Are BPD good with cats? I gave my cat to a friend just to realize she has bpd... :(

I am so psyched for you! I love that you seem to be doing so well! It definitely gives me hope for my recovery. Also, super relatable thought on ADHD meds. I feel like a freight train of productivity. But that energy is like fire! It needs to be closely watched and channeled... Or it'll make like a dying symbiote and attach to the nearest thing to it!

Cringeworthy is literally the best way to describe me 😂

I’m going through this now except mine just said they have to much going on to talk to and I kind of lost it for a few days,I finally got to the point of messaging (bc it’s easier when you leave then when they do) and saying I can’t have them in my life right now. It’s cruel to see their name pop up and if you even say hi, you’re ignored. People forget it’s not just physically it hurts, there’s emotional abandonment. Where they stay around but don’t speak to you and withhold any communication. It’s really hard to come to terms with. He replied which I wasn’t expecting and now I do not want to open it, I don’t wanna fall back down the stairs. People need to be honest to us with bpd, things would go so much better but they don’t want to be honest and end up actually being the bad guy, not me.

I started to be diagnosed, show sign of bpd after sevarel huge ptsd at 23, slowly I started to split on the people the closest to mine, which lead to abandon. Some part of me also thought, since I am in a way I can"t control, the people I love, I should protect them from me and let them go. I recently passed 30, I think happiness is a childhood memory I will never taste again, nothing on this earth had bring me much joy than to connect to other but I got to admit that I can"t, as people lose their legs and can't walk anymore. Reading all your comments breaks my heart. I don't have any family member, I tend to consider people I loved like family, sacrifice like family, invest like family when they show the need to, but I start to understand, I'll never be anyone family, you can from time to time handle a disabled member of family, accept that people don't handle their whole health, but on that bpd case, you will all end up leaving and sometimes wounded so whats the point of even trying out

Can you love your current partner whilst having this lingering favourite person.. ? I have wondered this for a long time. Thank you

You've got the gift, brother. You can be either Darth Vader or Luke Skywalker or both at the same time. Choose conscientiously. :)

BPD always insists other people understand and agree with them, while not being willing to so that for the other. Just. Grow. Up. Already. Stop demanding things from other people and get a grip and get help if you are this ill.

They hide he has a wife and a child

They put you in hide chat so their supply doesn't see your texts

I think you kind of nailed it when you said "and twitter is not my Mum" ... I've often felt, especially in the last decade or so, that the family unit has broken down in so many cases ... youngsters nowadays look to social media for answers, instead of to their siblings and parents, who are also wrapped up in social media, so it's hardly surprising that this kind of behavior is so common. It's really kind of sad in so many ways. Thank you so much for your videos :)

I love it personally it's almost like freedom in a way

FACTS ..people aren’t guaranteed to stay and be there forever..you only matter ..🤷🏽‍♂️

It’s so bizarre to me. One of them looked like they were having a stroke and they went ahead and posted that to which thousands maybe even millions have now seen. I do wonder if they are performing so as to competitively signal to other members within their group as an effort to gain status.

I don’t think the feeling comes out of nowhere. I think when I go out I really want connection with others. My programming tells me that others will make me feel better. When that doesn’t happen that’s when the switch is hit. I was happy on the expectation of finding connection. Then, I don’t get what I was looking for and swooosh as you say. The mindfulness bit is definitely important. Learning to release that expectation that others are there to basically entertain me for lack of a better word. But then I guess I must admit to myself that I am wired to feel connection. I’m also an alcoholic and luckily in my meetings that i can go to whenever I want 3 times a day or more if I want I have learned to call others and check on them. It has given me relief until I have come to a place that I enjoy my own company because I MUST constantly be mindful and spiritually fit. The days I do my spiritual sit ups and push ups I feel better than when I don’t. We are not supposed to be happy every second of the day helps bad feels flow more easily too. There’s my rambling. 😂

I see all these comments on BPD videos and forums and it seems like people really don't understand it; so many harsh comments where they are clearly taking things personally and can't separate the condition from the person. These are actual people, and throwing them out and abandoning them like I see so many comments saying they did is why they are so afraid of abandonment in the first place. Empathy is so important.

It's tough when they were into you as much as you were into them at one point. Then they pull away, and it's like, this isn't fair, don't we both get a say in this?

🎉 so many videos reminding how A F U we are - I suppose it’s like knowing where your weak spots are - triggers - thanks for encouraging us - and finally stating *YES* Carry ON - keep calm - Carry on. ❤🎉

Im not a profesional, but in my research abouth this I found simple answer : let it go ! Absolutly nobody recomand a relation with BPD at any point, they inflict a lot of pain and leave trauma hehind If you are tempted to go back, you have to remember she never love you, its just her mecanism ( lovebom) to get pp for theyr needs, in reality are not capabile to love in a classical way Its hard to accept but you just cant help her, at this point nobody can do it proper

Thanks a lot. I cried watching this. I started crying and then I cried thinking about sex

As someone with BPD and little to no NPD traits, I have wild imposter syndrome.. I also have AvPD so that may be a contributing factor... but my point is idk if imposter syndrome and feeling inept is exclusive to any specific diagnosis...

This video encapsulates EXACTLY where I'm at right now. I am angry and frustrated because I knew that I needed to take space and recalibrate, but I couldn't because I didn't know how to manage my own emotions.

I love how you explained it. Thank you for sharing your thoughts

I dated a woman with BPD. I didn't know about BPD. We spent a sparse 6 weeks then a solid 6 weeks together and we were very close. But at the end I had to leave & she WANTED me to leave. She had another guy ready to go it seemed. When I came back though, she came back to me and boom we are back to being together every day. But she would disappear now & then to hook up with that new guy. She also talked about him. So he seemed like her new fp. But then WHY did she come back to me? Why was she sleeping with me? Was I someone to keep her from becoming too hooked on the FP?

It’s been more than a couple of days and he still owes me an apology but I’m under the impression he entirely detests me and never wants to talk to me again or even stand next to me.

i honestly don't care anymore. You win some you lose some. The over thinking and calculation only lead to more instability and insecurity. i had more friends before i knew about my condition and now every instinct tells me to stay away from them or ill ruin their lives.

Lmfao

its called limerance

New follower here 😊 I love your content ✨️ and your doggo 🐶

Recently, I came to realisation at age 41 that I've probably got bpd all my life.. all the symptoms match my behaviour

Left such relationships with post traumatic stress syndrome. Went to therapy. Lived through one hoovering attempt from her. Loved her with all my heart. Yet hope to never hear from her again. Feel pity for her though

Cluster b is often about needing to have control.

Arrogant. For sure. 👋 not “better” than anyone for me it’s….you will not control me.

Omg love the puppy thumbnails and username 🫶

You got lucky. If I say anything about the past, mine would be triggered and lash out at me physically. Even though he's 70.

So i have listened to every video in this playlist, i came back to this one to share what has worked for me and still works for me Lot of times anger is So engulfing that you know you can't speak to anyone and no one is ready for it... So the best way to avoid exploding on someone is to WRITE every word ... Every thought... with Zero Censor... just write it all down until you feel EMPTY until the weight lifts... I don't even read it, i just write and write until i get the sensation that the Stress is OUT and or the weight on my chest is lifted... One time as a kid i was so angry that i threw down the bird cage, it was one of my worst moments... and so i have learned since then and other incidents lol that its better to PURGE the anger in writing... I keep a journal called Get The Stress Out.. Another way i use to practice this is to take a blank sheet of paper and to just start writing randomly, any direction, every direction, every word and thought .. until i felt better .. Both work.. Also write down the WINS write down the times you avoided the trigger... and how you did it.. Celebrate the Wins... Its Impportant! Thank you for sharing your thoughts and experiences! Very helpful

Weird. At the moment i was focusing on being present in the mkment you said something about being present too. Synchronisities lol. Im snapping out of obssessive thinking atm. Undiagnosed but have a lot of borderline traits along with npd traits. im working on healing but feels likely a daunting and painful task. I obssess over ppl too but then i start to lose my sense of self and that does me no good. issues with emotional permanence. Abandonment etc.

Chipping away at the favorite person stuff: 4:16 - I read this recently somewhere - "six inches of snow covering twenty feet of lava" I am a master of snow job on my favorite person, but the truth always comes out. Thank you.

wow. hit the target 🥴

Wow thanks for this. I have Autism and Borderline and likely some Vulnerable Narcissistic traits due to Borderline. I have always felt an extremely strong sense of justice and you guessed it - Black and White thinking and controlling behavior. When I was on twitter I got tired of how the left devalued liberals and middle ground folks, even people on the right. I got tired of arguing with people. I’ve recently talked to Trump supporters and we actually share some similar thoughts. I still do not tolerate transphobia, racism, and sexism well at all. I still have a sense of righteousness about some things - especially when I feel invalidated or I see someone being bullied / put down. I still struggle having intimate / particularly romantic relationships with people who disagree with me on things because of my lack of self worth. This is extremely hard to admit but, here we are

Most likely just saved my life sir. Thank you.

I wish I had watched this 10 years ago.. this entire video is exactly how I’ve been my entire life. Now I’m talking to the same person it all started with,convincing myself it was love and that she felt the same. She didn’t. It was all in my head. I wish knowing this now was enough to make me feel better and just forget about it. I’m still broken.

Don't do it!

This video disturbed me

not judging you or anything and I feel like you're very courgeous sharing what you said. I felt like what you said sometimes too, then a few hours // a day later boom! I fall back where I were again. its like an endless cycle and anything can be a trigger, that's to me btw, I am happy for you that you're okay😄

The sadness blanket. I get that all the time too. And like even with years practicing to 'remove it', the brain is dynamic and what worked last time may not work this time. It's always a trial and error. What works may also relate to where I'm at in life as well e.g. if I got into watching drag race recently, watching it helps this time, but a month later, watching it doesn't help anymore.

Oh yes about number 4 favourite person. I get it. It's strange coz obviously the 'fav person' can't satisfy you emotionally all the time. Like logically I know that. But emotionally I can't help falling for the trap

Why I don’t have friends..

And when she apologizes, she says "I'm sorry but you always ignore me" or something similarly untrue.