How to Talk to Anyone with Ease and Confidence

You can make dazzling conversation with anyone, and I am going to tell you how! Using a few conversation tricks and nonverbal tips, you'll be able to add to your communication repertoire and have wonderful conversations as well as memorable first impressions.
There's a science behind having a good conversation and these are great first steps to amazing conversation, but if you need help with conversation starter topics visit: www.scienceofpeople.com/conve...
Those are sure to spark interesting, deep, and unforgettable conversation with anyone you interact with! 😊
In this video:
00:00 Intro to the Science of Conversation
00:51 Tip #1 - Intention
01:43 Tip #2 - Approach
02:38 Tip #3 - Openers
03:32 Tip #4 - Sparks
04:49 Tip #5 - Exits
05:43 Bonus Tip - How to let people know you're open to connect?
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[@ScienceOfPeople]

Find out more in our full article on this topic: www.scienceofpeople.com/talk-to-anyone/

[@2.0learning16]

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[@Greggee100]

yeah, what do u do and what do u make????

[@selfhelpsecrets]

3:12 Best pick up line: "Hi, how are you? I´m Vanessa or whatever..." I have to try that. :)

[@synonymous8390]

BUT I HAVE MY OWN STYLE. THAT DO NOT FOLLOW PICK UP LINES. NOT DOING WHAT PEOPLE TALK ABOUT PERSONALITY. BECAUSE I AM UNIQUE IN MYSELF. AND MY MIND OBSERVE PEOPLE IN REAL WORLD AND THAT'S HOW IT IS CREATED IN HUMAN. LIKE LEARNING AND RESPONSING.

[@akhtarlaghari8484]

Best

[@AmeenAhmed1105]

I often plan out conversations in my head that I end up never having in real life.

[@MelissaAnne312]

Ameen Ahmed I can totally relate to that!

[@Shayann1987]

So true lol

[@tantiwahopak101]

Yep that's me. 😅

[@alantinoalantonio]

Ditto

[@hazy92]

I feel you

[@anshroow]

I know I have bad social skills but what is sad is that KZbin knows it enough to recommend this too me. 😂

[@mightyobserver12]

So funny!!!

[@tribalmonkey7009]

Lmao same. But we're all gonna make it!

[@becki2002]

Arex0 omg same

[@michellehendrix7135]

Lol

[@bi_anca7554]

Arex0 omg me too😭😭

[@ajunicefor24h15]

I'm awkward. Honestly . I really don't know what to say to people. It's like my mind goes completely blank and it refuses to help. I don't have friends because I can't communicate easily. I actually like being by myself though. Makes me a good listener. But you know we need to get ourselves out there sometimes. So I decided on 4 simple steps: 1) open with a smile; 2)compliment people; 3)crack a joke here & there. 4) most importantly - L I S T E N This is literally to anyone I meet.

[@teresai1877]

Hi Aju, You can improve. I used to be terrible: either not talking at all (just smiling) or talking non stop. You just start little at a time. Say 1 or 2 things and then give them a chance to talk. Always keep it related and build off what the other person says. You: "Hey, ____, how is everything/how are you?" Other person: "Good thanks." You again: Ask them something depending on where this is/how you know them. If they're from work: So how's you're project going?/ What did you think of the meeting yesterday?/So what are you doing this weekend? Other person again: Now, it's their turn. Keep it going back and forth like a tennis match.

[@ajunicefor24h15]

@@teresai1877Thankyou so much!!

[@MooseBme]

General topics, hedlines, weather, clothes, cars... ;).

[@Amina-ok7hf]

I figured it's good when you throw some sweet and funny self-deprecating story. Like that time I bough a SIM card on black market and whenever my boss would call me he would reach a 13 yo in Oregon. Her parents thought he was a creep, and he stopped talking to me at work. I couldn't figure out that I could make calls, but not accept them, because of faulty SIM. They find you human :) and then it flows

[@blazeofficial6292]

I don't know if I have brain damage, or my mind just goes blank I legit don't even know... :/

[@dime192]

Most of us Introverts have a hard time communicating with others because we have insecurities about ourselves.

[@nematkashmiri7514]

It was great conversation .

[@dr.greenmm1501]

I like snorting mushed bananas

[@catherinemadison2175]

ITS 1 AM AND IM WHEEZING

[@evm6177]

Introversion is nothing, just get a PHD in nuclear physics to boost your confidence or say your an Architect.. Either way you have to be employed of course. 🍷😉

[@chucalissa9231]

I'm a introvert no problem.talking

[@dececanem]

It’s easy to start a conversation, the hard part is to keep it going

[@mariamk7828]

cavecanem fucking me

[@aleempervaiz8789]

cavecanem Read my comments carefully (above, on the top).

[@gmhenry14]

@@aleempervaiz8789 Keep moving your eyebrows up and down

[@aleempervaiz8789]

@@gmhenry14: Darwin was a confused person so he created chaos in human life. Adam/Eve story is simple, graceful, and easily understandable. Human beings spent a very short time on this globe and die. No need to indulge in such stupidities.

[@phoenixbluex]

Same. People start talking about stuff I know nothing about or have no interest in and I don't know what to say anymore.

[@Andrew-ig5sp]

*smile* *shoulders down and back* “Hi, How are you?” “I’m well, how are you?” “I’m well, thanks.” ..... ..... *runs away crying*

[@psalmonefortysixdottwo9512]

LOL

[@MelodyAMc14]

You forgot to finish with them saying "What just happened?"

[@nova136565]

OMG. This is exactly how it would go for me except instead of crying it would just turn into embarrassment because of the silence. Lol.

[@reddhawt2378]

Lol! Right!

[@nateanderson271]

Dude I’m crying!! 😭😂

[@ercielaguerder4570]

My mind is also making a conversation with me while I'm conversing with someone

[@hazelchief-rabbit5903]

Oh man, I do that too!

[@Sammasambuddha]

Medicinal Marijuana totally ends the noisy mind and those voices!

[@bradyrobertson23]

@@Sammasambuddha medical alcohol can help with quieting the mind also🙂

[@sladeo810]

I can't even have a conversation with myself!

[@user-yc5um2pl5v]

Shout "shut up" at him and continue your unique inner conversation! That's the most important thing! :)

[@amirulariffofficial8042]

1)intention 2)approach -body languange (smile, posture) 3)open line -hey, how are you? 4)look for mutual --> conversation sparks -eye brow raised 5) end -future plan --> wish the best of luck

[@fosibro4951]

Hey how's it working out for you?

[@k-yenma4956]

Thank youuu💙💙

[@staR-nh7wq]

Well once I asked someone “How are you?” And she said “Good how are you?” And I said back “I’m good how are you?” 😭 Edit: (someone in the comments asked what happened after that) She threw up and I’ve felt worthless and ashamed of myself ever since

[@asiimwejoweria2584]

hehe...it's coz u lack confidence..hihi

[@RSanchez93]

Welcome to my world lmao, im trying to better my people skills

[@staR-nh7wq]

asiimwe joweria YES! Glad you figured that one out.

[@anitavirginillo]

That's funny

[@kallansivparsad2765]

More than once for me 😂

[@DrErwinKwun]

Great video. Here is a summary of the tips from Vanessa: 1. Set your intention 2. Approach with open body language 3. Open with a smile 4. Aim for Sparks 5. Exit by referring to the future

[@markl.2299]

SuccessinsightsTV - How do you exit by referring to the future if it’s Monday, Tuesday or Wednesday? “So...have any plans for Tuesday?” 🤨

[@Heavy2deep]

Thank you

[@amysteriousdisease7168]

or could say like see you later

[@mikeyriley8959]

6. Don't stare at her tits

[@Stonefactor]

Comment should be pinned. Just needs the foot angle part summed up and added.

[@PaulaGUmeh]

"Smile is the opening line" We need a pandemic version of this 😭

[@dionysioskokkoris4340]

you can smile with your eyes as well

[@classygary]

Take the useless mask off always helps

[@classygary]

@@dionysioskokkoris4340 you can also take the useless mask off as well

[@cleabarlow8952]

Eyebrow raise

[@L490sr]

@@cleabarlow8952 the thing is..I’m always unconsciously glaring at people..well that’s what my sisters tell me

[@InkandCrystal]

1. Think of intention before a conversation 2. Body language: hands visible, shoulders down, smile 3. Best opening: "Hello how are you?" 4. Sparks: eyebrows raise 5. Best ending: "Hey what are you up to this weekend?" -> "It's so great to speak with you, I wish a best luck on ...." 6. Pivot out when available for people to approach 7. Sweet spot to find someone to talk: grab a drink and stand beside the snack place

[@e3ko889]

my conversation me: ''hi how are u '' random person: ''fine how are u'' me: ''good'' [awkward silence]

[@shon8175]

Hahaha same

[@mohitkerketta5176]

Then continue on , nice to meet you , Then ask what's they are upto . Then ask about weather and listen their answer , if they answer in 1 word then (it's a sign that they aren't interested in those questions much) . Then ask them bigger question , like , latest news or simply ask what do you like to do , Then when they say their likings , simply focus on things they like and ask them about that . Try this 😌

[@Sakshi-dn3xc]

@@mohitkerketta5176 OMG thank you! you just saved my life

[@mohitkerketta5176]

@@Sakshi-dn3xc just know to respect people spaces if they don't want to engage .

[@thiwankadeseram3576]

Ill be back

[@R4G397]

She's so good at speaking, so confident and no stuttering or long pauses.

[@aspire2begreat938]

Michael Jacob she is the GOAT

[@manisham.k6258]

Hi can you join me ? I'm looking for best speaker if u can plz

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Plz msg me

[@kushagrasonkar]

@@manisham.k6258 stop begging Indian dude or chick . Have some self respect and dignity

[@ceecee8757]

Yes, the lady in blue has been doing this for a long time. 🤣

[@dreammakergarage1133]

I picked up my wife with this line. Would you like some company. She said yes. It was a wrap from there. This was at work in the cafeteria. It took me a little bit to build up the courage to do that. Lol.

[@katcampbell9213]

I find the best conversations happen with people I have chemistry with. Its sadly a darn rare occurrence but lovely when it happens

[@conversationcorner1837]

So it is a numbers game.

[@queenestyzigi5020]

Introverts, gather here coz this tips will come in handy 😂

[@maritariziki7172]

Lol

[@mercyogunsan769]

You an introvert???

[@hoopla2671]

Extrovert here, actually I've been struggling to start conversations and even worse meaningful conversations.

[@ZealousWins]

IntroGang

[@eshavargh5065]

Yeah 😆

[@normapadro420]

Hello. I was listening to a neighbor that was talking to me and all of a sudden my phone rang. I didn't answer it. They said to answer it and I told them that I enjoy their conversation and that I enjoy listening to them. Usually robo calls interrupt, but I wanted the person that was talking to me to feel that their conversation was meaningful to me. It's called appreciation.

[@duendadelbosque]

That's an excellent advice and really nice to say tho

[@ryanowen3026]

Mums dying.... fk it ithink its a robo call To the neighbour “ good weather today “...

[@socb5642]

well depends on who is calling

[@HAHA-kk2xy]

❤

[@AR-rn8ok]

She forgot to mention our appearance as well. It’s easier to have a conversation with someone who is clean, smells, good, is well groomed, and has a nice style. For example this woman is gorgeous. Every guy in the room wants to chat with her.

[@nutalomzin5625]

I'm introvert but I try to be more sociable. I just feel like If I can do I will have a lot of friends, new knowledges I've never know before, new attitudes and etc..

[@alexlovesplants]

random but don't you think the name Vanessa fits her literally perfectly

[@jatinameta6048]

Yes you're right her Face+Hair = Vanessa

[@Black_pearl_adrift]

Some people you look at them and go... yeah that fits perfectly 🤣

[@naveene.c.5894]

Would you like to practice English with me pls.

[@ragnorfellandcantgetup3916]

It means butterfly

[@ravirao121]

Idk if u know but a name #Sunny fits yr profile pic as well

[@musicenjoyer]

There's no recipe for how to be attractive or confident. Just be comfortable with yourself and the rest will come by itself. Honestly, if you feel good with yourself you will never care about anyone's opinion, in a nice way. Find your Bliss people!

[@hninoowai1431]

I do agree

[@billiexxxmelanie2773]

Lmao i have been faking my personality to the point that idk who i am ✌😭

[@samsoOoma2009]

Absolutely 👍🏼

[@chimchimxchipi5854]

Your answer is helpful. I think. But then, I'm dumb enough to go ahead and ask how to be comfortable with myself? 😂

[@scooterlovya]

@@chimchimxchipi5854 I know

[@sacdaabdurhman]

“Leaders can let you fail and yet not let you be a failure.” Sharing some love from small KZbinr

[@Dashingdiva73]

I wish I was this smooth. I can only do this when I'm working but not socially.

[@azme9355]

You're very pretty

[@Kristina-zt2op]

The hard part comes after the Hey, how are ya 😂

[@paulchahal3095]

Have pre-planned answers for most occasions. We as humans love to connect with others. If still you have issues, put it on your Creator [as a Manufacturing Defect! LoL], you are not at fault for your mental-makeup or its perceived shortcomings, you excel some other areas!. Move on, life is too precious to be self-critical, laugh with world and world will laugh with you! -Blessings.

[@lorisiccia5914]

Yes agreed.. someone actually replying is a start....its not all on you. Im still trying to figure the art of conversation myself.. i am an introvert but still like to say simple hello to people in passing. The replies back are starting to be fewer these days. I say hi to everyone...i find older people or a dog lover wanting to stop to say hello to my dog are the only people who reply. If they dont reply... its probably some one i dont want to talk to anyway.

[@ethnicleanserberg7975]

@@paulchahal3095 "Manufacturing defect" hahahahahahah ! Thank you

[@gustavoalonso-moreno1251]

Just go with your gut. It's not difficult. It's all in your mind, really.

[@TimeKillerC]

The hard part is the hey how are you

[@VicZ582]

A really good and condensed 7min talk, I watched 4 times. Here are notes I took and hope it helps other people like me. • Set an intention for the conversation you want to get out of • Smile to people • What’s a good opening line? ◦ Start with simple greeting, like : “hey how are ya” don’t say something too intense. ◦ Complement are great second and third. • Look for conversation sparks, find the cues of engagement, e.g. eyebrow raised, so you know they are interested in the topic. Find mutual likes. • Ending a conversation ◦ Last impression is as important as the first impression ◦ shift to future-warding discussion ◦ Mention you are happy to chat and wish them best luck • Approaching people: look for open gesture, be open gesture / pivot out when you want to be approached • Get off your cellphone • Tip for when you have no one to talk to on a party: a sweet spot is at the exit of the food line, that’s where people just got food and have no one talk to, and you can use your opening line “hey how are you”

[@floridanativelh568]

Excellent synopsis 👍

[@ihatemyself.2443]

Thank you!

[@bt5887]

WOW! Thank you :)

[@gabriellacloiseau3007]

Thank you for that. Wishing you happy conversations 😊

[@orereo2328]

Thanks man

[@chuckbelow337]

Vision your outcome, work the q's, be at ease, be engaged, be genuine, be smart, work within their interest, set up for the later conversation. Makes total sense. Probably natural for extroverts. Much was brought to light here. Thanks

[@nz7780]

It’s easy to head toward the end of a convo politely, but sometimes it’s hard to not end the convo awkwardly or abruptly especially with someone who isn’t good at picking up on cues that the convo is fizzling out, time to go, or it’s been going on for forever, etc. But love the future question/mention technique!

[@mandydada4093]

me: wants to talk also me: wants to stop the endless convo without being rude

[@mizuuwu]

I RELATE SOOOO MUUUUUCH

[@vsatonthebeat4101]

like just like wtf this isn't funny so I prefer silence😂

[@walidbahhur8132]

During pandemic, “how are you?” “Backup 6 feet!”

[@fowzziabegum3397]

😬🏃‍♀️🤭

[@Fbabali]

Lmfao

[@darrenmcdermott3665]

Just hug them right away !

[@blakejames9743]

@Ferzzy It's a blessing in disguise. I've met a good amount of people that were desperately looking others to talk to that were not afraid to connect because of the virus. While I respect other people's decisions on their safety, I don't let them rule me. Some think I'm crazy, but most admire the bold stance.

[@100samanthamarie]

Riot police: •coughhh coughhh COUUGHHH* Peaceful protestors: 😱 🤢 back up 6 feet! Peaceful protestors who don’t accept bullshit: 🤜 👮🏽

[@IDontReadRepliesToComments]

"How to speak with ease and confidence" -Brought to you by an attractive person

[@paulineboucher7074]

I bet you are too , don’t be so hard on yourself. Talk to your self like someone you love 💕 I hope you find joy and peace ☮️

[@successzone2024]

Kind words ❤️❤️❤️

[@successzone2024]

Kind words ❤️❤️❤️

[@adhyapujari]

me watching a 7 min video expecting it to cure my lifelong problem 💀

[@trpyk5628]

The fact that I look up these kind of videos is pretty sad already.

[@aspire2begreat938]

Vanessa Van Edwards you are the G.O.A.T. I hope I meet you one day!!!!

[@aspire2begreat938]

Vanessa Van Edwards you are the G.O.A.T. I hope to meet you one day 🙏🏿

[@LuisaH2022]

Exactly. My grandmother hadn't have any problems to talk to waaay older people at her job or vacation. I didn't have any problems to talk to doctors and understand and being curious about my cold or how my heart beats. I could talk in English at 10 (English is not my native language) and be confident with my half American half UK language. I was confident to talk to my male colleagues about girl problems and periods and they were thankful because I prepared them to understand their future girlfriends, wives and daughters. Since I started university I changed into an emotionally abused depressive dog

[@magicmc23]

Trpy K dont worry. You are simply expanding your knowledge

[@lawrenceno6877]

Tell your mom

[@heathermurphy1065]

Yes, I always say “Hi, how are you?” And then judging by their response I know how to go from there. Body language is key.

[@oceankombas4235]

Yeah exactly

[@papichulotv727]

Heather Murphy where do you live

[@nonobuddie5018]

why i hate people, or is me? mwhahahaaaa

[@naveene.c.5894]

Would you like to practice English with me pls

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[@flightforlight157]

Makes so much sense never thought about these things lol the biggest thing for me is having the mindset to be open-minded

[@Nadia-18]

I should have seen this when I was at a outdoors bar! I felt like I was missing some cues but I realize now why! Thank you xx

[@reubenbroussard6955]

For those of you that are having trouble getting past the “Hey how are you?”, try not to focus on the conversation ending before it has even began. Instead, focus on the first step that Vanessa mentioned which is setting the intent. Even ask about their hobbies or work. Whatever they’re answer, dig further into that and ask questions about it as though you will be attempting it soon. I personally love being able to gain a new perspective in such a short amount of time simply through another’s words.

[@vikramjangam]

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[@beverleyroberts1025]

The Spanish are so good at saying good morning or good day to total strangers that they pass in the street. It can totally brighten your day when total stranger says this to you.😄

[@lorisiccia5914]

Ive been trying to do this for past few years...because it can really turn someones day around...not because it was from me.. just someone in general. Hello...with a smile.... but finding more often than not people just give me a weird side look or keep going.. only a few reply back.. Its just a hello or good morning...or just morning... Its not askin someone for coffee ... Why are people so weird on replying back...ok it might not be a good morning for them...its not always a good morning for me either especially when someone just walks by.... People could just do anything even a grunt or nod or smile. Or a simple wave. Im trying to figure out why people have stopped saying hello. It does the opposite effect when you say hello to 15 people snd not one says hello back...then 16 says nice day out isnt it? Yes.. its beautiful out... or yes...enjoy your walk.feel bad ehen no one replies And it somehow makes the day better having a reply back...

[@Bbydoll90]

Hola señor🙋‍♀️🙋‍♀️

[@ARichardP]

Easier, yes. But it’s not true that many average-looking people aren’t good conversationalists. They work at it longer and harder and don’t waste time blaming and complaining.

[@dmonk926]

who would do that in a city where you pass 5 people every second? that would seem kinda crazy to me. i do see people select a few random people out of the crowd to say hello or good day to

[@robink5433]

Beverley Roberts Gracias

[@GiovannaElias-CONNECTIONCODE]

"Your smile is your opening line..." Yes, exactly. I teach my clients that non-verbal cues are just as powerful as verbal cues. They have the power to make all the difference when it comes to communicating and connecting with people.

[@emilioalvarado3487]

Great tips! I'm going to try them at my job, specially the opened position when three people are talking to each other.

[@ericafarley2850]

I'm an introvert & shy & have been wanting to expanding my circle of influence. This really brings clarity on just how to start talking to people.

[@AkhirahOverDunya85]

Same here....good luck :)

[@popbroke3505]

Introverted the way to go

[@fatimasamira3695]

Erica Farley Same here. Venessa is the savior when it comes to socializing.

[@biancadanielhnc3576]

You. Most be. A. Star. you have it 500000$%.

[@AZ_TONY]

Read "how to win friends and influence people" and learn how to meditate trust me, I grew up very shy and introverted my entire life but I knew that I had this desire to get my message out into the world so I realized i had to learn not only how to talk to people but also how to influence a certain outcome that I desired, this can be used for both good and evil so use this information wisely, being around people often drained the life out of me and given that English was not my 1st language the idea of trying to start a conversation with someone made me want to crawl into a hole and disappear, so what I did is I forced myself into a situation where my survival depended on my ability to communicate with people and I picked up a commission only sales job, needless to say it took me a while but i got very well st what i did and after the years of education I can boil down the majority of my "success" to those 2 principles, learn and understand people, learn how to get people to like you, and learn how to meditate especially if you're an introvert so that you won't be drained after interacting with people, that's what meditation did for me it taught me how to preserve my energy and taught me how to use my energy to do what I want it to do when I want it to do it without exhausting myself, I use the meditation app called headspace but I think there are other free ones, now I'm working on a book that I am writing, a dream that I've always had, and am looking to do public speaking and starting a KZbin channel to promote my books and ideas, something i never thought would be possible for me given my upbringing. Anyways I hope this helped.

[@orlandofranconovesterasjr.5548]

The foundation of the person who you are and the conversations that you have with other people is determined by the behavioural patterns that you saw when you were young, what other people made you felt and especially from your parents growing up. Break the pattern and love yourself, you are great and what ever you have to say and think is unique and every one will appreciate what you say. It starts with loving yourself, accepting and knowing that you are overall great just as you are. Then eventually you'll love yourself more to improve everything about how you communicate. What this video is missing is that you need to trully love and respect yourself in order to have great conversations with other people. The negative conversations you have yourself and the thoughts you have in your head is what's stopping you from having awesome and freeflowing conversations with people.

[@conversationcorner1837]

There are actual behaviors that people display that turns other people off. These bad behaviors needed to be iron out (For example, giving unsolicited advice under the belief that you're being honest/blunt). That's why there's a market for learning social skills.

[@BrownWoman1011]

​@Bigfriendly1570 Sounds like Adhd My son has it, and he had the same issues.

[@minhyuksssmile]

@@Bigfriendly1570 me too i get distracted easily and i cant pay attention to stuff anymore like i used too but its ok i hope you have goodluck

[@supplychainsants]

Awsome explanations: Intension, Approach, Opener, Sparks, Body Language, Start of Conversation, Interest and Exits. You have explained the things in a simple way. 👍💫

[@ebutuoy6701]

Everything you said makes perfect sense! If only I was able (or willing) to do it… 😅 thank you for all these great tips.

[@anewloveofficial9137]

I really need your amazing tips on how to have a conversation with anyone because I'm not that really good in talking to people I just met. Your advice is just right for me and I hope I can apply it someday for business and social purposes.

[@jordanrichards320]

I really like how simple but simultaneously novel your tips are. Asking "how are you", open body language, and equal importance on 1st and last impressions. I will definitely be trying this formula out soon! Thank you!

[@meganahart1526]

What an amazing video! Using this on my company business review this week. Vanessa you're such an inspiration!

[@ericlawrence4716]

Great advice Vanessa, I am using a few of those tips. Thank you for the valuable content found in all of your interviews. You are making a difference, Keep up the great work!

[@discorabbit]

Water running in a stream has no plan. Yet it flows harmoniously, not resisting. So it is with conversation.

[@KamranKhan-lo2ev]

Q.Hey hello how are you? A. I have a boyfriend

[@TrinSquared2]

Kamran Khan 😂😂😂

[@lorisiccia5914]

I ve said hi how are you.. or just the hi.... and the zombie walk right past... nothin..no hello no grunt no nod. Icome from a small town where evem strangers say hello in passing... or at minimum a smile or nod.. even a shrug Ok.... cool good chat. Zombies.. everywhere. Its the first word we learn besides mamma or daddy.... yet people have stopped saying a simple hello. Some might say hello if i have my dog with me. But even then sometimes another person with a dog... the dog is more friendly than the person. Have people lost their basic hello or hi? Like a hello or a hi means something more. Dont worry ive had that same answer Hi.... I have a gf / bf Ok...Im not lookin.. im just saying hi!

[@heinzkitzvelvet]

Kamran Khan Your best response in that situation should be "So do I" and then laugh your ass off. If she laughs, you're in. You can then strike up a conversation. 1. She didn't expect that response and it throws her off her game and crashes thru her bitch walls. So she's immediately intrigued and entertained. 2. For the moment, she thinks you're gay so the flight or fight response is immediately removed. 3. You've made her laugh, you've crashed right thru her guard walls and you've taken away the threat of just some random guy hitting on her. If you're comfortable with yourself you can play up the gay angle and get really lispy and queenish and talk about how fabulous her make up or nail colour or outfit or whatever you like, is. Chicks CANNOT resist a guy who can play the moment like that. She'll be puddy in your hands. And even if you bomb, just laugh at yourself and tell her how much of a jackass you are and apologize for waisting her time. Begin to walk away and she'll BEG you to stay and talk to her more.

[@juliusp147]

😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@maryamnadeem6792]

ssooooo cuteee

[@mr.shihab4089]

The best teacher of how to be a better person that I feel happy and enjoying her videos. ✨💌

[@publicspeakingbasics]

The next generation needs this more than anything - we don't get enough practice due to all our tech & social media. Kudos for sharing your insights!

[@cocainegame95]

I raise my eyebrows to pretend I'm listening...

[@andreas.9175]

3:57 Or you can just pluck your eyebrows so it looks like you're always super engaged and listening.

[@royal9517]

@@andreas.9175 Lmao !!

[@werightnow]

Be fake....is what this gals sayin

[@reddhawt2378]

And then my energy depleats from exerting it on being fake. Unless I am genuinely interested 😊

[@latonyadundas7917]

😁😁

[@brose-bg3ks]

Me, finally walks up to my crush: Me: “Hey, how are you?” Him: “Great! I just asked my crush out and she said ‘yes’.” Me: “that’s great...🙃

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[@socb5642]

😂😂😂😂😂😞😞😞

[@bernard4realz]

Really loved the tips especially the part about changing minds to the future before you leave a conversation, only God knows how many times I've ended a conversation with a really awkward tone

[@zuhamalik7686]

Saw this video 4 years back when I started university. Now graduated and starting my career, I am back here to tell you that IT WORKS!! I am an extreme introvert and I made alot of freinds. And if not freinds but have build this capacity to talk to people.

[@ScienceOfPeople]

That's amazing!

[@karanchoudhury3935]

Someone: Hey, how are you? Me: Alive Unfortunately.

[@Wavy_blade]

Kwaisy :D you sound like an interesting person to talk to

[@oxforddictonary]

Legit. Depression makes me not wanna talk to anyone period. Just let me do my job and go home at 5 pm. Pllllleeeeease. #SmallTalkIsPainful

[@rickybobby9840]

😂😂😂

[@areusi2221]

Relatable

[@ketodiet5766]

Damn

[@DEVIL3333333]

Vanessa, I just gotta say, you absolutely nailed this one, this video is absolutely amazing and invaluable, I've read so much psychology and pickup material and they all touch upon little bits and bobs but you read one book to only get 1 point that really matters out of all of the main essential ones you mentioned. Thank You so much! and Keep doing what you are doing as this is amazing.

[@ephraimrubongoya5458]

This video is a gem!!! I already feel like a conversation master. Thank you Vanessa!!

[@paulinjosepha2336]

i can't believe some people still dislike this informative, interesting, and well done video ? She is trying to help us to get better.

[@milestrombley1466]

Having a mindset of knowing what you want to talk about is good.

[@yokimb.7494]

Thanks! I'm having an interview soon and your tips have been immensely helpful.

[@aadeshadvilkar8495]

I really appreciate the work that you are doing. Whatever the rudimentary tips you've mentioned nobody even think of it. Actually these are mundane things which we have to look at.actually most of the people end up with devastated impression. But because of you I understood how to indulge in a conversation. Thank you so much for that

[@DarshanTradeTalk]

I love the host clearing all the point and putting valid point..🙌

[@DragnBludthrsty]

Ending conversations politely has always been tricky; thanks for the tip.

[@keamomatlala8517]

My anxiety is peaking just thinking about implementing her advice💀

[@phoenixflamessurround]

lol I hear you

[@ivel17]

Same bro

[@krispysback]

She is so beautiful she could talk to me about anything anytime she wants

[@GlimmerOfLight]

Start simple

[@preciousjoiner2447]

God same

[@MichaelSmith-rb2yb]

Thanks, I probably learned more about approaching and talking to people from my marketing director than anyone else, but this really helps. I will check out more of your videos in the future.

[@jordonschneider8777]

How to Talk to Anyone with Ease and Confidence Step 1- walk up to anyone and make noises with your mouth Step 2- repeat step 1

[@gokharol]

DUUUUR HUUR HU DUURGH MMMMMMMMMM I LIKE GRAYONS

[@lohetbalaji4050]

I am Groot She: nice to meet u Me:I am Groot

[@billiexxxmelanie2773]

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[@adnansiddiqui1501]

Hello

[@Mohammed-jg8gz]

Mooooog taaaaaay oooooooom

[@d.e.t4147]

I was a bartender for years in a former life and I feel working in the night life industry really taught me a lot about how to communicate with, and read people. Most, if not all, of what I learned is intuition so learning some science backed skills is very helpful. Thank you.

[@conversationcorner1837]

Anything specific you could share ?

[@punithck615]

I like this conversations and tips. Here the talk and tips are clear and easy to understand. Conversion is well focused on the topic.

[@USMC_BABE38]

This is so helpful especially when I suffer from social anxiety and I struggle to be able to talk to others without anxiety in my voice

[@dogan6070]

I start talking to random people. After a few mins. I run out of words. I just fart to get the conversion more interesting.

[@gokharol]

oh you win lol :D

[@vsatonthebeat4101]

if you do this you are the mvp of social skills

[@cesarrosasanchez1822]

@@vsatonthebeat4101 y

[@dutchindo2k600]

@@cesarrosasanchez1822 it’s an Alfa male move

[@nomjko]

I always say " sounds good " to end a conversation 😂

[@SharifD-PaletteAnArtdsb]

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[@DrJones-nh4my]

Sounds good to me too

[@arinolaokusi9617]

Thanks for this Vanessa. You're the first vlogger I think of whenever k have a presentation and I'm nervous about it. I had a virtual presentation last week that got me really nervous. I came running to your video - something on giving the best presentation - and I acedddddddd the presentation. Thanks Vanessa.

[@b-borg8942]

Hi, @Vanessa Van Edwards, and everyone for sure! Thank you so much for these awesome videos. Those tips look just so great then I will use them as much as I could for the rest of my life.

[@bronsonmcdonald5473]

I really enjoyed learning about the body language. I didn't realize I might have been sending out a message of being less approachable than I intended. I have had alot of social anxiety in the past, still have some but I am much better now. I was going out last week for dinner with some folks I used to work with and I was really looking forward to it, but still had to get myself 'psyched up' for it. I did 2 things: I set my intention of having some great fun and laughs, and to be my genuine self. The other thing was that I had 1 question in mind for each person to ask. Night went great!

[@joliosalinas761]

3:28 even the fly liked her when she said " Hi how are you " lol

[@asimwaqar9190]

IT Was just The loveliest way for an excellent conversation with any one in the world

[@Maiiizz]

I can finally talk to my family thank you so much for teaching me

[@boludo1818]

Great advice! Love your approach to conversation starters. Simple, rational, and easy going! Thanks

[@Meechl]

WOW! I'm terrible with job interviews and this video has come at the right time for me. I'm going to take your free course on personal development and influence, because it's just what I need.

[@jameshofheins4612]

How did it go?

[@th3p00r5]

Meechl < same here. I still can't answer "what is your strength?"

[@deanjohnson6722]

Good morning, Vanessa. I’ve just bought, and am half way through “Cues.” I’m loving it. I saw you on “ The School of Greatness”, and immediately sent for your book. Thank you for writing it. It’s very helpful. I am a new widow ( almost two years), and these cues are very helpful for getting out. I’m on the road to enjoying life again.

[@ScienceOfPeople]

I'm so glad you're here, thank you so much for the support, & I'm so glad to hear the book helped in some way! =) to your success

[@Yellow-Rose]

good stuff, vanessa! this would help people who are awkward but don't mean to be. my brother is so painfully shy, so he would benefit from this. thanks.

[@chiaram1048]

I always feel like I'm the worst at conversations lol

[@raxitlakhatariya5915]

hello how are you

[@raxitlakhatariya5915]

Now i get it u dont even reply my how r u, U must be very bad at conversation XD😄

[@orlandofranconovesterasjr.5548]

Because that's the pattern that you saw, what other people made you felt and especially from your parents growing up. Break the pattern and love yourself, you are great and what ever you have to say and think is unique and every one will appreciate what you say. It starts with loving yourself, accepting and knowing that you are overall great. Then eventually you'll love yourself more to improve everything about how you communicate. What this video is missing is that you need to trully love and respect yourself in order to have great conversations with other people. The negative conversations you have yourself and the thoughts you have in your head is what's stopping you from having awesome and freeflowing conversations with people.

[@naveene.c.5894]

Would you like to practice English with me pls

[@raxitlakhatariya5915]

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[@marthaclayton2457]

I did call colds in my job for about 12 years. I remember it was so hard and scary to approach to people I didn't know. Now, no one can't stop me🤣🤣🤣like Bob proctor says. You learn by repetition until all becomes naturally

[@fahedsaleem4659]

I really appreciate, your work is tremendously good. Only a trivial attention on your notes would excel us in Dailt life drastically. Stay blessed veenaasa

[@michaelmota4602]

*with a smile* "Hey, what's up?" or "Hey, how's it going?". Keeping it simple with a smile and confidence is 100% the best approach.

[@joerosenbaum]

I love all your tips, I've needed this for decades. Thanks so much!

[@3lli3174]

Found out about you recently and I am hooked!! I love that you call yourself a recovering awkward person because that is exactly where I am thanks to your videos. I can't wait to get your new book

[@ScienceOfPeople]

So glad you are here! ❤

[@jetsetwithjess8752]

I feel like making conversations is all about Common interest! Such a good video. Love this!

[@Ya_0_-x]

Me sees cute girl at party: Me: How dress are you cute?

[@Max-fx5fs]

LMAOOOOO bro I would have to restart the conversation and walk back like I'm a whole different person

[@kevingalang9831]

Do have your stupid

[@billiexxxmelanie2773]

@@kevingalang9831 u do not smartness? yes thanks

[@getcomfortable3373]

That would be perfect 👌🏻 that way when you go to restart the conversation you’ve built that relaxed atmosphere. Instantly get someone laughing is the best start 😊 I would love that!

[@leowong2613]

He is speaking the language of gods

[@troutt99]

I love people and I love the science of people. I really love listening to you, Vanessa Van Edwards! You are helping me to be the best version of myself.

[@vivekdahiya9297]

Really impressed by her personality and knowledge 👍

[@AHMEDSAYED-yd4fy]

That’s right way to understand anybody and use appropriate action .

[@aileenalegria3878]

Exactly

[@GenXGal]

Love the channel and the tips! I’ve always just meander and see where the energy and natural conversations take me. But a more intentional and thoughtful approach sounds even better! Storing up knowledge for post covid/back to normal world :)

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[@unitedsquadbasketball6769]

Great video and tips. I’m an introvert but teach on health. I found this useful to improve my conversational skills. Thanks. New subscriber!

[@KKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKK868]

Amei essa conversa!! Ótima, para praticar meu LISTENING!!!

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[@coachmariapontes4770]

Thanks for your amazing inputs for striking conversations ❤️

[@dawnmullen4348]

pauses, lulls, and silence are not BAD.