Why You're Stuck--The Real Reason You Keep Failing to Reach Your Goals | Dr. Henry Cloud

Wanting to do something and actually doing are two very different things. Dr. Henry Cloud wants you to stop thinking of motivation as the key to success. While of course motivation is an important part of getting started, it can also cause problems. Hope deferred makes the heart sick, as the Bible says, and motivations that don’t lead to actions can cause their own set of problems along these same lines. An addict may want to get clean and be motivated to do so, but at each turn they find an obstacle and it doesn’t get them to sobriety. As these motivations accrue and lead to dead ends a new pattern emerges: helplessness. You can’t depend on motivation to get you to where you want to go. It ebbs and flows and it will let you down. So what does work when you have the motivation? Prioritization, habits, patterns, practices, accountability partners. Dr. Cloud wants you to keep your motivation, but be mindful that it’s not the fuel that leads to the end game. Let your motivation lead you to a new habit that’s more sustainable than motivation alone.
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[@paulsocie7152]

Amen❣️ You are so right, we could save the world with hope & faith❣️

[@jeannettegilson3101]

Movement creates MOMENTUM. 😊

[@ladyeyediy9778]

I need to put this on repeat for myself! Such good insight. I love the "depending on wanting to do something"... Easy to stay stuck in the wanting and never taking action.

[@hereim5648]

You have to do all kids positive stuff to become a better person.

[@vilmabock478]

Maestro ⚘️, so much godly wisdom. I am so grateful for you.

[@beckywhitfield4813]

This is so true!

[@chelenesalzwedel6577]

Thank you! Very, very helpful wording.

[@cjforro12]

So it's more of doing it because it's your priority than waiting for the feeling of liking to do it. Am I right? Thank you Dr. Henry.

[@peggybreen8684]

😊😊

[@JosefGroup]

So how does one build or develop the belief?

[@sherrymurkland606]

You can usually help someone that does not want help 😮

[@sherrymurkland606]

Not help

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Andrew, I needed an attorney 20 years ago 😊. Why?

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