react to is what we give power. Easier said then done I know but truly look at the thought if it's scaring you then it's not from you...it's not you. Learn to separate and label them so you can learn when they come that they aren't yours they are just freely coming through. Humans have 50k thoughts a day 40k are negative 10k are positive. As humans we tend to focus on negative for survival but it's up to us to change the way we view them and how we label them. I wish you all luck and can honestly tell you as someone who suffered from intrusive thoughts it doesn't go away BUT IT GETS BETTER AND YOU LEARN TO NOT GIVE A s#it about the thoughts. God bless you all, you are all in my prayers 🙏

[@spiritjenni2086]

It’s so hard, once you become aware of them it’s like batting flies! But now I’m learning to catch and change them 💖

[@bethanyyy7695]

@@spiritjenni2086 so happy to hear that🤗! It is a hard battle, I'm going through the same but remember, the more we resist the more it will persist! Don't try to fight it at all, it only makes our brains think it's worth the struggle to react. Deep breathing hels me alot!

[@esteemity5405]

This is important material. Thanks for creating and sharing it.

[@mentalhealthtips16]

I'm a positive optimist. I like to reframe negativity into positivity. If we try enough times and persist, we can change our cognitive networks, and get ourselves to think more positively rather than negatively. Adopt a growth mindset. Optimism can be learned. 🌞

[@appiebabak5468]

All day long i think that there is something mentally wrong with me.. went to doctors and psycologists and everything. Everyone made me sure that there is nothing wrong with me.... i think that i havr depression, than anxiety disorder than borderline. It is always just the fear for it. So after 12 years i accepted that these are just negative thoughts. Trying to make that change now.

[@user-xl8dt2vc5q]

That’s great I wish you all the best with trying to improve yourself!!

[@medhachakraborty7474]

I think about the things that happened to me and were actually good. Sometimes we miss counting the good things that might have happened to us . Usually, we don't do it intentionally. We do it because we have always been taught to be extra harsh on ourselves. We should make it a habit to reflect on the good things. For example- the last two years of my University life weren't as productive as it should have been (because of some personal reasons), but one afternoon when I judged my overall performance, I was shocked to find out the extremely good things I had achieved even during the lowest phase of my life. It made me grateful and hopeful ❣️. I hope my experience helps others who need this.❤️ Don't be too harsh on yourself. You will heal and you are going to be well one day🎉

[@Ac_chillin]

☺️🙂☺️

[@trev827]

Im a 25 year old guy with Asperger's and I struggle to keep jobs cuz I learn alittle slower than normal. Im not the best with with learning just by watching cuz my mind never seems to stay focused it's always thinking nonstop so I process stuff slower, I learn a lot better by actually performaning tasks. But the last few years I've started to develop this really hopeless mindset and have developed really bad bad habits like bad driving and stealing. Cuz I keep thinking every job I get I'm gonna get fired from and when my parents die I'm gonna be homeless. I've wrecked 2 cars from speeding cuz I didn't care what happened to me. And I finally got caught stealing a few days ago and it kinda opened my eyes that I need help.

[@Natto_MakiMaki]

Hope you are doing alright

[@ejackson680]

Perhaps you learn slower than normal because that is what you keep telling yourself. Be more gentle with your self-talk. Try saying something like every day in every way my ability to learn gets easier and easier. At first, your mind will reject this idea. That's because there is so much momentum in the other direction. But if you stay with this and other positive affirmations for at least 21 days, you will definitely begin to see a shift in your thoughts and feelings. It can be done so stay with it.

[@ashcpas92]

Hey man. Send me your details if you want someone to talk to bro.

[@challengercolt8379]

I have major anxiety... I don’t know what to do... I always think negative, it feels like I’m trapped in a box with no light 😢 😢

[@drawer1613]

If you can’t see the light, be the light

[@karinalepage7365]

Go walk in nature/ park with trees. Do a 30 day challenge… so show up every day to the park and spend a few minutes… from 5 to 30 let’s say. You will see the change… human Beings need nature on the regular basis to feel good and let us know how it goes

[@irene2081]

Spotting this pattern is the first step. Good job! The person you are turning into does not want you to have negative thoughts...powerful!

[@bunnybeer3303]

hey buddy i want you to know that you are not alone…i too am suffering from negative thinking and anxiety…but its allright…you will get through this…whatever happens is not in your control…whatever you can do…that must happen…and you can choose happiness over sadness…i know its easy to say…and how hard it is when your inner voices are killing you slowly…but i want you to know that you can come out of this…do some meditation…sit down in some peace and relax…talk to yourself…every answer is within you…compliment yourself…love yourself…a little more…you yourself is treating you badly…accept whatever is happening to you…and restore that faith…that you are better than this…brain is best servant but terrible master…take that control back and meditation will help you for sure…i wish you recover from this anxiety as soon as possible…

[@manirai1003]

First, Go to Doctor. Second, join outdoor club (Mountain Biking), Third, Minimze Social Media using tools. Fourth, Be Ignorant, be stupid.. It's a bliss... But not too much...

[@jessicagreene2649]

My problem is: when I try to shift my focus on the positive I feel like a phony, or like I’m faking it to “try” to be happy or positive....

[@ladyhaiti100]

I used to have the same problem. The fact is that "positive thinking" can be toxic and invalidating or lead to internal conflict. It works for SOME people, but check out the Huffington Post article "Why Positive Affirmations Don't Work". You're not alone. Also check out the book (for free on the app LIbby) "Rethinking Positive Thinking". You can focus on the positive while acknowledging the negative as long as you practice not dwelling in the negative. For example, you can allow yourself to "vent" in a journal 30 min a day. That way, when negative thoughts cross your mind you can say, "I'm not entertaining this thought right now, I have an appointment to journal about, constructively, at 8pm".

[@adelacozlac366]

I also want to add that sometimes it might help in the moment to say "Yes, this (negative thing) cand happen, but there are great chances that other things that are better might happen, like (give examples of things that could actually go well). Or, if it is something bad from the past, say to yourself " Yes, it waa difficult and hard, but now I am much older and capable of taking care of myself and choosing what is beat for me/ what to do to add happiness etc." The thing is to 1. Learn to "catch" yourself when you are negative- spiraling 2. Saying stop to that 3. Practicing saying those alternative things (alternative thoughts). It takea time amd practice, but it gets better.

[@berthapoah7729]

@@adelacozlac366 This works very well for me but somehow i forgot the words! Thanks for posting

[@lisataninoberes7117]

Fake it until you become it. - Amy Cuddy

[@USAcit]

I aim to get out of the dark negative thinking by searching out positive KZbin videos and motivational videos. This helps me to look at different perspectives and boost my self-confidence. However I still find Criminal stories and crime stories informative. I know they say don't listen to crime stories or bad news but it can actually help you to understand that each of us has a choice in life and some people take the extreme negative choice in life. This can be a great info to make Positive Choices by choosing to not be like the criminals in the stories that you see and read daily.

[@tomcanham9218]

This is a *huge* issue for me. There are so many things in my life that I want to do or try or change (lose weight, eat better, travel in Europe, live in an RV, *date!*, upgrade my career... the list is as long as ... well, it's long). But almost inevitably I get bogged down in this "it'll never work" mindset, and *don't even try*. Of course, who knows if "it" would have worked? I'm not a fortune teller; I can make educated guesses about some things. But in the end, *so much* of life is pure chance, or at least out of my control. But this negativity is a real, concrete, serious problem in life. At the risk of being melodramatic, it is literally keeping me from living my life. Yes, a few times, my negativity bias has helped me in true survival situations. But... those are rare (thankfully!) Far more often, the negativity bias in my thinking leads me to depression and anxiety, and keeps me from living the life I want to live. Double-plus ungood.

[@gardenlover9663]

Never give up. This takes time. Just know you can do it!

[@georgeernst4348]

Psychiatry and therapy make that time a lot shorter.

[@masitah13]

we can do this!!

[@vivargy2722]

this video was amazing and so helpful!

[@joepartindian1524]

As a male my sister is positive and my brother is negative...live close to women because know how to comfort you better and motivate you to a better positive attitude...just like you explained it.

[@geoffhavenaar]

By remembering information like this helps me, in the moment, to not believe what my mind is saying to me. If I am not consciously thinking, ie choosing my thoughts in that moment, then more than likely my mind, as this video points out, will think negatively. So more and more I just don't buy into what it is telling me.

[@Mollymolly321]

This was so helpful thank you

[@gamertwig3909]

This is my struggle with health anxiety, with normal anxiety I combatted it with positive thoughts and feeling in control. Health anxiety is so different because the stakes are higher when you truly believe you’re going to die or suffer permanent pain, and you can’t do anything to control what you perceive as a health issue you either don’t have or don’t understand etc.

[@ravi_teja2768]

im with you in this, same sufferer pls connect with me lets atleast try to get out from this hell

[@drewcole3483]

Gratitude for living I'm only 62, learned early keep it simple....

[@emanpayne1673]

I avoid negative feelings when able, but I'm not perfect at it. I still try, and for the most part it really helps.

[@shyaaammeneen63]

Very informative video. To feel better reduce negative thoughts. Be careful what you feed your mind. Avoid comparing yourself physically or mentally with others, reduce negative social media and avoid constipation as it affects the mind [psychsomatic]. Your breathing is closely related to the brain [mind] and gives relief from stress-anxiety. For a relaxed mind observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for 10-15-20 minutes or more. You can sit or lie down, anywhere-anytime, neck straight and eyes closed. Never meditate with expectations but with awareness. Don’t fight your thoughts. With practice the mind will relax. Keep a reminder to observe your breath sensations throughout the day and night --before sleep, when reading, at work, in school, at home, etc with eyes open or closed. Make this a lifetime habit to have a better life. Best wishes--Counsellor.

[@BlueBetaPro]

The glass is half full if you're filling and half empty if you're drinking. If your ship is taking in water faster than you're getting rid of it no matter how you phrase it, you're still sinking.

[@evelynannettegordon3697]

Captain R. WITTEREL you are so right

[@Pocahontas689]

You are so right dear.

[@brucelee7782]

So true, I am a logical person so I tell myself that actually 8 times out of 10 people wont do this and based on stats i actually shouldnt be negative

[@TherapyToThePoint]

This is a great way to evaluate thoughts!

[@TheyCallMeNewb]

Useful insights are to be found in this.

[@vodkacannon]

Negativity is bad. It degenerates the situation.

[@writer684]

Every thing we do and have has both a positive and negative side attached to it ...I think if something bad happens and under longer time this prolonged negativity which could have been justified at the time can change your perspective to allways focus on the negative side of things, people, job, realationships, view of yourself etc. I think if we are aware of this we can force ourself to start focusing on the positive aspect of things, situations, life. People have totaly diffrent outcomes based on this intial attitude or I should say focus, I think people who are used to focus on the negative need to become aware that they are doing it and then consiously force themselfs to change to the positive. Im not saying to close your eyes to the negative but shift focus.

[@laurieberry4814]

So right. I know this man who was respected. He cried and said that no one cares about him. I was taught self hatred by my dad. My dad talked about conceitedness. I have dyslexia. So I was called lazy. Can anyone help me with my anger? My dyslexia is really still a pain. I am middle aged and my dyslexia makes life difficult. People still treat me like I am lazy, but I am not. I guess that I am depressed because my dad told me to be an actress. I am not an actress. I feel like I failed.

[@yeti7565]

This really brightened it up for me thx

[@shyaaammeneen63]

Nice video. To reduce overthinking be careful what you feed your mind. Avoid comparing yourself with others, reduce watching negative social media and avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Your breathing is closely related to the brain [mind] and gives relief from stress-anxiety. For a relaxed mind observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for 5-10-15 minutes or more. You can sit or lay down on the bed--eyes closed--No deep breathing. Don’t fight your thoughts. With practice the mind will relax. Keep a reminder to observe your breath sensations throughout the day and night anywhere -anytime-- before sleep, at work, taking a walk, at home, when travelling etc with eyes open or closed. Like me make breath observing a lifetime habit to have a better life. Best wishes--Counsellor.

[@ramsnation196]

thank you so much❤

[@thomasofarabia]

So after watching, the only tip/suggestion was "think of things to be grateful for" ...

[@patrickmuri1344]

Good video and well explained in a short time, more interesting would be WHY it is that we're wired negatively. Even though she says because we want to fix things, I feel like that's not all there is

[@wendy-wf8ij]

Cuz ur brain is trying to protect you from threats, as it should. Problem is, in many people’s (but not everyone) daily living (you have food, shelter, companionship…etc) - there are few ‘actual’ threats…. The old ‘no lion or tiger in the bushes for most people in 2022’ However, that being said - ‘modern threats’ aren’t necessarily gone - just more abstract, complex, or even veiled - our brains are still set up to alert us to ‘simpler’ things like the beast in the bushes. We read this as anxiety.

[@grvd97]

So basically, negative thoughts are at lower potential and it needs some work and energy to lift it to higher potential i.e. positive thoughts. Thank you Alison.

[@derrickrose3370]

remind myself that everything is gonna be good

[@adasaura8648]

I like that this video touched on the idea that getting older comes with a more positive outlook on life. People generally equate age with wisdom and I can agree with that. I want to highlight that point by saying that the older you are in life, the more experiences you come across and that leads you to understanding different ways to cope with bad news.. you start to see that it isn't the end of the world everytime something bad happens because good things happen too. To switch more to positive thinking I try to focus on the good things that happened when I have a really bad day. No matter how small the good thing is, being able to recognize it on a day that everything seemed to be bad helps me find a little balance. So to put it simply.. there may always be a good thing to come out of a bad thing and vise versa. I think learning how to process your emotions is definitely a positive step towards gaining a healthy level of maturity 💓

[@45ran]

Thank for your answering her question. I will try to implement your advice. Thank you :)

[@CarlynOT-Coach]

It’s helpful to know we are wired that way..human not broken.

[@LeighaLeighton]

Thanks for this video 😊

[@orsolalelli8593]

Surprising contents, thank you!

[@KevinMark-ym1sr]

Excellent video. Thanks.

[@ericwilliams626]

There are only two elements to understand positivity and negativity within yourself. First off, understand your DNA. Your tendencies could be within the strand. Look at your parents and their parents, including aunts and uncles for clues. Observe but also ask questions like a detective. You don't have to tell them why you're asking. Secondly, your parents and siblings determine a lot of how you think positively or not. Ask yourself, "Was my home life filled with positive words, like ever, did you ever hear positive words about what you've done, or was it filled with neutral or negative thoughts?" You will be surprised when you think back at how little you at the very least perceive your family providing positive words in your childhood. Parents fundamentally have kids so they have someone they can instill their fears into. It takes thought. Think about it.

[@kimberlywilder8637]

Why look for negative affirmations, & excuses to be negative? DNA does not decide happiness, knowing & understanding that Love is a choice.There is always something to be grateful for. Changing are perception of how we perceive things is powerful, if we all started looking for the good in everyone & everything it would change the world. Love is the answer I know that sounds corny, but it is the answer to every negative ."Love cancels out every bad behavior. And we all need Love.

[@fjjfhgc]

Thank you for your efforts 😄

[@iamfuzzydolphins7792]

Half empty or half full? IT'S BOTH! I am not the only person who thinks this, right?

[@lindajohnsen6235]

I think, that’s being a realist, however it’s just a hypothetical, to help explain how people view things. It’s enough, as opposed to, it’s not enough.

[@SL-pg4dh]

I don't even know what it means and why so much emphasis is put on that saying. For me, the situation determines if I view it as half full or half empty. If you bring me or someone a glass of water, of course I'd think it's half full, whereas if I see a random glass of water laying in your house, I'd think it's half empty because it's the assumption that it's bring used.

[@paulinewilliams9299]

looking at beautiful and meaningful pictures or photos

[@jamiecee4960]

I think positive for a while. Then it tries to go negative. It's frustrating. That's how I'm stuck.

[@AbrahamPalmer-wj5cb]

I have the same problem to at times

[@tiptoetulipes3073]

Back in the 70's and 80's they didn't talk about negative thoughts only positive reinforcement, fighting in classes,if you didn't fight a week before your session you got toys to play with if you got in trouble boring session. attending Detroit Public schools had good counselers 50 years ago.

[@worldmusicshaddyraddy]

Flight or fight mode in a nutshell: *Is this human going to eat me like a bagel*

[@rainbow72878]

Books on neurologic brain activity give scientific research on how the brain scans for "predators". However, it was also found that it performs to well and like an inflammation, needs soothing down, or redirected in a meaningful and positive direction. Thank you so much for your video on an interesting subject!

[@unknowninfinium4353]

Suggestions for such books.

[@JDHDbeats]

Dance to your favourite music like nobody’s watching. Meditate in nature and think about all the good times I’ve had with people, focus on what makes people so beautiful and unique, think about how lucky we are to be alive, breathing, thinking enjoying. Think about how there are other people in worser conditions than us. Be grateful that we can do the things we can do. Always have the courage to figure out how to overcome an obstacle instead of ignoring it. Challenge your brain to think and get strong. Make positive habits and overtime your mind gradually shifts into a positive state and it’s easier to live. Everything runs smoother, more opportunities open up and people become more attracted to you. You can do it ! ❤️

[@MarsheezNess]

I write 5 things I appreciate everyday. Each day would be 5 different things I appreciate out of life. Even the simplest things I come up with. Try and let people know.

[@darleneatkinson6730]

Fig. 1 by University of California, My second video watching that been uploaded on KZbin, How I stay as positive as possible, I remind myself that today the Lord made this day so rejoice in today. This help me face each day. Looking for good in each day. Thank You, for sharing.

[@Ojuolape]

Interesting perspective.

[@nihsumi]

I think the 70yrs old mentioned here are just glad to still be alive. 🙂

[@andy8nagy]

thanks

[@mytsoplix]

I earnestly and honestly pray.

[@motoflyte]

It's not that we're looking for Negative things, it's that we are programmed with a need to survive. Discovering things that can harm us and then remembering those things is a survival instinct. At some point in the future humans will realize that the natural environment can no longer kill you nearly as easily as it did a few hundred years ago. And then theoretically it will be easier to be more optimistic about things. The one problem we have however is that humans prey upon each other. Not cannabalistically but rather monetarily and emotionally. Greed, Envy, Jealousy, and all the other negative emotions tempt us to prey upon our fellow humans. The golden rule should be emphasized by all of us.

[@user-ez6ch5to3e]

My negative thoughts go away whenever I imagine them as helium balloons. Or myself as a cactus

[@michelleorocio6810]

Great content! Thank you

[@walkabout16]

Your brain is wired for negative thoughts, it's true, But fear not, for there's a path anew. Here's how to change it, to rewrite the script, And let positivity's light be equipped. First, recognize the patterns, the loops in your mind, Where negativity thrives, unconfined. Acknowledge its presence, without judgment or shame, And gently redirect, towards a brighter flame. Second, cultivate compassion, both for yourself and all, Let kindness be the beacon, in life's grand hall. For in lifting others, you lift yourself high, And break through the clouds, in the vast sky. Third, practice gratitude, in every day, For the blessings that come, in each gentle sway. Focus on the good, let it fill your soul, And watch as negativity loses its hold. So let us embark on this journey of change, From the shadows of doubt, to the light so strange. For in rewiring our brains, we find the key, To unlock the door, and set ourselves free.

[@kassandra3756]

Clever …Advice in the Form of Poetry!!!

[@fabianvanderelst9643]

Phenomenal!

[@athulc9226]

I think we actually leave out of that particular scenario.We stop weighing the positives and negatives in it, we just leave it and once we start feeling calm and comfortable, it automatically pulls out of the brain

[@codeknight7]

My thought are positive when i eat blue berrys i dont know why maybe because they are good for the brain theres a saying that people say they say food for thought so maybe our thoughts are connected to our food.

[@seer775]

bul beres

[@sarahrose6467]

blueberries rock

[@scoulsie1179]

you have earnt my subscription good and funny video.

[@scoulsie1179]

Never mind i realise that this video didnt meat my average standards.

[@asmith0271]

Let's look at the comments section of this article. You notice that there's a number beside the thumbs-up but there's not one besides a thumbs down..... That's just tell us something right?

[@christosantonopoulos2018]

There is positive then negative then realistic

[@MarsheezNess]

Thanks Fig. 1!

[@dianewood2430]

Me. I’m getting more negative as I grow older. I just have to be different

[@stayfrosty6698]

Sometimes it could be the other way around

[@shubhambhardwaj6952]

I have watched tons of videos and read many articles and books but my mind just stuck in the problems. It's not thinking what I want it to be think.

[@10Poida]

I hear you and know EXACTLY what you're sating. As highlighted on here, it takes effort to think positively. And You could be doing great for a few days, then something bad happens, and your brain, your whole demeanor goes negative. Then it takes time to get out of that 'hole'. After a few days you're out and start to work on thinking positively until a few days, or even a few weeks another 'negative episode' happens and you're back down in that 'hole' again. 😔*sigh*

[@samanthasevana3710]

I think.. we just have to focus on the solution and prepare 2nd solution also.. so when first solution is fail, we have backup and we will stick to the solution, not a problem again.. but this is not easy as i speak..

[@shyaaammeneen63]

Shyubham You cannot force your mind to think what you want to think. To reduce overthinking be careful what you feed your mind. Avoid comparing yourself with others, reduce watching negative social media, delete extra group apps, keep yourself occupied, and avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Your breathing is closely related to the brain [mind] and gives relief from stress-anxiety. For a relaxed mind observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for 5-10-15 minutes or more. You can sit or lay down on the bed--eyes closed--No deep breathing. Don’t fight your thoughts. With practice the mind will relax. Keep a reminder to observe your breath sensations throughout the day and night anywhere -anytime-- before sleep, at work, taking a walk, at home, when travelling etc with eyes open or closed. Like me make breath observing a lifetime habit to have a better life. Best wishes--Counsellor.

[@ananthurgopal9868]

From my experience , just reading books and watching videos you will not get positive mindset. You want to make sure that you are applying those techniques in your life. Reflect on the things you have read or watched. Note it down somewhere and revisit those points once in a week. Slowly build up your mindset , as it takes some time. Be gentle and kind with yourself. Practice self compassion when you fail

[@alejandropena8865]

I like to meditation with positive soothing music

[@DiegoTheGenius]

I love you, thanks

[@NmMindstorm]

Whenever I have a negative feeling, all I do is close Adobe Premiere, and I feel better again

[@matheusharuobeker1165]

Omg lol

[@PoloABD]

That it takes effort means you cannot profit from trying to change it.

[@vossi6303]

And why wouldn't people be rational, objective about things? What are the odds I come across a predator? And how can I make sure I'll be able to handle this situation. It's all intelligence, neurologic connections especially to the right side of the brain. Being social and creative creates perspective and trust that you'll be oke whatever. + rational objective thinking ;) which seems to be very rare, is also a nice tool to have and gives all reasons to be positive.

[@myacct8304]

I would argue that there's a difference between thinking rationally and thinking negatively, and that it's dangerous to conflate the two. I think that if one is really thinking rationally, they would find that a positive outcome is just as achievable as a negative outcome, and they would focus attention on doing what's necessary to ensure that positive outcome. Being realistic isn't just about seeing potential negative consequences and mitigating them. It's about seeing potential positive outcomes and taking advantage of them as well.

[@robertshakhan5515]

i practice Self Awareness i wrote a book about it

[@stevefrancis2050]

This is Jason Hannah, I read that thought come from nowhere??????? WTF God. Shirley I am not the only one??????????????? But y'all couldn't comprehend what I have found truth in an examples in real time,!!! Acuret control of all thought you choose at all times, but when emotionally pushed,must akt!! Trust me, I didn't know what I was thinking???? NEVER practice controlling your emotions!!!!!!! Please

[@reyrey7775]

Well, if I knew I was going to die soon (getting older), then there’s no point in focusing on the negative, because I’ll be dead soon and won’t have to deal with it.🙃

[@lucianoostos8299]

Cheers for this, I have been researching "what does it mean to be positive minded?" for a while now, and I think this has helped. Ever heard of - Piyameron Singular Preeminence - (do a search on google ) ? It is a good exclusive product for ending your limiting beliefs minus the normal expense. Ive heard some amazing things about it and my mate got great results with it.

[@yeti7565]

That’s some philosophical shit

[@zombiekila187]

We all strive for the best life possible before we die but what if every time you attempted to win something you thought could really change your life is never obtainable. I know "Never" really is never but if you fail enough with no prevail in the middle of it or even sometimes, it starts to feel as though its futile to try as to that will fail as well, but I don't feel that way with everything tho, only with love.

[@bernardprasobhan2886]

I try to focus to positive thoughts and the things i m grateful for one week it works and life gets more challenging than back to old habits 😭 i don't know how to help myself? I have major depression

[@ZeTemple]

I totally understand... 😔

[@user-xl8dt2vc5q]

You could do a daily thing where you write 5 things you’re grateful for each morning or each evening? If you stick to it it could really help

[@bernardprasobhan2886]

@@user-xl8dt2vc5q Thanks 😊👍

[@brighteyes6585]

@@user-xl8dt2vc5q Good advice! It definitely helps, especially with daily reminder or maybe when you do something in the morning regularly, attach to that 👍

[@brighteyes6585]

Wanted to add something, when I do kind things for people, something about that makes me feel better, takes the focus off my own anxiety and depression, in my experience. It doesn't have to be big, just little things can add up. You can be sneaky! 😊