Your Obsession With Narcissism Is You STILL Trying To Save Them!

[@billigander4200]

I'm not watching to save them. I am watching to save myself! Your videos have helped me take the steps I need to get out. Thank you.

[@liba4089]

same here. even if we wanted to, it's not possible to save them. They are not at home. Nothing there to save.

[@robo19-74]

Yes, precisely, it's not obsession, it's gathering info on subject that you didn't know exist. It's loading your guns with ammo called information

[@sarahkay8784]

I watch a video here and there as a reminder that I was all a fantasy with them. To remind myself of the part I played in it and as a reality check. It’s funny that the thing that finally made it so I was able to walk away, was giving up trying to figure it out was he a narcissist or not or was it something. I realized honestly, it didn’t matter, his idea of love, fidelity, trust, and basic respect were incompatible with mine. I’ve been lucky to be now almost a year now contact. Therapy has helped me figure out which thoughts and values are truly mine. I’m not perfect and have moments of what if. Usually when stressed or overly tired. I’ve also been lucky to have met someone in a very organic way who has also helped come to a much more “normal” way of relating to people and situations. He has very clear boundaries and his boundaries had made it easier to maintain mine. Coupled with his humor and consistent energy he has been such a blessing to me ❤️

[@TheApplicant150]

Gotta love it when the algorithm sends me exactly what I need

[@oanaalexia]

ATM I think about this subject from multiple perspectives. 1) My future ex is still around and I need to cope by convincing myself it's not me 2) I want to learn still how I can identify someone if the future brings them to me 3) to inform others if asked and the most important to me 4) how to take my own narcissistic traits to analysis and understand myself better. I'm sure you've read this quote before but it fits for the 8:15 mark: "Imagine being bitten by a snake and instead of trying to help yourself heal and recover from the poison, you are trying to catch the snake to find out the reason it bit you to prove to it that you didn't deserve that."

[@UrsulaZA]

Beautiful quote - I would like to add to the quote to further your points on knowing: “But it’s important to know what type of snake had bitten you otherwise no anti-venom would work.” If you know you’re dealing with NPD - it makes the healing process easier. I hope I made sense - in my head it had worked 😅

[@niki.ktronsgard8507]

My obsession is early recognition so I can be gone before they even realize I'm analyzing their subtle behaviors 😊

[@CroisMoi]

Me too. Over time I am learning they really are not subtle! At least most of them. 😊

[@Freespirit435]

I just managed to escape a narcissist after just one date. The symptoms - he is still seeing his ex, triangulates, compares me to his ex, constant lying and no regrets about the lies justifying them with some noble excuses. For a while I was trying to put myself into his shoes, trying to fix his problems, trying to get him to end it with his ex who never even loved him enough to move in with him. But then I decided it’s non of my business. Those two like to play this game and I do not. I fell for the shared fantasy of true love and a spiritual connection with that guy. But the reality has shattered my illusions. His behavior is not normal and it infuriates me. I need to stop thinking there was something real about it. It was all a lie, he’s been manipulating me all along. And it’s not my problem to know why he did it. Because he is damaged. I need to get away and to be happy I can spend all that time on myself.

[@Freespirit435]

The funny thing, he is the one who discarded me 😂 He told me exactly this - “now that I completely lost your trust, I am hurting, I am in pain, but I think you should let it go”. Was probably a manipulation just to get me to forgive him for his lies. But I broke it off, thanking him for doing it for me. Now I only need to stop playing his words in my head and thinking how great it would have been if not for his fixable problems. Not my problems to fix!

[@niki.ktronsgard8507]

@CroisMoi I mean very early on like "hi my name is __" they are subtle at that point they have to be, they wouldent get the time of day if they gave a full preview as they tell you their name, that would be the end of abusive relationships unless your a sucker for punishment but I believe they call that bdsm

[@niki.ktronsgard8507]

@@Freespirit435wtf lol-" now that I have completely lost your trust I am hurting" , awe poor guy, how could you take your trust away just like that, don't you know this hurts him?! I think they discard for leverage, the rejection is supposed to make you bypass your upset and mourn his loss, they really dont like it when they find out your celebrating instead

[@allentempleton2429]

looking back at my years of trying to escape this prision I finally realized that I spent way too much time trying to identify and understand my abusers pathology and not nearly enough time understanding and accepting my own pathology. l am not a mental professional nor can I be objective. This makes me particularly unqualified to decide what of disfunction drives my abuser. While most abusers share some common behaviors that we should be aware of for safety reasons, their thinking and motivation can be wildly different. To that I say who cares what technical category they are in. All I need to know is if I feel abused and if I am happy. If i feel abused and unhappy I dont belong there period. The greater question and the only thing I have control over is what is wrong with me? It is not normal or healthy to remain in a situation where you feel abused and unhappy. My journey to freedom started with me asking myself why I always put the needs, desires, demands and opinions of others ahead of my own. I first decided to challenge my abuser by suggesting they follow through on their threats to tell people terible lies about me. In my mind it had probably already happened anyway. Next I identified the supporters in the circle of minipulation. One by one I told them i had aquired a new super power and that was that I couldn't care less what they thought of me or believed. Some were my closest relatives. This alone changed my self image. I started ignoring their opinions and demands for attention. Now I was on the road to recovery. When I reached the point of financial freedom I also claimed my own freedom.

[@CroisMoi]

❤❤ Love this. I am learning that too. Just try to ignore them. Looking at them stops you from looking at yourself. At some point, it is a crutch.

[@lisahead6868]

It’s been well over 30 years since my last in a string of narcissists. I did not know what they were until one drove my brother to murder suicide almost three years ago. Finding Richard set me on a journey of self realization through a haze of grief. Recently I’m finding that I just don’t care anymore, like they never really existed…….just wasted time. That applies to his family too. None of my business and just more wasted time. I prefer peace.

[@mickcrovo5238]

This is beautiful, but sorry for your loss. Choose peace!

[@mint_soup9743]

Awe man, I took all the steps to block, delete, no contact, etc. etc. BUT the rumination still is brutal. Totally accepted my obsession as an issue still. Trying to understand "why". 😪 I even deleted all my youtube history so I'd see less pigeon holed content on narcissism... it worked! ... for five minutes- now I'm back baby!! 😅

[@venuspsychicmasseuse]

It helps to keep my head clear to listen to these videos repeatedly to heal cuz the programs built & people sent to spin my head. Worth repeating the truths to me my life depends on it

[@mitulip110]

Brutal but it's true. This is what all my good friends are telling me. I'm 4 months out. Same old story. My therapist is brilliant. Has made me realise that I have to work on the fact why I was so susceptible to the mistreatment for so long. I'm 50 and have never experienced a narcissist until the past few years and I'm left in the same position as my first heartbreak in high school. It's about time I shook myself out of it, but it's so difficult, that however is on me.

[@timweedon2785]

You were susceptible because they are lying evil manipulative piece of crap! It's not your fault in any way! It's easy to fall for their stuff especially if you don't know about this stuff. Anyone could fall for it Blaming yourself for being susceptible is nonsense. You want to help your narcissist abuse you more? Come on man You got tricked because they're liars and use brainwashing tactics on you. They're the only one who did something wrong. It's not a flaw in you.

[@Azeteck_casual]

It's ok to ignore bad people

[@coach_amy]

Thanks Richard for being an inspiration. I listen to Richard's videos now, for a few reasons: help in healing from childhood CPTSD (after all, I only repeated my childhood with NPD partners) and I really like what I know of Richard. I'm so glad to witness people who I respect and appreciate, even if it's on youtube. I pray for a husband who shares many of the same beliefs, values and humor of Richard but is also a strong Christian.

[@katydid594]

Thank you, Richard, for encouraging us to focus on healing ourselves. The ear worm was an unexpected gift. 😅

[@ZYX54321]

1:48 This I will agree, the eviction notice was given long ago, time has marched on, yet there is a loop that will play.. occasionally .. How true it is.. The narcissist can change one's brain chemistry.. It is sad & astounding .. One thing I know for certain, it's good the brain/body has a memory, it knows how to heal ..😊💫

[@AndreeaPrisacariu]

Oh, f, it's true, Richie, it's what I felt for years... I kind of knew that it was something wrong with keeping trying to understand in order to fix... or "help" them... that is my own narcisissm trait, codependency or borderline part of me... As I was listening slowly to what you were explaining I felt that thread of that in me more "awaringly"...

[@jamescoburn6789]

Starmer fits the pattern. His face when he laid the flowers and that bloke shouted at him. That was mortification and the response was revenge.

[@timweedon2785]

The obsession is the shock that real life is actually this bad. Its not really true that their persona hyjacks your mind. Maybe for some but thats not actually true. The up and down stuff they do gets your brain addicted to them. But the shock that this stuff is real is really a shock. There is no introject of them still talking to us. Thats simply not true. The truth is so many people are narcissists its crazy scary so its addictive to learn about this as it shattered our reality. And it makes life very lonley for a lot of us so while our brains are messed up from these people traumatizing us, we might be very lonley and learning this stuff validates our experiences so it's kinda comforting. Now some people got hurt by what narcs said. I never did! Even before I knew what it was I thought my 10 year covert narc was crazy. I thought it was anxiety though she had! But her words are not stuck in my head at all! Cognitive dissonance is certainly the real damage... this idea that we got hijacked by them- yeah, not a lot of us. That's not what hurts us. It's the cognitive dissonance that life sucks alone and they were sometimes nice to be around and I'd rather sometimes have good times than never! Also. I've dated so many of these things after her, bpds are even worse!!! And I've yet to meet a non cluster b girl. So I keep watching videos as I'm lonley and this is almost like having a friend that understands. Like right now. I'm super lonley. I can't meet any girl that's worth anything. This year i dated 2 bpds 1 narc and 1 sociopath lmao. And I woke up in the middle of the night sad so now I'm binging narc videos to calm myself down..and I think its safe to say hearing some of the same people constantly talking is probably psychologically making us feel safe. You're familiar, we know your voices, you keep making videos... so it's comforting and consistent in a way like having a friend around kind of. I'm gonna guess that's what our brains feel like I def don't have introjects in my head. But if every girl I've met in 5 years after a 10 year narc is cluster b- I'm lonley dude lol. The anxiety is more about the lack than any girl specifically. And I have a narc that hoovers every 2 or 3 weeks and I keep messing with her. Its fun now. I can give 2 shts about her and like messing with her at this point. I'm not trying to help her. I told the bpds other bf every time we slept together after I found out she hid a 12 year relationship knowing he beats her when I tell him. I think that breaks your premise. I told the narcs friends when she ran into me what she did to me and 2 of her exes. Hell I'm getting so jaded last time she hovered me to come over and sleep with me I slept with the bpd and sociopath in the same week just to show her I don't care about her anymore! That also super hurt the bpd who nonstop cheated on me haha. The sociopath? Yeah I don't think she gave a f she was cheating on me from day one too and I don't think she cared what I did until I called her out in front of people! That was that. Now she finds me a threat so totally ghosted me but she was cheating on me and lying until I caught her so I did it to her too and I dont care Now when the narc hoovers me if she's mean I rub in her face the other girls I slept with and tell her good so long I'll find more hot girls. If she's nice I tell her I will never sleep with her again. Tell her I'm glad I'm not with her. It's great! She's stuck on me now. She does the same stuff with a new story every time- and I just say see you in 2 or 3 weeks when she says she's blocking me forever. She says that every time! It's funny! She's like a pet now This must be you projecting what you're feeling onto us lol. It's not true. I have no empathy left for these monsters and I learned their tricks and how to hurt them back at this point and I still find these videos comforting as I do not see how I will ever find a real relationship in this world anymore. 5 years dude. Every single one was worse than the 10 year one!!! They're everywhere!! I'm starting to not give a f about them anymore and if you fight them back its actually kinda fulfilling. No contact hurts. Messing with them with their own tactics? That's the only thing that feels like justice there is. My brain is still messed up for 5 years now and I'm not totally healed- but like hurting them helps. It's a sense of closure and also getting out of victumhood. If a girl cheats on me im gonna mess her head up if I can now! Why not. They're not humans. They're freaking demons! Or possessed. Either way. Not human. The more of them you date the more you realize that! They say things only demons would say. One of them tried to tell me just because she doesn't have empathy doesn't make me better than her, she only cares about herself and I care about other people and she says they're both equal ways of going through life. Ok satan! Lol. The bpd told me she felt taken over by something that made her do bad things. She told me one time she wants to drag everyone into the black hole so they can feel her pain!!! Ok demon. The sociopath broke into a church and fd a guy on the alter and stole the priests robes and called me the next day being all, I feel bad about what I did I need your help to put it back. Hahaha no. Are you serious? These are demons! She hit on a guy in a serious biker gang to try and get me hurt too the last time I talked to her because yes I flipped out on her and yes he threatened me but luckily I made a lot of friends that night. But seriously. They are demons. Also there were nonstop signs etc. These things are not human. You can not play them into acting normal, but yes you can retaliate and it's great fun Also. Publically shame them if you got facts to back it up and especially if you have proof of things they did to exes! They say not to- bs. It works! Crazy people will side with them but you will break their brains as they do not expect you to do that! Yes they will retaliate but truth wins if you say it unexpectedly right in front of their faces! Dont talk trash behind their backs- do it with them in the room! It will mess their lives up for sure! And these videos feel relaxing

[@merin797]

Was thinking about narc men being dragged to therapy. If the therapist was a woman, he’d run for the door, because deep down he hates women. Mother, step Mom, wife, women in power, passed lovers, etc..and as you said, one must be totally honest and be vulnerable in order for therapy to work. He bailed on therapy with his wife, because the therapist “winked” that things stemmed from his wife’s problems. Not his. And there you are!!!

[@ebonyapplepy3906]

I ❤ your book! I listened to it 3x back to back. First straight through without taking notes, the second with notes (lots of pauses and rewinds), the third time to make sure I heard you right 😁. Good read 📚. Definitely one of my top 5 favorite books of 2024. I need a hard copy. If you could autograph it, I would cherish it forever. Thank you for sharing your wisdom and experiences with us.

[@katface28]

I arrived at this same conclusion. The inner savior is still trying to achieve a biochemical reward for rescuing another human.

[@katface28]

I do, also, think having the mollock devour "you" aka me, it makes sense for one's brain to be obsessed with spotting the mollock.

[@katface28]

Currently, I'm trying to find a way to stop hating this person who hurt me because I've never been a hateful person, and I don't want to start being one. I am dissecting the pieces for me to find a way back to understanding and care... because I don't want for that currently externally-directed anger to turn internal.

[@CroisMoi]

😷 Medical doctors, nurses, etc, cannot get therapy without reporting it to their licensing board. When your license renews, you must sign a form that includes that question. If you admit to getting therapy, they start to monitor you. Medical doctor suicides are very high due to the stress of dealing with patients. There is no way to get help. This is a huge problem. Everyone in healthcare should get to vent weekly like you do as therapists.

Only speaking for myself, I have to agree. It’s been a year since I first started researching the NPD’s behavior. Ten months since I kicked him out of my house. Six months of back and forth, break ups and hoovers. Fours months since I’ve seen him. Two months of no contact. But I’m still researching. Why? I have a perfectly good therapist.I think it’s a way of keeping him in my life, and I hate that I feel the need to do this. The abuse was horrible.

[@catshouse6192]

Learning about them is learning about myself, and if any fixing should be applied it is for me. Know your enemy.

[@fionataylor4269]

17 -20 mins in, so funny ! 😂 We can laugh about it now. Keep well Richard/ all. PS, The fact that you mix up KD Lange with a Scottish psychiatrist is so funny ! Ah man , shout out to The Manics , Motorcycle emptiness !! ''Survival 's natural as sorrow '' . One of my all time favourite bands ! Primal way , it was Primal way that you mocked , so funny !

[@brightstar4321]

Those who can make you believe absurdities can make you commit atrocities. ~Voltaire

[@anniesherburne2983]

so true, I wasnt a nice person couldnt be the loving flow person, I was destroyes and tried to reach out but people who havent experienced what a narcicist does to one thought my dispar was over the top and I lost friends Im seeing that now and trying conciously to piece myself back together. fake it to make it x

[@jossfangirl]

Why am I feeling that all this talk about narcissists is a subtle way of showing people who we elected as the leader of our country.

[@brightstar4321]

@@jossfangirl - Bingo - it confronts the effects of authoritarianism and propaganda on societies that want freedom and equality for their people. ✨

[@Shawn3002]

Still with the Narcissism bit! Rich you are so intelligent. You should drop it and do journalism or speak on ANYTHING else

[@insertmyidentityhere]

Yeah, he made that video a year or 2 ago saying he was gonna stop talking about it, but......😄🤷‍♀

[@Shawn3002]

@@insertmyidentityhere bread and butter i guess

[@locaitaliana]

28:02 I’ll answer since you don’t know. The spiritual “drain” is a diversion of yourself from the divine laws and light. These people bring you into the DARK and focus on sins with an evil core. It’s up to you and your faith to not allow someone to spiritually drain you, and to keep in the path of righteousness, do the right thing, and keep the faith. ✌🏽💯

[@pamelabarone5868]

I watch these to remind myself the insanity I went through to reaffirm that engaging with these individuals is a bad idea. I have been tricked before multiple times when I least expected it when they come out of the woodwork after a period of time and you are moving on. My mother was classic for this. In the past just giving them an opportunity to speak to you can end badly. Thats why I watch is hoping never to get suckered again.

[@StealBackYourHeart]

And thinking about narcissist control in the world that does affect all of us. Getting involved locally to help create healthier communities.

[@christophermarcone5504]

"But babe ! Are you gonna believe what you see , or what I tell you?"

[@life-rethought]

For me after decades of narc abuse... I was so shattered... Full PTSD..breakdowns. I tried to understand to PROTECT MYSELF.. At the first trying to change them to protect myself. I had to learn to let go let God. All those narcs. Redirecting my investment of my time. OH THE BOUNDARIES they challenged me to make. Be it law enforecment , financial, mental emotional, etc. One narc so bad... im learning guns to protect myself. Then GETTING ON WITH MY LIFE.

[@waterbabe2697]

Lol 😂 your hypothesis is very humorous, exactly same times we have too 😃. Richard Precisely.

[@Thedisgardedoptimist]

Very clever Richard, love the new theory.. makes sense.... Watching you now is officially a catch 22.... This whole caper is sooo screwed up! Lol....

[@ADyer421]

I love psychology.. I am not and have never been a fixer

[@Sherry-rq1jx]

I feel like because of since childhood all the way through a 33 yr narsissitic marriage. I BROKE away but now boy I have a hard time understanding how to trust my own decesions. I overthink stuff into oblivion

[@lovinginnerparent]

❤️❤️❤️

[@josephwilliamroca]

Thank you. Closure. And maintaining the closure.

[@ADyer421]

I’m way to lazy to fix anybody. And numb, I’m not obsessed with anybody

[@venuspsychicmasseuse]

I think im obsessed with removing the evil thats destroying my life since rhe day i came into this world and yes the whole tike im scouring whats savageable if anything and how. There is alot of narcs here its thick and they keep making more.

[@cherylwillis8622]

You sound GREAT to me! ♥️

[@joannebohan2243]

I think you can put yourself in that category too lol😂😂😂😂

[@DanniBby]

Right lmao he made his whole channel about it 😂 it doesn’t get more obsessed than that 😅

[@devanshmalikk]

what a comment!

[@anniesherburne2983]

I Managed to leave a narcicist. I feel completely changed. I miss my old self.. how do we make a new way of being when all the natural interaction has changed us so much

[@JodiSamurai]

Forgive yourself.

[@jossfangirl]

Meditation, journaling, gratitude affirmations. I turned a page when I saw it as a step in my growth as a human. I am grateful for the experience.

[@MI-sr4bp]

Accupuncture is really helping me in dealing with all body pain/rigidness as well as emotions, it rebalances the body's electromagnetic circuits, relaxes it, and that helps the layers of the Soul that got detached during physical and emotional traumas to integrate back. I can feel my Heart again and I am experiencing myself more and more like I used to before the trauma... My practitioner has over 20 years of experience and I am looking for a therapist who would be equally qualified to help me.

[@ebrennie]

@@MI-sr4bpIf you like acupuncture, you might want to explore yin yoga and somatic meditation. Same idea - open the meridians. You just use deep body weight holds to activate the meridian points and release blockages. It’s deeply healing. I’m always stunned by how much better I feel.

[@Ritakeepthefaith]

Richard, my dear....the minute I turned on this video..."about are you obsessed about narcissism ". I thought that about u!! And I'm sorry I have to agree with your therapist. I've only seen a few of your videos, which are good but u tend to go on too much about it all. U need to move on Richard! Progress in your life...move on with your life. At the moment your stuck, stuck, stuck!! Surely...there is more to you as a beautiful human being than going on about this negative narc shit. U are obsessed darling. I do wish u more than this🙏

[@Ehuff]

Ouch. Needed to hear this.

[@Karisbarlowe]

❤ thank you 🙏

[@cloudmountaindog8537]

My long running watching and reading on the whole B-cluster phenomenon was an extension of the dissonance. It went on for years and dissipated when I acknowledged that it’s retardation combined with evil. It doesn’t have to get more complicated than that. I desperately wanted to pinpoint exactly what this creature was both to make sense of my experience & to avoid it in the future.

[@clairewilliams7762]

Some people just cant let go. I have, im just stuck living in a small state in Australia that's sort of like a big country town. Alot of people now the situation but his a very charming manipulative alcholic whose mother is exactly the same.

[@collie8]

you're killing me with your Russian guy introject 🤣🤣

[@punk86]

I watch them, because I have a fascination with personality disorders and the human mind in general.

[@Chevytothelevi]

Great take on Starmer.

[@fionataylor4269]

Ariana Grande , No tears left to cry !

[@katiaberen]

doing richard's course now. read the comments. HAVE to watch now

[@curlycarla]

Haha Elvis the massive gas lighter ✋🏽😂

[@anniesherburne2983]

serious narcicism obsession and a bit of comedy

[@ZYX54321]

0:05 .. 🧐... The saving part.. If perhaps I stroll past you & are in a deep hole without any way out .. I may fetch a ladder or something to help you .. I'll hold the top as you climb up .. There is no need for both to be in a hole .. Obsessed with the consumption about all things narcissistic/sociopathic/psychopathic? Could it be it is simply one trying to understand themselves?😐💫

[@justenough9696]

Thanks for the truth bomb x

[@JaiMarie72]

Too funny 'here we go again' 😂

[@collie8]

Shakespeare is back!! 😀😀👍👍😋😋

[@rollerskeezer3325]

the lay use of the word narcissism describes all the character traits of the dark triad. Mentioning narcissism as a purely negative trait is wrong since for example brushing the hair is narcissistic but perfectly acceptable. This video is of itself a reflection on Grannon's own failures to understand the paradox of his profession subconsciously designed to excuse himself from his lack of perspicacity to effect healing of overly exaggerated character traits. His rhetoric merely reinforces the apartheid of us and them without discussing the element of belief expressing the physiological toxicity observed by others as one. The work of JP Turcaud on hormones is a key starting point, the Greek hormo meaning chain. Desiring to alleviate the exaggerated occurrences of those traits which cause harm is a natural one and if we take Grannon's advice all progression in the field would cease since his view removes compassionate optimism that offenders lacked in their lives making them the way they are.

[@Chris-t7m5t]

The obsession is Content creators profiting on the whole Narcissist trend and posting KZbin and social media videos daily. Scam bait click bait awareness.

[@mattiaswendel5684]

I can’t agree about that; in my case, all have different cases …

[@lovinginnerparent]

🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@HeatherTaylor-z1k]

Tis' been a very painful journey that I found myself undergoing. Through all the tears, the tantrums, the anger and self pity for myself, I've come to the delightful conclusion that I'd rather donate a kidney than.ever get involved with another narassist. Or better still, gather 13 cats, grab a trolley, a bottle of whiskey, and call it a day me thinks. These Narcs are too much fucking hard work !!

[@mikewilliams235]

You know you are cured when the thought of narcissism videos makes want to puke. And the only reason you saw the video was because the algorithm is slow at learning.

[@TraciDecker-n3z]

20:30 You Sir, have perfect timing.

[@deniseperez6858]

I feel absolutely targeted just by the title alone 🤦🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️ Just starting the video, I don't believe in coincidence so I better watch this since it just popped up and apparently I'm still delusional 😅

[@Hggnsbri]

Same! Felt so called out. 😂

[@euniceveloso2954]

You must have read Marquis de Sade. Narcissism and Catholicism in a heinous book. Can't remember the title.

[@thehealingdaughter]

The title, yes!

[@karinajones1121]

They're everywhere.

[@angelinbrooke2324]

You made my day! "But babe my anxiety " 😅

[@ADyer421]

I’m pretty sure it’s the narcissist that analyze we everybody that’s why I got so mind fucked, because one of my best friends think she is a therapist.. she ducked me up way worse than my husband.. not only that but she triangulated me with my friends and family.. she took all of my friends even the ones that never liked her.

[@ham3158]

Yes I agree. It’s the narcissist that is analysing constantly you! That’s why we end up mind %/£&@. The girl in my family who isn’t blood but was accepted. Didn’t accept that I belonged in my family and took it on her self to manipulate everyone in it to believe she has this right to dictate what happens. She can have them all I tried to fight against it and I wanted the best for my mother not to become like her I warned and warned her but still I get the worst treatment because I am the family scapegoat. It’s like hell that this person has been able to come in and do this to me there target. She’s also used information to victimise herself. To me I see right through her. She bullied me through people and claims she is bullied to. They need help big time. I have had to go the route I have to try and protect people I care abt in my family that is vulnerable with old age but I and afraid she has won her game. So when there in your family in this way it’s hard not to I also think it’s there game to make u analyze. Disgusting people

[@marianchioveanu9167]

Get a ranch in Romania 😊. Very nice weather, very nice people and food, beautiful nature ❤. Similarities of language with Spanish etc..

[@marynlyn]

The Full Moon Effect is real . . . and apparently due to the fact that it is LIGHT OUTSIDE. Amazingly, the crime rate goes right down when people can't see anything. : )

[@ADyer421]

I don’t agree with most of what you assume in this video!

[@lovinginnerparent]

🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@user-th3de]

Hi Richard. I've been watching your work on KZbin and it really resonates. Do you have a specific course for CPTSD?

[@robo19-74]

Its not obsession, its to gain info. Getting prepared, not having to co parenting I would never ever need to see any more of these videos. One i know its done. But its not only my involved, there is a child so im watching and getting more info before I strike

[@mtsb557]

Nature punishes altruism😂

[@Thatoneswife]

I’ve never had a close relationship with a narcissist… so why am I so obsessed with learning about narcissism??

[@unamurray4279]

Thank you. U

[@locaitaliana]

24:32 “Why did you go through my phone - AND FIND OUT I WAS CHEATING - You are a paranoid woman.” Nope, she is not paranoid-narcissists have big mouths of diarrhea. You just admitted you cheated in your song and tried to to gaslight and target the woman as paranoid. Sounds like you got busted ✌🏽💯😁

[@Anna-rt3id]

If possible, please tell which site or specifically where you got the definition you sited for psycholigization ? Thank you. PS Excellent video👌

[@ranstion]

Hi Richard ive been out of 2 covert narcissistic relationships for 4-5months now but im still struggling,my overthinking has become worse most nights i cant sleep and stay awake until 3-4am in the morning,i no longer feel worry about things i should like my exams,it feels like my emotions have bottled up...im trying to get better

[@dariarikova6578]

Good

[@xgnardprime]

re: 8:08 + "modern world to jump from you've hurt me to I need to figure out why you've hurt me it's my business to know your motivation" Entirely depends on the degree of injury and hurt, who is the victim and who is the perpetrator. No one survives psychologically after being raped by pedophiles as a child into Adulthood without utterly psychologically analyzing and exposing exact nature of crimes of entire families who aid and abet child molesting, their P.O.S. hypocrisy, villifying them and truly giving them the character assasssination they truly brought themselves with nothing less than the F-ing truth.

[@xgnardprime]

The thing about a lot of these narcisssist exposé youtube channels and et tu Richard Grannon to some degree, is they're often limited hangouts and limited to the villifying a person who they perceive they personally have the moral high ground over in past relationships. If it's the aftermath of 2 adults' relationship, then it's more likely than not, a quid pro quo foundation and understanding between 2 people equally morally culpable of the relationship. Where's the credibility of the the prattling yt narcissist exposé Guru he has more than 50% innocence in relationship gone south? Don't get me wrong, I love Richard Grannon and a lot of other narcisssist exposé channels. But if truly psychologically crippled abuse survivors, the most innocent victims, really were to consider the amount of high publicity some of these channels have, the industry around the ones that get skated to commercial enterprise. It's like "pot calling kettle black" IT'S as though the hard core survivors are looking down at them all from the perspective of Michael Palin in the jail scene from Monty Python's Life of Brian and going "YOU Lucky Lucky bastard . . you must think sun shines out of YOUR a---. . "

[@kjell-olavmossestad5401]

Its kind of a contradiction though. Analyzing it is absolutely a positive turn of events, rather than not knowing what it is, and keep getting in relationship with such people as a result of not knowing what narcissists are. So pretending narcissism doesnt exist, and not trying to analyze it just to avoid being accused of being obsessed with it, is just stupid. If it keeps me from stumbling into relationships with them, its worth it. Call me obsessed, whatever. Its possible to both work on yourself, AND keep investigating and become more aware of what red flags to watch out for. Its human nature to wonder why people are treating you the way they are. You are advocating people to be unnaturally aloof to other peoples motives. Its just not realistic to remotely target that as a human goal. What you are advocating, is for people to be emotional islands, and only have curiosity about their own feelings, words or actions. It falls on its own accord. Its contradictory. End of. You are taking this too far.. its a difference between stroking your banana, and tearing it of. Not your business.. oh what a wonderful world that would be, if everyone just minded their own business. Careful what you wish for

[@lindagonino4486]

Because I’m surrounded by many high level narcissists .

[@dannymercer9971]

Mr Grannon, this is a little off topic, but I can’t find the video where you talked about it. Where the Narcissist is looking up into space, imagining how good they look? I’ve seen a phenomenon like this where they are staring up at ceiling (during sex) eyes dilated with a huge open mouth smile…creepy smile! Is this what I’m seeing?

[@merin797]

Annette Bening and Julianne Moore played a married lesbian couple called. “The kids are all Alright”, where one of them stepped outside the marriage to have an affair. I’ll never forget one of the quotes. “You don’t step out side your marriage in order to fix the one you’re in.” Profound and crystal clear.

[@euniceveloso2954]

😂It's a good thing you are doing therapy: psyche gymn

[@anniesherburne2983]

yes good evening

[@dariarikova6578]

Is it wise to start a new relationship 2 months after breaking up with a covert narcessist (4 years of mental and physical abuse)? I feel I am hypervigilent and afraid to fall again for another narcessist.

[@Xenophanes198]

I would say it's generally not recommended to start a new relationship that soon. Most people probably need more than two months to heal. Good luck.

[@beesknees5441]

It's not unusual to want a bit of comfort in the earlier days of recovery ❤️‍🩹 Quality time with friends & family would be more beneficial whilst engaging in self care & discovery 🧡 Beyond this, it's suggested 12 months is when a person might be fully able to make good relationship choices ☀️

[@WillSoftmore]

Hey Richard thanks for this! So re: my question about Dr Peter Salerno (he's really good by the way and worth checking out, he's on KZbin) - he says that the information about how NPD and other cluster B personalty disorders is caused is wrong and it has now been proven that it's in fact hereditary and not a result of CPTSD. I think this is really important and should be more common knowledge. In your mostly brilliant book A Cult of One, you say “narcissism is absolutely an expression of CPTSD.” Apparently this is not actually the case. I just wondered if you had heard the new data and if this changes your understanding of NPD formation and expression or not?

[@WillSoftmore]

This is clinical data rather than anecdotal data BTW

[@GlamoP-w1t]

If you’re the one that has a particular interest in the part of the relationship where the person is (still trying to figure it out) then don’t you think it’s more likely your niche to develop a reality that is conducive to the particular situation that person is experiencing?

[@pickle9753]

“Respecting the differences” 👏👏👏👏 there it is👏👏🎯❤️

[@yellownapkins9922]

I think I´m still watching after 2+ years is because intellectualization of emotions are my main strategy of coping with emotions.

[@Freedom-2BME]

Why are you still doing this channel then? I don’t try analyse the other persons ‘why’.. I’ve more been focussed on why I’ve kept going back to experience the abuse over and over

[@CroisMoi]

I learn something new every day. I appreciate it.

[@ALSTCM]

Shit. You’re right. 🤦🏻‍♀️

[@BecomeConsciousNow]

Richard you got the Tyson fight prediction wrong. How could you think a 58 year old could beat a 27 year old.

[@LSMH528Hz]

Nope richard, that's what you are trying to do.

[@trippytiger1630]

?Do super ego injunctions only ever come from an authority figure outside oneself, or do any of them come from within our own internal dialogue?

[@rg3362]

I don’t think I can survive this..

[@GarethJohnson-gd6if]

You can, I did and am still working at it. ❤❤❤

[@SabinevandenOetelaar]

10:25 Psychologisation, more recent: Jan de Vos