My 89 year old Mom has had dementia since right before lock down from Covid so, 4 years now. Your videos are more informative than some other videos I have seen and watched

Don't be too slow to get help. my father had Dementia, his was obvious from the start and did not change a lot over his last couple of years, he remained a gentle man, who was at peace with the world, he simply slipped away . My mother who is now 95 has progressed quickly, she has become aggressive, can longer remember anybody in the family except my wife and I, she has even started to forget us at times, occasionally telling people we are her mum and dad. she ended up in hospital, after we went on holiday, as she stopped eating and drinking. even with supposed daily carers coming in. A stay in hospital to recover, was made worse by a doctor refusing to believe she had Dementia, simply blaming her mental state on dehydration, which resulted in her being sent home, only to fall and break her hip and spend a further three months in hospital. Less than a year later she is in a care home , requiring full time care. Now accusing people of stealing from her, hiding things from people, deliberately breaking hearing aids, when she does not get what she wants, she was also a very quiet gentle lady until a year ago. Alzheimers professionals and very supportive care home staff have greatly reduced the stress my wife and I have suffered trying to get her correctly confirmed with Dementia, and the apropiate care. The Dementia care she now gets has also calmed her, most of the time, She has recovered physically, but we were told that every time she suffered trauma, that's knocks her low be it a UTI, a fall, a period of aggressive Dementia, even a cold she will never come back to the same level, so she is slowly getting worse, its only a matter of time before she enters stage 7.

I was my mum's carer for 27 years, she was the family warrior for my siblings and myself, she overcame abandonment as a child, domestic violence and many health issues that plagued her life, but the last 5 years were the most stressful. Her memory became an issue in her 60s, forgetting her usual day to day routines, but I created something for mum that I've seen in her memory clubs she was a member of, they called it a memory lane, we plastered her hallway with family photos, her favourite ornaments etc, but the last year was when the hallucinations began, it was at this point I knew I couldn't cold any more so we had to move mum into a nursing home which broke my heart, this part scared me, she seemed terrified of the"people " she saw trying to steal her belongings, she became a child again, calling for her dad who had died nearly 40 years before. She passed away this may in her sleep. Now I have started a new job as a card assistant in a dementia care nursing home and I love it, thank you for your amazing videos, they have explained so much, for my mum and my new role.

My mom is between 5-6 right now 😔 she never deserved something like this. If I could give her half my healthy brain, I would…

No Guilt. I'm an only child caring for my biological mom who has dementia. I haven't lived with her since I was 10 but we've maintained a close & caring relationship. She had a lot of emotional & financial stress for her whole life, and now she is 90 and I'm exhausted. She's been in a group home following too many falls and other disasters(including a fire she started! small but scary), and is now in the hospital. I'm back to studying again because this is different, I think she belongs in hospice. Hopefully this will wrap up easily; I'm so glad she has a living will & has DNR status. She's too tiny & frail to puff her back up, it's okay. Last September my father died, far away, while I stayed home and took care of my mom. The beautiful things (grateful I needed that s, there are multiple) were that 1: I had a recent trip to stay with him and my stepmom, so we got to say our important words. 2: My grown son held hospice with them by my dad's request and it was awesome. 3: Despite their difficult marriage and divorce 50 years ago, I could hear tenderness in his voice as he reminded me to be patient with my mom.

What can my Dad say or do when he visits my Mom and she’s angry, and then crying. Saying she wants to go home right now or she’s calling the police. She doesn’t want to be at that senior home any more. She wants to go home. Why can’t you take me home? I can’t stand it here, is what she says.

I just returned from a meeting for LTC for my mom who's lived with us for the last 4 years..2 weeks ago she couldn't stand and unable to get to bathroom..she's been hospitalized since, not eating, refusing meds( or spitting them out at nurses) she's angry and doesn't recognize us.. Satsuma we're fakes..the guilt is real..my head knows it's the right decision but my heart doesn't 😢

Thanks for these reminders ❤

I will do my very best to control my very own self behaviour. Nifty J.

MY daily memory losses are very TESTING. my Wife and Family Members are extremely happy to unite my very problems within our daily Family and My Family stands By me daily with Love and Support. Nifty J. Goodnight.

Hi thank you its been so hard,you really clarified the difference.

Diagnosis of dementia , Pics disease when I was in my 50’s. I am now in my late 70’s. I just retired last year. How could they be so wrong? The diagnosis came from Penn, Dr Murray Grossman head of neurology was my clinician. I don’t have to be coaxed to go to a doctor but don’t go to much because they are not that knowledgeable as one would hope. Any thoughts?

Hard Hard Hard..sucks.. Good days Bad.. for all.Takr it a hour at a time..,5 minutes sometimes..zThacs for video

Thank you! I get it now

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Thank you 🙏 ❤

My husband cannot understand how to take communion so my pastor puts the sign of the cross on his forehead with anointing oil instead. He gets choked up about it. He loves it.

Thank you. This is very helpful❤

My elderly father with dementia askeds me questions that require more than 3 to 5 word answers. He gets lost, in my answer and I'm frustrated.

You look so pretty today!!!

I just found your page today. I’m really struggling with my dad. He has stopped asking to go to the bathroom after he got out of the bathroom. And he won’t let us get him up to go or clean him up or even to get out of bed or go to bed. He socks and scratches at you and cusses you. Then if you get him up he can walk but he will just let his legs go and just puts all his weight on you. It’s a very bad fight. He says no no no. I’ll hit you in d face etc. I’m looking for answers. He was alway a gentle man. He sits and he doesn’t want to move or be bothered

I just found your page today. I’m really struggling with my dad. He has stopped asking to go to the bathroom after he got out of the bathroom. And he won’t let us get him up to go or clean him up or even to get out of bed or go to bed. He socks and scratches at you and cusses you. Then if you get him up he can walk but he will just let his legs go and just puts all his weight on you. It’s a very bad fight. He says no no no. I’ll hit you in d face etc. I’m looking for answers. He was alway a gentle man

Hi there-I’d really appreciate some knowledge on how to deal with the combination of dementia and preexisiting mental health issues. I’ve found your channel really comforting in any case so thank you for all you do, from down here in Australia

I guess it depends what part of the brain is damaged and how much is it damaged, lets be real about this, if they are missing billions of neurons, no argument/tactic will work, simply because that part of the brain is gone forever.

Understood!!!! Felt same way before Dad passed.

When it first started with Dad I promised him I'd put his underwater over the diaper and no one would be the wiser

So true ! Thank you.

Diaper. Diaper. Diaper. My 93 yr old mother has dementia and wears depends. Oh Diaper

My dad's dementia is progressive. I think he's traveling through all the stages. Lately, he won't drink water, which caused him to be constipated regularly. How can I get him to drink water to avoid constipation?

im sorry but i had to......

Undergarment or under shorts might help. Gotta be resourceful and creative. Dementia is a moving target. Everything is temporary. What works now may not work two weeks from now.

I did that a very long long time ago.Thank you for letting me know I did the right thing,I have always thought about this.This is when doctors where figuring out this horrible disease. My common sense kicked in .Thank you for all your videos.

What a conversation! Just know not everyone is cut out to be a care giver, son/daughter who ever you are! We are not born automatically being able to handle all this, and if you can't NEVER feel guilty about it! You are a very special person, if you can, but some of us just cannot!!

Thank you ❤

Respect is needed.

No we don't

It's killing me watching my grandma go thru this slowly.

This was so helpful. Thank you

Thank you for this video. Yesterday my mother-in-law with dementia got under my skin with her insults. I didn't lose my temper with her but I did give her a piece of my mind. Today is a new day and I forgive myself for letting hurtful things she says get to me. I love videos like this that remind us we have tools to deal with bad behavior and rise above it with grace.

i would love to book one of the zoom courses! i’m an EMT and i feel like it would be really helpful for me. also, would it be alright if i take some notes with a pen and paper during the session to help myself retain the info? :)

My spouse who loves me very much accuses me of being selfish and calling me names that hurt. Then 10 minutes later he’s sweet again and it’s hard for me to let go of the hurt or anger immediately. I want to but it’s hard especially when he is being unreasonable

My mom always thinks she is going back to her house. I know I’m telling her all wrong 😢 I say that was a long time ago she had a house her children are all grown up. Any suggestions anybody would be helpful thank you love this channel thank you Debbra 😊

as always , thank you for your help

not new but HI

I have learnt never play fire with fire .

I'm 58. I have a PhD and I am having memory impairment. I took the SAGE test and it showed MCI. The neurologist has referred me for neuropsych testing and a memory center. It's scary.

This video was very helpful. Unfortunately, one of my brothers-in-law appears to be stage 6, the other is about 4. Also, my younger sister died last November from what we think was stroke-caused dementia. I do have to say, dementia is very stressful on the patient, caregivers and family. My sister would call me often (until stage 7) and when I answered, I did not know who it would be on the other end of the line. Sometimes she was clear-headed and we could converse and reminisce, other times she was delusional and thought her caretaker was trying to kill her or there were strangers living in the upstairs rooms. But in her clear hours, she was upset that she knew she wouldn't remember our talk the next day. As she was in Mexico and I am in Washington, it was a very helpless feeling for me to know how terrible it was for her and I couldn't help. It broke my heart when she died but at the same time, I knew it was for the best and she is free of that body that let her down. Thanks for making this video and helping me understand what happened to her and what is happening to my other family members.

Toilet, which results in faeces over everything. Over the toilet, smeared over toilet and hand rails, in bed and carpet. This is a care home situation but we try so hard. This is normally during sundowning and we offer help, but it's continuous trips to the bathroom and it's always the one you didn't see because you have other residents who need help.

Have to move which is aggressively hostile to my husband with MCI. My stress is harming my health. Help.