Confront these people logically with no emotion and challenge their statement. Through time they’ll learn you’re not an easy victim because you are calm and have control over your emotions

What do you do if they are clearly being passive aggressive but when you confront them or ask for their needs they deny being passive aggressive and pretend like they are perfectly fine when they are clearly not. I see it a form of gaslighting almost.

Call them out, tell them to cut it out and address the issue like an adult, and if they Don't? Stop dealing with them at all.

Me and my wife are starting counseling next week I am hoping the no secrets policy plays out in my favor as my wife loves to talk I may possibly find out more than my wife ever told me? Even if it hurts I want to know anything she may be holding back? It will be the only way to move forward or make the ultimate decision to call it quits

This was a very informative and good video. Thank you. the thing about asking them to clarify themselves is something I haven't been doing, just jumping straight to anger about what I think they're talking about

There have been many times in my life when I have been hanging out with a group of people, and one person says: "I love Gabby, even though a lot of people don't like her or find her hard to get along with, I still love her." So many times, I have been the recipient of hearing that while hanging out in a group of people. I was lucky to have a friend recently shut that down with: "Things we don't need to know for $5000." It's just hard for me to know how to respond without further making myself look vulnerable or weak. I don't want to know who specifically does not like me. I am not trying to entertain negative energy or feed into the negative or passive aggressive energy in that moment. Should I pull them aside and respond with: " Hey I love the first part of what you said and glad you feel that you love hanging out with me. As per the 2nd half of your statement, with all do respect, we all have haters and I am not interested in knowing who hates me. I probably am already aware of these people and not trying to change anyone's mind about me whose mind is already made up. If there is something that you specifically would like to see me change and want to discuss that, I am open to suggestions. I just prefer to not be reminded that I have group of haters that are known/unknown where I have no control over these peoples negative opinions of me either way." I could say the above. Do you think that will shut down that person ever saying something like that again? I somehow always find that when I come up with the perfect line to respond with when receiving a passive aggressive comment, somehow the Universe congratulates me by never putting me in the situation again where I never even have the opportunity to use that perfectly constructed response. Its almost like the Universe does not want me to get the thrill of seeing the look on the persons face when I respond that way because it knows I will be successful in shutting it down. I just need the perfect shut down line if the one above is not what I should use.

Thank you, I appreciate your format. 💪🏻

What they want or need is usually not my problem. I will deal directly with the rudeness rather than trying to analyze them. The passive aggressive person won't have the insight into their behavior or they will, but think 1. Others don't see it, or 2. They don't care. Either way, the behavior is unacceptable. I will speak up and ask them what their problem is or tell them they're being rude without asking why.

I learned these ppl don't want understanding they make those comments to take frustration out on you p.a ppl are cowards that won't stand up to a threat but they will pick at ppl thats good to them i just distanced myself from them im tired getting exited in a bad way from them I'm a reactor so to avoid coming to blows i stay away

I always get very angry and react fast, even i do think that because of my awful i don't have any friend. so how to control this and how to stop over thinking.

My son is behaving like mad he is 26 years old he will be good sometimes n he love us like anything suddenly he will change n he will atart hitting n he will get angry like anything n he will start blaming parents what to do any remedies for this let me know

It's frustrating, it's like they expect to unlock the answers through their passive aggressive behavior, why can't they communicate properly Seems immature.

What's helped me is working on my own passive aggressive tendencies. Being passive aggressive back usually ends poorly. And if someone is being passive aggressive, I notice they tend to be passive aggressive toward many people.

This ia nice informative

Soo helpful 🙌🏼

you have a very pleasant and hopeful demeanor🙂

Thanks for this my lady is 8 weeks and 1 day

Dialogue, “you want to tag team me on getting these kids to sleep?” Response, “oh yeah like we tagged teamed on getting bub bathed?” Passive aggression even if they tried to play it off as being funny?

Although communicated regulary, my boyfriend doesn't seem to respect any boundaries, instead asks me to adjust and understand. How do I deal with this?

It has been my experience, especially with coworkers, that passive aggressive behavior is a way for some to shutdown communication. You can ask them what is wrong and get " nothing is wrong" or " calm down I'm not trying to take your job" as a response. They often won't even acknowledge their behavior and then make you feel like you're the one with the problem. I leave them alone.

Currently I have a commenter following my channel who is busily making attention-seeking and passive-aggressive jabs. As a small channel, I’m trying to build rapport and connections with my viewers, which makes it hard to be polite and nice when some kid is actively sabotaging it haha. I probably should have asked them directly why they were doing it, that seems like a good idea. Thanks for outlining these behaviors and defining them so clearly!

Life is short, if they aren’t mature enough to communicate like adult, move on.

Great video! This sort of approach seems to be a good way with dealing with this type of situation with a peer or loved one. I have a follow up question though! In my current situation, my boss at work (highest level in my department whereas I'm at the lowest position), is very passive agressive and dismissive to not only myself but everyone under her in our department. She is respectful to the other department leads at her level. My needs at work are currently not being met (very overworked and taking on responsibility past my job title) and she is constantly dismissive if I try to express them. How do I navigate her passive aggressive and dismissive behavior with this large power imbalance?

I'm to the point of not trying to make it work with these people. No contact this stage in my life. They are exhausting!

I’m currently dealing with this it’s so hard not to get upset. I ask my partner what’s wrong and they lie and say nothing , but they do little slick stuff to make me pay for them being upset , when I explain myself they say they won’t do it again then next time around it happens again. I’m exhausted and ready to give up. That bad feels sometimes like it out ways the good I don’t feel appreciated either. I think I’m going to move on I don’t want to have a partner like this anymore things haven’t changed and I don’t deserve this

I had a member of staff say to another person as a ‘joke’ to slap me . Is this passive aggressive? I pulled her up in a polite way and she ignored me about it but apologies ?

I'm sorry, but as much as I may agree with your advice here in a situation that has to do with with a non-family member acting passive-aggressively, it's VERY DIFFERENT when the person who is passive aggressive is one's own MOTHER, and the victim of that mother's passive aggression is a daughter who is that passive aggressive mother's CARETAKER. NEEDLESS TO SAY, THIS DAUGHTER OVER HERE IS LOSING HER MIND AND GETTING PHYSICALLY ILL FROM THE CHRONIC PASSIVE AGGRESSION OF SAID MOTHER. I'M LITERALLY LOSING MY MIND AND MAY HAVE DEVELOPED CANCER FROM THE STRESS OF THIS CHRONIC, SICK SITUATION!!! I CAN BARELY BREATHE FROM IT ANYMORE!!!!

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Good skills to have, observe so we can address things.

This was very helpful, thank you

So I have this neighbor guy a middle aged creature who has constantly doing bad passive talk whenever myself and my mom pass him. We don't talk to each other after a clash . It's been two years since. But recently he has been coming behind us. He would use deregatary words towards his wife or through phone whenever we pass. We are currently not in a state to shift our house so we are pushed to put up with this crap. It's very frustrating. We hard come out but when we are , he starts. Such a shitty creature. Seeing things happening this easy makes me feel like there is no karma or God but just the evil alone has been triumphing. We act as if we don't give ears to him. But deep inside we are gravely hurted and they knew it very well. The beauty is his wife to supports his behaviors and actually act as a catalyst in his disgusting passive talk.

I agree with you, however people that make passive agressive remarks just make me want to snap😢

Is it true that if I go to a therapist and get diagnosed with anything, they will write it to my health book? If yes, is there any other way?

He is right. It will bust up regardless. Holding it together will happen if you're honest and able to discuss. Perfect love cast out fear.

I like your videos! I’m glad the algorithm delivered em’ up. Your explanations are simple and applicable, and the videos are short enough to be digestible but detailed enough to be informative. Thanks!

How can you tell if a family member is passive aggressive due to not knowing how to communicate or is a covert narcissist?

I feel so low

It's texting, emailing, or writing a letter that expressed my personal boundaries, is that being passive aggressive? The receiver is telling me sending my healthy personal boundaries via text, email or letter is being passive aggressive, and I should be able to stand up for myself at the moment. Thing is, I tend to fawn or freeze, tsp texting, emailing , or writing my boundaries and sending it to said person is a direct way for me to let them know what my healthy needs are, or what I am and am not comfortable with. I am currently in therapy, and went no contact with MIL and in-laws. This has been occuring since 2020. I started setting boundaries since I was diagnosed with a genetic autoimmune disease, and am immunocompromised. Meaning, a cold can easily land me in the hospital, COVID would be hard on my body, my doctors told me I am high risk, and been following doctors and specialists advice, as well as CDC, which helped me form boundaries. Since it has been a struggle back and forth, I started therapy, and therapist advised I go no contact with MIL and in-laws. It seems to me, written word, using "I" statements, and not making the written word accusatory,communicating my healthy needs via boundaries, this is direct communication. If the receiver gets upset, throws a fit, gets upset, angry, or takes my healthy boundaries as a personal attack on them; and in turn THEY decide to ignore and push my healthy boundaries even though I have communicated said boundaries, I feel THEY are being passive aggressive. Am I wrong? It's it passive aggressive to write someone to communicate my healthy boundaries? Currently in therapy, healing, C-PTSD.

Its not worth it. Thats how they are and will always be

What if it's something that they can't like say me

What about someone who doesn’t necessarily give offhand comments but simply withdraws and denies their feelings is that passive aggressive behaviour or is there another term for it

Hey I'm tired of being alone.

Can you help me with this scenario? Let's say I have a 13 year old daughter who refuses to wear a rain coat when it's raining. So, instead of arguing, I decide to allow her to choose and deal with the consequences. Especially when it's not cold, so all that happens is she'll get wet. The teacher asks me in front of all the kids why she doesn't have a coat. I say: She has a coat, but she doesn't want to wear it. teachers answer: Excuse me, how old is she? So she is a minor so you have to make that decision for her! (In front of everyone) How do I deal with such a scenario? Thanks in advanced

Sorry to ask doctor, should patients who diagnosed some disabilities apply thesame technique on their lives?

I struggle to stand for long periods of time and hike but I can sit and sew. So, sewing has begun to take up more of my time.

I’ve been struggling with a chronic illness and a lot of what I should myself about is basic stuff that untimely I wish I could still do the way I did it before. I think I’m still adapting to my life changing.

If you say when someone is passive aggressive because of "needs", then I would say it's from need to be a jerk. To me, it feels like the person has a deep resentment and insecurity and they can't communicate unless its with a heavy dose of snark and underhanded comments. I don't like it and I tell that person right away I don't play those games. When you call them out on it, they usually resort to the "I'm just joking" defense.

I grew up in a very assertive family. That are very direct with their aggression. If they don't like you, you will know. I have more respect for people who are direct with their aggression, than those who try to smile in your face but loathe you. Its two faced and cowardice. I respect you a lot more if you tell me to my face how you feel. Im in the era of my life where passive aggressive people are getting cut out of my life. Or Ill pull an uno reverse and start being passive aggressive back. If you respond with hostility towards them, they can twist your reaction into portraying you as the aggressor.

3:00 Game changer! thanks a bunch of bunches!

I hear you im sure diabetes sucks. I just wish there was more info about coping with an illness that you know will kill you. I know one day i will need a heart and liver transplant and that terrifies me. How do you cope with that? How do you cope with this overwhelming lingering cloud over your head