5 REASONS WHY GERMANY MAY NOT BE FOR YOU 👎🏾🇩🇪

[@JayStephan]

I definitely feel you on the bystander intervention point. I see it quite often, but 3 years ago I experienced something I will never forget. We saw a man yelling at woman for having her dog sit on a public bench to take a photo. He then pushed her dog off and then pushed the woman. I was in shock, trying to comprehend the situation. His anger escalated and he punched her in the face. At the point i ran over intervened by pushing the man away, and so did my German husband. The man got scared and ran off. Later after my nerves were calmer I realized that I was more upset that not a single person, including the woman's husband stepped in to stop this violent man. Since then, every year the woman sends us a Merry Christmas message and a thank you for stepping in for helping her. I understand the reasons for not intervening (in order to not escalate a situation further) but disagree with it.

[@TashaShaMus]

Wait - her own husband stood by too???

[@ZoieMarie]

Oh wow, 1) I’m glad the aggressor did not hurt YOU for stepping in and 2) I’m glad you intervened! I mean if no one stepped in, that poor woman, who knows how far that man could have hurt her 😔

[@dday3322]

@@TashaShaMus Seriously!

[@horsebreath]

What did the yelling man look like?

[@tshepisomachele]

Lived in Paris and the indifference when something is happening on the metro or bus was terrible for me. I am South African and had a verbal attack on the metro by two drunks, had wine poured on me, and people sat there and watched until they got off the train. Only then did people then come up to me to ask if I was okay... I cried, in South Africa as much as there is crime, people don't stand by and just watch, if they can help they do!

[@ZoieMarie]

Oh man, that’s unacceptable. I’m so sorry that happened to you. I just wish people would stand up when they see something terrible happening 😞

[@SnakoMsi]

oh sis uxolo😢❤‍🩹

[@Jay-Kay-Buwembo]

This 👆🏿 it's true for Uganda 🇺🇬 too

[@louniece1650]

Standing around and watching a person get attacked, graped, etc, speaks loudly about the morality and character of the people. Since we're speaking about Berlin, I'm not surprised. I suppose I'm just so used to Schopfheim. As an African American woman, I must say that at the end of the day, I do love Germany and look forward to making a permanent move.😊

[@sns4748]

❤

[@mineel7795]

I am German, I live in NYC now and I have no problem to find a Doctor and this is much better in the US then in Germany. I agree to all points you said! I

[@Here-123]

From my experience, it had only been the bakeries and small shops who do not take cards. The EC-Karte (debit card) is accepted in restaurants and lounges in Berlin.

[@meganbanda9506]

Okay can we appreciate the lip combo?😩😻

[@ZoieMarie]

Thank you! ☺️🫶🏾🫶🏾

[@jenniferwilliams5090]

Unfortunately this is also occurring in the US where persons are being attacked, and no one intervenes. Instead someone videos the incident

[@ZoieMarie]

Yes, it's a recurring issue across many countries. It's very sad

[@user-wc5lw7ps6h1]

Women chose the bear 😂

[@tkyosam2]

As a man who grew up in Southern Berlin I have to say that you are 100% on point with your comments. Like we say in Germany "Wenn Sie den Kuchen essen möchten, bringen Sie einen Löffel mit"

[@chantalpurvis]

I'm sorry that you had these bad experiences Zoe Marie , and I love your channel. ❤

[@adriennebosse6728]

You hit the nail on the head! I too experience the same things. I'm an American currently living in Munich with my husband and three children.

[@eshadiva6600]

love the red lip sis! literally looks like the chocolate bar emoji lol

[@ZoieMarie]

Thank you! ☺️

[@johannesheinrich9240]

You can also call your Krankenkasse and ask for a doctor if you don't already have one. I hope that helps. It sadly changed over the years. When I was young, you could find doctors easier. About the cash thing in Berlin: Rents are very high here (I come also from Berlin) and if someone pays by card, the restaurant gets 1 or 2 percent less money than if it's payed by cash... and they already earn not much so I can understand it. Sorry to hear your negative experience with non helping people.

[@alexo3975]

West Germany is much friendlier and easier place to live than East Germany ;)

[@nahha9529]

Also in the US the west is just friendlier than the east

[@S.Bektic]

Love that you brought back your German series ☺️

[@ZoieMarie]

😁☺️

[@msmaano1393]

Your skin is glowing 😍

[@ZoieMarie]

Thank you! ☺️

[@Ambi1021]

In the States, I haven't been told a Doctor isn't accepting new patients. However, I have been told since I'm a new patient, I have a 3 - 4 sometimes 6-month wait before seeing a Doctor.

[@NickMillerismyspiritanimal]

Hey Zoie. As always you look so so beautiful. Love the look. I have not been able to find a new doctor where I live now and it's a pain. Yes I have been here and I have personally faced this where I had to deal with it on my own. I was shouted at and no one intervenes. You are definitely on your own. It's really sad. I am sorry you had to deal with that because especially now that I am more alone in the new city I live in, I know that I can't expect help if I need it from bystanders. Overall I like Germany but you are right there are good and bad wherever you are at. I am really happy you mentioned this because now I don't feel alone. Love you and take care❤❤❤❤

[@vivianscarlettdavid]

Hey Zoie, if you have health insurance there’s numbers for booking appointments for English speaking customers. You don’t actually have to find a gynaecologist, Dr etc it’s a service that insurer’s like TK provide. I hope this helps ☺️

[@ZoieMarie]

Hey I’ve done this already through TK, they have been struggling as well to find an accepting new client’s doctor 😓

[@hazar2354]

​@@ZoieMariemaybe look outside of stuttgart. Like a small town or so. In worstcase just go to the hospital.

[@vivianscarlettdavid]

@@ZoieMariesorry to hear that! Fingers crossed you get to see someone soon

[@charmiank.f771]

I moved back to Berlin and was turned away from the Frauenarzt I was lucky to have had an emergency once before I moved so I returned to the same office. Luckily they had space for me. There was a new Dr as well and I've changed to her. Loved the other lady but the new one speaks to me better. I think you have to go in early morning huffing and puffing to get service.

[@imogenoutlaw]

Also from the States living in Germany for 2 years. Completely agree with you. Summer this year was not... summer. I also still havent figured our the doctor situation. I've found that doctors will also say they speak English on doctolib but you show up and that's not the case... my German is improving but i dont always have the specific vocab for medical appointments. Why say you speak English on doctolib if its not professional (medical) English?!

[@ZoieMarie]

Hey! I had the same issue last year where I got a gyno who said they could speak English. I showed up and then she said she actually can’t and I had very specific questions I needed to ask and in the end I left feeling unsure about my visit and not fully educated 😅😞. My German is also at a good level but on those specific topics my vocabs just not there so I’m with you on that. Just sucks.

[@MichaelBurggraf-gm8vl]

Regarding bystander intervention I hope you're wrong about that in general. I have intervened a couple of times and I've seen others intervene too. And maybe your experiences can be explained by Berlin being a large city where people are more reserved and shy away from meddling with other people's lives. However regarding a couple of more recent situations it seems to me that people have become a bit more indifferent but also a bit more aggressive. And particularly the latter could be a bigger obstacle to intervention now. Things seem to have changed in the course of the last 10, 15, 20 years.

[@charlesjuanpunisher1937]

Sadly almost everyone IS afraid in Public Transport now. Because of a Lot of attacks and killings by psychos. I try to be the exception and talk to people if necessary.

[@Chikondi]

UK Dentists and GPs also have common practice to not take no new clients, you’d wait a year just to get an appointment

[@Jay-Kay-Buwembo]

Private dentists don't do this

[@TheEmpressgoth]

Thanks for sharing 👍

[@ZoieMarie]

Thanks for watching!! 🫶🏾

[@donbovie]

4 it is the same across all europe, this year. 5 i kind of like not to be overserved

[@moniho6907]

As a jamaican woman i used to live ok darmstadt germany, i left for the us in may. I lived there for three years. Its was ni e and everything but the people are cold and unfriendly. I never made not one german friend, every one was expats like my self or other immigrants. I didnt like how it was difficult to get simple little things like a dog and the fact that auslandebehorde darmstadt is impossible to get i had to put their number on redial to get them. Racism is subtle but pissed me offffff!!!!!!!!!!! I dont wanna dwell but overall it was an ok play. Yep customer service is non-existence, like you customer service am like what??? There is none. Back to racism i remember my bf had a shoulder problem( btw healthcare is top tier) covid was over we went to this town i think in heppinheim. There was this girl at the door who stop us and had us waiting outside in the cold while every one just passed and went in. I had behave like a wild banshee to get some recognition, and she had thr nerve to use covid as an excuse and when i said, you let everyone else pass, all of a sudden her english became non-existence.

[@raoulm.kisselbach1115]

So you really think there is no racism in the US? Really?

[@karstenbalamagi8463]

to this healthcare issue, germans experienced this a lot themself at the covid time and months after. because hospitals and stuff like that could make their own rules for entrance. ex somewhere you needed nothing, next place vaccine passport, next place tested no more than 24 hours before, next place you have to had your boost, here masks - over there not etc. and then of course places where all things had to be mixed up. forgot your vaccine passport because covid was over? yeah, bad luck. happened to me and im whiter than snow.

[@moniho6907]

@@karstenbalamagi8463 it wasn't that, I have vaccine passport, but they had stopped taking passport at the time, everyone else was going inside but us!!

[@dews3340]

I knew already German was cloudy. Berlin, no 🌞 sunlight. This country is not for me, I knew this back in 1994....... From the Ozarks drinking free fresh spring water 💦 since 1991, child FREE thankfully

[@miriamheart]

Where is ur red lipstick from?

[@ZoieMarie]

It’s from CTZN cosmetics ☺️

[@LoveAimshigh]

No sun, bad manors, no real access to healthcare, no payment options outside of cash!? Yeah nvr wld move there JUST off the weather alone. Ty for the tips! I have a question...does this happen to EVERYONE (of course not everyone) but like white ppl too AND blk ppl? OR Just blk ppl!?....I think THT point makes All the difference and IS important to point out. Because most know what that means...insensitive microaggressions/racism.

[@DerLudooolf]

nah that happens to anyone actually, not enough doctors for to many people, a healthcare system that didn't get modernized, and bad customerservice is a cultural thing most german find the american style customer service wierd. and as a berliner i can assure you that bad manors is a berlin thing not a german thing in general we are sadly known for that

[@smithhbea]

Sorry but Germany is starting to irritate me as a black woman. First of all, Germans are so rude. Sometimes it hard to tell if they are being rude to me because they are just a mean person or if they are rude because they are actually racist. Then, Germans are extremely standoffish and cold people and its hard to be friends with them. It's even hard to get a bf here without using dating apps. German guys don't even notice, check you out, or talk to you anywhere. Its so bad for me in Germany both socially and romantically.

[@DerLudooolf]

what do you mean by being Rude to you ?

[@frankieAudio]

" Germans are so rude " No! We are used to talk straight and don´t have the backstabbing culture like in the United States. " German guys don't even notice, check you out, or talk to you anywhere " Showing a personal vicious attitude by yours could be the reason for your issues here in Germany

[@karstenbalamagi8463]

so... why didnt you talk to them? noone checking you out? thank to feminism, who wants to get in trouble because of harrasment in whatever way. so you usually talk to women who you already know and know you. and no, i dont mean it in a special way.

[@vizzyb8400]

I think checking woman out would be considered wrong in Germany and as a woman, I would find it disgusting.

[@Carmen-pc2zi]

I first visited Berlin in 2000 and all i saw was grey grey grey. I hated it. But now?? It beautiful! I love Berlin. Especially in summer! Its so beautiful to sit at the Spree, in a park or in some cafe.

[@ZoieMarie]

Fair enough! I am still trying to get used to the grey weather in winter 🌦️😭

[@opaljohnson4762]

Interesting. good to know, thanks for sharing

[@breannaanderson2475]

The lack of customer service is definitely a surprise to me! Do you know about other cities in Germany where that’s the case?

[@ZoieMarie]

Ive only ever lived in around 4 cities in DE and saw similar qualities but in other cities I’m not sure

[@ajohonly3721]

13 years in Berlin I totally agree with you. Some German Friends also say that’s my not business and I’m staying out of it even though it’s hurting a friend.

[@peterodusanya5781]

She is gorgeous. My nubian queen

[@erikweber8514]

No. one evolved in last years in general. I had trouble to find a Doctor (Hausarzt) nearby Frankfurt in 2019. A surprising indicator for a declining country

[@TheDbwillia]

Love your hair! Do you blow dry and flat iron yourself? I’m AA and living in Austria and do my own hair and do it straight as well. Any tips much appreciated!! Xx

[@ZoieMarie]

yes I do my own hair ☺️ if you check out my hair playlist on my channel I have a lot of videos of how I manage/blow dry/silk press my own hair ;)

[@TheDbwillia]

@@ZoieMariethank you! Will do ❤❤❤

[@marcelpenuelatraub2343]

I suppose you need to expect worse weather if the city is further North.

[@dearseall]

1) Find a doctor: The reason why you cant get an appointment although the number of doctors literally explode is simple: If you call a doctor, you will hear something like this: "Our opening hours are Thuesday and Thursday from 9am to 11 am." In other words: You need 10 new doctors to replace 1 old. 3) Bystanders: That is a real german thing. There have people even died because they needed help but nobody reacted. I am on crutches and when I asked a sitting person at Hamburg Central Station if he would let me his sit, his simple answer was: "Nope!" While in London a gentleman even hopped off the tube just to let me sit and ride in the tube!

[@barneymcelton1266]

me too, i agree

[@Ndayakabuya]

My boyfriend and I were in Berlin for 1 week for the Euro! I was IN SHOCK and disappointed in the German culture. The weather was poor ( beginning of July), Rain a lot, cloudy, cold it was always at 8 pm the sun comes out but this was 3 days of 6 days the rest of the week good weather. I agree they live old school, diversity is there but black people almost stay with black people or they are family or only 1 black person in a group of Germans. I am from Montreal and every ethnicities hang out with everyone. My boyfriend is Caucasian and I am a black women, everyone stares at us! I don’t know if it was my nord-American style or interracial is not a thing there???!! . Apparently he looks very German. A lot thought he was one of them . He is Canadian. The fashion style is not there for my particular opinion they loves to wear black, gothic, punk… Anyways it is not for me !

[@Ingrid-wf4cl]

Most black people in Germany prefer to stay in their black communities.They also don`t like the german mentality and life style.

[@sns4748]

Customer service in Berlin is the worst totally agree 😂😂😂

[@ZoieMarie]

lol!!

[@mirkobaumgarten9985]

the cash-related problem could resulted in the history of germany itself, there is a comon phrase in germany "nur bares ist wahres" "only cash is real" and in my point of few this kind of reality is much stronger in east germany than it is in west germany

[@nahha9529]

I know every country has it's problems because every country is full of people (and that's the problem).

[@shugavery9787]

I can recommend a Black woman gynecologist in Zehlendorf. LMK.

[@ZoieMarie]

Definitely! Please share ☺️

[@connieb.4071]

Reason #1. It's Germany. I was robbed there in a luxury area in a hotel and the cops showed up 40min later dragging their feet.

[@ZoieMarie]

Oh man, that sounds awful. I'm sorry for your experience!

[@ivonnestrunk]

As a German Point 1: its awfull. Agree 100% Point 2: yeah the cash thing. *Hust* tax Point 3: that sucks I am sorry Point 4: our summers lack thats why we need 30 days of vacation Point 5: berlin isn't good in customer service. Some are good. Germany is colder than other coubtries. But yeah different to the south of europe . I do think the lack of sun makes us all moody.

[@storiedsoundscapes]

The doctor issue is one of the main downsides of universal healthcare. Here in Montréal 🇨🇦, I was on a waitlist for 2.5 years just to get assigned a home clinic, and have yet to be assigned a family doctor because of the shortage of healthcare professionals. Navigating the public health system can be very frustrating, but I wouldn't trade it for the U.S.'s for profit system.

[@numerologicatarot3333]

I have no interest in Germany in terms of living but your energy keeps me subscribed ❤❤

[@ZoieMarie]

lol, well thank you for continuing to watch ❤️❤️

[@alexandriat5950]

Maybe they don’t intervene because they actually consent with the ill treatment. you are very beautiful.

[@DerLudooolf]

they don't intervene because they are afraid to be hurt to

[@MartiA-g5p]

They not friendly and I had bad customer service

[@JouMxyzptlk]

The fact that have to add the declaimer is wrong (though not limited to Germans :D )... 1st point: The bad side of our healthcare system, deliberately broken by 32 years (with a short interruption) of a specific party being in power ruining it. 2nd point: What, Berlin is THAT much backwater underdeveloped? OK, I stay in Stuttgart (well, actually near it, not in). Thanks for the warning! 3rd point: Sadly true. We could bring up some historic excuses, but they are just bad excuses... 4rd point: Thanks for the warning :D. 5rd point: We call it "Servicewüste" aka "Service-desert". Luckily not everywhere, so be selective. 6th point: You got Germanized in you ability to complain without beating around the bush. Jetzt bist du wirklich deutsch. :D

[@Regalman]

Are you Jamaican or African? in terms of ethnicity not nationality

[@ZoieMarie]

Jamaican-American

[@gretchenking5952]

I'd heard that in Germany they only accept cash. But please, even if you have to go back to NY, please see a doctor. So many women are getting cancer younger and younger. So you need to have your annual check-ups, no matter what they are. Don't let things like that go. It's important. As far as people not helping others when someone is bothering them is not just in Berlin. I work i NYC and I see it all the time. That's why I was so proud of the black people in the Montgomery River Front brawl. They saw a black man being jumped on by several whites and they came to his aid. I'm originally from Alabama and I was so proud that day.

[@SamM-z3r]

Your work is interesting indeed yet not quiet accurate. Even in the US (a real broken health system) many doctors do not accept new patients. Same applies to people witnessing crimes, due to the crazy and frankly sick litigious society the US is people are reframed from getting involved to avoid litigation (being sued). That said, I am surprised that is the case in Germany but take your word for it.

[@sns4748]

Complaining about Germany is the most German thing 😂

[@ZoieMarie]

😂😂😂

[@bythewaterwithlove]

Germans just seem too rude for me to move there 😢

[@sns4748]

Who in his right mind moves to Berlin ?? 😂🙈

[@ZoieMarie]

Me 😅

[@Epicmood444]

Because they are scared. I understand it is so bad!

[@sirjosephwhitworth9415]

Answer: if your black.

[@Kbydfrsghusy]

Omg the aversion to cards it’s beyond annoying.

[@ZoieMarie]

Yeah, I’m hoping this improves in the future 😭

[@dukathneu]

The biggest problem in Germany is the socialism/communism system here in Germany. It is collapsing right now, that’s the problem with health sector and many more.

[@MichaelBurggraf-gm8vl]

That's plain nonsense. Germany is a capitalistic market economy like all other economies in Europe. I'm wondering from where or how you're getting such ideas.

[@vernunftzuerst6491]

Where do that come from? We have no Socialism or Communism in Germany. We have a few small social Systems integrated into a Capitalistic System. And this is complicated. It is not "collapsing right now", it has mistakes and issues from begin on. It's not good to have those problems and it's ok to criticize them - let me correct that, it is important to criticize! So the point in the video that they tell u "We have no place here for new patients" is actually a big point. If you live somewhere, have found ur doctor and have the "normal small or a little bigger health issues sometimes" like having a cold or problems with your back or even if u need to go to hospital, u will get all the help you need. The problems with especially the health system are just a bit unpleasant if you need to find a new doctor or need to see a specialist and have to wait or if you have mental health problems and have to wait even longer and that's awful, I see it too. Really big problems u CAN get with complicated or rarely diagnoses and need more help than just a doctor. And it IS awful and I see it to. But that's not "collapsing".

[@saitamataipei9586]

free Palestine

[@sns4748]

Those businesses want cash so they can evade taxes … 🙄😬

[@frankieAudio]

No, every electronic payment does cost the dealer money

[@sns4748]

@@frankieAudio this payment is peanuts in comparison to the money they save by evading taxes