Youtube's Worst Conservative Hits A New Low

[@RachelOates]

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[@MainexManda]

Tried Bellasa through Fundie Fridays, AMAZING! You've inspired me to go look again!

[@geraintthomas4343]

Fantastic work. I have so many thoughts about her bullshit. The one I've just got to is the cologne one. Which i remember being debunked as a blatant hoax by breitbart at the time (I can't remember the other details though) The talk about trans people is a lot like manosphere people talking to each other about how women work. None of them know and none of them would actually talk to a woman, so they create a set of strawwomen caricatures to go after

[@MindMelding-t5e]

Basic Questions of what is love what is true Empathy . Have biggest debates consciousness and sentient are't objective standards. Fetuses at at weak have more brain activity more synapses then an adult at 20

[@MindMelding-t5e]

Can you relate by socially vilified . And everyone hating and you and fearing you. And their crime statics to back up old laws removed decades ago.

[@MindMelding-t5e]

Gender affirming care can do more harm how do you what does more harm and what helps

[@ineffablepenguin5052]

The number of people who cannot care about anything/anyone unless they have physically experienced it themselves is just infuriating. Kind of terrifying too, tbh.

[@akisatsuki8444]

my dad is like that

[@GlasGalahad]

It’s the kind of emotional disconnect that truly leaves me at a complete, utter loss for words. And at this point, I have very low expectations of people in general…

[@VivyNox]

baby hypothesis, but do you think passively consuming stories (shows, theathre) vs actively consuming stories (reading, games, engaging in fan communities) is a factor in loss of empathy?

[@littlechickenman]

​@@VivyNox maybe but people can actively consume theatre and shows and passively consume books and games. I think part of it comes down to media literacy?

[@nikitatavernitilitvynova]

Funnily enough that's how most autistic people feel empathy. By relating to the amount of pain as much as possible and were seen by the masses as rude and looking for attention. I wonder why...

[@sophitiaofhyrule]

Fellas, is it toxic to care about other people's well being?

[@haruhisuzumiya6650]

Yes, the next question is "what does it matter?" Caring about others gives you peace of mind, not all that is toxic is bad we use mercury to determine the temperature

[@colinellicott9737]

@@haruhisuzumiya6650 We don't use Hg to measure temperature because we know how toxic it is to everything. We found better ways to measure temperature, and we have found better ways to treat each other instead of using ignorance, cruelty, and hate. Well being is the fundamental brute fact, and the moral underpinning of society.

[@joandarc441]

​@@haruhisuzumiya6650 Soooo God or Jesus is bad cause he cares about every human being on Earth???

[@gsp4prez]

@@joandarc441does He? Y’all are pretty clear he doesn’t. Or are you not understanding what He meant by love your neighbor as a ful sentence with no caveats?

[@deltafx9462]

Yea but progressives don’t care about other peoples well being.

[@thisurldoesnotexist]

Jesus: Take care of the poor Allie Beth: Nooooo taking care of the poor causes societal chaos

[@alexwixom4599]

Taking care of eachother is literally the purpose of society. Thanks for this humerus point. ❤

[@deltafx9462]

Tell me you don’t understand the bible without telling me you don’t understand the Bible.

[@alexwixom4599]

@deltafx9462 it's baffeling how bad Christians are at Christianity.

[@erinparks4743]

I couldn’t keep watching without her comment about justice in the Bible doesn’t mean everyone ends up in the same place. It literally does!! Like that was Jesus’s whole ministry and teaching! His miracles of loaves and fishes! His parable about everyone receiving the same wages for different hours of work. His whole teaching about the kingdom of God is that everyone receives the same access and outcome!! Like wtf. That is such a false gospel

[@DiegoMorales-wn1jp]

"Stop caring for other people so I can abuse them in peace", the book.

[@kaiserrumms]

It's flabbergasting how those conservative religious types always manage to preach and live exactly the opposite of what their religion is actually about.

[@Jstlou]

Funny how the out of the whole new testament, the people jesus was mad at the most were these types of ppl

[@RachelBigler-kv5yl]

can we talk about how allie beth literally contradicts jesus's teachings so many times?? "whatever you have done for the widow, the orphan, and the needy, you have also done for me (jesus)"... not even really christian anymore but empathy and justice are kinda his whole deal

[@RachelBigler-kv5yl]

also - it drives me crazy when ppl conflate basic love/care with "celebration" of things they don't believe in. i could go on but it's just, disgusting.

[@MagisterialVoyager]

so many religious people are bafflingly like this. as an asian living in asia, i have the misfortune to know at least one awful buddhist that always makes me go, "that's not very Buddha of you, tf?! do you see what you're doing and talking?" the disconnect is terrifying and saddening. i wonder if they just have this glaring blindspot somehow.

[@yamIhere420]

I always ask myself whether people like Stucky have even read a single sentencw of what Jesus did and said in his life time, because I think they would actually hate most of it

[@mal-b8y]

i think this is exactly why she wrote something like this; she is not truly practicing christian, she is evil and unintelligent, and she does not want earnest christians, she wants people who are evil and uninformed. she has to other real christians and say that common sense and empathy are actually maliciously pushed on you by the woke corporate left to get her worldview to mesh, because she goes directly against jesus' teachings. these people do not believe in anything other than hatred self importance and monetary incentive

[@princegobi5992]

@@yamIhere420I doubt they’ve read much instead of having the message preached to her following ideological lines.

[@onceuponamelody]

"Both hypocritical and incredibly cruel" describes about 99% of religious people I've met.

[@agogobell28]

That really, really sucks. I’m sorry you’ve had that experience.

[@kit1775]

Then you met the worst :/ sorry you had so bad experiences with people

[@user-ayiy824jbd]

me when studies came out proving what I’ve been saying all along. children raised in religious homes are exponentially more likely to develop nervous system issues, cptsd, and other problems with both sympathetic and parasympathetic regulation because a child cannot comprehend the idea of having to appease a “god” or living in fear of “demons” or the concept of “hell”

[@racoonnoises5054]

Yeah, same here. And that really fucking sucks. Out of every single religious person in life (which is all of my family and a few friends), the only ones that I actually trust are the ones I CHOOSE to be around (my friends). If I even mentioned that I support trans rights to my religious family, I'd immediately be the black sheep. I can only imagine how they'd react when/if they find out that I myself am trans.

[@joshridinger3407]

the whole point of religion is to rationalize cruelty or at least callousness as morally good

[@sashakononova8968]

"the people who created the baby should be its parents" really? Even if one of them is a rapist? Or a child?

[@BafoofaSniclefrits]

It's such a reductive viewpoint that denies what happens in the real world.

[@kodamaspirit9298]

Yes, that's genuinely what they think. And it makes me sick.

[@De_Selby]

I wonder why they say that in the first place.

[@lightknight876]

@@De_Selby weaponization of reproduction. The real reason they want to ban women choice is to punish girls who enjoy doing stuff. They don't actually care about the baby. Same with forcing parenthood. Think about it, if you give the baby up for adoption then you aren't being punished for sinning with your genitals

[@jilllime3824]

One of the scariest stats about teen and child pregnancy is that there are 4 times as many teen moms than teen dads… and that’s because most of the fathers are adults.

[@soapybagle]

She thinks empathy and symathy are the same thing. Sympathy is having compassion based on common experience. Empathy is just caring for other people. She doesn't feel empathy. She only experiences sympathy

[@sharonberry410]

Barely.

[@GB-vw6kr]

I think she may actually be a clinical sociopath. I am a medical professional (well in school for it) so this isn't an "official" diagnosis but Allie Beth absolutely has the hallmarks of someone who is quite literally incapable of forming empathy/sympathy for other people, especially those who don't look/think/talk or act like her. It's actually quite disturbing, because many religious people follow this rhetoric.

[@colinellicott9737]

I disagree. If you look up the definitions of these words: empathy, sympathy ... they are not what you say they are. If we cannot agree with the definitions of words we cannot have a productive exchange of ideas. Elevate the discourse.

[@SarahL9568]

@@colinellicott9737 both words have very similiar meanings but I understand what the original post is saying. Sympathy is sharing pity or sorrow with a common experience, understanding or feeling. Empathy is feeling the emotions for another because you can put yourself in their shoes hypothetically regardless of ever experiencing it, because you genuinely feel for people. Thats my understanding anyway. I wouldn’t say I sympathize with a lonely elderly person or a heroin addict. I’d say I empathize. But that’s just my understanding. My extreme empathy is exhausting btw wish I could turn my feelings off unless I’ve personally been through it like Allie 😅

[@SarahL9568]

@@colinellicott9737 maybe you should reconsider your definition of the words in order to elevate the discourse.

[@roberthebert2826]

"Toxic empathy is expecting you to actually act like a good person instead of saying you are one"

[@neigeepierrot4694]

@@roberthebert2826 exactly so it’s funny is she wants to be a good person yet not be one and her arguments fall flat since you can’t be unemphatic and be against the things she is since they involve thinking about other people since if you don’t care about the feelings of other people then what is really stopping you from having an abortion or transitioning since that’s what stopped the transitioner in her book since they cared too much about the people in their community since most conservative points aren’t logical they are emotional that’s why no one says that out loud

[@MegaRzen]

If you have selfish, ignorant citizens, you're going to get selfish, ignorant leaders. George Carlin

[@neigeepierrot4694]

@ so true

[@liberallioness4335]

Sounds like she is rationalizing why she doesn't have any empathy like a narcissist just not a very smart one

[@neigeepierrot4694]

@ I noticed that since it does sound like she is rationalizing not like her ideas make sense and her points contradict each other but she doesn’t see it since she didn’t think about it or doesn’t have the self awareness

[@EricTurner-f3x]

I have a lot of respect for anyone who can push through a whole book by these bullshit artists and not come out the other side completely insane

[@smilingjacks83]

This. ❤

[@daenerys02]

I agree but on this case "artist" may be a stretch😂

[@mabuixa]

You said it. 💯

[@feliciasjoberg9886]

I think a lot of people are tied for "KZbin's Worst Conservative". Allie Beth, Brett Cooper, Steven Crowder, Ben Shapiro, Jordan Peterson come to mind

[@dacheesecat6976]

Matt Walsh is one of the worst imo. Like he genuinely believes that men and women can’t be friends and if they are then there’s always some romantic tension going on

[@julialostetter8855]

May I submit Charlie Kirk

[@introusas]

@@dacheesecat6976….That’s your problem with Matt Walsh? Really?

[@dacheesecat6976]

@@introusas there’s more but that’s one I especially remember. Oh and I’m pretty sure both he and Ben Shapiro believe that there’s no such thing as being asexual and that if anyone claims to be they’re just lonely attention seekers who refuse to admit they’re lonely. Also they are weirdly against adults having stuffed animals for some reason

[@racoonnoises5054]

​@@dacheesecat6976 ... doesn't matt walsh literally have a walrus plushie and a stuffed naked baby version of himself as merch..? 💀💀💀

[@Pinkponyresistance]

HOW IS DEPORTING SOMEONE EMPATHETIC?! Like, she is saying people who deported migrants can also be empathetic. NO, THEY CANNOT.

[@neigeepierrot4694]

👏

[@emmanarotzky6565]

Have some empathy for the poor imaginary line on the map 😢 lmao

[@SpecialBlanket]

Yes, they can. Empathy is just emotional contagion, it does not dictate morality.

[@neigeepierrot4694]

@ I see that though I disagree with that since it doesn’t dictate morality but it does lead to morality by allowing you to predict the future consequences of your actions and realize What things are ethical or not I think That’s why morality comes after it’s development in humans and why criminals tend to lack it

[@gymdilettante8407]

Some people say that they just want to deport illegal aliens who have committed crimes.... that could be seen as empathetic toward the crime victims esp if we're talking about violent crimes

[@EddieTheFruitBat]

"that's why empathy really isn't a good guide in helping us decide what's right" so close! that's called being a sociopath

[@neigeepierrot4694]

I know and they make the worst decisions because they can’t think about the consequences of her actions I think that’s why the book falls apart is because she doesn’t consider you can have no empathy and that changes your life as well 😂

[@SpecialBlanket]

No, I agree with that. Empathy is basically a shock collar that makes you feel bad when other people feel bad. But sometimes the right thing makes people feel bad for a while. Sometimes having boundaries makes people feel bad.

[@vapiddreamscape]

i so appreciate how you discuss the forces sterilization of puerto rican women as I find we are often ignored in discussions of this history despite how pervasive it was. you are always so well spoken on reproductive health and gender issues and I respect you crazy for it

[@Air_Serpent]

We’re ignored with everyone, current and the past 🫠🫠

[@bbo7002]

💯💯 Rachel is the BEST. Accept no substitutes 😔👌

[@Luubelaar]

Allie-Beth has always struck me as a sociopath. She seems to lack the ability to even understand what empathy is, let alone demonstrate it. She seriously gives "high school mean girl who never grew up" vibes. Awful person. I feel bad for her kids. I'm sure she has the same levels of compassion for them too.

[@tessmary1831]

and its funny because she would constantly call Kamala Harris a "mean girl" to insult her.

[@M.L89-u8f]

I used to listen to her a few years back. Didn't even realize how bad her content was until I saw the commentaries on her.

[@Jennifer-my5dm]

She has the same soulless yet evil look in her that Phyllis Schlafly had.

[@SpecialBlanket]

She seems somewhat autistic to me. I wouldn't call that a sociopath. If you have ever known a bona fide sociopath, it is a really extreme mental health condition that is quite rare.

[@SpecialBlanket]

Anyway, even if she is a sociopath, it doesn't really speak to her being a good or bad person morally. Sociopaths are not out to hurt people just for the pleasure of it usually. They would have to get something out of it.

[@AlexZiGeek]

I have not regretted my choice of my gender affirming care, not even for a second. On another note, I feel like Allie is lacking a lot of critical thinking here. She can never explain why her thinking is right. I have a feeling that if she tried to think critically she wouldn't be able to write this book because her points are just nonsense.

[@introusas]

I regretted my choice. We can refute Allie’s points without ignoring the people who did make the wrong decision, as people so commonly do.

[@KireiC]

Oh sure she explains her views. She just points at the Bible and says "this totally true and not at all contradictory book says..."

[@AlexZiGeek]

@@introusas I was only speaking about my own experiences. I know that people detransition for many reasons including it just not being the right decision for them. I feel like Allie just groups every trans person together and just thinks we are all miserable after transition. It's just not true.

[@princegobi5992]

@@introusasbut like, no one here did.

[@hiddenmistninja111]

Just in the first 10 minutes she sounds like my father. "They're manipulating you" maybe I spoke with people who, idk, suffered getting into this country? Fellas, if you don't enjoy the pain of others, is it manipulation for empathy?

[@emmanarotzky6565]

Also, so what? Manipulation isn’t always bad. People think of it as just evil scheming but we manipulate each other all the time in completely harmless ways. Babies manipulate you into feeding them. You manipulate people into smiling or laughing by telling jokes. You manipulate a dog by giving them treats when they sit. If I have a problem and I tell someone who can do something about it, I’m manipulating them into helping me. All of that is completely normal and healthy!

[@greenginger6668]

57:19 this one pisses me off so much. ‘Think about Halo’ that is what Halo’s mother was doing throughout that process. She didn’t want Halo to suffer. I believe most people who decide to abort their pregnancy think about the potential child in that situation, they think about how they will not be able to provide for that potential person wether that is financially, emotionally, or physically. They think about what that potential child’s life would possibly look like if they were to deliver it, having a parent that is damaged by a pregnancy or child they did not want is probably not great for a kid.

[@Sableagle]

"No. Can we not? That's not normal. Who is she spending time with?" Evangelicals, Rachel. She's spending time with evangelicals.

[@RachelOates]

🤢🤢🤢

[@chriscortez2036]

When I first saw this I was like “Allie… what compassion!?” lmao. She literally demeans impoverished and marginalized people.

[@CristalianaIvor]

"no hate like christian love" comes to mind

[@tabithafletcher1513]

@@CristalianaIvor 👏 extremely succinct and unfortunately accurate sentiment for far too many religious people.

[@brunetteartist24]

2:18:10 she does know that being gay is more difficult in east and south asian countries right??? Most of us don't even have marriage rights yet

[@samwindmill8264]

The idea of the CCP "promoting" LGBTQ "propaganda" is absolute hilarity when you consider that, in China today, so called "sissy boys" are banned from media, among other things that entirely refute the idea of the Chinese Communists being pro LGBTQ

[@asquirreltv]

"Dont let them use empathy to trick you into caring about people"

[@blue-rs2jm]

Its insane (but also predictable) that when looking at Poland being the only developed country with such heavy restrictions she avoids the subject of why on earth aren't there more countries like that, acting like women in Poland chose this and are fundamentaly different then the rest of the world, she ignores the streets flooded with protesters, the plight for change and many gruesome consequences of such restrictions.

[@isaacbenrubi9613]

Imagine writing a book about something you clearly know nothing about. That's how Allie Beth Stuckey do.

[@ROTwein234]

Arguing that you should only have empathy with people who are kind of like you is just a complicated way of saying: Be intolerant

[@-c3202]

1:57:00 its also important to note that in the first several days post-surgery/anesthesia, people often experience increased depression. That's not just for gender affirming surgery, it's for any surgery with general anesthesia Edit: typo fix

[@GwendolenFairfax1854]

My Bible teacher from my missionary school in South American is somehow a strong supporter of Trump’s deportation policies. He’s an immigrant in MY country, earns his salary from locals that pay full price for the school, barely speaks Spanish, and he’s teaching THE BIBLE, which teaches us “The foreigner residing among you must be treated as your native-born. Love them as yourself, for you were foreigners in Egypt.” The hypocrisy and anti-Christian values he spouts are both heartbreaking and terrifying.

[@krrr.4902]

Allie needs to fire her PR manager or whatever it's called because those smiles say "Sweaty you can't sit with us because you're poor and stink but thanks for trying!"

[@carriepinkduck]

Haha! I thought that was just her face. Oops!

[@Miichaninwonderland]

it's VERY easy to care about a clump of cells but then all these people are strangely quiet when it comes to caring about actual human beings alive in front of them. Or worse, they're hateful towards them. Besides, didn't she say that she can't feel empathy if she hadn't experienced the issue herself? then how can she feel empathy towards aborted fetuses? I'm pretty sure she didn't experience being one. It's ridiculous that as a woman, I'd be fiercely "protected" by these kinds of people while I was a fetus but now that I am a grown up who wants bodily autonomy it turns into a "fuck you".

[@neigeepierrot4694]

Exactly that’s why I think the pro life movement falls apart is that they want people to empathize with cells but not people or see that you can’t care about a fetus but not people

[@JustinWO-31]

"gay-identifying people?" Gross

[@FrumiousMing8]

"I didn't really understand empathy until I experienced it one time at an airport. I was a full grown adult with kids btw. Anyways, I felt empathy once and now I'm qualified to tell you why it's bad, actually." Like girl, did you read your own book? The opening bits you quoted sound like an article from the Onion... 💀

[@marsh1020]

1:57:00 my friend is currently going through this where his parents soft-disowned him for being trans. They don't pay for his schooling, healthcare, or housing, but they still insist on sending him guilt-tripping texts where they deadname him and tell him how much HE has hurt THEM for not playing the role of their daughter anymore. It's really gross, sadly a common experience for trans people, and I feel so bad for the individual whose experience is getting used to justify hurting others. I've never personally met someone who actually detransitioned, but from the interviews I've seen with them online, they're huge advocates for societal acceptance of trans people. And thank you for pointing out that detransitioners come in many forms, and that they're all valid and deserve support in their journeys. You do a really good job linguistically when speaking about trans people, I can tell you've done a lot of listening to our voices. I'm honored to have such a strong-willed and well-spoken ally

[@aurelfrompluto2434]

Omg. Allie keep Poland out of your mouth. I personally support organisation "Abortion dream team" which main role is to help women get medical abortion pills and help them in the abortion process. Abortion is super common in Poland, it just isnt done legally! And because of abortion ban MANY WOMEN DIED just like in USA. oh my god i appreciate Rachels patience to read this book, i would not be able to!

[@aenea7407]

Also many Polish people who can afford it travel abroad within EU to get the care they need (Germany, Czechia).

[@amethystimagination3332]

An abortion would have been mercy in the case of Halo. Her whole logic makes me think Allie Beth is the type to keep an elderly relative on life support no matter how much pain they are in because she is too selfish to let them go.

[@akisatsuki8444]

“But you still have so much LIFE left to live!!!”

[@kaikalii]

Being anti-empathy is a wild thing to be.

[@GB-vw6kr]

It's because for many alt-right wingers like her, cruelty is the point. They're incapable of empathy.

[@tinymouse2876]

It is SO depressing that this woman doesn’t know what empathy is or how to convey it to other people. What a terrible way to live(for her) Being empathetic is the biggest strength you can have as a whole human being.

[@SpecialBlanket]

No, it isn't. I have virtually no empathy and my quality of life is quite good and my relationships are quite strong. Empathy is a neurological phenomenon. It does not make you a better person. Your behavior makes you a better person.

[@akisatsuki8444]

56:51 I cry almost every time I hear this story because of Halo. That baby suffered for her entire short life. She didn’t have a clue what was going on, all she knew was that it hurt. What kind of sick person would put anyone, let alone a baby, through that?

[@samwindmill8264]

Ken Paxton and Greg Abbott

[@LisaWatsonFilm]

Was just talking about this with my friend last night. How does someone get to the point where they believe the word of Christ closely aligns with Nationalist and Capitalist ideas? Seems pretty convenient for them that that happened.

[@feliciasjoberg9886]

@@LisaWatsonFilm Yess! Absolutely flabbergasting! Jesus was not white, did not love the rich, hanged out with prost*utes, etc

[@samwindmill8264]

When the White Evangelical Trumpian Right Wing mentality overtakes all else, that's when...these people's true religion is honestly Trumpianity at this point

[@JennaThePanda]

Thank for for the video! The subject matter is a bit too tough for me to listen to it all in one go, especially with the mess over here in America, but I’m glad you’re calling out this behavior.

[@jamiethomas527]

So essentially she has heard of the phrase 'toxic empathy' but has no clue what it means. So she makes up the meaning. And then claims she made up the phrase. She sounds like she is a psychopath (no empathy, manipulative, and selfish).

[@vapiddreamscape]

braving this post-US election for you Rachel

[@ithseem]

Allow me to be your emotional support Canadian (As well as any other Canadians in the comments who are willing) But seriously though. Y'all deserve better

[@ThatFont]

@@ithseemHopefully y’all can avoid electing your own Trump equivalent. PP has far too much support from what I can see online.

[@yuzu-tsuyu]

Did her editor not feel compelled to pull out a dictionary and correct her misconception of what empathy is? Despite how many times she incorrectly repeats that it's just an emotion? Was she thinking of sympathy? Merriam-webster's site even has a very helpful guide to the difference between the two on the definition pages. I guess her not understanding is consistent with... everything else.

[@kkturtle12]

Her legacy will be as a cold hearted fascist. I’d be mortified to be her kids.

[@Nastasyashanti]

Yeah she reminds me of the woman who lived in 70-s and compared birth control to Auschwitz

[@MDArts666]

… I learned more about abortion from this video than my entire life living in America. Your research and care in your videos is so important.

[@ladylarry75]

In my teen years i wrote a lot of poems, and the biggest draw for me was putting myself in the position of others, trying to take on a different perspective so i could try understand how every life is different. It made me realise i cannot fully understand any other perspective fully, but i can have empathy and extend kindness. This book feels like it wants the reader's realisation to be the opposite :s

[@MrDevil-jb1fl]

WHAT!? 😭 did she just say empathy is not a good guide for helping us decide what to do? That is INSANITY. Empathy is one of the few things that should be helping us decide what to do.

[@gymdilettante8407]

I don't know... what happens when there are two groups with opposing interests so having empathy with each of them can't resolve what should be done? And if you're just gonna say well I pick which group I care about and block empathy twd the other, you're not actually using empathy.... you're using whatever logic is telling you which group you should care about.

[@MrDevil-jb1fl]

@ I don’t think you understand how empathy works.

[@Schmowd3r]

Her next book is gonna be about how object permanence is part of the anti-Christian agenda lmao

[@corriesmith2294]

So frustrating to think that many of these people oppose abortion on completely false grounds, based on concepts that are literally not true. Meanwhile, people suffer because people like Allie Beth can’t bother to listen to experts or seek out the facts

[@Furball891]

Jesus Christ this book is a trainwreck. On a boat. My greatest respect for you having the mental strength to go through it so we don't have to.

[@melissagoosen6164]

Wow, Rachel. What an informative video!! Especially the section on her views of trans individuals. As an ally and someone who is already informed and educated on this topic, I learned some new things from that section especially. Keep calling out this bigotry, backing you 100%

[@warlordofbritannia]

The stubbornness with which certain people are determined to find new lows would be admirable in many other endeavors. Imagine if they funneled this energy into improving the lives of their fellow men! In other words, perhaps they should be more like Jesus.

[@BioRose25]

Thank you. I cried when my eldest child came out as trans because I feared for their safety and because of people like this woman. Thank you for getting the data out there and for understanding what empathy is truely about. I love my non binary child and will argue the complexities of biology with anyone.

[@thomaslawrence6353]

Admittedly, I used to be transphobic and homophobic. Looking back, I can't help but feel extreme cringe. Now I really don't understand why conservatives believe consenting adults shouldn't be allowed to do what they individually think is right for them.

[@akisatsuki8444]

Because they don’t have empathy, and so can’t understand anyone’s experience apart from their own. Anything outside of that is weird and crazy and needs to be stopped

[@thomaslawrence6353]

@akisatsuki8444 Sounds about right.

[@CampingforCool41]

Well, why did you believe those things back then?

[@thomaslawrence6353]

@@CampingforCool41 it was how I was raised. Once I learned how to think for myself I changed my mind.

[@CampingforCool41]

@@thomaslawrence6353 it seems that the case for most people who are like that, except unfortunately they never grow out of it for some reason.

[@nicolettehanson3450]

I want to watch this to support rachel oates. I just think it's going to make me so mad lol

[@melbatoast.]

The discrepancy in medical vs non medical abortion rates could be due to differences or a lack of proper education in the states

[@sharonberry410]

Excuses to allow cruelty towards others. Despicable.

[@sharonberry410]

You are either a creator or a destroyer. Choose.

[@mariammosashvili4150]

I love you Rachel, listening to your videos makes me think there are still kind people in the world

[@eiqhties1140]

Just a minor thing but abortion is legal throughout the UK but that's relatively recent, and its still not accessible for most of Northern Ireland... It's a small thing but it's always bothered me when I've heard English people talk about, "Abortion being legal in the UK" when for many years that was not the case. (A similar problem always happened with gay marriage too)

[@kkturtle12]

Okay, empathy bad. So… sociopathy?

[@zachreads]

I just read "Men Who ,Hate Women" by Laura Bates. Unfortunately, it's even more depressing and scary than it was when it came out.

[@Mary-eg5hr]

My jaw dropped so many times and I'm not even 10 minutes into this video... thank you Rachel for reporting on this!

[@Resilient_Sage88]

Love the fact that they wanna force all this birth-giving with absolutely no plans to help the mother or child or really anybody. (And by love I mean absolutely loathe.) 🙄

[@riangrey3708]

Anti abortion arguments are so weird. Like, my mother had her hormones tested early, they were high and she was assured it was twins. At the ultrasound, I was the only one found. Years later, I’ve found a cyst internally, turns out I absorbed my sibling’s cells. Should I be jailed? Should my mother be jailed? Together we removed the valued life of some cells. It was my fault really. My mom would’ve loved twins.

[@GaelThunder]

The baby wasn’t killed purposely so your argument falls flat

[@ChristopherSadlowski]

​@@GaelThunder except it doesn't because most anti abortion fanatics demand that "life and personhood" begin at conception. So that clump of absorbed cells are actually a full person with all the rights thereof, and OP needs to concern themselves with the well-being of their "baby twin". See how this anti abortion argument is the one that actually falls flat? That cyst isn't a "person" and it doesn't need "rights" because, even though certain people demand "life begins at conception", it isn't sentient in any way, shape, or form. This is why abortion isn't "killing a baby", it's ending the existence of something that doesn't even know it exists. AND it's not for you, me, or anyone else to dictate what someone does with their body under INFORMED CONSENT.

[@user-ayiy824jbd]

@@GaelThunderan abortion also isn’t “killing a baby purposefully*” so your ‘argument’ also falls flat

[@GaelThunder]

@ it clearly is killing a baby purposefully. You exterminate the baby because you don’t want him/her. If it isn’t that then what is it??

[@riangrey3708]

@@GaelThunderbefore I was conceived, my parents spent over ten years trying for a kid. They had to have 2 abortions. One died in the womb. One didn’t develop properly and they had to terminate. It would’ve died before being born. My parents don’t talk much about those two. They’ve said it was the hardest decisions ever. They wanted a larger family. They wanted more than just me. Two kids, three. There were also miscarriages. So what then? Should my parents have given up, let my mother die along with the dead child she’d have been forced to carry to term? If you care so deeply about family then you’d recognise this ruins potential families. My father would’ve been left alone. He has said before that he’d never remarry if something happened to my mom. At the end of the day, if you don’t like abortions, cool, don’t have one. But restricting it for others is heartless. Women are dying. Why don’t you care?

[@batialite5080]

Hearing you speak up against these things is always refreshing in a way, to me. Just knowing there's someone helping spread proper information is a comfort! Also, interesting side note about the Laura/Jake story. I don't have any resources on me rn about it, but top surgery can cause a change in hormones (seeing as your breast tissue does actually make some), and the recovery process can cause mental and emotional distress. These things combined sometimes (not always) lead to a higher feeling of dysphoria in some folks! Ontop of that, I imagine the procedure this individual went through a few months after also has a chance of altering ones hormones. These things could defintiely add onto what already sounds like an unsupportive, stressful environment!

[@olivers_playlists7343]

For these types of people, Christian and compassion couldn't be more oxymoronic.

[@nikitatavernitilitvynova]

I'm only 42 minutes in and my overall thought is that all she's trying to do with this book is to find a strawman argument to validate her opinions. "see I'm not wrong because and so should all of us see it that way"

[@joleenquack]

45:00 "Neutrality is a vote for the status quo" not sure where i heard that. But her denial is WORSE than insisting on being neutral.

[@RachelOates]

Oooh that is such a good quote!

[@Cowface]

Believing you have to have experienced something in order to empathize with someone going thru that same thing is the real toxic empathy.

[@CoreenMontagna]

There’s also “Life’s Work: A Moral Argument for Choice” by a black Christian OBGYN named Willie Parker, which I’m currently reading!

[@ucanshine89]

I have major respect for you, Rachel. This was a hard watch, but having you guide us through this hateful nonsense helped. As always, your takes are based on fact and presented clearly.

[@BimmieJames]

Fundie Fridays had on a fully deconstructed deradicalized former evangelical turned I guess speaker last month who said (Paraphrasing) imagine Allie Beth arriving to Peter at the gate of heaven and when he asks what all she had done to spread Christ’s message of love peace and forgiveness” to which Allie Beth will only be able to respond with the hatred she used and the hatred she brought.

[@ilikeyoutube7224]

I struggle with empathy too. I used to need to experience the situation in order to feel for someone U know how I fixed it? Ironically, true crime and politics. I listened to rotten mango, suris, and Rachel Oates (thank u!) The three of u guys put me in the shoes of so many people. I have so much empathy now

[@finnwilliams8404]

You know how you can tell if someone is ontologically evil? If you can't see the light in their eyes when they smile. I see no light in Allie in those photos in the thumbnail, it's unnerving.

[@caseyw.6550]

They can ALWAYS go lower.

[@zachreads]

Thank You for Part Two! I was one of the ppl who requested this!

[@sashakononova8968]

According to Allie, it would be wrong for someone who knows they're infertile before they get married to use IVF/etc because it would be their first resort and the relationship fundamentally can't produce kids "naturally"?

[@Moon0525_]

Oh IVF is very contentious in Anti-Abortion circles anyway. Because of multiple fertilised eggs and egg wastage, that's why they don't agree with it. If they do say "IVF is okay", it comes with the addendum of only one fertilised egg and implantation at a time. That's why IVF is actually under threat in very conservative states, it's seen as murder to chuck out frozen fertilised eggs in a petri dish. (But not murder to evict say, tapeworms from the body, which goes to show they do view Human Life and Sentience above any other lifeform which is why Christianity can be inherently anthropocentric. The dogs don't go to Heaven because they're not people rhetoric.)

[@aidenroulette]

If you can't/don't care about others' suffering until/unless it happens to you, that is not empathy. At best, it's sympathy. At worst, it's pity.

[@joystewart6160]

It was definitely the right choice for me when I was too young and not in any financial position. I don't have any physical scars, or even mental ones. When I think about it I only feel relief.

[@brunetteartist24]

Ty rachel for this upload rn, i really needed smt to listen to while working on my comic and your videos help through em all❤ . Also helps my speaking skills lol

[@courtneyfrost915]

I don't agree with body modification FOR MYSELF. There is no right to tell someone else what they can do with their body.

[@mikedahuman]

These people are trying so hard to be horrible people while also wanting to not be labeled as a horrible person.

[@lyndi8548]

I really appreciate you taking so much time to cover this so thoroughly! ❤️

[@natashatuckman7655]

2:13 I have said it before and I'll say it again, my parents splitting up did fucked me up but not as much as them staying together would have

[@meycielizabethretana6703]

thank you for posting this. i recently saw someone i used to look up to repost this book and was so upset

[@laymayday]

She’s not a very empathetic person is she…? Scary…

[@Maksie0]

Toxic Empathy isn't real, but I think telling Allie Beth Stuckey to defenestrate herself could be considered Harmless Hostility.

[@kiraveritas3060]

2:15:41 wait, I’ve actually read a bit of academic literature on the topic and if it’s the same study I’m thinking of (which it might not be, I’ll look it up after) that’s a gross misrepresentation because it’s about step-parents and non-biological partners being reported as being more likely to abuse a child BUT they said that the data could be skewed because it’s less likely to be reported if a biological parent is the one abusing the child. It has nothing to do with gay people? It’s a poor extrapolation of the conclusions drawn by studies on primarily (or exclusively in most cases) on heterosexual relationships

[@ghostlystarsss]

I think if allie wants to believe transitioning is destructive she should talk to any of my close family members who all can and have personally attest to the fact that after I came out I completely changed as a person. I wasn't nearly as irritable and withdrawn. I started talking to my family more than what was barely necessary, and I started speaking to people besides my family for the first time in probably a year. I made a friend for the first time in 3 years. My school attendance went up a considerable amount, even though I got a lot of transphobic treatment and remarks. this is all stuff my family has said, this isn't even coming from me. what was destructive was trying to be cisgender, not asking people to call me something different and changing my wardrobe slightly.

[@milojohnson2371]

she looks like the evil version of Hannah Alonzo

[@KireiC]

7:19 alot of airlines/flights do allow parents of very young kids to board early, but i have been on flights that didn't as well. I was flying with my year-old daughter for one of those >:( luckily my husband was there too so between the 2 of us it was no big deal, and probably more of a fuss for other passengers than for us.

[@DonnaLena1]

Your advocacy for women’s right to discover their body’s potential for pleasure is unequaled on KZbin. Keep it up!

[@CanisLupus1987]

When I saw the title I thought you would be talking about Candace Owens

[@maximumdinosaur]

Tradition > love is something ill never understand.

[@maliniatb]

I love those long Videos ❤ im so sorry for not watching immediately and know these are not good for the Algorithm, but I really appreciate them

[@pensivecircles]

I was raised conservative & fundie in the American Midwest. Your original video on abortion was hugely educational for me. Thank you so much for what you do ❤️

[@User02741]

Also, in what way do conservatives show "Christian compassion?"

[@katie8325]

Thankful for your hard work in calling these hateful people out

[@maximumdinosaur]

54:52 Halo shouldve never been forced to live. She only suffered. No one can even fathom what thats like, but if Allie had EMPATHY (for the babies she cares soooo much for) she would not want Halo to have to suffer like that 56:56 the empathy for her literally would be aborting. All she did was suffer. Poor baby. 1:03:48 everyone should be educated on this. People die because people have no idea whats happening