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@mfawls9624 Сағат бұрын
Possibly the world was not as our modern lens presents it? I am old enough to have had grandparents from the 1800's. Whole different viewpoints from men and women.
@sandiejonischkeit1796 5 сағат бұрын
I have been married to an avoidant for 14 years now, it started great, for the last 5 years I am now anxious, I have depression, I am full of inflammation. And now I am done, I need to find me again.
@lin-wtf 6 сағат бұрын
Makes total sense - fits perfectly - I did learn about the parenting self some years ago in therapy and have done that - it works - life changes to such personal happiness. What I do wish is that I'd known some of this when I was a young parent. I was always trying my best it was a struggle - could have been so much easier and some things would now be done differently. Good thing at least is that now my relationships with the three of them are very good and valued. They are doing life much better than I did so I guess what more can you hope for. 😊
@ceciliamac4283 9 сағат бұрын
Just liked this before even listening. Thank you to both of you I am going through one of the worst heartbreak. I let go yesterday of the avoidant narcissistic guy I was seeing and it hurts deeply. I am going to do the work especially at the nervous system level. Keep coming at us with these healing videos I need them 😢❤
@natalierichter2637 16 сағат бұрын
We cant fight the multimillionaires stoppage of farms . They are already killing the animals and saying theyre all avium affected. The animals are going, bills plants and bugs are going to be the only food available. Cant you see the agenda? Climate excuse to stop everything. We have no control, money will stop, zero transport, water ,fuel,etc all going .world poverty, no heathcare.Its coming..
@mervisa89 21 сағат бұрын
Thank you for this video🫂
@Wurdnurdninja 23 сағат бұрын
I am an Empath. I was primarily secure with a side order of anxiety and I'd never been in a relationship with someone dismissive and avoidant before, but this was a Karmic one so quite the whollop to my nervous system. I am shocked at myself for how long it took me to recognize it wasn't just in my imagination, nor how much of the 'benefit of the doubt' I extended in credit before finally facing the fact that the "Great love of my life"....wasn't. I am unlearning, relearning and discovering parts of myself I didn't know existed. It's taken time but from the hell I endured...I emerge anew. Know thyself. It ain't pretty nor easy but the mirror is held up and with a finger pointing at them I see 3 others pointing back at me. It behooves us all to ask ourselves what unhealed parts of ourselves manifested this person, and what it reveals about ourselves having had the experience. Be brave...it won't be easy.
@chrisbauman2562 23 сағат бұрын
Can i just say. Just watching this video helped my pain incredibly. Knowing someones in my boat and they tackled it,makes me feel good. Ive been on the diet for 2 months now and holy fck is it incredible. These guys are 100% roght. If you are in pain reading this. Change your diet,lifestyle choices and pray. Just look for the happiness and beauty in everyday. Your stress will drop
@thevasquezm Күн бұрын
:( ooh mark would love to be able to sit with you over a tea or coffe on this content. i understand the audience and niche you are speaking to....and at the same time...there's missed truth here. much love your way brother! And thank you for showing up! <3
@wrangelinhabitant161 Күн бұрын
OMG, 😂your Profil Photo ist sooo funny in comparison to your normal mimic 😂😂😂😂
@thehighwayboys7644 Күн бұрын
W.O.W. Love this one ❤
@gailmcgaughey8436 Күн бұрын
Sounds wonderful. I could never get over his love for drugs and alcohol.
@paulipuhakka8788 Күн бұрын
What I find is, that wall gets thrown up with a door in it. They’ll open the door just enough, and when you try opening that door to be let in, they close that door on you, again, and again, and again! How many times does that door get closed on you, before you stop knocking on that door? I’m done, I’m out! I’ve had enough!!!!
@Chun_Leroy Күн бұрын
NC WORKED FOR ME! Me (Anxious) + Him (Avoidant) I stopped reaching out August 11th 2024 He contacted me on September 29th 2024. That is a total of 49 days of no contact (NC) He ended our relationship July 12th. I admit, I reached out 1x/wk from 7/12/24- 8/11/24 8/28 we got together for coffee + talked for 45min 10/12 - 10/13 we hung out for the weekend. Had a great weekend (harmless, no intimacy - shared a kiss) We texted like everyday, he’d FT, call etc 11/3 was supposed to see him, didn’t happen. He apologized. 11/9 ran into him at our college Homecoming. I’m back into NC as of 11/15. We barely talk unless I initiate communication. He said he wanted to work on things and take it slow. I’m tired. He’s not showing any effort and I have put myself back into NC because he got me F’d up. So, we’ll see…
@adelinespeaksup Күн бұрын
100%. I grew up with a loving, well-providing father who is an absolutely wonderful human being! And yet, I received hardly any emotional attunement from him, he didn't really see nor understand me while I was developing. Adding to that, he gave so much to the youth and families in our religious community, but not his daughter... He acknowledges this and is apologetic and lovely, but the work is on me now to truly heal it. I am fortunate to have such a loving man as a father, who is still here with me, AND now I am SO ready to no longer chase that same pattern of "kind and lovely but unavailable". No thank you, no more.
@lin-wtf 5 сағат бұрын
This is wonderful result - lovely to read about this man. Bless you
@jessidawn.healing 2 күн бұрын
Thank you for this video. Having a father who was much older than my teenage mother, he abandoned me over and over and I have a terrible dating history the last 7 yrs since my divorce from a drug/porn addict. My father doesn't talk to me and is in victim-hood. I've been in therapy since I was 12 but wasn't until the last 4 years I found tools like hypnotherapy to work on these things deeper and faster. At least I'm happy on my own finally. If a wonderful person who can communicate comes my way, I'm open, but I'm not chasing unavailable, unemotional men anymore. It's rough out here especially when you know you're enough... I don't get it, but keep trying to learn. Thanks again!
@jesseskellington9427 2 күн бұрын
How do you get somebody to leave when they won't go? 😢
@markgroves 2 күн бұрын
@@jesseskellington9427 - you leave them.
@ravirajakani 2 күн бұрын
Finally I understood what is space! They want to feel the attractions that will bring them towards us. If they feel attracted they will come. If they don't come then we can understand that they aren't attracted. Now I have no problem, whether she comes or leaves! Partners should feel attraction equally! Whatever is her decision, All the Best! This is the best explanation I have seen so far. (Do not underestimate your drawings! They made me understood! ) ❤❤❤
@mfawls9624 2 күн бұрын
What about the mother wound in men? It was already there when I was a young man. It has got to be expnentially worse with younger generations. Mothers did untold damage to young men and boys when there was a father in the home. Can't imagine it could be better without a father. Can that be addressed? My dad was great, he kept it together. My mother did a lot, in terms of shaping us, that was good but she also played emitional/guilt games on us too. In my circle that was more the norm than dad's not showing up.
@annaholden2406 2 күн бұрын
🌟 thanks
@paulalane8638 2 күн бұрын
Is an avoidant a person who is addicted to their bottle and phone? When you try talking to them you get no respinse or its the wrong time or you didnt let them express themselves..lots of blame. Its like they need you there but care not about connection or intimacy. Its dead! Very toxic!
@walkertranger5746 2 күн бұрын
This is fact! I am secure … She was anxiously attached and then when emotional intimacy arrived , she shut down and ran … space ghost . An avoidant needs healing
@monicaprado2890 2 күн бұрын
The Cabin story is hilarious!! but I could not do it. ITS TOO HARD. I wish him well. This is not for me
@monicaprado2890 2 күн бұрын
No Thank you. I walked away... I wish him well and I pray he gets help or stay single and not date forever.
@vin605 3 күн бұрын
Agree with your demonstration 💯 %. Know who you are and whatever your childhood trauma is the key to keep grounded and Find healing from with in. This will keep your self worth balanced to any attachment style you come across.
@RisenPhoenix-t4m 3 күн бұрын
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@flower23487 3 күн бұрын
The timing of the video 💯🥲 I'm done with avoidant bs*** indeed! Especially one with NO awareness and accountability. Best to let go. No more entertaining such bs*** behaviour that is very unhealthy. Better to enjoy being alone and patiently wait for or to be proactive searching for someone who can match up with self awareness, accountability and who mutually brings reciprocity and clarity and mutual repair, rather be with avoidants. It's sick when an avoidant encourages vulnerability and then flip 180° pulling away. Love bombing and breadcrumbing bs***! Please note my comment isn't for avoidants who is committed in their healing. But so far, I've not seen one with such commitment. So, I process this pain of having to let go now and I stand firm letting go for my emotional wellbeing. Enough being an enabler of bs*** behaviour. I'm ready to let go now. 🙏🏼
@JessicaAnotii 3 күн бұрын
Amazing video A month ago, my partnership of five years came to an end. The choice to break up with the person I love is something that really gets to me. Even though it's all for nothing, I've done everything I can to get him back, and I couldn't imagine my existence without him. I've tried everything to stop thinking about him, but I still can't help but miss him and think about him often. I don't know why I am saying this here.
@JessicaAnotii 3 күн бұрын
It's interesting! How can I contact a spiritual counselor most efficiently, and how did you find one?
@JessicaAnotii 3 күн бұрын
I just sought him up online thanks to your helpful information. remarkable I just checked Father Obah Eze online, and he's really genuine. Thank you again ❤
@markgroves 3 күн бұрын
@@JessicaAnotii that person is a scammer. Don’t contact that guy.
@markgroves 3 күн бұрын
@@JessicaAnotii - is it normal part of the break up process to miss the person we were in relationship with. Especially if it was for a long time. Not only is it normal for the body and mind to stir, you’re also grieving a future that you thought you were going to live. And now, it feels like you’re out of control. So that can make us want to try to find a way to gain more control. This can fuel a lot of behaviors. Encourage you to dive deeper into healing, so that you don’t repeat the patterns within an avoidant, and you can move on and choose somebody who can meet you in the depths of your heart. My break up course is five weeks… And it will lead you through the process from healing to thriving. Also, you’ll be part of a community of people who don’t tolerate BS in their relationships! And, I do two live group coaching calls a month, and there’s coaching available in the community.
@michelleduncan9965 3 күн бұрын
YT would not let me give a thumbs up to this podcast. I give it a BIG thumbs up.
@HopeWins777 3 күн бұрын
What about when an opposite sex parent dies, what happens to the child attachment and being ambushed like that? It definitely affected me
@Angel-8 3 күн бұрын
Avoidants don’t deserve a relationship until they deal with their damaged selves.
@Damian_Levanov 3 күн бұрын
It's more complicated.
@chilloften 3 күн бұрын
Indeed, f that! I’d much rather feel content in ME.
@rowanjthomas 4 күн бұрын
Good video, thanks. I think the problem I have is that I don't like to play games. I don't want to pretend to leave when I don't really want to. I do understand your point though, and I think it's important to make peace in my heart with the idea of being on my own, which I think I've done pretty well. I also provide my partner lots of space. As much as she needs. I think you're right that if I were to leave her completely, it'd give her space to realise what her true feelings are for me. But I just can't lie and tell her my back is turned, when it isn't. The best I can do is give her space.
@Nuvinci88 4 күн бұрын
You should go to Ovadias website. He only charges 6k to talk on the phone! Lol. Does NOT take any insurance. Wonder why insurance doesn’t work with this guy? If you want ongoing care with him it’s a minimum of 20k just to get started!! Obviously the new meat/fat trend is for Rich people.
@donnapowell8606 4 күн бұрын
Viscal pisces
@marguskiis7711 4 күн бұрын
I left an avoidant woman I loved a lot. Nothing happened. She just found a new man very soon and is very proud of it. I am devastated.
@dig-in8bo 3 күн бұрын
You dodge a bullet. She will go through the honeymoon and then breakup cycle. Find a secure attached partner and build from there. Trust me. I've been there with an avoidant. I will NEVER put myself through that again.
@flower23487 3 күн бұрын
You now have your blessing in disguise actually, brother. Recognise this space as your blessing to grow and live your authentic life with more authentic people for you. Good riddance! Love isn't supposed to be the way you have lived it with the avoidant with all bs**** and constant suffering. Remember that You absolutely deserve a safe, reciprocal love with someone healthy for you. Someone who will be all in for you, as you will be all in for the person. Reciprocity. The cycle will repeat for her if she doesn't learn her lessons but that's her own bs****. That shouldn't be your concern. Focus on your life, healing and happiness. What lessons you have learnt from this situation so as to choose best onwards? What needs to shift within your core beliefs about yourself? 😇🙏🏼 Choose yourself, your wellbeing and live an expansive life for you, where you can meet up with someone who can match up with your energy and reciprocate safe, healthy love to and with you. Remember you are enough, worthy and lovable. 🙏🏼
@flower23487 3 күн бұрын
@@dig-in8boAgreed. Never again.
@marguskiis7711 3 күн бұрын
@@flower23487 Several women stormed to fill my void at once after the break up , showing up being supportive, loving initially. BUT. I despise them. They look pathetic. They are tiresome. And weak. Once I became indifferent and stubborn towards them due my grief they began to send whining, depressive and bitter messages how cruel I am. They just want to consume me, nothing else.
@ballasamsundaranup4842 2 күн бұрын
She will go through the love cycle and the end is a break up she will go through they will never have consistency
@marguskiis7711 4 күн бұрын
Confident avoidant women never come back.
@HotRodHarley06 2 күн бұрын
Actually it could be a very emotionally injured woman that doesn't "come back". Meaning if their past partner was too emotionally healthy for them they'll find someone on their level meaning they'll level down.
@marguskiis7711 2 күн бұрын
@@HotRodHarley06 coming back means weakness and taking accountability for them. So, not coming back is principal for them.
@marguskiis7711 2 күн бұрын
@@HotRodHarley06 women probably more like level down than come back.
@HotRodHarley06 2 күн бұрын
@marguskiis7711 absolutely, leveling down is easier than facing and fixing their own wounding. And the cycle of maladaptive behavior continues.
@KimHarvey-cy5ji 4 күн бұрын
I read a book about a lawyer going thru cases about vaxes and this book made me decide not to vax him! Born in 1992
@KimHarvey-cy5ji 4 күн бұрын
Thank u Mark! I was there from the beginning and really appreciate u speaking out during this time! I did not vax and never will! I did not wear a mask. I went to restaurants without a mask on! I did not vax my son at all born 92! 2023 he had a child and his wife got him all vaxxed up and he has not been the same since. I have not said a word to him! Just loving him till I go back home and leave earth.
@Jessica-y9x 4 күн бұрын
He told me he distanted himself because he was scared i would leave him for someone hotter or younger in 10 years ...... a irrational thought
@sarcasticcat4982 3 күн бұрын
Well, in my case HE left for someone HE thought was hotter and when HE got dumped HE tried to come back. I think they project ...🤔 Oh well. It's done.
@HilarityFiles 4 күн бұрын
Dating an avoidant is extremely damaging. Even if you are secure when you meet them, you will end up not knowing which way is up or down. You’ll end up discombobulated and feeling like there is no safety, security, certainty, stability. It’s just a shitty dangerous dynamic. You’ll end up feeling more alone while in the relationship than you feel when you are actually alone. I actually ended up saying- in order to be with you I would need to abandon myself and that ain’t fucking happening.
@marguskiis7711 4 күн бұрын
Yep. It is horrible. Avoidant women also do not have ANY morals and dignity. They are super selfish and highly abusive.
@kristinybarra8865 4 күн бұрын
My God! your eyes are blue!
@cmangiapane5846 4 күн бұрын
Wow Mark - you just described my 6 year relationship as an anxious person with an avoidant and in less than 9 minutes! You are very effective and efficient communicator. Thank you so much for making this video!!! God Bless you. ☺️