YOUR CODEPENDENT TENDENCIES 😔

[@DarylSimpson58]

A perfect marriage or relationship is an illusion; there's no universal playbook for making them work. What's effective for one couple may not apply to another. Nevertheless, I've come to understand that there's always a solution to be found. Half a decade ago, my wife and I faced such trials in our marriage that divorce seemed inevitable. Yet, through perseverance and determination, we navigated through the rough waters and emerged stronger, reunited, and more resilient

[@peterwilliams6361]

There is a lot of sense in what you just said and I hope mine works the same way too, we are currently separated but I cant live without her, I love her so much. wish I can get her back I can do anything to have her back, we have tried therapy amongst other things

[@DarylSimpson58]

Its always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is shelly renee white..

[@peterwilliams6361]

This is helpful, I will look her up online right now...Thanks.

[@matthewwozniak9138]

Failed relationships are lessons in life. I like to figure out which part I played in the relationship. Learning to self soothe is important. If no one else is around to hug you can still wrap your arms around yourself like your in a straight jacket and give yourself a big loving hug. Giving yourself some me time (Living in the moment one day at a time) Let your inner child out so they can play once in awhile. Your mental heath and well being are important when your adulting. I can feel your emotional vibration in your voice, I don't even have to be holding the phone like I used to feel the 🤳vibration anymore. Thank you for your assessment and advice.

[@Passport2Pleasure]

Pinning your identity on someone or something outside of yourself is a recipe for continuous disappointment, loneliness, and stress.

[@lb1203]

This was the most important things for me to understand, that self love is not a sin. Growing up in the church, and even now being in the church, self love is seen as a sin. A net negative, you have to give give give because that's the "right thing" to do. I even shared at a small group one time, once I was in my healing journey, how important learning how to love myself was. And the pastor cut me off and said, "now we're not going to be going down that path of self love, that's unhealthy." and I didn't let myself be silenced! I spoke up and explained, "I could not accept Christ's sacrifice for me when I thought I wasn't worth it! If you don't love yourself enough to feel like you are worthy of Christ's love, then you can't fully understand the gospel." and I had brought some people in that group to tears because they understood what I was saying!!! If you are a pastor or leader in the church and you've never dealt with self hate, then you're not going to understand the power that self love and self parenting can bring! A LOT of people who grow up in the church are taught that you're not supposed to love yourself. Frankly, I've noticed that the church is resposible for SO MANY OF MY ISSUES AS AN ADULT!!! Not the faith it's self, but the church! This is why so many people that grow up in it end up leaving. A lot may even still believe but they want nothing to do with the church, and I don't blame them one bit. It can be an incredibly toxic place. We did end up finding a church we like, but it's not perfect. It took about 9 years and we visited about 5 churches. So if that's important to you, don't give up, just keep looking. And recognize that there will be toxic messaging going on... It's kinda unavoidable.

[@vascoespañol]

self love is self care

[@JulesM101M]

Thank you so much for this video, I was unaware until I started watching your videos in 2019 🤗❤️ Thank you for all of your knowledge, you've helped me so much it's not funny. I've now been in therapy for almost 2yrs now and I'm now doing EMDR. You are such a beautiful person to help others learn and grow and help nurture their inner child and self parent is amazing and I so can't thank you enough 🤗❤️

[@natajitrcindhuchao898]

Self reliance and self love is so important. ❤

[@jomorrow1]

Self love = controlling ego. (Both too much AND too little ego). Ego tells and tries to prove that we are the best or worst. Also, self love = self honestly. Seeing what you have been responsible for positive or negative and to what amount

[@susanpapszycki350]

Thank you for this video! It just made me realize what I need to do next 😊

[@brienohazo6393]

This was a powerful video. I have been working on self care for a long time and I was impressed with how much very good material was compressed in a relative short video. Very good presentation with an abundance of get up and go material. The personal information was helpful in putting the material in perspective, Great job Stephanie!

[@audioeins]

YOU ARE SO COOL, STEPH :) Thank you for this video, which is one of my favorites of yours for many reasons. Firstly, your openness, directness, honesty, vulnerability, and sharing of your own life and experiences as first person account examples, is really impressive and endearing. Its amazing, that you are able to matter of factly present examples and antidotes the way you do, in a very kind, sincere, self realized, and still healthy professional manner :) also, somehow, i do still like the car videos. its casual, and relaxed, and intimate in like a very disarming approachable way, especially the way you do it, the manner of your conversing / presenting, and also the environs in which you park, which always have nice trees and sky and natural elements :) Then, there is your editing style, which is so great. i very much like the quick in and out zooms, so well timed with your presentation and statements, that really add subtle yet very effective dynamism and engagement and added interactivity. very effective :) also, in this video, i really like the pink and the font you used and the outline pink / white font, which creates a nice motif with that comfortable relaxed looking summery striped cotton shirt you are wearing (stripe motif. total summer :) and of course, the information you are dispensing, so clearly and concisely, is really valuable and helpful and enlightening / insightful. i learn a lot from you, in a very understandable meaningful way, and i appreciate that. also, in this video, i like that it said that you posted it only an hour before it appeared on my video stream, which is the most current video i've ever encountered of yours, which its nice to sort of share a same space / time element, as opposed to the many videos that i see that are months or years old (which i also like very much also, but feels a little less 'shared experience or connected or 'current'. Thank you, again, for all you do to help one understand oneself, and enable one to do ones best to be self aware, healthy, and realized. You are definitely good at what you do, and your commitment to your videos, clients, and occupation / purpose, is evident and admirable :)

[@rrowFernando777]

7 For the Spirit God gave us does not make us timid,(A) but gives us power,(B) self-love and self-discipline. 2 Timothy 1:7

[@Creating2413]

Yes!!!! I hated the silent treatment. My ex husband would give me the silent treatment for days at a time. Uggh!

[@Peridot07]

That doesn’t sound very manly thing to do

[@nicoleraber628]

Doing things (for me) and sticking to it.

[@j7b7j7b7]

Your ability to freely share to help us is astounding. Thank you for being so brave.

[@ameliasavage4307]

My self love is going to the park with my dogs and taken care of myself of mind

[@jsensefi]

Stephanie, you're my port in a storm🙏 Thank you from the bottom of my heart!❤❤Be safe🕊

[@Creating2413]

For me self love is accepting myself and having a spiritual feeling that everything will get figured out and there is a reason for everything guiding me helping me to learn and develop to keep moving forward to be my best self. It is asking myself with alot of what I am putting in and around me, is this going to be better for me or taking me backward? Each day I am trying to get some activity, take steps toward my goals, eating for health instead of what I feel like eating. I also just started thinking about how I feel about my cooking routine. I love cooking but there is so much I want to do right now so in order to be good to myself and have energy to give to other things that really make me feel I have a day that lifts me up is to make more meals that take less time. So I am doing prep one day a week, meal planning and more slow cooked meals. This has helped so much. I am also taking notice to how I feel after certain things - that is how I figure out what I want in my day. One of those things is I try to take a walk after dinner. It makes me feel so good.

[@rosaliaoliver-qv3gr]

❤Stephanie❤ Thank you for your videos ! Is a WONDERFUL ❤way to to learn!❤

[@nadiacavallini4728]

This message popped up at just the right time.

[@Doodlefisher]

Self love is the first step becauseu can’t take care of another if you can’t take care of yourself!

[@mphomarokane6485]

Love this

[@j7b7j7b7]

Thanks!

[@StephanieLynCoaching]

You’re so welcome!

[@LesterGuthrie-c4j]

Shareing with each other our partners can do something better than the other So why not each other help each other along the way Not from dependency Just from shareing When one goes over board then they are not sharing 11:17

[@n0tfr0mth1sw0rld]

Glad this got recommended to me 👌 exactly what I'm struggling with

[@Rascilon25]

I always wondered why you film in your car and now I have the answer!

[@CammiseM]

Come with a disclaimer? It is what it is. Is take it or leave it wrong?

[@artsyelectriathletic]

Thanks for the reminders about codependency tendencies while in the car

[@StoykaFlowers]

Such a great video ❤

[@cr528]

Such a great video...i wonder if we are the way we are because of the parenting era of the 70s . Seems alot of us had the same parents! No guidance whatsoever here. I dont remember my dad ever saying anything good to me not 1 time. Least we are figuring it out now.

[@cynthiarouse]

Also self care is health care. It strengthens you… ❤

[@jackiegab9394]

Thank you for this video, I really needed this lesson 🤗❤️

[@bjb0808]

Loved it! Thank you SO much!

[@MelissaBozinovski]

Excellent video, thank you 🙏

[@stevea6330]

This is me to a T.. I would love to learn how to overcome it. I feel like a shell of myself at 55.

[@JulesM101M]

How do we teach our teens how to self care and self parent?

[@Sunset_1_0]

Love your talks!!! What about dealing with jealousy in relationships as a topic please. Would love to hear what you have to say. Your videos have literally helped me immensely!! Take care!!

[@Chaitogether]

Here for it 😂🎉❤

[@pamelasimmons1689]

I feel like you were just recounting my life. I know my loving nature but I self sacrifice WAY too much. I give too much to my kids, my spouse, my mom friends, my siblings, my parents etc. It's exhausting and I have ZERO idea what I want to do/be "when I grow up" because I never think of myself. 😂 I'm 35. I'm so wounded and don't want to be left.

[@WeGotThis-Therapy]

lol sometimes we need peace and quiet.. self love and confidence goes a long way in how a person behave.

[@aarthishetty2214]

People used me including my own parents n siblings. I just feel alone . Siblings dumped parents responsibility on me n just walked away without even warning me that they are unavailable now on. Actually cheated me .

[@johnwau2485]

Thanks

[@sniper2349]

I love your videos, and everyone in the comments. There's always something that I didn't know I needed to hear. Everyone keep healing, keep getting better and stronger. Love your life!

[@aiden_zae]

how can someone on the internet across the world be so right about everything im feeling😅 i tend to go to the extremeeeee when it comes to my partner. will give them everything until i left nothing. and they wont even answer my calls and im here apologizing for things i dont even know about all bcuz of my fear of abandonment. i would tell myself to swallow my ego and self pride and her mental abuse as long as she stays with me. this is so digusting and i have realized this for so long but still do it bcuz i dont wanna lose her. and im so afraid of losing her. and i would get mad just thinking about how unaffected she is even if i threathen to leave after multiple disrespect but honestly i never leave. how do i start to get better bcuz its exhausting and im so tired and dissapointed in myself

[@johnsegura1093]

Thank u

[@rgrandberry1234]

Thank-you for your wisdom!!! xoxox Have a fun Summer!!! I live in Canada. I love it here !!! July 1 is Canada Day!!!!! ttyl xoxo

[@Doodlefisher]

I “see the problem ahead of time and take preventative steps by giving myself strong boundaries so that i don’t dump a ton of stuff onto one individual and overwhelm them?”?

[@audioeins]

PS- oh my god, what if all my compliments to you were less about you and actually stemming from me being codependent? gosh dang it Steph, now i am all confused and hyper self conscious and stuff :) how do i know what is what? :)

[@carmenhuang4996]

Love you

[@marshak6459]

why is it some women who want love is named co dependent and some clingy women who do nothing to improve end up in a lasting loving relationship? This is absolutely not true. You either find love or you dont. I know women who cant go to the foodstore without their husbands and still end up in loving lasting relationship

[@n0tfr0mth1sw0rld]

❤❤❤

[@the-oldest-3-year-old]

❤

[@cynthiarouse]

She should do a video about how she has to flee the house to get any work done. There’s a lesson there. 😂❤😂. ; - )

[@genehale669]

It's very controversial topic many ppl say different things of what co dependant is really if you look at it a full blown narcissist is very co dependant or a person that can't bare to be alone that's just my personal view though now if your a spiritual person you will go with gods view of things if your a world person you will go with text book view which is mans view and to me self love is just plain self respect and forgiveness and love for others but that's just my view of things as I said

[@steelearmstrong9616]

All relationships are Codependent. It’s one person using the other. Transactional they are. It is what it is

[@danielstea]

I don’t think “all” is appropriate! There are relationships where doing for the other and reciprocating is fulfilling! And is not transactional it’s who you are, to give and receive! That’s the ideal though and you won’t get to “I did this for you and you didn’t”!

[@louisleray]

Hi. You are much more manic when you talk in your car. But You are much more calm, wise, nurturing and influential when you are relaxef and talking in your office

[@ChicagoAnzuruni]

You better you better understand by yourself okay walking

[@garyprater8139]

1st😊

[@chrismarshall8855]

Scrolling by and saw the tagline. Just going to leave this here. There is no such thing as a condition called “codependency.” Before you reply…do some research.

[@blakemant]

Too many “likes”. Had to stop listening half way through.

[@motorctygrl]

🙏