10 Signs You’re An INFJ With UNHEALED Emotional Trauma

[@PSYCH-O]

Hey PSYCH-Os!👋 *So, do you think you may have some unresolved trauma as an INFJ?* Comment down below 👇

[@tracydegroat6345]

Your last few videos have hit a home run, at least for me. Thank you for making this channel. We need advice on how to kick this please...... Especially on getting my day dreams back.

[@alanhuginsjr6614]

I can say with certainty, that I do. I've always felt alone, different and isolated from everyone else. Comforting to know that there are people like me. Thanks again for your videos. They've taught me about myself while illuminating the trauma that I went through as a child as well as most of my adult life. Keep um' coming!

[@aaad3552]

Can infj be changed to normal technically

[@MultiTipsie]

Hi there, Again another video in which it almost looks like you've studied me up close and explain the results here! Actually very creepy and relieving at the same time!

[@jenniferbralow6586]

Absolutely,no questions about it.

[@alanhuginsjr6614]

Hi, my name is Alan. I don't normally comment on videos but I felt compelled to express my gratitude for Psych-o psychology and the videos that are posted. Your videos make me feel like I'm not alone. I've been going through a lot mentally recently [ and the rest of my life for the most part]. Watching your videos ground me and help me release my negative emotions. Thank you! I appreciate all you guys do. It much more than you think, at Least for me.

[@ronwilson1804]

your not alone

[@mickeysammy5169]

You are not alone- I am going through all of this also. Take care! 🙏🙏🙏❤

[@JuliaShalomJordan]

I’m sorry Alan. You are not alone…on the INFJ thing and the trauma stuff.🙏🏻 Journaling really helps me process my pain and emotion so I can just get it out…maybe that will help you, too.

[@alanhuginsjr6614]

@@ronwilson1804 thank you, means a lot to me for you say that.

[@alanhuginsjr6614]

@@mickeysammy5169 I appreciate the sentiment! I hope things work out to your liking. Hang tough, I'm not religious but something has always resonated with me, God puts his strongest soldiers through the toughest battles. 🤗

[@annmowatt7547]

I fear that most of us have baggage and, an INFJ - T, i can't let go off the past and constantly relive these. I know that I have to break this cycle but I am at least grateful that I still am able to empathise with others and that helping them, helps me. I think this is my escape route. Otherwise, I do simply feel numb, as said, and that I have to shut off the past. And I do write it all out of my system which is a tremendous help.

[@ResonantNewt]

I'm one of these traumatized being,but mind detachment and meditations is helping me and everyday I'm becoming better.I'm also cutting down all the negative relationships and situations from my life,but I have still very low energy because handle these strong negative emotions requires a lot of effort

[@mandyb4054]

As an INFJ with emotional trauma, life is a healing journey as u can’t talk to anyone about the trauma because it’s either too overwhelming or no one cares. U have to learn how to control your thoughts and find your happy place

[@Stacy10962]

I've been on a healing journey for the past ten years when I realized I was codependent. I learned about self love, self validation, setting boundaries and practicing detachment. I worked on releasing my traumas. But I got involved in another relationship with someone who was very much a narcissist. It was after that relationship that I realized I still had more healing to do. I also realized that I did experience emotional abuse and emotional neglect as a child. I created a tool for helping me to heal myself from codependency, emotional abuse and c-ptsd. I am still on my healing journey, but my therapy tool has been very beneficial to me. I am in the process of having my tool manufactured and it will become available in October. Thanks for another great video!

[@PSYCH-O]

The self-discovery and learning truly never stops.. thank you for sharing your side of things 😊

[@cindychurch335]

Hi, I am also grateful for these videos. I have learned a lot about myself and they have answered a lot of questions I’ve had. I suffered through emotional neglect and trauma as a child. I’ve never dealt with it or sought therapy until recently. I’m 66 years old and wish I’d done this years ago. Maybe I could have saved my 30 year marriage and not cause the hurt of so many. Trauma does not just go away. It emerges in all kinds of conditions both mental and physical. About ten years ago I met someone who changed my life and opened me up and broke down my walls. I think it was the unconditional love that I needed and never received that opened my eyes. Sometimes people come into our lives to heal us. Maybe they don’t stay forever but there is a purpose for the relationship. I’ve healed a lot on my own, but I need more tools as this trauma is so deep rooted. Many blessings and health in the new year. 🙏🏻❤️

[@Taurusboy07]

This is true. Unfortunately for me, I have been mistreated since a kid up to this present time. I have made a conscious decision to never talk or be vulnerable again. Now at the age of 33, it is going to take me many years to overcome the trauma of mentally and emotionally abused and neglect. I feel numb and unworthy living here. This personality is a blessing for many but is a curse for me. At this point I do not care about trying to help anyone unless it is a stranger.

[@earthrooster1969]

I so relate to 'helping strangers'...

[@PSYCH-O]

I'm so sorry to hear that.. Personality type is one thing, but to have deep emotional wounds can come with a host of feelings and habits that other INFJs can't relate to. Have you tried talking to a professional (despite the vulnerability factor)?

[@Taurusboy07]

@@PSYCH-O Yes I have. Unfortunately most professionals only touches the surface and never go deep enough to understand one’s personality. I went to therapy for several years just to find myself one step forward from where I started when I went. You can’t medicate a personality which is what they believe in. I have better chances of talking with people who can relate than a therapist. So I stopped going after three years.

[@normac9931]

You're right, it does seem like a curse 99% of the time. It feels like a prison. It feels like you're watching a movie instead of actually living in it. I was bullied throughout most of my school years....I understand the scars that leaves. My only sibling is older & a type A. I have no childhood memories of playtime with anyone else but myself. I've encountered narcissist after narcissist who came In and played me like a violin when I had no idea what I was dealing with. I blamed myself as they shone the light on my flaws and missteps. Covid quarantine left me alone in my own home ~ my children are grown...and the isolation is much more difficult than any mistreatment from the past. But everyday I wake up. And so do you. You have a greater meaning in this life than you know. You haven't found it yet but you will. Someone needs you. Its a certainty. Please stay and be here for them. ~~much love to you ~~

[@Taurusboy07]

@@normac9931 Thanks a lot for that heartwarming message. I totally can relate to you so much. I was bullied, rejection, neglected and abused mentally, physically and emotionally. I grew up being my own friend, always alone. Unfortunately, we were robbed our childhood. I also attract many narcissistic people who only made me feel worse about myself. I feel that I am gifted with a soul to care, nurture and help others. However, I wish to have that genuine care in return. The loneliness is really affecting me more and more. Now at 33, up to this point, I no longer have the confidence to go out alone and do things I love to do. Now everyone just feels lonely. I am terrified at living an older age. It is one of my biggest fears because I can not imagine this continuous suffering. I don’t know if it is worth me helping others just to suffer more and more.

[@RielleLeigh]

I swear these videos always appear right when I need them in my recommended every single time. I have been feeling this way for a while now and was doing better for a while and thought things were fine, and it turns out things weren't fine deep down.

[@joshuachase9742]

All of this is me, and has been me for several months now at least. I finally got tired of waiting for it to pass as it always did before and started seeking help a couple weeks ago.

[@PSYCH-O]

We LOVE to hear it!! That a brave move, my friend. I hope it's going better than expected. 🙏

[@MultiTipsie]

All the best to you!🙏

[@tomwilliams6744]

Good God, all of those points are exactly spot-on with me! I feel every single one of those points! I'm not sure if those points are just an INFJ thing. I can imagine other personality types struggle with those items. All I can think of is growing up in a family who were negative and abusive. I don't think people are born INFJ or other personality types. I think that they were just molded that way, unfortunately. Funny thing, as I've gotten older (I'm 65), so much that have happened in the past have come back to me. It's like living in the past.

[@yabbadabba1975]

Definitely understand that, Tom. I have also just retired and am having to deal with a lot of time I didn't have before. Not a good thing for me, but I'm working up the nerve to take either a stateside trip or over to Europe. For some reason, I do better in the "old country." Maybe it's the distance. Maybe it's the people. Whatever it is, works for me. Hang in there. It can get better.

[@MultiTipsie]

Wow! Exactly the same here! Only i believe to be an INFJ is partially already part of you and strengthened by your upbringing. Wish you all the best!🙏☺️

[@stephaniehall1407]

For years I've felt homesick for a place I'm not even sure exists on this planet. Now, I finally feel like I've found my tribe/species! I recently painted a rock with morse code that said " imagine" and threw it into the lake. I feel like I left a note in this world that I was here, and that rock will be here until the end of time even though I may not.

[@Petrobella]

Not only am I an INFJ I also have low-grade Down Syndrome called mosaicism which is fairly unique (1 in 850 of all who are born with DS) and even though INFJ and DS are two very different things, combined they make me feel very misunderstood sometimes which have been a recipe for emotional trauma for me.

[@6193derek]

I have PTSD, and CPTSD from multiple events. And you just described my entire existence. I went for an entire decade at one time with only 2 emotions, extreme despair and extreme rage. There have even been times when my brain has shut down t the point of “limp mode” somehow my body just knows the way home. This video described it very well

[@pandaling3183]

Wow! This video floored me. I’ve done therapy before, but the aspect as feeling numb as pointed out in this video was right on target. How can one heal when everything is buried in numbness? So much more healing to do. Thank you for this video especially! You’re doing a phenomenal job that’s is so needed and a great service to everyone.

[@PSYCH-O]

Thank you so much for the kind words, the appreciation goes a long way. Good luck on your healing journey! 💙

[@sherryp3411]

Thank you, I never took on Meyers-Briggs until now. Thank you for your videos, I can finally understand myself. You have verbalise (& hence made concrete for me) that which I knew & felt but never knew I wasn't alone. I am.mature now, but i spent my life struggling with these but ive overcome & im very successful in life. Thank you & Forever grateful🙏

[@emmangendo6818]

I go through all these almost everyday. I went into depression about 6 years ago. I've kept it secret all along and hardly shared with anyone. Infact I only discovered that on my own. This info makes me feel a lot better ( at least I feel understood)

[@tracydegroat6345]

I couldn't figure out what happened to my imagination..... I no longer daydream. I close my eyes and just get darkness. It's a major cause of my numbness

[@PSYCH-O]

Have you tried a guided mediation? 💙

[@JoshuaRosaaen]

You know that relief that you get when you are coming in from a flight and you are looking for that familiar face and see it? Its that feeling of this is my person or these are my people. I had a pretty similar reaction to this video. Thank you

[@PSYCH-O]

We love to hear it my friend, great analogy - thank you!

[@anthonydied8697]

I'm struggling with all of these symptoms. I can't stop ruminating. I've been traumatized too many times. my heart is bleeding out. heartbreak, betrayal, and victimized by psychopathic and, narcissistic abusers. I'm suffering the devastation of false alligations and a wrongful conviction that forced me through a prison sentence that is causing me more despair than what I'm capable of handling. I may have overcome it at one point. But because of a wrongful conviction on my record, I'm being mistreated by law enforcement officers and the justice department. it's happening again and now I'm scared for my life. I've done nothing to anyone. but everyone else has harmed me beyond the boundaries of my forgiveness. I'm facing a 15 year prison sentence for aggravated stalking, when I did nothing to deserve any of this. everyone is lying and doing everything they can too insure my fate. I can't do this anymore. I'm ready to die. For my sole has slipped into the abyss of neverending darkness. I'm tired, and week. torment is all I receive. Oh God please come and take me. set my sole free ... How sad yet it's all true. Is there anyone out there who can help? I can not find any light...🖤😩

[@MultiTipsie]

Hi Anthony, I'm a 50 yo old male and been treated since i was born exactly this way! The more you try to do good and show people true love, understanding and compassion, the more you get punished for it. And now i'm in the stage where i'm divorced and have two kids who don't ever feel the need to hurt others! They could not be better as i wished for. I wanted to give them everything in my power to make them happy, but my ex-wife decided otherwise. Literally she kept the house with everything in it, my kids and even my pension and savings and thereby leaving me with a debt of 40.000 euro's. Also she told everybody how i hated them all and how i kept her a prisoner in her own home. She was so afraid. Exactly the opposite was true! Turns out she is a sterotype covert narcissist! The sad thing is that no matter what she does to me and how obvious she humiliates me and constantly is trying to accuse me of everything she can thimk of, people swallow everything she says and trhreat me accordingly! As the monster she says i am! And the harder i defend myself, the harder people treat me! The last few months she got the childprotection agency to interact as a mediator between us and the same happens again. Say rants away to me denying me my kids even more and everytime i counter her statements and ask for the agency to do their job and tell her to stop and stay reasonable, they reply with me being the agressive one now and continue to agree and support her bluntless agressiveness! Sadly due to being complete exhausted and tired, I lose my control and started ranting at everybody and demand them to see the obvious and do what they need to do or i will snap and will let this situation end in a catastrophy! So i probably am finished now and will meet the same fate as you! i can only hope for you that soon some miracle happens and you get in touch with some rare truly good people and can have a relatively good life for what's left of it!! Take care! 🙏🙏🙏

[@42222]

Hi, my names Chris and I realy appreciated this video. It really helps me not feel alone while im going on my second journey.

[@PSYCH-O]

Thank you for the kind feedback and appreciation, so happy it could help you in some way 🙌

[@drelfredealberts5517]

Valued presentation...factual, hands-on and identifying individual realities.Pray your channel convinces individuals to seek professional help and support or chat groups. Overcoming trust issues is often a huge hurdle for an INFJ!! Stay safe..go gently.

[@tmccray5510]

I am an infj and I know I have emotional words I mean people before I lost my brother I was doing fine I was exercising eating healthy after the tragic accident I have spiraled into this bad place in my life where now I'm always criticizing myself for doubting myself for having this painful self-talk. Thank you for this video it shows what I'm going through and what I need to do to get out of it.

[@viianapoa7448]

Yes... you're right with all these things u said! I can see myself too much in this. Thank you!

[@the80sfanatic13]

Can't stop thinking about the past is also a sign. And also regrets.

[@Workingclassdad]

Brain spotting has helped me tremendously.

[@dianarick73]

Definitely. All 10. So How to Heal?🙃

[@Vivi_Chan1111]

Oh hell, I can totally relate to it 😢

[@katbrown1449]

I can't listen to music at all the last few years. It makes my heart hurt . I am better when I do listen though. Much better.

[@Scrooge1801]

A wound can’t heal if you if it is continues being dug into

[@ROBERTGOTSCHALL-j8u]

I know something went wrong for me about 20 years ago. This would have been a big help back then. 😀

[@colin937]

Yeah, I’d say this video is pretty accurate.

[@rowan5335]

My son is an infj with autism. When his best friend died at the end of high school he slept for a year. We would force him to eat and then he passed right back out again. It's 8 years later and we still can't get his sleep cycle back to normal

[@daspur19]

Have you tried going camping for a week with no electronics?

[@rowan5335]

@@daspur19 oh yeah, we even take our 🐈 but he is 6 feet tall and you can't drag him anywhere and he really couldn't stay awake. I was afraid he was going to cripple himself staying in bed but he is much better now.

[@MultiTipsie]

I wish you, your son and rest of the family and people involved all the best! How excruciating this situation must be for you all! I hope one he will come out of it and can lead a "normal" life again. Also for you as a parent! I myself been diagnosed with aspergers syndrome and so is my son. My daughter with PD-NOS and ADHD. We have a complex emotional life, but your situation seems even a lot more difficult so i can not even imagine what it must feel like! I don't, but if you do believe in God i would say; God bless you and your family!🙏🙏🙏

[@rowan5335]

@@MultiTipsie my daughter has ADHD as well and with her severe anxiety we're just happy she is able to be independent, even though we still have to help her it's more than I expected for her. As for my son, he will always be at home with me but he is taking on a lot of the housework and helps me out a lot and I really appreciate him

[@costoncr]

Let Me say this on behalf of the emotional “blankness” We may experience when feeling overwhelmed.. it’s not a bad thing at all… it allows Us the Emotional space and distance We need to work thru what’s at the core of the overwhelm so We can figure out how best to address transmuting the energy.. at least for Myself anyway

[@Scrooge1801]

People are arrogant selfish lacking empathy and respect for neighbors judgmental it’s hard not to be that way

[@sugacookie2009]

Cast away your judgements and find understanding the only reason you keep seeing people this way is because you haven’t grown to understand and it’s easier to judge It’s a tough one It’s a journey Prayers for new set of eyes that only teach how love can fix anything You don’t have to offer friendship or toleration Just love and understanding

[@katbrown1449]

Its so hard to dorp things that don't make any sense you know? Impossible.

[@odramarcano2225]

Yes, I do and I am surprised about several things that were happening to me 🥰 I figured out my reactions & some tips to work on my wombs 🥳 do you have any person coach/psychologist that works with this type of personality(?) someone you would recommend(?)

[@bc3757]

Do you get some sort of prize for scoring a 10 with this one? I sometimes feel "unhealed" or "unwell" is the new normal.

[@pandaling3183]

I think we are just tired of not admitting how we feel! Now with social media, we can all communicate so fast like never before. This video was very pertinent for me as well.

[@sofialahung5498]

I think I need to accept myself as I am . I used hobbies to distracting myself from bad emotional baggage. Now, I'm making dresses. Its fun cuz I feel motivated and I love doing it. If I being selfish, I think I'm the only one thats hurt in this world - everyone simply just people were the sniper. But I'm not ... We cannot be selfish guys.. So, I take the demon of depression as my friend and learn to accept hurts. Also learned not to accept the same pattern again (I need to be stubborn and vocal about the attacks - LMAO) .. So far... I'm good. Feel older and matured. That is what makes me the INFJ I guess. To be the light in the darkness...

[@katbrown1449]

This has helped me understand a little bit and also remind me of music. This is entirely me. Wow. I call ut the hamster wheel. I can't out things away when I can't make sense of them and the motives of the people who caused wounds. Someone told me I may never ubdertand and can't possibly think through some big stuff. I can't handle that th I ugh. I need to undertand why people did sone thing. Uts realky something. Uve gotten there on some things I was told not to think if though and ut helps me heal beyond measure to finally get some bizarre things.

[@loupindeedee8820]

hey phsyck u gott me in evry thing u sayd and i didint even know u i wana say that im crying if i watch cartoon wen it supose to be fun y idk why wish u best

[@Sj_Drisc]

This doesn't just describe the INFJ. These are signs of depression. If you have these feelings, be sure to talk to someone you trust about them. It helps.

[@normac9931]

Oof! I can relate to more of these examples than I'm comfortable with. :(

[@DropABruce]

Can the blankness be fixed...?

[@rachelheyth3645]

Oh dear me!

[@rowan5335]

I can kind of tell how I'm doing by what I'm watching. If it's comedy I'm not doing too bad. If it's horror movies it's because at least here is something horrible that cannot happen in my own life and somehow that is comforting. Course when it's really bad I just lay in bed and stare at the wall in amazement that I'm able to lay there and just stare at a wall🙄. I often feel like someone in a movie who just came back from a mental hospital and keeps freaking out about everything and everybody's going please just calm down and it is so hard to calm down. Basically I just try to bite my tongue and distract myself because yeah I'm not calming down and I start to worry my family are going to get sick of me😮‍💨

[@MultiTipsie]

Hi Rowan, when you feel these kind of emotions or feel them coming, i can tell you what works (most of the time) for me and it maybe sounds silly and not go to work for you, but maybe you can try. I'm a 50 year old (tough looking) man, but feel soothed by listening to nursery rhymes. Those for babies to comfort them. I hope you will try and that it also comforts you a bit! 🙏 Otherwise i hope you will find something else soon that will! All the best!

[@rowan5335]

@@MultiTipsie yeah i will try that. And i do know my family won't leave me. I will have to look up some recordings. I do listen to recordings when I'm laying down. Thanks for thinking of me 🙂

[@wildfyah]

Current state...numb

[@exhibitjean]

How is this different than general depression? This video is very negative about infjs and doesn't provide clear solutions.

[@earthrooster1969]

In a way yes...about depression.. however other videos from this same channel offers valuable insights to solutions too...this is just ONE of the many videos from this channel on INFJs...

[@MultiTipsie]

Hi there, opposite to you i see it as a usefull insight. When you can see what triggers you emotions, you can start to search for how to contain them or avoid them when necessary. So maybe confronting but in a positive way.😉

[@ETTe316]

I Think this video is very useful & helpful!

[@saramariasdotter3681]

@Taurusboy07 I can warmly recommend Patrick Teahans videos about childhood neglect and abuse! ❤

[@joshuaforbus5853]

I've been picking flowers and at times suckling the sweet nectar created by the water droplets today. So I'm not fucking watching this particular work. Semper Fidelis, Josh....edited. Apologize for punctuation