10 Hacks for Making Friends in VRChat (Especially if You're Shy...)

[@cid_vrc]

Do you guys have any questions about VR chat or VR in general? I know a lot about it so you can ask me in the comments. 😀

[@bakugoubean2924]

I have a question, do you know if the world “Helping hands” is still a thing cause I went the other day to learn ASL but all worlds were empty

[@cid_vrc]

Most of these language learning worlds have discords. You might want to go there and see when they are active or holding classes.

[@bellawilkinson8724]

Hey I’m wondering if you know any cute wholesome avater worlds like WITH clothes lol so yeah oh I don’t really like really short avater! :)

[@sweetjoshero]

🤣

[@MrRandomnumbergenerator]

@@cid_vrc thanks Cid (L)

[@shrinebow.]

This actually has like real life advice I’ve never heard before. As a person with severe social anxiety, this genuinely gave me some courage.

[@cid_vrc]

Glad to hear it!

[@brentheheaven]

One of my missions in VRchat is to give confidence to people who are hesitant to talk or afraid thats why i always wave and say hi to people that are alone. Im not afraid to socialize as i already established it in real life.

[@cid_vrc]

VRchat needs more welcoming players like you!

[@nero_soares]

I always do the same, specially since in the clubbing scene everyone acts like a family!

[@davidboss2160]

i need people like you to be friends with because vrchat gives me extreme anxiety for some reason. i usually just avoid it.

[@nero_soares]

@@davidboss2160 add me then, Nero_Soares

[@swws2]

i genuinely love people like you- im antisocial asf and always appreciate when people make an effort to try and talk to me, even after me being super quiet.

[@NoorquackerInd]

"Amelia seems nice and helpful" Yeah, you _definitely_ don't watch hololive

[@miisayu]

the innocent part too, little does he know...

[@Liitaro]

Of course Amelia is a helpful teammate!! Her chat is also very useful too...hehee

[@KiltedShepherd]

I mean all the 3D stuff last year were planned by her and paid out of her own pocket. She always helps the other girls with their computer problems. She also limits monetization because she would rather have fun with her watchers. This is from someone who watches Ame the least of all the girls from Myth but I hear nothing but good things about her.

[@kitsunemesis]

Can we call him 'billingual weeb' now?

[@sarcasm-83]

@@KiltedShepherd Exactly what I thought. She has quite the heart of gold under all the gremlin-ness :) She also helps herself to chats mom >:3

[@Awsome2464]

As someone who watches Hololive, your perceived description of Amelia made me laugh so hard.

[@jooscyy.3203]

Havent watched in over a year, I can still say that wasn't too accurate lol

[@renookami4651]

@@jooscyy.3203 What do you mean, it's totally, 105% accruate! Wait, wrong timeline nevermind. xD

[@wesleyfilms]

He thinks she’s helpful and nice, and not the agent of chaos she is lol

[@vtubernastia]

I am glad i was not the only one laughing xD

[@theinventiveidiot]

YOU WANT ME TO BE LIKE AMELIA? YOU CAN'T JUST "BE" THE CLOSEST THING TO PERFECTION.

[@Weaklytune]

LOL true

[@sweetjoshero]

Clickbait

[@Penguinizerrr]

Luffy dirk

[@succubus4444]

I have major social anxiety and I am also anti-social, but, hearing you say that I should "pretend" to like things, has made me view things differently now. I know this has nothing to do with VRChat but hearing that and actually pretending to like things that I disliked before has made me actually like them instead of pretending to like them. I just want to say, thank you! If it wasn't for this video, I would've still had a negative view on things, you deserve more subscribers!!

[@coffintears5821]

Im pretty sure theres a difference between asocial and antisocial

[@YamiZee]

i wouldnt pretend to like things you dont, it will make you seem fake. but you may not want to hate on things publically too much since youll seem negative, and if there are things you like then exaggerating how much you like it is good

[@NickMirambeau]

me: *can sing* also me: *is too shy to ever find myself in a situation where it would be socially acceptable to sing*

[@cid_vrc]

Lmao just do it. I sang Super Idol today even though I don't speak much Chinese. Although I was with my friends, not in a public world.

[@sadisticspirit1460]

As a fellow singer myself who had massive stage fright if you have vrchat go to karaoke worlds and the biggest thing people like us have is are toxic perfection mentality when around people preventing us from doing what brings us life Id suggest karaoke world first And work your way too real karaoke irl Its only you head thats telling you your not good enough When you know you are Take that step my friend and be the singer you were destined to be

[@renookami4651]

Go to karaoke or open-mic events, that's literally made for that. Those groups are usually welcoming of newcomers. You may not be able to go o the stage the first time if the session is fully planned, but you can spend that time talking with the staff if you're interested in joining the next time around. As for karaoke worlds it's just "anyone who dares to step forward and play a song" usually, it's pretty chill. xD

[@sadisticspirit1460]

@@renookami4651 do they have any podium karaoke events for quest cause id love to join that event

[@cyntasiahall1802]

Saammme😂

[@jan_Sanku]

About the gun thing: your idea probably backfired because many crashers use guns. They aim at you, fire, you crash. Most people end up hiding others as soon as a gun is pointed at them (I've done this, and I know so far all of them were crashers because they were visibly upset about me still existing)

[@cid_vrc]

Wow, I didn't know that. That's evil but also kind of creative XD

[@jan_Sanku]

@@cid_vrc Wow I didn't think you'd see this under a 9 month old video! Serious dedication my friend :) But yea, it's true. Personally I find avatars with guns pretty funny, but my vrchat friend group is more chaotic anyways. But if I see a stranger pointing a gun at me, especially if they're new or visitor, I hide their avatar as soon as I can to avoid crashing. Most of them time this happens I can see the silly default robot do the gesture for pulling the trigger a few times until silently running off to the next person. If they were just messing around they would've reacted different and not run off or look upset.

[@wesleyfilms]

Funny how people did the same thing back on Second Life too.

[@Victoria_shipwave]

It happens in real life sadly too.

[@3man3]

Like death gun from sao

[@Kaoura]

VRC veteran here (20k hours/ 2k friends) all these tips are valid, I hope you guys are able to actually use the advice given here and make new friends! ❤

[@cid_vrc]

That's a lot of vrchat xd

[@dylonlachenal5294]

Bruh that's mental.. 13,7 years of spending 4h in vr every single day without missing a day. I wish I had the time for it

[@azuhagamez]

"Amelia Seems nice and helpful" Can confirm this, she always pleases everyone's mom and such.

[@austintobi8270]

Not joining front page servers is a great tip! I would recommend looking for world's that are scenes from your favourite videogames/shows! Gives you something to talk about with the people you meet. Even in random small worlds, when I join anywhere public with only a couple people they'll almost always say hi!

[@britishyoutuber]

I sat in a The Black Cat lobby for 20 minutes with a group of people, didn't speak once I sat there and gestured if they spoke to me but other than that I was completely silent, I just enjoyed their presence and listening to their stories and where not to go in the US, I realised quickly that I wasn't really gonna get anywhere if I kept letting my social anxiety get the better of me, even though I was lucky and this group of people were super understanding and nice and I even made a friend It ain't always gonna be like that, so here I am Learning how to make friends :(

[@cid_vrc]

Listening is always fun in vrchat! But yeah, the real game is talking so you have to get around to that somehow. I hope my tips are helpful. 😃

[@britishyoutuber]

@@cid_vrc There was one tip that I'm gonna try out next time I play, oh and thank you for making this video It's got a ton of useful tips :D

[@Victoria_shipwave]

Same situation there 😅 im pretty introvert and is hard to me to speak with people, plus most people will think that im annoying just because of my age

[@guigamesl]

It is a process. I’m Brazilian so we don’t have this kind of problem because naturally we make friends haha keep calm, take your time and be yourself it’s the most important think to do 😉 good luck buddy

[@filipovixx]

Ame according to this guy: nice, helpful and innocent Any teamate: yEp, definitely!

[@davicosta2328]

This tips can actually just translate to real life too. Change "avatar" for "clothes" for example and how you showing some of what makes you special captivates people to keep themselves around you. Really good advice overall!

[@cataclysmicat9551]

Such a well-put-together video! You know people are coming here for tips, and getting right to the point of the video with tip #1 then mending together the first tip with your introduction was genius. I'm looking to get a VR chat set up as soon as I can get my PC set up. I've looked forward to trying out VRchat for a long time now, just haven't had the time to start.

[@cid_vrc]

Glad you like the vid! VR chat is fun!

[@envyxoxo4611]

The main thing I always tell people is to avoid groups and try to find lesser or alone people, no more than 2 together. This is bc most groups have already established who to talk with and there's a good chance they'll kick you out or just ignore you. Usually from my experience the best people tend to be couples that are out exploring worlds, try to find people like that and you'll more than likely make a safe connection. And try to have an open mind! The more things you're into the more you're able to talk about and socialize, whether that be entertainment, fandoms, ect. But know the shit you're talking about and be passionate, not just for the sake of socializing. Some dudes will weed you out real quickly.

[@cid_vrc]

Lol this is true, I never try to step into a big circle of people that are already talking.

[@aspxnvii]

I've been solo visiting worlds for the last week because I'm too scared to join a public world due to my crippling social anxiety. I have an avatar I feel very comfortable in, and your advice about going to events sounds like such a great idea and I'm going to try! Thank you for this video

[@cybercat1991]

hee how did it go? Today i visit vrchat for the first time and it completely shut me off. I feel like im invading peoples house although these places are public. Im just standing there like a fucking freak, watching them haha. I dont know what to do

[@JJ_loves_JP]

Kinda funny how it’s ame giving me tips to make friends. Lol

[@ReiTsukinoVT]

As a pretty hard core introvert, the whole concept of VR is pretty daunting, but I did one of the things you suggested on instinct. That being making an avatar i'm comforable with ^_^ So i'm inching my way into visiting worlds and eventually meeting folks in VR.

[@dapixelatedpanda5544]

I know you commented this two years ago but did it ever work out for you?

[@ReiTsukinoVT]

@@dapixelatedpanda5544 May be not like I had wanted at the time, but I've met a bunch of friends and got a group I hang out with regularly in VR and in discord. So I think there's more merit than not in these tips ^_^

[@dapixelatedpanda5544]

@@ReiTsukinoVT 😄🫶

[@Diana-Cherry-Blossom]

The pretending one sounds silly but like he said it truly works and its kind of weird to think. I used to be kind of a gloomy person and think of negatives all the time but eventually I just started acting like I believed that every day was the best day ever and u know what..it freaking worked (now of course i still have "bad" days) but i am a lot more positive about life in general and all because I wanted to pretend

[@CysmaWinheim]

The last time I tried faking it till I made it and pretended to be the person I wanted to be, my boss had me escorted out of his office when I refused to leave his desk.

[@cid_vrc]

😂

[@pwilll]

This... is wonderful advice. It really hits all the avoidant and paranoid things socially anxious people (I) have lmao. Especially the initiating conversations bit at the end! I have frequently had each and every one of those thoughts (being boring, saying something weird, accidentally making "friends" with a stalker/weirdo). Feels nice to know it's not just me having those thoughts haha.

[@cid_vrc]

Thanks for watching! :)

[@nattnextdoor.]

I try to stick to worlds that are most successful in trying to make friends and I usually just run around them seeing if anyone gets my interest I’ll either ask a question to them and see where it goes from there. Biggest tip is to yolo through it just try not to be so hesitant to speak your mind a lot of vrchat players are looking for new friends also so don’t be scared

[@grimkitten8254]

felt like these advices were really good not even just for vrchat but for any online platform so decided to write them out as a list for people who find it easier to read them but they are not word to word so you might want to watch the video to see what he said about them too. 1. Compliment something they're showing off since it will probably have meaning to them. 2. Try joining people in activities instead of just talking to take the pressure of socializing off you and them. 3. Roleplay some job in the room to make yourself more approachable to people. 4. Choose an avatar that suits your personal taste instead of your thought from an outside perspective of people. 5. do not troll or try to shock people even for laughs since it would make you seem more intimidating to them and not be able to relax around you. 6. try to show off even the smallest of special traits you have to make people more interested in you. 7. Fake it till you make it, so if you arent outgoing fake like you are just for fun and maybe you will like it. 8. initiate conversation even if people react badly because at least you tried and you will eventually meet someone who wants to talk to you just keep trying again.

[@RyanR3STL3SS]

As someone who struggled to find their community in VRC, this advice is spot on. Thanks for this! I ended up finding my community in the Virtual Reality Dance Academy.

[@cid_vrc]

That's awesome! Glade I could help. I tried dancing today for the first time with my Oculus Quest 2, and it was much better than I thought it would be! Now if only my FBT would ship...

[@RyanR3STL3SS]

@@cid_vrc Waiting for the Tundras also eh?

[@tateflores]

So what I hear you saying is if I choose an inanimate object as an avatar.. people with other inanimate object avatars will be drawn to me.. and slowly we can recreate Beast's castle

[@cid_vrc]

Lol

[@quipsilvervr]

I absolutely get where the social anxiety comes from and paralyses you when it comes to trying to even force a social situation. The tips are definitely useful though, and there are those that needed to hear it. I might take that advice one day, but I've used VRChat almost exclusively alone for almost 2 years now after a few people I did hang with, kinda just bailed when better social prospects came along, and I don't hold it against them, but it does absolutely create that "what if", if you ever contemplate being social. Yeah, maybe one day I'll bite the bullet and try, but for now, I sorta just vicariously experience that social prowess through streamers who seem to be experts.

[@user-hj7pw1sm2z]

Thank you for explaining about the trolling thing, because if your trying to make a few people laugh then sure. But harassing is not ok. Going up to a person and using bad language and telling them to Kill themselves is NOT cool. I honestly hate the glorification of that in the raps and songs kids listen too or even the media. Not even kids, even adults your actions can reflect on others. Personally Ik that since I have experienced it. I didn’t go on vr chat for two months cus of it. It may not sound long but that experience still is remembered and scares me. If what you do affects another in such a way. Stop. It’s not too late.

[@fallencrusader2975]

Trolling for laughs is a great way to make friends, you just have to be good at reading the crowd and you must know your demographic. Otherwise people will find you annoying and begin to hate you, even though your intentions are pure. However as a basic rule of thumb for someone trying to make friends its best not to troll. Its high risk high reward, only worth it if you already have some friends.

[@renookami4651]

@@fallencrusader2975 Not really high reward, especially if your joke isn't as original as you think and it's the 10th time this session someone approach them the same way. Trolling is better inside the friend group where people already knows eachother's brand of humor. ^^"

[@omniaesthetic1256]

This list of tips you made is really, really good. I've been on VRChat for about a year and a half now, I can say that I stumbled upon most of these tips by myself. I used to be one of those people that was really awkward and didn't know how to show interest or make people interested in me for a long time. Now I'm the one that can crash into an huddle of people that are nothing like me and have fun with them, or drag the quiet people over and make them have fun. I'll tell you what was the most important thing to learn: The biggest thing stopping you from having fun and being fun is being married to the idea that you must avoid feeling awkward/vulnerable and avoid making others feel that way, too. It's not going to happen overnight, but you really have to keep doing things that make you feel vulnerable over and over until you get comfortable with being uncomfortable. It's so much easier to do in VRChat than it is in real life for a lot of reasons. Also don't forget that 90% of the people you run into are just as awkward and self-conscious as you are. Have some sympathy for that, since you know how it feels, and you've got something in common with just about everyone.

[@monashaVR]

what da Ame doin?

[@ObscureNerdVR]

I'll be frank, this is much more helpful than my video on how to make friends in VRChat. LOL in all seriousness, good stuff!

[@bakugoubean2924]

I got my vr headset a few days ago and I can say I’m a mirror dweller now 😂

[@cid_vrc]

Say good bye to real life XD

[@bakugoubean2924]

@@cid_vrc yes I only got to two places now work and bank

[@touch7161]

Fake it till you make it is actually the best tip ong. I used to be so nervous talking to anyone or showing off any of my talents, and then one day I just started pretending I was the guy that everybody wants to be around. And now a year later I have crowds of people around me in drinking night, and several friend requests come in every time I play.

[@user-hj7pw1sm2z]

Thanks, ever since I have had some shit trolls bother me on vr chat by harassing me telling me to kill my self because I am gay has really made me loose trust in people and learning to like humanity. But this helps me make some more friends, your right servers like black cats are just full of trolls ect and just too pushy and confident individuals. I honestly kinda like my own space but now I have friends that respect that and because of them I’m now more confident with communication even tho is still have to pretend to be confident. I’m surprised how many people listen to what I have to say on vr. You have no idea how much I needed this little boost of confidence. Have a wonderful day or night to you and whoever else reads this 😊

[@CaleAnderson]

Thank you Cid. Just started today! Amazing introductory video :)

[@cid_vrc]

Glad it was helpful!

[@SpringyBoii]

On the 5th one, I think that this makes more sense than some of the others! Avis are a large part of who you are in Vrchat and being able to express that without being scared to is great! I think the only problem is people judge to quickly. As of me joining one of my favorite worlds I was wearing an SML avatar as I'm entering that kinda phase at a rather old age, I said nothing. I sat there just watching. And I got vote kicked. I could hear ppl in the background "Oh yeah that's an SML avi they are gonna raid us or something" When I have no close ppl to even help me do something like that. I wish people wouldn't just judge by and avatar but still its a good and great part of who you are in VRC and one of the greatest perks of VRC, Being able to be whoever you want to (Most of the time)

[@croithewolf4461]

I have barely any experience in VRC but when I played it i loved it. When you’re playing the game when shy and just looking to have fun, it may take a while of room hopping, but VRC is perfect for that too.

[@12fishcake]

If you already have a buddy or two who play, it becomes way easier to approach people in a more populated server, or often you find people approach you and your friend(s), I tend to hang out with chill people, so often meet others who turn up and end up getting on well with us. However, in VRC's case, I have no IRL friends who play, so had to make my own way at first to meet some other players. Best part of VRC is there's no pressure. If you don't like someone you can move on and chances are you'll never meet again, and if someone's being a problem but you want to stay because of the other people, you can block or hide them. Now they simply don't exist in your game anymore! It's important to remember, especially when first starting off! I agree with all the tips here, but the one that stands out from my personal experience when you're on your own is doing an activity. It holds true in many other social games like Second Life or an MMO. Finding games and activities, or hopping worlds and exploring with people is a great icebreaker with someone you don't necessarily know well. I've unintentionally made friends just through playing/exploring with them (depending on which game) way more often than actively trying to approach people in social areas like a town or chill map (again, depending on the game) Hasn't often worked out to me as a fairly introverted person, unless. Of course, the latter can work but doing something interesting rather than just standing and chatting helps break the ice with strangers for sure! Hang in some game worlds or other interactive places (no time two talk is good also) and if you click with someone, give them an add. Once you got a few buddies, it gets a lot easier! Also to add to the point about complimenting people's avatar, I love all the fun gimmicks people make for their avatars and love to see them shown off. If someone's put the time and effort (or money) into making something they're usually more than happy to demonstrate, also a great way to strike up a conversation!

[@cid_vrc]

You speak the truth!

[@candidklutz5056]

if you want to act like amelia you need to start ground pounding some moms

[@candidklutz5056]

no but actually, good video

[@cid_vrc]

The Oculus Quest 2 mic makes me sound like I have a lisp...

[@lindsay4938]

This was actually really helpful! Thanks! 💕

[@Vixxen01]

this JUST popped up in my recommended and HOW DOESN'T THIS HAVE MORE VIEWS!?

[@cid_vrc]

It has 87k lol

[@e_veharapeco]

i’ve been wanting to get back into vr chat, but i’ve played this game for years only with people i knew, never alone, so it’s kinda scary to think about going in alone. appreciate this video

[@cid_vrc]

My #1 tip is find public worlds with people who share your interests! For me it was languages, for others it could be dancing, acting, board games, etc. Joining a random bar world to make friends is something I personally would never do lol...

[@kingdanett4043]

Yeah just kinda being confident and talkative is just how you make friends. I get a lot of friend requests in every lobby just being myself and talking with people and being confident enough to join in conversations and it's super fun... buy I do scroll the front page so I get a tooonnn of kids friend requesting me and that makes me super selective

[@tipcreaper]

Glad yt recommended me this video

[@cid_vrc]

Ty men for watching

[@CamembertDave]

1:24 - That's literally what I just joined VRChat today to look for. Thank you for mentioning this!!

[@pacFaLife]

THX for sticking it to the man, man!

[@cid_vrc]

Ty men

[@obamabarrack4450]

RBUH the whiplash i felt clicking this and not having an intro tf very refreshing tho

[@BrookeRichey]

I really felt when you said fake it till you make it and how you one day decided to act out going and like every day was the best day ever and then it actually turned into a awesome day, it really did work out like that for me. I do still get depressed some days but faking being happy really does trick yourself into being happy eventually 😅 sometimes

[@KrabbyPattySecretForumla]

Wow this was straight to the point… literally. The first second is the start of the title

[@RainbowKittens]

2:42 this has helped me a lot cause I walk around as Anya and do crazy weird shit and people just come up to me and go “Anya!!” I’ve had a person play anime intros while I was dancing rlly weirdly in the backround. Instant friend

[@cid_vrc]

Lol exactly. Just be crazy and weird and people will actually come to you. But also respect people's boundaries. I was in a public today and this Brazilian guy kept getting in people's faces and being rude. That's the wrong way to be funny.

[@toast4736]

I remember the first time i went into vr chat, i was on pc (no vr) and i went into a front page world (unknowingly). I was made to feel like a weirdo because i wasn't talking. This one experience has definatley made me recluse from people more

[@tangy_tangerines]

hi! i just joined vrchat a not even 3 days ago, and i have huge social anxiety issues. after watching this video, i felt immediately encouraged to hop on vrchat and i just walked up to some people who also seemed to be looking for somebody else to talk to and now i'm friends with them! this video helped a ton, and it defenitely has helped to ease my anxiety at least. so i just want to thank you for making this video, because i've honestly havent seen advice like this in such a long time! :D

[@tangy_tangerines]

and i know this video is a year old, but i just wanted to express my gratitude here anyways so just in case you see this

[@poorme1art]

6:13 Man... I can see why you thought it'd be funny, but at the same time, I can think of so many reasons why it wasn't a good idea. Imagine someone have been mugged in real life, they might have been shot and have PTSD! I'm glad you realized it wasn't a good idea before it turned into a serious problem and now give advice based on your experiences on VR.

[@cid_vrc]

Yeah I stopped pulling guns/weapons on people and play hitting people. No one really likes that even if I'm joking lol.

[@nao_kyunn]

I'm quite shy and introverted when it comes to socializing. But, I tried getting out of my comfort zone and boost up my confidence by talking to people. It really helped me a lot. The main problem for me now is language barriers. I'm Asian, so English is not my main language. I had a hard time keeping up converstaions with people, eventhough I can still understand what they're trying to talk about. If they're talking too fast, I kept on asking them to repeat for me and I'm scared that they might thought of me as a nuisance 😩 Some of them just don't wanna interact with us Asians cuz they thought we are weird (I know not everyone think that way, just some that I've heard). Some of them are very nice and friendly too, and I will eventually stick with that kind of people ☺️

[@mennamohsen4165]

6:51 It'd be good if they made like, an inventory in VRChat, like, you can touch things from a world and then they appear in this inventory and you can use them anywhere?!

[@Cneq]

"don't be afraid to show your job in VR" sound advice, next time I'll start drawing petri nets and ORM models with the in-game pencil lmao

[@cid_vrc]

Not even joking, it'll give you a leg up over the competition! I'd much rather talk to a someone with a unique job than a generic high school/college student.

[@princessofmoonxx9653]

Im obsessed with the udon saber on vr chat and the karaoke too does make me feel more confident no being mute

[@MrGeoffrey1998]

So okay with the tips you gave though the avatar tip i'm not really okay, it doesn't have to be a girl. I'm a guy and made my own avatar on VROID, pretty easy as i'm just learning. It looks like me and has custom clothes like mine but i still am able to help people when they're not doing fine, chill with people, have fun and entertain people. I'd say : find an avatar that corresponds to your personality, your mood. I'm a chill guy, open minded so i keep my avatars for those moments. When i do my Arnold voice impressions or Yoda etc i change avatar accordingly and it adds a lot to my VR character/personality ;)

[@xoxlove4lifexox70]

Another tip! If you are a new HBT dancer, it is a high recommendation to go to worlds that have music or people that plays music out loud for others. FBT dancers loves to give tips to new dancers, including half bodys! But take note that most, of not all FBT and HBT dance veterans feel comfortable around 18+ people so that is a note to remember! There is also some people that buys/make their avatars for a specific song or dance and get giddy when someone compliments us! 💙

[@renookami4651]

Dancers are usually really cool people. When I visit dance worlds while exploring and accidentally join a public instance where there's people, I was told more than once "I don't care if your avatar don't move because you're in Desktop, just dance with us in your room!" it's so akward yet funny! xD

[@DougtheFir]

I like how there was no intro and you went straight to number one.

[@S3n_ha1zu2.x]

Astute observations, Watson.

[@borizarts]

The first hack is very good, I clicked the video because of the title about making friends and the Amelia avatar

[@BlackFenix-jz5rs]

Alternate title: Life advice to make more friends (also works on VRChat)

[@jmalicthehedgehog-canaldem3476]

2:00 and 4:03. I've tried these two tips and they worked well in my experience. They are fun! Thank you so much for your knowledge and your hard-work to make this video possible to teach people things like this in VRchat, i love this so much!

[@cid_vrc]

Thanks for sharing!

[@Toeset]

The problem with me is that I’m like a switch, I’m shy and have anxiety but once I speak to people that anxiety goes away

[@lustry_xo]

ALSO THIS GOES WITH THE AVATAR TALK !! Don't wear crazy color changing bright avis. Some people DO NOT want to even go near you cause it can simply hurt their eyes. Once a guy joined a lobby in a very bright colorful avi. The avatar was awesome but it harmed one girl to the point she was on the floor crying. :((

[@cid_vrc]

Ouch. This is why I turn my safety settings up to block people's shaders and stuff lol

[@Aimothewizard]

I just had my fun and a guy came up to me and said "Dude I love your personality" and friended me. Then we played for 1 hour. It was kinda fun

[@cid_vrc]

Awesome!

[@rkgam3zs]

I really needed this, thank you so much for uploading this

[@Dotnn]

I’m a quiet mirror dweller but being a flying car, robot from portal, and drones got me a friend

[@sunseeker803]

Personally I’d find the gun thing funny. But absurdity is or atleast was a really big part of my sense of humor. Always liked a little spice and made a lot of friends with it. If people don’t like it they usually just block you so if you’re someone who wants friends of the many things an absurd sense of humor can mean, it’s not exactly a bad thing to try. I’ve made a lot of people laugh back in the day, only reason I’m here is because I’ve learned against one of my main absurd pieces of my sense of humor because of my realization of what it ends up doing to one of my main values and so I’m trying to figure out a new way to make friends as my other parts of my sense of humor are far too underdeveloped in social ways for me to use them in its place. But don’t be too afraid to be yourself. I will also give the advice that, there will always be someone whose going to like you, if you’re like me, it may be more rare but if you keep trying and not let the failed attempts get in your way of thinking, you’ll find some friends. Not sure if that’s covered in the video, I impulsively came to comment this lmao. But things like that do work, but it may be arougher ride on your way to making friends so if you’re worried about that, keep that in mind.

[@jakubdornicak9125]

Your avatar's eyes are intimidating me af, holding straight eye contact for like 10 mins XD

[@PopcornP0V]

Been in VRChat for around 4 years now and my one problem with myself is that I want to make friends but have managed to convince my brain that I really enjoy being in private worlds and that I am happy with just that or sitting alone in public worlds. I want VR friends so badly but I cannot shake off the nervousness and I am quite outgoing IRL. Gonna use these tips and update when I remember that I posted this comment.

[@ShantiSyndrome]

wanna be friends on vrc? :3

[@PopcornP0V]

@@ShantiSyndrome I'd love to!!

[@ShantiSyndrome]

@@PopcornP0V vrc: holyshiitake

[@twochunkymonkeys3990]

I really like relaxing in black cat but it’s a front page server is it ok if I go in one and somewhat make freinds like is it possible

[@eggycarrot]

Good video , you talk really good!

[@cid_vrc]

Thanks! :D

[@333DOT.]

bruuuh, u recognized ppl that worked hard finding their avatar or had a lot of money to buy a custom avatar, but what about us who make our own avatar :( the compliment is the strongest for us .. when someone compliments my avatar i want to CRY .. because i spent soooo many hours working on this

[@cid_vrc]

Lol I made this video when I was still really new to VRChat. I didn't know people made their own models from scratch, I thought they just put together random parts from deviant art!

[@l_kurama_l]

8:24 thats me right there im depressed af for many reasons and i didn't really had my childhood so i choose to be goofy, funny and talkative on vrc cuz making people laugh also make's me laugh

[@mr.wizbiz.2917]

Thanks bro ever since watching this it's so much easier to find people to persuade into coming into my basement where I feed them pill bugs

[@cid_vrc]

Glad I could help!

[@poorme1art]

8:07 Wow! That sentence right there hit me like a truck! This is powerful advice.

[@DeerestAshe]

Number 2 is wonderful in tandem with number 3 my home world is Quick, Draw! As I love art and it’s a fun game so I meet like minded people while doing what I love and it’s allowed me to be more open and myself. It’s literally my home world now lol

[@cid_vrc]

That's awesome! Do you just join public worlds for quick draw?

[@DeerestAshe]

@@cid_vrc I do! but I have a group where I can host public group instances! It helps to cull the more problematic sides of vrc if you know what I mean. Even the my home instance is set to public by default so I just immediately go into my happy zone I’ve met quite a few nice people this way and it’s been fun helping people break out of their shells more. And being able to moderate instances means we’re able to meet more people and play other games without worry!

[@gr7582]

Tey RP thing works VERY WELL RP as the bartender at the Black Cat and had damn near the room talking to me and was able to connect nearly everyone together, it's the little things that cause teh biggest effects

[@aleksanderstrmland1252]

I've been sitting up this evening, wanting to find someone to, well, just talk to... I'd love to play a game of chess or something, but none of my friends had the chance, or whatever. nothing "bad" in any way. But I had a deep urge to just talk to someone. I have not entered VRChat EVER... (Have seen some humorous KZbin videos. That's all). Luckily I have a VR, and know of it's possibillities, and VR HAS to be a way to meet someone. So right at this moment, my thoughts are: "Will my mic work properly? Will it be set up good enough for someone to just hear me?" and I'm absolutely not going to "engage" in the start. So... That's why I came across this video. Since I need to know what the hell I'm getting into. Maybe this will change, but I'll say what I feel about your tips: #1: That was a durh... But did indeed made me realize that theres gonna be WAY customizable avatars, and I should pay attention to it. Good tip. #2: This one I would have fallen into. I still don't know what it looks like, but I've always liked "non crowded places". Good tip. #3: This is just true in general. I want to show off my creativity and also want to play games. I can also make friends by talking, but have to REALLY talk a lot to get into something. Good tip, but this was a "given" for me. #4: Eeehhh.... I can't dare to do that. I'll freak out from a negative response and never try it again. But I get your point, and DO like to roleplay. I'll say it needs to be expanded upon. #5: It's a really good tip, but I'd like using that guy avatar you showed. That's who I feel more like.. So it felt really offputting when YOU said "it wasn't right". I think I understand it wasn't right for _you_, but still. Good tip. #(seven)6.. Yeah you said seven.. But "Don't be offensive" is the most given to me. If this tip needs to be given to someone, I think there's more they need to address than just getting tips. Good you put it on the list, but it should be a given. #7: No... I don't like the first words "Be different". Be yourself. You gotta be yourself. There is ALWAYS something interesting in EVERYONE, so there is no need to "be special". Bad tip. #8: This one is a very balancing on the edge of bad/good. But you explain it well. IRL vs VR etc. But this wasn't really "needed" since it goes tip #3. Feels a bit "filler". #9: That's the issue I can't come past right now. It's as if "I don't understand discord" well enough to do it "properly". So why combine that with the GREAT things you said in this tip? Going to events, appearing at schedules. That's great. But what does discord have to do with that? Switch the tip name from "Join a discord" to "Participate in events". I personally have had discord since it came out, and have all my IRL friends there to play games with, but have never ever met someone new there. #10: Have no idea if I even can. Dunno if my mic works. Dunno when people can hear me. Dunno anything... I'll TRY and talk, sure, but I definetly will not be initializing anything from the start since I have no clue what I'm doing. Sure, I'll try, but there are times one feels like not initializing, and other times one does. So this tip seems to be just "irrelevant". Wow,,, that went WAY longer than I thought. Still charging my Quest 2, and gonna go in as soon as it has a charge. (Why, oh WHY does it not charge from the computer..... I like using the cable link into steam... But after the last update it doesn't even charge when connected, it actually DRAWS power...) That was 10 min of writing while waiting for my quest to charge. Feedback for you Cid, and my thoughts. Guess in about 10 more min, I'll enter VRChat for the first time ever.

[@fallen_kingz738]

Good video but one piece of advice I can give is don’t “fake it till you make it”. My Sensei always taught me not to fake it till I make it, but fake it till you BECOME it. If you’re not confident then act like someone who is confident and react how they might act until you are more comfortable with acting with confidence

[@trainnerd1155]

It was so helpful i cant try the tipps out thx

[@cid_vrc]

You're welcome!

[@brutifullroast2548]

I've discovered all my personal favourite things on my own but I like this vid. It's very interesting and I know some people struggle with this

[@stealthpilot2861]

Social anxiety be playing a lot of cards ever since quarantine

[@-Lazy]

I also thought about this. Perhaps the front pages with all those children in it are not ideal to find good conversations

[@nicevideo794]

Ayo thx for teaching and recommending the wonderful server. I learned so much Japanese and can now have a Japanese small chat. Also I got some friends!!!

[@monkeyfarts5087]

Really Great Advice that I needed to hear. Thank you so much!

[@cid_vrc]

Glad it was helpful!

[@lamarcordes5107]

These are really good tips! Thanks so much

[@lxrdwander5031]

You just helped me so much. Thank you.

[@microbry]

I am close to retirement age and have trouble with meeting new people these days, and of course I worry about ageism and whether I will be relatable or able to relate to most myself. You have some fantastic advice and ice-breakers here, especially wrt how to find folks with the same interests. I'm so used to seeing VRC videos that are sarcastic and insincere, so this is a breath of fresh air. Given that she's a VRC fan herself, I'm sure Amelia Watson would be proud. But don't let her near your mom! (jk)!

[@cid_vrc]

Thanks for watching! One of my good friends is not quite retirement age but he's in his late 40s and he has found a small circle of people that he likes. I hope you can have the same experience in VR!

[@chrisa2922]

Me silently laughing in my derpy chibi anime girl avatar that has eyes going different directions

[@copingflower1909]

When it comes to Vrchat its not so much about making friends its about making bonds as in making a friend is the easy part actually creating a bond with them like how you would with a friend in real life is 10x harder if you have so many people added on your friendslist making things a cluttered mess and causing you to potentially forget the said person you are wanting to bond with favorite tabs can kinda helo with this but I'd recommend just keeping you list slim enough depending on you as a person if your forgetful I'd recommend keeping it small

[@jorgewolynski9125]

Thanks, needed to hear that.

[@mrschoko565]

I often join those jet flying games they are fun

[@cid_vrc]

I tried it once and I crashed

[@mrschoko565]

@@cid_vrc u should try it again, I could help u to fly and show u some different worlds. It’s worth it!

[@Jinjerthesayian]

Ya know, I don't have vr chat or a headset to get it, but I do have a plan to be marvin the martian if there is an avatar for him, course I have other choices but I want marvin the most

[@tinabeana4495]

Tip 1: "You should tell a person you like their avatar" My brain last night inside my head basically: "Ohhh they've got a ____ avatarrrr! Awesomeee I'm not the only one who likes that series on here! It would probably seem out of place if I said anything....it might be weird if I said anything.....yeah that might be a bad idea to say anything." xD;;;

[@iIyuwu]

thank you for this advice i did all the steps and my rank hit nuisance, i got muted by half the lobby after being called slurs you think would come out of the jungle book and then i tried in real life and the doctor told me i will never walk again. thank you