#1 Reason SENIORS End up in Nursing Homes (and what to do about it)

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Cheers,
Ed Deboo, PT

[@FrontRowwithEd]

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[@fairedepeche]

My wealthy aunt stipulated in her will that she was to die in her house. Any attempt to move her into a nursing home automatically meant her kids will be cut out of her will. 😂She is 95 and still living in her house.

[@FrontRowwithEd]

Well, that is definitely one way to do it, good for her!

[@harrietsigmund8200]

Good for her.

[@carmenortiz5294]

That's just about what I told my daughter. I posted just minutes ago, that I would make sure she got nothing if she puts me in a nursing home. My now 17 year old grandson would get it all, which is fine with his father, my son. Talk about greed, she and her husband are millionaires!

[@MaggieClarkSLC]

I❤ this!!

[@lisas44]

Smart!

[@rebeccabamford5505]

When I worked in a nursing home for 13 years, sometimes what people don’t understand is that a lot of us REALLY DO CARE! They short staff us, we don’t have supplies we need. There’s just not enough of us to care for everyone. Sometimes one person can be responsible for 20 residents! The healthcare system needs totally revamped and a premium needs put on care givers so we can do our job.

[@CLord-gs7nj]

I worked as a nightshift CNA in a nursing home while in college. It was dreadful 43 years ago. I remember being required to get the residents up, washed and dressed and placed in Geri chairs in the hallway at 5AM for breakfast that was coming at 7am. They were all asleep sitting up. 😢

[@user-kc7mu4jp4p]

@@CLord-gs7nj I can easily imagine the attitude of the care home to its 'charges'! Thank you for sharing.

[@patthompson8591]

@CLord-gs7nj That's not nearly as bad as a young student night nurse with no assistant at all (absolute truth), a ward holding 10 male adult patients (half on complete bed rest) East Wing. *AND* 10 babies/toddlers in the West Wing. Babies to have their nappies changed, temps, pulses & medicines administered etc from 6am to 8am when day staff report for duty. Same thing with patients in the male ward. Written report on patients up to date, plus temps, etc. charted. Dressings done, medicines administered, beds tidied etc. etc. before day staff reported for duty at 8am. *PHEW* 🥵

[@cjhoward409]

I was a CNA and I was responsible for 12-24 ladies each day. Even having 12 a day was a lot, but if the other CNA didn’t show up for the same shift from 6 am -2 pm, then it was just me. Dress them, wash them, put clean cloth diapers on many of them… etc etc. I could never do that now in my 50’s. But I loved my ladies. I would bring in my own hair care items and body lotion because what they supplied was horrible !

[@patthompson8591]

@cjhoward409 In NHS hospitals, have you seen nurses sitting in front of their computer screens, as well as chatting & giggling these days, oblivious of the desperate patient's requiring attention - these days. We are told how busy they are . *LOL* busy indeed, they haven't a clue what it is to be busy 🤔.

[@serahloeffelroberts9901]

I rescued an elderly friend from a nursing home where they threw schizophrenia patients in with the frail seniors and she felt unsafe. Got the state agency involved to spring her. She came to live with me five years. As she had mild dementia i found a wonderful senior day care with wonderful activities and enrolled her. She had her own room at my house, home cooked meals, and we would go on daily walks. My German Shepherd loved her and decided she would become his job. Things went terrific, she felt loved and i loved caring for her. Them she got Covid and everything fell apart. Luckily the hospital discharged her into a facility near my house when she needed 24 hour care which was beyond my ability. I visited her several times a week. When she no longer recognized me i would sit with her and play her favorite music. Now she is gone. My German Shepherd passed a few months before her and i feel better knowing he is still loving and caring for her. I am totally at a loss but expect i will adjust eventually.

[@FrontRowwithEd]

What an amazing story, thanks for sharing!

[@sallylarson882]

You did good 🥹

[@jmdg5145]

Such a beautiful, yet bittersweet story. Thank you for making her final years as wonderful as possible. C19 took too many, too soon and caused many of our elderly to die alone and probably prematurely. I'm sorry for both of your losses. Finding your footing after caregiving for that long will definitely take some time. It is a time for some caregiving of yourself now. May you be richly blessed for having been a blessing to your friend.

[@chrislastnam6822]

You remind me of the Adam Sandler character in the movie Happy Gilmore.

[@copic8241]

You're a wonderful person. And your dog was wonderful too.

[@laperlenoir]

I’m 66, retired, on no meds, rebound at least 60 minutes daily as well as walking my dog and kettlebell workouts 2-3 times per week. I fast one day per week, eat a meat-heavy diet with fermented vegetables, no alcohol, and sleep at least 8 hours per night. I settled on this routine after a cousin celebrated her 100th birthday. I really never considered living into 90s+ so started tightening up my self-care. No way do I want to live in a nursing home. If I can’t do for myself, I don’t want to live. Take care of yourselves.

[@FrontRowwithEd]

You sound like you’re doing great, congratulations! You are an inspiration to others 😎

[@judithrochon7837]

The meat will kill you.

[@xyz987123abc]

Excellent, the power of positive choices.

[@FP65]

Good job. I am your age and I too would rather die than go into a nursing home. Trying to live a healthy life right now.

[@DChristina]

You’re a true role model- I’m aiming for this!

[@dandoolin1335]

As a rehab therapist within a nursing home I can tell you that the number one thing that determines whether you go home to live alone or become a resident is the ability to safely self toilet oneself, regardless of whether you can do it with or without use of a wheelchair.

[@FrontRowwithEd]

Excellent point, thanks for sharing!

[@margaretvanson3601]

I agree with the points raised, but think most seniors, like me, cannot get up from the ground without using something for support. I have strong hands (60+ plus years piano playing ) but arthritis in both wrists. Everything else you mentioned I can do. My dad lived to be 98,my mother died at 86 from scar tissue build up in her trachea. Neither of them could have got up from the floor without some support. Both lived at home till their deaths.

[@Growmap]

@@FrontRowwithEd Great video. People need to remember "use it or lose it". What those who function well mentally and physically into the 90s or even 100s have in common are: 1) Eating REAL food instead of that junk sold in grocery stores. 2) Staying active, physically and mentally. 3) Not taking meds. I've known so many people doing great until they got talked into the first script that turned into 3,4, 10. They all treat SYMPTOMS not CAUSES. I recently invested in an Equicizer to increase balance, strength, and muscle tone. At 67, I have plans to restart two older horses and train two young ones. So I need to be in great shape before I go climbing on horses when I haven't ridden in a decade or more.

[@cht2162]

@@Growmap I'm 84 and live at home. If it weren't for the life-saving meds I take for cardio-pulmonary, arthritis and IBS, I would have bit the bullet 8 years ago when I had open-heart surgery. Or before that. TAKE YOUR MEDS if your doctor has prescribed them.

[@tracysmith245]

when does that all start i work in a care home mother has early stage now saw her xmas seems fine for now bit panicky nothing more got osteoarthritis cooking etc still when does it start getting worse?

[@michaelnomura5196]

A nursing home should not be a dumping ground for seniors.

[@Kittiesinclair5]

Why not? My own father, who used to balk at the multi-thousand dollars a month cost of many places, is now actually saying that $7000+/month is standard and he is planning on paying it. Rather than exercising or improving his health in order to stay out of a for-profit care home. So he is exactly the type of customer these places are catering to, in order to take as much money as they can and provide as little care as they can. If people will pay, they will be charged.

[@michaelnomura5196]

@@Kittiesinclair5 👍Very unfortunate to see your inheritance money going to the nursing home.

[@sjbutler2330]

Your parents money does not belong to the children! Its their money, they worked hard for it! If they want to spend it, it's Their Right! Not yours!

[@AnnieGrace777]

But it usually is...adult kids appear to not want to have the responsibility. But they usually want the inheritance 😢

[@AnnieGrace777]

​@@michaelnomura5196what rubbish...the inheritance is all they care about. It's HIS money...NOT THEIRS

[@peggypieters661]

I grew up in the nursing home business back in the 60s and 70s and they were not good back then; today, my brother is owner of one and they are horrible. It is not always due to the owners not caring about having the residents properly cared for, although that is true in more cases today than before, but rather a lack of people willing to care for the elderly and care for them with compassion and competency. These places will only be as good as the quality of those that are being employed to administer patient care, and this country is well below poor when it comes to caring for our seasoned citizens.

[@FrontRowwithEd]

Thanks for sharing Peggy.

[@mbords01]

Most of you stated is true; but you also need to consider the owners’ need of profit, how well do they manage their nursing homes , how well do they staff, how nutritious is the food served…etc. one competent nurse would have a tough time being in charge of 30 patients some of whom may be roaming around confused ,disoriented and acutely in pain.

[@peggypieters661]

@@mbords01 obviously the owners need to carve at a living themselves, but I stand by everything I said; I have been connected to this business for 60 years and it basically comes down to hardly anyone willing to do this kind of work and who is competent and compassionate to the needs of the people residing there. Yes, it is a staff shortage without a doubt BUT it is also having that staff who are qualified and truly care about people, and THAT is what is in very short supply; in fact barely existent in today’s world in any area of life.

[@mbords01]

@@peggypieters661 You sound quite knowledgeable and reasonable; what I am thinking is if any nursing home employee is found incapable of being competent let alone human then terminate employment. Set good employment policy; set good floor policy for nurses and nursing assistant what they need to do i.e. they need to answer call lights within five minutes etc. ; give pain meds request within 15 min.... I think you maybe incorrect in that there ARE good, hard-hardworking nurses and nursing assistants out there. If I can help it, know I will not go to a nursing home because I do not like the strict schedule, breakfast 7:00, lunch 11:30 etc. I can not have pets; I can not mow lawn, shovel snow. Etc......

[@evelynsaungikar3553]

If you pay minimum wage, or close to it, you get what you pay for.

[@pjo4622]

I am doing my best to stay independent . I would rather go into a care home or die than live with my children. I did not bring them into this world to have their lives tied down by me. My mother is 101 and still thinks it is her right to order me around. Sometimes parents can live a lot longer than their children.

[@FrontRowwithEd]

Good points, thanks for sharing. Wishing you the best!

[@claysmith4909]

Let her have one week in a nursing home for a reality check ✔!

[@vivianwada6292]

Seems you may be teaching your mom how to treat you, if you say nothing when she bosses you around. Then, why would you anticipate doing the same to your children. 😮

[@pjo4622]

@@vivianwada6292 A lot of people need help when they are older. I just do not want or expect my children to provide mine. x

[@vivianwada6292]

@@pjo4622 Hi... point well taken. I have no children and also wonder about my future. We have to have faith. My only point is to not believe that you will be as bossy as your mom may now be towards you...a sense of entitlement. In many other cultures, the societies are geared towards caring for their elderly. In America, many adults prematurely dump their parents in nursing homes, which IMO is terrible. All the best 👍 👌 😍 Have faith.

[@nmartin5551]

I’ve been helping keep my mother in her own home (she’s 91) with my siblings. I have more response from a blank wall than I get trying to talk to them about removing medicines from her list. Either they are too overstretched as providers or too afraid of lawsuits to even hear me. In particular, I wanted the statin med to be removed. She’s 91. Finally my mom had a real improvement in cognition and I asked my brother what happened. He said she stopped statins. I asked him how he got the doctors to stop it. He replied he didn’t. He just stopped giving it to her. Having others who care advocate for you and participate in your health care is probably another key.

[@FrontRowwithEd]

Yes , great point!

[@Lisa-cn2uu]

My father is 95 and his dementia is worse. I wanted him off the statins but read - if a heart attack or congestive heart failure ( have to recheck if it said one or both) has occurred they will worsen without statins. I think statins also help give oxygen to the heart. He has congestive heart failure. Because of what I read I fear to have him off the statin, but can't stand seeing him lose his memory. Does your mother have a past heart attack or congestive heart failure? If she has I would want to talk with my family and the doctor about stopping the statin.

[@daylightmoon7285]

I'm 71 and was on Statins for 10 years. I stopped taking them and feel so much better. My routine blood tests show very little difference in my cholesterol levels.

[@sunshinedayz2172]

I have a friend that had great leg strength until he started taking stations.. It took a toll on his lower legs.. Now he's off the statins he has to watch every step as it affected his circulation..Found out later that statins contain snake venom although the ingredient is not listed as such.

[@nmartin5551]

@@sunshinedayz2172 agree statins can be disastrous, but doubt actual snake venom. Perhaps chemical derivative or synthetic of derivative. Regardless that is a shame he suffered negative permanent changes. Hopefully healthier diet, staying active and time will improve it for him.

[@Trinitysmom9]

My mom’s dying wish was to die at home. She was 81 and had stage four lung cancer. I work full time and have a home with 2 sons which one still lived at home at the time. I made it happen with help from some family members. Was it difficult, yes but I wouldn’t have done it any other way. People need to honor the elderly. Take care of your own.

[@FrontRowwithEd]

Thank you for sharing that 🙏🏼

[@sunset3052]

Agree and all the best to you, your mom and your family.

[@ladymeringue9870]

I’m glad you were able to do that for her. It’s not possible for everyone, sadly.

[@MoniqueangeliqueLumpkin]

THEY DO IN THE OLD COUNTRIES.

[@darlenebradley6756]

We need more advice like this! Young people! Start now! Take care of yourself through a healthy diet, activity, and resist unnecessary medications!!!!!! Polypharmcy is a HUGE problem in the United States and I have come to the conclusion that it is big driver of debility as we age. I made these changes a while back and now don't take any prescription medications (other than having a rescue inhaler on hand for the random asthma attack, which is extremely rare). I am 68 years old and still mowing my yard with a push mower, taking care of a large garden and keeping bees, no problem with the stairs in my house, and I can balance on one leg to put on a pair of slacks....I can get down on the floor and back up again with no hands, and even sit on the floor cross-legged. I have a set of exercises I do to address all this young man has talked about (that I found on another P.T. channel) and, like someone else on here I do stretches before I get out of bed. I even got my 90 year old mother to start doing this! She can now do the 'chair squat' hands free and her stamina for walking is much better. It's never too late to start! I have made plans for 'aging in place' that include modifications to my home if necessary (replacing the tub with a shower, chair lift for the stairs, etc). The women in my family all live well into their 90s so I have reason to believe that I will make it there as well. I am a registered nurse, still working full time in a hospital setting, and have no intention of retiring as long as I am physically able to do the work. I have seen reports that say keeping yourself socially and intellectually active is a great defense against mental decline which is also something to consider.

[@FrontRowwithEd]

Sounds like a great plan!

[@shiningstar1869]

This is not always true. There is a woman who was an aerobics instructor and everything about health. She had a stroke in her mid 30's. I know others who took good care of themselves and were diagnosed with MS. I believe genetics are involved but still things we can do to help fight back.

[@IMeMineWho]

And always doing something creative. Having a pet also is said to increase life expectancy by a good 8 years!

[@darlenebradley6756]

@@IMeMineWho Dittos on the pet!! I have a German Shepherd that keeps me entertained and PROTECTED!

[@IMeMineWho]

@@darlenebradley6756 Well Darlene..I protect my baby bunny..with 1 exception I learned. One or maybe 2 bunnIes in every brood stays awake during the night if they know other bunnies that conk out early so that they can warn the others if danger arises with loud thumps (and I mean loud!) Of course MY bunny also does that if he rolls over on his side, looks adorable and I pet him, waking him from dreaming of Bo k choy! But he is an affectionate daredevil guy. The difference between a dog and a bun is that dogs protect you; you protect your bun! Dogs protect..but buns are the clown princes of pets..nothing more entertaining than a binky! So I guess it evens out. Love em both..but can't have a dog AND a bun unless you have many rooms..unfortunately. But he is high maintenance I dance or walk 150 mins a week..used to be more but he requires a lot of attention as buns are social guys but I take care of my Lil guy which involves a lot of getting up from the floor constantly, vacuuming, bending to pick up cocoa puffs and changing waterproof blankets I put on the bed when he jumps. I was relieved that a lot of that counts towards the additional 150 minutes I would do every week. (I must really 💜 the Lil stinker.)

[@haggai3.477]

There is an Adage that suggests: You can Judge a Society by the Way They Treat Their SENIORS.

[@mypointofview1111]

No. You can judge a society by how it treats its vulnerable citizens. That covers many more people than just the elderly. You are vulnerable at various times in your life so remember that and just be kind to others. It costs nothing and makes the difference between making others feel you actually give a damn about them and others feel you're a selfish git.

[@brega6286]

For all the wonder stories people go on about, I have one thing to say...in one second all that could crash. Never boast about your good health when it can shame others for in a moment all your good fortune could change.

[@theresemalmberg955]

That is very true, and something I think about a lot. I live alone on a limited income and have no family nearby. I worry about the day when I can no longer stay in my mobile home as it is the cheapest housing option around. So I am trying to do my best to stay independent and make good choices but as you said it all can change in an instant.

[@katie7748]

I waa healthy as a horse yet had just turned 30 when I was (finally!) diagnosed with c--cer. Just last night I stumbled across a former competitive cheerleader who fell doing a toss and became a quadriplegic at 18. She was quite healthy and had oodles of medals to prove it. That said, it's not necessarily boasting, but simply saying what they're doing to take care of themselves. And some people take offense to it because that's not the case for their situation. But yes, it can definitely change in the blink of an eye.

[@sunset3052]

True

[@sunset3052]

@@katie7748 All the best to you Katie!

[@jaydickey1049]

Humility and gratitude....

[@terri5757]

I worked in Nursing Homes since I was 16 and I’m 66 now. I’ve been anything from a CNA to the Director of food Services. I’ve worked in many places and some have been fair and other horrible. I’ve seen so many sad and many terrible things. It scares me to even think of ever having to go into a Nursing Home. Most of the issues revolve around lack of staff. Most CNAs go into the work wanting to take care of the elderly, but quickly become burnt out due to lack of staff and eventually take it out on their patients. And it’s sad to say they see the nurses sitting behind the counter chit chatting about their personal lives except during their couple medication/wound care rounds per shift. Often these don’t take long. The CNAs are so over worked that they don’t have time to answer call lights or take their residents to the bathroom. They get scolded by staff and families for this but the Nurses just ignore the problem and say it’s not their job to help the CNAs. I think it’s terrible. I honestly hope I never have to go into a Nursing Home, but if I do I hope my children chose wisely but often there’s not a lot of choices on where to go if you don’t have great insurance. Children should visit the Nursing home often. These patients often get the best care. Ask questions, especially if something seems off. Ask for female CNAs for a female patient. I (have horror stories I won’t get into here.) It would be a great thing to put a camera in the patients room and check it often, either seen or unseen by the staff. If they do know it’s there it could act as a deterrent to misconduct. Sorry I don’t have more confident things to say about Nursing Homes. I know many people don’t have a choice about putting loved ones in them and you shouldn’t beat yourself up over it. Just do the best you can, visit often and be an advocate for your loved one.

[@FrontRowwithEd]

Thank you for sharing

[@katie7748]

Nurses, in my experience, can be absolutely HORRID. Especially to CNAs. I've got stories too 😢

[@sunset3052]

Thanks so much for sharing!

[@haggai3.477]

Well, the ACCURACY of This ACCOUNT is Astounding. Tremendous Thanks for the Bird's Eye View of NURSES @ HOME on the Clock.

[@RitaWachs]

Very well said.

[@vldarden]

I work with this population and it’s sad to see how many are dumped into a nursing home and then ignored. It’s why I teach on holidays. The first time someone mentioned that the class I teach would fall on Christmas and said she guessed that meant no class everything changed. I asked if she would come. She responded with an absolute yes. I knew when she asked she had no one. I opened that class to anyone that wanted to come. We had 40 students. The rest is history.

[@cl5193]

That is the true spirit of Christmas. Pretty sure Jesus approves. God bless you!

[@vldarden]

@@cl5193 I know God approved. I’ve held class on Christmas every year since then and always have great attendance.

[@l.5832]

I'm surprised he didn't address CLUTTER. Many seniors have so much stuff especially on the floor and it's so easy for them to trip over. Also not mentioned was type of footwear worn in the house. I sold shoes for over a decade and had so many seniors wanting slippers with open back that are easy on.....but so easy to come off the foot as well, and no support. Another minor point about footwear is type of sole. Make sure the bottoms are not slippery...NO knitted slippers, please! But if the person has a walker, they need a smooth,flat, firm bottom because the person rends to slide one foot in front of the other and if the surface catches, they can fall forward.

[@BoRanz-kr9zw]

THANK YOU THANK YOU!!! I did elder care since '85 and it didn't dawn on me till i was told it this century

[@sct4040]

I have fallen forward while pushing a shopping cart, once the shopping cart catches on a crack I fell forward. I was in my early 60s then. Yes, it’s easy to fall once you are not as agile as before.

[@sabinagal9953]

A nurse who works in extended care said there are 3 main things to do to stay out of a nursing home: 1. Get rid of all throw rugs (one of the main culprits in falls) 2. Work on your continence - if you can keep dry you get to stay out of a nursing home, and 3. Brain health. These are the 3 main reasons people go into care, and these days there are many things you can do: mct oil for brain health (see dr Mary Newport videos), the new exercise programs for pelvic floor strength and continence. Please add any resources in reply to help with these issues. Let’s help ourselves stay independent and free :)

[@FrontRowwithEd]

Excellent points!

[@purityandplants]

Husband and wife team “the brain docs“ have a wealth of information on their KZbin channel! Drs Sherzai 👌🏾

[@vivhiggins5656]

I hope when I get older not too go in a nurseing home and I get still keep fit you'r what you eat and drink and I will get a will done too not go in a home when I rearly age and you can die at eny age and time fly's people just dont get it,😢

[@CLord-gs7nj]

Get a referral for a Certified Pelvic Floor Physical Therapist to address any type of incontinence immediately. What I learned from mine: 1. caffeine is a bladder IRRITANT, if you have trouble with incontinence, give it up. 2. when you feel an urge coming on, do frequent short muscle tightening bursts ( Kegels) over and over until the urge subsides and you can make it to the toilet.

[@roberttreasure1986]

One can really help with incontinence by staying off of sugar or too many carbs. The sugar causes water retention, and the carbs (except for vegetables) turns into sugar.

[@ceciliaflorencenapier4595]

I have to laugh at myself! I am 94 years young and two of my children have returned to the family home! We lead our own lives with help available for me but I am determined to stay in my own home. Love Totterer and Potterer, try and stay free!

[@FrontRowwithEd]

That’s great 😀

[@ithacacomments4811]

Some of my daily personal care plan routines at age 73 are: One lap around my floor at my apt comlex equals one city block. I do a least five laps per day which is about a 15-20 minute brisk walk ...and it can be done whatever the weather is outside. Sometimes, I pole walk with Activator poles so that I get upper body exercise as I walk. I make sure I do five flights of stairs per day....not all in one climb ...but throughout the day. I do streches in bed in the morning....and throughout the day. Chair squats to keep my legs strong. And all those pesky medical checkups! I oil pull for my teeth, and get regular cleanings. I eat a gluten and dairy free diet. Low sugar. I keep away from treats...except for dark chocolate! I take supplements...especially Vitamin D. I belong to "Love Living at Home," my chapter of the nationwide "Village Movement." Seniors helping Seniors. With LLH, I have over 100 volunteers to assist me in feeling confident that I can stay in my home as long as possible! We also have an varied social calendar. My hobbies are: Photography, Writing, and Painting. I truly believe that there are many good paths that we can walk upon as we age that will keep us healthy and strong!

[@FrontRowwithEd]

Wow, sounds like you are doing great, congratulations!

[@marianne1959]

Awesome!!

[@light-yi2me]

You are only 73 , why shouldn’t you be doing all the things you are doing! The reason why people end up in the home is because they get sick because of all that horrible food and sugar. Everyone should go grain free then you’ll see how good you feel.

[@EvelinHolmes]

I worked with a lady for 7 years and she started in our shop at age 74. She worked the fill shift at 5 :00 am until 1:00 pm. It was heavy work After work she went to her sons house to take care of her grand son at age 1. The mom went back to work and grandma to care of him until dad came home at 4:30 pm. She did that until the grandson went to school all day. When grandma turned 81 the company shut down for good. She look for further employment and worked at an park the was open from may until September as a cook in the kitchen where they had to where old fashion clothing from the 1900. 10 hrs a day 5 days a week. She finally got an lower cost apartment sponsort by the church which lowert her monthly cost. Finally retired at age 86. An Halloween she turned 92 and still does her 3 km daily walk. She also had an open house for her birthday and all her friends showed up to help her celebrate. She greeted every person coming in and as spunky as hell. She has 7 children and many grandchildren and great grand children. She flies all over the country for her grand children’s weddings and grads from higher education . She even flew to Germany for her grandsons grads of becoming a medical DR. She is doing her daily exercise and showed the world it can be done. She also free of medication . Can one imagine got married at 17 and been working for ever on the parents farm and worked until age 86. Way to go Holly .👍

[@xyz987123abc]

​@EvelinHolmes Good for her. She made many small, excellent decisions each day. As the saying goes, use it or lose it.

[@manichairdo9265]

My beloved late uncle had to move into a care cottage by the sea in Scotland. He'd been given a year to live after 2 brain surgeries. He excelled in every way. Living 13 years more. Amazing care home. We could phone him or visit anytime. He was independently reviewed annually. His only complaint...too much food. 😂 But the care cottage closed. He was moved to a large nursing home in town. It was awful. He soon quit eating and died within a few months.

[@FrontRowwithEd]

So sorry to hear that

[@manichairdo9265]

@@FrontRowwithEd It was sad but until the last few months he'd had a very blessed life. I offered to take him in but my aunt, his sister, advised me not to. He was a bachelor, a quiet gentle soul. X

[@ligbzd837]

Your stories is very similar to many nursing homes. The elderly is healthy and die withing 2 years after moving into a nursing home.

[@patthompson8591]

@@ligbzd837 Say no more 😒, that's very telling 😉

[@sunshinedayz2172]

It just goes to show that genuine love with care is what fuels an aged person to want to go on living.

[@mytube2u]

Sometimes the doctors won’t take you off the meds because it benefits them. Good luck and god bless.

[@FrontRowwithEd]

Yes, that can be a factor.

[@MoniqueangeliqueLumpkin]

F*CK MD, CROOKED, I DONT DO MED, JUST HERBS, GENESIS 1:29, EAT AS MOSES DID, ENOCH. IM OLD BUT MY MIND IS 25. IM FRANCOAMERICAINE FROM POITOU CHARENTES, I RULE, GET U PAPER WORK IN ORDER IF U OWN U HOME. USE SYSTEM.

[@estelleschneider9033]

Yes..buy it is you not the doctor who agrees to medications No one can make you Do your homework..pray Look the medications up Stop if you can..supplement...needed as we age ❤❤❤❤

[@ggeorge4144]

This is the one thing that should never happen in a free country, grown children forcing their parents into a nursing home, many times to steal their parents home and belongings. Fortunately for me my grown children are all very well off. Executives etc. Also I do not live near them, we only communicate on Bdays or Christmas. I am in my 80's and I live alone in the boondocks. I love it and no one is going to put me away. I want to be left alone to die here in peace. I am armed and I will never leave my home without a fight. America is unique in that most countries the children care for the parents till death. In America nursing homes are a multi billion dollar enterprise that try to push old people into their domain.

[@FrontRowwithEd]

Sounds like you have a good plan, thanks for sharing and best wishes!

[@karlabritfeld7104]

Ugh!! I can see why your kids don't live near you.

[@DChristina]

Good for you George! You’re absolutely right about how America is unique like this, and many kids trying to take advantage of their aging parents- not much sadder than that! It’s great to live in the country, happy for you. Hope you have a few nice neighbors you can socialize with, this helps us stay healthy too.

[@cheeririnaldo435]

Don't assume for 1 second a person's children being "well off" means anything. Such people are often the greediest and least trustworthy because all they want is more. My second older sister is a multi millionaire married into the Pittsburgh family that co- founded ALCOA aluminum who robbed our wealthy parents blind and stole my half million dollar inheritance.

[@mpatey63]

Nobody can be " forced " into a nursing home against their will. The only thing that will put you there is your own poor health.

[@2000disneyland]

My mother went to a rehabilitation center after surgery and prolonged intensive care, as a result, she had to learn to walk again. The rehabilitation center had a sign next to her bed that said, “Do not leave valuables behind”. I said, “My mother is valuable”. We got her out shorty after that, and cared for her at home until she passed away 5 years later.

[@FrontRowwithEd]

Thanks for sharing!

[@rhondaclark2446]

I am 54 and I have Spastic Cerebral Palsy and I have lived on my own since I was 18. Over the last almost 28 years I have become more independent than I have ever been. It takes a lot of work and PT but it's worth it!

[@FrontRowwithEd]

Excellent, keep it up!

[@lizettenovelo1]

May God bless you always! My 23 year old has athetoid Cerebral Palsy Quadriplegia..He is very intelligent and speaks with a Mytobii eyegaze communication device but he needs someone to care for him, which I do at our home, thanks to God!

[@rhondaclark2446]

@@lizettenovelo1 Thank you

[@jmdq1]

I commend you for pushing through your Physical Therapy Rhonda, it’s very hard work. God bless you and give you strength to continue your lifestyle outside an assisted living facility.

[@JulietParrottMerrell]

And I have spastic hemiplegic cerebral palsy, and have used a wheelchair since I was nine years old and a power wheelchair since I was 14. I’ve lived in many different types of places on my own since I was 22. One of the places that I lived in was an independent living facility. The apartments there were designed for people with more severe disabilities like myself, but they were open to anyone who qualified for HUD to rent. The time that I spent there was bittersweet. On one hand, I learned a lot of useful things about how to live life with disabilities as an adult. But I also saw big downsides that I did not want for my own life - legal and illegal drug use, prostitution, and just generally what becomes of others when they have pasts that they cannot get past. Lots of folks were able to live semi-independently until they became too sick to be able to do so. If they didn’t die, they were sent to spend the rest of their days in nursing homes. My worst fear is ending up in a nursing home. Like the person who started this thread, I have been very vigilant in doing a lot of things to keep myself as healthy as I can for as long as possible too, but having to go live in a nursing home is still my worst fear. PS: I was also born and raised in Portland Oregon - not too far from Bellingham. I left there when I was 40 to get married. Now my husband and I live down in Riverside County in Southern California. It’s such a contrast from the Pacific Northwest. Because of the way communities are designed here, I spend most of my time in my house now - but the blue skies and sunshine that comes through our windows everyday has done a lot to keep my mental health on the up and up.

[@tomtravis3077]

I moved furniture for two plus decades. Countless moves into facilities. From independent living to memory care. I cannot imagine a more exquisite manifestation of hell than living in a facility. Even the nicest. It's a cage with gilded bars. Being a mover I am also well aware of falls. They are no joke. Falls are what eventually end your career.

[@FrontRowwithEd]

Thanks for sharing Tom, great insight!

[@brittseverence7221]

Both parents lived at home until death at 99 years old. The place became like a mini nursing home over the final five years. The burden of care was spread between hired help and children who were then all over 70 years old by the end, and each with health issues of their own as seniors themselves. The task was daunting and expensive. But we got through it. I must question the magnitude of the entire commitment, though nursing homes would have made me question how anyone could abandon their closest love ones.

[@pennusuozzi7636]

I will be 74 this month. I don't take any medications and I work out 30-45 minutes every day. I also do my best to eat a healthy diet. As you age these things are non negotiable. Hang in everybody and take care of yourselves. There are a lot of really good tips in this video. One thing I need to work on more is balance, Thank you so much for the advice!

[@FrontRowwithEd]

Thanks so much and thanks for sharing :)

[@pennusuozzi7636]

Thank you! Excellent content!@@FrontRowwithEd

[@ritaduplessis5074]

Same here at almost 74 the 23th. Balance is important, for sure

[@pennusuozzi7636]

Awesome!@@ritaduplessis5074

[@joyfill1295]

Excellent advice Thank you ❤

[@rachelbrewin5618]

Exactly this. My mum is coming up to 87 with mixed dementia, type 2 diabetes, angina and arthritis. She is still living independently at home with family and professional support at home and goes out most days to the local shop or park. We got her melds reviewed and halved a couple of years ago, she was starting to have falls. After coming off metformin she stopped 'feeling dizzy' within a couple of weeks, no fall for two years.

[@FrontRowwithEd]

Awesome!

[@tucky2297]

The gentleman across the street was given a choice of staying home or living in a nursing home. AFTER HE SPENT A FEW DAYS, HE REFUSED TO STAY! I DIDN'T KNOW HE HAD THAT RIGHT? HE IS 81 AND STILL IN HIS HOME TODAY. I PRAY THAT HIS FAMILY WILL CONTINUE TO TAKE CARE OF HIM AND THAT HE HAS MANY MORE YEARS AT HOME. IM 78 . I NEVER WANT TO GO TO A NURSING HOME!😢 I BELIEVE AN INDEPENDENT LIVING FACILITY IS NOT INDEPENDENT.

[@user-pm4ef8yu7w]

I’ve witnessed nurses, handing out meds, that give the resident a jigger size amount of water, when administrating 4 -5 pills. I pray I die, on my couch…..when it’s my time.

[@SomebodySaid...]

I’m a 67 year old grandma who got a Concept 2 indoor rowing machine last December. I loved swinging on a swing set as a child and the movement of this rower mimics the 2 seat glider of that era. I listen to the oldies on my iPhone and forget I’m exercising! It’s amazing how much stronger my legs, arms, and core are now. Really helps with balance.

[@FrontRowwithEd]

Excellent, keep it up!

[@sandraredmond4812]

Rowing changed my life. Such a great way to exercise ! Good for you

[@sandraredmond4812]

Dont forget to add some weight bearing exercise as well.

[@brunoqnzbk7891]

Or... GET A DOG. Best workout EVER. 😂❤

[@grandmajane2593]

I wonder if you are my upstairs neighbor.

[@jmfa57]

YIKES. I just turned 66, am still working, and I work mostly from home, VERY long hours with little or no opportunity to take time for exercise or any recreation. I'm already noticing it is harder to get up. Time to fix this trend FAST. Thank you for this video!

[@FrontRowwithEd]

You are so welcome!

[@ligbzd837]

Move in with an adult child or a friend. The worst time to live alone is in old age...

[@mellocello187]

I’m in my 60s, active and fit, and I saw then joined a Facebook page for bicyclists over 70. It was really eye-opening as many of these people would ride as many miles as their birthday. Yes, if they were turning 75, they would cycle 75 miles on their birthday, and post their tracker map (proof). That encouraged me to step up what I think I can do, and what I do. I rode 73 kilometers (45 miles) with a friend on her 73rd birthday this past summer (not on an ebike). My point is to recalibrate what you think you can do (but don’t overdo day 1 of course).

[@FrontRowwithEd]

Awesome, I love that idea!

[@manichairdo9265]

Recalibrate is a brilliant word to describe what I need to do. Great post btw. 🎉

[@mellocello187]

@@manichairdo9265 I wrote that above because the suggestions in the video are good for some people, but much too low key for others, and for continued good health if one is currently able-bodied. Honestly, the Facebook page for cyclists over 70 changed my life. I really stepped it up. Good luck and good health to you!

[@manichairdo9265]

@@mellocello187 Thank you for your thoughtfulness to reply. I need to start moving after a few continued years of poor health. And to think my mantra as a mum was....movement is life. 😁

[@mellocello187]

@@manichairdo9265 You are taking steps just seeking and watching the video! Even getting up and down from a chair is good! You can make excuses to do so throughout the day for starters. Good luck!!

[@wickedbird1538]

😢😢2 years ago, my FIL had a failing pacemaker, was bleeding internally and was given less than 2 months to live. After he left the hospital, we set up a bed in the den with do not resuscitate orders posted on the wall. MIL had good neighbors who were helpful and nearby. BUT Social services decided he had to go into a nursing home because my MIL was a tiny woman who could not help him if he fell. So My MIL slept in a recliner next to him for the 10 days he lived in that awful place. It would take 1 or 2 hours for her to get anyone to come on the floor anytime she needed help. Disgusting.

[@FrontRowwithEd]

So sorry to hear that

[@rcjdeanna5282]

At 76 I go to my grandson's soccer games with a blanket and can get up easily, maybe with a little assist in cool weather. All around me are parents and kids sitting in folding chairs who sometimes groan when the have to get up. I use a very small coffee cup and have to get up to refill it. I carry a deck of cards everywhere and grandchildren love it...even those with smart phones There are many ways to exercise body and mind in ordinary daily life. Look at your habits...you don't need to join a gym or buy anything. Of course, it helps that I adopted a pointer bird dog who keeps me on my toes constantly. For many souls old age is an important time for growing and learning....

[@FrontRowwithEd]

Awesome, keep it up!

[@ladymeringue9870]

Fantastic attitude 😀

[@franjones5312]

Listen to him. Besides arthritis, my mom was in good health. Except to go to the bathroom and to the kitchen for food, she literally sat all day, every day. Now, she's bedridden and I'm stuck taking care of her. Please stay active and don't burden your children. Also, being stuck in bed is an extremely low quality of life.

[@FrontRowwithEd]

Yes stay active is right !

[@katharinedavis4947]

That's all very well when we are 60 to 70 yrs . Now at 78 i have arthritis in both knees as well as I'm knock kneed from rickets and osteomyalcia. I can hardly walk, let alone stand on one leg or improve my balance. I don't fall because I'm very careful.

[@sjbutler2330]

That's what I said before falling twice in one year! Get Real!

[@billgale5568]

I’m 88 and will be 89 in 4 months ….no health or mental issues of any kind. …can I get up off the floor unassisted ??? Yes if I can crawl over to a piece of furniture or even a wall ….I have NEVER fallen or even come close to doing so. Wife and I have been married for 65 years (she will be 85 in 2 months) …..healthwise she is excellent but is in the beginning stages of dementia. We have a lovely waterfront home on a very busy waterway with constant entertainment from boats, dolphins, manatees and seabirds and most definitely don’t want to leave it. At this time we don’t need any help with anything except lawn and pool care (inexpensive) Financially we’re “OK” but definitely not wealthy….house is worth a lot but we don’t want to leave it. Don’t know how it will all end ??? “Breezed through my 70’s and doing fine at almost 90 …..never smoked , never any alcohol or illicit drugs ….drink milk (fat free) with my breakfast and have done so since birth. Never a single cup of coffee ….my doctor says “whatever you’re doing keep on doing it” ….so I do.

[@katharinedavis4947]

@billgale5568 Well done to both of you . I hope you continue as you are , I'm so sorry about your wife's dementia. I don't know what to suggest other than what you already have . Crosswords maybe . Does she like reading anything to keep her mind working. Would there be any clubs she might enjoy ? I think you must be in the US or Canada. I'm in UK. Yours Kay

[@billgale5568]

@@katharinedavis4947 thanks, yes we’re in Florida and it’s quite lovely Here ….summers are warm ( lower 90’s but with a nice sea breeze here on the water) but they can get warm and in many cases even warmer far north of here. Our waterfront house (a modest but incredibly nice 2547 sq ft) is on one of the nicest pieces of property ON THE PLANET …..yes it’s that nice here. ….no complaints here.

[@AhJodie]

Just so people know, falls don't stop because people go to nursing homes! Falls can happen in a second, even with people near. Most of the people I have taken care in nursing homes had dementia or some cognitive problem, and often several combined issues like incontinence, diabetes, heart problems, and strokes, broken hip or diseases that caused loss of independence. A lot of people think it is important to try to keep finding cures for their health issues, but for me, I don't want anything.... if my heart isn't working right, then don't do a thing.... the creator knows what they are doing. The only medication I want is something to reduce pain, and perhaps anti-anxiety. I don't want any of those life prolonging procedures done..... I am 69 and worked in nursing homes for many years as a nurse. I loved the people and their families (most of them) and so did my staff (most of them) and we became one big family. But the other side to this is the cost, which will drain families and patients of everything they have. Look up your legal rights so you can keep your wealth in your family and not give it to companies!

[@ligbzd837]

Caregiver house calls will become a common business in the next 20 years I believe. If people wants to stay home, and family members can't do it all, then the other option is to hire others to drop in for some services like house cleaning, cooking, or showers.

[@SandfordSmythe]

Have to pay for the care.

[@vinniephillips452]

I’m in my 60s, retired and love going to the gym! I enjoy working out with weights. Been doing it since I was 12 years old. Had my share of injuries like most people who enjoy lifting but that’s part of the game. As I age I believe this has helped me. When I see people my age struggle physically, I think working out in the gym all these years has paid off.

[@FrontRowwithEd]

Hey Vinnie, you have the right attitude, keep it up, and Age Strong 💪🏽

[@karilwade2542]

began juggling over a year ago, few minutes in the morning and at night. took months to even accomplish basic juggle, using heavy juggling balls over my bed for ease of picking up the dropped balls. saw increase of balance, dexterity and core muscles. am 72 year old woman, using a walker, fighting her way back from years of not moving. most fun i have ever had doing physical therapy. praise the Lord!

[@ritas6972]

I love this. You are so cool!

[@onetuliptree]

I haven't tried juggling since I was a kid, sounds like fun!

[@myrtleesther8855]

praise Him xx

[@joeenglert]

breaks my heart in a million pieces to see old women in nursing homes when they don't need to be..and shouldn't be. I use to help out and visit them in nursing homes and the one old lady who was over one hundred years old and couldn't see and walk , but had her mental stuff still there...she would just sit in her bed staring at a tv she couldn't see and her kids would visit her, maybe for a half hour once a week...I visited her every day for at least an hour and took her out in the patio, pusher her in her chair and just talked and sang songs to her..I just cant beleive her own kids left her in a very badly run home which was dirty and the phillipine staff were very cold and lazy to say the least...

[@ligbzd837]

Bless your heart! You will be blessed. Remember Mother Teresa's words...In the Final Analysis, its between you and God. Most adult kids do not care about an old parent. They will be treated the same one day.

[@Georgia-Vic]

I'm 54 and not a senior yet but i was in an auto wreck in 2007 which left me crippled. I was in a wheelchair for two years,i migrated to a walker,then pain pills and then a cane. I didnt want to rely on a walking stick forever so i threw it away (reluctantly!). I did it to force me to regain my balance and strengthen my leg, i live alone so i have to be careful.I'm still wobbly at times, lol but i get better each time i get out!

[@FrontRowwithEd]

Excellent, keep it up, every little bit helps!

[@elkekirkpatrick6481]

Your story is so inspiring, thank you!

[@novembersky3749]

u r young u have time to do what your doc. or therapist tell u.

[@Georgia-Vic]

@@novembersky3749 ...sometimes though, I feel like I'm in my late 80's because of my injury but by the Grace of my Maker, I am still able to stand and walk. It gets better once I get out and do it instead of making excuses not to!

[@dizzysdoings]

Sometimes putting a family member in a home is the only thing you can do, especially if you love them. My father got to the point of not being able to live on his own. He was constantly falling, in spite of therapy to work on his balance. Plus he was showing signs of dementia. My oldest brother lives overseas. He came back twice for a month at a time to stay with him. My sister is a snow bird and doesn't live in the area. Her husband has health problems. But in spite of that, she stayed with him for a month. Her son was also able to stay with him for a month and work remotely. He was, unfortunately, the only family member that had this option. My other brother is a widower and has his own problems. Plus, he works full time and often works overtime. That left me. If there was any way I could have cared for him, I would have. Before he got bad, I was checking on him twice a day. I was doing his yard work and house work, taking him for appointments, etc. Then my husband got diagnosed with what turned out to be terminal cancer. I couldn't care for both of them. We did our research and visited all the homes in the area. While Dad hadn't wanted to go in, he adjusted pretty quickly. He was well cared for and even put on weight! He lived there for just over 2 years before passing at the age of 93.

[@FrontRowwithEd]

Thank you for sharing your story. There are often no easy answers or perfect solutions. We all do the best we can, take care and be well.

[@mpatey63]

@dizzysdoings : Well said! 👏 I'm seeing very judgmental people on here who are hopelessly naive about the reality of caring for relatives, especially those with advanced dementia.

[@globalfamily8172]

@@mpatey63 My brother and dad care for my mom, who has had dementia for 17 years!

[@katie7748]

​@@mpatey63Yep. And everyone is different.

[@deannehuizenga4845]

God bless your Dad and brother!

[@mypointofview1111]

My mother ended up in a care home not because we didn't care about looking after her in her old age but because she had multiple health problems that we were ill equipped to deal with and the fact we all had mortgages to pay so we had to work. A carers allowance doesn't even cover the basic cost of living. If people had a proper basic income it would allowance them to care for elderly relatives and relatives who needed home help without the constant stress of existing day-to-day on a pittance

[@marynguyen9365]

You can have another home if you lose yours. You can get another job but you Only have One mother in your whole life. Your body, your house and all you have are from your mother. You're born from her and your life started with her Good excuses!!!!!

[@haggai3.477]

​@@marynguyen9365 Truly, the VALUE of ANYTHING is determined by its Rarity.

[@ladymeringue9870]

Wow. I wouldn’t want my children to lose their home , their careers and possibly their marriages to care for me if I had multiple illnesses that they couldn’t deal with. I don’t which planet you’re living on but most people don’t easily get another home and job after losing them@@marynguyen9365

[@mypointofview1111]

@@marynguyen9365 That's not true. If you default on your mortgage you become homeless and I have no intention of living on the streets, mother or no mother.

[@marynguyen9365]

That's very true and this is a very valuable video. I am sporty and I am very active all my life. Now at 70 there are things I stopped doing to prevent injuries like tennis play, running, jogging. I opted daily brisk walking and swimming, 5/7 one hour each day laps and occasionally moderate hiking along the coast when weather permits. I started daily fasting 2 years ago to control my blood glucose under 100. Successfully done with fasted results under 90. Cut down high carbs foods, limit alcohol to only special occasions. I achieved my goal being a healthy senior. Am a bit slightly underweight and am watching carefully what I eat, my workout activities and monitoring my sleep. All that really help to fight the symptoms of aging but cannot stop it. We do all we can in the aging process. Good diet, a routine daily workout and a goodnight sleep are the formula to keep seniors well and happy. It's not about living long, but living happily. And lastly I don't want to be a burden for anyone. 👍+Subscribed 💕

[@FrontRowwithEd]

Excellent, keep it up!

[@mariadoloresmillares3451]

Good day ..what discipline ..i have started doing that now am 62 and still in government service ..i have noticed many younger people now often have sick leave than we older ones ..

[@carmenburnham1088]

Thank you for these tips and advice. They are so helpful. I am a psychotherapist and I have a client who is in her mid 80’s who has had a serious back injury for over 20 years and stays in a lot of pain. She is on a lot of meds pain killers especially. She just started using a walker. Frankly, I think she is amazing to endure all she endures. She watches her great grands when she can. Her family is so good to her and reassures her she will not go into a nursing home. She lives alone and is so afraid of going into a nursing home. Her family reassures her they will not do that to her.

[@FrontRowwithEd]

Hello Carmen, thank you for sharing, sounds like an amazing woman 😎

[@teacup3133]

I hope they can live up to that promise. Nursing homes are jails for the elderly.

[@ginamclean659]

@@teacup3133I call pensioners prison

[@paulinepress3024]

Care homes are G ds waiting rooms

[@TLStitches]

Sad to say, sometimes people end up in a home because there's nowhere else to go. I have a single, never married and no children relative in his early 70's that has to move to a nursing home. He had several falls within a few months and several residents have complained about his behavior for many years prior to this. A few months ago he had a really nasty fall in his apartment and because of his previous behaviors, when he was calling out for help the neighbors in his building just assumed he was being his usual cantankerous self. Anyway, my sisters and I can't take him in because of limitations in space or physical abilities. You are absolutely right about pointing out the importance of what you said, and I would like to add another tip. Our mother also lived in a tiny apartment and used a walker because she had very bad eyesight and she was always afraid of falling. Needless to say, in such a small apartment and using a walker ended up being a problem. More than once it caught on a piece of furniture and she fell. I'm not saying people shouldn't use a walker if needed, but people really need to assess their space carefully. Get rid of clutter, if your space is small get rid of cumbersome furniture and get furniture that doesn't get in the way, get rid of throw rugs beyond a bath mat, don't have electrical cords trailing across your floor and install handrails in the tub/shower or in other necessary areas. Good lighting is also critical. Not all falls happen because of lack of balance or health issues. I've known a few seniors besides my mother that fell because of the above factors. It can happen to anyone, but seniors alone are more vulnerable. Oh, and consider something like Lifeline if it makes sense for you.

[@elkekirkpatrick6481]

Excellent advice, thank you!

[@ligbzd837]

The ratio in a nursing home is what 1 to 20? How is one nurse going to make sure all 20 doesn't fall? If one elderly is having poop, that nurse needs to clean up and run around to do many things. Meanwhile, the other 19 will get up and FALL.

[@kotik1033]

A neighbour recently passed away aged 106, yet she managed to live in her own home right till the end. She had no close family but had carers visit 6 times a day in her final years. She was happy with the arrangement and resisted any suggestion she move into a home.

[@Lisa-cn2uu]

What carer program would visit 6 times a day? Thank you.

[@user-ws1qf7ol4k]

I started and worked at an 11 bed private nursing home. It was in a beautiful old New England farmhouse. I thought the residents would enjoy life in a home atmosphere. Not. Most of them wanted to be at their own home. The families brought them to us. One old gal was told by her doctor that she could fall down her staircase. Her response "then I will die at home!" I saw lots of shenanigans concerning money! It was a depressing business and I sold it after three years. The only residents who were content came to us for the hard Maine winter knowing they would be going home in the spring. Most of our residents were women. Suffering from dementia. One morning at breakfast an old gal asked someone what time it was, her watch had stopped. She got several replies with varying times!!! Ruth a woman who would hide her soiled underwear!!! replied "we are always worried about the time and have nowhere to go"!!! I could write a book about those three years, if only I could write!!!!!

[@FrontRowwithEd]

What an experience! Thanks so much for sharing your thoughtful insights.

[@rositachoy9364]

Contact a writer and have the book written.

[@grandmajane2593]

What do you mean? If you could write. You've written this post. I read it and found it to be interesting. I think it would be a very interesting story. You could describe a Maine winter too for a little more interesting detail. I'd buy it.

[@MoniqueangeliqueLumpkin]

ALL BULL, GET LIFE ALERT, F*CK NURSING HOME

[@emmsue1053]

My lovely Mom had to go into care because someone along the line had deemed her as "challenging" .. No one thought to speak her nicely or with some respect because of her Alzheimer's. I find it strange that professional people would not treat someone with a brain tumour or serious head injury with disrespect.. I was more than willing to have her at home with family but The Powers That Be refused & although she begged to come home they stated she was not capable of making that decision.. Heart-breaking. Thank you for this, none of us want to be simply a "body" but often the system fails.

[@FrontRowwithEd]

Sorry to hear this! Thank you for sharing your story

[@moocrazytn]

This is terrifying. It's horrible to think strangers get a say but you don't! Didn't realize this could happen. Can you file to be conservators or medical power of attorney?

[@karinahall4915]

​@@moocrazytn happens here in Australia, the government steps in and takes everything from you, no longer in control of your own money and assets, they actually make money from you charging huge fees. Even pets are left to fend for themselves, no compassion.

[@karlabritfeld7104]

Most likely you cannot take care of an Alzheimer's patient. Very challenging.

[@karlabritfeld7104]

​@@moocrazytnnot even the person has Alzheimer's. By then it's too late

[@mkeen1808]

Being able to live independently is the key ability. My folks didn't have fall issues, they exercised, just denial that they would get old. My folks refused to make a plan, thinking I would move 120 miles and live with them then they needed help. I have a business that is not transportable. I also own a smaller home next door to me with first floor living. My folks REFUSED to consider moving there, at least part time to try it out. Their health crisis caused me to step in and make a plan. Because they had not moved near me and have support in place or make a plan, it was up to me, a couple of weeks before I went to help my daughter and infant for a month. Making no plan means you are allowing your kids to ultimately make a plan that works for them.

[@FrontRowwithEd]

Yes, absolutely it’s a hard conversation but we need to have it with our parents and hopefully they understand what needs to happen. Thank you for sharing.

[@ggeorge4144]

@@FrontRowwithEd I am 82 and live in the boondocks thousands of miles from all my children. We speak, give gifts, e-mail maybe 2-3 times a year. I want it this way as I intend to live in my home, on my own land, until I die. I will never be taken from my home without one hell-a-va fight. I am a very peaceful man, but no one will ever remove me from my home. The laws that allow others, such as children, have parents placed in nursing homes are blatantly unconstitutional and should never be enforced. That is why I do not want to live close enough to any relatives that might check up on me. Fortunately I live in Arizona and their constitution is stricter than the US constitution when it comes to welfare checks. Elderly people should not be terrorized by so called caring relatives.

[@SuperDrLisa]

I don't have children. I'm not going to leave it to my grandnieces and nephews to care for me. I'm 67 and already showing signs of cognitive impairment.

[@mkeen1808]

I found mom near death from dehydration after she did not answer the phone. She would have died in her home as she intended but I'm pretty sure she would not have expected she would naked on the floor for several days as she dehydrated.@@ggeorge4144

[@gwenfehr9156]

As a family we are currently doing 24 hour care for my 91 yr old MIL. Six months ago she didn’t qualify for nursing home care. We will continue doing this until she can’t walk anymore, at least. The nursing homes in our area are in lockdown mode right now. Having mom in her own home is so much better for her and for us as a family.

[@FrontRowwithEd]

Yes I agree. My parents live in India and my mom, who has dementia, is being cared for at home. Thank you for sharing

[@karlabritfeld7104]

That is just too much for a family to take on. Too much. Get a nurse to come in once a day

[@patthompson8591]

​@FrontRowwithEd 👍🏻👏👏👏 Well done. I find the Indians & easterners, Chinese, Africans & some others take care of their aged - regardless. *AND SO IT SHOULD BE* . Everyone should be taught how to take care of their aged family members with gentility, love patience & and tolerance - period, and not palm off their responsibility to a care home .

[@patthompson8591]

@sherril.562 Unfortunately, not only the North Americans. Most Westerners ie. UK, European countries, and even African countries have adopted this selfish detached attitude toward their senior relatives, claiming they haven't the skills nor the time, whereas the care home givers are trained for these *DUTIES* 😔😪. *VERY VERY SAD STATE OF AFFAIRS* .

[@mpatey63]

@patthomson8591 : Have you ever cared for a parent who is doubly incontinent, wanders everywhere, turns night into day, is a danger to themselves and to the home, screeches incessantly, is physically violent, smears faeces all over the walls ? And all this when you have to work full time outside the home ? How do you propose to care for this relative yourself ? That's the reality for many people who have a parent with dementia. Please don't be so judgmental about the use of nursing homes !

[@christinehall6441]

I also worked in the British dementia care system for 24 yrs and the commonest reason for elderly people being put into care was their families panicking, being unable due to work or unwilling to be responsible for their well-being. The other was care managers deciding client not safe alone. It's no good paying for care in the person's own home be cause the delivery of these services are so erratic. Understaffing in care homes means that the individuals become tasks to be done as quickly as possible to fit into the homes regimes, timetables. Holistic care is the ideal preached, but without sufficient staff there aren't enough hours spare in a work shift to sit and socialise with these unfortunates people, some of who will never see the outside world again because of private owners tight budgets and their unwillingness to provide outings. Occasionally bringing in amateur musicians to play music to a captive audience was the best that they could expect other than TV. Staff want to give a more humane approach to caring, but if they're rushed off their feet bathing, stripping beds, feeding meals, taking to the toilet in time for next task, it's impossible.

[@susanebert3407]

Love the advice for living independently! I do coffee squats. Those are at least 3 reps of squats while my coffee is brewing.

[@FrontRowwithEd]

Good stuff!

[@toriwolf5978]

Lol love it❤

[@peggypieters661]

I was raised in the nursing home business; they were terrible back in the 60s, 70s and beyond, and today they are horrific!!!! Don’t let their possible swanky looking facility fool you. Any kind of hospital, assisted living, memory care or nursing home will ONLY be as good as those giving the patient care, and the reality is next to. No one wants to work at these places and those who do, at least the majority, give lousy patient care. My brother who still owns one to this day says it is next to impossible to get even an RN to work let alone those who do the actual patient care. If, at all possible, keep your loved ones out of these places; I cannot say this strongly enough!!!

[@FrontRowwithEd]

Wow Peggy, thanks for sharing your story!

[@rmp7400]

A suggestion was made to me by a home health care provider: do NOT get up quickly!!! Most falls at home happen when seniors try to rush up and out of bed....a dizziness can overtake the head and a fall can easily happen. I still keep this in mind - and now share with y'all here💐

[@FrontRowwithEd]

Good advice, thanks for sharing !

[@beverlypearson5332]

In one of my nursing positions, I visited patients in their homes. You would not believe all the “clutter” I saw in almost every home. From excessive furniture pieces to trash left on the floor, not to mention throw rugs, these homes were definitely unsafe.

[@FrontRowwithEd]

Yes I’ve seen that also!

[@grampi68]

That describes my home also, but what you (and others) don't understand is that I don't live that way by choice.

[@beverlypearson5332]

@@grampi68 Sorry, I don’t understand.

[@margareth1504]

I wonder. An 88 year old very active woman one day just fell over while working in the yard. She was found when her daughter came home from work. Her daughter fretted over her mother feeling it was cruel to leave her alone, and so put her in an aged care home. There was little to no money for her care, and within 3 months her mother had died from a blood clot after she fell out of bed onto a hard floor in the care home. At least when she fell in the yard, the ground was much gentler to her body, than the hard floors of care homes. Ive heard of several more elderly people who died about 3 months after being put into aged care for safety. They all had the fall out of bed, then the blood clot from the fall, causing the death. How often does this sequence occur I wonder.

[@CLord-gs7nj]

@@grampi68 You might try doing a Google search for: " your County or zipcode and ... Services For The Aged" . When you call the various organizations ask if there are elderly services available to help with cleaning, organizing and assistance with aging in place. You can ask that furniture be given away, the trash picked up, throw rugs be removed etc. There are books on Aging In Place at your local library. Perhaps family, friends or your local church would be able to help you navigate making your home cleaner and safer for you. There is no going back AFTER you trip and fall, so fixing tripping hazards and keeping your home neat, clean and livable is well worth the effort. It is too bad that these services are not universal. My Mom who lived in Minnesota had help with cleaning, changing her sheets,laundry, shopping, transportation and meals on wheels. My Aunt lives in Florida, and there are not nearly as many services. If what you meant by your comment is that you have a partner who is messy or a hoarder, then you need cleaning help and mental health assistance for your partner. I wish you well sir.

[@coloradomark2159]

About 5 years ago I was walking down my street and there was a Subaru Outback with a mountain bike on the back and a man was getting out of the drivers seat. He wasn't exactly moving gingerly but I got his attention. He didn't look like no young sprout either. So I chatted him up and he was telling me about the mountain bike club he was part of. I was interested. He said that I would be about in the middle at 66 y.o. Now I'm getting more curious. I kept talking to him (Chuck) and and finally curiosity got the best of me and had to ask him how old he was. He told me 83. My jaw dropped. He and his wife at 75 y.o. both mountain bike. He told me he was a grinder and his wife was a spinner. I'm shaking my head. What an inspiration to live by haven't heard from Chuck since but he really made an impression on me. I've kept real active with my mountain biking at 71 y.o. Have a week in Sedona reserved in April for my obsession. Way too early to be hanging up my spurs. It's not how old you are it's how you've kept up is the lesson from Chuck. Eat right and keep moving!

[@FrontRowwithEd]

Awesome, thanks for sharing!

[@theaccidentalsenior]

I am retired and recently moved into an 18 plus community (26 units). The majority of people living here are widows/widowers 75-95. They constantly complain that they are lonely, but won’t invite anyone over for coffee/tea. They won’t look after their home because they say they are old and use their age as a weapon towards me to get me to do their yard work. I also have medical issues and look after my place but am feeling sicker looking after all the other yards and community property. When I do this work they complain that I am not doing it right (I have a masters degree and always research how to do things). When I suggest that maybe their kids could help them they tell me their kids are too busy and if they ask they will put them in a home. They won’t do any exercise or little things to keep them mobile. They still drive and run over garbage cans and drive the 100 yards to the mailbox to get their mail as they can’t walk.They are going to kill somebody driving. Senior residences are not always a bad thing and can pro-long the quality of life for the individual, family and the community. As I said, we have 9 widows/widowers in my cul de sac and are thinking of taking a loss on our property to preserve our life.

[@FrontRowwithEd]

Thank you for sharing, you definitely bring up some good points. Best wishes.

[@moocrazytn]

Considering your research skills, you might benefit from learning about boundaries. It's never too late! Best wishes.

[@karlabritfeld7104]

What a whiner

[@toriwolf5978]

Wow do what’s best for you good luck ❤sounds like your on the right track, don’t listen to negative comments…..

[@debpratt52]

No, a truth teller. I lived in a senior community (we all owned our own homes) and were only 62. The neighbors were all in their 80s-90s and it makes you begin to feel decrepit. We only lasted one year there. @@karlabritfeld7104

[@dh2392]

I'm a senior living on my own, and you can get groceries delivered. You can also get meals delivered if you're hungry and want to eat now.

[@FrontRowwithEd]

Excellent point!

[@MM-km5zf]

my mother in law is 89 and has always been a very prideful and stubborn woman. I believe these two character traits are currently complicating her life. I suggested she build a small home behind our property, she refused. I suggested she buy the house next to us when it came up for sale, she said no. We make a million suggestions to her and she refuses every single one. She only talks about what she would like to do but never engages. I suggested therapy so she can hear this from a non relative perspective , and she refused as well. She gets very upset when we tell her not to walk fast, use her walker, not to drink alcohol especially when alone, not to walk to the store on a busy street...the list goes on. When she lives our house, my husband and I are on the verge of divorce (exaggerating but close). I have come to realize that pride and stubbornness are going to be her demise. 😔

[@mpatey63]

When my mother was first diagnosed with dementia, I suggested to my parents that they either move to a more suitable house or install a downstairs bathroom. Didn't take my advice and now years later when they are much more frail and vulnerable, they've had the trauma of having to move house. Could have been so much easier for them ...

[@darlenebradley6756]

@@mpatey63 You are so right! As I stated above, I have already made plans for home modifications as I age, if that becomes necessary. I am a nurse and was a discharge case manager for a few years when I was in my 40's. Working through these issues with patients and their families really opened my eyes to all the things that can be done to prevent having to go through the emotional trauma of a nursing home decision. But, as you point out, advance planning makes all the difference. And the sad thing is the cost of the modifications is always much cheaper than the nursing home.

[@glorioskiola]

Sounds just like my mother. Stubborn as all heck. She’s 93 and still lives alone with dementia. Has home supports and adult day care.

[@MM-km5zf]

my mother in law said she didn't need anyone's help, but she has broken her ankle and wrist and is usually bruised, but her reaction to us, "you are exaggerating"...I tell my husband don't put it on dementia, she's been stubborn and prideful since i met her twenty eight years ago@@glorioskiola

[@Myr25636]

I begged my parents 30 years ago to move to a ranch style house instead of one that is all stairs everywhere. They refused. Then my dad’s knees got arthritic and my mom started needing a walker. Their last years were much harder than necessary because they would not listen.

[@chrislastnam6822]

Your doctor isn't going to tell you your falls are from side effects of prescriptions.

[@ladymeringue9870]

Interesting.

[@jeanalice4732]

Damn right

[@Oldbroad1]

I think the number 1 reason people end up in facilities are incontinence and inability to manage clean-up and laundry. Family just can’t deal with it. That’s also the number 1 reason pets are put down. My opinion.

[@FrontRowwithEd]

Thanks for sharing, good points!

[@karlabritfeld7104]

True

[@michellewinkler3985]

my mom has been emotionally abusive for as long as I can remember. She has broken her hip multiple times and hoards. she is incontinent, doesn't bathe, doesn't do her laundry. She always passes the "intelluctual" test and can name any president but is totally nuts. She is in assisted living and yelled at them recently that she needs to go into independant living. I have total anxiety from her and can't even speak to her anymore because she just yells at me (I speak through her caregivers) she is 96.5 as I said in my other post i also take care of a special needs son who has 16 different medical conditions. It really upsets me when people think we are "obligated" to take care of family. I simply can't. If had to take care of her at this point I would probably have a mental breakdown. I just can't be her dart board. I need to be healthy mentally and physically for our son.

[@katie7748]

​@@michellewinkler3985*hug*

[@connieverbeck1110]

Thank you. Exactly what I need. I contracted encephalitis late September. I’m 73 years old. And I’m determined to stay in my home. I had a colonoscopy a couple of months ago and was told I have 20 more years! I’m claiming it!! Lol. And I want them all in my home. It’s my happy place. I have made an almost full recovery, for which I am truly grateful!! We are fellow Washingtonians!!! Yeah great state.

[@FrontRowwithEd]

You are so welcome, keep it up!

[@seachel24]

Thankyou for great advice 💕I had a wonderful Grandmother 95 who had a fall , so her daughter sent her to a nursing home , sold her home straight away and she sadly died within two months, after complications of another fall. Things could have been very different ....

[@FrontRowwithEd]

Yes , thanks for sharing

[@deefaye2743]

I went to the YMCA and started taking a chair Yoga class. They worked on stretching and balance… I was amazed at how fast my balance improved…

[@FrontRowwithEd]

Excellent, keep it up!

[@jeanwissinger6013]

Families, as a whole, have disappeared altogether. No support for a lot of seniors.

[@FrontRowwithEd]

Yes, unfortunately, that is true in many situations.

[@mpatey63]

Problem is, that as people live longer, by the time they become infirm, their needs can end up being too complex for family to manage.

[@tessmonro7102]

Working exercises into your every day activities is really great for people like me who don't keep up with exercise programmes. I stand on one leg when I'm brushing my teeth morning & night, when I wipe down the kitchen bench and when I put my sox on. Whenever I rise from the toilet I sit and rise 3 times. I realised a few years ago that not having a lazy Susan in my deep corner cupboard had helped me be able to rise unaided from a squat. So think twice before adding "easy" mod cons to your life.

[@FrontRowwithEd]

Great ideas! Any exercises is still exercise, keep it up!

[@debbieburrows9880]

Great podcast.... get educated! I am 69 years old, take NO meds at all. I still work part time (this is important I think, work gives me purpose, extra money, and young people in my life. I've made friends!!) I eat healthy, don't drink, smoke, and exercise every day. I have a masters in social work which gives me the knowledge and confidence to keep healthy and positive. Relationships are sooo important! Finally, most average size towns or cities have plenty of services for the elderly. Find out what your community can provide and take advantage, most if not all services are free.

[@1chuck96]

Hey Ya'll...'Just turned 70 last month, (October /2023), and I'm getting REAL curious as to how to deal with living alone, (no wife, kids, pets, friends, etc.), and it's scaring the S**T out of me. What happens if I fall...(and a thousand other things). I mean who'd notice or give a “flip” for that matter. I live in an Apartment community here in Bluffton, SC and pay WAY TOO MUCH for rent, ($1,194.00 / mo.) for a 1 bedroom place, but with bidens economy, that's just the way things roll today right? A long story shortened...The day WILL come in that I'll no longer be able to to take care of myself, and then what? Has anybody checked-out “in home health-care”costs lately? It's obscene and AMAZINGLY un-affordable. Same thing being said for “Nursing homes”, they charge you a fortune and would like nothing more than to see you dead either on the floor, or in bed so as NOT to be bothered. It's just the way “things” are today...Oh, and make NO mistake!!! The bottom line here is even in dying...and you don't have supplemental cash on hand...you're into a “heep of trouble”. Sorry for the dissertation, but I've seen it way too many times within my own “former” family. Your thoughts?

[@ladymeringue9870]

Just because you age it doesn’t necessarily follow that you won’t be able to look after yourself. Work on your physical and mental health, ideally have a good relationship with God, develop and maintain friendships and spend some of your free time doing something positive in your community.

[@KabobHope]

The average time of survival of nursing home residents is one year. EDIT: I looked up the study and it is actually between 13 and 14 months.

[@FrontRowwithEd]

Wow!

[@mpatey63]

No surprise, and not necessarily a reflection on the nursing home. People are already very frail and ill to end up there in the first place.

[@donnaml8776]

I would rather die than end up in a nursing home. I care for a friend who lives in a nursing home and it’s heart wrenching that these dear people who used to have busy, active, lives and are now reduced to sitting in a chair in the common area just staring out with nothing to do, but maybe watch TV. And what if there is someone there they don’t get along with? They do not have a choice about who is around them. They don’t have a say in what they “get to” eat, what they “get to” do, where they “get to” go. I try to tell these young people who are the staff to remember that these residents used to be you. Active, alive, busy, with families and lives of their own. Now they are reduced to someone telling them when they can go to the potty, when they can shower, when they an eat (nine times out of ten they’re eating chicken in one form or another), if they can take vitamins (which usually all vitamins are taken away and medicine is shoved down their throats), and if they do not have anyone visiting them, they aren’t care for as well as if they have a family member or care person watching out for them. Yes, it’s true that they are purposely short staffed. And they have 20 CNA and only one staff person who cleans which is a very hard job especially when the staff are sloppy, or are needlessly moving residents. And the physical therapy side gets much better care because it’s a bigger profit. It’s true that there are some who really care, but there are far more who don’t, or perhaps they used to but have gotten so tired of the bureaucracy that they’ve given up. No, no I never want to live in a nursing home, no thank you.

[@rosefenton3005]

I am elderly and through the loss of my dear husband, I am just about managing with carers coming got in every day to get foods and anything else I need. They are very good and kind and very dedicated. But what happens when I run out of money when I only want to stay in my own home?

[@ediejohnson3301]

Hi! I just discovered your channel and immediately subscribed. The information in this video is so important, both to those who have been unaware of it and those of us who need to be reminded of it. I went through this with my mother many years ago and being in my mid 70s now, I was needing to have my memory nudged on this subject. I thank you so much for this wake up call! I've always been a very independent person and hope to continue to be for many years more. The reminder you've given me should be a big help in achieving this goal.

[@FrontRowwithEd]

Excellent, happy to help!

[@marianne1959]

Age 65 and work full-time as bus office mgr in nursing home. So many of our residents younger than me. Went carnivore 3 yrs ago and completely healed my body. Off all 14 meds, no more hbp, reversed t2d and doing strength training. I am healthier now than in last 30 yrs. Excellent labs. A1c from 9.5 to between 4.9 to 5.2. Meat heavy , high fat is THE proper human diet! Was vegan for 15 yrs prior and my health deteriorated drastically. Will never return to eating inflammation causing plants and high carb processed foods,!

[@FrontRowwithEd]

Thanks for sharing Marianne, keep it going!

[@pamelag.00]

Marianne, also carnivore here since January, and feeling great!

[@july77773]

I tried the carnivore but couldn't stomach it after awhile. I agree with you. Am trying to concentrate on proteins and fats.

[@marianne1959]

@@july77773 I do believe that just completely giving up all sugar, all processed foods, seed oils will lead anyone to better health. If veggies don't cause you inflammation and the oxylates don't bother you, then those are fine. Fruits for me will never find their way back into my way of eating bc the fructose just spikes my glucose.

[@july77773]

@@marianne1959 thank you. Will try again.

[@jamic6351]

Challenging sense of balance….what a concept! I’m forwarding this to everybody. I use a screenshot for something you’ve said. The screenshot goes to Photos, I can look a few times, go right to the place in the vid because it’s time stamped. My pet peeve is…nobody alters their furniture. Same furniture for twenty years. Give me something to hold as I walk. Everybody should have an orange emergency whistle on the door knob. See a dog walker or letter carrier, whistle for help. I’ve had several falls, each time I’ve studied how it happened. And, I’ve made immediate changes. Best for lower body is a quality recumbent bike. Expect to pay, expect to pay for assembly. Don’t buy a cheeseball item from big box. Quality is worth the price. It has resale value. You can have 2-3 friends to do twenty minute sets. Share the cost, don’t scrimp.

[@FrontRowwithEd]

Thank you for sharing and stay safe!

[@CarolineSullivan-yr7sr]

I have been teaching group fitness for 35 years and now teaching Barre classes for seniors to keep us/them strong and flexible from head to toe to avoid this scenario. ❤

[@FrontRowwithEd]

Excellent Caroline 👏🏼

[@dyutibaxi6659]

I am 75, joined a gym that specialises in strength/resistance and cardio training with a personal trainer every time. It is not cheap, but I thought it is time to focus on physical fitness with a trainer who decides on a plan to train me.

[@FrontRowwithEd]

Yes, excellent plan. Those are well spent dollars since many seniors spend hundreds per month on prescription medications also. Good luck and keep on exercising!

[@novembersky3749]

yes.@@FrontRowwithEd

[@user-hv5pk5yp8q]

it depends on whether you do correct exercises often. I do yoga five days a week, weight lifting and cycling often. I can play with my three grandchildren on the floor. my husband is 75, does stretching everyday on the floor. walking fast everyday at park . we cook and clean house everyday, we try not to rely on others.

[@jimscharfenberger2]

Thank you for this practical advice for seniors, Ed. Jim

[@FrontRowwithEd]

Very welcome Jim!

[@ryanwilliams989]

Many folks struggling to cover basic expenses often face this challenge because they didn't save enough during their working years. The choices made in preparing for retirement have significant impacts, as seen in my own family. Different investment strategies led to different outcomes. With guidance from a financial advisor, I'm now enjoying my retirement.

[@StellaMaris-lv2uq]

Yes, I'm in my mid-50s, and a few years back, I moved my investments to my wife's wealth manager. While I haven't caught up to her long-term gains, my current earnings and the growth of my retirement fund, compared to just relying on the 401(k), are pretty satisfying.

[@maryHenokNft]

It's a shame that many don't have this information, leading to anxiety. For me, I've made over $35k effortlessly with an advisor, consistently getting returns despite economic changes - the best part is, it doesn't demand much effort.

[@maggysterling33254]

@@maryHenokNft Can you direct me on reaching your advisor? I'm looking for a more profitable investment strategy to counter inflation and make the most of my funds.

[@BiancaSherly-qt6sb]

I've proactively looked into *Camille Alicia Garcia* online, checked her credentials, and am impressed with her expertise. I've contacted her to discuss my detailed financial market goals.

[@FrontRowwithEd]

Excellent advice!

[@powerWithinUs4055]

Wonderfully done. I clicked on the left to bring up your whole channel. There’s one about meds. I’ll gather my strength before watching….chewing nails is effort. Of the family members and friends I’ve been around…people are over medicated. No one reviews what the person is taking at all, much less considers if it is still necessary…if it ever was. Don’t stop taking. Get sound advice, but, everything needs review…insurance does, meal planning does, going on a road trip by consulting maps does. One thing …please consider…your loved one should be seeing a gerontologist. They’re experienced in maladies and gerontologists are not prone to slap-happy prescriptions to solve every complaint. A friendly visitor approach is what is needed. Someone visit the home three times a week to check how things are going, Note…the stove left on…go to microwave use. Food leftovers piling up, not dated. Use dollar store baskets to organize by date and content. Have preprinted labels in baggies…drop the wrapped food into this bag. Have the patient quick -photo the shelves, it’s an activity , and it keeps everybody on board. I noticed in this video…electric tea kettle. Great. Can see the water level, right there on the counter. Great. Now…can a 90 year old hand and wrist negotiate it? Employ the rarely used coffee urn. Water is loaded from the top, fingertip action, lever the spout forward. The friendly visitor approach is synagogue or church based. Or, round robin. You do for me, I’ll do for you. We're all new at this. Homes were multi-generational by custom and tradition. Nobody had to worry about where to put Uncle Joe. Now this. Use the blue Share Arrow above. Forward this excellent show to family members. It’s can be used as an ice-breaker….let's talk.

[@FrontRowwithEd]

Thanks for sharing!

[@tonicarey971]

Very helpful comment, thank you!

[@carolynhogarth2725]

Stay at home. Enjoy your peace and live, love and do as you please. Yes. .

[@pamelajaye]

It also helps if your house is safe. Well lit. No rugs that you can trip over. Things like that. I have a friend who is 70 something. A few years ago she broke her ankle while walking multiple very large dogs. She was in the hospital and then they had to put her in rehab but her insurance only covered like two weeks. And the main problem that she had to be in rehab for apparently was: her bathroom was on the second floor. So she stayed in a hotel for two more weeks and paid for it out of her own pocket. But this is not a good thing. Insurance wouldn't pay for her to get to a place where she could get to the bathroom by herself. Anyway she got back home and she's fine.

[@karlabritfeld7104]

The lesson is buy a ranch style house

[@davidvogel6359]

@karlabritfeld7104 also consider if you can get in and out of the house without steps? do you have laundry on the same level as your living room, kitchen, bedroom, and bathroom? can you have a bath or shower if you can't walk or get in and out of a tub or shower? are the doors and hallway wide enough for a walker or wheelchair? I put in a laundry room upstairs and have a shower with a small step into, but the door is too small for a walker without turning sideways. so I have more work to do.

[@sjbutler2330]

And not walk large Dogs!!!

[@EndPoliceBrutailty]

I'm not a senior citizen yet but wanted to watch this out of curiosity. Now I understand why my grandma ended up in a nursing home. I'll continue riding my bike like a ninja to avoid ending up in one. Very helpful! Thanks!

[@FrontRowwithEd]

You are very welcome!

[@serahloeffelroberts9901]

My husband was a mountain bike warrior but he came down with leukemia. There are no guarantees in life.

[@NormanF62]

Assisted living is better for older people. They get to keep their independence and get help with issues that could impair their cognitive ability or physical mobility. Of course they can also get in home help to make life more manageable. A nursing home is fine if you can no longer look after yourself but its not suitable for most seniors.

[@aclem8246]

The main reason people end up in a nursing home is because they get ill and end up in a hospital which costs a fortune. They may be able to afford a couple of hospital stays and the associated costs which far exceed Medicare coverage, but eventually the savings is gone and the house needs to be sold to cover the bills. At that point there is a spend down of any left over money and you end up in a nursing home on medicaid. That is the real reality. 2 persons per room, kept in bed in diapers which are changed maybe every 4 hours. Up for meals and back to bed. 1 shower per week done by a stranger. Bad food, shelved until death. I would rather avoid the hospital and die at home. No extraordinary measure. Hospice care at home with morphine for pain until the disease or the morphine has me on my way with as little pain and fuss as possible.

[@ggeorge4144]

I agree totally except I would not use morphine, I prefer whiskey and to be alone.

[@earlwest3502]

Also lovely living room and dog!! Thank you for providing this important information!

[@FrontRowwithEd]

Glad you enjoyed it!

[@JulianS-xu6ff]

I agree with what Ed suggests. As with nursing homes or age care facilities, expect that they will not improve the care of the elderly any time soon. No amount of money will make drastic changes. Better to stay out of nursing homes as much as possible.

[@FrontRowwithEd]

Thanks for sharing, good points

[@thetackroomtx]

Ed- I just want to say Thank You so much for all your informative videos. Watching my mom / dad/ father in law decline with mobility issues - promoted me to join a gym and start working out. I am64 thin and have osteorperosis so I will be reviewing your videos to make sure I don't over do anything. Thank you again.

[@FrontRowwithEd]

You are so welcome!

[@JohnDoe-ot3zd]

I worked in a nursing home when I was a senior in highschool. I would never go to a nursing home....I would rather step in front of a truck then go there!

[@mmp495]

Great information. Will definitely send this to my parents for discussion. Thank you for your advocacy in helping elders live independently and with dignity. ❤

[@FrontRowwithEd]

You are very welcome, I hope it is helpful for your parents, take care

[@BoRanz-kr9zw]

I appreciate this channel, youtube popped it up without search!

[@FrontRowwithEd]

Glad you enjoy it!

[@nellieberkelmans1188]

I am 83 y. Old had a fall had ops on brain but lucky totally ok i am in age care because of balance problems cant live on my own anymore i hD to learn to live here it took me a while i am free to go where i want to i have taxi card its ok now thanks for listening xx

[@ybrynecho2368]

One thing I noticed in your kitchen was that you have a plastic bowl on your stove. That is something that can be deadly for a senior. They put a plastic bag or a tea towel on the stove top, then inadvertently turn on the wrong element and the object catches fire. Panic ensues causing them to try to run and then fall. I saw my mom doing this when she was alone and told her about it. One day I came to her house and there was a lid that was melted. I said nothing, but she said she knew all about it and had told her neighbour that I would give her shit because I'd told her not to put things on the stove.

[@FrontRowwithEd]

Great observation and very true! Thanks for sharing, I will be better in the next video :)

[@karlabritfeld7104]

Yes old people can be like children

[@ybrynecho2368]

@@karlabritfeld7104 No we aren't, we just forget stuff from time to time.

[@onetuliptree]

As I get older, I try to be conscious of careless habits that could become dangerous. I'm in the kitchen a lot, so that's a good area to think about.

[@ybrynecho2368]

@@onetuliptree Put red stickers on the knobs for the back two elements so that I don't turn them on by accident and I don't keep anything on my stove when I'm not using it.

[@FrontRowwithEd]

Here are the links I talk about in the video: Balance training kzbin.info/www/bejne/kJvEpoqGrJiVjKcsi=h5FyxyoT3J8yHwcW. 5 Exercises for Seniors kzbin.info/www/bejne/r4KTeGiuas18aJosi=QJeBMtZ9ZOrDY5Ea Safe Osteoporosis exercises kzbin.info/www/bejne/nXnFoH59o96njbssi=zsRHeV-lIrEA0gfh Learn more about Healthy Aging at our Facebook group facebook.com/groups/livewell50. Thanks for watching and keep exercising!

[@kanases]

It's not always a good idea to live at home. There was an older lady living across the street from my daughter and she was in rough shape, layers of dirty clothes, terrible body odor, etc. My daughter went to her door on mother's day to give her a rose and witnessed this, I reported it as elder abuse to the Provincial authorities and it was investigated, the only thing the employee would tell me was "someone" went to the house once or twice a week and that she had kids but he opened an investigation. I couldn't believe her own children would let her live in those conditions, who knows what she ate and when, what hazards were in her place, etc. 🤬🤬🤬 Last Friday I was by her house and spoke to a man that just came out of it and he told me that she was placed in a home and I was so happy to hear this!! I live in Canada and most care facilities are run by the Province so are better regulated than most private ones who are just in it for the money!!

[@FrontRowwithEd]

Yes, sometimes it is a better choice!

[@kanases]

@@FrontRowwithEdDefinitely!

[@junetaylor8396]

One temporary bout of confusion (from a UTI, for example) can allow your son to claim Power of Attorney and take over all your finances as well as POA for personal care! Good luck ever getting it back. He can sell your home without your permission and chuck you anywhere - please see a lawyer before this can happen. No man wants to wait for his inheritance.

[@ladymeringue9870]

I think such a parent would do well to consider how they had behaved to produce such an unloving child.

[@marilynand]

I was thinking you might discuss the important role OT plays in keeping people, not just seniors safe in the home. OT’s assess the client’s self-care activities to make necessary recommendations and instruct them in safe shower or bath transfers, bed transfers and bed mobility. OT’s instruction clients in safe meal preparation, how to get groceries etc. Plus energy conservation strategies. How to get off the floor if they fall, use of life alert systems, what to do in an emergency, safely entering and exiting their home. It is more complex to be at home safely than just balance. Think of clients who are w/c bound? Marilyn OT

[@FrontRowwithEd]

Yes Marilyn, great points, OT help is crucial

[@sherkelly4533]

Thanks for this good video, it reminded me to get back to exercising! Id like to give everyone a couple important tips to lessen their chances of tripping before you do anything. Walk thru your home and remove all throw rugs scattered about, #1 tripping hazard. And only use smaller comforters on your bed, you can still put a skirt on the bed but the larger bedspread is a common tripping hazard. Tripping usually happens in the middle of the night. The spread slides down and trips you up. My knowledge comes from working in Senior housing for over 20 yrs.

[@FrontRowwithEd]

Excellent points, thank you for sharing!

[@sherrie9241]

You always have the best advice and I appreciate you so much. Thank You

[@FrontRowwithEd]

Thanks Sherrie!