Our Society has a HUGE problem

Society - especially in the digital age - can be a hurtful place. Today we’re unpacking one of the most damaging questions we’ve received to shine some light on the truth of having children. The question: Why would you bring kids into this world when you knew they might have dwarfism?
Welcome back to Raising Heights with Zach and Tori Roloff. In this episode, we talk about the reality of having kids in today’s world of choices and medical advancement and why you shouldn’t let society dictate whether you choose to grow your family.
Medical challenges, physical and mental differences and obstacles can happen to anyone. That doesn’t make anyone make anyone undeserving of having and growing a family.
Listen to our conversation breaking down:
➡️ The power (and dangers) of medical advancement and choice
➡️ Why society needs to drop the hate and embrace differentness
➡️ Society has a problem, and it’s up to all of us to change perceptions
➡️ Upcoming LPA conference - balancing expectations and why we’re so excited
00:00 - Intro
05:35 - Parenting challenges and emotional struggles with three young children
09:15 - Comedy show, and personal growth
13:10 - Travel, and history
18:19 - Attending a convention for people with dwarfism in Washington, DC
21:20 - Parenting and involvement in sports for children with dwarfism
28:33 - Probability of having dwarf children, family vacations, and parenting decisions
32:21 - Dwarfism, genetics, and reproductive choices
39:18 - Parenting children with dwarfism, society's expectations, and resilience
45:23 - Society's treatment of children with dwarfism
50:40 - Parenting children with disabilities and the importance of education and support
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[@skippygotrobbed]

Why would you bring children into a loving family in a loving home? Scandalous! Every soul born into this world has challenges. Our job, as humans, is to not add to them by inflicting our own fears and prejudices on each other. Your family is a great example of love in action. Thank you for sharing!!!

[@kimberlinibambini1968]

Agreed!💯

[@LB-gr7gu]

You are Loving Intelligent parents. Much love your amazing ❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@patjones5723]

Well said 👏 👏👏

[@amazonredhead_68]

❤❤❤

[@Barbs58]

Love your podcast your kids so beautiful and fun

[@LindaDeWolf-vm1cj]

My daughter found out she was having a downs son. At 1st she was sad, scared etc, 7 months later she gave birth to the light of our life. He's 3 now, and so amazing

[@amyprince600]

@@LindaDeWolf-vm1cj kids with down syndrome are also very sweet. My former sister-in-law has two children who have it. People judging Zach and Tori for having kids make me sick.

[@carolehamilton8403]

@@amyprince600

[@shannen7917]

The true burdens on society are those who lack love, kindness, human decency and respect for all, regardless of their abilities and/or appearance. The bullies of the world are what drag society down and make the world a harder place than it needs to be

[@MV-ew6ty]

Indeed. Well said!!

[@boombam2839]

The fact that you want to be great parents is a blessing your children. Some parents have set the bar way too low.

[@ButterflyMama]

I understand how you feel. I chose to adopt a child from a third world country that had severe disabilities. He had just as much “rights” to have a family than any other person. It was the best decision I ever made. I was a single parent and gave my all to him. He was the joy of my life despite him not being able to sit up, roll over, walk or “verbally speak”. He was able to communicate through his eyes and vibrant facial expressions. He loved watching all kinds of tv shows and movies. The funnier the better. His sense of humor was so obvious. Sadly he was a very bright person trapped in a body that didn’t cooperate for him most of the time. As he aged he went through many medical challenges and emergencies. The hardest decision was when I had to choose to place him on hospice and remove him from his ventilator before he had his one last major medical crisis. He absolutely hated being in the hospital and I gave him the gift of passing away in his own dayroom at home with medical professionals and loving family around him. The hardest decision of my life. He lived for 28 years and every minute he was alive was a blessing. He taught his cousin’s how to be compassionate to all people despite skin color or disabilities. Myself and my family had his back no matter how people looked at him or spoke about him. He was my hero who lived life in full bloom and didn’t care how people stared at him, pointed or laughed at him. He was loved and was the happiest person despite the pain and medical issues he endured. I will stand up to any person who would say he didn’t have a ‘right” to be alive or have a family. I pity people who choose to not want to love, protect or cherish any human being that God created. Zach and Tori your children are the cutest and sweetest little ones I’ve seen on tv/social media. They are so lucky to be born and have the perfect parents who love and have their backs no matter what. As much as I love seeing you on tv I’m so glad you are putting your family and children first. May you all have the best life and keep on protecting and standing up for your children and family. Thank you for being in all of our lives. God Bless You All. Have a Wonderful July 4th.

[@lindabarnes4128]

God bless you for the love you have in your heart. Your story warmed my heart. My late husband passed from lifelong medical reasons when he was 28. I learned so very much from him. I am 71 now and appreciate stories like yours. We are all in this together and deserve to give and receive love and respect.

[@Avmuhammad64]

💐

[@ButterflyMama]

@@lindabarnes4128 sending you hugs and love ❤️

[@ShariAbner1]

God bless you and your family we need people like u in this world 🎉😊

[@sewmanyquilts8042]

Virtue signal. Have a nice day anyway

[@karenbuhagiar491]

I LOVE Raising Heights. Thank you both for your efforts and sharing your lives with us!

[@jukes243]

My sister had a key chain that read "Motherhood is not for wimps!". Thanks, guys

[@MicheleMc76]

Your children are not mistakes. God calls them gifts so God selected them just for you.

[@Bunnyness]

Truth! Amen.

[@mymakersdaughter6041]

YES & AMEN!!!!

[@SharonBrown-yn6fz]

I am not even religious but kids r a blessing and so cute and love them. Zach and Tori have three cuties pies. So so full of energy

[@reneegoodin1317]

Amen

[@pamswafford9994]

I love how real you are. Mom guilt is a thing for every one with children. You both are great parents❤❤❤ All children are gifts from God❤❤

[@Sarah-Graham575]

Our sons are 29 & 33….and I STILL suffer with mom guilt. Our failures are now their flaws & it’s their turn to use those areas from which to grow. No parent is perfect…so long as your children are safe, their needs are met AND they are loved unconditionally, they’ll be happy.

[@sidisura]

Totally

[@debibarlow8904]

My youngest would have turned 28 tomorrow. They found at 24 weeks she had Skizencephaly which her brain was like a balloon. A few weeks later I went into premature labor which was a problem with all of my pregnancies. The doctor covering my doctor didn't want to stop labor but did because we wanted it. She was born at 34 weeks with mature lungs. We were blessed to have her 3 days short of 3 months. The doctor that didn't want to stop labor saw her and cried. My husband of 30 years died from Cancer 3 years ago. I keep going knowing they are together

[@sonjaanderson6933]

People are so hateful it’s not funny anymore. We see people where we live have what people would call normal children ( all children are normal) leaving them, abusing them, not caring for them. You guys are some of the best parents on KZbin. I would ask people to please, just have some respect and understanding, and stop the negative comments. I love you guys, please do not let these people depress you, we stand with you. God bless you all.

[@amyprince600]

What is "normal" anyway. I have a twin brother, as well as a sister and a younger brother. You wouldn't believe how many times I've heard, "Are Your siblings normal, or are they like you?" People don't realize how hurtful questions like that can be. I'm just as normal as anyone else. I was married for 15 years, unfortunately, the marriage ended in divorce because of DV. I'm just as normal as anyone else. Having medical challenges or any sort of disability doesn't mean that a person isn't, "normal."

[@sonjaanderson6933]

@@amyprince600 so true. God bless you.

[@stephanielance9678]

People are gross and I am so sorry this is on your families heart. My dad was hit with a baseball bat when he was 7 so he has a glass eye. In the 80's my dad was backing up 18 wheeler's better than most with only one eye! I was born with CMT (Charcot Marie Tooth) which my mom has, I have and now a daughter of mine has. I am glad I am on this earth even though it is harder to walk than others. I am 43 and just this year my aunt told me she considered not having kids because she was scared her kids would have CMT. I was BLOWN away at her thinking. Keep up these conversations and IGNORE the IGNORANT!!! XOXO to you both.

[@juliahawthorn3122]

Wow Zach I've watched you grow up from the UK you're so grounded, smart and the world needs more like you.

[@mrs.p6128]

I very respectfully suggest Tori to let Zach finish his thoughts…

[@Schroederhillsidefarm]

People can be so awful! When we found out our 5th child would most likely would have achondroplasia, we got mostly very encouraging comments, but there were a few gross comments. Now that we have him, I’m just thankful that he is ours. So far, other than a few extra doctor’s appointments, he has been our easiest baby and best sleeper. Any disgusting comments are really just people showing their ignorance.

[@deniser3991]

My husband and I started saying "choose your battles". If it's not directly hurting themselves or someone else, give a warning no punishment. If it happens again same day time out. If it happens a 3rd time lose play or TV time the rest of the day/ night. Next morning reaffirm that it won't happen again

[@lindsaygreene883]

We live in Battle Ground also. We loved seeing you around the community and have always told our kids that we are all created differently and uniquely and hod loves us the way we are. Treating everyone with kindness and not staring or making comments. Thank you for always sharing your family with us.

[@LaneSims]

I can’t believe people think you shouldn’t have children if they’re going to be short. What a bizarre mindset.

[@tamicoil7069]

Same goes for a lot of disabilities. People just vant understand why anyone would want a kid that has any kind of problem. I have Spina Bifida and people act like my parents are saints for "keeping me".

[@MsRotorwings]

Dwarfs are not just short. They have a lot of medical problems. Having said that, I don’t necessarily condone what they said.

[@LaneSims]

@@MsRotorwings you know who else has a lot of medical problems? Lots of people without dwarfism. Including myself. There are also people with dwarfism who don’t have tons of medical problems.

[@lindadrake2496]

I'm 73 , only made it to 4'8". Became a wife , mom , registered nurse that worked the floor until I was 61 . I can't imagine not being me.

[@shannonpolk9366]

Love the podcast. Tori please don’t forget to be mindful talking over Zach especially on things that is about him and he is more knowledgeable on. He had so many thoughts I was interested in hearing and he got cut off. 😢 But I love you guys together and the love and respect you have for each other is beautiful. ❤

[@edwardandkari1010]

Unfortunately the people in society who NEED to hear this podcast, won’t! My son has severe hearing loss. Yesterday was his birthday and he turned 7. We were at our community pool and he was playing with a beach ball. It got away from him and a group of adults were playing with it. He went over and tried to get it and they were throwing it over his head. My sister in law went over and said he is trying to get his ball and he is deaf. The guy said well he should have a sign on him!! 🤯 My brother and husband went over and to educate him but he was such a jerk! It is so sad to see adults bullying a CHILD with a disability and having no ounce of kindness in them! Very sad society we live in!

[@Luluisraging.86]

I am SO SORRY! There is no excuse for STUPIDITY and IGNORANT PEOPLE WHO THINK THEY ARE ALL THAT!!!

[@Luluisraging.86]

Clean comedy is almost DOWNRIGHT MORE HILARIOUS than the crude, cursing, etc. !!!😂

[@sp6726]

What a schmuck

[@Sumlerly]

Parenting is the hardest job, and when we want kids we don’t really know the amount of work and time it truly takes. But it’s also the most rewarding and glorious time. My daughter is now 26 and I miss those little girl years so take the time but don’t beat yourself up about the small stuff. The good news is kids are resilient and they will grow up and be off to college sooner than soon😳 ❤ so be in the moment with them when they are small. You guys are doing amazing! Those are some lucky kids❤️❤️❤️

[@gingerdunn6590]

I believe all children should be accepted no matter their size . There are also children that have down syndrome. We had gone out to eat it was a buffet. There was a little boy with down syndrome he needed help and asked a woman to help him she told him I'm not your mother I helped him . Once he had gone back to his table .I told her if I see you say that I will get you trespassed from here .The owner came to our table and thanked me for helping his son . I didn't know it was his son we had gone to school together. I think you are doing a great job with your kids . Prayers and Love 💞 From Oklahoma

[@patriciamora2915]

This makes me cry that someone would not help a child who asks for help.

[@LP-km7gj]

I hear ya…I work from home and having the kids home has been challenging to balance that. They are bored but I have to work. Thank god summer camps start for us next week. My husband and I always have this conversation “are we doing enough”. My husband tends to get more in the weeds with this than I do but I keep telling him we are doing the best we can in the moment. It’s not quantity it’s quality time and quality doesn’t always need be to sitting in the floor staring at each other playing a board game. It can be taking a ride alone to the store and having a good conversation, cooking together, doing a chore together, etc. I even went to therapy for my mom guilt and she told me to stop being so hard on myself and at the end of the day to ask myself “did I feed my children, did I hug my children, and if the answer is yes then you did a great job”. Our big struggle right now is learning how to parent a teenager. We have both boys, 9 and 15. Also I have to say when we think about our own childhoods what matters, and I try to give them that. We are there everyday and our kids know we have their back and they are loved. ❤

[@LoreeVanderWerf-si8sn]

I grew up 1 of four. My mom would take each one of us out, by ourselves. It was just a day, with me and my mom. Movie, lunch, park ect. It helps a lot. Zach could do it too. One on one time makes you feel special. That continued all the way through High School. ❤️

[@Kels0423]

Sometimes I hate people!!!! I look at you and I see a FAMILY that loves each other!!!

[@user-df4bh1mw9e]

You have such a beautiful family. You are great parents. Like you said your children are a blessing.

[@rlvmommy4106]

Your kids are definitely supposed to be here....they are beautiful and inspiring and just kids.

[@caroldustin4701]

My son was born with cerebral palsey autism and deaf. I did not choose this but I have learned so much from him. I forgot to tell him he had a problem. ..now he is an adult and very involved in special Olympics... recently he was awarded sportsman of the year....as you ..I gave him the tools to work with so he could become a productive adult...shame on those who are not educated enough to see the live ..take your blinders off ...tori and Zach you are doing just fine. You will make mistakes but you learn from them. Keep up the good work

[@maryanneendeman2073]

You have the most adorable children and I know God has great plans for their lives. Many years ago, we were surprised, yet blessed with a baby girl born with Down Syndrome. So many people who find out that their child will be born with DS choose to not have them. How tragic! She has been such a joy to have in our family! Are there challenges? Yes, but we have grown with the them over the years. She is now almost 30 and has a full life. She does lots of volunteer jobs and just yesterday, she received a card signed by at least 20 people telling her what a great Bingo caller she is at the Senior Center.😊 She has purpose, as do all of us. Thank you for your honesty and the great love for your kiddos. ❤😊✝️

[@Bunnyness]

When my parents were overwhelmed, I would be sent to my grandparents for WONDERFUL extended visits. This would enable my parents to work more with the two younger children. It worked out well.

[@janebrady1389]

The original show and for me especially this show has brought such understanding to me at age 70+ 👏Thank you for helping me to see we are all just people God Bless You and your wonderful family 🙏❤️

[@JacquelineVaughn-v9h]

Your children hit the jackpot getting to have you two as parents! I sit here amazed with your wisdom. This is probably a little weird but I watched Zach grow up on tv and I feel so proud of him. What a good man…if we could only judge on what is on the inside and not the outside.

[@ninajustice9535]

I look forward to watching your podcast every Thursday, you hit on so many different topics that bring more awareness and education to dwarfism I love it and I love you guys ❤

[@mellwein4433]

I have teens now. They don’t remember what I felt guilty about. Keep caring-it is exhausting but we have 4 awesome teens now!

[@Fearlesslyobedient]

Ya'll are excellent people! You're not ashamed of your faith,you love each other and you love and cherish your children! ❤

[@maryclemans9426]

I love listening to you two! Whatever it is you discuss is always interesting and fun to watch. I worked with people with disabilities in training and getting jobs. I only had one with dwarfism, so I was quickly captivated when LPBW came on. It tickles me how Zack is now doing a podcast as he rarely spoke as a youngster! Your points about explaining dwarfism to kids is spot on! I may also add that EVERYONE has some limitations and we all need to find our abilities that is what we focus on. Keep it up guys! P.S I think Jackson is the most adorable boy ever!!😁

[@irenefernandezgil480]

People question because they are ignorant. I look at your kids and I see beautiful kids with a beautiful life ahead!!!

[@tweetersmom567]

Anyone that thinks your Beautiful kids should not be here are purely evil and they should not be here. Your awesome you got this❤❤❤❤

[@charlottewilson4]

Hi Folks. Your trip to Washington, DC will be an "adventure" for sure. So much has changed. Arlington is definitely doable on your visit. I can see Jackson being in such awe of all you will see. I've been in VA all my life & feel we are surrounded by such history. Have a great trip!

[@carriemiller5906]

I always told my kids, you won't always get the same things equally, but you will always get what you need. they say as adults now that it was helpful to hear that. It cut down on the competition and helped them to understand I was not playing favorites. They are best friends to this day.

[@nicolehobbs9348]

Amen for you. I have Cerebral pasly ( was not born this way I was in a car wreck when I was 3 months old and this is the I am)and all my life I heard she wont NEVER be able to have children even family saying it. May me won't to prove them wrong. And I did get married and have a child and now I have a grandson. So good for you for not letting people get to you. God is the only one that is in control of everything.

[@tracytaylor1893]

❤ thank you guys for sharing your family with us . Don't pay attention to the ignorance your kids are so precious and truly a gift from God ❤❤

[@debbiekraemer2506]

Being a strict parent is good for kids! There Are parents who never Discipline their kids?And they turn out to be terrible Adults. you are done a good job

[@sharonforkin6064]

Washington DC is HOT in July. Lots of concrete and walking. Take plenty of water breaks and rest in between sites. It's exhausting especially don't realize how far apart the buildings are.

[@geriskalsky99]

We have been fans of LPBW and have now become Fans of "Raising Heights"! You are a Blessing in this crazy world. Being able to hear about the highs and lows of parenting from your viewpoint is the highlight of the week. Keep up the good work, your Family is beautiful 💗

[@tinanixon8600]

Tori, as a mother, please give yourself Grace. I had so much shame and guilt, get it. You should know how great of a mother you really are! My son is older, but I learn SO much from you! I love this podcast so much!

[@amyedgemon3883]

It's so refreshing to see a good Christian couple on social media who isn't afraid to speak out against the evil that is trying to dominate media. You're awesome role models in so many ways. Love y'all!!

[@viccimauldin9786]

Society is full of hatred. Yes, society needs to change. Your children are gifts from God. You are great parents to talk about all of this. Your children are enough. Keep raising them the way you think they should be raised. The confidence that Lilah now walks in is great. As is Zack. Love all six of you, ❤

[@melissathacker3173]

My kiddo with achon is adopted. At our house it's about ABILITY not DISABILITY. You guys are great!

[@gloriafalconer3693]

Praise to our Heavenly Father because he never makes mistakes, everything he does or gives is good. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@chiefswife1212]

Don't put this on God, we have free will, does not mean God is behind everything we do.

[@dawnwelsh6997]

As the Grandmother of a special needs grandson I have been asked if we knew that my grandson would be born with special needs if I would have "made" my daughter terminate. And ashamedly yes I would have. However,I believe God stepped in and ensured my grandson's existence by us not getting his diagnosis until he was 3 months old. Now I can honestly say I'm so glad that I didn't know. To not have his amazing smile and being in my life would have been a half life. Yes,it's hard sometimes but he is worth it 100xs over. I don"t recall life before him and am so thankful for weeding out the people who didn't stick around for the heard stuff. I'm ever so thankful for those who stayed and love him as much as his family. Your lovely, beautiful children are here for a reason and it's not up to closed minded people who weren't deemed worthy of God's most precious souls. Love your podcast!

[@lizregan1949]

Every single parent feels they are not doing enough. Although my 3rd was my easiest, she was always growing up waiting for her two older sisters. She was so patient because the older girls had school activities, and she went along for the ride. 🎉🎉 My grand daughter 8th grade just came back from Washington DC, she loved it.

[@LorraineinPNW]

I'm a special education teacher, soooo, you can only imagine the nonsense that I've heard throughout my years.

[@meganwhite1415]

Thank you for what you do!!!!!

[@PointeViven]

You’re right, although keep in mind. Volunteerism, helping your own family, and kindness with your neighbors is more important than spending hours watching the news, following politicians, and debating.

[@TheBarefootCarnivore]

You have a beautiful family. It is a sad commentary on our society that it no longer values life, unless of course it fits a certain narrative. It is heartbreaking.

[@Kimberly-zv7gr]

Tory you r sooo right!!! It’s not a place that is healthy to go to. I have a son that is 5’3”. I’m 5’6” his dad is 5’10”. What if society started telling us that 5’3” is too short for a boy??? There is no normal for a human and no one gets to make any God decisions on this planet!! There is no right and wrong no matter how society evolves. It’s arrogance and greed that propels thoughts of who gets to be born and who doesn’t ❤ love the podcast! Keep talking about life! People need to hear it and it needs to be put out into the universe!

[@Patricia-bb3oo]

Yes’ you have one son

[@colingabrielblack]

I have two boys, 6 and 3, and I work at home. What I've learned is more than balance, I give everything the fullest attention. From there I can find what each job needs in a day and let that guide how time works. I have to work full-focused six to eight hours a day. I give direct attention to the kids in the morning with dog walking, family prayer, and breakfast. In the evening I give them full attention with play and dinner and attentive bedtime time, reading snuggling etc.. I find giving my spouse attentiveness becomes the hardest part because family time isn't exactly time for each other all though we are together. Even the stuff we do as a fam in the evening that is the interest of the adults, church, cr, that kind of stuff isn't a date.

[@PattiL4401]

Zach, You are very intelligent and I enjoy learning from you and Tori. When I was a working mom, there was zero time for one on one with my kids during the week. Your children are lucky to have you both as parents.

[@joleebertsch]

honestly you guys talking about talking with kids about differences has been so beneficial for my family - Last weekend my husband played in a softball tournament - the team that ended up beating my husbands team was a team of amputees - every single one of them! It was a super close exciting game I didn't think my kids noticed the challenges the other team was facing - towards the end however my 5 year old naturally asked about a prosthetic - I was able to confidently educate him right there instead of being nervous or shushing him - A nearby teammate just smiled at me as I explained how it helped the gentleman run - my son ended up saying something like "yeah & he's sooo fast!" so thankful for your words of wisdom

[@KayCeeTX21]

Tori and Zach you are such great parents. I will tell you now, that your kids are great. Everything they are doing is developmentally normal. Even the lying. It is a developmental process that begins as kids begin to have more autonomy and awareness of their world and how they can impact their environment and outcomes. The lying isn’t meant to be hurtful or malicious. Your daughter learned something today. She learned had to process making a choice she wasn’t proud of. Which is actually a testament to her heart and moral compass. All kids lie. The best way to address it is to acknowledge the internal struggle she was having but making it clear that telling lies rarely get you want in a way that feels good. I’ve always told my son that if he tells me the truth I can figure out how to help him, whatever it is. Lying separates people. It breaks trust. It limits choices. So not really worth it. But it’s not about your parenting! It’s just normal development. All kids are different. They have different ways of processing stimulus. I wrote my masters thesis on birth order and personality development. Your middle and baby kiddos sound very classic. Baby your baby if that is what he needs. It’s okay. It doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks. He will be fine. All your babies will be good bc they have parents who care. They have love and safety. They aren’t being abused and they don’t have to fear for their safety. So yall are doing GREAT! Have grace for yourselves. For each other and you will be fine! ❤❤❤

[@blueswadeshoes4012]

I have three kids . Boy- girl -boy like you guys. My first born son spoke right away but my youngest son took a long time to speak and I was honestly concerned . I spoke to a speech therapist friend of mine and he said that boys tend to take a long time to speak and on top of it he’s the youngest so it will take longer and that’s totally normal. It’s because the siblings speak for him. Now my children are teens and my youngest does extremely well in school, an exceptionally beautiful mind. If I can go back to my old self I would tell myself to chill out , everything will be alright.

[@terencesouthers4410]

We found out our oldest daughter had a seizure disorder when she was eleven. It has been an education for all of us and made her a stong and compassionate young lady. God Bless you as you raise your sweet family.

[@brendadowns5970]

I was born with cerebral palsy. It’s been a rough journey at times. As parents, how do you prepare yourself and your children for the long term medical issues and physical pain they will have to face?

[@ButterflyMama]

@@brendadowns5970 sending you lots of love and hugs. My son had severe CP as well. I found that love and support carried my son through so many medical challenges. I was with him 100% of the time when he’d need to be hospitalized and was his voice and comforter. I am a nurse so I was taught to be strong during medical crisis’s and would give myself a time to breakdown after everything was controlled and he wouldn’t see me. The hardest part was when he was being prepared and during the ventilator removal at home. He hated the hospital and we were so lucky that the hospice team went way above and beyond to prepare for any emergency that might occur during this process. He was the first person ever to have his ventilator removed at home from our World Renouned Medical Center. There were so many moments when I wanted to say Stop! I can’t go through this but then realized I used the word “I”! He wasn’t going to improve and was deteriorating right in front of my eyes. Stay as strong as you can and reach out to your family and friends when you need extra support whether it’s emotional, physical or medical. I will say a prayer for you and tell my son in my prayers to watch over you. Hugs and love ❤️

[@loisxander6321]

It is so refreshing to me to hear posts from you. Your children are truly gifts from God. They are intelligent spunky and such a pleasure. Thank you for sharing them. The deep thinking and comments and talent from Jackson, the little twinkle in Lila’s eyes and her determination, and Josiah is learning from both of them. Don’t worry mom and dad he has two good teachers and good parents to observe. Love these talks from you I feel like you are sitting here with me. ❤

[@melindawittmayers824]

Give yourselves some grace. Your kids will learn and grow from all of the love that clearly lives in your home. Don't put so much pressure on yourselves. Guilt robs you of the process/joy of parenting. Make sure to take time to refuel yourselves. You've got this!!!!!

[@HildaHickey]

I admire you two so much. I think you are doing a fantastic job with those cute children and I think because of the way you are bringing them up, they will be a big influence in today's world.

[@shiloalsip22]

Mom guilt is REAL Tori! I had 4 kids all 1-2 years apart all grown now n now when i look back at it, it was a waist of time and anxiety i put on myself. Your amazing parents! Remember that❤❤❤

[@lyricbrogdon]

I'm so sorry for all the criticism and hate you and your family get. It's horrible that anyone would talk bad about you guys having children. You have a beautiful family may God always bless all of you.

[@pennywilcox8603]

I so much enjoy your visits! You have such a great family. The kids are adorable! It's just nice to be able to watch a family grow outside of the world. I smile every time I watch these visits! My grandkids have grown, so it's nice to see the young kids grow up. Thank you for sharing!

[@cheryleaston6820]

It just shows how little, or no, empathy these people have. I just ask myself if any of these people were in an accident and became disabled would they believe the same things they say now because disabled people, according to them, put a drain on society. That would also make them a " burden" to society as well. Children are a blessing, we all come in different shapes, sizes and abilities and that's what makes everyone unique. A bully is just around the corner no matter who you are. Not having a child in fear of how society may treat them is absurd.

[@marcialarue8357]

Just choose your battles, kids! Being parents is not easy ... Your kids are adorable but they are kids! Deal with the biggest concern at the moment and never fail to let them know they are loved!! ❣️

[@donnarama1]

Zach and Tori.You are both wonderful people.Your children are adorable,and really smart too.God bless your family.

[@J-ellO]

Love your beautiful children! If society hasn’t caught up to acceptance of all people being equal,that is so sad!No different than people having conflict over race or religion!By the way LOVE your kids names! you are great parents being so grounded and aware!❤

[@LauraE15]

I think as parents we will always have tht horrible feeling of guilt. No matter what we’re feeling tht emotion for. Because as parents we always strive to be perfect, no matter what the reason is. Tht is one thing tht we can never reach,unfortunately. Even tho we’re not perfect as parents, doesn’t mean tht our kids don’t turn out to be good kids. I think we put to much on ourselves and when we feel like we didn’t do whatever it was for tht day and we have those feelings they’re more of a “us” thing. Because if we really wanted to get into it, I don’t think our kids feel let down. It’s just all those stipulations tht we carry on our shoulders. I know tht what we seen on tv was only a very small portion of ur guys life. But I think I’ve seen enough for me to say tht I think u guys r doing an AMAZING “job” with the kids,💯👍🏻. I hope y’all have a wonderful/safe 4th of July 🎆🇺🇸 God Bless u all🙏🫶🏻 Have a great wkend also.

[@lorrienascene3141]

my husband was raise by two deaf parents. He and his 3 sisters are all hearing. The kids NEVER got away with anything. My inlaws were the most amzaing people I have ever met. They took time to make sure we understood each other all the time.

[@lp5827]

In the 1990s, I entered into an interracial marriage. My coworker told me that we should not have children. God bless you for following your heart. Your children are so adorable and precious. Please know that the negative comments come from unhappy people. They do NOT deserve to occupy your thoughts. Pray for them.

[@TacoCat101.3]

Yikes what the hell? What a shitty coworker

[@lindadechow3703]

❤i really love you both. I watched almost every single episode of LPBW, and enjoy your you tubes. The true draw for me was how loving the family is. Just as in todays world, it is inspiring to hear your faith expressed so clearly. I am so happy to see how the Lord has blessed your beautiful family.

[@montananative9786]

People are so crude, who cannot look at a child and see perfection, they're all God's gift!💝

[@karinafischer1041]

I love the podcast and getting to know you two more. I think Matt and Amy started a great thing with the show, in terms of awareness, that people with dwarfism are able to do anything. With friends and family, we were watching for years from Serbia, we didnt know much about dwarfism before, and it was truly eye opening and inspirational watching it. It is not broadcasted in Serbia for many years now, but we are still talking about the pirate ship, pumpkin season, and all adventures you filmed. It inspired us to never give up, and that anything is possible really. You are continuing this legacy very well, and not just that, the parenting lessons and insights, I learn something in each episode. I hope to be as a thoughtful and amazing parent one day as the two of you❤

[@Ashley-bb5ts]

I can't believe that people think it's ok to think that way, let alone say it out loud!

[@lyricbrogdon]

Parent guilt is definitely a thing that's hard to balance. We use to do sign language story time where the older kids would teach the younger ones with the adults sign language for easier communication. It was a lot of fun.

[@cindycox57]

I went through lying with my oldest son. I hated being a parent when it came to discipline. Especially when you realize they intentionally lied ugg! I would cry after. I also got one with a mouth on him 😢 just ask the Lord for wisdom and grace. Can you imagine how the Father feels. It’s hard to be a parent

[@sarabryant258]

Tori, the fact that you are constantly stressing over and questioning if you gave your kids enough of you every single day.. I pray I can be that mama someday! You are such a gem and your kiddos are so lucky to have you! ♡

[@Bunnyness]

EXCELLENT conversation!!! In depth and insightful.

[@biddiemutter3481]

5:10 Jackson didn't have any siblings at the beginning to be a role model so try not to be too hard on yourself, your yougest' has twice as many people to dote on him!

[@michelebacker1286]

I agree with you. EVERY child is a gift from God. Your children are absolutely perfect and bring joy to all of us just like Zachary did as he was growing up. ❤️

[@MarieK-g4l]

Love you both and those 3 babies, Im now watching the show from season 1 all again. please dont ever disapear from us all you have many many fans and we love you guys...thank you for all you do, stay safe and take care...

[@Diligent-dp7gi]

THIS Podcast is VALUABLE & Educational on many levels. GREAT JOB!!

[@OMERTA7337]

Tori and Zach are such beautiful souls🙏

[@c.rogers____]

No, you're doing the right thing.Spoiling them is not good by giving them everything they have to learn.💗

[@user-ty3pm3le1y]

The reason I started watching LPBW was because of the educational aspect that was the original premise of the show. Then it changed and I just stopped watching. I feel like Matt lost sight of the original goal. However, I did learn so much and I am grateful for the knowledge I gained.

[@user-gh2fo9pw2b]

My 3rd cousins...one has Downs, one has severe Autism. Their parents can never reach them on their ground in their childs world😢 Dwarfism is height, people who judge on height have something wrong with them! I love your kiddos, you are awesome parents and humans❤

[@amyayars-evans4666]

My name is Markas and I am using her account. I love that you just allow your thoughts and conversation naturally weave into your topic! Seriously. The whole build up to the very important topic you talked about (it's disgusting how the Internet gives a platform to vitirorl) regarding your children. You guys are just awesome. Thank you for sharing so openly, truly. Love this podcast!

[@alishahobart]

I just binged watched/listened to both seasons and been so sad without you both in my ears 😂 So YAYYY to a new ep!!! You are so inspiring and your words on parenting are insightful and I’m loving passing on your ideas to my husband ❤ Love you guys! From me in Melbourne, Australia 🇦🇺

[@missdaisy5736]

I do think that this channel being focused on dwarfism and parenting experience is very valuable. And I do think people either strive to learn and be the best of themselves or they don’t. That is individual as well as society. A big part of it is our leadership and in this case we do need to look at it exist.S today we have so many problems right now with environmental repercussions. It was almost 100° here and I’m on the East Coast where this kind of weather does not happen like this and all we have to do is look at what’s going on in our world in terms of the environment and recognize, we are in a changed area in terms of our own lifetime. Never just say it’s a societal problem, please. it is an ignorance problem and a putting up with ridiculous leadership problem and we can’t run away and shy away from it because we are now living completely with it in terms of environment. And we have known about this and been told about this by science for my lifetime as well as the medical problems we now have in our society and people just don’t wanna look at the truth they think hiding is better and ignoring saves them from having to deal with it. It is an individual problem. It is a personal problem. It is a problem that people need either get up and learn and become part of the system itself to help change it. If you hide away, you will never see the light. Keep on bringing us the light from your perspective. The world can take any teaching efforts because it needs so many things to wake them up. I think prayer is huge at this moment in time and not just asking for help, but also being respectful to those that are in our next existence, which I call heaven, but it doesn’t really matter what your religious believes or just that you have some and perspective of goodness and kindness and love. Because that’s what’s left after it’s all said and done. And either you have grown and developed and appeared in the utmost beauty while you were here on earth or you haven’t. Again that’s a personal problem in my opinion and each one of us are responsible for ourselves and how we think about Things in the world. I’m tired of babysitting America. No I am fed up with actually. Say it like it. Is it like you mean it and bring the truth as you can. That’s all one of us can do and we’re lucky if we have a truth to bring.!😊

[@tinabrewer1]

I agree with Tori. I chaperoned an 8th grade DC trip was such a waste. None of the kids enjoyed it. It was just an excuse to get away from home

[@carolynrockafellow417]

You both are so amazing and I have learned so much from you both. I love your family your children are amazing and so adorable. Thank you for sharing this ❤

[@sewmanyquilts8042]

I applaud you for your 3 kiddos. However being a conservative Cristian I am sorry to hear you are not having any kore children. But life is a gift from God. So Blessings for your babies -and you. ❣️

[@carolynmurphy485]

I'm glad to see you all on this pod cast. I am a big fan of LPBW. I watched all 25 seasons. I agree with the person that spoke about how shy Zach was. I remember how shy he was when first dating Tori. I also loved how Tori loved him regardless of how shy he was. Now, he just flows with conversation between the two of them over the years. He reminded me of myself because I was more introverted. I had to and still have to, at age 64, have space and time to warm up to people. You both are doing an amazing job raising your children. ❤

[@eleanor4330]

I enjoy listening to you guys. I wanted to say that I think things we can’t handle with our own strength come about in our lives all the time, but God is our source of strength. “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness” 2 Corinthians 12:9 😄

[@reapersphantomofhell]

I’ve traveled here and there but one of my top travels was DC…there is a LOT of walking but wow, the places to see. If you go during the week, go to the Regan Building for lunch. The basement has tons of little restaurant’s to pick from. Zac you will love DC and all that is there to sightsee.

[@Coko1954]

Another great video. Go forth and carry on! Sign of great parents that consciously worry about the time and emotional education of their children. Now if you didn’t question this I would say you are not parenting well.