I just lost my fp and partner of 12 years. I've never felt this kind of pain.

This selfish bastard ..OBSESSED tortured me to abasement...malfunctioning bastard

It's a life sentence no matter what anyone tells me

Wow talk about boo hoo boring. How about we just repent repent repent? It’s here are it’s not going away so Might as well as make use of it in a healthy and safe way because it’s not going g anywhere.

The relationship was all in my mind, 😭

You are the light in the dark, bro. Everything's gonna be okay one day.

Thank you. I am the tail of boomer. My mother was an undiagnosed cluster B. I am so grateful that I was able to forgive her before she died. That freed me. I still had to protect myself from her, but I could see her woundedness and feel compassion. Fortunately I never had children, so I didn't have to worry about passing that on.

This video does not make me feel sad - it makes me feel understood, more 'normal'. Thank you

I find it worse to feel alone in the presence of others. Even though I know they love me I can still feel abandoned. And then I long to be alone so that the loneliness makes more sense and I can manage it better.

Art Hypnosis Reiki Yoga Fitness Running Jewellery making Guitar Becoming a therapist I also did all the training to become qualified in most areas! 😆 ohhh jeeez! It’s all making sense… because I feel so much shame afterwards because it just stops!

I think most crime even petty crime can be connected with abuse of the sexual function.

I relate to this a tone, maybe not so strange because I'm 20, I've soon lived (mostly) on my own for 3 years, and I really do find it difficult. It's been better during periods of times when I had a friend living with me, but as soon as they get more responsibilities like work I get back to this place. My mom also lives in a different country, and I've started to trust people less which does not help. I am also in a stuck place since last fall, and it is nothing compared to 2022, but man is it draining to be stuck. When I'm alone at home is the time I find the most difficult, not only because of discipline or the amount of energy something takes, but I quite literally would be so much better if someone told me what to do and made sure it got complete.

Great… another Gaslighting Narc dressed up as a Therapist. Dude… not gonna work. Manipulating people to do what you want even though they don’t want to do it is inherently evil. And just because you’re soooooooo hurt and insecure, doesn’t mean we should “feel sorry” for you after manipulating us. The only thing this kind of video does is 1: validate other narcs and their bad behaviors. 2: Help keep victims trauma bonded.

lol 💯💯💯

Great video.Its soothing to know I'm not the only one.Lately I can't even think straight with things piling up.I had to call into work just to try to get my whole life back in perspective.Thank you

I really like your podcast. You're very good at articulating your emotions. 😊

My daughter is my BPD person and I have no way of escaping. She has no one . Everyone has gone.

My roommate walked on me a few days ago as my roommate and owes me almost $7k….because I asked her to clean her mess up, cook every now and then, bathe, get off the sofa for 18 hours a day eating all the food I bought. she knows what she is doing because I found out her family says she's been that way…I wish her well with her alcoholic boy friend that fell down a fight of stairs and locked her out last month. I will not let her in again.

This is the first time ever i cry so hard for a KZbin video, just like someone talking abt me or understand me, say things between me my fd. I got BPD for ard 15 years, with depression, anxiety n OCD. Dr nvr told me abt BPD but i read a lot n i knw there's high possibility i hv. I figured it out ard 3 years ago by reading my locker medical history. I collapsed ! I wld rather die or having such a "problem"! No meds can help, no cuts can release. I nvr expect anyone will understand me that "hw i actually work". I hv no fds, not close one i mean. They all "hurt" by me. Blocked. Isolated. Not a single word for explanation. That's y i hate myself so so so much!! I reali appreciate for this video. I guess it's time for me to get bk to meds n force myself to slp. xx M

its almost 2 year i decided to leave my friend after she suddenly cut me off, actually i didnt know what happend to me tho, its like i found someone that understand me into the bone. and i dont know when the time that im realize that she is my fp because in the past im not that defend on her, but after i have prob with other friend, she becaming my fp, but i realize this relationship are wrong at many level, i becaming defend so much to her, like im scared when she is not answering my text, that was crazy when she is cutt of me suddenly, and everything goes dark, like idont know what to do. but after 2years, even tho im still thinking about her sometimes but is not intens like it was. until now i still have to not contact her. its a crazy feeling that i ever had in my life. disclaimer, fp is not like we choose intentionally, it happend naturally. i didnt realized at first until that cut off. i always knew that maybe she just being some kind of human being, because of my dysfuctional personality, but ya maybe this is the path that i should face, i miss the old times when we were be friend without any of this lol. and thank u for author in this video. because of this u, i realized my mistake.

I noticed absorbing personalities pretty early on but I also noticed I will absorb other peoples "bad habits" as long as I know what the people around me think of those tendencies. For example, one of my family members would leave cabinets open sometimes and it drove me crazy, but after hearing my family joke about it, I unintentionally picked up the habit. Just thought it was interesting I guess. Pretty sure there is a reason for this psychologically but is anyone else similar?

Thank you for your videos🙏🏼 You have no idea how much they help

Really liked this video. I started watching your videos years ago after being involved with someone who seemed to be narcissism/borderline mix, to understand it better. During the whole process I ended up being diagnosed with autism and ADHD myself. The UK waiting lists are ridiculous, I also went private. It seems to me, like what you say, that since a lot of your narcissistic/borderline tendencies have died down, you're mainly left with the ADHD. I really catch your vibe in general, and I find you very pleasant to listen to, with various wanderings and all :)

You seem self aware in some ways.

Shit

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Well. The thing he needs to cope with is his wife and children. How does he rid himself of us if we are the cause?

I’m in a relationship with a person with BPD. I have experienced the love bombing and idealisation and the devaluation and discard. It isn’t that you don’t love or like the person with BPD but you can’t ever love them enough. They need more and more reassurance and it just wears you out in the end. So when you say that we don’t love/like you as much as you love/like us it’s a little misleading because a person without BPD would love you normally but for the person with BPD that’s not enough.

It's not easy because then you don't know who you are, what to do, the world just stops And the emptiness they filled is back. I'm a self-destructive BPD it's hard to do I cut my FP off because I knew I was I was doing more mentally damaged to her than anything. And I don't want that for my loved one

I feel this to my core right now because I'm literally trying to let go of my favorite person after having split and ruining the entire friendship... It's horrible and excruciating and i just want it to end and go back to the way it was.

I did really like my bod ex, but she treated me like crap after the first 2-3 weeks..I think maybe she is more comfortable being with someone who she needs to chase or who is unhealthy so she can get her abandonment she feels she deserves or something idk. My ex wasn’t clingy, more avoidant and just uncaring.

Thank you so much for your vulnerability and honesty.

I love how your shorts bring a more humorous side of you.... and yes... routine rules ;-)

A guy is stalking me and is super obsessed with me, he has a gf but he's willing to break up with her just to be with me.... I don't like him romantically, his flirtious remarks never stops.... Please, someone help me to stop his obsession... I can't sleep at night thinking about him, I'm so scared of him and I'm having panic attacks because of him.

It does look good on you.

Right this second

100%

Maybe ADHD really does explain -everything-.

My husband has ADHD and also has a lot of effective coping mechanisms. He is a successful lawyers with his own practice. Instead of taking meds he drinks a lot of diet coke, which works for some reason

There is a fantastic KZbin channel called How to ADHD, with a ton of practical tips...

I've been playing Pump It Up Phoenix because I like doing something skillful in public where people can see me and setting new high scores

this stuff is engineered to cultivate and harvest 'loosh' it will turn you into a slave, which is exactly the idea in the first place. only mind controlled slaves will engage in this filth.

Maybe she pushed me away and I left and now she won't forgive me for leaving and she won't talk to me that's all I did was leave because I was hurting

I lost my favorite person and I have not been able to function but it was someone who just keeps having a favorite person

So … being on the end a sudden out of nowhere BPD split. I can tell you it is traumatic and extremely painful thing that the BPD person does to a so called friend … right now I am just hurt and pissed off.

A friend recently texted me and told me she was ending our friendship out of the blue and it is so confusing but looking back at her behaviors and choices … seems to me she as undiagnosed BPD it’s the only thing that makes sense to me. She blocked me just one morning … phone, email and social media. I blocked her back to protect myself cause I don’t do emotional drama filled rollercoaster rides it is not my style. It just hurts and is sad she doesn’t have any healthy friendships now.

I loved a guy for 7,5 years. He was my classmate and he was just perfect - in my head. He has never been interested in me - he had lots of girlfriends and he has one currently. But I have always loved him and I would do ANYTHING. I would change my looks, interests and anything I needed to just so that he would like me. And right now I think I will die because I can not get over him and it hurts. I can’t take it anymore.

It’s some people who are ruining my life & sabotaging any kind of relationship I develop with others rather it’s romantic, platonic, or professional 🤷🏿‍♀️ they’re trying to normalize building relationships with people who cross my boundaries by using people that may be hard for me to let go because it’s the very reason why THEY were cut off 🤷🏿‍♀️ never gonna happen. They try to hide behind the idea of being this obsessed to somehow help me make it in life like they’re some God appointed stalker 😂😂 but no, nobody would ever care that much to help anyone unless of course they have something to gain from it 🤷🏿‍♀️ then in that case they really should practice better methods in expressing business proposal🤷🏿‍♀️ It only makes sense that anyone willing to go through these extreme lengths clearly have a romantic obsession disorder. Only the idea of love is powerful enough to make people do anything for it 🤷🏿‍♀️ I wish them ease when popping their medication to soothe them back to reality. I feel entitled to express gratitude & just take the flowers from the Down syndrome secret admirers who really don’t know no better 🤷🏿‍♀️