07 Phrases for responding to RUDE people - Personality Development & Communication Skills Video

Have you faced rude people and were dumbfounded what to say? It happens, there are rude people everywhere and we come across such people sometimes. Now the question is how to respond to such people when they speak rudely to us? Learn some English phrases that would shut-up such rude people. Watch the complete Skillopedia lesson with Michelle and get smarter with these 7 English phrases.
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[@shazshaz9417]

Skillopedia - Skills for the real world Thank you for the video... I have a question, could you please answer it when ever you get time! I wanna know how to respond to people, who take advantage of you.. They only message you when they have to questions !!! And they go on and on asking about your personal life and choices... How do we tackle these people??

[@nak141]

@@shazshaz9417 Just say i am not comfortable talking to you about it.

[@nak141]

Hi you are sweet n nice n pleasing.. Don't make ppl fall in love with you.. 😉

[@kavitavijaylakshmi.5634]

Skillopedia - Skills for the real world aap Bht cute h I like you mammm

[@gangsta6649]

@@shazshaz9417 say this " shut the ef up bish you aint even got no prada" .. then walk away

[@KP-rh5qz]

My favorite response to a rude person is. “I see” and just stay calm

[@leesteal4458]

Cool one. I use that alot when I am being passive aggressive.

[@leesteal4458]

@NAKAI ANASAZI I see.

[@goldenalex100]

That’s really just like accepting the insult

[@mesmericmichelle]

For me it tells the rude person, "I don't give two cents about anything you've just said." Or sometimes you can respond with, "Um, ok."

[@KP-rh5qz]

@@leesteal4458 - hopefully my response doesn’t come across as passive aggressive.

[@reshmadsa8283]

I used to think politeness and non reaction is the best answer to someone who gets rude to you, but my recent experience with my colleague who kept insulting me more, just because I did not choose to react, stay calm and polite was just driving me crazy. I finally reacted and I am amazed at his polite behavior now ! Some people don’t understand the word “calm” and “polite” and it’s better you give them a piece of your mind so that they know you are hurt and don’t keep “exploiting” your calmness.

[@jrbonner5858]

some confuse kindness with weakness, and try to take advantage .

[@amandeepsinghgrewal5790]

My favourite comment 👌

[@karengarr8370]

@@jrbonner5858 Perfect phrase- they take your kindness as a weakness. And thank you for saying this. I can agree with quite a bit that she said. But if a person continually berates you, yes, I think you have to speak up.

[@MyPassion1679]

The same goes for me,my colleagues are highly uncouth and started taking advantage of my calmness,they don't understand polished behaviour,one of them even said that I don't have self- respect so, that's why I didn't react.

[@pradeepprahlad9465]

Absolutely !

[@suhasinidas8678]

Assertiveness is the best way to deal with rude people...if we become too polite or paasive with rude people, they start taking advantage...

[@shawnafuqua4057]

@Suhasini exactly. Can you give an example of how to be assertive

[@MayDay2018]

100 percent!!

[@suhasinidas8678]

@@shawnafuqua4057 You can find them in any communication skills book.. but the first and foremost skill is active listening, rather than just hearing and it takes practice to listen...

[@shawnafuqua4057]

@Suhasini Das thank you for responding to my comment and answering my question

[@cyndigooch1162]

@@shawnafuqua4057 I've found a lot of videos on KZbin etc on how to respond, instead of reacting, to narcissistic individual's baiting and Tamie M Joyce has very helpful ones. I'm still having a LOT of trouble with changing my own habit though, as I find it hard to think clearly at the time. I also seem to have a phobia about hurting people's feelings, even though they have no trouble hurting mine! I'll keep practicing until I get it right, most of the time anyway. ❤

[@jimyost2585]

"Rudeness is a weak imitation of strength." Eric Hoffer

[@maryleecarrier149]

My mother has a great response to rude people. She looks at them and asks, ‘Is that what you think?’ If they continue being rude, she says, ‘Thank you for sharing.’

[@raptorxxl1904]

She should just slap him in the face.

[@icyelsajiminbiased960]

@@raptorxxl1904 lol true 🤣🤣🤣

[@rockergirl2489]

Brilliant reply

[@ritalawson7020]

Say to them thank you for showing everybody your true colours

[@chungliupires6445]

Nice

[@SCSC-qz7rr]

This older lady (family member) said to me after not seeing me for years, you’re so fat, so I smiled and said, good to see you too, I could’ve said you’re so old, but didn’t want to be rude like you... I know it wasn’t right but it felt good😂

[@podersa241]

You could say I am storing up food so I can survive this pandemic. Then walk away. We have all gained weight during this time.

[@wanderertatiana2498]

I think it was absolutely right! 😅

[@BinkyTheGoddessDivine]

You're a good person. Me, I'd confront her and tear her apart. Then after that I'd never speak to her again and make sure she knows I hate her.

[@jedicrush1497]

SILENCE in rude situations really exposes the aggressor. Especially if the rude talker makes too many indirect....rude comments. Thank u for this video 💮🌼🌺

[@mdivine5644]

Yes, had to work with a fill in today and he insulted me within 20 minutes of meeting me....the SILENCE was golden 😁😁😁 I will not validate you with a reaction. Have a good day!

[@wandalee5010]

That’s one plan, but silence is one reason that rude people continue to be rude. Sometimes you need to call them out on it, tell them to kiss your a$$ and calmly walk away. Being a doormat is what they are hoping for.

[@preetyluli7617]

Sometimes you have to be a beast inorder to be respected😥😥😥😥 imao !!!

[@jbilotta]

When people are rude to that level I do EVERYTHING humanly possible to avoid their presence.

[@cyndigooch1162]

@@luciddreams5200 Unfortunately, those types of people will still do it, no matter how the partner, or whoever, responds. In fact, it can escalate if the partners retaliate, which happened to me in the past. On the other hand, the perpetrator might decide to end the "relationship" if their former punching bag starts punching back! Of course, I don't mean literally though and it depends on how far along the person is on the narcissism spectrum. 😥

[@snash3903]

I found that when dealing with a boss or coworker "I respect so much about you but I regret that I can not agree with you on this subject" works for rude bosses. The words "I respect you" can go along way with everyone. Respect is a bridge for kindness.

[@mrs8792]

I had a women say “you look like you’ve put on 20 pounds?” I turned to her and said “oh, hell no!” “I’ve put on 30!” 🤣

[@AK56fire]

Tyrion level response... Loved it.

[@wandalee5010]

I hope you were smiling the entire time! Tell them your goal is to put on 40! Half way there, winning!!! Lol

[@manuelapmunoz5872]

That Rachel Rios Hernandez always saying things to me like this and wen she's a porker herself

[@beasaroze5596]

🤣

[@ishmal.xoxo.]

Lol smart

[@qhyirrghsteinne3109]

“I appreciate your perspective, but screw you”😂

[@davidsmythe7645]

Plague Doctor 😂😂😂😂

[@barbiea2518]

Yeah..yeahhh

[@koset]

This is good advice for most situations, but I had a friend who was a narcissist. It took me decades to figure that out. They would publicly denigrate me but in the form of humor. I smiled and went along with it an those years. Then when I looked back at our friendship, I realized they had never said anything kind to me, only a thousand put-downs. So I walked away from an abusive situation and am far happier for it. We have to have contact, because we have many friends in common, but I keep my distance and my exposure brief. I don't think they're would have been anything I could have said that would have changed their behavior since it was based in a disorder.

[@karthikak8657]

I am glad you did that and walk away.Stay strong..Those who are meant for you will .eet you eventually.❤️❤️❤️

[@zoie8088]

i find it incredibly helpful to just say "okay" or "alright" every time a "bully" pauses to get a reaction. i can't tell you how many times a kid at school insulted me or tried to provoke me and i just looked him in the eyes and said "okay" and he became incredibly frustrated

[@sundown6748]

This is good advice. I’m going to use this. Thank you

[@freerangeboogie7293]

Ha! Love it. When kids picked on me and called me fatty back in a time when no one was fat (except me), I laughed back at them and said “isn’t that something?!” I ended up having a lot of no drama friends.

[@Swami_Prince_033]

I love that, I do use the same and of course, it works greatly....😄😄

[@angham3829]

James 1:19-20 ESV “Let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger; for the anger of man does not produce the righteousness of God.

[@chinkyfist6655]

I have never regretted any response I gave back to my selfish rude brother. The methods you shared have been practiced already and it's only effective on some people. I will help my brother burn the bridge between us because he wants it burned anyway. Selfish rude people do not need to be connected with me. I have better and more important bridges to build with people who are at least appreciative. I will not waste my time on rude people. They don't need me nor do I need them. There are plenty of people to meet in this world.

[@cardioq833]

"I don't go to book fairs" "I was so stunned" What the hell is rude about saying "I don't go to book fairs"?

[@ajithchandran7348]

No, you misunderstood, it's the way you convey the message that becomes rude or kind

[@dhw14]

That's what I thought............

[@sabaakhtar4680]

May be not the words but the way she replied was rude.

[@programmersurfdude]

She was trying to initiate a conversation and the other person responded very bluntly. It can be kind of jarring especially if you approached the conversation with some enthusiasm. It just kills the momentum you had going into the conversation.

[@mytwosense5223]

I was thinking the same thing ...that would be considered nice in the city I'm from lol...

[@crissantos44]

These responses are very good, But they assume the rude person actually has a conscience, which doesn't always happen

[@JCinerea]

Friends won't do that to others. Period.

[@coralarch]

Unfortunately, there are some people whom you cannot reach by simple words, and one of them was my brother-in-law. The rudest, angriest, most arrogant person I have ever met, always itching for a verbal fight over anything and everything. Reasoning with him was futile; it only spurred him to more rudeness and rage. So, the best thing to do was to completely ignore him. I do mean completely. The next time he barged into our house looking for a screaming match, none of us acknowledged his presence in the slightest. We did not look at him, speak to him, or indicate that we were aware of him at all, but calmly went on with what we were doing. He raved and screeched and marched up and down the room, then paused, obviously expecting a reaction. We gave him none. He cranked up the volume and continued his impersonation of an enraged gorilla. Still we said nothing. The fool did this for a good 10 minutes before it dawned on him that no matter what he said or how loudly he screamed, it was not going to give him what he wanted. He stormed off, banging the door behind him, and never tried that crap again.

[@jennymaria2755]

I want to see death penalty back, also national service.how about marriage before s e x ? The respect needs to be returned, marriage before having kids!

[@ideas_my_style]

That's the best way.....good

[@annm4833]

I like your response to your brother in law. Like dealing with a toddler throwing a tantrum. I've known a couple of adults who are extremely rude and unfortunately I still must deal with one of them and I may try to incorporate some of your response the next time I am faced with them. 👍

[@pallvipari7860]

Omg

[@calebproductions5970]

@@jennymaria2755 why the hell do you think it's a good idea to get married are you crazy

[@naturalnnomadic5242]

In my experience, a truly rude person doesn't care if they hurt your feelings. I vote for cut them a smile, walk away. And, "I appreciate your perspective, but we will have to agree to disagree."

[@russ7868]

That is actually how it should be handled. I listened to another video where that was the way it should be done. A lot of what this woman is saying, is common sense if you are a nice person.

[@amitjha9276]

I do think the same as u do

[@shadowhuntermoon4834]

Natural N Nomadic rude people just have a low self esteem and need to come closer to people by any way possible. They often don’t notice because they suffer enough. Between a rude person and your stupid agree disagree sentence, the strongest is the rude person.

[@spitfirarez]

Natural N Nomadic , I agree with you

[@mypositive9642]

@@shadowhuntermoon4834 why?

[@Huonous]

I feel umcomfortable telling someone that they hurt my feelings when I assume that's exactly what they want to do. If you tell them that you're offended, won't they just use it against you and make fun of your weakness, "lack of humor" and how you can't handle "criticism" etc.?

[@CatsAreNiceMeow]

Yes, that so true of narcissistic people.

[@zion367]

I thought the same thing.

[@mccainjay8744]

You're right, it's all about being mature and not letting someone control you by stealing your joy. What a great teacher you are:]

[@rositaroja5349]

Absolutely🍎 A+🍎

[@sharujon1223]

To be honest, I don't think the statement "I don't go to book fairs" was rude. I'd say she was rather straighforward. May be for her response, one could say "Oh, sorry! May be I have mistaken! :) " Over and Out. People are too sensitive, I guess!! :/

[@shawnkikbourn5410]

Sharu Jon I have to agree.. I come from a family of very straight forward people.. as they say "Don't beat around the situation" and in the Army we were told " stop tap dancing" no time in the military for pleasentness. Just don't be sensitive and suck it, drive on.

[@hanhil3673]

Sharu Jon Same thoughts I had.

[@ojaain1650]

agree

[@seacoast4950]

Rudeness is not always what you say but how you say it.😊

[@seacoast4950]

So maybe the person answered in a rude tone.

[@leiaclark8388]

One phrase I use to deal with criticism or rudeness is "Thank you for your feedback. I will think about it." I had a boss who was very harsh when talking to employees. We actually would speculate who was going to be the next one to quit on the spot and walk out. I used that phrase quite a bit to keep from yelling at him, and quitting on the spot.

[@BinkyTheGoddessDivine]

You're very clever.

[@joginderkaur51]

I am over the 66 year .my husband very rude me .some time I m very upset so I am try ignore him.all the time I said my self you look after you self.

[@mikenahbailey2777]

Number 8: “I get why you’re mean, people irritate me too”

[@lauraa.x_o]

That’s a good one 📝

[@kimberlysmith8299]

The Bible says a kind soft word will turn away wrath.

[@madhavimouli2570]

Praise God and let us follow what our holy book says

[@vanderwoodsens]

I don't want to be calm I want to sass some mean losers out

[@mzcandace]

YESS...THAT SUMS IT UP RIGHT THERE!!! GOD’s WORD SHOWS US HOW TO HANDLE OUR AFFAIRS IN THIS THING CALLED “LIFE”! THE BASIC INSTRUCTIONS BEFORE LEAVING EARTH(BIBLE)!!! PERIOD!!!

[@jaybuggy1183]

Lol u go girl!

[@shamarbell6132]

Well done

[@Tabby318]

Just a minute. You asked someone if you had seen them at a book fair and they replied that they did not go to book fairs - how is that rude?

[@maggiewood4332]

i thought the same thing.

[@richierich7384]

It was the tone and that person admitted being rude. You might want to listen again

[@jeniaboro708]

Exact my thoughts too...

[@vishwasantoshi8552]

Yea... even I'm wondering...

[@vishwasantoshi8552]

Are u out of ur mind? How come that person is rude? If she says that she doesn't go to book fairs...

[@lovingatlanta]

🤨The amount of ads in this video is rude. 😩

[@notsosmartkidz6236]

Dats how youtuber earns

[@notsosmartkidz6236]

@Ruyi Yao jaisi jiski soch

[@simp8966]

@Ruyi Yao how is that rude? they are providing us good content and are getting money.

[@frasperclip]

@Ruyi Yao and he said it to you so u we're getting your business into the other comment lol think, that's how youtubers earns 💰 money

[@dianekennedy7086]

Thanks for the informative video. I work with the public, and it is true that remaining calm is one of the best things you can do when encountering rude people. If you get upset, they think they've got the upper hand on you. It actually kind of shocks them if you remain calm in response to their tirades.

[@monmonboi]

For those who haven't noticed about the "Have I seen you in the book fair?" thing, it's an example and I don't know if anyone had noticed it's the way her tone and body movements allow it to portray that the person is rude. Please, before some peeps or the new peeps make an assumption that she's over exaggerating that the person who denies is being straight forward, she explained it right after and *it's just an example* .

[@rubaingill2251]

this world need more people like you Michelle

[@sumannara4757]

O my Goodness ! Guys you should be respectful to teacher if she is beautiful or not. She is not here to attract you ,she is here to teach you , most of comments are from dirty minds . She is beautiful and she is here to teach. People spread nonsense everywhere ,even learning channels . Just respect to her ....

[@vaishalijoshi7830]

suman Nara true spoken👍👍👍👍👍

[@heman5127]

I always fell in love with my beautiful teachers. in 2nd class I fell in love with my English teacher while she was 20year elder then me

[@Menagerie_K]

Teaching is always a respectable profession.

[@atulpandey455]

haha, you are so sweet and have no idea what's going on.

[@atulpandey455]

drunken teacher, drunken teacher. teacher leave us kid alone. you are drunken.

[@justjosie8963]

How is "I don't go to bookfest" rude?

[@meizkl]

Also at work I'd say, can you call IT for me please, my laptop isn't working and I've so much to do?.. if they offer to share theirs all good if not, IT will fix it.

[@curious1366]

I thought that at first. In other languages there are endings that you add onto words that indicate politeness and respect. So, if they weren't speaking English, it may be apparent that rude wording was used, BUT... it would translate in English the exact same way. For example, if your Mother asks you a question, you may be answering "Yes" But there is an ending that you add to the "Yes" that acknowledges respect. Without that ending it can seem rude -- but in English it still translates as "Yes".

[@jbenno7021]

It isn't.

[@elizabethsheffield6609]

... just ask them "have you looked in the mirror lately?" Churchill once replied back to a lady, who accused him of being drunk, "and you Madam are ugly, but in the morning I shall be sober". Nice one, that!

[@lyndavonkanel8603]

What a great retort! Churchill was brilliant with at the moment responses. Another time he answered a lady who said that if he and she were married to each other she would give him poison and he told her, "Madame, if I were married to you I would drink it".

[@afrikaasantiago652]

Wow teacher, this video is brilliant! I really appreciate the fact that you take time to prepare a lesson about topics that are usually not discussed in the classroom. Its a great way to practice and learn.

[@afrikaasantiago652]

it's*

[@coewhat]

Afrikaa Santiago, your photo shows animal abuse by cruel and unusual punishment. Cat is overheating and feels embarrassed n ashamed, leading to life long trauma and identity confusion.

[@ilovebeinagirl]

My experience has been if you are polite to a rude person, they leave you alone at that moment, but if you are rude to a rude person, they never make a rude comment to you ever again.

[@to.lame.to.function5242]

No. Most rude people are looking for a reaction, and want an argument. Just ignore it or be polite.

[@che-maticschemistrymathema7044]

@@to.lame.to.function5242 Today only I encounter rude comments on you tube. He is so racist. I replied politely.

[@amirrich5610]

Whenever anyone talks to me rudely, I simply say 'Thank you so much for your kind and polite words'.

[@beberry6780]

I don't have the energy anymore, I feel like the movie, Me, Myself & Irene, where the Jim Carrey character puts up with so much rudeness until he explodes

[@feelthelovek3298]

I do think the same.... thankyou is so powerful.....

[@rashmik2430]

Rude people don't understand that if you are being nice to them , its because you are not like them. There's an acquintance , she was rude and always in a troubled state of mind(she got all these mood swings) , I tried being nice to her but she thought that I had given in to her dominance , I still kept calm and was good to her for another 1 month . Finally I lost it and told her that her fucking opinions about me don't matter and that she should stop talking trash about me, I stood up for myself , I had to. She never pestered me again

[@mizmizappa]

Rashmi K I know what you mean. When I was only twenty two I just qualified as a nurse and in my first job there was an older woman who constantly berated and belittled me in front of everyone. One night we got a little kid in for an emergency op and I had to calculate an awkward drug dosage for the kid and my tormentor was the one who came to check it was correct. However she could not do the calculation and just agreed I told her NO you must be sure or go get your superior to check for you as you seem to be of the opinion I'm some kind of dummy and you will be held to account. Red faced she went for her senior who confirmed that I was correct whilst my bully. Still didn't have a clue. Guess who was my best buddy afterwards.

[@FaizaDaniya123]

I completely agree with you. This is the common problem actually. When you try to be nice to rude people always, they think that you have let yourself dominate them. So once in a while you have to stand up strongly to hold your self esteem safe and clear their misconception.

[@kahla3363]

Faiza Daniya I don't understand where people got the idea that being polite or respectful is submissive. You can assert yourself & demand respect without being disrespectful or rude. In my job I have to deal with people from the the bottom of command to the absolute top executives of an extremely busy private hospital on a daily basis. Your interactions should not change depending on who you're talking to. The janitor gets the same respect from me that I give my boss. Demanding respect also doesn't equate attitude & rudeness. I had a lady come in my department & started setting equipment up in an area that was reserved for another purpose without asking me. I explained that I needed the space & immediately was met with attitude & her explaining that I can be without the space for awhile and she'd let me know when she was done , still setting up her stuff while she's talking, I guess thinking she would just bully me & since I wasn't arguing with her she thought she could. She finally stops talking & I say"I'm very sorry ma'am, but as I have already explained, you cannot use this space & I'll need you to remove your equipment immediately" she then gets very angry & says she already set everything up and she will not have time to take it all down & put it back up somewhere else. And even though she's just about yelling at this point, I smile and say"ma'am I explained this to you before you set your things up & you chose to do it anyway, so I am not responsible for your lost time, I will however get you some assistance with your equipment while I try to find you another space you may use." So I did what I said & she was able to get her job done with only minimal time delay. Before she left she came to my office to apologize for being rude & she appreciated my assistance. Now we deal together well. She realized that I wasn't a pushover and it is easier to ask than bully.

[@parrotlover1981]

Rashmi K awesome you stood up for yourself. Felt good didn't it ? I'm sure it embarrassed her& it is sad you had to confront her nasty stabbing you in the back cr...p Happiness is a state of mind 😄😄😄😄😄😄

[@parrotlover1981]

mizmizappa good for you. Call em on it and they back off. Good job Sister. People like that have a low opinion of themselves in most cases. Sad really. Makes me glad I'm not them 😄😄😅😆

[@jayantikumari8355]

Sometimes when you laugh, they feel you are making fun of them.. And the argument moves ahead.. This is tried and tested as well😊

[@juditkarajko]

I practiced this for ages😊 the Bible teaches " forgive everyone " and" pray for your enemies "and" if someone wants to take your jacket, give them your trousers as well " kindness shoks rude people and with time reshape them.i have a few best friends who used to be my enemies. But we need to be determined, because it is a hard task to stay kind and loving when others are so mean. I get my strength from Jesus, and the Bible.there are some times when people are not willing to listen,they are determined to hurt you. In this case you have to run away from them like Jesus did, but you can pay for them, and with time God will work out a heart change in them. It's nice to meet up someone ex rude person who became very nice.

[@osuushiza8]

Judit Low if ur2 nice, it gets u taken advantage of, set up4 emotional sabotage. 😑

[@osuushiza8]

@AnimusFlux Unfriending? I barely have any, I'd any, friends! Ppl drive me nuts anymore. Sadly, most ppl have & are still becoming this way. Societies & the world has flip flopped 2hard.

[@axagorax]

Judit Low what if they almost kill you and they will

[@abdurahman7212]

jesus is my prophet , i love him much , and god ( allah ) is my lord , and mohamed is my last massenger , and you are my beloved brother /sister , all we are same , and we have equal rights , and its good for you to help others but it is your duty to not harm anyone in this world , we belong to god , and we shal all return to him , no one have full free , , if you are free for your life why you feeling illness , headache , painfull , cancer , why we going to die , why we can not stop to die , because we have no full power to stop all these problems, so , why you can not stop your father , mother , brother , sister , freind to die ??????????? please may you give me answer ? ????? the one who cause all these is called allah ( GOD ) . he have power over all creations !!!! he can do whatever he want , and no one can stop him , jesus is the prophet and massenger of allah ( god ) . and marry she was his mother , but no father , allah revealed a wholy book upon jesus , and he sent to his people and he said to his people say ( that there is no god but alla alone , ) all prophets said this statement even mohamed and jesus peace and blessings of god be upon both of them and all other prophets . this is clearly mentioned in the quran and in the bable ( book of mohamed and book of jesus ) . are you agree that with me or not ???????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????? i l u 😗

[@berlinetta____2680]

Thanks Michelle, some good tips!

[@saraream133]

If someone asks you something inappropriate, I have learned to respond, "Why do you ask?" That usually stops the rude questions!

[@samtula5946]

I needed this.. but usually I don’t say anything and people keep being rude.. it’s hard to get rid of relatives in your life. But when I try to say calmly.. I don’t like what you said or I don’t want to talk.. they’l keep bothering.. and I get so pissed. Sometimes it is just better to be rude and say something rude so they shut their mouths esp since I come off as a doormat.

[@shwetathakur2279]

Sam Tula yeah but they told everyone that girl is blunt one time a old lady tount me in very rude way in my sis house and give her anser but here everyone u should dont give her anser and she spread everywhere i m blunt no one with me even my sis but after this she never talking to me not taunt me i never serve her food then but everyone against me no one understand even its not my fault but everyone blame me u have to sliance even its not your fault just becouse i feel like i m servent i leave that place next never go again village i hat that type mind set who think girls should be silence even its not her fault i feel so insulted in front of everyone

[@angelicdavis9522]

I know what you mean it sucks when a relative will deliberately provoke you when you they know you are trying hard to hold your temper. I have a relative (sibling) that does that too me. And i have to be the bigger person it is hard to be the bigger person you sometimes feel like the doormat they wipe thier feet on but you know by standing up for yourself is only going to cause more drama sucks kind of in a dammed if you dammed if you dont situation. My sister is manipulative and will twist things around she has even gone as far as recording our coversation without my knowledge. Then playing them for people she baits me i have no trust when it comes to her she is a snake in the grass the worst kind. She will be nice to a person and talk mad shit about them 5 mintutes later.

[@shwetathakur2279]

@@angelicdavis9522 same thing with me with my sister i think u r pretty smart then her she is being jeoulse from u this is what my big sis doing this me until she get married i come to know how many people who touch in with her think only negative about me she is sibling na i dont know what is your age do better in your life after passing time people know her real face my sis is real bitch

[@osuushiza8]

Sam Tula I actually pull the logic over emotion now. My family will act the same, but it usually doesn't last as long. I also pull away from them4 how ever long I need2 until socializing isn't so overwhelming!

[@aswathiajith7891]

Wow. That is SO true! Just keep calm or apologise if needed! Thank you so much for this video

[@clarafierro6921]

Love that way you respond to all the situaciones, smart girl!

[@netkonector]

Either a silence or polite reply with a smile is a correct way of treating them :-) Self confidence is all about being yourself when the other person "does not accept" your gesture. So be Your true self and it will come back to you positively!!

[@mohdfaizan5260]

Your content is life safe for me I saw all the videos of you channel and it really help me out to be a better person.. Thank you

[@mindi4992]

This is the second video I watched and I love it so much keep em coming I definitely need this in both my personal life and work life!😃

[@AkashVerma-ju8kk]

Language can help you to learn more things. Peace or violence, always depends on the way we react and use our language. Thank you for helping this world to be more polite😊

[@twobirds1817]

Sometime bullies will only get off your back if you shove the same rudeness back in their face.

[@lesleyelalami2562]

Yes, sometimes you have to fight fire with fire. It's a delicate balance.... to ignore and carry on or fight back. Thank goodness for choice.

[@josephbarclayross6216]

Hmmm, cool.

[@jesussaves8549]

Kill them with kindness don't get on their level.

[@mellissaworster589]

Adding water to fire does not always put out a fire but adding fire to fire definitely never does. Your "eye for an eye" approach might temporarily squash it but just because that person shut up doesn't mean their mind is changed. It is likely they will just do/say stuff behind your back, or if they are a stranger they might save the behavior for the next person.

[@kahla3363]

Hippy(Bboomer) Exactly... Sometimes people are rude because they expect rudeness from the world. So when they receive politeness & good manners, it highlights their own rudeness & makes them rethink their interactions. And, u never know how much saying thank you, or excuse me, or smiling at someone you pass, holding the door for a stranger can change how they see the world. There's been stories of people not committing suicide because one person cared enough to say hello & ask how their day was. You don't always see the effects of your kindness & for most it won't matter, but it could mean the world to someone that's never been shown any.

[@AfroKing.]

2:10 Hey, this is Michele and you’re watching me on Disney Channel😂 I couldn’t help it

[@hotelarun]

Rightly said by her ... It is not only the magical words but also the tone with which these are spoken have more impact. At Samvaad I tell my trainees it is good to be assertive but save yourself from becoming aggressive. Thanks for this video.

[@karenskultety8687]

Being rude for some is as easy as breathing. I just avoid them as much as possible. My favorite phrase I don't mean to be rude. Yes! you do or you would stop. Forget about them. Don't waste your good manners on the ill mannered.

[@user-gv2qi7qj8e]

Karen Skultety I like ur way👍🏾

[@stellarocquie7957]

But sometimes you CAN'T avoid them: work, family, business colleagues, clients, etc., so some of these tips definitely come in handy.

[@Dr.Pepperdave]

You are correct!

[@narrelleweir6383]

I grew up with family phrases of "I love you, I don't like how you are behaving/ what you are doing/what you are saying ". Also if family/friends got into a heated discussion we would step back & say "I think we need to agree to disagree", it ended most times without doing harm. So glad I have subscribed because both videos I have watched have been informative. Thank you.

[@kimberlywalbridge7416]

Narrelle Weir I like that one agree to disagree and also liked the other person that smiles and says interesting. So do tell me how to respond to a father who loves to insult his working class daughter when he favors one who married money and the other has a business with spouse so I am chopped liver and tired of Archie Bunker's digs!lol

[@narrelleweir6383]

I also learned from a co worker years ago when I was having a moan. She asked was I happy with my life & if I could change it would I. Foolishly I said yes, ah, then your children wouldn't have been born etc etc. With all the pain she had in her life she was grateful because without that she would not have had the wonderful bits. Made me think "would I really want my siblings lives". Money, position, travel all good, however one has had a child suicide & first marriage fail, other had one marriage & many relationships fail, both children had strokes when in early 30s & they rarely contact. Me I have a roof over my head, clean water, good food, a job, healthy children, able to love & am loved.....oh how wealthy I truly am.

[@Sam-dd7tn]

Narrelle Weir My family just said what they felt, cussed eachother out and then afterwards, would start laughing and chattting about something else. I guess they felt better, because they got it all out, but it couldn't have been healthy..

[@narrelleweir6383]

Sam some families do swear & argue a lot, that doesn't make them better or worse than another. I can only use my life's lessons. We never swore, but did have heated discussions. The agree to disagree rule came in when it looked like it was going to go further than a discussion. For some reason by morning we were happy & loving again & didn't bear/bare grudges towards each other. My husband's family didn't believe in open, lively discussions & still bare/bear hurts from as far back as childhood. They mostly don't talk to each other & each sibling is stressed. If your happy with your family, then be so. Remember the laughter that follows, if not, speak up sooner.

[@Sam-dd7tn]

Narrelle Weir Yeah, I am happy with them, but it was very stressful growing up with all the yelling though. Yes, I definately still remember the laughs and good times. All of us still talk though and would do anything for one another, so I guess it worked out. I hate to hear that about your husband and his siblings not talking. (My husband grew up the same and has the same problem with 2 of his brothers) I know he wishes it could be different. Hopefully one day he can be open about all his thoughts and feelings on things that went on as a child and how it affected him. He would feel so much better to atleast get it off his shoulders. Seriously though, he should consider setting a time to sit down with each of his siblinhs individually. I wish him and you all the happiness and luck. ✌😊

[@kknagaproduction7331]

Honesty I'm kinda rude person but thanks for the great video I'll try to change myself

[@eeshalnuma3943]

K.K S. Naga yesss same here

[@SAFREEN]

What made u become a ruder ?

[@hamdiscorner5286]

K.K S. Naga lol me too, I always to change but it's not really working for me.

[@kknagaproduction7331]

S. Afrin I don't know exactly why but I was a rude guy. thanks for this channel it helps me a lot

[@sweetthings31]

The person who understands that he or she is rude is not a rude person really.... Only the situation make them rude for that moment only

[@pritipatel2493]

I always try to be nice to people and most of the times rude people will consider it as r weakness.Thank you so much for sharing ur tips.

[@romanr9977]

Happy to hear the lady responded to you kindly. However, I think it's cultural. I live in an English-speaking country and unfortunately there is a strong sense of entitlement and if the same situation occurred here, being nice is seen as a weakness (how screwed up is that ??!!) and it would give the rude person more power and they would most likely continue to be rude and feel they were in the right to be rude to you. Sigh.

[@xyz-te8ct]

The best way to deal with toxic people is "ignore"

[@sumeetchand698]

Thank You very much Mam It helped me a lot.

[@wheelchairshoppingbasketsc6710]

First, let me say that I thoroughly enjoyed each and every one of the videos I viewed. They are very informative and I have learned quite a lot from each one. Being 70 years old and a person that comprehends from reading as well as by visual instruction. Now that I'm in my y twilight years I find that I don't process information as well as I did as a young boy. I was amazed to find the complete transcript of each video accessible for download. A very unique and beneficial tool for your viewers. However, I noticed in almost every transcript multiple uses of the word "gonna". Even though this word is the acceptable English slang for "going to" and used daily in normal casual conversations I don't believe it should ever be used in the professional sector of our society. Especially if applying for a management position with a large corporation where improper English would be very noticeable by anyone conducting the interview of an applicant. This comment was merely an observation and by no means intended to criticize. With that said again let me thank everyone involved with the production of your videos and express a very heartfelt wish for your continued success.

[@heathermalone9091]

Evem though we have all experienced things like this I'm saddened to think if it happening to you. You are strong, beautiful and wise. Thank you for sharing it with us.

[@goodkarma23]

Never ever thank a person for a rude response. That is subliminally attracting more abuse.

[@amritanath6211]

I love you really works🙂👍

[@Rosemarysummers2]

Thank you for this, I really needed this.

[@rahulrdamle6373]

I love your work and positive intensions to inspire people... thank you so much for videos...and ma'am you do look beautiful and adorable

[@panduk5974]

U r great teacher madam..!

[@ankita4774]

very useful 👍

[@qwertyqwerty1955]

This is my first time to view a Skillopedia video. I like all of the suggestions you made. It parallels with the Transactional Analysis training I got many years ago. When one makes a rude comment to me, say for example weight gain, here is how I respond: " Say have you gained weight"? Me: Why do you ask ?" That way, the rude person has painted himself to a corner, and has nothing to say.

[@vanessatrotter69]

I love this I've been schooled all over again!

[@vaishalijoshi7830]

Keep calm n don't fight 🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🙂😀😀😀

[@aakrutisharma2963]

Sometimes laughing can irritate the other person and things can get worse.

[@stellaercolani3810]

Please go away you shill

[@ninodiaz9836]

people is smartasses sometimes, they laugh indirect about you , wich is hipocrecy.

[@vidhijoshi6507]

You are right Aakruti sharma

[@saishiva9721]

yep

[@leelee6000]

They can't get worst if you hug them whist they attack you I would even tickle them when they hit me

[@TaraWagner]

Such a great video! So many helpful tips!

[@yogeshbaviskar2292]

Hi Michelle, i have been following your teachings from last month. Thought its an educational channel, however i would like to complement you 'you are an adorable teacher, and red suits you the most '😊

[@jyrd100]

I have no patience for rude people! this channels great x

[@craftycat4583]

Yeah!!!!

[@Fanaticforgames]

Laughter is the best therapy AND IT REALLY WORKED

[@judichristopher4604]

I totally agree!!!

[@ashitasavlinkuldeep4019]

It's very helpful. Thank you. God bless you.

[@cyriljacob4839]

You have so much postivity in your speech and the way you convey things.keep going👍👍👍😊😊😊

[@unique687]

Thank you so much for making this video😊😊😊😊😊😊✌✌✌ please continue making more such videos👍👍👍

[@azleenaali8442]

I always laugh when I dnt want an argument

[@lamianushratnadia8328]

I just love the way you think

[@gia827]

Omg thank you so much for this vid. I never knew how much I needed this!!! Now I’m almost excited to get into an argument 🤣🤣🤣

[@leelee6000]

Lmaooo you want to argue on purpose 😂😂😂😂😂

[@alfiyajahanqaiser4540]

Your voice is similar to Katrina kaif 😇😇

[@Happinessprojectamity]

True

[@nisha2456]

Yeah actually i also found her voice in the same way you said.

[@ritupriya6464]

Exactly

[@ishmal.xoxo.]

Yeah

[@alfiyajahanqaiser4540]

@@nisha2456 yup

[@drashtidubey5662]

In south Korea all the toppers go in the field of teaching to make more toppers. so teaching field is best..

[@surprisetoy2663]

Drashti Dubey No, They all try to get into medical schools, So that they can open a clinic later on.

[@salamosasalamosa247]

that's happen only in south korea

[@chetna1234]

Exactly teaching is a prestigious profession in south Korea...

[@ng5672]

I m so impressed nd thankful... Thankyou!❤

[@ThePecanTan]

It's interesting that I don't find the people in any of her examples as being rude, but rather, straightforward. This video confirms that our society is so sensitive, that she basically made a video on how we should maneuver around people who "tell it like it is." Humans never cease to amaze me.

[@gstjr1968]

I knew a lot of people who are so rude...even my friends (neighbors) for almost 20 years and my siblings ....many of them are toxics! I believe in frienemies (Enemies)! They all belong to bitter and insecured group of people!

[@parrotlover1981]

Prince Jr You got that right my friend (not frenimy) KARMAS A BITCH. LOL I LAUGH AT THEM. MIGHT SAY I'M GLAD I'M NOT YOU....PAUSE FRIEND !!!!!!!!!!! THEN A SMILE. IT MAKES THEM CHECK THEIR ATTITUDE PROBLEM IF YOU MAKE THEM THINK ABOUT IT. ITS ALOT EASIER TO BE NICE AT LEAST FOR ME 🤗😄😄😄😄IT IS. I LOVE BEING HELPFUL TO OTHERS BECAUSE IT MAKES ME FEEL BETTER. DON'T CARE IF IT MAKES THEM HAPPY BUT,NICE IF IT DOES. I WONDER WHAT MAKES THEM MISERABLE TO BEGIN WITH. USUALLY THEY'VE GOT A LOW SELF OPINION OF THEMSELVES. SO SAD REALLY.

[@greenmint7865]

Prince Jr true

[@aecioflavioperim2392]

You're really good and you're my favorite. So I wish the best for you.

[@tharinishree]

Finally.... I learned how to cope up with rude people. Thankyou very much !

[@rudreswarchowdhury8176]

Nice video. One thing which I can't stop appreciating that you have a very good command over English language. Apart from the message you are conveying through this video I get to know some other phrases too like' This is the last nail on the coffin' and ' OK now you have to eat the frog' .

[@mpg296]

I have a really rude brother in law. My first impulse is to let him have it but I tried something different after listening to Skillopedia. I kept my anger under control and calmly responded to his very rude statement. It must have worked he never responded. He is such a miserable unhappy creature. His nickname in the family is Gollum. So the trick is to remain calm. It's really difficult when I want to scratch his miserable bulging eyes out. Think happy thoughts okay

[@Sam-dd7tn]

Mrs. Smith omg I have a brother inlaw that makes me feel the same exact way! I could wring his damn neck sometimes!

[@urmileshsingh63]

i dont know how could be one so calm... in many points i found out that if i will say them i will become frustrated and everything will be there in my heart..

[@mariyamjaufar5605]

Thank you very much for this important information it really help me to Deal with Rude people . These days I have face these kind of problems from my college . 😀

[@arravallyharitha4273]

Vry vry impressive...u make me to move on with my situations..lov uu

[@maneeshkumar8456]

Don't be a doctor because you are a fantastic teacher.

[@deepakrastogi7870]

The way you layered your wardrobe just awesome..Anyways lesson was good..Thank u...

[@jmdenison]

yeh. I loved the burgundy rose dress. very nice. flattering. and her hair and make up was well done.

[@candya1040]

Basic common sense in reacting and controlling yourself. Ty🙏🏼👏🏽

[@trishawhitehouse4226]

Great information. I would save the, “ You hurt my feelings” for a relationship in which you believe the person actually might care that they did and be willing to change. I think most people that randomly cut people down are not close enough to you , for a reason. They hardest situation I have is when the people are people that are related to my husband and I don’t want to rock the boat- create problems for him. Thank you for teaching.

[@judithgannon5642]

To the people confused about the bookstore example, rudeness occurs in tone of voice or facial expression. And it could have been said with, "Oh that wasn't me."

[@user-gv2qi7qj8e]

In my experience I’ve tried to explain to them in a very polite way that ‘I don’t like their negative comments ‘. The result is they completely avoid me. I like to be friendly but it’s Just they don’t understand my feelings. I’m afraid I might loose my friends. I suffer within myself:(.

[@priyodit]

some very good suggestions. I am going to add this to my watch again list

[@teamammcri2224]

I would try to use these words as they serve the purpose.i adore you .