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[@frumpusnumpus]

Something about this caller is just unsettling. He is financially irresponsible, and that's why his wife is holding on to her money.

[@edhcb9359]

I love how the caller repeatedly laughs about his and his parent’s situation and Dave stays stone cold.

[@cuh720]

its a coping mechanism to hide his pain. poor guy

[@jet4415]

He is very annoying with that laugh. First marriage at 42? Women don’t marry a bachelor who is in their 40s.

[@moveuself]

@@jet4415 then who are older single women to marry?

[@jet4415]

@DJ I don’t understand you comment?

[@ChromeXuGames]

He’s not laughing. He’s uncomfortable and being vulnerable.

[@juicysmith38235]

When my EX FIANCE started saying that i woule be able to "give his children a better life" & "afford vacations" with my income I ended it. I have some disagreements with Dave's BLANKET statement that everything becomes community property. I would love to hear someone ask him if he would share everything if he ever remarries.... 😂😂😂

[@jimroscovius]

When you are married, you are one. That's biblical. If you don't believe it, don't get married.

[@vaska1999]

I agree. The assets and the money you bring into a marriage remain yours. The joint money is what you jointly earn from that point on.

[@vaska1999]

​@@jimroscovius There's no requirement to be a believer in either Judaism or Christianity in order to get married.

[@katemiller7874]

I’m sure he shares with his wife.

[@leanderrowe2800]

I also don't believe Dave would combine his wealth with his second wife if he remarries.

[@Irene-gq4jr]

Unto thee all my worldly goods I pledge - that's thee, not thee's relatives.

[@RaleighLink]

This guy is incredibly immature, he literally wants his wife to pay for his and his parents mistakes because she has money and was financially responsible. NO WAY. I feel so bad for his wife, she likely didn't know the severity of his financial problems before marriage, because someone financially responsible wouldn't marry someone who wasn't.

[@RJRussoVids]

As soon as the caller said, "Happy wife, happy life," I knew he was toast. 🤦

[@Elizabeth-yg2mg]

Something about this caller leaves me uneasy. I feel sorry for the wife.

[@lav7161]

He's a people pleaser. Probably won't get out of that situation he's in anytime soon

[@Neddie2k]

Will you leave your parents on the street, if they can’t pay their rent.

[@Elizabeth-yg2mg]

@@Neddie2k they could come stay with me but if I didn't have money for them then I couldn't give it.

[@Neddie2k]

@@Elizabeth-yg2mg and if your husband doesn’t like the idea of his in-laws moving into his house with no exit plan. You know when they move in, they will never leave right.

[@Elizabeth-yg2mg]

@@Neddie2k I'm happily single. Parents were really bad--unendurable--and dead anyways so no worries. I was just answering someone's question.

[@patty109109]

She doesn’t wanna give him money cause he is bad with it. Not really surprising.

[@yasminogbu8929]

Exactly!

[@debrahill2272]

The cackling laugh was speaking volumes. 🤔🤫

[@Black_Jesus3005]

The wife is gonna leave him.

[@Elizabeth-yg2mg]

I would.

[@mikeberardi3985]

She should run from this clown 🤡

[@blueyellow3621]

At some point it will happen.

[@dede4539]

You can help your parents without collapsing your own house. This caller had a wife who didn't even want to help her husband financially. He'd lose the marriage if he insisted on financially supporting his parents with money he doesn't have.

[@MartianAmbassador69]

The wife shouldn't have to pay for the mistakes of the son and father-in-law with money she brought into the marriage. I highly doubt she was told he was clinging to a failed business prior.

[@marygarrett9724]

It sounds like he wants his wife to foot the bill just because she can. Nope!

[@miketheyunggod2534]

It’s both their money buddy boy.

[@vaska1999]

​@@miketheyunggod2534 It's not. It's hers, in law.

[@bonniehall578]

At least she can keep them out of the poor house. Let your parents work their problems out and get yourself out of debt.

[@theDawsonEffect]

I was done after I heard, “Happy wife, happy life” …the worse quote to live by smh.

[@TheImapotato]

No wife, stress free life

[@musicpro7278]

@@TheImapotato idk man I'm still stressed lol

[@jtlegionnaire6310]

my dad says this but ironically lol

[@aaronnilestoussaint5672]

its true lol either never get married or makes sure your wife happy because its cheaper to keep her. Men need to realize that marriage its pointless and to stay unmarried.

[@blueyellow3621]

This quote is SO TRUE LIFE EXPERIENCE.

[@claireluckensmeyer7489]

If we'd kept our $ separate... I'd be sitting on a hefty sum & my husband would be broke. I made a foolish decision & in still "paying" for it 11 years later.

[@karadaniel6334]

Get to know EVERYTHING financial that you can about your future spouse before you get married. Avoid a nightmare.

[@snopure]

Dave and John spent so much time pontificating on the "need" for married people to join finances, when this caller gave plenty of reasons not to do so...

[@justinlarsen2281]

I've never met anyone who said "Happy Wife, Happy Life" that didn't get divorced. I've also never encountered a situation where the woman out earned the man and didn't want separate accounts.

[@Elizabeth-yg2mg]

I wouldn't want to be married to this guy.

[@tmanwheeler8270]

That’s an interesting observation. I see this with guys from work. Wonder why

[@hvaball150]

good observation.

[@saramatthews7159]

lol ppl who use that phrase are such corny goofballs

[@karadaniel6334]

It’s really sad how often it happens that someone who is horrible with money is very deceitful to their future spouse. It happened to me, and in a short four year marriage, my retirement went from 600,000 down to 200,000 because I DID share. Sadly, I’m his eyes, everything was his and was needed to float his failing businesses. I don’t blame this woman one bit, there are many male gold diggers out there as well as female.

[@emilyh6293]

This caller keeps trying to humble brag while admitting he’s clueless and in debt. Good luck.

[@LocaW8ta]

This guy sounds like a creep who seemingly called Dave expecting different answers. I love that Dave didn’t bend. And they nailed it. She doesn’t trust him.

[@katemiller7874]

Dave also said when you are married your money is combined. Stop cherry picking

[@jeanlaubenthal698]

A great salesman lol because he got her to marry him! Yikes

[@crich8956]

His wife doesn't trust him. And for good reason. If he pays off his parents debt and fixes their mistakes he will never be able to get out of debt himself or would prolong his ability to get out of debt. Why must his wife pay for their issues because she's the only financially stable one. I can understand if they lost their job or they went through a hardship. He talks about his wife as if she is upset with him for helping out his family, but it is too unstable

[@NoneYa-pg6dk]

they did lose their job. it was their source of income. so a little help yes, but only help with what you can and you have to know your limits. seems like he's overdoing himself and she's upset with it.

[@crzyruskie86]

His wife should help pay her husbands debt. You dont like the fact he had debt? Dont marry the guy because in marriage you are one. I agree that she may not want to help his parents which is fine and I agree that this is fine because we arent our parents retirement plan.

[@crich8956]

@@crzyruskie86 I agree. They shouldve talked more about finances. I would say the same thing if the wife came in with debt and aksed the husband for money for her parents. Its too much burden.

[@crich8956]

@@NoneYa-pg6dk They lost their business. They couldve given it up before. I commend him on trying to be a good son. But if he tries too hard he is going to ruin himself and by extension ruined his relationship.

[@breezyveezy1]

I don’t blame the wife for being hesitant! They can combine money once he pays off his stupid.

[@sleepyjoe1685]

She shouldn't trust him. He's a financial mess.

[@azteca6695]

My mom told her daughters. " Have cash stashed, you just never know" She doesn't have faith on him. That's why she separating the money. She should of waited to marry him. UNTIL HE WAS DEBT FREE. or close to it

[@jasonleatherwood2172]

Yeah cause if he wants that money all he gotta do is file for divorce unless they signed a prenup

[@Sheryl777]

@@jasonleatherwood2172 If she had her own money "before" the marriage in a separate account, then what you said about him being able to get her money in a divorce is not necessarily true at all.

[@cutenobi]

It’s easier said than done to wait until the partner is debt free.

[@JDAfrica]

This caller is pretty chipper and upbeat for someone who is broke and made the wrong decisions. Man, own your mistakes - they came at a great cost, possibly the most expensive education you will ever have.

[@katemiller7874]

He did own them.

[@louiseherta7791]

She shouldn’t trust him or bail him out. They can combine when they are on an even plain. I don’t see this marriage lasting because she sees the writing on the wall.

[@jacobbehring6532]

Homie came for financial advice and got life and couples advice

[@roolyfe]

Exactly

[@Wickedtingzz]

For married people it’s usually one and the same I would think

[@arthrodea]

So the parents said they didn’t want the help…. The wife didn’t want to give the money…. So why is this guy insisting on giving money to them ?

[@lorinesmith9640]

Good question

[@alphamegaradio]

Sounds like he either felt responsible for them in some way (by key things he said in the call), or he believes that not doing so, even insisting so, is somehow immoral and cold-hearted. Savior-complex centered around his parents, maybe? Hard to tell.

[@BaconMountainMan]

That's what I said. 😅😅

[@rememberme626]

To be able to brag about later 😒🙄

[@Gruuvin1]

His wife has her act together, and he doesn't. They are so unequal that he is starting to realize he's inadequate. He sees it as a business partnership instead of a marriage because he knows she cannot respect him if he cannot be a provider. These two will have SERIOUS problems ahead if he doesn't grow up and put his MARRIAGE ahead of his mommy n daddy. She fell for a slickster, but he's not foolin anyone anymore. GROW UP DUDE!

[@Feliciations]

Yep.

[@AmandaHugenkiss2915]

Agree, he sold her a bill of goods and she fell for it. Salespeople will sell their mother to make a buck.

[@arleensantos3397]

Dave’s face and body language says it all.

[@acrane1100]

How were they a burden if they weren’t asking for money? He made the decision to give them money even though they didn’t want it. This guy is a mess.

[@Buggu3]

I do not trust this man , I’d keep my money away from him far far away from him

[@og6433]

And from his family.

[@scottgiles3053]

They always say that "when you get married, their debt becomes your debt". The caller said his wife has a lot of money. He sounds almost completely illiterate when it comes to money, but she should be helping him pay off their debts...that is exactly what they would say if the roles were reversed and he said his wife had the debt and he had the money.

[@AmandaHugenkiss2915]

Oh yes isn't this the truth. I can hear Dave "you need to pay off her student loans you are one now"

[@vaska1999]

​@@AmandaHugenkiss2915 Student loans are an investment. These debts are anything but.

[@scottgoodson5132]

I agree with combining finances but it’s convenient for him to expect that when she has money and no debt, while he is broke and in debt. He’s going to need to earn her trust before that happens. HE needs to make personal sacrifices and pay this off. Let your wife drive a nice car, you drive a beater.

[@spatty2589]

So he wants to take her money to pay off his parents debt? I don't agree with Dave. He wants to take care of his parents and then use her funds to pay off his debts. She has already said, "NO" because he isn't being responsible to her, their marriage, or her financial wisdom. He hasn't indicated he has done anything to correct his behavior but wants to use her funds to clean up his mess. He is being generous with her money. It isn't about the $$ but his lack of consideration for her. She isn't a bank! Just flip this around... what if he worked for a bank and decided to take the bank funds to pay off his and his parents debt? Wouldn't that be embezzlement?

[@alphamegaradio]

This one was great, guys! A lot of us can resonate.

[@mariad4183]

It's always safer to keep 100% of your own rather than share 50% of ours. That said, you better reconsider entering a marriage from that position

[@王有雯同學]

That's my situation. How about making the husband yield his financial right(to his income and to his small savings) to the wife to make better choices for the future?

[@tessaoshea5697]

Marriage is all in for money but there's something about this man's attitude that makes me glad she is holding this line.

[@timothygibney159]

When a woman says go ahead= I dare you

[@debbiehopper5288]

Funny

[@timothygibney159]

@@debbiehopper5288 I have been married before and know better. Thankfully it's been a decade since a woman told me this as that is a bad omen in itself

[@lanceehrsam8296]

This guy's divorced within two years.

[@ramship59]

No way, combining finances open the door for a lot of problems....

[@jameskloer4657]

I notice new microphones, congrats.

[@roolyfe]

I like it better makes it like a podcast versus a radio 📻 show

[@amireallythatgrumpy6508]

@@roolyfe Except it will always be a radio show first and foremost

[@d_all_in]

They set aside cash in an envelope labeled NEW MICROPHONE FUND

[@JC-xu1cz]

Laughing can be a coping mechanism.

[@Findingariel]

When the spouse as well as the parents of this spouse do not have the same "financial maturity" that you bring to the marriage (i.e. savings, money, no debt, etc.) I don't feel any responsibility or need to share the wealth brought to the marriage with them as it is legally separate property. Since it is legally categorized as "separate property" there is no requirement to share it, especially if the financially immature spouse will spend it all (following in their parents' footsteps). Nope not gonna do it.

[@naca1553]

Me either

[@d_all_in]

If you have a dollar and you marry someone who has nothing, then you both have a dollar.

[@Findingariel]

@@d_all_in The only thing we have is being broke together. I'll keep my $1 thank you.

[@mss888]

This caller gave me the cringed. Some people are scary when it comes to money especially in marriage.

[@tugboat2030]

Hi Dave. My wife is really struggling between helping me with money or helping my parents with money. Can you help?

[@og6433]

Yep. I want my wife to help me with my financial problems then I want us to continue helping my parents with their financial problems.

[@lynndove2083]

@@og6433 I want my wife to help me with my financial problems then I want my wife to help my parents with their financial problems. (Fixed that for you) If he's such a great salesman, why couldn't he pay off 75 k in 4 years? My guess is he's a selfish user and will bleed her bank accounts dry if she lets him.

[@EdelweisSusie]

I see exactly where the wife is coming from. If my husband had been irresponsible with money and now his parents are in the same situation and need bailing out I sure as hell would NOT be dipping into any money that I had saved in order to fix what they had broken by their own stupidity because once the husband/in-laws know that she has a financial 'pot' available it won't be just the one time they ask for help. And once the wife has bailed them all out, the husband will probably leave her for someone new - and all her saved money is gone!!

[@yasminogbu8929]

Exactly!

[@emilyh6293]

Would not be surprised if this man married the woman for her money

[@AndiLawson27]

I don't really understand what he was asking. "I paid a month's rent for my parents. They didn't ask or want me to, but I did. They're a burden on me because I did this!" Huh? Was he asking if it's ok to do it again, or...? I'm confused what his dilemma was. It seems it's more about feeling guilt, and resentment, that he's not as financially secure as his wife.

[@GratiaPrima_]

The Catholic Church still uses those original vows. That’s marriage. 😊

[@roolyfe]

Really . Cool 😎

[@EdelweisSusie]

Dating in older life is fraught with difficulties that become all the more exacerbated when each partner owns their home, particularly if one has more financial 'worth' than the other. There are only two ways round it: EITHER sell both properties, combine finances and start anew with joint accounts etc OR continue to love each other whilst living separately - particularly if one or both of you have been financially 'burned' by previous partners. It's a sad reflection on modern life but better to be safe than sorry.

[@nikan7704]

I love the "got cancer/used to smoke" analogy

[@BrianaBudgets]

I hate the phrase “happy wife, happy life.” Being financially responsible and focusing on your family isn’t about making your wife happy it’s about being a good husband.🙄

[@lindacornell7881]

The wife knows if she gives access to all the finances they will be on the street. Dave you had no problem telling a man to cut access to funds to a wife when he claimed she was a shopaholic. She's probably already paying all the bills. Because he doesn't earn any money.

[@treelover1050]

NO FINANCES HAVE TO BE COMBINED. EACH CAN HAVE THEIR OWN CHECKING ACCOUNTS AND HAVE ANOTHER ONE USED TO PAY THE BILLS. THE WIFE SHOULD KEEP HER OWN MONEY. BOTH NEED TO TALK OVER MONEY CONSTANTLY AND BE AWARE OF WHAT THE OTHER IS DOING ON BIG PURCHASES.

[@ilai7893]

Re: the helping parents thing, I don't think it's a cut and dry "do it or don't do it". I think in principle it's good that he has that intention, so maybe he could've done so without shipwrecking himself financially, e.g. help whatever portion he actually can afford

[@EmpressMermaid]

Even Dave has said helping family is ok as long as a few criteria are met. First, don't put yourself in a bad situation by doing so. Second, have clear boundaries and limits in place that you have clearly communicated. And third, never loan money. If you can afford to amd want to help, just give it to them. But never loan. I remember seeing one video where he went over all these.

[@AmandaHugenkiss2915]

Agree. May be ok to help out short term just to keep the shop from sinking. You don't want them bunking with you. But they have to be on a program with a timeline or the help will become subsidy.

[@laladesy7352]

He want to use her to erase his decisions then will turn around and do it again

[@lelebella3252]

Ill never understand why he is constantly telling folks to abandon their parents. But has a baby step for people take take care of their grown children.

[@blakeharrison3972]

The parents said they don’t want help so giving them money doesn’t make him a better person

[@ramship59]

Never say "happy wife happy life" Thats the looser approach...

[@9liveslisa]

Less talk, more action.

[@gypsylamb9502]

It’s not always a good idea to combine finances, especially if one spouse will be irresponsible with the money. You can end up completely broke, and then what? “I combined finances because it says so in the Bible”, but now I’m destitute so it’s my fault for not planning ahead … 🤦🏻‍♀️ Sometimes you just can’t win …

[@harpjason208]

Great advice gents.

[@jeanlaubenthal698]

So, don’t get married to someone until you and they have your personal finances together.

[@RoyArrowood]

If just finances will crush the marriage then what are you going to do when real trouble comes along? I'm sure someone bad with money can be a burden but there has to be more to marriage than that

[@marim7784]

He doesn't have a clue. I feel bad for his wife.

[@johnlanier3616]

There marriage is over.

[@MaJieMao]

My question is if you have children from your first marriage how do you protect their inheritance if you combine all your finances with your new wife?

[@kevincicchetti1887]

I don’t know the exact answer, but I believe he has addressed a similar problem before. I believe putting inheritance in a trust protects it from a new spouse, but I may be mistaken.

[@estyria777]

should probably consult with an estate attorney, but I would imagine a trust could be set up to handle that.

[@lostboi3974]

My grandparents made a family trust. Money only passed down through the bloodline

[@d_all_in]

You can't, these people who think you can hide money in a trust are wrong.

[@nickmoore2585]

You DONT combine finances in a second marriage when you already have kids.

[@lewisr7700]

Delony actually has a copy of his book on the shelf behind him!

[@KevinGonzalez33470]

News Flash…the divorce papers will be served upon him after the holidays are over. She’s already spoken with her divorce lawyer and she’s already got her new boyfriend on stand-by. I wish this unfortunate guy the best because he’s in for a rude awakening to start 2023. If You want to consistently help your parents, do not get married.

[@braydenpower6127]

These two had no business getting married in the first place by the sounds of it.

[@roolyfe]

Welp happy wife! Happy wife!

[@sherrilynn8043]

A marriage should be (God-Husband-Wife)! Trust is Earned, we only heard one side of the story! There is more to it than what is said. She seems financially responsible and he doesn't. Maybe she is concerned about their finances. It's ok to help once in a while as long as it doesn't become a habit, and they start expecting it, then it becomes enabling, and enabling doesn't help them, it makes things worse. Let's no be so quick to judge her here, without hearing her side!

[@Coffeetime1991]

A lot of married men tolerate abuse from their wives due to the "happy wife happy life" bs. That's abuse.... It's not funny or normal in any way but this is what men tolerate, i have no empathy for people who allow others to do what they do. YOU have a choice.

[@wholesome122]

Or they just put themselves in a victim mindset which is also ridiculous. Overall it’s just a dumb dumb joke to make.

[@flossymelton7658]

I have major problems with the advice given to this man. The wife should hold onto her money---she is not responsible for the support of HIS parents. I hope she stands firm.

[@commonenglishmistakes4360]

You can legitimately keep money separate before marriage as a prenup and it's still a valid marriage - you share everything while you're married but if you get divorced, it's not fair that a gold digger gets money they had no part in earning. If everyone was honest this wouldn't be necessary but we all know that this is not the case.

[@harpjason208]

All jacked up on Mountain Dew!!

[@justinc8707]

Lot of single women and women who’s marriage didn’t work popping off in these comments. If you don’t trust your husband to combine money its your own fault, you shouldn’t be married if you didn’t take the time to get on the same page on money or didn’t think to talk about it. Same goes for a man who feels the same way.

[@Michael-ft9pm]

As a divorce christian, I am glad I can't remarry. Makes life a lot easier. Stay single kings.

[@Elizabeth-yg2mg]

Kings? Dream on....

[@glenshepard6960]

I am in the same situation have to give half my retirement to my x wife and never been happier in my life. Less money but alot happier and healthier. Being a Christian is the key to happiness also.

[@naca1553]

If I pick up on a man’s ignorance about money, he doesn’t get another date

[@suebotchie4167]

So glad to be very post wall - and dodging bullets.

[@TheImapotato]

Never been married, no children, date younger women. I am the bane and anger of many older women, but IDGAF. I am wealthy, happy and healthy.

[@yourgooglemeister6745]

Dude should have called Rollo tomasi

[@brandonbarclow3135]

Can someone tell me how you can have a marriage and NOT combine incomes.

[@suebotchie4167]

Combine incomes, else it's not a marriage. Yaayy, Christian marriage - any other kind is fake.

[@vaska1999]

By having a joint account for your living expenses and vacations and keeping separate individual accounts for everything else.

[@Chele-nm4qx]

I wonder if he had the money before the marriage if he would feel the same way... 🧐

[@jimroscovius]

This guy is kinda weird. The parents went out of business. That's on them. Get out of debt. Be a real man.

[@jet4415]

I agree! He is has a baby brain.

[@Elizabeth-yg2mg]

@@jet4415 yea he sounds smooth and cocky--more talk than walk.

[@leanderrowe2800]

I disagree with the two hosts on totally share your money and assets with your spouse irrespective of everything including the differences in wealth, sense of responsibility, spending habits, second or third marriages, stepchildren, huge difference in ages etc. etc etc.......

[@caroldorsett8170]

But if the other person is not all in the I refuse to be all in too. Late marriage for one and second marriage for other so not going to happen!

[@jeffwindham9257]

Happy wife happy life is the worst advice ever given about marriage.

[@alphamegaradio]

Amen. On the flip-side, "A cord of three strands is not easily broken" is probably the best. Husband, wife, and God. A 3-way union. God at the head.

[@L.O.R.DRecords]

6:31 if marriage is till death, do us part why is there such thing as a second third or fourth marriage these are one of the reasons why I don’t believe in marriage

[@grega2362]

Then again if you and your spouse agree to share everything, and the spouse does. Shares what you earned with Visa, Mastercard, Target, Walmart..........

[@rossmcgreg6r642]

Why would she "share"( give him access to her $$) her life with him?

[@chrisestes2383]

Because she said "I do"

[@FrankS111]

The same women in these comments saying “yaaas queen” for her keeping the money she had prior to the marriage to herself are the same ones that would call a man “greedy” or “selfish” if a man did the same thing to his wife.

[@sblijheid]

I don't. I just think his wife made a financial mistake by marrying him, since his net worth and his maturity level are negative.

[@litenmighty]

That guy sounded unreliable AF.

[@eduardobispo9017]

No defending the caller but when the story like this comes from a wife wanting to help a family member the reaction overall is very different!

[@d_all_in]

She is wrong for keeping money separate from the marriage. He is wrong for wanting to spend THEIR money on his parents without her consent.

[@nextgencupid]

Being an Indian kid, I can't even fathom the thought where I won't help my parents and would think of my financial freedom first. Maybe it's the difference in values or upbringing in different culture. I would rather put in an year or two of my life to stabilize the parents, just like they did for me. Not judging though, just a difference in culture

[@davidleavitt3804]

We used to be that way here in the USA.Selfishness took over.

[@songindarkness]

The point is not that he shouldn’t help the parents. The point is he’s 45 and only just growing up - he’s in debt and is still paying off all his credit cards (I notice he didn’t say how much) and so any money to help the parents is coming out of the wife’s pocket. He is complaining about how his wife doesn’t trust him with money but of course she can’t trust him. He’s 45 and yet still not financially stable despite claiming to be a great salesperson and making lots of money so he must have been really financially irresponsible in the past. So he needs to sort himself out first to be trustworthy and to help anyone. If he was in a good financial position this whole question wouldn’t even have happened because he would have been able to help out with or without his wife but he also needs to be mature enough to discuss this with his wife and make an agreed mutual decision.

[@chedbeckford8067]

The thing is if she was the one who came into the marriage with debt, he would be expected to help her with the debt and he would be more than willing. It's always your money is my money but my money is my money for a lot of women today

[@jimmymcgill6778]

yep. And Dave would call him out on that. But now he's all quiet.

[@jimroscovius]

Then don't marry that woman.

[@jimroscovius]

@@jimmymcgill6778 No he wasn't. He spoke a lot on that.

[@nikkisigmon8090]

@@jimmymcgill6778 didnt listen to the video. He discusses that starting around 5min mark. 5:00

[@timothygibney159]

I like what Dave said when he says combine finances. The problem is she is the man in the relationship and has no frame so she is turned off and she is holding him to the fire. This is why it is so important as a man to get your sh** together and be at the finish line. This is why women date winners. It is to avoid marriages like this fella. Women don't stay in relationships with men they don't respect. He needs to address her behavior and work together. If she refuses get a divorce lawyer as the rt is now over if he can't be the man in it

[@normagaloski214]

“The wife”

[@SD-hs2pk]

She should maybe be the one responsable with the finances but after all this is fix and counseling so there is no resentment

[@andyzagray7962]

That's why I don't have one doi......