Therapist Reacts RAW to the Bachelor

[@RescueGoat]

I think Jarvis Johnson described the Bachelor perfectly: "The show in which 15 women compete for instagram followers and one unlucky lady has to get engaged."

[@Lucylucee_96]

Yeahhh I think the same👍👍👍👍😅😅

[@danielstark8356]

This comment just wins. Haha

[@alltoohalliwell]

I see it more as some dude came up with a way to date multiple women at the same time and not look like an uber douche

[@Sarahbo00713]

Greatly put! I will use your words. Besides, most of the bachelors on the show aren't even attractive anyways, so it's just a battle for attention!

[@MFLapin]

Ha!😂 Truly!

[@ZoraXire]

Suzanne Collins actually did state in an interview that she got the idea for the "Hunger Games" by flipping through channels on her TV and saw a reality TV show, game show and the news and did indeed mesh all of them together as she felt at the time this is kind of an interesting take on where our society is headed. I don't recall if she mentioned (or could) which specific shows she watched, but yeah I'd say the Bachelor is probably a high contender lol.

[@thecakeisalie652]

Interesting! So a good author really can make an awesome art out of any crappy idea!! :D

[@jjettswriting1900]

So, she didn't see the Battle Royale and thought, "I could write that only set it in a dystopian America"

[@Tink2k]

I was coming to say the same thing about Hunger Games. I think she did a great job with the mix of "reality" tv and dystopian fiction. We are all entertained by these "reality" shows. But the Bachelor / Bachelorette have definitely devolved over the year since "influencer' became a thing.

[@kristimitchell5749]

"Here's how you play the game. You don't play any games." YES. THIS.

[@siristhesalamander4186]

"Keep shining because we need your light, I'm Johnathan Decker, and this has been painful." That's one for the record books ladies and gentlemen (^x^)

[@lsilvaeditor]

There are actually rare times where the contestants themselves get together (which makes sense, because the contestants spend more time with each other than they do with the actual bachelor). One of the most dramatic instances was on the Bachelor Vietnam, where during the rose ceremony, one of the contestants, Minh Thu, declares her love for her fellow contestant, Truc Nhu. There's some back and forth whether Nhu will leave, but eventually she does, and the two of them are still together.

[@inkakoutna7155]

I love that soo much!! 💓

[@lyndsaybrown8471]

That's pretty cute actually

[@4amlibra]

This is the only good possible outcome.

[@datheamore6395]

Why isn't this adapted for a movie yet?

[@jjettswriting1900]

"Here's how you play the game: you don't play any games. You just be straight up and real." That is the best relationship advice I've ever heard.

[@michanone]

"You can't find lasting love in a show that picks the candidates." Now I want to see how you would react to the book series "Selection" by Kiera Cass! That would be amazing.

[@taiwanfluff]

god i love that series

[@kohakuaiko]

Considering that's how certain royal courts did it historically...

[@thespidershan8878]

BookTube, where u at????

[@TheGoofy1932]

@@kohakuaiko And those always worked out so well too...🤣

[@Jehphg]

he wouldn't last long reading that garbage

[@KMMHealy]

The Bachelor and the Bachelorette did a lot to help me unlearn toxic femininity. Which wasn’t a side effect I expected.

[@daleannharsh8295]

I can't stand any of these 'reality' shows that require the participants to stab each other in the back to get ahead. And that caused me no little trouble at work where everyone else watched them, talked about the, and couldn't understand anyone who wasn't enthralled by them. There's enough of this kind of stuff in real life, I don't need it in my 'entertainment'.

[@SingingSealRiana]

Hate that stuff to, I hate any games that require meanness and do not play with people who get upsat at a game, I like playing as an interaction, not a competition. Backstabbing is nasty and I avoid having to face it where I can

[@SC-md4qo]

I'll never get into this show but I loved the reactions. You're such a gem to watch.

[@melodyclark1944]

She wasn't using it as an excuse. Elizabeth not looking at Shanay doesn't make her mean or two faced. She didn't owe Shanay a conversation by the pool especially when she doesn't realize Shanay is trying to talk to her.

[@rayannaelanor5553]

That last sentence. "... and this was painful." I felt that 🧡

[@natyc19]

Honestly when he said who's gonna be on top, my brain went to America's next top model

[@laetitiarose7796]

Not looking someone in the eye or ignoring someone because you are have trouble processing auditory information and do not hear them is not "bad behavior" this is something a lot of people with ADHD genuinely struggle with. It sounds super tone deaf of you to then say dont use your mental illness to excuse your bad behavior. ADHD brains work differently than neurotypical brains and this woman was explaining this.

[@AnnaLeighMusic]

Yes, thank you! Videos like this are doing nothing to help the stigma surrounding mental health, especially ADHD. I’m actually pretty mad about this.

[@shanghaiallie]

Yes agree. I'm autistic and neurodiversity is not a mental health issue - it's a neurological difference. When I'm trying to concentrate on what someone is saying, I often stop looking at them directly or even close my eyes to limit other sensory inputs and focus on the sound of them speaking and people regularly interpret this as being rude or not paying attention. I don't think explaining to other people your communication style when it is different to what a neurotypical person expects is the same thing as blaming your rudeness on mental health issues. Of course, I refuse to ever watch this show so there might be additional context - she could just be a super rude person and not actually neurodiverse.

[@SingingSealRiana]

Also getting very focused on one thing so you miss others can be an adhd thing so if your in a passionate conversation about a topic you are into you just lose awareness of someone else around and miss to include them... Her explanation made genuine sense in regards of add/adhd

[@SingingSealRiana]

​@@AnnaLeighMusic the fact the explanation makes sense does not change, that from the looks of it, she did use it as an excuse and that's what really is harmful. She was pretty mean to the other in what he said, she expressed strong dislike against her and then hid behind what otherwise would have been a valid excuse. As long as people misuse a diagnose as an get free card where it is not warrented, people will be frustratingly justified to be suspicous

[@meenakshisrinivasan9933]

Yeah, I completely agree as someone with ADHD.

[@LamanKnight]

I never watched this show, but it was comforting that my first encounter with it was here. I'm so glad to see someone else laughing, because that whole exchange was ridiculous. "These are deeply compassionate, mature, levelheaded people" indeed, ha ha.

[@djk5v]

I agree with everything you said. I wish you had explained though that what that contestant was describing is a struggle for some who have ADHD. I think she was trying to explain that she didn’t mean to ignore the other person and that’s how her brain works. And then the other person goes and blows it up about red flags to Clayton. Haven’t kept up with this season, so I don’t know who they’re trying to paint as the “villain” for this one.

[@amelia20717]

I wish that Jono had watched a bit more of the episode as it actually provides way more context (keeping in mind it’s edited). On the group date (themed around red flags), Shenae pushes Liz down and out of the challenge. Then at the night portion Shenae is ready to grab Clayton to chat but Liz asks him first and she gets all pissed off and huffy. She talks with another girl and in a interview shot about how threatened she is by Liz and how fake she links she is and how she “can’t wait to throw up on Clayton about Liz.” The way it is presented is that Shenae wants to sabotage Liz’s chances. Then she tells Clayton what she does and lies to the other women about it, and talks to Liz citing her ignoring her… And most important, we didn’t get to see their THIRD conversation about it Shenae wanted to have because she got “weird vibes” and Shenae starts coming at Liz and tells her that little kids have ADHD and everyone has ADHD and you know she does too and suggests Liz was exaggerating/faking. I think the extra shots we get in the episode, especially the last incident, definitely paint Shenae as in the wrong more clearly than those in the video

[@IceQeen1011]

Please do Married at First Sight!! Esp the intro where they talk about what they're looking for and we see the therapists 'put people together'

[@chibigirl8545]

I guess "The Good Place" would be too long for you to do a CinemaTherapy episode on, but it's right up your alley

[@mama2meditate375]

Missed opportunity at 4:35 for not throwing in an Emperor’s New Groove clip: “hate your hair… let me guess, you’ve got a great personality?” 😂

[@maikenelissen3767]

I saw the notification and thought: "Jono and the BACHELOR?? This is going to be so much fun." Two minutes in and I'm already dying from cringe, but I know with Jono everything will be alright😅

[@Shadowgod1000]

Honestly, I just want more of this, because I would never watch this show, but I find this all hilarious. I'm sorry if it hurts your soul Jono.

[@benjaminfast5496]

I agree with what you said about not using mental illness as an excuse for how you treat others, but you missed a lot of context leading up to this. I think you should have watched way more that happened before this conversation. Shanae was flat out lying simply because she was jealous of Elizabeth. She made up, what was probably a false story, or a twist on the truth that she concocted in her own mind, and used that to try and take down Elizabeth. When Elizabeth explained her ADHD it was to explain to her that that may have been the reason why she didn't respond to her because it's hard for her to focus. It was an explanation to create an understanding between them, to make Shanae realize it wasn't intentional. If you had watched what happens after this you would also see that Shanae handles this so poorly and mocks her AHDH even more as the episode goes on. It's awful. I think Elizabeth was genuinely trying to stay clam while also remaining stoic and unmoved by Shanae's antics. (Also, this is purely entertainment and I also agree that this is NOT what we should aspire to when looking for love. Lol.)

[@thewordshifter]

This. Shanae handled this completely wrong.

[@ladyorapma]

As soon as he started commenting on the video I realized he lacked context, sometimes context is very important when analyzing a situation. This is a problem of reacting only to little scenes about a show.

[@TheFranchiseCA]

These clips are putting the "O no" in Jono.

[@Jake_Sachs]

You needed more context for this. First off, many of the contestants end up being good friends with each other (but not the ones involved in drama like this). Second, your production team edited in here the clip of Shanae unnecessarily pushing Elizabeth over during a race earlier in the episode. They should've showed you that clip, because it would've given you the much needed context that Shanae was in the wrong for the entire episode. Elizabeth's ADHD was a valid excuse for the bullshit Shanae was trying to push. I'm also surprised you didn't mention how bad it was for Shanae to mention the ADHD in front of everyone.

[@IceQeen1011]

I agree with this!

[@mlolvera91]

I don’t mention my ADHD to anyone for a lot of reasons. It was honestly cringy when I heard her bring it up.

[@ook4698]

@@mlolvera91 her saying she had it "real bad" is what got me 😭

[@orangecouch]

OMG! I want a series of just watching Jonathan watch The Bachelor!! That was fantastic!

[@tyleremery7088]

According to Google, "Out of 25 seasons of The Bachelor and 17 seasons of The Bachelorette, there are only 14 couples still standing."

[@Walls2008]

You actually did it, you made the Bachelor funny. Well done Jono!

[@cattach]

OMG! I've never seen the connection with Hunger Games, byt YEAH, you totally nailed it there :,D

[@jessykaros]

Mended Light and Cinema Therapy are both the best youtube channels. I love them both.

[@tierneykurfess2618]

The dramatic music is really the sprinkles on the cake

[@sylviamcintosh3772]

". . . I dropped some IQ points just watching this. . ." YES!! LOL

[@rhiannonmeier4647]

"There's more reality in Pixar than this 'reality show'" sums up reality TV shows that aren't based on cooking or tattoos

[@thecakeisalie652]

Jonos RBF-face! ROFL AWESOME. Enjoyed that video :D

[@kakeen1977]

The Tinder Swindler...true story on Netflix. This man conned these women out of hundreds of thousands

[@FruityHachi]

i have never really watched Bachelor or Bachelorette but for a couple of months i used to watch 90 Day Fiance, until i stopped enjoying juicy drama and now i prefer to watch animated and other kids' movies

[@sketchygetchey8299]

I don’t know what’s better, Jono reacting to the Twilight series or to the Bachelor. 😂

[@mickeymuckelrath4416]

Oh that’s not really fair. An explanation can be appropriate and not be an excuse. How else would you explain a misunderstanding of behaviors? I have had people literally stand 6ft behind me and loudly, repeatedly ask me a question, but because I was already listening to a video on my phone, my brain physically did not process that there was other sound happening until I turned around and saw my friends about to fall over laughing. The auditory processing struggle is real.

[@DiamondsRexpensive]

Please do a vid about the movie: "red shoes and the 7 dwarves" Also about a Hungarian movie called: "kontrol" I need to hear what you have to say about those.

[@KarelinaCA]

My entertainment came from watching poor jono suffer this much 🤣🤣🤣 I'm sorry for the dude 😆😆

[@veganhaltigig2703]

Telling someone else you are AMSD ("ADHD") ist NOT to make others feel bad!!!!! Wtf???? This coming from a therapist? I'm shocked! (I still love you!) But I'm shocked! AMSDs get misunderstood so so so so so many times a day and no one cares about it! People always assume we're lazy, rude or making up excuses! We're not! We are overseen every day over and over again. And in the end the only person who helps us deal with it is ourself! So if we share how our brain works with you and we're open and bold and try to communicate with you to help prevent misunderstandings: Don't laugh about us! Don't judge us! Just listen and think what ever you want but accept our feelings and our experience of ourselves! Just like you'd accept any one else that you understand. You don't have to understand us. Just believe and accept. Don't assume the worst. This will make the world so much better for everyone! 🙏💕 Thx for your time! *AMSD = Attention Motivation Stimulation Divergency

[@LifeIsScrumptious]

I think in the context of that conversation, she may very well have brought it up to get out of whatever she had just done. In this setting, the entire point of many of these conversations is absolutely to manipulate and gaslight each other in order to "win". Absolutely AMSD and other mental struggles are not a joke, but this show? A joke for sure, and full of manipulation, smoke & mirrors.

[@maevereynolds6344]

@@LifeIsScrumptious no, she was being honest & very vulnerable ab a stigmatized, misunderstood disability. She described exactly what ADHD looks like for most people, especially in high stimulation environments. She's trying to explain that her brain literally couldn't process in that moment that the other woman was trying to talk to her. If a friend waves at you when you're turned looking in another direction, are you being rude & two-faced for not waving back? No, you just didn't see them wave so you didn't know there was anyone to be waving back at & that's not your fault! What's more, later the other woman goes on to ignorantly & callously mock, mischaracterize, & dismiss ADHD, which she clearly has no understanding of, nor any desire to learn bc she wants the narrative that is sympathizes w _her_. Regardless of the show as a whole being a joke, the core misunderstanding that takes place btwn these women here is a realistic to what people w ADHD & other neurodivergent people have to navigate in every day life. I very much appreciated Elizabeth being brave enough to be open ab an aspect of ADHD that most people don't know or don't understand.

[@michelottens6083]

It's interesting to see these contestants use therapyspeak, or advice column language, as a kind of lampshade or an irony-cover for the actual meanness and performativity of their conversation.

[@zavadajanos]

I know you haven't done albums yet, but I'd love to see you react to The Black Parade

[@ilovegod0106]

Pixar strikes hard and straight to the heart. This is just…. Highschool?

[@pigpjs]

The earlier seasons definitely had more success. A fan theory for why is that the rise of the social media influencer has affected who has signed up. Older seasons, the contestants were closer to or in their 30s. Now they tend to be under 25.

[@Christina-xc7on]

Yeah the show in an influencer factory now, neither the contestants or production really care about creating romance now

[@AliceI7764]

I watch a lot of your videos and you said to leave a suggestion. I just finished Lost in Space on Netflix. This show has only 3 seasons but it is right up your alley. The story wraps up quite nicely actually while leaving room for a spin off or continuation if you want one. I would love to see your reactions to that.

[@shaynapilc5229]

Thank you this was so refreshing and on point

[@doglady9334]

Thank you thank you thank you thank you thankyou thank thank you thank youuuuuu thank you. You have said everything i have thought.... i still watch it tho cuz.... yeah, entertaining.

[@Olivia-xf4gy]

HAHHA I almost didn't make it through. 😅 But your reactions were great so I made it HAHAHAHAHA 😂

[@taiwanfluff]

dude i dont watch the bachelor either lmao, but this is actually how girls fight. it's all insanely sneaky and it drains you OUT.

[@AndaraBledin]

So, hey, I actually have met a former Bacherlorette "winner." That marriage totally didn't last. I met him cause his current wife is the daughter of my boss. She'd grown up with the dream of marrying a celebrity, so good for her on finding one who seems like a genuinely decent guy.

[@majaborkowska8132]

I love your laugh! In the best moments

[@myskanamrazu9412]

You've just reminded me of Pop Song by Jon LaJoie. I heartily recommend you check it out; I have a feeling you'd love it to bits.

[@TFC9119]

Hi, could you do a video about your opinion on casual sex? I find it detrimental for mental health, for both singleness and people after breakup, however it seems like a norm for the new generation, and people are like: I can do whatever I want when I’m single, that doesn’t mean I’ll cheat when I’m in a relationship/ I can do whatever I want after breakup, (later the couple get back together), and it cause problems like Ross and Rachel. How to solve the problem between couple who has different view about casual sex and the jealousy?

[@taylorbringhurst752]

I’ve never seen this show, but I’m loving your take on it as pure crap. Haha thanks.

[@FrauWNiemand]

Thank you for these last words. This is the reason I don't watched TV since like over 5 years. And I don't even live in USA. Yes, it might be funny. It is fake. None of this is true. There is indeed more reality in pixar than in any of these scripted shows.

[@juststrings1812]

I don't like the show either, but out of solidarity with you, Jonathan, I'll watch this video. Hope everyone at Mended Light is doing well!

[@mst-pierrem5729]

I'm so glad, you react like I would (laughing) watching this kinda show.... It reassures me that this is not worth my time!!!

[@julieringering3095]

I watched one episode,and went this is horse pokey and never went back to it,cuz I couldn’t tolerate it.

[@alisonhawke1813]

The only really good take away I had, was that I’ve never actually watched the show. Ever. Yay! 😍

[@k8evids336]

Jono is way too into this 😂

[@stevenmartorana1970]

This was awesome! Would you consider doing a hot take like this to the most recent season of Sister Wives?

[@JialiYangYT]

Can you react to more Love is Blind?! 😀

[@PuntoySeguimos-Vik]

I would like you Reacting to 90 days fiance, I think that would be very intetesting!

[@amyhawke9240]

I think it's worth pointing out that the women are sequestered in the mansion with no interaction or entertainment outside of the other contestants and the producers, so it does seem reasonable that they would make friends with each other.

[@tulip5210]

I just had a dark realization about the bachelor, if you haven't watch secrets of play boy, and see what objective connections you make.

[@maevereynolds6344]

Ahh Jono, I'm surprised at your accusatory reaction to her explaining her disability in order to clarify that the perceived "bad behavior" is a result of literally not being able to process multiple incoming stimuli at once. It's not easy for us to be open & vulnerable ab a condition that a significant amount of society still does not take seriously. I never doubt that you _always_ have good intentions, but that take did hurt ngl

[@MendedLight]

I'm sorry for hurting you. I don't always get it right.

[@maevereynolds6344]

@@MendedLight i understand!!! None of us do & that's why I made sure to clarify you are someone whose best intentions i _never_ doubt. I hope you understand where i'm coming from ab ADHD in my comment? & i hope i was able to communicate it not too harshly. For the record, you are someone who, imo, gets it right 99% of the time. Regardless of this one take, you are someone i really look up to & i am so thankful for the light you bring to this life... Especially to youtube 😊😊

[@maevereynolds6344]

@@MendedLight also, thank you so much for your response ♥️ it means a lot!

[@Sandra-ct1rd]

The right reson to be on Bachelor is: I will be in TV and I will fight.

[@shojolove]

I'd love to hear your thoughts on Moral Orel!

[@AiSayuriChan]

I'm not into reality TV shows because I'm also worried about their impacts on teenagers, insecure people - and my brain. I've got to admit though that sometimes when I'm making scrapbooks, I'm not in the mood for music but also can't pay attention to a good movie or series. So I either watch stuff I already know or I put on some reality TV. xD Not often though. Once in 6 months maybe?

[@vettir]

On another thing to see your reaction to: kzbin.info/www/bejne/oZjZeWmqjZl4oJI (or indeed, almost any of the Bloodywood original songs, they're things right in your wheelhouse)

[@theimmersedreader]

Can you do Married at First Sight? lol

[@LPstef]

LOL that's exactly what i always say about trash TV: you drop IQ points by watching stuff like that thank you. you're awesome

[@drakean8]

Oh man, you need to raw react to 90 Day Fiancee!!

[@anxen]

Narcissistic shenanigans masterclass

[@gnomie06]

I would love for you to react to love at first sight ❤️ my husband and I only watched season 1, but it was quite interesting. The bachelorette and the bachelor are definitely trash tv lol I sure hope most people don't take it as reality 😂

[@kawsari.4155]

ADHD is not a mental illness though, sure the symtoms can be debilitating but that's more so bc of society lacking in a lot of different areas. I think it does more harm than good to label it an illness that needs to be "cured" just to be able to fit into a neurotypical society.

[@lilwa5491]

I would love to see you talking about couples who has a person who doesn't want children and the other person does want children

[@kaedilorakokhama2767]

This isn't related to this video at all but I wanted to know if you had any videos about relationships with 'time bombs.' What to do if you're about to get into a relationship or it's early on but you're aware that it will have to end or drastically change because of an inevitable oncoming change like moving away. Should you stay away from relationships if you have a time bomb? If you've just entered one, when is the right time to discuss it?

[@warrengday]

Are there any good relationship TV clips that are worth talking about?

[@IzzyCanterra]

I have never been in a dating show, but I know some people who have and they were doing it for clout. None of them was that interested in dating really, it was rather a plus to think about if anything romantically came out of it. But mostly it was just to be seen.

[@stevieray7203]

The vocal fry tho!!

[@michelottens6083]

Hell is other people... if you confine them to a small space, force them to follow overtly artificial and competitive rules, and then force them to interact while doing that. Everytime I see bits of this show, I feel like, with a bit more space, all these people would just silently form a polycule, or marry each other off to their friends, and have done with it, happily ever after, with little to no drama.

[@kayleeann8493]

I'd love for you to do a 90 day fiance series! I'd love to see some of those couples get therapized lol!

[@maevereynolds6344]

Oh please no, almost every yt therapist reacts channel has 10+ 90 day fiance vids haha

[@maikenelissen3767]

11:18 so basically just BE A DECENT HUMAN BEING!

[@morgand.3809]

What would I like you to react to? SUPERMAN & LOIS! Come on, you've already got the emblem on the laptop. Pick any subject and episode you want, even. Everything about that show is great material for discussion. As for the Bachelor and similar shows, I just can't with them. I don't find them even funny, just utterly mortifying.

[@bekkapaul5815]

Honestly, with the RBF, I always boil it down to botox on reality shows. I personally feel like so many of the contestants on these shows consistently look conniving or rude or “bitchy”, and I’m so convinced botox plays a big role in how they physically emote.

[@maureenfarrellgarcia1778]

How about reacting to "Love is Blind"?

[@MendedLight]

LOL. Great minds think alike. Yours and my producers. Just filmed it last week. Coming soon :)

[@KxNOxUTA]

I just can't. It's sickening. I've watched our German version one time and some snippets when nothing else was on TV. Any version of an American show in Germany is more humane and decent, sorry America! Even the ones that are abysmal are still worse in the American versions. Because there's even less communication happening. It was a rather shocking thing to find, at some point. Cause then I thought ours were bad and it couldn't possibly get worse. So when they do treat each others like humans and do indeed have a friendly competition with dynamics like "May one of us be happy and let's either way be decent" then it can be interesting. Just in the sense that you can see mature handling and immature handling of problems. Overall the concept is ridiculous. There are other concepts where they bring ppl together via science and see if they fit or formats when people are matched. But it's then one on one dates and simply chances to get to know each other. Everything else only makes me think "flesh market". It's just incredibly shallow clumsy trough matchmaking. And a looooot of money is made from the desperation of people to find partners. It's about time to question the whole concept of "needing a romantic relationship". And things like the rush to get bonded because "the female biological clock is ticking". We've got overpopulation worldwide! If someone has a very strong urge to have kids, that's alright. But very often we are not brought up to question where it comes from and if it really is for us or not. On the contrary, we've grown habits of implying sth. is supposedly off if ppl don't partner up at some age and couples don't get to producing offspring. 🤦‍♀️ 2022. I'm sorry, ancestors. What you fought for - with us in mind - has partially become true, but we've messed it up big time yet again. 😅

[@Ichneumonxx]

Sigh, gotta love what our forced fee for German TV goes into.

[@potaatoo8793]

@Kat. right I thought shows like the biggest loser were bad enough in our versions but then I saw some clips of the american original and they're just straight up mentally and physically abusing the contestants I was so shocked

[@IzzyCanterra]

I know some people here in Germany who have been on dating shows and at least the ones I talked to aren't even as interested in dating, they are there for clout. Not all of them definately, but Sone realized that there is some thin possibility for having a career based on trash TV. They use it as a marketing strategy. You are absolutely right, it is far from highbrow entertainment, but some people are smart enough to use that for themselves... I personally don't aspire to that either, nor do I think you should... And I do to 100% agree, there is NOTHING wrong with being single. Sometimes it is better to be single than being with an abusive ass or someone who simply won't fit just for the sake of being in a relationship. About kids, I personally like the idea of adoption a lot. They don't have to be genetically related to me to be my kids and you can give so much hope and a great life to a foster kid!

[@oatmeallover4302]

Hearing a therapist say that someone is playing the “mental health card” to “get away with being mean” is really disheartening. And watching a therapist laugh as someone’s mental health diagnosis is outed to a group of people is very sad. It seems like this is what happens when you go into watching a show already deciding that you hate not only the show but every person on it. Comes off slightly misogynistic to be honest. And as someone who enjoys watching the bachelor I can assure you that we know it’s trash when we watch it and we still like it and we are allowed to like it! :)

[@mimimirie]

I've enjoyed your content before but I had some issues with this video. I hope this can be constructive feedback: I completely understand your response to the ridiculousness of the show. However, I wouldn't discount the human emotions that come from it. Wouldn't it be possible that a client can come to your office struggling with a friend who is fighting for the attention of the same love interest? Yes the show has extremely contrived scenarios, but it seemed like you couldn't get over laughing about them to see that these contestants are dealing with attachment and communication issues just like anyone else. Also, RBF is meant to describe a woman's face when it is in a completely relaxed state, not the side stare or face of contempt that you're describing. It's sexist because of how it specifically judges women as frigid and bitchy based solely on their natural facial features. It makes women feel they can't be themselves and must be smiling/performing in order to be perceived well by society. In a related note, I wonder why you made a comment about Elizabeth looking like "she's never smiled before"? She was in the middle of a conflict. Could that be a coded way of saying this woman appears unlikeable? And if so, it could illustrate the point that you're unknowingly expecting a woman to perform warmth even in situations that don't call for it.

[@lcolsen22]

The point of the Bachelor and the Bachelorette isn't to find love, it's to get famous.

[@harleyraptor8865]

When I was a teen, I wanted to go on the Bachelor to go to the different locations and do the different adventures that they did; while having someone else pay for it. Lol.

[@IceQeen1011]

I love your content and you are a fantastic therapist but I feel lke you are out of your depth here with the ADHD comments. What Elizabeth said made a lot of sense in terms of her ADHD - I don't think she was being shitty, just losing focus because she was not engaged. This is something people with ADHD struggle with and on the flip side they hyperfocus on things thye are interested in, which to a neurotypical looks abnormal. I was recently diagnosed and SO many unrelated struggles in my life came to be recognized as parts of the ADHD brain - including zoning out and coming back at various times and on the flip side, being hyperfocused on topics I am intersted in. I know a lot of therapists don't know enough about ADHD, often misdiagnose it (ask quesitons like 'did you do well in school') but Jonothan, I think you need to do better to learn more about ADHD and how it affects people's lives a lot.

[@lisah8438]

Elizabeth didnt do anything wrong. Shenae was the bully.

[@bethd.6670]

My husband and I watch this the day after it airs on Hulu - we call it Trash-Fire Tuesday. The show is such trash, but we love it.

[@Hopespringseternal]

I only watched one season, the one with the blond and fireman who actually made it. It’s so cringe I can’t even watch as a “guilty pleasure!” Ooo, but I do watch those two Jersey blond twins. Therapize that show!! I always do when I watch 😂

[@hannahcrossett3415]

Emperor's New Groove Dating

[@summonsays2610]

I remember watching an episode or two when it first started. Those women were straight up mean to each other. Much more "real" but still trash tv. I think I'd prefer the old way to be honest.

[@JustJen1386]

In girl world, we have to pretend we like each other and mostly get along, even if we hate each other’s guts 🙃 which makes for some interesting fights + reality tv entertainment

[@AsariGreenfire11]

Hey... could you react to something from the movie Song Of The Sea?