10 Body Language Mistakes To Avoid In Your Next Job Interview

[@jackcarraway4707]

Managers look for the pettiest of reasons not to hire someone.

[@AdrianJayeOnline]

not true, but if you have over 50 people for the same job you need some kinda system to get rid of the deadweight

[@MissTShompagne]

​@AdrianJayeOnline Yes I agree. Like telling the truth, answering one of those stupid questions honestly, having great skills, wearing a suit, great work experience.

[@jackcarraway4707]

@@MissTShompagne Forgot having a backbone and self-respect

[@vukkulvar9769]

@@AdrianJayeOnline 500 applicants, 50 first interviews. That's the issue with modern day hiring situation. It's "too easy" to apply to every job, yet everyone is incentivize to apply to every job.

[@skyranger1366]

@@vukkulvar9769 And it was employers that created that system. They did away with meeting the hiring manager in person and handing him your resume. Now they get to deal with 500 plus applications.

[@HalJikaKick]

I walk into an interview room, the two interviewers sitting at one end of the table, I drop my binder at the other end of the table and saiy“ I suppose you’re wondering why I had you both come in here today.” They looked at each other in disbelief then laugh. I smiled and sat down. I got the job.

[@kennypowers2341]

Then you woke up

[@HalJikaKick]

@@kennypowers2341 No. seriously. It was the interview I did for Yahoo. I got the job and worked there for 4.5 years.

[@vigglarodz]

Can you please do a video on interview/job search burnout? The struggle is REAL.

[@KP99]

That is so infuriating.. the fact that the FED sought to kill the job market.,. Employees finally for the first time had leverage and it was taken away for no reason. I'm amazed more people are not upset about that.

[@vigglarodz]

@@KP99 Since 2024 began I've been on 15 interviews...it's terrible. I don't know WHAT the problem is, but all I'm saying is I don't know how much more of this I have the stomach for. I'm stuck too, I don't have money to move, I don't have the resources to get another certification/degree, and when I do take the free courses on new skills employers never take the fact that I know these skills seriously.

[@Melissa12175]

​@KP99 I have had two phone interviews a week for the last two months and turned down almost all of them because of the extremely low pay. I was making 70k and am being offered jobs that pay 17 per hour. Mind blown.

[@KP99]

@@Melissa12175 Wow, that's a big difference. Why can't you find similar jobs to the one that paid 70k? Is that particular industry not hiring right now? Or are you still applying for similar positions as the one you had before, but they've just cut the salaries in half??

[@Melissa12175]

@@KP99 A lot of recruiters reaching out with low pay and they literally tell me I know it's a low pay rate.... but I've also noticed that the hourly pay has gone down overall. Some have offered 50k but that's still to low for me. I'm not sure what is going on. May have to take my quarterly bonuses I was used to getting out of the equation just to find work.

[@XxGyromancerXx]

I recently had an interview through Zoom. I had a negative impression from the folks I was interviewing with within seconds after they refused to unblock their cameras. They started off the interview with disrespect. How can I possibly respect them as potential bosses, and how can I possibly respect the company when their own people do stuff like that? I questioned them about it. The interview ended within 5 minutes. Whatever. A company like that isn't worth my time.

[@vectorwolf]

Yeah, that seems super suspicious... what are they hiding?

[@user-dz7pi5wi6t]

Dodged a bullet, for sure. Very shady.

[@la9542]

Why set up a zoom vs a phone/conference call. So awkward.

[@LivingOver60]

Scammers do that. They won’t show themselves, obviously.

[@dracofirex]

If you're neuro-spicy and struggle with eye contact like I do, I've found it helpful to read people's lips while they're speaking. It's close enough to their eyes to make it look like you're making eye contact and it can help make what they're saying a little more clear, too. If you need to stim, save your shakes for agreeing nods whenever you need to agree with them on something. It might still be hard to train the shakes out but it helps a little.

[@NataliyaAlvarez]

Energy level is proportional to the published salary range and other potential company qualities.

[@annapatton4544]

😂

[@kevinmach730]

Sometimes you're damned if you do, damned if you don't. I interviewed at a company where I was offered to take a seat at at small board room with big glass windows surrounding it while I waited for the interviewer to arrive. My eyes have always been a bit sensitive to light, so without giving me a ton of thought, out of the 10 seats there, I picked one that wasn't directly facing the outside windows. I got the job, and 6 months later when I was having beers with some my co-workers- one of guys who interviewed me joke that he thought I was a cocky bastard because I took the seat at the head of the board room table during the interview!! I never even gave that 2 seconds of thought. We had a laugh over it, but damn, the things some people assume....

[@annapatton4544]

sometimes you just do it somehow without even knowing it. Almost 2 years ago I was hired (recruited) by my current company. And about a half a year after that I asked how come they only did one round of interview with me and hired so quickly (offered a job the same day). They laughed and said that that was a final interview and I had a few more I did not know about. They were coming to my previous job, posing as clients and watching the senior leaders, how they work and how they handle things. They also came to me a day before the interview (showed at my job) and offered to come in next day. Said what you got to lose, come, we'll talk and we'll beat what they pay you here. I said Heck and went. I did not update my resume for a couple of years and did not even have my latest job title on it. One of the executives just fixed my resume during the interview with his pen, just added stuff I did not have.

[@MissTShompagne]

@@annapatton4544 Wow! 🥺

[@kevinmach730]

@anon3746 100%

[@fuzzywuzzy5749]

Am also light sensitive. Very difficult to control the eye movements, especially with contacts in. Have been accused of rolling my eyes when I was just physically uncomfortable in the lighting situation.

[@skyranger1366]

Winning the lottery is sounding easier than these fickel interviews

[@UberHeroMystic]

Bro for real. I just bought 100 tickets.

[@sarrjel]

I would also add, lean forward, smile and be clear when you’re speaking. I’ve come across some some managers that have been adversarial in some of the experience that I’ve shared and some managers that ask borderline inappropriate questions. Not all employers are golden and some of them may even be toxic. I always keep in mind in an interview that the door swings both ways, do I really want to work here?

[@chancepaladin]

When I wrap an interview up, I do reiterate that I'm really interested in the job, it sounds awesome, and that I really enjoyed talking to them and it seems like they have a great team.

[@AdrianJayeOnline]

yes !

[@whiskers78753]

I have a deadfish handshake, primarily because I am a germaphobe and don't even want to shake anybody's hand. What's my point? No one is going to hire you, or not hire you, based on a handshake. When I interview for engineering positions where I work, I could care less about your handshake; the only things that matter: can you work with others and can you do the job well. I can't remember a single time when any of the following mattered: strong handshakes, thank you letters/emails, followup phone calls, compliments, small talk, etc.

[@manco828]

If that helps you sleep at night....

[@aisle_of_view]

I still remember the cold, sweaty hands of one applicant - years later. He didn't get the job.

[@nursejoed]

I disagree. A deadfish handshake may not be the only factor, but it could push the needle into the "don't hire" category.

[@AdrianJayeOnline]

correct to the above, it may or may not, BUT if the interviewer is on the middle, his impression of you is what does count and like it or not, its YOUR first impressions that counts, you like or dislike a person in the first 30 seconds, if they dislike you its a hard hill to climb to GET you to like you even if you can do the job, wanna take that chance

[@TheDallasCrew8]

Justifying the interviewers job. All fluff that isn’t needed. Heavy judging. Always. Worthless questions. Companies really need to get better hiring managers. It should only be if the person can do the job well and accomplish the company’s goals, able to be managed and isn’t a big baby and run at the first sign of hard work. Now, the hiring manager is still human and does sense most of these you are saying and either consciously or subconsciously chooses a candidate that hits all of these.

[@dg1476]

Could you do a video on Zoom interview tips? These are often the first round these days even if the position is on-site or hybrid. Some of my tips are: - Download meeting client (e.g. Zoom) before the meeting and configure/test all video and mic settings. - Use a filter if you aren’t interviewing next to a blank wall or a very professional, well decorated office. The blur filter is a good neutral option - Get a good mic and make sure your meeting client is configured to use it and that there is no feedback. I use a speaker/mic combo device to avoid feedback and using a headset. - Join the meeting early.

[@stevezelaznik5872]

Put the video of the person you’re talking to next to your actual camera. It simulates eye contact better

[@stevezelaznik5872]

I personally find blurred and virtual backgrounds distracting. I’d love for some actual market research to be done because I have no idea if I’m in the minority or majority

[@ALifeAfterLayoff]

I actually have created a couple. Look in the interview playlist.

[@KP99]

If I do use a headset, does it look worse or unprofessional? I use a headset at my current work-from-home job because it's mostly on the phone, and the new roles I'm applying for will be also, so would that still be a negative?

[@citylimits8927]

When I do a zoom meeting, I look into the camera on the computer often as well as looking at the monitor. It is the best way to create an impression of eye contact in an online meeting. The topic of body language in an online interview would be a great topic for Brian to cover in a future video.

[@MannyLoxx2010]

I heard of hiring managers not hiring someone because the candidates, they, were the baseball fan of the hiring manager's favorite team's hated rival! I also heard of people not getting hired because the hiring managers didn't like a candidate's voice, accent, shirt, dress, etc. 😳😬😏

[@MissTShompagne]

Wow! I was just talking to someone on this post about how these young folks go on interviews looking shabby with sneaker shoes, no tie, no business attire none at all. When I went on interviews in the 80s and 90s I was taught to wear business attire to look professional. But these young people today I don't think they know what that means. When they least expect it those hiring managers are talking about the way they dressed behind closed doors just like you stated. And it's a lot of age discrimination going on too.

[@LivingOver60]

I once didn’t get hired because my initials were the same as the big boss. I was told we can’t have 2 “XX”’s working here.

[@chancepaladin]

Where you sit, if there's more chairs, I usually ask if more people are coming, so I can sit in the middle and at least try to be able to figure out who's talking easier to face them.

[@Melissa12175]

Its so pathetic that we have to create a persona just to get a job we will probably end up hating because we need food and shelter. I hate the what this world has become.

[@erin19030]

Bravo! My thoughts also . I am glad to be out of the game.

[@joncarroll2040]

The world was always like this.

[@MissTShompagne]

@joncarroll2040 No it was not always like this. It has gotten a lot worse. It was not this difficult back in the 80s and 90s.

[@waeulbr]

I have an interview on the 19th!

[@annapatton4544]

best of luck to you! stay calm. remember, you interview them just as much as they interview you! just having that thought helps to keep your shite together.

[@dracofirex]

YOU CAN DO IT!!

[@AdrianJayeOnline]

All good advise and all correct, I found the biggest thing that works is CONFIDENCE, a little sense of humor as well, LOOKING 110% professional FULLY SUITED and booted, main take away is this, do you want this person in your office working for you....

[@lynnlablanc]

Hi there! I make a comment just to say *thank you!* for your hints! I did trashed my old big resume and made one only with the things on point of the job offer I were to take, the recruiter said I did had not much things on my resume, but after I answered I wanted make sure to put there only the things relevant to the job and don't wanted him deal with unnecessary things, it was a green light to the next technical interview, and now I have a planned visit to the place for a more detailed view of the job I am supposed to do. Finger crossed now :)

[@ALifeAfterLayoff]

Good luck!

[@lynnlablanc]

A little follow-up: the new job boss asked me certifications of the money i get now. I got a little pissed off and told him to give me an offer for the job HE is giving me, not for what I get somewhere else (of course, writing in the most possible polite way). I feel like I will get to refuse the offer because if it already starts be like this at start, I guess it will be worse for asking a raise or promotions@@ALifeAfterLayoff

[@djerhyjnbaptiste4030]

Just closed the zoom window. Had an interview a minute ago 😂

[@davidglad]

It's all experience for the job you ultimately get. At least we can hope it works out with the best one you had a chance of getting.

[@Jose04537]

The interviewer opinion: 🚩 🚩🚩🚩🚩😅

[@MrBrewman95]

Eye contact is super important which sucks. I get really nervous and my eyes drift when I’m coming up with answer or response. Luckily I did a Teams interview two years ago on my iPad with the Magic Keyboard so the camera was to the side and not at the top so it made it easier for me to stay focused to just look at the lens and not on the screen even though I barely looked at them the whole time.

[@EJ1443]

The scariest thing is that body language analysis/experts is a pseudoscience field. These people are scam artists. They are literally teaching people to judge a book by its cover as opposed to the contents. It is even scarier for neurodivergent people because their brains work differently so for example, eye contact may be really hard for them. That does not mean they are dishonest!

[@realtalk3567]

I find it interesting I wouldn't relate at all to some of these since I've worked and been hired remotely for years. Just reminds me of how fortunate I am from remote work.

[@bbh7550]

It's all a big, frustrating game. Whoever interviews best wins. The best person for the job (who often times may not have the greatest interview skills) loses opportunities to the smoke blower.

[@erin19030]

After watching this series I realize I did everything wrong, but I still got hired. Still I spent 40 years in the electronics field in technical areas. One opportunity I won was a slot as an RCA Frequency manager in a bureaucratic office as liaison officer to the FCC. I quit after 18 months, by transferring to another division of RCA. It was one boring hell hole each day. Suit an tie? Uh uh not for me. Office politics either. I like to think I won my way with technical and personal skills by being truthful. I am enjoying this series.

[@Anamnesis]

The whole eye contact thing isn't a problem under normal circumstances, but it's nearly impossible to look at the people on a screen (or even just glance at notes) in a virtual interview without looking like you're always avoiding eye contact, being distracted, or not paying attention. If you want to give the impression of eye contact on a webcam, you have to spend the whole time staring into an empty lens, which isn't helpful for being open and communicative because a camera obviously won't react to what you're saying. You have to look at the screen for that, which breaks "eye contact" ... are we to believe you make these videos without any note reading in front of a camera? You should do tips on how that's actually achieved.

[@ALifeAfterLayoff]

I think it’s less critical on webcam to your point. But try to position your camera near where you’re looking if possible.

[@AdrianJayeOnline]

did you notice the video.. you didnt, did you, he was making eye contact AND looking away, he was neither STARING into your skull nor avoiding your eyes, SAME as in a real face to face. Webcam or face to face, you LOOK at the person you are talking to, it's totally ok to look at notes, I've done trainging and people have ignored my gaze and I always think that they are not paying attention and disrespecting my time... I remember once doing a stand-up training session with my team (run by my manager) and a couple of guy's where not paying attention, not looking at me, I stopped the training and took them to task, asking everyone to give me there attention as it was disrespectful not to, as I would also be paying attention to them.... Boss noted well, no-one made that mistake again

[@annapatton4544]

I had a video interview once where I had to pre-record answers to questions, I did not have a live person to talk to. And what was even worse, I was staring at myself the whole time. Basically, I am recording a video and watching it at the same time. It was very creepy. I did so terrible, I once forgot where I work (for 3.5 years been there at that time) and once I forgot my own name. My own NAME! It was so bad, I knew, nobody in their right mind would offer me another round. I even felt embarrassed that they had to waste their time to send me an email that they went with another candidate. Yikes 🤣🤣🤣

[@vigglarodz]

@@annapatton4544 One way interviews are a scam. My advice? If a company wants that, steer clear.

[@charliedallachie3539]

Yea, what I try to do is put the interviewer window as close to my webcam as possible

[@MissTShompagne]

Just be truthful... No matter what you do...they're either going to hire you or NOT. You said in the first 10 minutes of the interview they've already made up their mind about you. I get so tired of trying to be PERFECT for IMPERFCT PEOPLE. "People in their imperfections always want others to be perfect" (Marvin Winans)

[@andrewkelley4827]

I love how you mention neurodiversity! It's so important for employers to know about!

[@pointnIaugh]

An interviewer knows the second that they meet you if they're gonna hire you or not, regardless of qualifications. We live in a pathetic judgemental society.

[@Angeljc1]

Agreed

[@kiever]

Thank you for the video. Are there any differences between online and offline interviews in terms of body language?

[@user-dz7pi5wi6t]

The interviewer's body language also gives away how the interview is going. In my experience, it's as if they already decided to reject you the moment they saw you...their look of uncertainty, apprehension, etc.

[@Angeljc1]

How about if you are dressed better than the interviewer or have better sitting manners? My last interviewer was laying back in his seat… no handshake, no contact card and he didn’t know how to print my resume from his computer properly. (I had resume copies I provided him with)

[@user-dz7pi5wi6t]

@@Angeljc1 Personally, I would be offended and consider it a red flag. I know someone who had a rough interview where the interviewer seemed rude and disinterested. She calmly and politely answered his questions and later got the job. But the job was so stressful and demanding that she wanted to quit...it was as if she was hired mainly because of her amenable personality (potentially pushover or doormat).

[@RosewiththornsRWT]

Thanks. Can you also share tips for remote (Teams, Zoom etc.) interviewing?

[@dwaynewindham2937]

Show your hands in the first few seconds of the call. It's a very old and ingrained thing in us as human beings. It helps show you're not carrying a weapon.

[@RosewiththornsRWT]

@@dwaynewindham2937 huh?

[@se2664]

I never knew seat preference was a problem for interviewing. I only sat in front of a VP once during 5 rounds of interviews. But with the rest of the 4 interviews I sat in a 45 degree angle! I’ll do that for now on

[@wt9653]

I'm going to gain 100 pounds before the interview. I want to take up space in the room. 😂

[@MannyLoxx2010]

Great video, Bryan!!

[@stevenkipus1505]

I dropped my toolbag and im happy i found it on this channel

[@stieve6740]

I’ve got a question. My work last week let go of (with the intention of replacing) many people from senior executives and producers all the way to low level engineers and IT. This seems to me like a way of cost cutting without having to announce layoffs(the company is public). It was framed as a performance related cut, but it didn’t seem like every person eliminated was an under performer. I’ve been keeping my resume up to date, but is this a sign that the business may be struggling? For context the corporate office came down with these cuts and it affected every branch.

[@vectorwolf]

It's become pretty common for companies to shave off anyone that's starting to reach the point where they expect raises or bonuses. Cheaper to drop them and pick up new people that have no seniority or earned perks.

[@ayeflippum]

During an interview, there was food served. One guy asked me whether I like some cookies that were on the table. Not thinking much about it, I remarked that I like different cookies that were on the table. He asked me *again* about the same cookies. I thought that was strange. But, I answered truthfully, giving the same response as before. I noticed that one of his female colleagues had an awkward look on her face. I didn't get the job.

[@abkeener81]

I had an in person interview today (February 9, 2024). I definitely am guilty of the eye contact, and sitting across from them. But I had two interviewers. As an aside … my interview lasted between 35 and 45 minutes (I’m not sure because I actively didn’t look at my watch during). Is this good or bad? Especially since when I asked about next steps I got what seemed to me like a vague answer. I’m also an introvert (a social one). So, I don’t show my enthusiasm in a high energy way. This is Andrew Keener.

[@erin19030]

I am so glad to be out of the job hassle market. I would never cut it in todays working world.

[@MissTShompagne]

I'm glad for you. I took a course in Phlebotomy last year 2023 October. Went on 2 interviews at 2 hospitals. Would you believe I have not heard from either of them yet til this day. I previously worked in the hospital for 25 years as a Respiratory Therapist, I thought it would be easy to do Phlebotomy work. I invested $1000 of my hard earned money and the majority of the companies I applied for want 6 months to 2 years experience as a Phlebotomist. You know what I'm doing now? I had to sign up with an agency and now I work for a cell phone company cleaning and testing cell phones(I got hired back). I thank God that I was smart enough to look for work elsewhere.

[@Cubby9999]

Deadfish is better than the iron grip twisting handshake (clear sign of disrespect).

[@firehawk12164]

Did you mean 90 degree angle? At 45 degrees I'm almost looking over their shoulder

[@obconoby7395]

Does anyone have a suggestion on where a person should move to have to best chance of landing an entry level layman job?

[@asteinerd]

Sooo... 1) Don't be socially anxious awkward 2) Don't be a germaphobe in a post-COVID world 3) Don't suffer from ADD/ADHD/ND 4) Don't act superior/cocky - This one is actually easy for everyone 5) Don't be an introvert and/or don't have low-self esteem (or at least pretend not to) 6) Don't have an anxiety disorder and/or (refer to (3)) 7) Hope the interviewer isn't a control-freak (which they most likely are given they kinda have to be to get to that point in a company where you're interviewing) 8) See (5) 9) MORE TOUCHING!?!?! wth.... ------------------ I'm just poking fun at the fact that most recruiters are out of touch with the fact that a large portion of the professional workforce just assume people don't have any of the above afflictions. Don't get me wrong. I suffer for almost everything I listed up there, but I can still fake a good interview, just as an introvert acts like that deplete my "social battery" (meaning I feel like absolute crap for the next 1-3 days). You could possibly make a series of videos to help out those folks next.

[@EmperorZaph1512]

I have found in my experience that corporate america just wants autistic people to starve to death lmao

[@Marqan]

I agree, but I think this video was made considering all or at least most kinds of jobs. Mainly for a leadership or social position what you wrote are mostly not desired to begin with, and can easily exclude you from the likely candidates. In those roles you just have to be mentally healthy, or at least mask your problems. If you hire someone that cannot mask and adapt on long term, then you either have to hire someone again as a replacement, or you have to adapt the workplace and other workers to them. Recruiters will try to avoid both these, if possible. Recruiters are not out of touch, they just have their own priorities. I mean.. they might be out of touch, but not necessarily because of this. And even if it's not a social/leadership position, the way a manager/HR person would react to you trying to communicate these problems would highly differ from person to person, in my opinion. Just considering I knew almost nothing about these issues like 5 years ago, because I was never exposed to them in the first place (or at least I didn't know I was exposed to them). But ye, if Bryan can make a relevant video on this, that would be cool!

[@tempestsonata1102]

Basically, don't come across as a potential problem. I suppose companies want human assets, not liabilities as employees.

[@blah2blah65]

I was leaning in at times with open posture, giving you the right amount of eye contact, and even rocked back in delighted laughter at your jokes. I hope I aced this KZbin video watching and that you'll think of me as one you want to watch your next video.

[@ALifeAfterLayoff]

We will be in touch shortly. In the meantime, please fill out this personality assessment and take home assignment.

[@tutsecret499]

Another thing avoid using perfume or other similar stuff, water and soap suffice, because hiring manager won't want to work around people using chemical suffocating their nose. A lot lawsuits over harmful perfume preventing people to breath.

[@DragonDrop4758]

Foot shaking is so annoying. It feels like a constant mini earthquake. You just can't ignore it. xD

[@annapatton4544]

my boss constantly does that. Our desks are just a couple of feet away from each other, you can see, hear and feel when he's lost or nervous. The worst is when he rolls to my desk to 'get involved" in something and shakes his leg rubbing on my chair. I once even said that I'm going to start slapping for it. He said - sorry mom, won't do it again 🤣 Once I also made a video of his leg shaking and sent it to him.

[@Mightymoose02]

Very nice advice!

[@Angeljc1]

This year 2024 has been tough applying for jobs. But also I feel like the times are changing. It used to be about qualifications… which candidate is the best qualified but I agree with some you out there that sometimes the hiring manager already decided they didn’t like you. I thought about this and my last couple of managers and I feel like my last interviewer get scared if I’m more qualified than they are. So you think some hiring managers don’t want to hire you because you will outshine them and their performance? Cause if that’s the case I feel like that’s very sad.

[@alvin-k2m4f]

This video was super insightful! I hadn’t realized how much body language can affect an interview, but it makes total sense. The tips on eye contact and a firm handshake are definitely things I’ll be paying more attention to. I’ve been using Jobsolv during my job search to help keep track of applications and interview prep, and it’s been really useful for staying organized. I’ll definitely be practicing these body language tips to ensure I make the best impression moving forward. Thanks for the great advice!

[@custos3249]

Lol the handshake. I could count the number of firm handshakes _I've gotten_ from interviewers even before the pandemic on one hand.

[@owningyourfinances]

Thanks Bryan, always appreciate your content and guidance. May I ask what are the top 1 or 2 things a person should do when they have a varied career background, and want to leverage that collective experience into a role (such as transitioning from sales to marketing), that is somewhat related but they can't afford to start entry-level again, and none of their previous roles are formal "marketing" roles, so getting past ATS becomes very difficult. What 2 things would you suggest?

[@annapatton4544]

not Brian here, but you can say that you gained a lot of experience in all those fields (prepare examples!) and that actually give you an advantage vs people that only stayed in one field, as each one comes with its own challenges (prepare examples!). Every time you think there is a flaw, find a way to turn it into an advantage it may give you or say what benefits it gave you or what you've learnt while overcoming it. This way you show your critical thinking and ability to solve problems. They go into the interview thinking they are the best you've got. Do the same. Shine the spotlight on your best sides

[@owningyourfinances]

Thank you! @@annapatton4544

[@jennyc5100]

Nothing worse than the fish handshake! 😄 Thanks, Brian.

[@Interstellallout]

man I hope my side income increases I gotta make it out ofthe linked in corporate loop. It's just kinda stupid.

[@silverfoxfinance]

Really great tips on the end of the video especially.

[@withpikachu2402]

Why do we shake hands? It was a big thing in high school, now it seems awkward. Other options include kissing, fist bumping, nose rubbing, elbow touching etc. A person will always be feel awkward in other person's premises. I used that for people control, even I could just call or go to tell. When you ask an employee or a business partner to your office it is to assert more weight to what you will be saying. But really you should not be intimidated by going to other person's office.

[@bartonfarnsworth7690]

I agree, who shakes hands anymore? I've been working blue collar jobs in the southern US for the past 20+ years and nobody ever shakes hands. We usually just kiss and rub noses. That's all that blue collar work in the South is anymore, just a bunch of dudes kissing and rubbing noses.

[@RodrigoMendoza7]

Ironically, I have seen many managers / workers with the classical closed arms (or related) stance on pictures or videos.

[@shovabaral2797]

I have zoom job interview tomorrow

[@mw4724]

If I’m going to loose a job opportunity due to the way I sit or hold my hands…. God bless, good luck, you can keep that job open! I’m running not walking to the exit! Completely ridiculous

[@fickettbeckner]

First off, yes, show respect for the interviewer/job so no slacker vibes or spinning, but the interviewer can do that? Unless it's a test, which is lame imho, they should show the same level of respect, right? They're the face of the company at the moment. Also, yes on the handshake thing. I've crushed many hands by accident but it worked in my favor because of the job. I don't mean to, so I guess I need to practice my technique, eh? Thanks for the info!

[@jmorris023]

Here's another topic for you. My girlfriend and I are both in finance. She's trying to switch jobs and is having a hard time interviewing right now. I know what the problem is, similar to the topic of this video. She tends to prattle on and says the word "like" a ridiculous amount of times when speaking, especially when she's trying to articulate herself. I've told her she has to up her business language game and to do that, she needs to just stop saying "like" cold turkey, but she just gets angry at me. It's starting to piss me off because she gets upset when she doesn't get the offer but won't listen to constructive feedback.

[@SageSam]

Sometimes saying Like, um, or rambling is just a sign of nervousness. Perhaps have her try some relaxation exercises before her interview practice, and see if it makes a difference.

[@amorelus]

The fact she gets upset at you for helping, is a bad sign already. I'm sure the interviewer detected that and chose someone with better control of their emotions. For me, if someone says "like" or "um" a few times does not bother me, But if they say it every other word. Then it makes me wonder if they truly have those years of experience they claim. I can understand for. entry level job to have a lot of nerviousness but if you have some years of experience. You should be a little nervous but not severely.

[@aisle_of_view]

As long as she doesn't say "literally" all the time, or "you know".

[@nursejoed]

@@aisle_of_view Unfortunately, some people say "like" like literally all the time. You know?

[@Frissdas1207]

Red flags written all over this. Dip my guy.

[@vikki8699]

This video is do helpful. Thank you! I have an interview coming up where I have 7 interviewers in the room with me. Its 3 hours long and they want me to prepare a presentation on how I would solve a praticular problem in the business demonstrating the STAR method. I feel like I am giving an upaid problem solving seminar rather then being interviewed for a position. Am I over thinking this? What is your thoughts on being interviewed by 7 people?

[@Cubby9999]

As a interviewer, I am more aware of catching people who are bullshitting me than the not so confident applicant that are good at their job. Too many people lie and bullshit in interviews.

[@anklesockson8134]

I've noticed hand shaking has gone down a lot since 2020, is good for me because apparently I shake hands like a gangster... which I suppose is better than a deadfish, perhaps

[@oceans_ttv]

What about people who have high functioning autism and have trouble maintaining high contact?

[@KChrisWatching]

Do you think employers/interviewers use references as leads or sales contacts? If they want to have written or verbal communications with people you knew, it always seems a bit much. Anyway, great points here and watch out for interviewers that do these things too.

[@yvonnebailey8610]

Thank you for all your videos! Can you possibly in the future touch on interview fatigue? If not already?

[@patrol2omega]

I had a recent interview and I just told my gf how I felt sad for not seeing constantly at the screen and at the interviewer :(

[@TheCustomer]

Should I interview for jobs marked "on-site" and when I get the offer I negotiate for remote/hybrid contract? Or interview for hybrid and then negotiate for fully remote or is it waste of time and I should ask in advance?

[@plextoob]

I was expecting a video about tips for interviews. What I got was a video on tips for a Guantanamo Bay interrogration.

[@novaia2643]

loool

[@realtalk3567]

I honestly laughed so hard at a lot of these. I nearly had no idea that some people do these things. Great video though.

[@elenabob4953]

Not shaking hands because I misread the body language and in my country women don't shook hands.

[@frankcorrea8691]

Hey in USA we shake hands and use eye contact, we don't have communist business, and if you think other countries don't like American ways then you will nor make it here, like talking loud like you are at a flea market@😮

[@emmanuelayala5952]

This has been really interesting ever since I’ve been a entrepreneur lol, keep it up guys you’ll do just fine trust me. Just don’t make any sudden movements that’ll impact your job😂

[@drednac]

That's weird for me strong handshake is rather a sign of a challenger, somebody who will try to dominate you and will be pushy and aggressive. Definitely not a friendly vibe.

[@SherrysReviewsandResearch]

"Neuro diversity " Yes Exactly. Love it.

[@hope3290]

I appreciate him mentioning that, because I struggle with a lot of the things discussed in the video because of my autism and ADHD. I have to put in so much more effort into monitoring my body language because noticing these things just doesn't come naturally to me. It's really exhausting.

[@youdontknowme5969]

and I'm a fidgeter 😒

[@artemsapegin]

Essentially, the whole video is about how to look neurotypical even if you’re not…

[@waeulbr]

Do we send a thank you note after?

[@aisle_of_view]

It's a good idea, 30% of applicants do it. Just don't spray it with perfume.

[@paulheydarian1281]

​@@aisle_of_view What if I stick a fake franklin in there? 🤔

[@Jules-69lol]

Always send a thank you note

[@myboringdesktop]

My bro was fired from a job. He asked me if he should put it on his applications if they ask the reason for leaving that employer. I said yes. Was I wrong?

[@mrmurdx8956]

I was so nervous in my last interview that I passed gas and I was so loud that it made me laugh out loud. 😂😂😂

[@obconoby7395]

lol, did you get hired? Maybe he liked it.

[@kevinmccabe741]

you mean 90 degree angle

[@NoObstacle]

Question: Post covid, I have started asking people if they are comfortable w a handshake. What do you think of this?

[@upreydeen]

Also very important and certainly uncomfortable to talk is "personal hygiene" check you breath, shower before an interview, make sure you use deodorant, comb you hair, shave, make sure clothes are clean and smelling fresh, there is nothing worse than a "smelly" individual going to an interview, shows lack of respect, shows that the person don't care, overall the interviewer would close the interview faster than anticipated lol

[@MidnightVentures]

So basically, act normal. This is all mostly common sense. I guess some people don't interview as well as others.

[@bigedslobotomy]

I sat in on an interview, and I swear the guy had his eyes CLOSED the whole time (even while he was talking). He didn’t get hired. Something just wasn’t right.

[@OtisThorpe518]

Confidence in an interview has nothing to do with job performance. Nor does the ‘type’ of hand shake or the angle of the chair in the room.

[@ValleriaValentine]

"Low energy shows that you are not really interested in the job" Well mate, you pulled me out of the bed at 5 in the morning, when i normally g et up at 9, you pulled me trough 3 rounds of interviews and you expect me to be energetic? Also, with the sititng, i am uncomfortable with the 45°angle for example. Dirrect opposite is what i find comfortable.

[@ajbXYZcool]

I've heard cases where neurodivergent people focus so hard on maintaining eye contact that they're not actually paying attention to what the other person is saying!

[@BaldAndCurious]

How about if you're already in the job, and your boss actually tells you to sit across from him, after already sitting on the 45 deg? What does that mean? Or how should i receive it?

[@Gumardee_coins_and_banknotes]

He likes you and wants to see you more. 😅

[@BaldAndCurious]

@@Gumardee_coins_and_banknotes lol. I'm even more confused how to process that.

[@woodside4life]

Cool video bro.

[@LucTaylor]

"Don't underestimate the importance of BODY LANGUAGE!" -- Ursula

[@hinnotap758]

What does it mean 6:23 😝

[@gregorriusadolphus2729]

now do a video on if the INTERVIEWER exhibits these mistakes? I've been in tech roles for the past 6 years and interviewing for them now, I feel awkward because I am personal and like levity and these guys are so dry and awkward and impersonal LOL. I never experienced such awkward interviews when I was in the the banking and finance industries.

[@ALifeAfterLayoff]

That doesn’t help the job seeker, eh.

[@theblaqkhaleesi9559]

Weird, I would think it would be the opposite😂.

[@StuCheeks]

Sounds about right. These are all things that apply to neurodivergent people. Things that generally have no bearing on the person's actual ability to do the job. Having to mask too much in an interview is a red flag, IMO.

[@HYPERxSONICxFANx2012]

i'm so exhausted after interviews

[@BillyBobDingledorf]

The handshake doesn't matter anymore.

[@Tuxita99]

ADHD people: So, in other words, I'm screwed...

[@denisegore1884]

I was nodding along and making eye contact until the Men At Work CD jumped out from the bland background. Whoops.

[@biancagerade4229]

Because of the pandemic shaking hands is optional, and I've never liked shaking hands anyway,

[@eagleeyemind4800]

Soft skills are so overrated and trivial. If the employer knows what they’re doing, they should be able to guide the conversation with the candidate and coach appropriately without being so concerned with things that don’t make much practical difference on the job. This is why people don’t work, there’s too many stupid rules in place

[@ltonetto]

45 degree angle? You meant 90? 45 you two are nearly looking the same direction.

[@vukkulvar9769]

"Lack of eye contact" has people on the spectrum sweating profusely. "Bad handshakes". No thanks, I won't touch any hand. Everyone keep their germs for themselves. "Being distracted". Then they shouldn't have glass walls surrounded by an open space. "Fidgeting". Well, I gotta make something of my hands. "Low energy". Well, if I didn't had to do a 1h30 trip to their office I wouldn't be car sick.

[@theodosios2615]

Funny, pretty much all of these points can be applied to a first date.

[@jilross4892]

What If the interviewer wont shake your hand? It seems to be the new normal