I Don’t Know What To Say - What To Do When Your Mind Goes Blank During Conversations

When I talk with people who have social anxiety they often tell me, “Andre, I don’t know what to say. My mind goes blank during conversations. What should I do?” Since this seems to be quite a problem, I’ve decided to record a video that shows you what to do to get rid of this problem.
First of, you need to realize that this happens to everyone and more importantly, you need to realize that it’s not your responsibility to fill in the gaps. Awkward pauses in conversations don’t necessarily need to be filled by you.
You’re not the only one involved in conversation and it takes at least two people to have a conversation (except when you’re talking to yourself). That other person also needs to actively participate and do his or her best to keep the conversation going.
Realizing this should help you feel more at ease during conversations because the pressure to prevent the pauses isn’t just on you anymore.
Why is this so important?
Well, I’ve found out that your mind goes blank during conversations for two reasons. One is that you’re not comfortable around people you’re talking to and the other one is that you simply don’t have anything to say. The good thing is that you can take care of both reasons pretty easily.
There are obviously many reasons how to calm yourself down and get more relaxed around other people.
You could practice a simple breathing technique that I’ve described pretty thoroughly in one of my episodes of Social Anxiety Advice podcast. You can listen to it here:
socialanxietyadvice.com/how-to...
Another thing you could do to calm down is practice a special EFT technique during the moment of anxiety. It will help you relax almost instantly. It shouldn’t take more than a few minutes to lower the level of anxiety.
Again, you can find out more about this technique by following the link above.
Please understand that practicing these techniques won’t instantly turn you into a super confident person with great social skills.
These techniques are only meant to help you calm down so your brain can start working properly again and you can get the conversation going again.
For long-term results you will have to dig deeper and find out the reasons why you feel uncomfortable around other people in the first place. Then you’ll have to work on eliminating these reasons.
Now, let’s move on to the next reason why your mind goes blank.
It’s hard to be sociable when you have social phobia. It keeps you away from situations that could help you develop your social skills. It keeps you away from living your life fully because it wants to protect you from getting yourself hurt and embarrassed.
Obviously this doesn’t help when you need to talk with other people.
When you have no life it’s hard to be sociable because you have nothing interesting to say. It’s hard to be the life of the party if you’ve got nothing interesting going on in your life.
The solution lies in living a more interesting life.
Find yourself some fascinating or impressive hobbies. This will give you something to talk about.
And more importantly, become interested in other people. Become interested in what they have to say. This way you will eventually develop your social skills and you won’t have to deal with awkward pauses anymore.
If you have any questions about this topic you can leave them in the comments’ section here:
socialanxietyadvice.com/i-dont...
If you would like to know more about overcoming social anxiety disorder and building social skills, feel free to visit my website here:
socialanxietyadvice.com/
Last but not least, you might want to subscribe to my KZbin channel here and watch more videos I made on how to deal with social anxiety.
/ @andresossi

[@aly8950]

I hate when I actually start a conversation and then after one response back my mind goes blank. The people I try talking to probably think I'm dumb.

[@tyrelmiller8260]

And the rest of the conversation is just Yeah Oh yeah Definitely

[@honey_comb3347]

Yea same here I will try to talk to my best friends but the problem is they won't listen what I'm saying.But whenever my other best friend came my friend listen to her and talk to her.I'm not only dumb,I'm so childish.I really wanna change my personality and my attitude.I feel so dumb.Some people calls me stupid or idiot idk why I feel so sad for a silly things.I don't know what to say.I'm such a crybaby.

[@rahulrawat2975]

@@honey_comb3347 yes its a major problem

[@SuperJrich]

@@honey_comb3347 ... Listen to Wayne Dyer and only Wayne Dyer for 3 months & thank me later😁 you're not dumb you're just misunderstood ❤️❤️❤️

[@honey_comb3347]

@@SuperJrich Aww

[@ritzcarlton3582]

I could listen to two people having a nice flowing conversation and think damn I wouldn’t have thought to say that

[@numbercode2486]

LOL same

[@ferlitonapoco7100]

SamE HAHAGAHAHHAA while im the eldest ..my two siblings always argue on small things ... I cant even keep up listening in their arguement DAmn

[@no_name_izzy]

Exactly

[@devesh2889]

Same

[@ClassyMen1919]

that's literally me

[@Sivan-jh8oi]

When I talk to people, I feel that my brain has stopped thinking. What I say is always very simple. I always practice what I want to say in my head several times before I speak. I always feel like everyone else is Watching me

[@LikeableAden]

Omg Same

[@ahungrylearner.1364]

Yep

[@citizen1115]

Same here

[@kristinamarie111]

OMG!! This happens to me too!! I thought I was the only one going through this. It’s debilitating and frustrating

[@BabyCEQ]

It's called social phobia

[@r3dcl0udzz20]

tbh I don't know what to talk about half the time

[@moonfire41]

Me either

[@MateoLiveBett]

Same, I used to be really funny back in the time

[@elizaf743]

Same here I have nothing interesting to say most of the time, even if I have something to say i get scared I'll be laughed at

[@Sarah-xx4fv]

thank god i'm not alone.

[@vl2663]

Same. And it sucks cause I already don’t have much people to talk to so I can’t practice building the social skills needed to communicate with others lmao

[@ripcurlinbofa]

like when i’m at my house with my family I am completely myself, but when i’m in public i have no idea who i am.

[@mx1ka_t1]

Literally same

[@Violet12412]

Me too unfortunately the same

[@theresalanice]

Omg same

[@zakaria.ffffffffffffffffffff]

Same

[@chefdexta7299]

Has this improved? If so, how did you do it

[@Flidflight]

He described my whole life.

[@ziolp]

And everyone elses

[@FLF355]

You're not alone brothers / sisters

[@pancakebb6384]

me to

[@strawb3r1]

Fr tho ;/

[@akashmahanvar1949]

My problem is same as yours.... because of this problem people started to think I'm inactive 😓

[@bigdogkato]

someone talking to me: me, nodding: *yeah*

[@mardar940]

Same😭😭

[@sir_krusty7881]

Same i really wish i was better at conversations

[@voltixD]

Lol

[@bensonheng]

I always forget my vocabs, when it comes to having a conversation with someone 😭

[@gglovesgorillazmj7784]

LMFAO SAMEEE

[@kdot8433]

This never helps deadset, every single person just basically says, “ya just gotta get rid of your filter” it’s not that easy, I feel like I need to go to a school specifically for this problem for months straight to fix this bullshit. I work in customer service, I have to talk to people every single day and it just doesn’t get better. Yes some days I’ll be great but 95% of the time it’s just painful

[@jacquesbundang633]

What the?! And here I was thinking that my social anxiety will be solved if I get a customer related job

[@mahasinasim4150]

Same.. I always see people better than me and even more intelligent and see myself as stupid and useless I dont know what's wrong with me I can't talk as my mind go blank all the time Like my friend always talk and stuff then I get anxious and I dont know what to say I come back home in my bed laying down and thinking "I should of said this I should of said that" or "I wish I never said that" I really wish I can do something about it.

[@abbeywingfield6332]

Mahasin Asim OMG same. Or you always think of something to say like 10 seconds later after the convo has ended

[@mahasinasim4150]

@@abbeywingfield6332 I'm so happy that there is someone who actually understands

[@vl2663]

Mahasin Asim same here. I never used to get my mind blank with people I consider friends but it’s been happening for a year now. I have to constantly apologize to them for being boring and quiet and that I’m really trying to talk but that I don’t know what to say because my mind goes blank. I have no idea how to overcome this. It’s like the brain gets blocked or something.

[@Khepramancer]

I think most of my problem is I've always thought, growing up listening to people talk, and later into adulthood, that 95% of what "normal" people talk about, isn't worth talking about to begin with... so it makes it hard know what is socially acceptable to these types.

[@jailyngonzalez2700]

Yes, Exactly! People talk about the dumbest stuff! So, when it comes down to you talking in a conversation, you don't know what's interesting or appropriate or what's generally a dumb topic. Omg, this issues annoys me to no degree...

[@mitch2214]

Hey there I find it difficult to make conversation to. I did notice that your name is Syris of Lemuria. Is that a character you came up with or is it from a favourite tv series? It sounds cool.

[@chibudomazikiwe8377]

Yeeeeeesss!!! Exactly I’ll be talking to people and they’ll be having the most pointless chat it’s like they are just saying anything for the sake of talking and I tell myself not to take it too seriously but then I don’t know what to say.

[@vl2663]

DUUUDE LMAO you seriously just described my exact problem with talking to people too. Before my social anxiety had gotten too bad I had never been able to make friends and talk to people my age because I thought that most of the stuff people talked about was dumb, trivial, or I just couldn’t relate to it. I didn’t end up making friends until I started to dumb myself down and talk the way others do. Pretty sad but that was the only way people could accept me. Most of the time people don’t like talking about deeper or important things or things that are too different than what they’re used to, they just wanna talk about drama, gossip, or material/superficial things. I think that a lot of people live in this bubble to protect themselves from the reality of the world, but people like us face the truth and realize there are far more important things than talking about what Beyoncé wore to the Met Gala. And it’s not to say that I or anyone else with this problem think we’re better than everyone else, it’s just that we have different mentalities and ways of seeing the world than “normal” people do. Dumbing yourself down and focusing on trivial things makes you appear normal and be acceptable in society unfortunately

[@SightWard]

THIS... That's why i've had the same friends for since childhood, they are the only ones i can truely enjoy

[@analogueapples]

Most of my life I have never known what to say, even if I'm not in a social situation. People talk normally about other people or social situations that I have no opinion on. I just have never had ideas what to say to people, unfortunately most advice is how to speak not what to say.

[@niky9965]

ojjamajjasajja say something that you're passionate about, very interested in, and believe to be absolute true that you can back up and explain when/if needed to. Peoples interests are deeply increased when people speak about things passionate and/or are passionate about. It develops a subliminal sense of curiousity and your explanation can deepen their sense of wonder towards what you are saying; thus, inviting questions and deeper discussions and even relatability. And when you say something that is fruit of a core belief, you say it more strongly and show a sense of integrity in what you say. You won't have to second think this thought or worry about what the other person says. All of this is of course with respects to the other people. Say what you mean and mean what you say. And rather than just talking about anything and hoping for a smooth conversation, seek to get more out of it and understand the person/ where they are coming from. Purpose always reveals itself in the end. If you are talking just to talk, it's obvious. But If you're in a conversation because you want to know them more or know more about them or because you actually genuinely care about what is being said, etc, it will show and in the end you will both leave the conversation with more than empty words with no meaning and a bumpy broken road of misunderstanding and white noise. Have a purpose and meaning in every conversation you have that is not in vanity and you will see that that opens more doors than merely just talking . Much love.

[@Loup-mx7yt]

look! i'm holding a cigar start your discussion with "hey" and do the rest

[@cyberprinc3ssASMR]

@@niky9965 thanks!!

[@Pedro..]

I feel stupid when socializing I fear to screw it up when trying to speak bcause I do not have anything interesting to say and I don't know what people are interested in. It really depresses me and I think that there is no way to change that.

[@Haileyrodriguez288]

Its an aries thing and ya ur partly right but i think if u observe what peopl say in convo u could get better at it

[@vineetsingh8484]

@@Haileyrodriguez288 i m virgo

[@Christine-ws8kq]

@@Haileyrodriguez288 This has nothing to do with zodiac signs...

[@79464f]

Exactly what I'm struggling with

[@meepmorp99]

@@Christine-ws8kq precisely

[@colourfulmind4664]

See, the thing is: I don‘t care if I embarrass myself or if I say anything weird, etc. Apparently I am just not much of a talker, there‘s nothing that comes into my mind. 🤷🏼‍♀️ Telling myself not to worry over mistakes is not helpful since I don’t care whether I am going to embarrass myself or not..

[@Yemenite5]

Forreal! I dont care either i just lose my thoughts when the person is talking

[@zonaguy480]

I am the same way. I don’t fear rejection or embarrassment, I just have nothing to reply with in conversations other than a fake laugh or a short answer. This makes me avoid conversations altogether. I hope you overcome social anxiety!

[@monicah3018]

This is ME

[@memethulhu3037]

Me fr

[@reign7770]

What happens if my social anxiety has been reduced over time but I still don't like making conversations because I feel like I cannot hold up a conversation?

[@vincentpollack]

@@RenTheGreat Suicide is never the answer

[@vincentpollack]

Terran Nelson Look at the first response

[@emmanuelimumolen9366]

Some how painful and sad

[@mx1ka_t1]

Oh that's me

[@samuelepelisseri]

Me fr. I had a period of social anxiety that I think I kinda overcame, the problem is my mind can’t process fast responses in interactions anymore…

[@al-bp1pi]

I remember when i use to write what i will say on a phone convorsation.

[@ArsenalsJack1992]

it may sound obvious, but a good trick is to listen out for keywords and then expand on it. eg. "This happened at school with _____" then the next thing you say is either about school or the person they're talking about, and then again and again. hope this helps someone out there

[@random-user499]

Sideways Nutrition thats a really good trick thanks

[@rydotion]

it isn't that obvious for me, so thank you!

[@kookiesandcream2695]

"The inability of making a conversation " this is literally my definition

[@mike12jrw1111113]

Maaan this guy is good. I've been dissecting my social anxiety from its roots working to break down and tackle my fears, confusions, misconceptions in social situations and I ran into the issue of my mind going blank. I did a search on youtube and found this and it gave me an essential piece of the puzzle to overcoming my social anxiety. Thank you for you deep understanding of social anxiety. Its thorough knowledge like this that is essential to growing out of social anxiety.

[@moisesramos6746]

Hey, I'm on the same journey too. Best of luck, my guy

[@coolestguyinusa1]

2 Main Focal Points 1. Blurt out whats on your mind. (Express how you feel) Dont be afraid to disagree with someone this keeps a convo going. If you feel like your saying something irrelevant or weird than note not to repeat the mistake. This will slowly increase your charismatic skills. Put yourself out there, laugh have fun, and you will learn and grow as a speaker. 2. If you dont know what to say flip the switch. Make the other person talk. How? Ask then questions. Whats their interests? Goals? Have they ever tried (activities)? How are they feeling? Hows there day going? This is where your ears come into play. Actively listen, Face them you can move your eyes, and nod but try not to move your head. By listening your relationship will build with that person. And by listening you will most likely learn a thing or two. Hope this helped.

[@funspot9520]

Does any one have solution, I start crying in conversation though i don' t want to .. please help

[@treysommer6797]

@@funspot9520 keep talking to people and over time the reaction will go away. Or try medication if that doesn't work

[@cristianm.5689]

I can't laugh. The funniest person in the room could crack a good joke and make fun of a situation and everyone laughs, but not me. My humor is just not there, absolutely nothing a person says could make me laugh

[@ethanlewis1453]

This one little comment was more useful to me than the video. Thanks!

[@coldnicole9214]

Peopel thinks I’m shy but actually I’m not. I just don’t know what to say

[@coldnicole9214]

*people

[@strawb3r1]

Same... Im called quiet a lot :P

[@lailarose999]

omg same

[@adityasalunkhe1288]

Hopefully someone resolve this problem :(

[@LikeableAden]

Same. My mind goes Blank

[@Lukehugstrees]

I think the key is trying to enjoy the conversation, and learning is key, memory exercises also help with remembering knowledge and utilising it in conversation, and finding the humour in everything

[@crishan3930]

Thanks

[@rydotion]

the only way i know to talk is to mimic the way people talk in said year. i try to adapt my way of talking to the person im talking to, which is fine. but even so, i feel so bothered saying the same thing over and over again. only mimicking and never saying something interesting of my own because my mind is always so blank and empty. i believe one one of the roots is the fact that i don't talk to people too often, and always on the same comforting subject and nothing else. another root of the problem could be my feeling of guilt to even speak. afraid to hurt people with my words. i wish i knew literally anything that would improve my way of talking.

[@Legomovie970]

This literally happens to me all the fricking time, especially when I try to share my feelings with my mom.

[@DAClub-uf3br]

I can't make myself genuinely interested in what people are talking about if I don't care about the subject. I can pretend to be interested but can't be genuinely interested.

[@fearnotpeasant1854]

same i just agree but when they ask something, I don't know what to say

[@mitchtavio]

Thank you for this video. I feel like you have read my mind. I can't wait to check out your other videos.

[@raitiskigelis2363]

And what to do if you got nothing to say? I`m a boring dude. Mostly because of my terrible memory. I just dont have clear memories. Ranging from past experiences to interesting facts about topics I`m intrested in. It`s all a huge pile of unorganized half forgotten mess

[@nathan-or3gr]

this just described my situation perfectly

[@veenamadhu7882]

This is so me! I’m thinking about starting to journal so that I remember things better

[@clementbalaguy4312]

Thank you , it feels good to have people talking about it

[@matthewspringer242]

I never have talked with anyone who has had my problem and then I see so many comments on these types of videos which is refreshing because you really think you are alone.

[@wearedawnn]

The only reason I don't know what to say becauss I'm dumb and can't recite at school because I just don't know the answer and not enough confidence like others around me. I am talkative at chat like online games and stuff.

[@SocraticShorts]

Same bro

[@LikeableAden]

I am not talkative at all even Talking to people Online like video game it still give me anxiety

[@dudedude9528]

thank you for this Social Anxiety Advice this really made me feel better

[@iituyi]

I act like this in front of my friends thank you a lot this video helped me

[@melo15813]

I gotta be honest sir, what you said was very true about being self conscious about your lack of life experience. This has only gotten worse as I've gotten older, I was always a quiet kid but now I feel completely drowned in it.

[@scarlyt1017]

Okay some tips that worked for me is to always be in the moment and listen to what people in groups talk about. Then discuss is with one of them later. That person would be surely interested. You don't always have to talk about yourself, just try to get to know others and ask questions. Always go for open ended questions that doesn't end with just a yes or no cause they won't explain much and the silence can get awkward. The point is to talk about the other person, people like to talk about themselves.

[@gianferrepuse8873]

watching this video for a couple more times to get this through my head.

[@ssfdfdgg2699]

Thank you so so much. This is One of THE first videos that i actually found very helpful

[@SuspiciousFace]

Thank you so much for your advice, this video was very helpful

[@kevinl3523]

Just had an interview at my dream company with 5 managers in front of me virtually. When I was asked questions that that I could've answered easily, my mind kept going blank in between my sentences. I lost my confidence more and more during the interview, and I started speaking in short segments of sentences. It was a disaster. But I'm very glad I found this video. Now I know I that I am not alone in this.. Thank you!!

[@ks-ge7fj]

same here, they literally told me to tell them about myself, my mind went completely blank! I completely embarrassed myself

[@veramartins6590]

Just here to remind you that you are an interesting person and worth listening to

[@ich_iel]

Thank you so much for this great video!

[@KIMICHANSLOR]

Wow! Extremely well put! Bravo! I played it for my son to help him!

[@VirtuallyKesi]

Best video I've seen thanks!

[@drand1millionotherpeopleha513]

I dont know what to talk with my gf and my relation is coming to a dark end because of this.

[@RenTheGreat]

That happened to me bud.

[@Roy66802]

At least you have a gf

[@Christine-ws8kq]

@@Roy66802 Hang in there buddy

[@Roy66802]

@@Christine-ws8kq thanks Christine

[@AmielCetraro]

How did he get a girlfriends in the first place if being like that?

[@alwacho7298]

Thank u this was very useful. This was exactly what i needed.

[@scott49140]

I think the thing is at least with me is that you need to talk to someone who you have a lot of things in common with, a conversation will flow then, also you shouldn't be the one who is constantly trying to think of things to say they need to come back at you with some thing ,that's you know a good reply, something u can bounce off

[@alexanthony62]

Excellent advice thank you!

[@nespith]

What if my mind is usually blank outside of social situations too? Most of my thinking is done nonverbally. For example if I was wondering where the car is I just know that I am thinking that, I have no need to mentally verbalize that.

[@selinsivaci5170]

i saw this trend on twitter and actually some people do not think verbally in their minds, so they dont have a voice inside their head. most people on the other hand have a voice and speak to themselves in their minds ALL THE TIME. and a small ratio of people like you and me, have problems with coming up with something to say, because we are silent in our heads. maybe we are supposed to be silent. maybe we always need friends and a husband/wife that will never stop speaking... maybe we are meant to listen. so maybe there is nothing wrong with us.

[@withlovefalseortrue9839]

I am also like this! It's refreshing to see others that deal with it too. I always think ideas and comments about anything in my head and not out loud or verbally. Wow I'm so glad to finally meet someone who has to go through this.

[@JJ-kp3bg]

@@selinsivaci5170 Maybe man

[@nashaymarie2567]

I can have a good conversation with someone but then I’ll go on a rant but for people I’m not comfortable with that’s when I have these awkward long pauses and can’t find my words. And it seems like when I’ve gotten older someone will constantly correct me or say I’m saying something wrong and now I’m starting to second-guess myself so I don’t talk too much around them, and I will constantly forget the words that I’m looking for.

[@airandi100]

This guy described my life

[@williamchacon1894]

You know, It's extremely difficult to have a conversation about topics of interest because everthing that is spoken tends to be trivial and banal stuff, and it's repeated over and over in any other conversation you may have later on. However, nobody talks about history, philosophy, physics, etc and when I feel confident to mention any, they just go blank (unconfortability I guess) and my friends just change the topic to the same we talk every day all the time. I force myself to socialize because I love being all alone and that's a rabbit hole, it's socially dangerous for myself

[@joshuahalla.k.a.controlla6333]

This video was so helpful. Thank you. I really struggle with this. Anyways, I just subscribed to ur KZbin channel.

[@haroonkhan5933]

I have a lag when responding to people, as I’m figuring out what to say.

[@Xplorer228]

What if you don't have any desire to be social? I can't stand all the arbitrary social rules and cliques of people and popular culture and its just too exhausting to go out and pretend that I care about those things. At the same time I don't want to be completely alone and you pretty have to be social in order to even survive in this world. What then?!

[@sagarsoni7254]

mossy1 Its two weeks after your comment, So did you find out the answer? 😁

[@Xplorer228]

No idea. I guess I'll just have to pretend to like crap I don't in order to get friends and then hopefully be more real as we get closer.

[@angelesdoradoandres5751]

Don't pretend to be into stuff you're not really into. Don't be fake. At first it will get you friends, sure. But in the long run it's simply not worth it. You will be exhausted of constantly pretending to be someone you're not and you won't ever be able to express your true feelings to your so called 'friends'. If you dont wanna feel lonely I would encourage you to do some sort of altruistic activity or some volunteering, on whatever area you think you could be helpful (to kids, people in general, even animals...) When you give you will always get things in return and at the end of the day you'll feel really good with yourself knowing that you've done something good for someone. That's my little piece of advice for ya. Hope it helped somewhat. Peace :)

[@vl2663]

Dude same. I always had trouble making friends growing up because I thought social rules and the hierarchy shit between people is dumb (I still do btw) but one day I finally got tired of being alone and constantly outcasted by people, so I dumbed myself down. I started to play by the rules and I started to focus on trivial things like celebrities and gossip and shit like that just so I could finally be accepted by people, and guess what? It was probably one of the first times in my life I made friends. They were actually pretty funny to be around and I miss them but they weren’t the best of friends. Now I barely have any friends and haven’t had much of a life cause I left high school due to my social anxiety. I spend most of my time in isolation because of anxiety. Because of this I lost the “act” I used to have and so now I’m back to how I was before when I could never make friends. I’ve been trying to make new friends online, but I barely know what to say and it frustrates me a lot. I guess I need to go back to pretending like I care about pop culture and drama. And the funny thing is I do like pop culture and trivial things like music and movies but I like entertainment from the past and most people my age like current stuff so yeah

[@vl2663]

Angeles Dorado Andres you’re right, I think me pretending I was someone else in high school made my initial social anxiety worse and was probably what caused me to leave. But I didn’t have any other choice, I didn’t want to be a loner with no friends anymore. Majority of people in high school are fake anyway

[@Jrchivas99]

Great advice, thanks

[@etherioussanjudraganeel3163]

Really helpful thank you so much man:)

[@aDionisss]

I used to be really good in conversations and was a lot more open and extraverted than most people. But now because of covid, my friend group and many other factors I stopped talking so much and started focusing on many problems and got really anxious to the point I had to get a therapist. Now I just sit with people while they talk and I barely say anything. Someone called me quiet and that was unusual for me. I hate that I can't say anything and when someone says something I'm like how did I not think of that. It sucks

[@jake_ughhh]

Literally same here.. it’s brutal. And it just eats at me every time I’m in those situations

[@mayhemisback293]

My problem is that when I'm in a conversation with someone...I tend to speak fast and speak many things, I don't allow the other person talk...they even say to me that I'm boring and when I talk it seems like my mind is out there and it's just my mouth that makes sounds, that I don't focus nor watch the people I talk...I think it is due to my fear of not being interesting enough for the people I talk to...it's my fear of the awkward silence and the judgement of not participating in a conversation

[@mychannel223]

Im the person with mistakes

[@minfirezman2351]

(Reminder for me) Understand the reason why your mind goes blank Could be fear of embarrassing yourself by saying something stupid or out of context, makes you seem like you have no knowledge or experience Know we all say stupid things or things out of context Don't worry about making mistakes Become genuinely interested in other people

[@shinejnn2]

I cant believe im saying this out, but I'm 20 and Im watching this..

[@shinejnn2]

this vid helps me a bit btw, thanks

[@saleemhussain1201]

@@shinejnn2 same

[@shelovesskimp]

great video this helped alot

[@virtuoz2314]

Thank you for these verry helpfull advices :)

[@FLF355]

I find alcohol really helps to combat this. It makes sense since alcohol helps to dissolve anxiety. I wish I could feel all the time exactly the way I do when I've had a few drinks. Drinking isn't great for your health so it's a real pity. It also makes you feel like garbage the following day.

[@mizano9027]

Yeah I know that feeling it's like taking your fears away.

[@adeshakare6014]

I've always been concious during conversations be it professional or with close ones. My mind always get blank which is usually misunderstood as explained. For a while I believed this might be just natural. However, we are born as social beings and staying like this would end up being stressed. Still in progress for being relaxed and having decent conversations.

[@ace.b1614]

the intro just summed up my life.

[@hongngocvn]

Thank you so much.

[@Denn2411]

this is how i feel everytime i talk to people. Sometimes i'm in a group of people and my friend started conversation to some of the people that is so good i want to join in, but i can't because my mind goes blank, and i don't know what i'm trying to say. I feel like it would've been awkward talk cause people will think that i'm weird.

[@anoyingvoice2638]

*Dzamn. I have a lack of social life*

[@user-iu1hi6zj7s]

waw that was very helpful! thank you so much

[@azyzhssin2721]

thank you very much it is variable

[@kimpchannel2710]

I know what will I say but the stuttering appear sometimes

[@FAM_GOON]

i have the same problem

[@chandangarg6730]

Thank you 😊

[@WishToSightRead]

The only video on YT that addresses a blank mind, but unfortunately it does not address my issue. I don't have social anxiety, I don't care to say anything wrong... I just have a blank mind all of the time.

[@adele723]

Like he is reading my mind 💯

[@afnasn2185]

Thank you this was really helful😊👍

[@abhishekkk5110]

Thanks so much

[@alexiselizabeth-mariegordo7378]

Slow processing speed can also make you feel this way.

[@niktniewiem4785]

My problem is most people dont have anything to say that i would be intrested in so i do not have any response to whatever shit people usually talk about. I may have been in a stage where i was thinking not to embarass myself, but im past that, so now i see the real problem is the lack of conversation subjects. Then this causes a real pain when interacting with new people, because I can not have any idea what to talk about if Im not intrested in small talk AND I yet dont know wheter the other person is intrested in what I like, and if this person is even able to talk about things Im intrested in. And believe me its hard to even start talking about psychology, astrology, economy, science or politics rules (not current politics, but rather the science behind politics, which is amazing, but people just dont understand those subjects). I guess it all depends on the place you are in. I mean i live in a village, my friends are mostly simple guys, fun to be around but not much deep conversation material. My school years I really was social anxious, that changed when I starded my company and just HAD TO go out there and speak with people, but in school I literally did not get to know anyone for longer than school perioid. My company made me better at being a normal person and gave me ability to interact with people at all, but closed a door to meet new people at work on a friendship lvl, because "I am a boss", and mainly I hire older people. To sum up Im a former ultra shy, anxious guy living in a village where there is not much people to meet, I dont have common subjects to speak about, and I dont have places or opportunities to meet people. Now when COVID appeared i just ththought to myself my hopes and dreams are even less possible now. In conclusion the most important thing in meeting people is the environment and opportunities on regular basis, aaaaaand being an average Joe.

[@gabbro-sg5gr]

i hate being able to make people laugh with a few words randomly but not being able to hold a conversation eith a lot words often

[@jamiemcateer1086]

Sometimes im in the right mood and i find socializing easier, but other times its impossible. I want to be an extrovert, but i just dont know how to do that. If anyone had any tips, im all ears

[@GreatValueBlueBerryCar]

I think my inner dialogue is mixed all over the place, which makes it harder for me to word my thoughts, since they are mostly images. So when someone talks to me, I have to describe everything I saw in my mind to show how my words sound more descriptive to sound like I care. It’s hard sometimes, because I feel like I need to jump start my brain 30min in advance before talking to make sure I have enough ideas in my mind to talk about.

[@Khoonsatphyu]

I thought it was just me.

[@no1cares403]

Bruh, this is so me whenever my friends having conversation

[@zzulm]

The comments are informative 👍🏿

[@Ash-oh6nh]

Amazing video

[@peweecharles587]

Hate having a blank mind bin dealing with this for years I have nothing to say when in the moment but when it’s finished I think of so many things I could of said . Trying to solve the problem before it’s to late and I fear I might become those depressed guys that live alone and is alone all the time and will eventually die alone I’m scared of being alone. Only 16 never told anyone this is the first time feels good.

[@futuredoctor17722]

Sharing thoughts with someone makes us feel light...

[@amjreptx1]

1. Invest in people. I think i could do that, but i would need a note pad because i am very forgetful

[@buttslaya]

I'll have dreams where someone else in my dream says something funny. And in my dream I think 'damn I could never have thought of that'...but i constructed the entirety of that situation in my subconscious including that funny remark

[@phoebe2374]

ive never related to a video so much in my life

[@somerandomfatguy.3384]

Suffering hard.

[@singwithsaee5425]

Thk u❤️

[@shivangi3030]

You just need to get started...

[@grapes1346]

Girl: *Approaches me* Her: Hey Me: Hi Me: So Ummm Her: mmmm Me: Makes up an excuse and runs away My problem is that I don't know what to talk about and my eye contact is awkward as fuck.

[@mizano9027]

Yeah it's sucks .

[@alilalani8415]

i couldn’t determine if he was trying to help me or roast me

[@pauljmorton]

So, what about when nothing comes to mind even in company where everyone shares my hobbies and interests?

[@Chris-bv1bk]

Literally every piece of advice given on this subject: "Just say whatever comes to mind!" What comes to mind when trying to talk to someone: "............................ I dont know what to say" Not helpful! Just makes my anxiety worse by making me imagine a conversation where i dont say anything besides repeating "I dont know what to say" over and over again until the other person just gives up

[@fatedking9276]

If your talking to somebody and you don’t know what to talk about ask them something about themselves that they are interested in and then try and connect it to something that you are also interested in or want to explore etc

[@G119]

My mind goes blank when I massively overthink stuff. This can happen at home or at my job, I'm never nervous or anything like that I just keep reaching. Alongside the mind blank and overthinking my forehead gets a weird feeling.

[@futuredoctor17722]

Acc . To some research im ambivert. It means that one day im like fully confident , talk with everyone..but the following day i just don't know what to say dude..and i feel a little depressed that day too..and my minds goes Blank...

[@angelmartinez1431]

What’s wrong with me I just keep being made fun of for being boring or lame but I just don’t know what to say at All

[@angelicaramirez_-]

I didn't have this issue when I was back in highschool I talked to literally anybody about anything ever since the pandemic basically started I stopped talking to people and I started to conversate again and my mind just goes blank..

[@asiahobson6119]

I don’t know these people that want you to be comfortable. I know so many family members that go out there way to make you uncomfortable

[@issycupcake5889]

Thank you so much i have social anxiety i am 7 grade A NEW SCHOOL

[@Gguy061]

what if you don't know what to say because the person has said something obvious, inconsequential, or just lacking real substance?

[@Markblood889]

Just acknowledge that they said something (yea, word, I feel u) and eventually spend more time with more interesting people and weed out the others

[@vl2663]

Dude for real this was always my problem at school. I always felt like most people were like that. Like they just say dumb shit just to say it. It’s like a competition of who can be the dumbest but in a socially accept way. And the people I was always interested in talking to I couldn’t talk to because I didn’t know what to say to begin with because I was always surrounded by people I couldn’t relate to lol