#1 Love Expert: "Men Who Cheat Always Do THIS..." - Signs He Doesn't Actually Love You | Matt Hussey

[@LisaBilyeu]

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[@agentkproductions08]

@@LisaBilyeu the disappointment in your community 😅 we would all meet you for coffee!

[@jessiejohnson1208]

I used to be scared of being alone, but now I'm scared of spending the rest of my life with the wrong person.

[@NatavanQuliyeva]

❤

[@RachelSings21]

THIS!!!! So much this!

[@donnajeffreys8252]

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[@karenrotunno8137]

ME TOO!! But kind of lonely...

[@karenrotunno8137]

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[@Steph26Tej]

I dont need red flags. In my past relationships I could just feel they were cheating and I was right every time. Its like a withdrawal of energy, as a woman you know what’s up. Trust your gut feeling

[@FiatVoluntasTua888]

100%… everytime.

[@amandathemystic1828]

A withdrawal of energy, you nailed it 👍

[@walidmariam9333]

How did u find out? Did they tell u after a while?

[@sameus11maximus]

Yup. They just lose interest in you. Old news. They are eternally bored with their “toys”.

[@emilyhurst4829]

Yep! Mine is cheating on me right now, as we speak!

[@mzblu-cj9fd]

When I discovered my ex-husband cheating, my brother said I should consider it an act of war and proceed accordingly. I fought that a long time, I rationalized it, empathized, tried to "save" the marriage, until I was nearly completely crushed. So, take it from someone who needlessly suffered and barely survived it -- cheating is like Pearl Harbor or 9/11. You didn't expect the attack, but you damn well better get off your sad a$$, face it for what it is, and fight. The sooner you do that, the better you'll fare. Defending yourself, defeating the enemy, raizing the rubble, and rebuilding on new ground are your only chance of having any kind of life again.

[@Kashmir-lt4cx]

@Crystal awww that sucks! 😭 Did you divorce?

[@kaylees1072]

I wish I would have heard your brother's advice upfront. I stayed a year longer in a complete hell with a man who became more abusive after betrayal. My brother, who I didn't grow up with, was able to convince to leave a year later in 1 conversation.

[@t.m.6579]

Wow, I got ghosted and blocked after being uses mentally and physically. I can imply the advice also and I an so thankful to read it today. 🙂‍↕️

[@CeeGusts_49Waves]

At 4:20 … “when we find that NONE of OUR needs are being met; and we’re just living “in service” to the other person…” SO, SOooo PAINFULLY true!!!

[@leegalloway9508]

true and I think this is what causes a lot of the cheating that goes on. people don't know how to ask for their needs to be met. women automatically think , he should know what my needs are, men think, she just doesn't want to give me my needs and don't know how to ask for them. kinda like they're supposed to take what they get. in most relationships the women are in charge of it anyway, mostly holding the key to sex. we have sex when she's in the mood, if i'm a good boy , she'll reward me with sex etc, so they don't feel they have a right to even ask if they even know what it is they need in the first place.

[@nancylove9698]

This easily happens to people who are accustomed to caring for themselves and rarely being reciprocated. Men are typically used to “good” and giving women because we’re taught how to love others and be nurturing. Men are taught to hide or crush depression and never to ask for emotional help so they find it hard to be givers. They must learn how to be vulnerable and to love. If they don’t, they may spend a lifetime chasing a new partner or settle for anyone who makes them feel good.

[@kittyroars8758]

Matthew looked very emotional and tearful when talking about cheating and regrets. He obviously has experienced this, himself.

[@ELvis348]

I clearly know it’s not my fault for not seeing “red flags”…what boggles me is how someone can be so conniving cold and calculated

[@cubicqe]

True............. they are so good it's hard to see through it.

[@Priya_the_princess]

No its not our fault that we trust

[@cubicqe]

@@Priya_the_princess Ultimately it's our fault indeed

[@RivalsAqua]

The Devil comes to steal kill and destroy. This behavior is demonic

[@Kashmir-lt4cx]

@ELvis a narc!

[@alwaysstraitup]

There is no accidental cheating.

[@JaneM925]

Brilliant

[@sgayle6689]

Yes. Starting about 30:00 mins, A lot of us are finding his ramblings VERY DIFFICULT to listen to. This stuff about just having an accidental 'lapse' in character. . . And having sex with another person, in spite of being in some kind of COMMITTED relationship to the one you're already with. . . . Just doesn't necessarily fit with our own life evidence that we COULDN'T have sex with someone else, just on the spur of the moment. NO WAY ! !

[@elizabethfarley8678]

Losing yourself and having them not care. I totally get that

[@karenlindley.9756]

I think we know, most of the time, but choose to ignore the red flags….for whatever reason. But there are really good manipulators or narcissists that just mess your mind up. If you don’t trust them…..I’d tell married or people in relationships to go on Tinder or dating apps to see if their partner is on there. I’d say 99% of guys on there are married or have a partner …..but they all lie. Pretty sad state of affairs.

[@TP-jt2cm]

Some women are cheated on precisely because they are so perfect. If they are so unfortunate as to date a narcissist , he will want to let her know that he can get any other beautiful woman he wants. Then cheating serves kind of a power demonstration. More often than not, cheating is an ego think and not a love issue.

[@Harsha-D311]

No coz men r polyagamous They want to sleep with all

[@beatricefrimpong4155]

People cheat because they wanted to... No one should be blamed for it.

[@susanjones8667]

how would you like it the other way around? you, for sure would not!

[@trishgoldup8726]

You are so spot on. Cheating has nothing to do with love. There's something lacking deep inside a person who cheats, it's never the fault of anyone else. I was that perfect partner. He knew that. He didn't value himself enough to respect and honour what we had. Ultimately he wanted more but ended up with less

[@djcleary-l8q]

I trusted my husband of 24 years 100%, I didn’t know he was cheating until he left and said he wanted a divorce. I was blindsided. It’s been 3 years, since he up and left. I recognize things now, however I trusted him and our commitment to one another

[@Priya_the_princess]

We need more men like mathew❤

[@nadinetchaho2618]

He is very insightful. He doesn’t excuse behaviours but shine light to what is really wrong. He spend a lot of time meditating on the righteous way for humanity Very profound

[@LeonardEarnshaw]

Great video, there is nothing like a perfect marriage or relationship. What works for Adam might not work for peter. I However learnt that in everything there is always a solution, 5 years ago my wife and I were on the brink of a divorce because we were having some difficulties in our marriage but we are back together ,it was a really bad phase but we got through it.

[@BruceKnapp-n4q]

there is a lot of sense in what you just said and I hope mine works the same way too, we are currently separated but I cant live without her, I love her so much. wish I can get her back I can do anything to have her back, we have tried therapy amongst other things

[@LeonardEarnshaw]

its always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is Suzanne Ann Walters

[@BruceKnapp-n4q]

I will look her up. I hope this works for me too, I really miss her

[@LeonardEarnshaw]

You definitely should. You wont regret it

[@huesti]

Scammer. Already reported

[@carmentorres-d9g]

Men cheating is most of the time about variety, risk, a different kind of sex, their sexual confidence. They cheat because they decide to do, some men don't.

[@cubicqe]

They simply want to stroke their ego, power, they want what they want & will do anything to achieve it.....even risking their life. That's why you will see the emperor ending up destroying his entire empire for it.

[@nadinetchaho2618]

even though they cheat, they are never happy. Let’s not forget. Happiness is an inside job

[@JaneThatcher89]

Who told you that?

[@Harsha-D311]

Men r polyagamous If only someone told me this at 13 Men want to sleep with all

[@Kashmir-lt4cx]

@user then why drag a gf or wife through that? Be single and have sex with everyone no? And they say males are logical! 🙄

[@Heartofgoldhandsarecold]

I found myself crying like a baby 😊 because Matt touched on so many things I've struggled with for 8 years. I just tell people I'm soul tired. They don't get it anyway. I love this show. Thank you for creating this set and guest.

[@LittleBlueFeather-bq8fl]

Soul Tired. You said it perfectly. I wish you the best.

[@crystalclarity4318]

THANK YOU. This is validating. when you catch the one you love cheating on you and you suffer the betrayal and the crushing of self esteem only for them to deny, play it off, dismiss the severity of their betrayal etc and defiling the sacred bond I held to be just that. Sacred. I have stood in my standards even in past relationships when the temptation to cheat on someone who wasn’t good to me at all. I am proud of my moral compass and feel strong in my steadfast loyalty. I know it’s rare.

[@jessicam3707]

I love the way that you handled this, Matt. So many decent guys aren’t aware of just how good other guys can be at lying. And the fact that the responsibility was put on the cheater, and the immediate response wasn’t about how any guy can cheat if the relationship isn’t good enough, etc. Thank you for this.

[@bumblebee_ms]

Growing up as a dolphin doing backflips for love was not love, it was abuse. Love you both.

[@heyli7]

There is no excuse for cheating … you did it it’s done! Your moral and loyalty is not there. Exit stage left .

[@karuzelastudio7858]

No regarets, ha?

[@4everJung]

I call a nice guy a good guy instead. Good guys are kind and respectful, but they also know their worth and practice assertiveness.

[@sherlynpatterson4304]

A good guy is the true definition of a gentleman. They know when to be fun, soft and caring but also knows the correct moments to be the aggressive mean guy to protect his family from the outside world without breaking the ten commandments.

[@t.square]

I’m rhe type of person who keeps being torn with holding on to hope for the other person or leaving because there never going to reciprocate the love they are receiving from me. I’m torn between if I’m being too needy or am I disrespecting my own boundaries by trying to be so understanding towards my partner. And I’m scared cause once I’m completely done with you in my head and heart. There is no return and that’s a hard grief to accept

[@Poppya2024]

I also played that exact scenario in my head for 25 yrs. Sadly to find my husband cheated and now at 65 I'm alone. Move on while you still can as it's so much harder when you're older. Trust yourself and what they make you feel.

[@Daniellemarie10]

Yes, it's extremely hard. I'm going through something very similar it feels like your head and your heart are competing. I know I need to walk away. I'm just not sure I've learned all the lessons and I don't want to repeat the same scenario I know what I deserve and I know what a healthy relationship looks like so maybe I need to take the focus off of him and focus on me and have the healthiest relationship with myself ❤

[@angelahenderson6129]

2 years on from him being exposed on social media as an adulterer, finally beginning to heal. Ive been through every part of what Matthew describes. Almost mirrored my own experience of everything infidelity trauma caused. Sadly, ive realised that after 35 years together, he cant offer me the level of safety needed to continue in our marriage. Its been a journey i wouldn't wish on anyone else.

[@erikahyman8611]

This episode was amazing! The wisdom, the wording, the explaining. I wish everyone could watch it.❤️

[@christinamichellephotograp8728]

Him with his inner child.... crying. That is beautiful. That ball of pain... amazing, I've experienced this!

[@sasha20232]

For me his cheating was like shackles were unlocked but then I threw up because he was inside my body when he was also in hers...just gross...

[@nosceteipsum6742]

Because you werent able to make an informed decision and truly consent since your partner with held the information so you were actually s3xually assaulted...on some level people know they were.. but they cant explain it because they werent r@ped...but s3x was taken from you without you being able to truly consent since you wouldnt have consented to s3x had you known about the cheating....

[@KarenPalmer-py7qn]

So sad and so relatable

[@sasha20232]

@@KarenPalmer-py7qn I am so sorry you also had to experience that feeling... it is absolutely gross they can't communicate and just say hey I want to go have sex with xyz ...I would be like: Thank you have a wonderful life... because then I would be safe and would of never got HPV and then cervical cancer with stage 3 diagnosis...

[@lynnlee4079]

Thank you, Lisa, for the support and love you give the world. A message to Matt .... you made me cry to a wound, I thought only I had in silence (by myself). However, with those tears, I cried today, has helped me so heal that deep wound. Matt, thank you for your kindness you give the world. May God bless you all.

[@Eskit749]

I'm a woman, one of many from what I can tell online, who only has a therapist to talk to about that stuff 1x every other week. Abuse isolates & many were forcibly silenced. I have empathy for the men & I also think it's a humanity issue. I'm so glad these two are talking about it & teaching solutions. Having the conversations is how the revolution begins❤️

[@HavenHair-ks9yk]

This is the best episode Ive watched .. I’ve figured this out before I watched this “ be happy enough” .. then you create your own magic and can take risks “50% of what you missed is you “” brilliant ! We do bring the magic .. ❤😂

[@kirstenkreativ3078]

WOW! What an incredibly profound, deeply touching conversation. I teared up, when Matthew became very, very woulnerable talking of his difficult life in awful pain and deep depression. I know deep levels of this myself from a long life with Polio paralasys, several dead, newborn children, divorces and much more, but I have a good life never the less, and I seem to be a magnet for people in very difficult life circumstances. Thankyou both of you for your honesty, compassion and woulnerability. You are both wonderfull hosts for your own shows and almost magical together ❤❤

[@rociorobles3835]

Woke up to his voice and this video in the middle of the night, as I am dealing with a break up the pain on his voice when he said “how do I kill the desire to find love” it hurt to my core because I have prayed to have this taken Away from me as well.. 😢 I don’t understand why if I do everything possible to reach this dream , people keep taking you for granted…

[@KarenPalmer-py7qn]

Lisa your interviews are life changing, eye opening, empowering I hope you know that. You are doing Gods work with women.

[@angiesmither5373]

I think this talk with Matthew Hussey is the best conversation I’ve heard around love and self love. He is so relatable and has a way of saying things that break down our feelings and actions like no one has described them before. He is definitely gifted❤

[@gc2137]

For me, I sense that he may be cheating. I've questioned it but he stonewalls - doesn't confirm or deny. I'm leaving gradually because there's a friendship component I don't want to lose. I also don't want to return to promiscuity, which can happen because I have high sexual energy. I'm immersing in self development and my spirituality and not see our relationship as the most important part of my life.

[@cubicqe]

LEAVE HIM !! STOP SLEEPING WITH HIM PLEASE !!! Stay clean, stay away from STDs. Go for a spiritual journey, do yoga, do meditation, find someone calm indoor type person who also love meditation & a good soul. Find someone who is calm, articulated, knowledgeable who never waste time on worthless things & people.

[@Whitepilledprincess]

Some friend lol.... My friends wouldn't lie and put my health and sanity in danger. You are rationalizing

[@gc2137]

So agree and appreciate the candor. Matt's #5 reason I stsy is spot on. When it's good it feels great - a great that I've never experienced and that I feel I need right now because other aspects of my life aren't great. Detoxing is critical and thankfully I'm on that path.

[@KiKi-te9yd]

How much of a friend is he, if he is cheating?

[@CasualViewer768]

I felt this episode deep inside my heart and soul… From the bottom of my bruised, battered and broken heart: THANK YOU SO MUCH, to both Lisa and Matthew for bringing this conversation to us!! Serendipitously timed for my healing journey ❤

[@JustMeNow-jMn]

I had always been described by my family and friends as happy. The "happy" wasn't attached to someone, money or any life achievements. All l always wanted was to share my happiness (the way l lived) with someone. I married a foreigner that l brought to this country because I had an abundance of happiness and joy to share. He wasn't a random pick and I didn't marry him without a 2 year relationship in which l have observed him well enough to finally say "l do". After 5 years in this country and 7 years relationship he told me "he wasn't happy" and he wanted out. Soon aftee he went on the shopping spree to buy his house and expensive car and now he bearly makes the end meet. We are divorced but after a heartbreak I am thankful to be back to being a happy enough and l know that he is not, even with his new possessions.

[@Redford444]

Excellent! I’m crying. How does one kill the desire. My Heart is wrenched

[@sonjag.8686]

Fear of success: I believe it depends on how somebody’s is broad up!! If you have been told be humble, than too much success even more success than your parents, narcissist or not, can lead to the fear of success! It(the argument or statement) gets even stronger when your mentor’s don’t believe in them selfs…✌🏻

[@jayl1712]

Protect this man at all costs. I needed to hear his wisdom today. ❤ thanks you Lisa.

[@falconandthemoon]

Thank you, Matt! I just can’t thank you enough. ❤ You’ve put an end to the gaslighting and the derisive dismissal of that sense of being in a rush that so many women feel! And how validating it was to hear your profound empathy for women who have not been able to find someone! Mind blown!

[@nadinetchaho2618]

Wow Happy enough is A Super-Power. A foundational life balance of your personal management. A real equilibrium in trust of self and sustainability. You can do alone or with others. But happy enough to know that you cannot be shaken from the Self-esteem and confidence in navigating life enough to know in faith that you will be alright That’s Power 💯

[@christinamichellephotograp8728]

breathtaking insight. Thank you. "how do I kill the desire ..." That was such a sad moment and that is where I am. This gives me hope that there is a path out.

[@Kashmir-lt4cx]

@1:30:00-1:33:00 gotta see past your pain and tube into your magic, your power!

[@agentkproductions08]

It's 2.5 hrs... Could someone just tell us The Signs Men Give Before Cheating? 🙏

[@sgayle6689]

I'm one hour in, and I haven't heard it yet. HOW MUCH longer ? ? . . . Ha !

[@agentkproductions08]

@@sgayle6689 You are our hope! Stay strong, watch on, maybe on increased speed, and if you make it through, and back, return with hidden knowledge!

[@LG-lr1up]

Just watched "Fatal Attraction" on TV, this is where cheating or sleeping around sometimes leads!

[@kromide3d]

1:25:00 - I have been in that place for more than a decade. Thank you for saying this issue so beautifully. Not even my closest friends can understand the pain I am feeling.

[@yarabia]

I got to say that I was afraid of everything that you say. Only to find out, that finally, how I am now - is happy. No regrets of leaving the cheating partner. And the bond I thought we had, was only my own. I don't feel that I lack something, and in return I got peace.

[@adaalexia7]

I cried with you guys...This is so powerful! We're such amazing creatures. Thank you🙌

[@Bamgeutcutiepie]

Wauw Matthew how I relate to your illness story!! ❤😢 every word you said. How I feel. I still haven’t found a solution and poured so much money into it and I can’t find the solution. Never related to you more. The pain in your eyes. I get it. So much. Thank you for sharing.

[@Stella-kn1sl]

That was so damn good, thank you so much, now i know, why matthew is that good in reaching out to people. Thank you so much showing the vulnerability of being in a dark place like a lot of other people struggle in live. I wish i could say i am happy enough too. I have no health, i will loosing my whole existence because of loosing my work because of my health. I am so sick, that i cannot even do enough of trauma work, and as you can imagine with trauma comes traumabonds. So NO part in my live, where i can be happy. But being that open shows me there is hope. Thank you so much Lisa for your women perspective to the point of being happy, because as matthew talked about first - as he named the chapter - i thought the same as you, it can be very dangerous! I loved that Episode so much, thank you both :)

[@krazimitzi]

BOOK ORDERED!!!! 🙌🏼 Thank you for being so vulnerable and sharing what you went through, Matt. You are an incredible man.

[@Nefarious.Aquarius]

I have plenty of my own flaws and make plenty of my own mistakes that I can’t fathom holding myself responsible for the mistakes my partner (or anyone else) has made as a result of acting on a thought or feeling that they know will hurt me. Willfully causing harm is cruelty. It’s okay and to have the thought. What you choose to do with the thought is what determines whether or not you are guilty of being cruel. Cruelty is a deal breaker for me.

[@user-ee5om8wy7u]

It hurts to have the connection broken. But the connection was never trust-based. It was lust-based, passion-based, love-bomb-based.... If it was trust-based, there would never be any passion from the start . . .

[@michellesnow6859]

When I started watching your videos on you tube. I'm working my way through There's A Hole in My Love Cup now. Thank you.

[@arevchick]

Wow 1/3 men cheat! This is going to be a good episode. Thank you for the education.

[@gg_ingy]

Yeah, i do wonder what the age brackets on it are. What would it be like age 35+ 🤔

[@louisa4012]

With odds like that… think I’m happy living my peaceful single life 😂

[@gg_ingy]

@@lisarey3 I was wondering if they cheated when younger + learned from it so did it less at a later age, but i looked it up and men age 60-69 are most likely to cheat :D

[@MarjaNieminen]

​@@gg_ingythats that pathetic

[@ssiegreen5292]

About what Matthew said - 30:00 or so abouts - there is a huge difference when your mouth gets away from you during a heated argument, and when you step out and into someone else's bed [let's say it that way]. One is a spur of the moment kind of thing - where the physical reaction [you saying something] takes a heck of a lot less time and less chance to reel it back in, than finding someone willing and then dropping your pants to do the deed. That's not a lack of impulse control - it's a serious case of I don't give AF of the consequences at this particular moment, and your partner be damned.

[@joannedavies-tz5kc]

I just new he changed he would start a argument like that gave him the right 😢

[@chrisinuae1]

I’ve been involved with married man for 3 yrs, real didn’t think they were together, he’d never mention her, and other… and I see now he’s a narcissist and am the one hurt. Who knows how many others he has or had? He’s so focused on money also, am guessing he’s afraid to lose everything if she ever found out. It’s only recent I see they’re together and he built a cottage like 6 mins from where I live , so I drive by there and see her sitting on front step and have felt so much like showing up and telling her, and not out of revenge, or to hurt her, but it’s like a bulb when on finding the truth, and if I were her, I’d want to know,

[@vcorvach]

“How to kill the desire…” that brought me to tears 😢

[@gabjson8809]

I absolutely love Matt, he's so inspiring.

[@稀细客]

Such touching episode. Salute to all the difficulties that everyones going through hardshio , Choose whether allowing it mold and grow us out from nurturing, being more loving or grow us out from darkness.... More shadows sides ❤ Lots love to all hardships

[@angiesmither5373]

Matthew touched on something huge for me in this. He acknowledged the amount of work the victimized person must do to repair themselves from the deceit of a partner. So true! It’s extremely unfair and in worst scenarios the person who is using you, just moves on to another victim. Again in the worst case scenarios. On a lower scale, if someone has been cheated on, the person cheated on was not only cheated on, but now has this long road of healing and regaining trust. If the partner responsible for breaking the trust, doesn’t acknowledge this and appreciate the opportunity to work on things, it speaks volumes to their intent. Thank you Matthew!

[@amberenergyhealertarot6617]

1:47:25 yep, that's what I did. Stayed in a toxic relationship so that I could use it as a coach to help me heal my deep wounds

[@L.K.Rydens]

You are mixing up instincts (which part of the subconscious brain and are not related to thought), intuition (which is what he refers to as instincts), and learnt behavior (reactions that you have learnt throughout your life which often makes you misinterpreted what your instinctual feelings mean). This is important because it's your instincts that you disregard when you stay in the wrong situations, it's the deep messaging from the part pf your brain that keeps you safe that tells you to get out but that you have learnt to disregard. So, be aware of your learnt behaviors and work to change them if you need to, evaluate your intuition (the interpretation of your insticts based on former experiences), and trust your instincts (the subconscious mesaaging of your brain) and learn to pause long enough figure out what those instincts are actually referring to, rather than guessing 😊❤ it might feel scary, but once you start, nothing will make you feel more safe 😊❤️ it's also how you inprove your intuition and learn to trust yourself 😊❤️

[@954dreamer1]

Wow I would love to hear him talk more about avoidant people in relationships

[@Heartofgoldhandsarecold]

My brother suffers in silence too, breaks my heart. 😔

[@tomasvoldrich]

1:13:54 Pre-ordered , and looking forward to it 🙋‍♂

[@bridgetmenham6686]

Can THEY talk about THE people that arent married in thier 50s and STILL havent been and feel like giving up ever thinking they will ever have that time in thier life Please xx

[@Healingrelationshiptrauma]

Taking notes

[@Daniellemarie10]

This video is absolutely amazing it's literally gold thank you both so much I learned a lot ❤

[@Kashmir-lt4cx]

57:37 well lots are Not finding that at all!

[@user-ek7yc9fh7y]

You can just see the hurt and the damage cheating does. That level of betrayal and grief. I always wonder what happened? Why did they cheat? Either it's their issue or it's a relationship issue. Any repair take time. Never say just get over it. That's very immature and shows a relationship not worth pursuing. I hate to say this and try to positive spin this hurt. In life, someone who's not meant will cheat. Are they worth repairing it. Are they the one making the efforts now. Rejection sometimes is redirection to something better. That doesn't make it ok. But they need to be the one making the efforts to repair. Wherever it takes for however long. If you're not getting that, this is not the partner for you :(

[@lylyanazarela4807]

Please make more vids with Mathew ❤❤

[@tonimatrisa7736]

I hold this video close to my heart

[@Kashmir-lt4cx]

1:41:49 how do you parent yourself?

[@Kashmir-lt4cx]

24:00 something bigger can come back?

[@nessaness2328]

53:52 .....this resignated so much

[@TheBulletzgottishow20]

Hey beautiful how are you this is interesting conversation

[@User-q5g3v]

Maybe taking the loyal partner for granted is the first thought to infedelity.

[@Kashmir-lt4cx]

55:50 thats soooo disturbing! 😭

[@Kashmir-lt4cx]

1:10:01 heck lots are still Not bliss

[@bridgetmenham6686]

They talk about being cheated on Im starting to think I have been cheated on but never proved it xx

[@AGMonz]

Great great episode!!! I needed this ❤

[@kyoung6967]

But people regret but don't learn.. it's treating people great in the first place so we have no regrets

[@janettetilgner6]

I wish what friends, they don't care.

[@FlatStella1]

Oh Matthew, you keep side of cheaters. IT S A CHOICEThe best advice to move on and wok on yourself , They did not :P.

[@Kashmir-lt4cx]

37:35 well why be behind closed doors, in a vehicle, or at a park when you have a woman?! 🙄

[@monalise6079]

Lisa B., who was the second man you interviewed who was talking about exercising peace and harmony in his life?

[@InTheWorldILiveIn]

Lewis Howe

[@ReginaAMartinez]

Ive been through the same, the exact same way😢

[@djcleary-l8q]

I do feel I am a failure, unworthy of love…. Yet I know it was his choice to cheat, not mine 24 year marriage

[@TashaVolovsek]

Wow sorry you lost 20 years on a lie . I feel like that about every relationship of my past wasted time

[@May-kn2st]

That pain in the neck and chest when u r with ur partner. It disappeared when u mended past wounds? It had nothing to do with the person u were with? I also get a headache. Not even in a fight. Just being in an emotional conversation.

[@pa2359]

Same for me, pain the neck area and I thought pillow size or something. But once left the toxic relationship, I got better.

[@bbukiyo]

Stress. The mind body connection. Next time you feel anxious or feel tension try telling yourself, “I am safe.” and take a deep breath.🙏🏻🤍

[@Kashmir-lt4cx]

What's a conscious relationship with yourself?

[@cup_o_TMarie]

Where you don’t just blow with the wind (people, jobs, situations) that show up & think that’s all you deserve. Where you’re so solid on at least your top 5 values in life (and not just other people or physical things) like kindness, honesty, integrity, communication etc AND most importantly you bring those values to yourself FIRST. You don’t just expect people to show you those things, because we can’t control others, but we must still live out our values daily no matter. This way we are reinforcing our worth to ourselves. If we don’t align with people on those values, we cannot have a close relationship. At most we might be able to be acquaintances, but that person will often not be able to fully connect with us. You literally live life & make decisions for yourself based on those values & you’re not willing to compromise them (selling yourself out) for the sake of a connection to ANYTHING or ANYONE. That you find a greater purpose than yourself & find a way to help your fellow man in some way through that. Even if you just show love & kindness to people while you’re waiting tables. Often that greater purpose will help you to create a desire for higher achievement that can also benefit your fellow man. These things can be very indirect & you might not even come in contact with people but you should try to find some meaning in what you do. The experience you have with the world is a direct reflection to the relationship you have with yourself. “Know thy self, and to thine own self be true, and thou cans’t be untrue to another man” -Shakespeare 🤍✌️

[@carecafetips]

The sad reality is that most people look depressed

[@Yulyana.m]

Not nice guy, but a Real Man! 🎉

[@samanthawee4341]

I was so sad for the Lady who asked Matt how to stop the desire of wanting somebody and was wondering what he answered her?😢

[@TP-jt2cm]

That percentage doesn’t surprise me at all 😂

[@angelcandelaria6728]

Ask yourself “is it the cheating, or do you just want to be a pleasure gatekeeper???” Most are not honest with themselves. Most are miserable because their partner actually loves themselves and the other partner doesn’t. That pushes even the best people into the arms of others. Nothing is more heartbreaking then being with someone, believing them, championing and changing yourself , only for them to still be the same. Sometimes you have to do all the work to see that they don’t plan on doing it too. ( none of this is about religion or rules) this experience is shared for raw perspective and experience that is real.

[@Whitepilledprincess]

The best people don't use other people as an excuse to lower themselves into being a cheater. If you are unhappy, leave!

[@saturdayschild8535]

No one pushes someone into the arms of another. They should breakup, not cheat. People that supposedly love themselves definitely don’t after cheating.

[@alwaysstraitup]

Cheating has nothing to do with the loyal partner. Cheating is a unilateral choice, that is made by just one person, without anyone knowing. The Cheater. Cheating is about power and control. Its a selfish, narcissistic person who wants cake. They want to have the wife at home, with all of its perks, AND they want the secret life that gives them extra attention. Ultimately, it is really childish.

[@Kashmir-lt4cx]

54:47 well i guess she's sadly in denial about males who look opposite, and still act the same vile way! 😱🙄

[@joeyhowells3848]

Just walked out on a cheater a liar what a creep after 7 years wasting my life for all the evidences I had he had a excuse ready would lie straight to my face better to be alone

[@hoperisers]

Is Matthew okay in this episode? I feel like he is feeling like I am since I just found out yesterday my bf has been cheating on me