I just started yesterday a new job in a coffee shop,the first day they only taught me how to use the dishwasher and it was ok till i had to talk to the people to say that we were closing in 20 minutes and when i had to take their plates,it was hell,it was also hell with the collegues that were so nice but so extroverts,i was SO embarassed,i was feeling so much weird,the boss at the end said that i was good but i felt like a failure and tomorrow i have to work,and i'm feeling really bad.

My job is causing me so much anxiety. My SA is pretty much always present but it’s multiplied x10 at my new job. I know I can do it and it’s not that I even dislike it. There’s several great things about it but I dislike dealing with the public and since it’s all so new to me it’s like I’m just very anxious from how new it is and the fact that I have to deal with clients almost every day. I don’t want my SA to rule my life but at the same time I wish I could just sit in my office and not have to deal with them 😓😅

Basically no one knows why this happens including this guy and no one knows how to fix it. No one can even properly define the problem! Theres no considering, just saying this or that, blurting, changing the topic, listening for key words or changing the subject!! When the mind goes blank - THE MIND IS BLANKED. NO THOUGHT IS POSSIBLE. You are literally stuck in the moment, unable to speak, unable to control the focus of your own thoughts... youre stuck focused on the other persons reaction to whats happening and its automatic. I believe its a trauma response gone haywire.

First off, I would like to begin by saying to people who had a great high school experience just remember there are people you graduated with that didn't. I'm not a bitter or an insecure person either. My 50th reunion is coming up and I won't be attending, and I have never attended one. The reason? I hated high school. I had a few friends (we were called small time people) but I wasn't in with the in / popular crowd, I never fit into any group or click. I was never a jock, cheerleader, snob etc... and because of that I was treated poorly at times. As a matter of fact, one of the people that treated me extremely rotten (bullied me) is one of the main organizers the upcoming 50th reunion. I have seen photos online of the 40th reunion and past reunions. Who mostly attended? The same people of the in / popular crowd. Mostly that's who high school reunions are for.

after reading all the comments ive kinda motivated that why tf we are afraid of people they’re jst human like us

I don’t know if anyone relates I hope you do my problem is I had acne and society showed me if a guy doesn’t have clear skin girls won’t like him as a result you will be alone all my friends had clear skin I didn’t all my friends had girls like them I didn’t Always felt less than I had a job a month ago and there were guys with me who had no acne and were good looking and I would be so scared to look at girls because I would be like they are not looking at me they are looking at them therefore I would go to the toilet and look at my face my acne especially this would make me so insecure and this job was in front of loads of pretty girls so I just couldn’t do it no one looked at me as a result I thought I was ugly even though I am 6 foot 2 people say I have a nice body I go gym everyday have a nice haircut I can’t get any job and school is a no go Inshallah Allah leads me to victory Replies would be appreciated and if you have struggled with this

Thank you for this 😢 I feel like such a loser no post secondary and no job for many years I hope I can change that I get such bad anxiety when I work

I ashamed from girls so badly in fact i fear them. Because i fear that they would find the defectivenes inside me and that i would feel that less then feeling. I couldn't speak to opposite sex just because of this high fear

this video hit the nail on the head for me, exactly what I needed Thank you!

My mind goes blank when I massively overthink stuff. This can happen at home or at my job, I'm never nervous or anything like that I just keep reaching. Alongside the mind blank and overthinking my forehead gets a weird feeling.

I am worried about throwing the hard work. I did finding the job down the toilet. 😢

I have a reunion group of about 28 people and i only know 5 of them And i am sure that many of them wont show up, like max 10 will come Its still ok but idk

I have been trying to seek an online work from home job for a really long time now, I am tired of dealing with people

I want to do my dream job but due to my social anxiety I will never be able to do it

Thank you for making this video. Im graduating next year and am so afraid to get a job and do things wrong. Lets say I didnt have the most pleasent internships one could have. Ill try my best not letting this stop me.

My level of anxiety actually cripples me just like my last job I can't controll the dread the palpitation and I cannot controll my eyes being watery like I'm shedding tears by just feeling the dread now it's been like 3 years and I still feel the same and much severe😢....I am now shaking like my heart is about to come out😅 when panicking

Wow. The way you put it- it makes so much sense. And I somehow was overcome with a feeling of peace- knowing that my social anxiety is merely doing its best to keep me safe. Knowing this is definitely the beginning of a new mindset! Thank you for creating this video and sharing your wisdom!

Yes! Go! Good for the soul to reconnect to a timeless event!

Literally every piece of advice given on this subject: "Just say whatever comes to mind!" What comes to mind when trying to talk to someone: "............................ I dont know what to say" Not helpful! Just makes my anxiety worse by making me imagine a conversation where i dont say anything besides repeating "I dont know what to say" over and over again until the other person just gives up

Whenever i get an interview i just dont want to go through it. 😐 Hell is other people.

I loved what you said and hit the right spot..

Yes I have that problem and no one believes me I have a faculty degree ...and my parents think that I am lazy...the life has become a nightmare to me.

My high school reunion is coming up and honestly I don’t care to go and probably not go at all. I was good friends with maybe like 3 people in my school.

I cant call my friends and i dont know how to prepare for it, i think this video might just be for something professional but when a friend wants to call just to have a good time what do i do?

I cant even go to a job interview or talk to anybody 🫠

I have everything I want to say and to talk about but I have stutter and scared what they think about me

ive been procrastinating a walk in interview for 2 weeks now. i know what it is, i know i want to start working. But i cant get myself to go, im so anxious about the interview, my muscles tighten and my throat chokes up. Ive had 3 jobs its nothing new to me. Ive spent hours writing down interview answers just to not go. i dont know what to do again this point i feel like an idiot. i know im gonna start working and get bored as shit and ask myself, “why tf did i wait so long for this?” its been months.

41 People who live their life fully make mistakes constantly it’s a part of life” 4:31

I even forget to breathe :( It's so exhausting when youre looking for a job. everyone wants to call

It always happens to me that I get the job, go to work and I immediately want to quit. Right now I have a job that I enjoy doing, it's not hard at all, but somehow I just feel so anxious whenever I have to face a customer...

Thanks for this

1:12 it never goes away!!! It just NEVER goes away!!! So true!!!

When I was in high school I was not involved in much. I tried out for the wrestling team and did not letter. No awards or club memberships. I was friendly to most but only had a few close friends. When invited to our 50th reunion I feared no one would know me. My wife wanted to go since it included a trip to Catalina Island where our class had its "ditch day." I decided to go. To my surprise most knew me or had heard of me. I did not have to introduce myself to most. Everyone was friendly and inviting. What stood out was speaking to those I barely knew and learning about their careers. Examples: a flight mechanic who became a pilot and advisor to middle eastern and African air forces; an individual who became an authority in Native American artifacts and a couple who opened a bed and breakfast in Costa Rica. I was able to finally tell a classmate about the petition we circulated to make our friend finally ask her to the prom. She laughed and laughed. I not only had fun but learned a great deal about classmates I barely knew. It was fascinating and enjoyable. Keep an open mind and learn.

My 10 year reunion was in 2020. I think it was cancelled because of lockdowns but honestly I wasn’t going to go either way. I’m still in contact with a lot of my in local high school friends. Anyone from high school that’s no longer in my life really isn’t important to me. If I’m still kicking when the 50 year reunion comes, then I’ll go just to see who else is still alive.

I needed to hear this. Thank you ❤

I feel I was just born to be abused. My ex boyfriend would fight me and call me a lower form of human life.

Is everyone supposed to be abused at work?

✨✨✨ hate being bullied at work where I feel I’m incapable to work. Recently a female chases me around with less clothes on putting me down… she follows me and I’m scared.✨✨✨

Thank you very much!

While texting I come up with great things, but in real life conversation I'm so quiet and I talk like I want someone to think only good about me, solution please

I hate social anxiety and if i didn't have it i would ask my crush to date me days ago.She knows i like her but i want to clarify this.

Worst video for social anxiety ever. I know I'm a very capable person. Every job I have done I got very good at and my superiors praised me. It's people and interacting with them that give me anxiety. Going through the motions of day in and day out doing the same shit is where I lose it.

I find it really hard to ask for help at work. A few weeks back a co worker was explaining a new task to me but I just felt so stupid because I couldn't get it. So I walked out but also I felt really socially awkward there.

Youre really cute!😍

I can't make myself genuinely interested in what people are talking about if I don't care about the subject. I can pretend to be interested but can't be genuinely interested.

You misspelled misunderstood

Thank you for sharing

Idk what's wrong with me. Whenever someone talks to me or I focus on something my mind just goes blank like I don't know anything. I also forget things that I do or did. and when I try to remember them I just cant remember.. and when I look at something my eyes just stop there on that thing my mind just stopped working

After 20 years?????

I never went to a reunion. No desire to reconnect with those clowns.