Uh 😳 that just literally outed me ,😅 like dont rescue everyone , dinet get involved with negative and problems of uders uhhh 😮 what if i cant stop 🛑

I worked with someone who would always offer to pick up shifts, said she needed the hours. But at least half of the time she would have an ‘emergency’ last minute and leave the first person scrambling to find someone else to cover. Then she complained that no one wanted to cover for her when “I cover for them all the time.” 🙄

I was fine until the last one. Oof!!!

I think I need a break from work now ❤

Why am I learning this just now by a KZbin short? This hits me in many types of ways🥲

Her eyes. Wow.

This is insightful 👏 please do more on this

Where is a job that gives you a $10,000 bonus?

OMG! You cracked me up!!! 🤣 As someone who auffered from this(still not over completely) i relate!!!

It’s great to tell encourage people to their face. But man it means a lot when you talk someone up to other people

Good kids grow up as anxious adults. -from experience 😢

I had a teaching job with a Saturday class that rotated teachers, so we were each supposed to teach once a month. I covered for everyone at some point, but this one dude had me cover for him a million times and did not cover for me even ONCE (other shifts as well, but especially that Sat. class). I finally told my boss that I would never cover for him again, and stuck to it. That boss was terrible, just an AWFUL person, and even she was like "no, that's fair, you've covered more of his shifts than anyone else"

I've been having such a hard time raising my strong-willed 3-year-old son 😟 I just don't know what's right. I have to discipline him and teach him that the things he is doing are wrong and destructive while also trying to explain which behavior we want from him. I often find myself saying "That is not good boy behavior!" - which I guess is kind of telling him that I want him to be a good boy. I don't think (or want) that anything can take this kid's will away - but I really need a break from his antics 😥 Meanwhile, his 1.5-yo sister really is a generally well-behaved little girl and the contrast his hard to balance. I really give my best not to compare them or label their differences directly. But the challenge is real!

I mean how do you expect people to pick up on that if you don't tell them tho ?

So basically instead of trying to change others, we change ourselves

To save people from a lot of years of suffering to find themselves: you find yourself in Jesus. Go to a pentacostal church or something similar and you will find yourself

Is it manipulative to be frustrated when you do things for others but you ask for something and they say no. Then you remind them how often you go the extra mile for them? I think the abuse is the other way around.

I worked with a guy at best buy who did this. I forget his name, but he would ask me to take his shift so he could go party but if I needed a cover, he'd never take my shift

Thank you I needed this today

I feel so rude when I ignore someone but the drama that ensues if I engage just isn’t worth it.

Rich dad poor dad is probably the best book to read to gain financial knowledge

Ppl w best boundries are avoidant ppl lol. If you dont want people in your psaxe usually ignoring them in the right moments will do. Its a mutual thing where their expectations are being fulfilled by you so if you stop doing that theyre not gonna try to get you to do stuff they want but you dont want. Seperation and avoidance. Then no one is gonna care, no give no recieve basically.

John green needs to be here

"Not engaging in an unproductive conversation." I really needed to hear that. Thank you Ms. Erin!

Yeah, I'm totally in "the getting to know yourself phase" and believe it our not, it's really hard to find out what's good for you and to try to change your role even if it was your role for the most time of your life and you have no idea who you are without it. But I try🤷🏼‍♀️. So if you're at the same point, you can do it, just try and don't give up❤

this is taking me years to heal. I still have ALOT to change. but looking back - im so proud of myself for slowly removing this to my system. ITS NOT FOR THE WEAK!!

yes, free samples in the supermarked do infact make me buy your product. each piece convinces me a little more.

Imagine that happens between couples

This is similar but not the same with one of my parents. I would say what they wanted to gear for 2 reasons. 1. I did not want to go through a shouting match or long lecture on something (its exhausting for it is not an open conversation). 2. Because they boomerang (leave and come right back to argue or lecture some more). So basically started guessing the right thing to say to come off as compliant (however the tell I was doing this is answering in a question in a "is this what you want to hear" sort of way). I prefer texting or writing messages for I get to say what I am thinking for when I am thinking I don't speak and whenI speak I don't think.

I don't think you r meant to ask for something you r not willing to give in return. But im a giver so idk

I was like this, but when u starting acc doing stuff I love I got called lazy and shi like TAHT now idk what to do 🥰

Of course it's still true what you're saying. We don't have to be "good" all the time 😊

I was the trouble maker and that turns you toward mental illness too...

This cost me my 1 year relationship because when other guys hit on me (usually online) I thought about how they would feel if I rejected them or blocked them right away, so I would talk to them beforehand, even though they had already praised me, made their intentions clear, and sometimes because I was innocent I didn't really notice either, I always believe in better of others, and I always give it another chance, because I thought too much about how they would feel, Even though I didn't feel good doing this, I continued, and I showed all of this to my boyfriend, because I didn't want to hide anything from him, but he started saying that this was cheating, and in the end he was very jealous and possessive, so we ended up breaking up.

I was have friend who was only taker, one time i refuse her. She tell " i was did some many thing for you, why you can't this one little thing?" Long time i was try remind what she did for me? I find just empty promises

thank you for this video really, my therapist said i should set boundaries but i really had no idea how to 😅 its really helpful

but karma is a bitch😂😂😂

Yk you dont need to find yourself to be happy, that'll eventually leave you as you were before. Jesus is the one who heals like no other, and the joy and peace he gives is not how the world gives but way way way more satisfying and fulfilling and restoring and healing. Just believe in your heart that God raised Jesus from the dead and confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord over everything and you will be saved. Trust, it's the best decision you'll ever make. Last year I had like this cloud full of sadness that followed me wherever i went and it made me feel entirely numb. Nothing i could do would make it leave. I didnt feel the joy of the Lord for a longg time. But then when i started praising him and surrending the relationship that i knew these feelings were rooted in he gave me freedom from depression and freed me from all numbness filling me with soooo much JOY and peace and excitement. He literally gave me the ultimate zest for life. He will give that to you too, and heal whatever's broken. Just let him into your heart and life and he will change it all. He has plans to prosper you and NOT to harm you. Plans that give you hope and a future. He only wants the best for you. He loves you unconditionally. Nothing you do can seperate his love from you. Not even angles or demons can seperate his love from you. If you want to acceot Jesus into your heart and confess with your mouth that He is Lord and watch him change you, say this prayer (even if you're in public or people are around then please do not let that stop you in this moment)... Dear Lord Jesus i declare that you are the Lord of my life and my actions. I believe that God raised you from the dead and defeated death. I recieve the gift you give me of eternal life with you, Jesus. I declare that i am saved through grace because of what you did on the cross for my sins and nothing i could ever do could earn your love but your unfailing love for me is an unchanging gift. Make me a new creation Jesus and change my heart to be more like yours. Help me to trust you continually and i pray that i wont be shaken by the world around me. Give me your strength and show your grace to me. Thank you for your undying love for me God. Remind me that you are always by my side walking with me. Remove fear from my life and create in me a heart like yours. Turn me into the person you always intended for me to be. Help me make sacrifices with your strength and remind me that your way will not falter or fail. I trust you God. Thank you for saving me Jesus. Teach me more everyday as i sit with you. AMENNN If you just made that decision then let me tell you your sins are washed away! Your past has no hold over you! You are made pure in the blood of Jesus!! If you're looking for a christian influence then i recomend either Ashley Hetherington or Jacob Peterson. These guys are awesome christian influences/youtubers to help you if you need a bit of guidance. And also praying doesn't require fancy words or rituals or anything, just talk to God like He's your best friend! Dont worry, God will guide you and show himself to you as you seek him with all your heart. There's a book called the bible and in it is Gods truth. It is solid, solid truth. If you dont have a physical copy then theres an app called YouVersion and its the bible online. And if you feel weak, shameful or anything else then speaking bible verses for that situation over yourself will eventually make it fall and leave you. The bible is a powerful weapon against the devil fam. And Jesus has complete authority of the devil and you are Gods child so therefore you don't have to fear the devil! God bless you everyone!! May Jesus be revealed to you now❤❤❤

But then, how do you find yourself after pushing it away so much it feels, gone?

"No dude... jomaamaa didn't tell we did last night" always works for me 🫡

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As a former person who suffered from good girl syndrome, I confirm this is real. The faster you accept it, break it and move forward, the better your mental health will be.

so me takes a while to find myself

That last one hit home

Can you cover ageism for 40+?

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The abusers like to gaslight you on top of it too. Like giving gifts you never asked then throwing a tantrum for being a "gold digger" 🤦‍♀️ we need to find a way to take take those ppl out of the dating pool and create separate dating sites for them

mafuyu asahina.

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"good girl syndrome" doesn't have to be changed for boys. It rolls of the tounge better to say "good girl" so it caj just stay that way, people need to stop getting all antsy about dumb crap like that.