Thank you for the video, it feels good not being the only one with this amount of dark thinking at work

This was great! It really helped me understand why I was feeling overwhelmed at my new job/promotion and how to reignite my confidence in my confidence. Thank you!

for me it was like your family is a manager but they gas light and shit talk you the entire time weather u do better than people whom been at work for 10 plus years or not also u work everday even weekends 12- sometimes 15 hours and the only time you just want to work a regular shift mother catches wind of this and tries to guily trip you into working extra hours and comparing you to co-workers 24/7 no father not to mention the co-workers talk behind your back even though you consistently helped them but your efforts are made to seem as if there nothing by not only other co-workers but family its self come home after a 12 hour shift and cant even enjoy a video without mother yelling about something so i left what would you do ps had an extremly bad back injury and back still hurts but mother refuses to get money from government thoughts?

Thank you soon much, this was helpful❤

Makes me anxious just watching....

I am considering going from private practice attorney to in-house counsel - because of MONEY. I thought I would be in a financially secure position with 10 years of experience. Now I need to ask my parents to support me financially because I do not make enough money to pay my own medical aid per month, I also have to ask them to help me pay rent. It is embarassing. My cousin who is a newly admitted attorney with 2 years experience gets a bigger salary than me at a different law firm. My current boss is comparing me with his newly admitted attorneys of PAs who did their internship with him and we practically get the same salary compared to those other attorneys who have more years of experience who worked there more than 3 or 5 years. I feel humiliated. I want to be in a financially stable position where I can support myself, but this new job made me realize how the profession tells lies about what you can make as a salary etc. I need to make a decision.

What’s your advice if I am out on PIP? Time to move out?

Part of the problem is all the job adverts and interviews these days - in Australia anyway - expect that you will be a fast learner. It’s ridiculous because it’s causing so many to have mental health issues over such unrealistic employer expectations.

Point is that I don’t really know much yet but I’m an eager student… unfortunately the person who trains me isn’t always very kind…she’s rather a bit condescending when I don’t immediately get it, or when i make a mistake its like “look how dumb you are”… maybe that’s all in my head I don’t know? I do like the job but it’s though as an introvert to be exposed to so many people all day long,… it’s actually pretty overwhelming to be honest but the people who work there do this for yeas so they forgot how difficult it was in the beginning… i just question if I’ll ever be good enough to have a voice in that company? Why should anyone listen to the inexperienced one… how can i ever be confident enough if you know that your coworkers have so much more experience? Its like I’ll always be in a submissive position, which doesn’t actually feels good

Thank you this is exactly what I was feeling I just wanted someone to say it and help me confirm it because I just wasn’t sure what the issue was.

Thank you

I’ve been set free, thank you. 🌺

What if everyone around you thinks you are lucky to have the job you have but I don’t enjoy my job! Am I an entitled brat? Why can’t I be grateful?

🙏🙏 I feel stuck!& sick of feeling inferior/anxiety to certain people..

Thankyou for this helpful advice...... I am very intuitive... personalise to much & pick up on everybodys energy/behavours.... its extremely overwhelming/exhausting & creates inferiority internally....

I work new job with kids as assistant. I have enough confidence interacting with the kids …but im not good at arts n crafts and have already felt embarrased when lead teacher asked me to do something & it was embarrassing I couldn't do it It is now the reason why I have mild low confidence @ work like part of my spirit is hiding behind an emotionless mask How can I feel good unless I know I can do these tasks? & why show so much joy & confidence when I just have admitted to teacher I'm not that good at arts & crafts I don't like that I feel like a mild anxious mouse. Fear of what will the teacher ask me to do next? I don't like this feeling I'm trying to work with the emotions, I do think I've done this before many times at work places...what is being threatened? I just don't like the feeling it makes me feel bad about myself...if I can't do something in this area..shame spiral?

For me. I had a job, I had a manger at that job who loved me. The manager had been fired due to cut backs. She went on to be a director and offered me to join her team. She sold the role, I interviewed and got the job. It's been 3 days and what I was offered and told was not what I'm doing. I feel She built me up, said I can do all these things that I cannot and now I'm expected to just do them. Now I panic. I love the product, the company the concept of what can be, but scared they may feel that they passed on far more qualified people due to this old manager pulling me in. I woke up the last 3 days and am literally panicking. Now she needs to prove and back up her promises made and I need to execute them. I'm freaking out. The job I left had really been left stuck when I left, they ask me to help them at night for 1 or 2 hrs just to keep things going. I also posted my new role on LinkedIn and peope were like wow, what a place, what a job. But what of 2 months in they fire me? Old job feel let down. Manager set the expectation bar too high. New role shared online to perhaps have to roll it back. It's really wrecking my mind. It doesn't help also that the manager also talks a little negatively about some people there. I feel She will of course look out for herself and if they feel I'm not at all what they thought she will fire me and that will be that. They have the means, money, and influence to fire me and hire within minutes. Like being placed in college like harvard because I'm from a poor background kind of feel.

Wow.. I think a lot of my work anxiety may be from past jobs, I actually now have a job that is easy, not too stressful, but I still feel really anxious

You have no clue how much I needed to hear this.

You hit what I’m going threw day to day, this is so true.

I’m experiencing this right now. Although I don’t think all the other workers are judging me or that I made any huge mistakes, my mind is tricking me of doing so. I worked at my previous job for the past 3 years and that place and people felt almost like my family. I feel so lost at the new place, I don’t feel like I belong even tho it’s been 3 days. I feel hopeful when I see that I’m not the only one struggling with it.

I’m two weeks in and was really confident about my new position but I also have bipolar 2 and I’m in a constant battle with my anxiety and uncertainty about my performance so far, I don’t want to give up but I’m freaking out because I can’t go back to my last job and my options are bleak right now

wanting to people please to get out of the situation i had to have cbt cause i always cried when my boss wanted a word with me i couldnt take conversation proffessionally i would take it personally and did take over my life

Because my job is awful and full Of favouritism and it’s. Not what you know it’s who you know you work so hard and are So proud of your work but no one recognizes you management despite the glowing performance and your overdue for a Review all the manager does is nothing

I like this channel.

My first language is not English, and I am not intimidated speaking up. Just state the facts.

High pressure sales jobs are my root cause. Period.

This is my 1st day of 3rd week at my job. My boss said that my trainer have no good feedback for me as i am taking too much time to learn and do one client's task. From the beginning I always felt like i am gonna throw up during my work hours because of my anxiety. And now my boss's feedback will work like a cherry on a cake. I feel like switch off the laptop and go for a nap for 2 week straight. I fear about getting fired. This fear is devouring me from inside.

Started a new job recently. Aced the interview however can’t stop making mistakes. My boss outright asked if I had help with the interview. And my anxiety just ballooned. During the meetings my jaws are tightly clenched and I can’t stop thinking of how incompetent I am to the point of wanting to die in order to stop doing this job. And side note is I didn’t get sufficient training and my bosses are aware of this - so the pressure for my work to be a homerun is also self-imposed and I don’t know how to stop it.

Thank you love! 💕😘

I’m a new scrub tech and no matter how many times I get things explained I forget steps and instrument names /: I also forget how to assemble some stuff because there’s so many pieces….and I can’t quit because I work for the US Army so I signed a contract for this to be my job

Thanks

Self defeating prophecy

I started a new job last week, after over 7 years at my former job. I am grieving the old job and questioning my decision non stop, even though I left because of a toxic boss. I feel like I made a mistake, I will not be back to a respected position, I will have nobody to learn from and then have my incompetence unveiled etc. I almost feel like crying.

Your videos have helped me so much

Thank you for your advice. Hi Erin, I currently feel burn out at work. I been working at my job for 10 months now. It’s seems a fast paced job but I’m considering changing job roles.

Dear Erin, reading through the comments make me realize that we out here suffer. Thank you for making videos and I hope you also continue making videos

These videos are for me. Thank you

Thank you so much for these videos. I needed this is my life. Im binge watching tour videos & even rewinding certain parts. Thank you Erin

The issue in my case is the dance between proving the value I bring with my boss allergy to forward planning and moodiness … why do conworkers/subordinates have to put up with bosses’ personal life/lack of emotional calibration?

Excellent 👌🏾

I am 58 years old. Four years ago, I was laid off from a company I had worked at for 27 years. I was making a six-figure salary and loved the job I was doing. I wound up accepting a job in a totally different career for less money in another state. My world was turned upside down and shaken violently. It was a tremendous amount of stress during that time having to adjust to so many different changes. Four years later, I find myself living in a much better city and loving the job I am in more than the previous career. There definitely was a period of adjustment and during the period you question your decisions, whether you made the right moves and took the right job but just know there is an adjustment period to any new phase of life, and those periods can be rocky. But for me, it wound up being the best series of decisions I ever made. Whenever there is a storm, there is a point when the rain stops, the clouds part and the sun shines through. It happened for me, and it will happen for you.

Been at my job for 5 years , and still have crazy anxiety , mind you i take on more responsibilities here and there but really 5 years??

I cannot thank you enough. There's not alot of videos about this online. Thank you for this. Meant alot

Have you written any books on this? The video is very helpful. I have realized lately that I have poor confidence and a poor communicator. A lack of efficient communication on my part caused a grave mistake. I am hoping that there will be a way to rectify it. Thank you very much for the video.

I'm a barber every time I'm cutting hair I get anxious and anxiety my stomach get upset and tightness on my back I take meds for anxiety and it not helping at all it literally stopping from working and making money anybody going through the same thing ?

5 months later, I am back to give huge thanks to you! I was 1 week into my internship when I first watched this video and helped me SO much! I’ve been watching all your uploaded videos! Great reminders! I ended up getting a return offer as a full-time. THANK YOU SO MUCH!

Thank you from Japan😊

Thank you very much; that was the greatest video on this topic I've ever seen. I've struggled with this issue my whole life, and now that I'm about to start a new job, I'm trying to find ways to change my attitude.

That's the question, I can't resonate with the "Don't worry too much, you live in a modern society, you have food, water and shelter". Like, yeah, I know I'm not gonna be eaten by a lion, but I come from a low-income family, and I don't feel they could be the "shelter" if I lost my job. I'm a young, healthy (at least physically) woman with a degree (useless, but still I have it lol) and I sincerely am afraid of being homeless at some point in my life. My country has a really high unemployment level, specially young unemployment, so that just adds more pressure to my situation. I know English, so I could work outside, but then I'll be *really* alone, and honestly I don't know which job I could get on a different country, as my listening isn't the best :')