#1 Sleep Neuroscientist: Do This Every Morning To Stop Decline & Stay Young | Russel Foster

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Prepare to learn everything you wanted to know about sleep (but were too tired to ask). For today’s episode I’m welcoming back Professor Russell Foster, one of the world’s foremost experts on circadian rhythms and sleep. Russell is Professor of Circadian Neuroscience at the University of Oxford and author of the fantastic Life Time: The New Science Of The Body Clock And How It Can Revolutionise Your Sleep and Health.
The last time I spoke with Russell (on episode 292), we took a deep dive into circadian rhythms, chronotypes, and how best to live in sync with our body clocks. This conversation picks up where we left off and takes in some of the very latest evidence on using circadian science to optimise sleep.
Among many topics, we cover whether you should share a bed with your partner, whether sleep trackers are useful or not, and why routine is key. We discuss the vital importance of daytime light, minimising evening light, helping kids avoid screen time, and how our body temperature cycle affects sleep.
Russell shares the latest research on sleeping pills, magnesium and melatonin and the best ways to use them. We also cover the issue of waking to pee in the night, the importance of rest and relaxation, naps, sound frequency therapy, and weighted blankets.
It’s easy to think that good sleep is something you ‘get’ or miss out on. But Russell wants all of us to know that sleep is dynamic, flexible, and within our control.
This really is a wonderful conversation, jam-packed with practical insights that you can use immediately to improve how you sleep, wake and live.
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[@DrChatterjeeRangan]

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[@jenynz5334]

Yay, I found my people. Separate bedrooms rocks. I need my dark, quiet, uninterrupted rest.

[@sabygeorge5615]

When the ghosts come in you will be scrambling back to clutch your partner 😊

[@senorra941]

She isn't three!@@sabygeorge5615

[@casinosisters]

I need total darkness and no sound to sleep. My bedtime is 9 or 10. My husband needs a night light and a radio on and his bedtime is 1 or 2 AM. We sleep in separate rooms. I believe we would be divorced if we didn’t.

[@Bobby007D]

People need their own space !

[@cassandraberry8199]

I wish I knew this before me and my ex husband got divorced

[@dawndalydardick7354]

AGREED.EXHAUSTING TO ATTEMPT TO SLEEP NXT TO A RESTLESS.FITFUL.& PARTNER WHOM TALKS IN THEIR SLEEP.POOR SLEEP & CRANKINESS DO IMPACT HUMOUR!!

[@dawndalydardick7354]

YES WE ALL NEED OUR OWN SPACE.

[@abootwallysohomow7086]

Why did you marry then !!! Learn the meaning of marriage before marrying. !!!

[@azurec6001]

My ex-fiancé’s need to sleep with me and interrupt my sleep trumped me begging for a bed alone so I could sleep for my 12 hr shifts. He didn’t care that I could not get adequate rest with him and that I was suffering now he’s someone else’s problem lol

[@visnjalivancic3953]

BRAVOOO, I AM MARRIED FOR 35 YEARS AND NEVER SLEPT IN THE SAME BED AND MOST OF THE TIME IN SEPARATE ROOMS, SAVE MY LIFE AND STILL MARRIED, I JUST CAN NOT SLEEP IN THE SAME BED WHIT SOMEBODY

[@truthwillout7909]

Ever thought you might have picked the wrong partners ???

[@kennywhitworth4788]

No,not once. I have the perfect partner. The perfect partner does NOT mean sharing 8 hours in a bed next to you. Snoring…talking in their sleep, twitching, getting up all night to pee…and any other thing that disrupts MY sleep.

[@Trenchant468]

10 years in a double bed with a snoring morning person who didn’t respect my need to sleep. I ended up medically ill. Never again.

[@jsi4064]

​@@truthwillout7909plural? They only mentioned one.

[@MAGNUM2F]

Been together 39 years, had separate rooms for at least 20 of those. Works for us.

[@beachvolleyballinc]

Together since 1987. Separate beds since first born in 2001. Still together in 2024. Insomnia and fidget we made peace with separate rooms. Crucial for being a healthy family one of whom hopefully will sleep well. I get in the beginning it was sad. I miss that morning moment. But hugs over breakfast are special and different ❤

[@visnjalivancic3953]

👏👏👏the same here

[@anonymissed3611]

"Absence makes the heart grow fonder" (especially if they snore)

[@vesnafilipovic3779]

You can get that moning moments. When you have time, you can move to the same bed, when you wake up and drink coffee in the bed or you can ,in the evening watch tv in the bed, together and then go to your bed.

[@annekary6190]

​@@vesnafilipovic3779people used to tell other people in therapy their marriage was in trouble 😂

[@avwel3827]

Awesome!!!

[@alchemydp]

Glad to hear an expert saying what I’ve said for decades. We’ve had separate bedrooms our entire relationship. It’s part of what keeps us loving and happy with each other. Intimacy is easier when you’ve had a good night sleep and you’re happy.

[@robertparsons313]

Separate bedrooms for husband and wife used to be an elegant way to live. Where did we start believing we have to be entangled all night long every night?

[@jsi4064]

Divorce is beneficial for the economy. 2 homes, 2 fridges/washer/dryer/ 6 beds instead of 3, etc etc

[@alexxxO_O]

@@jsi4064 Uh, yeah, divorce is beneficial for the economy, but what does that have to do with separate ROOMS? You don't need to divorce to sleep in separate beds, man!

[@jsi4064]

@alexxxO_O good Lord, you are basic.

[@lapetulante201]

Hollywood movies 🍿

[@robertparsons313]

I like the old movies where the couple slept in separate twin beds. One could read a book while the other dozed off. Or...God forbid, smoke that last cigarette of the night. (Ugh...but that's how everybody stayed THIN.) @@lapetulante201

[@vanessac1965]

I heard that beds being expensive was why people shared them. I hate sharing the bed, always have. Someone else affects the clarity of my dreams too.

[@tammieharaguchi7349]

Yep husband would snore in my ear, keep me against the wall, wake him up 4-5 times a night, so tired! Finally since 2016 sleep separate bedroom better sleep, happier! Married 41 yrs

[@cathykrueger4899]

I have arthritis and need to be able to move and reposition to alleviate pain. I didn’t realize until after my husband passed away that sharing a bed was making my arthritis worse. I got a new bed of my very own that did not have reminders of the empty space on his side. And it’s a king. My cat enjoys it and my arthritis sleeping habits are no longer restricted.

[@Gesundheit888]

Totally off topic: You might want to check into a carnivore diet for the arthritis. Many people have great results.

[@carolineridlington5010]

I went keto...five years ago...was amazing...covid interfered...am 66yrs....but I never felt better when I was in ketosis.....now all my joints hurt...very hard to give up the sugar...

[@deboraballes9044]

​@@carolineridlington5010Yes! Just try it for 30 days. I am 64 and do carnivore off and on and after 4-5 days my pain goes away, after only 2 I quit snoring😊

[@lisahinkofer2085]

I don’t sleep with my husband and hasn’t for almost ten years. He snores and jerks around in his sleep. He stops breathing at times. I tried to get him to see a doctor but he said he’s fine. Sleep apnea. I like the bedroom to be dark and no phone in the room and no lights from the tv or computer. He on the other hand keeps the blinds open and his phone goes off every ten minutes and the room is light up by street light. I made the decision to get my own room. Bigger apartment. It was the best decision i made and it saved my sleep. We have been married for over thirty two years and that’s not going to change. He is my life partner and we love each other very much.

[@NickArcade]

Your husband will die early if he doesn't get treated for sleep apnea

[@maryellen33714]

Sleep apnea can cause dementia and other problems. Your husband should see a doctor.

[@julieconnard4372]

Right. It can cause not only dementia, but heart disease and death.

[@pureislandwater]

Sounds exactly like my husband! I finally recorded him one night and after he listened to himself he went to the doctor 😂

[@atimnile2401]

Please kindly “URGE your husband , & I say this gently” to GO see his Doctor & get A sleep study completed (at A sleep specialty center ✔️ ) so he can fitted for A C-PAP machine ; a lot of people die in their sleep 😴 due to ignoring their Sleep Apnea symptoms. & it’s gets worse if the individual is over-weight!!! Speaking from experience

[@Longtack55]

Best thing here is the commonality of seperate beds/rooms. It's a relationship-saver - not destroyer.

[@ellinorgranberg5420]

Love having my own bedroom because my boyfriend snores really loud, this have saved the relationship ❤️

[@christinah.8504]

he needs to visit a sleep specialist. He could die from not getting enough air.

[@Duke666]

We've been married for 13 years and have always had separate rooms. Even on our honeymoon I made sure we had our own beds! My husband and I have polar opposite sleeping habits. He goes to bed late and gets up early. He can fall asleep in seconds and is a loud snorer. I take an hour to drop off and toss and turn for ages. I'm a light sleeper and wear ear plugs. I also hate getting too hot in bed and my husband gives off so much heat! It's never been an issue for us and for me, sleep is something solitary and private.

[@cuencaview8303]

Separate beds for many years and we love it.

[@Teach.Experience.Dance-Vicky]

GETTING YOUR OWN ROOM IS A MARRIAGE SAVER . If anyone has ever had to put up with ultra Uber loud snoring like a JCB it destroys you . Months and months of no sleep , wrecked nerves and extreme headaches . When that person refuses to lose weight , stop smoking and drinking or even believe you that they snore - Then it’s like death to the relationship. Add sleep apnoea to this when you’re lying awake wondering if they’ve stopped breathing only for the to breathe out in a lip flapping fog horn snore . It’s game over Now there’s resentment because they don’t care enough if you sleep at all and prefer self delusion .

[@mel-melschell6562]

Record him snoring on your phone and play it back to him if he doesn’t believe you. My husband was in denial about the volume of his snoring so I recorded him and played it back while he was sleeping and it woke him up! Point proven.

[@sueearle8783]

Love our separate rooms and having our own things around our rooms is, I feel great for peace and enforcing our own identities. We love coming together and have a strong relationship 😊

[@TamaraJoy7]

Absolutely LOVE having separate bedrooms!!!!Married in 1987, sleeping in separate rooms for the last 20 years and still very happily married! Early reasons for initiating a sleep divorce were : my bad back pain and being a very light sleeper / my husbands loud snoring/ also his need to get up at 4-5am for work / my need to go to bed very early but his desire to watch TV until late/ etc - we just had very different sleep needs! For the first 2 years before we actually had separate rooms, we had separate beds in the same room. But this didn’t help the situation with our different bedtimes and the sounds and light disturbances. So, once the kids all left home, we finally got our own bedrooms and it was literally life changing finally getting an undisturbed nights sleep!!!

[@kimberlyf4888]

We still sleep in the main bed, but have made modifications: we have a dual zone cooling/heating pad on the mattress; I use sleep buds that mask any noise from snoring, and a use a silk eye mask to block light. To isolate the transfer of movement, we strapped together 2 twin mattresses (which makes a king) and put a latex mattress topper over the whole thing to make it super comfy. It's working so far and we both sleep well.

[@doracsiky]

With my husband, we started sleeping in separate rooms during COVID. One of us was sick, and we wanted to ensure the other does not fall sick as well. We never went back to sleeping in the same room, and it's been great! (and I can totally relate to the snoring issues, which luckily we don't have anymore, so we both sleep much better)

[@mercedesbeard6974]

Us too. It's all well, we are strong

[@shellygreen8923]

Same exact story….and once we did that we realized we both slept so much better

[@lesleyhoban6559]

Best thing we ever did ...after 10 yrs we took separate bedrooms ... everyone happy

[@SG-es2hf]

I've always needed to sleep alone to get good sleep to be able to work & be a happy person. 😊

[@dalestaley5637]

I'm a CRNA. My fmr hubby has narcolepsy and sleep apnea. I told him he had sleep apnea when we became a couple. I recommended he consult sleep lab. They dx him with narcolepsy and we found out his father had it. It upended his career bc he couldn't take call, needed a regular work schedule. Our son has narcolepsy too. We recommended a career path that was healthier than many high-risk, high paced jobs have. Thank you for providing this essential information for ppl to get better sleep.

[@RSLtreecare]

I could not agree more. We mix our sleep patterns. Our children sleep with us both, then as they grow up my wife sleeps with them. I also worked very strange hours and had very bad resting patterns. That's resolved, I sleep deeply on my own. My relationship is very good.

[@NewEarthBlog]

At 73 it's very difficult to go on zero to 3 hours of sleep! I bought an Oura Ring several months ago. One reason was I thought that I might be sleeping sometimes, when I think I am awake for a long period. That has proven to be true, and surprisingly, it has resulted in much more sleep for me. I think the reason it works like that is that every time I check my sleep hours, sleep efficiency, etc. , in that act itself I am subconsciously directing my Intent to sleep well. I was pleased that at first my sleep went up to usually 4-6 hours. I also came to want a nap, which I never in my life could do. Now I usually get 7-9 hours, often including a 1-2 hour nap. I should admit to being an optimist. Re couples sleep: When I first slept with my husband and heard his loud snoring, I said to myself, "That will never bother me," and it hasn't, even when I'm trying to hear some animals outside. I accept it and feel love for him.

[@bernadettedee2773]

Optimism &love..now those are game changers in sleep tools too.

[@slartibartfast2452]

I've always thought separate rooms is the best idea. Your own environment, own space, when you want it, when living with a partner continues your sense of fredom in sleep. Few people pick the right partner to share a bed with. Just the facts.

[@v.britton4445]

My husband has sleep apnea, has his machine special matress that he likes and now sleeps in the extra bedroom. We both sleep better. We get together by the coffee.

[@leanneradoo]

What about sex ?!

[@Neophema]

@@leanneradoo Who has sex while they're asleep? :p

[@lindaelarde2692]

Spot on voicing concern about devices and homework. I'm a retired high school educator in the US. It creates layers of downstream problems, including reducing learning potential, sometimes dramatically. Reading on screens of different sizes in some studies indicates learning is reduced when compared to reading in books....and the smaller the screen, the less retention of material was the outcome. Memory is enhanced by writing more than typing as well.

[@LloydsofRochester]

Well!😲 That's very useful to know!

[@bernadettedee2773]

Susoected this all by my own self

[@HIGHLANDER_ONLY_ONE]

About 1 year into our marriage, I started giving my husband the blanket/duvet, and I have my own, and in the morning I fold them and die them into the armoire. Since I'm a sensitive sleeper, I have turned our guest room into my room, this way of there are any issues at all, or one of us are ill, I go sleep into my private room. It's my sanctuary, where I could go read a book, I could write letters and cards correspondence, and I decorated it very pretty, to my taste. It's a very pretty en suite with a ball and claw tub, walk in clisyer and everything, do I feel so happy in there, so I don't mind going in there at all, and I make sure I have double tooth brush, hair brush, phone chargers, more books, etc., anything in there to make it feel mine. Both my husband and I love it!!!

[@kathleendwyer117]

What is a walk-in clisyer?

[@eswaribalan164]

The spluttering snoring is a MAJOR problem. My son had this problem until he went for a check up at a heart hospital. They actually stopped his heart and adjusted the rhytum. And he is perfectly ok now. Thank God for the rest of the family too.

[@Gesundheit888]

In the german speaking countries most double beds are two single beds simply pushed together but often times with a nightstand or small table between the beds. There are always two duvet. After all, we don't share one pillow.

[@toonsster]

I am a poly sleeper. I find the first sleep works on my body, the second more on my brain and psyche, the latter of which is more significant if I do something creative in my waking break which is 1-2 hours. Obviously I do have my own room so do not have the anxiety of disturbing someone else.

[@sandyleonard4780]

I have been married for 61 years and we stopped sleeping in the same bed 20 some years ago. It started because I had to work one week a month on 3rd shift, for only a very few years, but, we slep so much better that we still sleep in different rooms.

[@jeanmader2302]

After suffering a severely broken ankle, which couldn't be casted, because it would take too long to heal, and walk, I had to be really careful. Consequently, I slept alone, and eventually, my husband was diagnosed with Esophageal cancer, and I ordered an adjustable bed, which I did not like, so, the guest bedroom became his. His bathroom is right next to his room. This has been the best move ever, especially since he naps every day, and I rarely sit still, as there is so much to do.

[@TNTTruth1]

My wife and I both have Apnea. We have both been using Cpaps for five years. That took care of the snoring problems. We bought two twin beds that have been adjusted to our weight by computer. They have the ability to raise the head or feet. Worth the $9,000 we paid for them! We put them together in the same frame and it is wonderful!

[@ffelegal]

Have you adapted well to CPAP? I still wake super tired even though stats are good.

[@leecee2135]

Thank you for this! My husband snoring all night long was the worst, I felt like I had a newborn in the bed waking me up every two hours. I was exhausted and cranky. Now we have separate rooms and it's been the best thing ever for our relationship.

[@pattihy]

Sorry could never do it. My body relaxes and goes to sleep as soon as he spoons me and he tells me he loves it. It has brought us even closer. We sleep naked with socks on LOL waking up with that skin to skin contact is so good for my wellbeing. I know a lot of people will disagree with me but I get it, we are not your normal couple.

[@HH-kg4fq]

Every f^^^^^ couple is different. Every f^^^^^^ individual is different. The orange is different from an apple.

[@show_me_your_kitties]

You are actually overwhelming ordinary.

[@pattihy]

@@show_me_your_kitties That is a good thing !! Glad to know that it is overwhelming ordinary - I don't know or ask how people sleep, was only going by this video and the comments below :)

[@show_me_your_kitties]

@@pattihy This video very much points out how sleeping separate is not the norm but may be required to fit the couples needs individually, logically and mentally. Yet you still feel the need to say you are not normal? You are very much normal, perhaps this particular video is not for you.

[@pattihy]

@@show_me_your_kitties You said I was overwhelming ordinary and I replied that’s a good thing (to be ordinary/normal) - I didn’t know it was ordinary or normal to sleep naked with socks on LOL that’s all, yes I’m sure this video isn’t for everyone, sorry my comment got to you. 😊 have a good day kitties

[@maryadams-vs1zk]

I like sleeping in the same bed as my husband, we keep each other warm and we love to cuddle also

[@drendelous]

we decided to sleep separately thanks to(!) our dog who now occupies the other half of the main bed. we are happy

[@annikanassi8896]

Thank you, it is always so interesting to listen to your channel. I do it for hours in periods of life and always learn something new. I am healty still but to have knowledge for the probably bad days that is to come is never wrong. I am elderly already but very satisfied in my life. Hello from Finland!

[@jmartinianovlogging1482]

Thank you Dr. Rangan and Guest for your time!!!

[@karenohanlon4183]

My husband just did not care about his snoring or sleep apnea. When he went in to hospital I spoke to the nurse and explained they were in for a high volume snorefest. The whole ward was wakened. He refused to acknowledge he had a snoring problem. He came home with Cpap. Couldnt be bothered to use it.

[@opheliabells]

I feel this will be my husband for sure! he won't even go in to the Dr even though I've recorded his sleep apnea for him to hear how loud and scary it is! and he just laughs.

[@JohnSchuetz-js7lk]

Had the most peaceful restful sleeps that were heavenly awesome with my dear wife.

[@Dhammaonthesidewalk108]

this is one of the best ever podcast i listened to in the recent days on your channel on a variety of topics! outstanding with a great sense of humor…

[@andreawoodcoach]

loved this episode, I sleep in a separate bedroom since I recovered from chronic insomnia and my sleep is so much better. We have a better relationship because of this. Loved all the new information about light etc

[@leahabbott4221]

Great to see Russel Foster on your show! I read his book Life Time over Christmas and sent you his name as a suggestion for you to interview. So glad you did!!!

[@2009ccastillo]

This is great topic to addres (excuse my english). In the old days, marriages worked a lot of hours, away from each others, usually on same 8 to 5 jobs schedules. There weren't cell phones or a good concept about your partner was even more important or equally important than your childs, well I guess people must had kids. mmmm today is sooo different on so many aspects, now I understand my parents being so shocked about me and my husband sleeping in different rooms most of the time. We don't lack intimacy, we have plenty of time during the day and set dates or spontanously do fun and romantic activities. Also I'm such a crazy sleeping person, a lot of times I would wake up upside down, diagonal and a couple of times on the floor and my husband can't stand the excess of covers I use....so we are happier sleeping alone, as many had said in this video. He accepted my intense loved for pillows thou😂😂😂😂and now he demand it, we are in our 40's and we don't have kids.

[@ridefastcoaching]

Excellent, interesting and valuable stuff. Thank you both.

[@sheejaeldo9311]

Such a beautiful podcast. Thank you so much

[@smilez4us]

It's a matter of respect and making it work out just like they did in our grandparents days. This is wise advice even though it may seem outlandish. A good night's rest is vital to our health and well-being and why let some expectation that you sleep together come in between us when you can plan other times to get in the mood and create space for intimacy. Also, if the relationship needs work, sleeping in the same bed is a way of actually delaying working on important factors other relationship as it is used as a means of repairing the relationship we're working on the relationship because the end of this day at night all through the night masks it. You must be at your best with a good night's rest to be able to work on the relationship and to be partners together and for life in general. This is quite wise and is part of taking care of each other and the relationship out of care and respect.

[@sallysprinkle5127]

Talk about menopause too, and sleep issues.

[@maryellen33714]

Get on HRT patches. 👍🏽

[@margaretr5701]

Nothing helped with menopause and it was long and hellish.

[@mariagibb8185]

Russell is so entertaining to listen to… You two work so beautifully together… mutual appreciation of brilliance.

[@margaretphare3157]

My husband snored loudly from a teenager and on our marriageI relied on ear plugs for years. Then we changed our diet to the Dr. Hay Food Combing for Health where starch and protein are separated at each meal with for hours between meals. We then added low carb. He stopped snoring and has never gone back!

[@jennagrier8311]

Been together for 13 years, and slept in separate rooms for about 7 of those. He snores atrociously and goes to sleep really early. It never would have worked if we'd stayed in the same bed. I can think of at least a handful of couples I know personally that sleep separately and they are still strong. Personally, I don't think I would want to sleep in the same bed as any partner again. I don't thrive properly with interrupted sleep. I'd rather get a sleep divorce than a real divorce.

[@RSLtreecare]

This is covering a lot of very interesting facts. I feel a whole lot better, if get to bed early 21.30 I wake naturally, before the alarm is set to go off. But if i start going to be late, I don't sleep well and over sleep at a mixed pattern.

[@smillar8972]

After years of struggling in bed, my husband and I decided to sleep apart a few weeks ago. It's made a huge difference for us! Better sex, better moods and an overall feeling of well being!

[@sadie45]

Sometimes you just need some time on your own to relax. My husband snores, i am a light sleeper. I moved into the spare room. It didn't go down to well with him.

[@leesimone2]

I am all for it. I was married and I learned this is very useful. So for my future husband I am okay with twins in the same room. 😊

[@patmanchester8045]

You want to make sure your partner understands why you want separate rooms. I move about a LOT all night and bothered my ex husband. He was REALLY loud snoring all night ( no matter what position he was in) It was clear neither of us got good sleep. I explained why we should have separate rooms and he never got the hang of it. He used it as an excuse to stray ( he would have anyway).

[@azaelaguirre4541]

Thanks. Very good interview.

[@jenmdawg]

My partner and I saved our health and relationship by sleeping separately. Don’t care about the stigma or attachment style blah blah - it became our ideal living arrangement.

[@kellywebster6428]

Separate bathrooms is great too!

[@user-un7ve8nk4z]

Everyone is different it’s sleep time the times they sleep the temperatures they sleep in the rituals before bed, needing a light before sleep, or radio a fan, needless to say, insomniacs need their own space because every little sound wakes them up that’s me, I’ve had it since I was 34 I am 68. My husband and I are still together because we add to our marriage by meeting up in the morning for snuggles, etc. We haven’t seen each other for eight hours and it makes it feel even better. What works for one does not work for all

[@jobrown8146]

*Good quality sleep is very important.* My husband slept naked and whenever he turned over in bed he would take the bedclothes with him so it would rouse me up and I'd be holding on tight to the sheet and blanket. Later on he began snoring badly. I did end up sleeping separately but looking back I am convinced that I had many years of poor quality sleep and it affected me badly and made it harder to cope with life stressors.

[@ohkay7418]

As soon as the kid started sleeping in the basement I took the bedroom. Partner snores kicks. After the second black eye from an elbow I was done. The dogs used to sleep with me and as they got older with health problems I was always listening for them. No dogs now and no more. My sleep is to important.

[@kazparzyxzpenualt8111]

It does make sense. The spectrum.of ritualistic living is broad. Assuming something is wrong when in fact so many things are possible to modify behaviors and improve balance in life.

[@sallysprinkle5127]

It was the end of my marriage. We didn’t wake up together. We didn’t go to sleep together we just became like roommates I’d say be very cautious fix the sleep problems get a sleep study get a new mattress. Get a bigger bed etc. etc..

[@lexbraxman9270]

It wasn't the bed or your sleeps that ended the marriage....

[@aprilapril2]

@@lexbraxman9270yeah. Same with me. Mine had been a serial adulterer and true to form relocated with the latest prey.

[@visnjalivancic3953]

We never slept in the same bed and are still married for 35 years , that is not the reason for divorce

[@sallysprinkle5127]

Well, maybe it wasn’t for you, but it was for me. Don’t judge me based on your experience

[@Bright-It]

Excuses ...

[@faodail3913]

Royalty and upper classes always had and often still have separate bedrooms.

[@corepranafleurconway2889]

So agree , we don't need technology to tell us continuously how we are. They are tools that can give us information, but lets not forget to tune in to ourselves, observe, feel and have common sense!

[@KatsCorner]

Been married for 32 years and ten years ago we both got our own beds. We love each other and both of us sleep well.

[@love4hula735]

Totally, totally agree!!!

[@m.dgaius6430]

Separate beds absolutely. What are we little babies? Of course not. Haven't we learned enough about how critical good sleep is for health? Yes, separate beds.

[@operamom3303]

Sleep is 💯 priority do whatever you need to

[@sunmoonstars3879]

I have my bedroom around 10’c in the winter, needless to say my fiancé sleeps ina separate room and has it around 23’c, we are not sleep compatible in any way, he snores and fidgets and has a radio on all night, I like patich black silence, he stays up until 1am I go to bed at 9pm, I wake around 6am he’ll sleep until lunchtime. I go into his room when I wake up and have a cuddle in his bed for around an hour. It works very well for us, each to their own.

[@taz786blue]

Very important especially if a partner snores or sleeps at wierd times. Disrupts the whole night routine hence resulting in broken and poor sleep

[@Warrior-In-the-Garden]

Me not getting adequate sleep...THAT my friend is the beginning of the end. Separate blankets works for us.

[@amiadam522]

Tq for highlighting this. Me too, need a separate room from my husband. He is a night-people. I usually pass my bed time because seeing him still awake after midnight. Me waking up next morning is difficult. Seeing him still sleeping in the morning causing me want to sleep again. It affects my productivity.

[@craigatkinsonstudio]

Interesting about homework recently being set digitally. Not only does this potentially increase late-night-light but it also means it's very difficult for parents to see, check and advise on homework. I'd be interested to hear how digital homework is affecting work rate and performance, compared to the 'old fashioned' way.

[@nickf2170]

My girtlfriend blamed me for her poor sleep, when I stayed over on the week ends. So I said no problem, I'll sleep on the couch. I slept better, she didn't....and you guessed it, SHE STILL BLAMED ME FOR HER POOR SLEEP.

[@opheliabells]

my husband has sleep apnea and very very loud snoring so loud you can hear it no matter what room you are in and outside, you will know if your partner has it. I have recorded it for him multiple times and he still won't go to the Dr for it, nor will he stop sleeping turned to me Ive woke up many many mornings with my ears actually hurting. I end up at the other end of the bed. But it's so serious, and scary for me to witness him he stops breathing all throughout the night, 'snoring' really loud then no breathing, then after a few very long seconds catching the breath and it just repeats for hours. And he is not overweight, but does smoke used to drink a lot but no much these days, and still has the issue which I used to think it was from drinking yet it's obvious that it's only getting worse even though he only drinks maybe once a week now. I'd love to sleep on the floor, i'm a floor sleeper it's much better for my back but he is the type that can't be sleeping without me, pretty much on top of me also he likes noise before bed and I like total silence or a podcast and space while sleeping! all the things he does not want 😊it's been twenty + years. These are things we deal with being married, sacrifices are made including my sanity! lol. I have learned to take either melatonin or magnesium before bed sometimes i'll need a cbd tincture.

[@ambition112]

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[@Syl-Vee]

I so enjoy your observation of our arrogance as a species, where a strength becomes a potentially fatal flaw.

[@sallywinterbourn1780]

Totally agree!

[@marynguyen9365]

Everyone needs their own private space . I believe sharing bedtime and sleeping with a partner is not healthy. That's also a reason people divorce, not necessarily because any of the two is bad but mostly people can not stand to overtime seeing the ugly side of the other half. When people first dating they take good care of themselves to impress, when getting together too close in a long term then start the negligence from the look to the behavior. That's only due to the unlimited closelyness of the relationship. I always try to hide the ugly side of me as much as i possibly can, even with my kids or the neighbors nextdoor, even when talking the garbage out or walking the dog. That also called a respect between humans. Unfortunately during sleep time it's out of our control.

[@yaelarraiz5845]

I was happy in my marriage and didn't sleep with my beloved husband...he past away many years ago...Even as a young widow...I can't sleep with another person in my bed... Making Love doesn't mean you have to sleep with the partner... It does improve the relationship to sleep in peace.

[@thekaileykizzeshow1851]

I had a partner that I never slept in the same bed with, he had sleep issues. Needless to say it didn't work. That is not for me, I need my partner next to me. That relationship taught me to ask the question about how people sleep. We need to be sleep compatible.

[@tsebosei1285]

Hahaha sleep compatible wow amazing imagine has the looks and all but only sleep is missing. Naa for you, you could not care, sleep comparability is crucial. Interesting how different we all are. Embracing diversity of human nature

[@thekaileykizzeshow1851]

@@tsebosei1285 I laugh too hard at this comment. I love sarcasm. But of course they were other problems in that relationship and it’s important to me to sleep compatible now, among other important things. His sleep issues were definitely not the deal breaker but it did play a role.

[@tsebosei1285]

@@thekaileykizzeshow1851 kikikikikiki lmao you finished me I am getting forced six pack I am sore now from laughing finished completely lol you're too awesome thanks for making my day

[@isabelleg9118]

Two twin beds extra long put together with the bottom sheets , and separate duvets.

[@AndreBellCopywriter]

I love dark quiet room. I use black electrical tape on everything with LED lights in the bedroom (surge protectors, overhead smoke alarm bright LED, etc etc) to keep the room totally dark. And if there is noise I use earbuds playing soft white noise or meditation music or guided meditation that leads into non-vocal sounds or music to drown out distracting noises. We start bedtime with warm heater that turns lower at sleep time.

[@pegshoup4960]

Married 62 years and have slept apart for 38 years. Partially because he snored but mainly he would wake up, use the bathroom, then turn on talk radio. Couldn't take the radio because your brain becomes engaged and now it's difficult to go back to sleep. We're both very rested now.

[@jimroth7927]

Regarding sleep monitoring devices. I use an Apple watch, which attempts to monitor different stages of sleep. I've noticed that the reported amount of deep sleep correlates extremely well with how rested I feel. Less than one half hour I feel bad. More than one hour I feel good. In-between one half and one hour, I feel in-between.

[@dkind3123]

A previous speaker on your show really advocated co-sleeping as almost essential to our survival. This episode is more balanced, offering awareness of phenomenological perspective and cultural belief systems. I'm so glad you have revisited this and come away from any absolutes that would infer something is wrong with the need to sleep separately. Thank you Rangan.

[@palmtree9815]

Thanks for this. Please interview Dr Jack Kruse for serious in depth information on this!

[@HansensUniverseT-A]

Good thing i live alone in peace, i will never forget how miserable and stressed i was when i was in a relationship. No more!

[@r_unner_G]

Watches this video at almost midnight like a Boss

[@blackcow1185]

We are together 22 years and love to cuddle every night. I know that he is snorring, but i do not hear😂. We really enjoy sleeping together and i am waiting forward every night. When he got into the hospital to have an operation i could not sleep a moment without him the first night.

[@dankprincess]

Same 10 years and we fall asleep so fast together and no issues only when we are apart then it's hard to go to sleep

[@karenohanlon4183]

My husband had the idea that we should sleep in the same bed. Eventually I had to get up and lie on the sofa. He had sleep apnea and ended up with afib and heart condition. I brought it up with the GP my husband got more angry. Long story short the snoring destroyed my sleep patern. Too late my husband ended up with Cpap. We are not together as he was adamant that his snoring was not a problem. I blame years of poor sleep for my dreadful sleep how.

[@felyf71]

I love cuddles too. Sleeping separately would never work for me

[@gayriggs9674]

My husband and I have been married for 32 years and we are inseparable. No way could we ever sleep in separate room’s. We are a Velcro couple!❤️

[@kopitegs]

Been telling my friends this for years , get the biggest bed you can and two covers

[@amandajane8227]

I find that is I have anything with sugar in it during the evening then it will negatively affect my sleep. I can't relax and lie in bed highly alert for several hours.

[@MsSandi48]

I slept with my husband for 43 years and I loved cuddling up to him. He passed away 4 years ago from pancreatic cancer and I miss him every night.

[@rheaa1400]

20+ years married. 20+ years sleeping apart . . . happily (with my CPAP). I love having my own space.