Greate first video explaining what human design is... I am looking for the follow up video's you mentioned..?
@CupofEmpathy3 күн бұрын
so far no follow up (yet), but thanks for letting me know that you're interested!
@Waldemar_la_Tendresse4 күн бұрын
How much commission was paid for the video? Are we as humanity already degenerated to such an extent that we already want to have imperfect software tamper with people?
@nicolanewlove10995 күн бұрын
Sooo enjoyed and resonated with your hopes and excitement and humour and enthusiasm!!! Fabulous!!! Love it.
@CupofEmpathy3 күн бұрын
Thank you!
@AnnaMoore-n9m5 күн бұрын
Ahmed Street
@jordiibrahim7 күн бұрын
Wouldn't this make us go back to the ex inadvertently?
@CupofEmpathy5 күн бұрын
You wonder if you'd be persuaded to go back because of a bonding exit talk, while that's not a good idea? I'd say if you're concerned about that maybe dont do it.. i think a talk like this with an ex is pretty rare. I didnt have this with any of my other exes. I stayed friends with this one :-)
@nicolanewlove10997 күн бұрын
Ahhhh i feel torn too. I hear commenters highlighting the addiction of the technical world. And i hear the fear that people experience because everything they do can be captured and used against them. And, sometimes it isnt possible to receive outside empathy and i struggke to connect to my own feelings and needs. So hoping this might help. That said, i asked it too many questions yesterday for the free version. 😂😂
@CupofEmpathy5 күн бұрын
I've never had a limit with the free version..you're using chatgpt.com/?
@nicolanewlove10995 күн бұрын
@@CupofEmpathy yes...😕ill do a screenshot next time I try it and share.
@laiscristinny7 күн бұрын
where can i find this feeling list of the video?
@CupofEmpathy5 күн бұрын
cupofempathy.com/get-the-empathy-toolkit/
@julien.deschamps8 күн бұрын
Congratulations for the quality of your presentation and thank you for having taught me that there is a recognised addiction to wealth. 😊
@donkosaurus9 күн бұрын
ChatCBT
@carolwilliams119710 күн бұрын
Have just found NVC and thoroughly enjoyed your presentation. Thank you so much.
@CupofEmpathy9 күн бұрын
Glad to hear that Carol!!
@jerubaal333311 күн бұрын
@dehypeeroc11 күн бұрын
I didn't want this to work as well as it did...
@CupofEmpathy10 күн бұрын
haha ok, why not?
@dehypeeroc10 күн бұрын
@@CupofEmpathy Somehow didn't want a bot to be able to help me through some emotional challenges I was facing but it totally did. My views on A.I. were challenged! Thx for the tip, wouldn't have tried it if not for your vid :) love all your NVC tips btw.
@enaya839912 күн бұрын
I love this! I was already using my google ai that's on my phone sometimes, but these prompts are really helpful.
@CupofEmpathy12 күн бұрын
thanks so much, glad to hear that it was helpful :-)
@annepower291212 күн бұрын
thanks for another brilliant video. This way of using AI is new to me and I think it's so helpful that you've provided these hacks which of course are critical to getting a better experience. This looks to have so much potential to help without taking away the inestimable value of having a real person respond.
@CupofEmpathy12 күн бұрын
thanks a lot Anne!
@meenal_2612 күн бұрын
I tried this and It was helpful..I got some Giraffe sentences that I would like to use in conflicting situations.
@CupofEmpathy12 күн бұрын
yay, happy to hear that!
@MangoNizer12 күн бұрын
I got a tip for you dear. The microphone you're using is designed to clip onto your clothes around the area of your chest. It is sensitive enough to capture every word you say even at that distance. When you hold it right in front of your mouth the sound gets distorted and it sounds like you're spitting into it. You have really beautiful hair. ♥
@CupofEmpathy12 күн бұрын
thanks, yeah i know, however last time when i clipped it my hair bumped against it and the sound was actually a bit soft. so this was my second attempt haha!
@RoseMojsiewicz13 күн бұрын
<3 <3
@sobrevida15713 күн бұрын
Wow! Feeling all sorts of feelings right now. I've worked in schools for decades and have seen how quickly the internet has ruined human interaction. So on one hand I hate it and it's scary and it could isolate us even more (if that's possible). But on the other hand, it's better than nothing, AND I can see sharing this with school administrators so they can see how powerful it would be to train the entire staff on NVC. Thanks for sharing this. . . And for you, I don't know if you have read Gabor Mate's latest book, but the thesis is that we are all living in an unnatural world which is affecting all our our collective mental/emotional health. I wish you profound connection.
@CupofEmpathy13 күн бұрын
In what way did you see the internet has ruined human interaction in schools? I hear your mixed feelings! And thanks so much if you'd be willing to share this with school administrators!! Havent read the Gabor book, thanks for the recommendation.
@sobrevida15712 күн бұрын
@@CupofEmpathy Thanks for asking... briefly and quickly--- They build intimacy with machines rather than humans, scrolling and gaming as their #1 activity. They miss the electro-chemical-neurological event that happens when people meet in person. Their brain is flooded with dopamine, they have no room for serotonin. They don't know the wonderful satisfaction of 'working hard at work worth doing'. They have little appetite for a ‘normal’ life. They all believe they have an anxiety disorder because they have no skills in conversation. They have few conflict-resolution skills. Social media makes it difficult to engage in any sort of long-form discussion, so interactions are reduced to sound bites and zingers. Internet connectivity has enabled us to further leave our tribe. Instead of being very important to a few, they feel that in order to be of importance, they need to be famous. They compare themselves not with the other kids in school, but with the coolest people in the world, who have stylists and shoppers and cosmetic surgery. So, they have little appetite or satisfaction with a 'normal, humble life'. Real friendship takes a lot of work, is not as exciting as TikTok, so why bother? But probably the most heart-breaking for me. . . They cannot be vulnerable (human) because anything they do or say at any minute can be shared, permanently, across the globe, exposing them to vicious ridicule from seemingly the entire planet. So, many retreat into the safety of irony, which is the enemy of sincerity, which is the enemy of connection, which is humanity’s #1 need. And that explains the profound increase in mental health ‘disorders’. To quote Robert Bly, “We have drunk beer for so long, we’ve forgotten the taste of real wine.”
@sobrevida15711 күн бұрын
@@CupofEmpathy And Mate’s book. So many amazing ideas: On addiction: It’s hard to get enough of something that almost works. On culture: the quality of a culture is measured by how well it meets the needs of the people. Our culture is a fight between belonging and authenticity, and both are losing. The difference between happiness and pleasure Disconnection in all its guises--alienation, loneliness, loss of meaning, and dislocation--is becoming our culture’s most plentiful product. Our modern lives are unnatural from in utero to grave: from stressed mothers living away from extended family giving birth in hospitals, to eating industrial food, being raised in schools among strangers, meaningless careers focussed not on contribution but on acquisition. . . And so many more. . . And very well-written: full without being dense, at times poetic without being flowery.
@Justeet10 күн бұрын
Ach, feeling mixed too, at first I wanted to deny this and when I tried, oh yes, it is pretty good! Btw, love Gabor Mate
@MoonMistZero13 күн бұрын
hi i don’t want to be rude but i feel the captions are flash too much and is very distracting
@MartinMerayoUCDM13 күн бұрын
I made a gpt, with instructions to translate any message in NVC. You dont have to prompt it, its already programmed =)
@CupofEmpathy13 күн бұрын
how cool! is it paid?
@rozka448413 күн бұрын
I missed your videos! Happy to see you again on youtube
@CupofEmpathy13 күн бұрын
I missed you all as well!!!
@nomadrose13 күн бұрын
I use chatgpt, but never thought it could be useful for my personal development. I hope it won't replace human contact.
@CupofEmpathy13 күн бұрын
I know right!! I'm inclined to say it can be and-and, but also, it is a bit eery how good the bots are already now - dont know what the future holds!
@CupofEmpathy13 күн бұрын
Are you using Chatpgt or other AI tools for NVC purposes? Any tips?
@rozka448413 күн бұрын
sometimes I use it when I don't know how to answer to my mum to not piss her :D so I ask chatgpt if it can be a bit like Marshal Rosenberg :D
@CupofEmpathy13 күн бұрын
@@rozka4484 LOL yes it's very helpful for that!
@danielamestanek789912 күн бұрын
i use chatgpt and Pi for the Work ok Byron Katie facilitation, for appreciation (i advise to put it on audio for full submersion, haha), for conflict resolution ideas at work. like you, i do have to guide it. I never thought of asking it to NVC with me and thank you do this video - it does tend to jump to advice after validating my feelings, so annoying, hahah. so i will straight demand NVC, also, thank you for the memory hack as it seems to forget its own advice pretty soon. excellent video, again!!!
@kjnoah12 күн бұрын
Most AI LLMs are aligned to be very agreeable. You are essentially talking to yourself with the addition of some internet searches. When interacting with your own imagination does not result in a a tearful truth, then externalizing is helpful, even when we only externalize to collective intelligence and not another human or just to our diary. I suggest using care and recommend AIs like Claude that are aligned and trained with principles you agree with unless you are strong enough to be challenged.
@jerubaal333314 күн бұрын
i JUST CALLED TO SAY I L .... U
@jerubaal333314 күн бұрын
Chciałbym być Twoim stałym klientem. Niestety mieszkam za daleko od Ciebie. To boli...
@kimu783016 күн бұрын
This is great information, but it's really distracting with the music.
@firatbaran863417 күн бұрын
i am already in love ith that oman some keys on my keyborad dont ork hahaha
@CupofEmpathy16 күн бұрын
haha that oman finds it very funny!
@jyotivyas928618 күн бұрын
😮they ignore our Boundaries.
@jeancolinvaux562820 күн бұрын
Hi, Can we still download the TOUGH TASK PREPARATION SHEET ?
@CupofEmpathy19 күн бұрын
Yes, it's right here: cupofempathy.com/
@anabucat239422 күн бұрын
This is mega!!!😊
@CupofEmpathy19 күн бұрын
thanks!
@vanessac196528 күн бұрын
Can you please sit still? I actually felt nausea from the amount of rocking around in your chair you did.
@leviahimsaАй бұрын
I feel happy to learn these effective communication tools because it meets my needs to maintain important relationships. With regards to boundaries, if a boundary is broken for example, I will leave for the remainder of the day. It's like a temporary 'no contact' option. 💖
@CupofEmpathy28 күн бұрын
Thanks for sharing this!
@WW3comingupАй бұрын
Boring.
@yeniboyutАй бұрын
Does german people expressing their needs as much as open?
@yeniboyutАй бұрын
Formulation, Strategies are focused on the action expectations. Needs are hidden behind the actions.
@yeniboyutАй бұрын
That is just what need to do in a true friendship , simple and natural. it is the scenes which we can't even come across in romantic movies anymore. And we hug more and more thermoplastic stuffs instead of this true happiness
@user-kp4xg3tc6xАй бұрын
It hurts me to hear "you can only keep on your mask for so long", like you are coming from an idea of intentional consious harm that this traumatised person is planning to give you.
@CupofEmpathyАй бұрын
I hear that my words 'one can only keep a mask on for so long' are hurtful for you, it seems to imply that people with NPD intentionally harm others, whereas they actually come from a place of trauma, and thus, I guess you want to emphasize, have more unconscious or automatic behavior as opposed to malignent intent. I totally agree with you that people with NPD mostly are not coming from a goal to harm others, they are just trying to get their needs met best they can, and as I say elsewhere in the video, just want to avoid being in pain. And in so far as sometimes the intent might be to hurt someone, for example to take revenge, which might be the case esp. where NPD is mixed with anti social disorders, the 'causing harm' is still not the end goal, it's again just a way to compensate for trauma. But in short, I agree with you, Im sorry that this was not clear in that expression.
@user-kp4xg3tc6xАй бұрын
@@CupofEmpathyThank you so much for reassuring we are on the same page
@sobrevida157Ай бұрын
You are a wonderful teacher! You are clear and thoughtful, anticipating my questions before I ask . . . and you always give real-world examples that I can easily translate to my specific situations. Thanks for all of your work, and your generosity in sharing this with us...Hope you have a lovely day!
@CupofEmpathyАй бұрын
Thank you so much!
@rozka4484Ай бұрын
Love that, thank you!
@CupofEmpathyАй бұрын
yay!
@PanchoMarconiАй бұрын
Excellent, thank you
@CupofEmpathyАй бұрын
yay!
@tavisdupreez3000Ай бұрын
This is a great video! I would find it helpful if you did something similar for borderline personality disorder.
@CupofEmpathyАй бұрын
Thanks a lot! BPD I discuss in my course!
@AmyWhickerTutorАй бұрын
This really helped me!!! I'm impressed with the amount of research that went into this video. I love the balanced view that highlights the humanity, the stigma, and the challenges. A part that is sticking with me is "get your compassion elsewhere." Oof 💔
@CupofEmpathyАй бұрын
Thanks so much Amy, so glad you liked the approach - it was indeed a laboursome one :-) And yes it is painful, for everyone involved I guess..Thanks again for your appreciation, super motivating for me to continue with the next video 💞
@wandaadАй бұрын
And it requires vulnerability, while narcissists suppress a core of deep shame, so being vulnerable feels like 'dying' for them. It's good t say "I need your help" before a request. So "can you please drive slower" doesn't sound like an attack or a judgement, but really like a request, that is not putting the other down, but actually gives them power: you have the power to help me.
@CupofEmpathyАй бұрын
Thanks for this!
@wittymystic7361Ай бұрын
I love this!
@karunasong8665Ай бұрын
Great info, I just finished the whole video. However, I'm confused. It seemed you were talking about MPD [Multiple Personality Disorder] and Narcissism at the same time and all mixed up. They seem quite different to me. I wonder why you put them together?
@CupofEmpathyАй бұрын
I talked about NPD=Narcissistic Personality Disorder
@tavisdupreez3000Ай бұрын
@@CupofEmpathy sometimes the autotranslate feature came up mistakenly with MPD when Marianne actually said 'NPD'
@OliversLoveMusicАй бұрын
May everyone who needs to, go no contact, and keep your dignity intact. 💚 May all of our narcs collapse and wake up in some sort of trauma recovery spiritual healing life spa purgatory, and get the help they need. NVC + NPD = Patience and Tolerance practice.......if you happen to be on the path to sainthood....props to you! I prefer my peace. And those old spaces have the "crazymakin' " Volume at an 11. Thanks for letting me grieve here. 🖤 My need for a sense of Belonging gets satiated in this space and I appreciate that.
@CupofEmpathyАй бұрын
Glad this gave you a sense of belonging and an opportunity to grieve 🥰
@kuibeiguahuaАй бұрын
“If you happen to be on the path of sainthood go for it” 😂😂😂 I will remember that