How to get out of your confidence crisis at work.

[@bonafide11]

I definitely feel this way right now. I’m about 5 months into a new job and questioning everything. Your videos are very helpful!

[@erinMfoley]

So glad you tuned in! Another helpful tip is to shift out of telling yourself that you lack confidence and instead just admit that you feel uncertain because you are learning. The feeling of being uncertain often feels less negative to the brain then lacking confidence. You will feel uncertain and that's okay. We all feel uncertain when we are learning. That feeling can actually serve you in being open to gathering the information you need to gain the certainty that comes with experience.

[@ctw213]

I know how you feel. Every job I’ve had, I start to panic around the 3-5 month mark.

[@ellenvaas7208]

@carlybb same

[@ccash4nj]

Erin - thank you. You have helped me so much

[@simplezeesights3314]

Omg... Im 3 months i feel the same!!!

[@peace-po1hy]

Your videos are life saving. Some of us actually want to end our life because work situations are so overwhelming. But u give us the blessed tools to navigate

[@STUPIDYOUTUBE_HIDINGMSGS]

This is true, sometime I'm overwhelmed with anxiety and self-doubt that ending it all crosses my mind, but I don't want to appear as coward or weak to my daughter and extended family for running away from life's challenges, but my confidence is really nowhere to be found these days due to a lack of support from anyone...

[@myrealself2905]

You're so not alone!!

[@alycebagnath464]

Definitely not alone! 🤍 we need to show more love and patience with ourselves

[@chandrikadas9163]

How are you all now? I pray things get better because I'm really struggling 😢

[@gabrielladiaz3573]

@@chandrikadas9163hi, I’m in the same position. How are you doing now?

[@GriefInspiredCatherineMcNulty]

When your Confidence is shaken.... 1. Have the courage to step into the thing you want to feel confident in. 2. Be confident in your ability to be confident. 3. Ask yourself why it is worth it to show up and become confident.

[@bandnerd883]

I just started a new job after working at my previous job for 10 years. I’ve been dealing with so many different emotions and tons of anxiety. The new job isn’t even bad. I was lucky to find a very supportive environment, where the training is actually really good. The problem is me and my negative thinking. It’s like I’m fighting with myself everyday just to show up and be uncomfortable. I can’t wait to get to the point where I can actually enjoy this job more, but rn I’m so anxious that I’m not even enjoying it. It makes me feel ungrateful

[@sohinimukherjee4838]

Hey! I can relate to this😅 .My negative thoughts are making me feel dumb for the things that I am confident enough to pull off

[@ahmadhelmy_]

So what you're saying is...show up, do the work, and let the work and effort help you build your confidence, that it's okay to not be confident from the get go (even though you still shouldn't show to anyone how truly shaken you are), and that it will come to me by simply working my way up through the tasks...amazing. love that.

[@rat146]

I'm a month in at a new job after working my previous one for 7 years and struggling very much with my confidence and the new workload expectations. So much so, that the daily anxiety overwhelms my ability to eat, sleep, enjoy my time off and my performance at the job. I'll try to keep your advice in the back of my head :)

[@symphonykelly8242]

Me too. Let’s hang in there

[@karinavillalobos4424]

I’m admitting that I’m not confident with my new job position because I’ve been making small to big mistakes. On the bright side I appreciate the feedback on one of my coworkers, but I did upset my manager and I made other mistakes today.

[@fluffy00123x]

Bless you hope you found your feet eventually x

[@keriannewilliams2665]

I am always worried i am going to losse my job. My overthinking.

[@chaii_latte]

My mom passed away. I have no more family left. No support system. Im moving in with a stranger soon. If I ever can't find a place to live, I have no one to help me. I'm starting a new job. I will be starting school again at 32. I work customer service and have no career. living paycheck to paycheck, dont make enough money for rent. I'm terrified by life so far. And tbh barely holding on...

[@tracyocalllaghan]

You got this, one step at a time. You are brave and you are capable & you are not alone. Sending positive vibes. 💖

[@SayItKey]

Deepest condolence you got this..❤

[@hildatizeba5741]

Godh i just started a new job and i just feel like the confident me that they saw in the interview is GONE😭My inexperience in this particular role makes me feel so insecure and anxious! It’s like my mind just freezes! The mental shaming is so real and am struggling to assert myself cause i haven’t grasped the ropes yet. PS: Ranting to a total group of strangers feels sooo therapeutic and cathartic! ALSO: Thank you so much for this video! It was EVERYTHING i needed to hear today!🙏

[@crazykaitlyn]

I felt this 100% except i wasn't confident in my interview either and I think my resume is what sold me lol how are you doing?

[@sonianunez2916]

I just started a new job myself. Today will be my 3rd day, and my anxiety is through the roof. It’s so nice Ito know am not alone!

[@cocoanne7242]

Exactly what I'm going through right now..today is my fifth day at an internship..and I'm too anxious..hope it will get better, cause I was really excited to get this opportunity.

[@elizabethsimpson3874]

Wow! It’s day three of a new job. First new job in years. I was listening to this video to stop myself from just not turning up today. It’s too new and I don’t feel, didn’t feel, up to it. I DO believe in my ability to get confident. I just forgot. Thank you Erin.

[@jessjenkins5474]

How are you now? 🙂

[@simplezeesights3314]

I would love to how are you now?

[@chastityrenea]

I don't have confidence in my job because they are always making me like what I do isn't enough. No matter hard I work I'm always getting yelled at about something . This job has put my mental and anxiety at stack . I've been working at this job for almost two years . I show at this job because I know that there are people here that I can help . My service is needed . I love helping people.

[@unwind8858]

Its my 1st month of my new job I feel like im drowning, its so overwhelming, i dont want to ask but i dont want to make mistake. I feel so dumb and useless. But when watch your videos i undestand my self im beaing aware of my actions and decision. I dont put my self too much stress, i zoom out, burned out the moment i talk to customer. My brain dont fuction very well. Its sad, its frustrating. I need to pay my bills. What a life

[@KateBenz]

This was great! It really helped me understand why I was feeling overwhelmed at my new job/promotion and how to reignite my confidence in my confidence. Thank you!

[@tanvipriya3450]

I was feeling overwhelmed after work today and your video really helped me. I am so ashamed of the mistakes I have done that I completely forget about the times I showed up and stood through the uncertainty and discomfort of learning something new. Thank you!!

[@trudeyhenley4982]

Trudey Henley I'm 3 months into a new job after being laid off 1 year ago. Most days I wake up feeling that it's not, I can't, and just want to walk away. Virtually onboarding to a new job without any physical resources and limited online assistance is not easy. I feel like I'm one of the Guinea pigs who can explain firsthand why it's not working.

[@sashinasirenglimbu9413]

I feel less alone or less broken. Thank you 💞

[@Trabbas]

You have no clue how much I needed to hear this.

[@Nomad314]

This seems to have affirmed that I need to quit my job 😂 I guess I am confident that it would be better for me to leave.

[@simonmandel2621]

Thank you for this video. My confidence was shaken at my previous role, where I was bullied and ousted out of the workplace. I am starting a new role tomorrow and this has helped me stay calm and motivated to succeed. Thank you 😊

[@watersideanimals215]

I've just found your videos today. Thanks so much. I needed to be reminded that I've never been confident at the start of any job. I have always ended up being good at my job. This is a good job in a good company and that's my motivation for sticking with it. I don't expect other people to be great at a new job straight away I need to remember that when it comes to myself..

[@MB-zy4cm]

I will be starting a brand new job (at 57 years old!) later this month and this was very helpful - I'm going to watch it again and take some notes and quotes!! Thank you!

[@erinMfoley]

So glad you tuned in Anne! Best of luck as you start your new job. I always tell people to anticipate that your mind will have a meltdown when you first start. Don't trust what it says. It's kinda like a toddler kicking and screaming:) Be sure to hop over to my website for more videos and articles on this if you want more support! ErinMFoley.com. Happy New Year!

[@DAClub-uf3br]

Some of us are unable to feel all emotions. I am unable to feel joy for more than a fleeting moment.

[@Moose185]

The problem isn’t my confidence or my ability to do the job, it’s the manager who micromanages and I don’t get a good impression and want to quit.

[@11thsm]

your point that something shifted 100% identified what I couldn’t put my finger on. I’ve been on a medical leave for one month and it had been extended which lead to me not knowing when I was able to go back. Couple that with an extremely nosy coworker who keeps telling me how busy they are which lead me to feel guilty for taking care of myself and not being there for the “team”. I’m excellent at my job and I’ve been a month without all of the validation my customers give me. I’ve overthought every single thing and questioned the validity of me being off, only for this coworker to reinforce it. Your video was exactly what I needed. I’m going too walk in confident and self assured. I took the time my doctor said I needed and I don’t need to prove myself to my coworkers I’ll just keep doing the great work I’m known for. New sub here. Thank you!

[@dandelle11]

I never had a mom that truly helped me with tough emotions. This left me feeling scrambled when something major happens and I feel insecure and depressed. I changed jobs one month ago after being an expert and the top of the ladder at my old one. I'm totally uncertain and very depressed. I've been internally beating myself up for not being as confident as I wish I was. Thank you so much for this video, I can't express how much this has helped me right now.

[@kingKen98]

I so needed this❤️Starting a new position tomorrow after being at my previous job for 3 years. I’m feeling so many emotions....trying to find every reason not to show up. Lol! Thank you Erin❤️

[@katherinekacarab3357]

How is it going?

[@alejandrameda4520]

This video helped me stop feeling shame of “my capabilities” and it’s helping me focus on building confidence. Thank you so much !!

[@fluffy00123x]

Thank you. 6 days in a new job as a Skills Coach to teachers and educators I decided I wanna leave lol. They thankfully said stop and offered to change my role abit. It's still stressful but I am working on this feeling of worrying and have recognised its a negative way of reacting to something critical or self defense for my brain by running away. I must stop and overcome this fear. It's the only way I will learn and the lesson will not keep repeating in my life. 2 months in and I'm thinking ...keep trying. You will get there. Its a new role and a new programme too.

[@VM-yd6zq]

I am fine but at the same time I question why I want to continue working in a place where I feel so insecure. It is a coworker who has decided I do not belong and is bullying and gossiping. I asked to be separated but the environment is very small. I believe I will find a place where I can work more autonomously.

[@STUPIDYOUTUBE_HIDINGMSGS]

It's nerve-wrecking when thinking that I'll be starting a new job in 2 weeks, I'm losing sleep fearing the unknown and how high the expectations of me with the position I have. Darn, it's been 4 days since I slept...

[@Patriotgirl1130]

This is so helpful - ❤Thanku

[@susanfernando4260]

This was an amazing video and I needed this more than you know. I love your thought about being confident in becoming confident. I will remember that! Thank you for sharing.

[@gabrielladiaz3573]

I’m so happy that I found your channel, I wish I found it sooner

[@gustavomacuil7457]

I love how you explained the thought processes that we go through in our brains. "Erase the shame" is such a good reminder. Many thanks!

[@erinMfoley]

You're welcome!

[@samanthalepiane9054]

love this. I am about to start a new job for the first time in 3 months and i am at a new different place in life, and i have been feeling so scared. but this makes me feel seen, and it gives me tools that i can use. thank you for using your time to give us this

[@peace-po1hy]

I cannot thank you enough for your support and advice

[@mollymc]

Going through all of your videos since starting my new jobs and experiencing terrifying anxiety! Thanks so much for the content it truly helps me each day!! 💜💜

[@kevinwilkins7851]

At my lowest ebb at work. Feeling worthless and scared every day. 60 days into my new and the fear of my boss is palpable.

[@Monawaat_Shaeeka]

I really like this women the reasons she mentioned it very very accurate I’m suffering from these issues related to job only so I’m watching all her videos and learning and perceiving allowing myself to reprogramm my mind

[@mariannereeves2816]

Amazing advice! Struggling is real ... realizing the struggle and helping yourself through is the way and with sound expert advice it will happen!

[@sambeev7333]

I needed to hear this today. Thank you

[@rik-keymusic160]

Point is that I don’t really know much yet but I’m an eager student… unfortunately the person who trains me isn’t always very kind…she’s rather a bit condescending when I don’t immediately get it, or when i make a mistake its like “look how dumb you are”… maybe that’s all in my head I don’t know? I do like the job but it’s though as an introvert to be exposed to so many people all day long,… it’s actually pretty overwhelming to be honest but the people who work there do this for yeas so they forgot how difficult it was in the beginning… i just question if I’ll ever be good enough to have a voice in that company? Why should anyone listen to the inexperienced one… how can i ever be confident enough if you know that your coworkers have so much more experience? Its like I’ll always be in a submissive position, which doesn’t actually feels good

[@kk961k]

This is exactly what I’m going through. Have to complete an externship for school in a clinic and the environment is very unfamiliar to me. After sticking around in the same job for years (comfortability), I built up the confidence to make a change and go back to college. Thank you for putting things into perspective!

[@ricebryce924]

Amazing advice

[@wafaturkai]

First I see someone is talking about my case 😢❤ thanks a lot ❤

[@irenekate]

Yeap I've got some feedback which has affected even my transfer to other jobs

[@GenZeeEdu]

Thank you soon much, this was helpful❤

[@angelique1508]

New job, but overloaded with tasks, (responsibilities have me looking after reception for 2 floors). Multitasking has me anxious cause if I drop a ball, it will be a big deal. Even though there has been no training. Answer to everything is look in the manual.

[@erwar87]

Thanks for your helpful content!

[@conrankule7462]

Clear delivery on work around with practical experience Thanks

[@chriB265]

I sure hope you are still offering your programs. Cuz I am def signing up!

[@JamesWilliams-ev6gf]

I just flew out for training. Been with the company for 5 months then I failed the knowledge test and now I'm scared they are gonna fire me. And it sucks because I work good I show up I go early I stay late and I just feel so left behind and it kills me the way they talk to me and having to defend myself it sucks because I didn't get to do alot of stuff I do now so i don't know alot and it's like they want me to know

[@miasandholdt]

This really helped my situation. Thank you❤️

[@erinMfoley]

You're welcome Mia! So glad it helped!

[@petejerzee]

It’s too bad you only help woman. This video spoke directly to me!

[@bbjo4727]

Thank you for this, viewing your vid 2021 and this is the situation I'm currently in because I have to move to a different line of business with a highet position and this vid helps me identifying my doubts

[@johnbarrett5268]

Great advice I will use these techniques thank you

[@Blah-blah-blah696]

Two weeks into a new job and im struggling with confidence and my capabilities 😢

[@picklepirate]

Thank you so much for making these videos, I am so deep in a crisis with anxiety

[@mariomarcos3513]

This was so helpful! I can now understand what’s happening to me. Thanks!

[@TheGoofygirl67]

Brilliant, thank you Erin.xx

[@kevinwhite5506]

Excellent thank you

[@rhondaramos45]

I would love information on your coaching.

[@gioescobar6418]

This issue has become anxiety for me.

[@vikinglegacy]

Thank you.

[@aealarco]

Thank you !!

[@corinneanderson5307]

Trying to find you to connect for some coaching..not having any success.

[@erinMfoley]

Sorry you are having trouble connecting. You can grab a consultation session. Here is the link to my 1:1 coaching program description. If this aligns just click on the consultation link and it will take you to a link to book a time. I look forward to connecting! www.erinmfoley.com/new-job-or-role

[@NBAlejo]

thanks!

[@tallaltauseef737]

I used fear for motivating myself to prepare for exam as I had issues in learning. So two days before exam I was doing things in a slow pace and lagging the timelines but the night before exam my anxiety and fear reaches at its height and I hardly finish revising the stuff just before sitting the exam. Though I got good grades but the pain I endured was awful as my fear make this whole process a matter of life and death for me. My slow learning was due to obsession for perfectionism, low self confidence and attention deficiency. I still suffer in similar manner in professional life and this puts me so low emotionally and gets depression and anxiety attacks. Can anyone please help me.

[@violetmoon6233]

I love this video is 11:11 minutes long 😍🙏😇💫🌟✨👑🌻💙👏

[@alikhalil9728]

Thanks from the buttom of my heart.

[@suededogs9670]

Could ypu explain this to my trainer ? Cos she sacked me after 9 days of on the job training done via Zoom .

[@show_me_your_kitties]

I don't support content creators that have no correspondence with their channel supporters and commentators. It just comes off as disingenuous.

[@sapoboi.com.br.]

brazil 🇧🇷💕 thanks for the video